गैसलाइटिंग (Gaslighting) क्या है? Dr Kamal Singh | कैसे पहचानें, चेतावनी संकेत, कैसे बचें?

In this video, Dr. Kamal Singh speaks about gaslighting. Gaslighting, a manipulative form of psychological abuse, entails an abuser creating a distorted narrative that induces doubt in the victim's thoughts and memories, leading them to question their reality. This prolonged manipulation undermines the victim's confidence, self-esteem, and mental stability, fostering a dependency on the gaslighter.
गैसलाइटिंग का असली मतलब है किसी इंसान के अंदर सेल्फ डाउट भर देना। गैसलाइट करने वाला इंसान आपके बहुत करीब होता है। गैसलाइटिंग का मतलब आत्म-संदेह को बढ़ावा देना है, जो पीड़ित के मानसिक स्वास्थ्य के लिये हानिकारक होता है।
Although commonly associated with romantic relationships, gaslighting is not confined to them and can permeate controlling friendships or family dynamics. Recognizing gaslighting involves understanding the tactics employed by manipulators.
1. Lying:
Gaslighters often exhibit a propensity for habitual lying, maintaining their falsehoods even when confronted with evidence.
2. Discrediting You:
Gaslighters resort to spreading rumors and gossip about the victim, portraying them as emotionally unstable.
3. Distracting You:
Confronted with uncomfortable questions or accusations, gaslighters divert attention by changing the subject or posing unrelated questions. This not only confuses the victim but discourages them from pursuing the matter further.
4. Minimizing Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Gaslighters belittle the victim's emotions with dismissive statements like "Calm down" or "You're overreacting," eroding the victim's confidence and reinforcing the idea that their feelings are invalid.
5. Shifting Blame:
Blame-shifting is a prevalent gaslighting tactic, redirecting every discussion to make the victim feel responsible for the gaslighter's actions. This manipulative strategy leaves the victim questioning their own behavior and culpability.
6. Using Compassionate Words as Weapons:
Gaslighters deploy seemingly affectionate language to manipulate emotions, professing love and concern.
7. Distorting Facts:
Gaslighters distort events, presenting a self-serving version of stories. This deliberate manipulation fosters confusion, making the victim doubt their own recollection of events.
The consequences of gaslighting are severe, encompassing anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. Identifying signs is crucial for preserving mental health:
- Doubting feelings and reality
- Questioning judgment and perceptions
- Feeling vulnerable and insecure
- Feeling alone and powerless
- Wondering if you are what they say you are
- Experiencing disappointment in yourself
- Feeling confused
- Assuming others are disappointed in you
- Wondering what's wrong with you
- Struggling to make decisions due to self-distrust
To cope with gaslighting:
Physically leaving the situation or practicing relaxation techniques can help manage intense emotions.
Preserve evidence of experiences, such as journal entries or saved conversations, to counter self-doubt.
Clearly communicate boundaries to prevent actions that trivialize or deny experiences.
Seeking support from friends or family provides valuable perspectives and clarity.
Despite its challenges, terminating a relationship with a gaslighter is often the most effective way to halt the abuse.
If gaslighting is suspected, consulting with a mental health professional offers guidance, perspective, and tailored coping strategies.
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[@anandraj8851]

Sir, how to overcome this. Please share some tips.

[@whoiskamalsingh]

Thank you immensely for taking the time to watch my video and for finding value in it to leave a comment. In the video, I've offered many points on how to recognize and address the episodes of gaslighting. If you have any specific questions regarding this, please share with me in the comment section, and I'm ready and eager to respond promptly. Thanks once more for tuning in!

[@anandraj8851]

@@whoiskamalsingh सर बचपन से मै सीधा साधा disciplined बच्चे की तरह रहा घर पर लेकिन मेरी मा और बड़े भैया ये इस बात का फायदा उठाते रहे उनको मजा आता है दुसरो को निचा दिखाने में तब मै समझ नही पाया की ये सब क्या है शायद मुझ मे कमी है मै अच्छा नही हु। धीरे धीरे खुद को और सीधा बनाता चला गया लेकिन ये और कमी और कमी हि गिनाते गये मेरे में किसी भी बात पे कम हि बोला डांट देते या तेरे से नही होगा । अब इसका असर ये हुआ की मेरे में सेल्फ डाउट आ गया किसी काम को करने से पहले 1000 बार सोचना । अब तो 30 का हु शादी नही हुई है। इन सबसे बाहर कैसे निकले ये टिप्स दीजिये। क्यूंकि ये घर वाले है इनसे सामना तो हो हि जाता है कितना भी अलग रहे।

[@whoiskamalsingh]

@@anandraj8851 It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed by the dynamics at home. Here are some tips that might help you navigate through this: Take some time to reflect on your own strengths and qualities. Recognize that your simplicity and discipline are admirable traits, but more often than not, people take such persons for granted and use them for their own personal agendas. It's important to establish boundaries with your family members. Let them know how their behavior makes you feel and what you're not comfortable with. Assert yourself respectfully but firmly. It will be unpleasant in the beginning but remain ready for it for the changes in the long term. Self care is essential. If you lose your health and your mind, no one will come to rescue you.
Consider talking to a good friend, or therapist about what you're going through. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide clarity and support. Work on building your self-confidence and self-esteem. Focus on your achievements and positive qualities, and remind yourself that you are worthy and capable. If the situation becomes too toxic or overwhelming, don't hesitate to create some distance from your family members. This could mean spending less time with them or seeking alternative living arrangements if possible. Make some alibi to create a distance from them, physically and mentally. What you are going through is a story of majority of the households and one has to take tough steps to preserve sanctity and self-respect.
There are many subreddits in reddit.com which you can surf. May be just go to reddit.com and type gaslighting or narcissistic family and you will get to see many threads in which you can get to know what others have gone through and how they overcame through odds. It can be helpful resource for you to have self-reflection and find ways to deal with the situation.
Remember, it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, both by yourself and by others. Also, have confidence in recognizing when you're being used, and understand that taking strong steps might seem hard initially because you're a good person. However, self-care is essential for your well-being and it should not be negotiable for anything. Take care and be strong! Don't hesitate to take professional help (Psychiatrist Consultation) at any step if you have any sort of doubt. I can't express how important is to have self-respect intact, take care!