Overcome Wedding night fears | Advice for Muslim Women Bride | Nikah | Walima

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  • @Thebridesamaanah
    @Thebridesamaanah  16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    www.thebridesamaanah.com

  • @Strangertoyou4612
    @Strangertoyou4612 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    I just came across your content and i already love it, and the way you have with words is pretty comforting, thank you for sharing your knowledge in islam, may Allah answer all your prayers , take care 🤍🤍🤍

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  14 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Thank you sis barakaLlaahu feeki 🩷🩷

  • @mehenaz01
    @mehenaz01 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +61

    I don't want to married for that reason its that reason i scared but 😢my marraige is fixed next year but i am not preapare myself i am scared 😰

    • @Unknown-gu2vp
      @Unknown-gu2vp 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Same situation sister😢

    • @mehenaz01
      @mehenaz01 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@Unknown-gu2vp I see this types of video and i think so that we want to know our fard and haqooq i think this will be helpful

    • @rimshamasood2016
      @rimshamasood2016 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      Marriage is a Sunnah. Allah will obliterate this fear once you become nikkahfied InshaAllah.❤

    • @Unknown-gu2vp
      @Unknown-gu2vp 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@mehenaz01 in sha Allah

    • @mehenaz01
      @mehenaz01 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@rimshamasood2016 ameen

  • @nott29
    @nott29 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +31

    The advice you gave at last was really amazing that you can do nikah and go on dates and you know do valimah after a month or so but the thing is that in Pakistani culture there's a thing called rukhsati which is after nikah or sometimes with nikah which means that you have to literally shift in your husband's house so what can we do about that

    • @Save-plants-from-humans-zc2ci
      @Save-plants-from-humans-zc2ci 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      in India too !

    • @ImanTahir-e2y
      @ImanTahir-e2y 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I think just like she said that with nikkah it means you’re agreeing for the intimacy so it would be one week for that because you’re living with your spouse after ruksati, but I don’t get her last advice because nikkah is the marriage so wouldnt it be 7 days after nikkah too regardless of the walima?

    • @AbdulMannan-sq7eq
      @AbdulMannan-sq7eq 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      In Bangladeshi culture too. In our culture, after nikah ceremony bride tends to go to husband's house. And after walimah(which is rare these days 😅😅), the bride comes to her home with her husband again. After spending 2 or 3days she has to go to her husband's house again..........

  • @afreenunnisa006
    @afreenunnisa006 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    Walaikumsalam warahamtaullahi wabarakatuh sister may Allah bless you sister you are really making unmarried sister gain confidence towards getting married ❤❤ jazak Allahu kahr sister

  • @hibakhan9764
    @hibakhan9764 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    who's gonna tell that to my parents

  • @layart1163
    @layart1163 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +78

    The subject is really unpleasant, I don't really want to get married to someone I don't know. That makes me most afraid alrd and my fear is so big on this subject... I just want to make halal money, avoid haram and then die in a good way while Allah is pleased with me. Marriage isnt my plan.
    Added:
    Hello my dear siblings, so many likes that have been received under this comment is really impressive how many feel the same. May Allah find you a good partner (amin) and you should know that MARRIAGE is not a MUST but is only FREE and GOOD (BUT REMEMBER IT CAN BE HARD TOO!) . Who can marry can do it, who cant - LEAVE THEM ALONE. ITS really waste of time to speak with thus who dont wanna marry, Its haram to force them!
    Allah only wants to see you! Its not about your gender, money, Job, your own Family, friends, pets etc.
    We will stand on Yaum Al-Qiyama alone before Allah. "So what did you do with your life?"

    • @SaleemAkbar-t4g
      @SaleemAkbar-t4g 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      For a Halal way of life you have to get married. This is should be done in this time.

    • @abanam3799
      @abanam3799 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Marriage is Half of DeeN.
      Prophet (SM) called unmarried people "Beggars".

    • @layart1163
      @layart1163 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +47

      @SaleemAkbar-t4g Fortunately, marriage is not a must in Islam, putting pressure on others is haram. Watch what you say. 🤭

    • @abanam3799
      @abanam3799 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      @@layart1163
      It's your choice.
      Marriage is Half of DeeN. Half of faith is incomplete without marriage.
      Prophet (SM) addressed the sahaba as "Beggars" who were not married.
      Marriage is a form of worship. Even if you look at your spouse, you will be rewarded. Event after your death you will be getting the rewards from children’s Prayer for you. The prayer of your children will protect you from the torment of grave. So Don't give up on marriage.

    • @Strangertoyou4612
      @Strangertoyou4612 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      Sometimes sheytan tries to magnify your fears and doubts to trouble you mentally and spiritually, so I pray that Allah erases those negative feelings you have and give you a happy life as well as many other people, stay strong and trust Allah, he is the best of the best of planners, and anyway life is just temporary and we have to try and do our maximum to please Allah and do good deeds and eventually, by his mercy, enter Jannah, you have my support , everything will be alright, don't let Sheytan fool you or frighten you, take care 🤍🤍🤍🤍
      ( My English is not the fluent so... sorry about that)

  • @sophiakassim6979
    @sophiakassim6979 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Waalaikum salaam warahmatullah
    Jazaki Allahu kheiran habibty for the knowledge i follow up your videos and have abig hope they will benefit... BARAKA ALLAHU FIIK

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      BarakaLlaahu feeki ukhti 🩷💕

  • @Zahrahbeauty
    @Zahrahbeauty 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    BaraakaAllahu feek sister the tips really sounds good and helpful ❤

  • @durdanatabassum6057
    @durdanatabassum6057 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    One reason why a woman would be scared of intimacy may be because she doesn't find her husband attractive.

    • @maryamafzal0
      @maryamafzal0 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      For a girl it is not easy especially when she stays away from males.Thoughts about sexual relation can give her anxiety. she knows the meaning of nikkah but mind takes time to accept that now he can touch her. she can't prepare herself before marriage. It can be only possible when they will stay in same home and he will give her time.

    • @abc-kn6ex
      @abc-kn6ex 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wrong ​@@maryamafzal0

  • @maryamk.5733
    @maryamk.5733 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It was very helpful. I love you sister ❤❤ thank you ❤

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are welcome 😊♥️♥️

  • @yeonjutae3539
    @yeonjutae3539 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Please spell it like In’Shaa’Allah ❤

  • @malabzeechoudhury6355
    @malabzeechoudhury6355 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Assalamu alaikum sister could you make a video about contraceptive options for muslims women including non hormonal methods jzk

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes on my list InshaAllaah 💕

  • @ramenqueen_1013
    @ramenqueen_1013 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    This might be an odd question I’m getting married soon to a guy I’ve known for a few years everything has always been kept halal Alhamdulilah my question is I’m not really a sxxxxl person and we’ve discussed all of those intimate stuff and he is ok with none of that ever happening like I discussed it all I don’t want kids and I’m not interested in doing this sort of things hence why I’ve been against wanting to get married he’s ok will of the stuff so we’d just be a platonic couple is that haram?

    • @imcool.466
      @imcool.466 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      It’s not haram

    • @Ramsey-y4w
      @Ramsey-y4w 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      😂😂😂I'm sure there's something wrong with him

    • @babyshark8022
      @babyshark8022 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

      How is a "guy" okay with it?

    • @ramenqueen_1013
      @ramenqueen_1013 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      @@babyshark8022 Because he cares about what I want unlike you

    • @babyshark8022
      @babyshark8022 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      @@ramenqueen_1013 like really.. why on earth would I care about what you like and dislike?! 😂

  • @MeSafiiyya
    @MeSafiiyya 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Assalamu alaykum. I have a big issue. I really want to get married. I really need to get married. But my family does not want me to get married and they say after 25 years old. I want to get married by 18. I really want to. How can I talk with my parents so they understand why it is better to get married earlier so I don’t do haram. I know that im ready for marriage. I want to study and to be married, to not have any haram.Jazakallah sister.

  • @Cartooni-me
    @Cartooni-me 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    What can i do if my parents are forcing me to marriage and i have past traumas of sexual abuse and I don't have such fantasy and i even tried watching po*n videos but didn't worked and i never want anyone to touch me. please guide me

    • @amatullah-o3j
      @amatullah-o3j 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      You need help..... Make a strong decision with yourself

    • @yavuz313
      @yavuz313 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Do they know about your past traumas , if they know they will understand, if they don’t, make them understand, they will listen of course……..and don’t watch p video they are haraam

    • @asfakazi3156
      @asfakazi3156 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Girl seek therapy!!!!! You need to overcome this trauma. And please, for Allah's sake, don't marry before you've healed. You need help. I pray Allah eases all your hardships. And also, don't watch p*rn, it's haram and disgusting. If you need someone to talk to, I'm always here to help.

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      I’m so sorry you went through past trauma may Allaah take away the pain and grant you healing Aameen.
      Your parents do not have the right to force you into marriage. It is completely haram, please tell them this and seek some help from a local imam to advise your parents of this.
      Also let the man know directly that you don’t want to marry him and that Allaah has forbidden that you should be forced into it so he should fear Allaah.
      Please sister of it’s possible to get some therapy to help you heal please do so. May Allaah make it all easy for you 😔.
      But please do not loose hope, it’s possible one
      Day that you will find a good man for you who will treat you well and help you to overcome your trauma.
      Keep constant in dua, reading Qur’an and istighfar, Allaah is always listening and He never left you alone. 🩷🩷🩷

    • @okoteiru2952
      @okoteiru2952 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Gosh.. May Allah help you.. Don't worry and be strong.. . Also don't marry at any cost if you are in this state of mind.. . This isn't going to go anywhere.. . .. Just pray . Believe me praying works and leave it to Allah ... I hope it never goes to extremes.. I hope the person they chose is actually a great great person and make you feel at home..

  • @E.A_KawSar
    @E.A_KawSar 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Sister, are you married? and what's your marriage age?

  • @muerncia
    @muerncia 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Assalamualaikum sister, i have this question for a very long time. Is it totally mandatory for a women with long hair (not plaited into tiny braids) to wash her hair entirety after like having intercourße with her husband daily? If its an excitingly relationship or something. My question is, is okay ok for her to wash her entire body including the scalp of her hair and leave the long hair dry? Or does she have to wash it all. As people like me get sick easily and bathing late at night before fajr is challenging too but that can be overcame. Altho hair fall starts if hair is washed daily.

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  15 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Walaykum salaam sister,
      As far as I know the hair has to be washed all the way through from the scalp to the roots every time when you do Ghusl.
      I know it can be hard so I suggest looking into ways of maintaining healthy hair using oils etc.
      Don’t worry too much, hopefully you’ll get into a routine InshaAllaah and it won’t be as difficult as you think. May Allaah make it easy for you and all the ladies Aameen 💕

    • @mdja4265
      @mdja4265 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Waaleykum Assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh, not completely sure but it is not obligatory to use shampoo on your hair for ghusl. Just use water. Allahu a’lam

    • @muerncia
      @muerncia 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Thebridesamaanah so just washing the scalp and the root is enough right? Which means the entire head. As I never really read that it is haram not to completely immerse the hair for gusl e janabat

    • @meerabriaz7263
      @meerabriaz7263 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@muerncia i guess you have to clean all of the hair leaving no single piece of hair dry that’s how we perform ghusl and it’s up to u if you want you use shampoo or not

    • @muerncia
      @muerncia 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@meerabriaz7263 I have read a hadith where Ayesha RA said that it suffices to pour 3 handfuls of water without opening ur hairstyle. But am clear now I have read more and got to know that scalp and roots needs to be washed.

  • @abunasor5157
    @abunasor5157 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    My age 47 sister I wanted merry any good muslim female or girl I live in UK. Coz I didn't merry before I m practice muslin five time prayer

  • @Shama_ismah
    @Shama_ismah 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What to do and what not u should also make video on that topic with explain.

    • @arehman1609
      @arehman1609 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      only anal sex and penetrative sex during menstruation is haram about oral sex some scholar say it is makruh some say it is halal but its definitely not haram bcs there is no evidence from quran or hadeeth which make it haram i hope i answer your question

    • @Thebridesamaanah
      @Thebridesamaanah  16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You can find the detail of this in my ebook at www.thebridesamaanah.com

  • @zainabmohammed9993
    @zainabmohammed9993 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I don’t have a paypal account

  • @MK-ey2rr
    @MK-ey2rr 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    How long is a marriage valid if your wife does not want to consumate the marriage?

    • @ProsamGaming
      @ProsamGaming 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      No time limit is given by.

    • @khanhamid3744
      @khanhamid3744 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      As l8ng as you are OK with it. However this is groundwork divorce. Firstly a person should see to the reasons the wife is not comfortable. See a dr perhaps.

  • @Adorablegalaxy-yf2vf
    @Adorablegalaxy-yf2vf 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    The first thing is women have to endure so much pain in sexual process
    And it scares me so much I'm very scared of pain. I can't tolerate pain . This is scary😢🥺

    • @ur.delusional.hijabi
      @ur.delusional.hijabi 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Me too 😭

    • @Peaches10608
      @Peaches10608 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Not true. If your husband is educated and you are also educated on how to have sex properly, it shouldn't be painful. Foreplay is essential. Highly suggest you do some research

  • @abanam3799
    @abanam3799 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This doesn’t happen in Love marriages though.