Healing Inner-Child Wounds Caused by Abandonment or ACEs
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ส.ค. 2024
- Healing Inner-Child Wounds caused by ACEs and abandonment with CBT Counseling Techniques Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes, PHD, LPC-MHSP, LMHC
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Chapters
00:00 What is the inner child
01:20 Examples of traumatizing behavior
09:48 Characteristics of the wounded inner child
17:35 Impact of trauma ACEs on child development
18:40 Core issues of the traumatized wounded inner child
22:25 Healing through reparenting and creating secure attachment
31:00 Healing strategies
33:00 Assessment of your behaviors from childhood trauma
35:15 Helping the inner child grieve
37:50 Other cognitive behavioral therapy techniques respect and forgiveness of yourself
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Thank you for this video. It describes so many things from my childhood. I only got 35 mins in but need to take a break. Will come back later today to watch the rest of it. Finally on the journey to heal my inner child but it can be overwhelming facing trauma and letting suppressed feelings out. God bless and thank you for all your informative videos. Have fwd so many to others in need. 🙏🏻💖
You’re most welcome. Thank you so much for your heartfelt message. I'm deeply moved to hear that the video resonated with you and that you're finding it helpful on your journey to heal your inner child. It's completely understandable that facing past trauma and releasing suppressed feelings can be overwhelming. Taking breaks and allowing yourself time to process is essential. I'm honored that you're sharing these videos with others who might benefit from them. Your support and dedication to your healing journey are truly inspiring. Remember, healing is a step-by-step process, and it's okay to take it at your own pace. If you need any further support or have any questions, please reach out. Additionally, please feel free to use my AI for free: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes. Thank you for being a part of this community.
@@DocSnipes 💖 Thank you so much for your encouragement, wisdom, and generosity. I have for almost a year now been taking steps and slowly making progress towards healing old inner child wounds. It is not easy and I definitely had to put some tools down for a bit and then pick them back up. However, I have been blessed with some lovely people (you included!) that Spirit has directed me towards to learn healthier ways to process emotions, respond differently to triggering events or people, and focus on myself more and not feel guilty about it. Still working on creating and maintaining healthy boundaries. I appreciate all that you do for us. Thank you again so much for your dedication to healing others. May God bless you always. Sending love and light 🙏🏻🕊️💫💖
Well you hit the nail on my head❤this time I only made it to 7 mins and the rapid nature in which the information absorbs starts a 📍 pinball game and I begin to see😮 I will go no further but take this resource to my therapist to help 🎉 Bless you 🎊
I am glad you are taking steps to stay safe.
Thanks for your time and energy.
You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching. Please like and share the video. Thank you! 🙏
Thank you so much for this video I've been very focused on inner child work especially because I've been in therapy the past year for the death of my son 2 years ago from brain cancer I watched him die so I'm extremely traumatized and I listen to you all the time I really appreciate all your videos and the work and effort you put into them you've helped me immensely thank you ❤
@@DocSnipes yes, thank you so much for your channel! One of my very favorite ones on mental health, psychology, PTSD, and recovering from cluster B disorders/abuse, and emotionally illiterate adults. Your work covers SO MUCH critical territory!! ❤❤❤🎉🎉❤❤❤
Not only am I currently trying to deal with my own childhood, I'm trying not to impart the same wounds onto my own children.
It's commendable that you're working on healing from your own childhood experiences while striving to protect your children from similar wounds. Seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial, as they can provide strategies for both your healing and your parenting. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards creating a healthier environment for yourself and your children. Your awareness and effort are important steps in breaking the cycle. Also, please feel free to share what you’ve found most useful from the video and, if you’re interested in learning more about healing the inner child or to search for videos in the video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
Thank you for helping me see this from a different perspective. I have CPTSD
You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching
Yikes. Even though I know that I am this, hearing it from you makes it seem like I am hearing it for the first time.
Cptsd, PTSD, ADHD and recovering alcoholic with a anxious attachment style and I quagmired in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant who is in complete denial of her own cptsd and I am running out of rope to hang on to.
We both need a better therapist, mine is for my ADHD issues and hers is non existent.
This toxicity is brutal. If there is any chance of us having therapy with you, I think she would be open for that. Please, say yes.
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Thank you. I like your tips for reparenting. This is a very helpful lecture.
You’re most welcome. I am grateful to be of service
wonderful lady, thank you
You’re most welcome! I am grateful to be of service and I appreciate you watching the video. If you don’t mind, I’d appreciate hearing what you found most helpful in the video. Also for more information on the topic or to search for videos in the video library, please visit: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Good afternoon, 🎉 Doc 😊
Good afternoon. Thank you for watching
Thank you for this video and it makes sense. My stumbling block is that I don't remember much of my childhood, so I have trouble figuring out any childhood episodes/memories that I can work through. Therefore, I default to "It's something wrong with me." Any suggestions?
It's understandable to feel this way. It can be incredibly frustrating not to remember much of your childhood, especially when trying to work through personal challenges. Know that you’re not alone in this, and it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
Journaling might help, as sometimes writing down your thoughts can bring back memories. Therapy can also be a safe space to explore your past, with professionals who can guide you through techniques to access those hidden parts of your mind. Mindfulness and meditation might help you become more in tune with your thoughts and feelings, potentially leading to new insights.
If you feel comfortable, talking to family members about your childhood can fill in some gaps. Also, I'd love to hear what you found most helpful in the video! Additionally, if you're looking for more tips, tools and strategies on remembering childhood memories or want to browse through my video library, don’t hesitate to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
Above all, be kind to yourself. It's okay to take things one step at a time and seek help when you need it. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough.
@@DocSnipes Hello Doc Snipes! Thanks for taking the time to respond to me with so much information. I wanted to carefully review the presentation before responding to you. I've been watching your videos for probably a year now and I appreciate their informative structure and clear language from a professional.
(As background, I am 66 years old, figured out my childhood trauma about five years ago, and went no contact with my parents (narcissistic mother and enabling "dad") two years ago. My only (half) sibling died 35 years ago. I have no close friends or family, but no social anxiety to blame for this. I earned multiple advanced degrees and had successful careers, but I now know I was enmeshed with my mother. )
What I found most useful was the list of characteristics and behaviors that came along with having a wounded inner child which were learned by relating to others based on what they had to do to stay safe. I have done a lot of reading so these were all familiar but it was nice seeing them all in one place. Your Core Issues: "Maintain Safety" and "Results of Unsafeness" slides were spot on. Since I have done much work already, I can notice when these things are happening in real-time now. My therapist always asks "Where is that coming from?," and I know it came from my childhood, but that knowledge doesn't help me move forward. Unfortunately, I haven't figured out how to respond any differently than I have my whole life. My adult self doesn't have different strategies with which to reparent myself. As I originally posted, I don't have any childhood memories, plus nobody can provide insight about what went on when I was growing up. I simply don't have any memories to reprocess to change my default responses. I truly want to develop secure attachments but I have no roadmap on that either. It makes me sad that I can't see a path forward toward my "rich(er) and (more) meaningful life."
I will check out your AI, especially on remembering childhood memories. Thank you again!
thank you and have you covered the DBT Modules in other videos?
Yes www.youtube.com/@DocSnipes/search?query=DBT
@@DocSnipes Thanks 😁
Yes, Is this the same as ACEs? Greetings from Hawaii.
Generally ACEs wound the inner child, but the ACEs study only looked at 10 potential "traumas" Children can experience abandonment and rejection in many ways.
if all this has happened to a child by a parent, then will this lead them to abandan their parents in their adult life.
No, sometimes that trauma bond stays forever if the child does not seek treatment.
@@DocSnipes how long before the wounded inner child heal enough so they treat their family better then they were treated and end the cycle?
@@DocSnipes Thank you so much replying to my question. ♥️🙏👍
My niece has gone through this trauma and she has abandoned her parents. She is seeing the psychologist but don’t know what made her decide to cut off the relationship.
Okay, now what do I do? I'm 67 yrd old and I can't keep blaming my parents.
Healing your inner child and moving past the blame towards your parents is a significant and courageous step. Here are some strategies and insights to help you on this journey:
Acknowledge and Reconnect with Your Inner Child
- Engage in Activities You Enjoyed as a Child: Reconnect with your inner child by doing things you loved as a child, such as painting, playing games, or spending time in nature.
- Positive Childhood Memories: Focus on and revisit five positive childhood memories to foster a sense of joy and nostalgia.
Healing and Supporting Your Inner Child
- Reframe Negative Messages: When negative thoughts arise, reframe them. For example, if you think, "I'm a failure," remind yourself that everyone has setbacks and that these do not define your worth.
- Explore Origins of Negative Messages: Understand where these negative messages originated and work on rewriting those scripts.
- Reassure Your Inner Child: Remind your inner child that they are safe now and that you, as an adult, have the power to protect them.
Daily Habits for Healing
- Rest: Ensure you get adequate quality sleep to reduce intrusive thoughts and promote a sense of safety.
- Positive Expectations: Start your day with positive expectations and the belief that you can handle any challenges.
- Progress Over Perfection: Celebrate small steps towards your goals, recognizing progress rather than striving for perfection.
- Reality Checks: When feeling anxious, check the facts of the current situation to ensure you are reacting based on reality, not past traumas.
Emotional and Cognitive Strategies
- Create a Safe Environment: Establish a non-judgmental space where your inner child can express themselves authentically.
- Identify and Rehearse New Responses: Identify triggers and rehearse new, healthier responses to these triggers.
- Grieve and Process Losses: Allow your inner child to grieve past losses and move towards acceptance.
Self-Compassion and Forgiveness
- Forgive Yourself and Your Inner Child: Recognize that past behaviors were coping mechanisms and forgive yourself for them. Understand that not all responsibility lies with you, especially as a child.
- Develop Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion by understanding and exploring your gut reactions and identifying protective learned behaviors.
Which of these strategies do you think would be most effective in helping you heal your inner child?
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@@DocSnipes Don't some of us need to process those real thought-mindsets and exprressing i anger and blame.before overcoming, grieving, re-framing, work with it