If you think car payments (w/ interest) for 5-6 years are bad, imagine one for 18 years. That's what Child Support payments are like. It's the worst. And the more you make, the more they take. Don't have kids myself but I have friends going through it.
ominous450 I never thought of it that way! But it's like being in debt for 18 years but of course child support is still not enough to support a child until the age of 18. It is more of a helping hand but the receiver puts in the 80 percent of the rest for the child's needs.
I would not really compare a car to a kid, really. I would even say having a car is more expensive and by the way I do not know how the law works in the states but if he is a repsonsible father he can always ask for joint custody, it is up to him. The same situation here and by this contribution I have finished writing on social media as I can see (not here) that some people¨s parents were really cousins if I can put it as Mr Ramsey put it.
Whoever ends up being the primary custodial parent whether mother or father basically take the 80 percent load. In the state of Texas it is 20 percent of take home pay and each additional child there is a 5 percent increase. Car and kids should not be compared I agree because a child is priceless and a vehicle drops value as soon as it leaves the lot.
you all bring up valid points especially Nina's Blessings. If I ever have kids and am unfortunate to have a divorce, I will go above and beyond the bare minimum of child support. I will be in their lives, I'll make sure they have more than I did growing up, I'll go the extra mile. The point I was trying to make is divorce when children are involved SUCKS on both sides. It sucks for the parent who has to pay child support and might not get to see their kids as much as they want... And it definitely sucks for the single parent who has to take care of the children by themselves. It sucks for the child too.
So, those who know, know this: She will receive custody of the child, child support and possibly alimony. She will claim he was abusive, alienate him from his child and she will boast that she is a strong, independent woman. A 304.
Why I am against marriage is you find girlfriend get married and have kids and buy a house then marriage ends and you lose everything like 50% marriage end in 5 years get on food stamps and Medicaid
It still baffles me about today's outdated marriage laws. Yes, I could understand child support. However, child support, with court proceedings always favor the woman in 85-90% of all cases. Rarely do men get 50% custody. In addition, child support is taxed a %, here, in the state of Louisiana, I'm taxed 5% by the state. In addition, why should alimony be paid to the ex (whether it's male or female). Are they not EQUAL in this day and age of equality? While I respect the institution of marriage as a religious ceremony, in today's legal representation of marriage, it's a failing contract and it's self evident. There's a reason why men don't wish to marry. As far as the caller, she seems to have her head on right and is willing to rectify her situation. I hope the best for her. Yes, that includes child support if the father doesn't want the child half of the time.
The theory behind alimony is to enable the recipient spouse to have a means of support and to be able to maintain a reasonably comparable standard of living. It was originally created on the assumption that one spouse (typically the husband) was the breadwinner. However, in today's times where both spouses can, and typically do, earn roughly similar amounts, I think alimony is still fine but should be adjusted downward to the extent the recipient spouse is able to, and does, go to work and receive their own income.
sir: BULL TICKY. my sister pays HANDSOMELY to her ex and he was HOWLING poverty when she changed it to 50/50 custody, it's NOT hard to get 50%, most men don't ask for it...
CG741 Graf umm no. She is already getting alimony and the far better end of the deal. She got to stay home all that time while he was working. She deserves zero of that 401 K.
Why do courts automatically default to women ? I will be the care giver of our child, I will get child support. Sadly she’s probably correct as she’s a women .why can’t men have equality with there kids?
I love Dave, but he always presumes the guy is the problem. For all he knows she was using this credit card on top of her husband's income to buy these "necessities" and that is what is leading to the divorce. She does Mary Kay and has a job that makes peanuts. She has student loans and a job that does not support the money she wasted on education. There is likely more clothes, shoes, acrylic nails, and cosmetics on that credit card than she is willing to admit.
I agree with you. We do not know the husband's side of the story. What happened? Did he find out that she was racking up credit card debt behind his back? Did they have a paternity test and found out the child was not his? She went to college and has a full time job making less than $10.00 an hour? There is a lot we don't know about this story.
@@vernonu7314 yea I agree, as much as Dave gives great advice & can spot certain issues in most ppl’s stories, I don’t really like how he’s quick to blame the male, cuz it’s bias, he only gets one phone call from a TWO-sided story, so what does that tell us…. There’s more to it than what the caller tells us 🤷🏽♀️ as far as I’m concerned there could’ve been other issues within her and her man yet she may not wanna talk about what she did or might’ve caused for him to divorce her
Dave: "Does he have 401k that's you can take half off?" What kind of question is that? Even if her husband did have 401k, it is morally wrong and against God for her to take even a SINGLE penny of that money. She didnt work for that money and is not entitled to it. Very disappointed to hear dave say something like that. Conversation basically went on "how can you rob your ex husband of every penny" path. Disgusting
You know, hearing these horror divorce stories I have a lot of sympathy for dudes that end up snapping and axing their wife. 20 years of prison is nothing compared too how long it's gonna take for that dude to get his finances back in order after his wife robs his 401k and liquidates his assets.
jcrowley1985 ha! Yeah right. It’s the majority but not always. Sadly there are many women who are Married to men who can’t provide at all. They divorce and she now has to pay him alimony . Traditionally , if the woman was home with the kids , it makes sense for her to get money. The man was able to get where he was because he had someone taking care of THEIR kids and him. Granted some men are staying home these days but that is still rare. I don’t like hearing about women who clearly are exploiting their ex though . Or vice versa
This is my situation , My ex was never there and didn't want to work. He just received 120,000 inheritance after his grandfather died and he is still coming after me for Alimony and child support trying to all of sudden be dad of the year . The courts don't count inheritance as part of income. I am barely surviving on my income that I worked so hard for supporting myself and my daughter. I truly do have more sympathy now as I understand it's mainly men that face this but trust me the coin is getting flipped a lot more than you think.
talkin outcha but... i have maintained the question for these 18 years of marriage: is there any man that makes MORE than he spends... it's the men's pride that costs money, from what I'VE SEEN
If you think car payments (w/ interest) for 5-6 years are bad, imagine one for 18 years. That's what Child Support payments are like. It's the worst. And the more you make, the more they take. Don't have kids myself but I have friends going through it.
You don't NEED a car. You do NEED YOUR child to eat. So who should support the child? Just the mother or just the father? Took two in bed. It's going to take two to feed Jr.
I accidentally posted this comment twice. guys check out the other thread. We got a good discussion going. BTW, I agree with you ladies. I was just making a quick analogy but I agree with you can't really compare car payments to child support payments.
drop the Mary K and get a part -time job.. your wasting your time on Mary K and on any MLM... MLM are scams..
... and this is why marriage or no marriage. I WILL have my own career
L0velyLandy Y E S
Best comment ever here
I wish you the best Latisha. Divorce is a tough transition for anyone even with a strong financial background.
Thats a smart girl she deserves better all the best for her and blessings
omg multilevel marketing is not income, it's an expense!
Did he say 50% of his 401k? I will never get married, don't need someone to just come in and take 50% of everything i earned working hard
Dated a chick once that took half her husband’s 401K. ICE COLD
@@ronnievengua9535 Work with a WOMAN whose husband is take half of THREE of hers. It’s not just women. They know their righrs
If you think car payments (w/ interest) for 5-6 years are bad, imagine one for 18 years. That's what Child Support payments are like. It's the worst. And the more you make, the more they take. Don't have kids myself but I have friends going through it.
ominous450 I never thought of it that way! But it's like being in debt for 18 years but of course child support is still not enough to support a child until the age of 18. It is more of a helping hand but the receiver puts in the 80 percent of the rest for the child's needs.
They say divorce is the number one wealth destroying activity Americans engage in on a regular basis.
I would not really compare a car to a kid, really. I would even say having a car is more expensive and by the way I do not know how the law works in the states but if he is a repsonsible father he can always ask for joint custody, it is up to him. The same situation here and by this contribution I have finished writing on social media as I can see (not here) that some people¨s parents were really cousins if I can put it as Mr Ramsey put it.
Whoever ends up being the primary custodial parent whether mother or father basically take the 80 percent load. In the state of Texas it is 20 percent of take home pay and each additional child there is a 5 percent increase. Car and kids should not be compared I agree because a child is priceless and a vehicle drops value as soon as it leaves the lot.
you all bring up valid points especially Nina's Blessings. If I ever have kids and am unfortunate to have a divorce, I will go above and beyond the bare minimum of child support. I will be in their lives, I'll make sure they have more than I did growing up, I'll go the extra mile.
The point I was trying to make is divorce when children are involved SUCKS on both sides. It sucks for the parent who has to pay child support and might not get to see their kids as much as they want... And it definitely sucks for the single parent who has to take care of the children by themselves. It sucks for the child too.
So, those who know, know this: She will receive custody of the child, child support and possibly alimony. She will claim he was abusive, alienate him from his child and she will boast that she is a strong, independent woman. A 304.
Marriage and the subsequent is the biggest risk & threat to your financial security...
Sooooooo worth taking the risk though!
I feel sorry for her!
No alimony in Texas player
Emerson Herndon it’s available under certain circumstances.
yup, my "dad" lives there to this day... mommy didn't even get support, he'd run and quit job if they attached his pay
Amazing
"Exactly..."
Try living on $1200 a month. Like I do. Poverty level is right
Dave would say it’s time to re-evaluate your career prospects.
Why are you so proud of that though? Weird
Why I am against marriage is you find girlfriend get married and have kids and buy a house then marriage ends and you lose everything like 50% marriage end in 5 years get on food stamps and Medicaid
In California can I still file tax with a notary separation besides a court separation thank you
Why would you go to single mother hood? Get a divorce. Co parent. Stay out of debt. You'll be fine.
hey emerson, the guy is HIDING his income... DO YOU THINK HE'S AN ACTIVE FATHER? SHE'S PAYING FOR KID'S HEALTH INSURANCE
@@LEORofYAHWEH - maybe he has good reason to... sounds like she wants to steal half of it.
@@nopenope2184 she has rights to it LEGALLY
It still baffles me about today's outdated marriage laws. Yes, I could understand child support. However, child support, with court proceedings always favor the woman in 85-90% of all cases. Rarely do men get 50% custody. In addition, child support is taxed a %, here, in the state of Louisiana, I'm taxed 5% by the state. In addition, why should alimony be paid to the ex (whether it's male or female). Are they not EQUAL in this day and age of equality? While I respect the institution of marriage as a religious ceremony, in today's legal representation of marriage, it's a failing contract and it's self evident. There's a reason why men don't wish to marry.
As far as the caller, she seems to have her head on right and is willing to rectify her situation. I hope the best for her. Yes, that includes child support if the father doesn't want the child half of the time.
The theory behind alimony is to enable the recipient spouse to have a means of support and to be able to maintain a reasonably comparable standard of living. It was originally created on the assumption that one spouse (typically the husband) was the breadwinner. However, in today's times where both spouses can, and typically do, earn roughly similar amounts, I think alimony is still fine but should be adjusted downward to the extent the recipient spouse is able to, and does, go to work and receive their own income.
sir: BULL TICKY. my sister pays HANDSOMELY to her ex and he was HOWLING poverty when she changed it to 50/50 custody, it's NOT hard to get 50%, most men don't ask for it...
Did he say 50% of his 401k out of the divorce??
yup, better buy your wife some flowers on the way home, and HOLD TIGHT
LEORofYAHWEH haha 😂
Yep. She doesn't deserve half his 401K. That's a crock. She didn't contribute that money to HIS job. I'm all for fair but that's ridiculous
HURT 1 she absolutely does especially married, child together, and he’s messing with $.
CG741 Graf umm no. She is already getting alimony and the far better end of the deal. She got to stay home all that time while he was working. She deserves zero of that 401 K.
Why do courts automatically default to women ? I will be the care giver of our child, I will get child support. Sadly she’s probably correct as she’s a women .why can’t men have equality with there kids?
Where is the cc???
I hope he cheated and she isn't just leaving. She is terrible at finances and long term thinking.
James Johnson why would you hope for that lol
james, apparently you have no children to raise, how do you do that math... chick is making $1,500 A MONTH.. meanwhile, he's hiding his income...
@@MrEherndon5 Because these dolts think being a good husband is a matter of not cheating, not beating a woman, and working. Low bar right there :|
antoniac1234 yeah some men have a low bar.
I love Dave, but he always presumes the guy is the problem. For all he knows she was using this credit card on top of her husband's income to buy these "necessities" and that is what is leading to the divorce. She does Mary Kay and has a job that makes peanuts. She has student loans and a job that does not support the money she wasted on education. There is likely more clothes, shoes, acrylic nails, and cosmetics on that credit card than she is willing to admit.
I agree with you. We do not know the husband's side of the story. What happened? Did he find out that she was racking up credit card debt behind his back? Did they have a paternity test and found out the child was not his? She went to college and has a full time job making less than $10.00 an hour? There is a lot we don't know about this story.
@@vernonu7314 yea I agree, as much as Dave gives great advice & can spot certain issues in most ppl’s stories, I don’t really like how he’s quick to blame the male, cuz it’s bias, he only gets one phone call from a TWO-sided story, so what does that tell us…. There’s more to it than what the caller tells us 🤷🏽♀️ as far as I’m concerned there could’ve been other issues within her and her man yet she may not wanna talk about what she did or might’ve caused for him to divorce her
Dave: "Does he have 401k that's you can take half off?"
What kind of question is that? Even if her husband did have 401k, it is morally wrong and against God for her to take even a SINGLE penny of that money. She didnt work for that money and is not entitled to it.
Very disappointed to hear dave say something like that. Conversation basically went on "how can you rob your ex husband of every penny" path. Disgusting
Edge HODL yep agreed. What a crock. She doesn't deserve any of that money period.
He is hiding money, ya dope
You know, hearing these horror divorce stories I have a lot of sympathy for dudes that end up snapping and axing their wife. 20 years of prison is nothing compared too how long it's gonna take for that dude to get his finances back in order after his wife robs his 401k and liquidates his assets.
Short answer, be the woman. If you're the man, you WILL go into debt.
jcrowley1985 ha! Yeah right. It’s the majority but not always. Sadly there are many women who are Married to men who can’t provide at all. They divorce and she now has to pay him alimony .
Traditionally , if the woman was home with the kids , it makes sense for her to get money. The man was able to get where he was because he had someone taking care of THEIR kids and him.
Granted some men are staying home these days but that is still rare.
I don’t like hearing about women who clearly are exploiting their ex though . Or vice versa
This is my situation , My ex was never there and didn't want to work. He just received 120,000 inheritance after his grandfather died and he is still coming after me for Alimony and child support trying to all of sudden be dad of the year . The courts don't count inheritance as part of income. I am barely surviving on my income that I worked so hard for supporting myself and my daughter. I truly do have more sympathy now as I understand it's mainly men that face this but trust me the coin is getting flipped a lot more than you think.
talkin outcha but... i have maintained the question for these 18 years of marriage: is there any man that makes MORE than he spends... it's the men's pride that costs money, from what I'VE SEEN
@@michelleg1655 It happens to guys ALL the time.
I will not go into debt in Jesus name. (recently divorced father of two, curently debt free)
She's stealing the kids from husband
Parental alienation. A.K.A. child abuse.
If you think car payments (w/ interest) for 5-6 years are bad, imagine one for 18 years. That's what Child Support payments are like. It's the worst. And the more you make, the more they take. Don't have kids myself but I have friends going through it.
i don't understand. if child support payments are bad how is the child support themself, go begging on the street?
You don't NEED a car. You do NEED YOUR child to eat. So who should support the child? Just the mother or just the father? Took two in bed. It's going to take two to feed Jr.
I accidentally posted this comment twice. guys check out the other thread. We got a good discussion going. BTW, I agree with you ladies. I was just making a quick analogy but I agree with you can't really compare car payments to child support payments.
ominous450 how to find the other thread?
it's one of the comments on this video. Go to comments -> sort by Top comments. Mine is the one with 10+ thumbs up lol