After talking to my therapist, she mentioned how the vast majority of autism/adhd diagnosed people have the inattentive type of ADHD. I asked her why and she explained how most autism/adhd people actually initially had the extraverted hyperactive adhd that ended up getting suppressed into inattentive adhd due to bullying, toxic parents/teachers, etc. This creates problems with social isolation and anxiety, leading to an inability to learn how to mask. She explained how the vast majority of autistics who actually are capable in finding careers, jobs, romantic connections, etc. were able to maintain their initiali hyperactive nature of adhd growing up, impulsively entering social situations and learning how to mask over trial and error repeatedly. Which makes me sad. I see childhood videos of myself and realise how insanely extraverted and hyper I used to be before I got traumatised by my teachers, parents and bullies.
This sounds like me. I was outgoing as a kid but became more withdrawn as an adult which doesn't make much sense. I miss my true self who wasn't autistic.
Compulsory public school system is already child abuse meant to buck break kids into being obedient adherents to managerial values, even for non-autistics. John Taylor Gatto spoke of this decades ago, and the problem has only gotten worse since.
@ I was very friendly and outgoing as a very young child too. Then after people started bullying and otherwise mistreating me for being a bit different I became anxious and cynical. Tragic really.
I think the worst aspect of having the combination of both is being so ambivalent, as in wanting 1 thing but also not wanting it the same time...whether its because no dopamine, or having to tolerate so much pain so the enjoyment isn't worth it, wanting to socialize but also hating it, wanting to do impulsive stuff but also needing strict routine. Lmao, it is extremely difficult to explain it to neurotypicals because for them all this seems like excuses or me being extremely...there isn't even a word for it maybe "suspicious"
0:53 which is why I got late diagnosed with both. Didn't cause problems and also did well in school. I think having both at the same time negates the most obvious features of both, though all of the actual negative effects are still there😂
Tho i must say it was probably just the extreme anxiety which kept me in line, never being late, always doing homework, never getting into trouble lol.
I can relate so much, except I failed uni. Getting an ADHD diagnosis is more useful than autism because you get ritalin which is awesome, but it has side effects so I don't take it regularly at all. I think if I had it as a kid I would have 'grown out' of it like my cousin (I think it's more a case of controlling it and finding a suitable career where it doesn't cause as much problems). I wish I could read more, I started 1984 summer. Eisenhower Matrix is meant to be good for ADHD. I need to try it again tbh.
1984 is one of the few books I managed to read. Yeah I'm generally very sceptical of drugs that aren't found in nature so I'm always hesitant to take anything. Did you find you were able to occasionally take it and it helped with things like studying and/or a period of having many tasks to complete?
@arostheautistic1045 yeah totally. You get either instant release or extended ones. Either way the half life is short. They work almost immediately. I use when I need to drive at night or job interview or presentation because it calms me down but yes you can focus more on them.
@@arostheautistic1045 Meds=life. Though it takes some trials to find ones that work for you and their cost is noticeable. Other skepticism, especially coming from uneducated ''working'' class(same with moving abroad, 2 things that actually work) , should be dismissed, as for an autistic there is 0 negatives of trying them out.
I did a video chatting about my experience as someone whose got an ADHD diagnosis. The good, the bad, the ugly, the serious ... occasional bit of humour. You might find it interesting th-cam.com/video/xZnQclp7ev8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=wofKmfjdB0SvrtLl
After talking to my therapist, she mentioned how the vast majority of autism/adhd diagnosed people have the inattentive type of ADHD. I asked her why and she explained how most autism/adhd people actually initially had the extraverted hyperactive adhd that ended up getting suppressed into inattentive adhd due to bullying, toxic parents/teachers, etc. This creates problems with social isolation and anxiety, leading to an inability to learn how to mask. She explained how the vast majority of autistics who actually are capable in finding careers, jobs, romantic connections, etc. were able to maintain their initiali hyperactive nature of adhd growing up, impulsively entering social situations and learning how to mask over trial and error repeatedly.
Which makes me sad. I see childhood videos of myself and realise how insanely extraverted and hyper I used to be before I got traumatised by my teachers, parents and bullies.
This sounds like me. I was outgoing as a kid but became more withdrawn as an adult which doesn't make much sense. I miss my true self who wasn't autistic.
This is so brutal to read. Definitely happened to me too.
Compulsory public school system is already child abuse meant to buck break kids into being obedient adherents to managerial values, even for non-autistics. John Taylor Gatto spoke of this decades ago, and the problem has only gotten worse since.
sounds exactly like my childhood I was compared to Steve Irwin a lot, a bubbly personality
@ I was very friendly and outgoing as a very young child too. Then after people started bullying and otherwise mistreating me for being a bit different I became anxious and cynical. Tragic really.
I think the worst aspect of having the combination of both is being so ambivalent, as in wanting 1 thing but also not wanting it the same time...whether its because no dopamine, or having to tolerate so much pain so the enjoyment isn't worth it, wanting to socialize but also hating it, wanting to do impulsive stuff but also needing strict routine. Lmao, it is extremely difficult to explain it to neurotypicals because for them all this seems like excuses or me being extremely...there isn't even a word for it maybe "suspicious"
0:53 which is why I got late diagnosed with both. Didn't cause problems and also did well in school. I think having both at the same time negates the most obvious features of both, though all of the actual negative effects are still there😂
Tho i must say it was probably just the extreme anxiety which kept me in line, never being late, always doing homework, never getting into trouble lol.
Damn this every point of this meme sounds like me. Uh oh
I can relate so much, except I failed uni. Getting an ADHD diagnosis is more useful than autism because you get ritalin which is awesome, but it has side effects so I don't take it regularly at all. I think if I had it as a kid I would have 'grown out' of it like my cousin (I think it's more a case of controlling it and finding a suitable career where it doesn't cause as much problems).
I wish I could read more, I started 1984 summer.
Eisenhower Matrix is meant to be good for ADHD. I need to try it again tbh.
1984 is one of the few books I managed to read. Yeah I'm generally very sceptical of drugs that aren't found in nature so I'm always hesitant to take anything. Did you find you were able to occasionally take it and it helped with things like studying and/or a period of having many tasks to complete?
@arostheautistic1045 yeah totally. You get either instant release or extended ones. Either way the half life is short. They work almost immediately. I use when I need to drive at night or job interview or presentation because it calms me down but yes you can focus more on them.
@@arostheautistic1045 Meds=life. Though it takes some trials to find ones that work for you and their cost is noticeable. Other skepticism, especially coming from uneducated ''working'' class(same with moving abroad, 2 things that actually work) , should be dismissed, as for an autistic there is 0 negatives of trying them out.
Thissssss izzzzzz MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
And why I'm so fuckedup
im in the same situation bud
Ritalin and adderal sound great but the down opush when the meds stop working after 4 hours is horrible
@@MonkeyAutism1998 one of the main fears I have about it.
There are extended release ADHD meds that work for about 8hrs, which is much longer being productive than anyone with ADHD by default.
I feel like I possibly have adhd but I don’t care enough to get diagnosed and I probably don’t really have it it’ll be a waste of time
I did a video chatting about my experience as someone whose got an ADHD diagnosis. The good, the bad, the ugly, the serious ... occasional bit of humour. You might find it interesting
th-cam.com/video/xZnQclp7ev8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=wofKmfjdB0SvrtLl
@@xxjoeyladxx thanks I’ll check it out
i took adhd meds from 5-18 or so they totally destroyed my personality and made me constantly jumpy and anxious