Everytime when I think that relationships r great, smth like this happens and then I again loose interest in it. Idk but it's such a complicated thing. All of my friends have been in a relationship that didn't end well. I am glad I am not one of them
"I don't wanna hurt her, I want her to think this is her decision" they literally want their girls to break up with them cause they want to play the "victim" and say they had a crazy ex who dumped them even after they "gave them everything" . I can't with these people they are literally cowards
As a woman, I've realised they do it this way because women make it very hard for the guy to leave if they are still into the guy. And they keep giving more and more, hoping he will stay. So the guy stays, until he finds a "better deal".
My advice to these men, if you want to make a girl beak up with you; just cry and act emotional around her. Make yourself look weak and pathetic. We all know women have no sympathy for weak men.
it is embarrassing, people that don’t have the compassion, love, or empathy in them to let go of someone that is fond of them so that they can actually experience a fulfilling relationship with someone… i don’t even have any words for it… they are a waste of skin in my personal opinion.
Rebal i have to tell you that most guys are like the guys in the twitter trend they are the norm you are the exception of the norm thats why most of your followers are women because you are the exception of the norm most guys are like these guys in the tweets!!
I may be wrong in this but I noticed that a lot of the people posting seemed to be black men. I even recognised some nigerian lingo in there, and as a nigerian myself, I am not surprised, just disappointed. This is one of the reasons I told my family that I don't want to marry a nigerian in the future
I say this with first hand experience, legality does not matter in the slightest. But yes I'm sure there are even more men who would if it was completely legal and acceptable in society. Just saying though, we're currently not that far off 🤷🏽♀️
They're mooching off their partner and they don't want to live alone anymore and handle more responsabilities, so they gotta find that replacement quick!
Based. And if not materially dependent, they are at the very least emotionally and intimately dependent vampires that cannot stay alone for one second because they cannot generate life energy on their own.
Deep down they know that they're terrible people. That's why they can't handle being alone. Being in relationship allows them to push all the blame and negativity onto their gfs.
Exactly!!! Any man who wants to “lead” is simply a misogynist who wants a doormat to use, abuse, project all of his flaws on, and blame for all of his problems.
@@aliceluis3272 Admitting one's mistake is a sign of self-awareness, self-reflexion and strength. The men of this Twitter thread are cowards and incels.
i saw a tiktok of a girl saying « when men are unhappy, they make it your problem too » and i’ve never heard something more truthful. they prefer blaming things on you, pushing you to your limits instead of just breaking up. coward attitude. that’s why i say they’re projecting, they hate themselves so much, have such a low self esteem that now it’s your fault that they aren’t happy. wow 🙂
It's funny how some of these men said "women are boring" and "women are irritating" while saying that's why they cheat on their partners with more WOMEN. Like??????
also funny how they say women only want money and don't care about their feelings but then act like this with women who truly care, just to end up simping over women who clearly don't give a f about them
Thinking about all the lovely ladies who went through the thread to find any evidence of their boyfriends lingering there and then dumping him to live their best lives.
I dislike people saying that "oh, these aren't real people just some Twitter losers" But these are real people, real people thinking these things, real people in a group coming together to say and think these things. You can't blame us women when we see things and giving us more reason to watch ourselves. There are good people, but now we know that these boys exist, now we have to tread even more lightly around dating. I'm sorry, but y'all stay safe.
Exactly, I think Rebal missed the point here, like sure most men aren't like this, but the fact remains that some are like this and sometimes you don't find out till it's too late. It's scary to commit to someone and be vunerable when you don't know if they will honour that. Also, I do agree with some of the women in the video, that a lot of men do hate women, or at least they don't truly love women in an equal way,. A lot of men have internalised misogyny, like how often will we hear men say that they couldn't be friends with a woman unless they'd want to get into their bed. Or how men call women "females" instead of women etc.
@@melissabloemen right??? I guess cuz Rebal is a guy he doesn't really understand what we women have to go through when it comes to these things. But at the same time, you see this all going down, the amount of people that genuinely think like this, bold enough to "joke" out on the Internet for everyone to watch it unfold. We also have to remember that there's real person behind the screen, actual real people this isn't just "Twitter losers". It's truly sad.
Right, he was like "these aren't the norm, they are crazy" and I was like every woman I know has met at least one of these assholes, either as the girlfriend or as the ex they messaged. In my case it was as not even the ex, my male best friend since High School pulled this shit just before his wedding. I was not his fiancees friend and we lived in different countries. But instead of standing up for himself, admitting he didn't want to get married, the coward tried to monkeybar onto me. No thanks. But I am now married to one of the good guys and have only dated good guys. BUT, I only dated 2 guys in my 20 adult years, because I was cautious after what I just saw secondhand.
I would rather be alone and happy than miserable with a companion. People like these disgust me. Just break up if you don't like them anymore. It's called open communication and being a grown up. Also, the more time that passes, the more I'm convinced that men legit hate women and only interact with them for money or sex on tap.
It’s bc there’s more to it than just them actually hating them. They get off in it. It’s actually abuse in my opinion. They ENJOY this. They enjoy making these women feel less than. It’s a game to them.
@Kate-is5mz ITS what they are taught as they grow up. They are taught to be be non emotional as kids and if they do they are seen as weak and they Associate that with women so they see woman as less than or objects for their pleasure. It's really messed up that's why we should teach our kids that women and men are on the same level. Women and Men can be different but still be equal. And that Women aren't objects for men.
Ok girls here's some advice. Be picky and have high standards. It's the only way you'll find someone normal. If you keep on settling and accepting bad behaviors what do you expect. A good guy would never do that and trust me you'll find him. I mean i did😂 so you will too
To be fair, he could seem really decent and up showing his true colours and you can’t always tell but if you’re deliberately seeking toxicity then you can’t complain too much.
@@aliciax5854 Yes, no kidding, he seemed so decent at first but then came the misogyny and trying to make me disconnect from friends, and always always bringing up sexu*l things even when I said no, i broke up with him pretty quick cause of this behaviour. He also used to call us romeo juliet, because my father was in a higher position than his and would never allow it, till the end he thought i broke it off cause of that but no, my father was just right when he said to find someone with an upperclass mentality, not someone who looks down on women constantly.
@@lisasmith8272 honestly, yes! Your values align a lot more, easier to understand each other and you have the same needs and emotions. If love is there, of course .
on an even more serious note : this behavior and mentality are actually linked to immensely higher female homicides rates (perpetuated by male partners). and some answers/rt on this thread were straight up murder jokes....
It's the mindset that the boyfriend has where the girlfriend is supposed to SERVE them. If they aren't being served, because, you know, relationships arent for a soulmate they are for gain, the girlfriend is worthless. They feel like it is HER fault they can't leave and HER fault that they still have to pretend to be happy. So they just keep going and going until they realize... oh well people will hate them if they leave their families that they did not have to have. Their kids will be stranded without a dad. The bitterness and blame just grows. They blame their lack of autonomy on the girl (and sometimes kids), when it is really just he was too fucking stupid and immature to cut things off earlier. YOU ruined my life, not I ruined my own. I have never been through this, but I see it all the time in super young marriages and with more conservative guys.
@@tonof.c.1397 my comment got deleted for some reason but I posted it yesterday : the guy who made this thread (on international boyfriend's day lmao October 2d if you want to find the tweet) is called: sk1tguru
@@robin-dx2zd it's not just one source, there are literally dozens of quantitative studies and academic papers/ thesis on the subject and adjacent ones! just type key words on google scholar and you'll find it. You can also simply check "female homicides rates by their partners" and compare it to male ones.
And then they say women are responsible for the majority of divorces. Have guts to be a villain in the story when you are villain or leave gracefully without causing drama.
My father initiated my family's breakup and was horrific towards my mother beforehand. He initiated the split, but officially the divorce is in her name. Oh, and he views it all as her fault. Even though he's the one who destroyed their relationship.
Yeah they conveniently fail to mention why are the women initiating the divorce, plus, it’s older couples that are the ones with more divorces ironically 😂 their “dream demographic”
Want to be the head of family, the alpha, but having poor leadership. If respect, love and trust is no longer there in the relationship, just gtfo asap. Life is too short for wasting time like that.
As a woman, I'mma say this. It's not easy seeing all this all the time, everyday. It's basically 90% of what we see on the internet and in real life. It's hard to believe that it's not at least 80% of the male population. You might be thinking that there are normal people who aren't like this, Rebal, because you're not like them. But in our perspective, it's just 10-20% of it. It's hard for us to believe. And everyday I keep drifting away from that dream love life, because I'm afraid I'll end up like the women whose boyfriends and husbands are on that thread.
yeah rebal doesn't get it. Even before I was online I had 0 faith in guys from the people around me. Not because of dating choices or relationships, just people. Peers, coworkers, teachers and family members. I slowly sarted realisng even men who seem good actually have some messed up beliefs and will use the fact that they're a man to justify it.
As a woman I would like to contradict this. Don't speak for all of us, if you don't know everyones POV. I don't see shit like that all the time. Actually almost never, because I don't actively seek out toxicity. I have healthy relationships with my friends who have healthy relationships with their partners. Of course I've met some toxic people irl and online, but you always have the choice to not surround yourself with them. Maybe do that?
There is way more to this then them hating their partners. They enjoy it. This is a game to them. They enjoy talking shit and putting these genuinely good women down. And the sad part is alot of these poor girls probably have no clue. They get off on this. It runs way deeper than what we’re seeing at surface level here. And it’s sick. These dudes are going to meet their match one day. I am confident. They’re gonna find a girl they’re obsessed with head over heels and she’s gonna shit on them. They WILL meet their match in the worst way possible.
Maybe I'm chronically online, but I do believe the dating pool is filled with people like what's in that thread. It makes me want to be single forever honestly.
It's not just online sadly. Personally so sick and tired of witnessing coworkers cheating on their partners, being hit on by married men regularly and watching so many women in struggle relationships
Same. In no way i believe that it's all jokes and that truth is in real life. No no no. They feel safe on twitter or comment sections or just online in general so they allow themselves to say actual truth. In real life they pretend.
I have a gf of 1 year and i could NEVER imagine thinking this way about her. Fellas, dont be a bitch and breakup with your girl if you dont feel happy with her anymore, free her.
@@strudelhright and I’m only 14 😭 ik I’m young and shouldn’t think about this stuff but like I want to date someday but here just to many stuff going and the dating world and I’m not even an adult yet I can imagine what it would be like when I do. Honestly I’ve been lost hope for the dating world like at least 2 years ago or possibly three
my biggest fucking nightmare is to get married and have a baby with an abusive, lying, violent piece of shit. the idea of it is so terrifying to me, to be reliant on someone like that is unfathomably petrifying, that the idea of relationships is very off-putting. after that twitter thread and just men in general feeling so comfortable and confident about how they abuse women and don't feel bad about it, i really dont think dating is worth the anxiety and insecurities it could bring me.
That's my life. Met a nice man, or so I thought. We got together and I moved with him to his home country and got pregnant. That's when the abuse started. Finally got out after far too many years under his controll. Met another man. He was nicer. But he did cheat on me with his best friend and lied all the time about stupid shit. I still forgave him because atleast he wasn't abusive, right? I finally realized that he was not a good person just because he didn't abuse me like my previous ex and broke up with him. I've been single for a while now and it's so peaceful. I think I still have some work to do with myself so I don't get trapped again. And it's not just me. Most of the women in my life, friends and family, has experienced some kind of abuse. I get why Rebal is shocked about this. He seems like a good person who could never even imagine doing stuff like this. But it's so common for us women that I am not shocked anymore. I see it everyday.
As someone going through divorce after a horrible marriage, yeah I think a LOT of men are like this. I know there’s good men out there, but it might be like 1 out of 100. Plus, so many people are just so unhappy with themselves that even if they’re a good person, they wouldn’t make a good partner. A healthy relationship with two genuine people who have pure intentions is probably about as common as a unicorn sighting.
That's so true,I feel like these men are just so unhappy,hate themselves ,have low esteem issues but instead of actually working on them they project their hatred of themselves to other people
I love what you said about people being so unhappy with themselves that even if they’re a good person, they would make shit partners. And I don’t know about the state of the world right now, but that resonated with me on another level. I know so many people who feel like this and get partners because they’re hoping that they’re the ones that will fix them or it’s at least better than being alone with their own thoughts and I totally get it. The only reason I never fell to this is because of my social anxiety disorder and hyper introvertedness. I honestly don’t trust myself around others because at the age of 22, I’m still getting to know myself and learning how love her first. I know I crave love and affection as much as the next human, but I think I’m gonna be single for a looong while (till death do we part 💀✌🏽) until I find comfort in my own two feet.
@@neemalore7967that’s what my boyfriend is doing to me now, he has an inferiority and superiority complex and has been acting like more of a bitch than i ever have (belittling me and making me feel bad about me not getting an apprenticeship yet and my current finances when i have side income streams and he relied on my money a year ago, putting me down psychologically, emotionally and making hurtful comments about my appearance) so i’m breaking up w him tomorrow 😌
I think your numbers are wrong, its just that the toxic people online speak very loudly. When we say all men cheat, we are fighting w fire. Not giving up hope is the best for your mental state, prejudice makes you blind
The thread started in my country, and if you look at our stats for domestic violence, rape, femicide, gender-based violence, SA etc you realise that for the women in my country its not just shits and giggles. These are real things that happen to real people. So I completely understand why a person seeing a thread like this would have a visceral reaction to it. It's not very funny to us when everyone knows atleast a handful of women who are going/ went through these experiences.
Sending love to my South African women out there. From my experience experience, a lot of them are super beautiful and educated. Even then, people deserve to be free from the violence and abuse 🙏🏾💕
And then on the other hand women get shamed for being single and unmarried, being “old” and nobody wants to be with an old woman so then they probably are pressured into staying in the relationship with an immature hateful man :(
😭😭 Grow up you cutesy ditz. Boys are killed more than girls in South Africa. DV is committed by women more than men in South Africa. Rape isn't common in South Africa. Gender based violence doesn't exist in South Africa. Feminists just love making everything a life and death scenario. So corny. Bitches bringing up rape and murder for no reason.😂
sadly this shit is actually so common where men start treating women like shit hoping they’ll leave and expect women to be psychic and just know, but they still have the audacity to say women don’t communicate 💀
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100 I use that app to stay updated on the latest research since many phd students & science labs post there & make threads when their papers get published 😭😭 we're not all the same 😭😭 Twitter has healthy corners... But yeah, they're pretty narrow healthy corners 🤣
I remember three of my friends say "fuck men. let's just date each other. I'll be the top and you'll be the bottom." back in high-school. all during a situationship with one guy. ONE guy
Bestiessss unfortunately all my real life besties are straight af and I'm so sorry for them:") Well I really am sorry for the girlies too, that experienced that much of a disappointment from one man lol
Those people are high key narcissists, they don't want to break up with their girlfriend because that would destroy their outer image, they don't love them
My ex just woke up one day and told me I should leave him alone for a few days because he wasn’t doing well and didn’t want to talk about it. He didn’t speak to me for two months and blocked me, saw him sitting at a restaurant with another woman 2 months later looking so happy. He said it’s because he never loved me , Lmao men are not good people 😂 this was a man that told me he loved me and would never leave my side the night before he disappeared
I'm so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you can find better now that he's out of the picture. I won't go too into detail, but my ex did a similar thing. He didn't get with someone else, but the night before he left for a trip to visit home he said something similar to "he loved me and would never leave my side" and even talking about marriage (he brought up the topic first btw) then a week after leaving for the trip he breaks up with me in one of the shittiest ways (via video call) then ghosts me. It's been 2 years, haven't heard from him since, nor do I ever want to again. We all deserve much better, authentic, and truly loving loyal partners
my last bf was like this. he never wanted to see me, always said he was tired (all week, he never wanted to see me). after a month of dating, when i came to visit him at his work - which was in a shopping center - he said we couldn't kiss each other, because his work wouldn't allow. keep in mind: we had been kissing each other for weeks before that without problem, and the shopping mall is huge, we didn't do it in front of his work or in his clocked hours. besides always saying he was tired and couldn't come see me, when we marked something, he had the habit of flaking. time after time. so i broke up with him. he then said to me he was in love with a girl he knows since he is a teen. that dates everyone, and always has excuses for him on why she can't date him. THE AMOUNT of guys i know that are stuck on girls that CLEARLY are just stringing them along for attention, and they truly believe they have a shot, is ASTOUNDING. a shame, but happens way too often.
Scary part is, I recognized my ex in your comment.. he also was just always tired, never texted me back and if so after hours, never came to visit me.. was I also pushed into breaking up or what is happening
@@aynain1810 at the time it was quite a rollercoaster. when we were together it was mostly nice and fun, but the flakiness and absentness..... oh god 😭 i had to put my feet down, because it was making me crazy. but i do hope he finds someone, as well as i 🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank u for the kind wishes ❤️
Most men are narcissists. They get off on the chase, that's why they like those girls. Never pursue men or treat them too good. They're evil and won't appreciate it
The immature little boys responsible for that thread, are the same kind of boys who used to cry about not having a girlfriend, and when they got one they started feeling powerful and big but they're just ungrateful little brats, who obviously don't deserve another human being's love.
It's honestly really heartbreaking. I would feel so honored to have a girlfriend rn. I would do everything I could to make her feel valued and respected so that we could help each other get through this difficult life together. And these absolute man-babies are squandering such a blessing.
My sister was having this conversation with me last year about guys that hate their girlfriend.honestly the reality of this just registered with me. CRAZY
This is just f disgusting. They don't just ruin their relationships i saw PLENTY of girls starting to get insecure in their relationships and start overthinking because of this stupid shit
My ex who stopped doing anything for me, didn’t text me for 3 days and when I left him, he just hurriedly closed the door on me and immediately blocked me WAS LIKE THEM!!!! Such a coward omg….If I start to lose feelings for my boyfriend then I am gonna talk about it with him and leave him. Why do these dudes make it so hard to just leave???
But they aren’t even sexually attracted to women! Men get hate boners, and can bone fruits and other inanimate objects. And most of the horrible males who think like this are disgusted by what female genitalia looks like, proving how super gay they are, and how they are too misogynistic to ever let go of an opportunity to abuse women.
Those ladies are correct! Literally encountered married men who when they didn't have the balls to break up or divorce their SO pushed the women to the point they proposed the idea! Then those same men walk around playing the victim like.... my wife of 12 yrs divorced me, yea btch cuz u pushed her to it by treating her like sh that's the part they always leave out!
My ex (31years old at that time, already a grown man) did this for a whole Year, tried many times to communicate and share my concered and even point blank asking him what he wanted and he would say "I don't know". Then at some point I realized what he was doing and I started mirroring him for the last 4 months of our relationship while I moved on emotionally, eventually he got the guts to do it and I just smiled and said "finally, that wasn't so hard now was it?" And I walked away, gave myself space to be alone and eventually met my now husband, and girls he never leaves space for doubt.
Sounds similar to my story, but mine actually let me have a mental breakdown while I worked to build a “future” with him abroad. I had to end it because he was never going to. Also ended up with a good man. Happy for us ❤
I had a pandemic buddy, which I adored at the time. We agreed to not catch feelings, but me being stupid I was like "I can change that" in my mind. During the course of our situationship, we treated each other like we were in a relationship. But, towards the end, he started being disrespectful and blamed things on me and I felt like crap ultimately. Instead of manning up and telling me he didn't want to deal with me anymore, I saw signs of another woman being in his house and my heart just dropped. He eventually told me what I already knew. I tried playing it off like I was okay, but I wasn't. When I finally mustered up the strength to gather what little self-respect I had for myself and take all my things from his place... this fool had the audacity to say "What are you doing? You don't have to take all your things." I don't remember if I said anything to him, and just left. Blocked his number, and his work info ( we worked at the same company, in different departments) and never looked back. Lessons learned here, take what men say at face value, don't have coworker relationships, and don't treat undeserving men - it's just not worth it.
@@tracylacy4467strong emotions make all people do strange things, no matter how impervious you think you are to it. It literally screws with your brain in the same way drugs do. Don’t expect logical thinking unless your fight or flight is literally triggered.
those are real people behind those accounts. people that we come across in our daily lives. if you check the stats of femicide and IPV, maybe you'll understand why women are scared and cautious all the time. it may seem like a "its just a social media thing" situation but this is how most things start- as "jokes". then it becomes normalized and then actually getting carried out. Also this was a South African thread and we have one of the highest femicide rates and Intimate Partner Violence stats. they started "joking" about killing their girlfriends in that thread. they do that shit in real life here and its uncommon to get justice here. As women, the people most likely to kill or harm us are those that we know or are intimate with. just check out that guy that was on Family Fued that joked about regretting getting married and later killed his wife.
Lol. Corny females being corny. Women commit more IPV than men even in South Africa. Men are killed significantly more than women in every single country on earth. The fact that femicide even exists as a term is just misandristic. Nobody talks about androcide, even though 90% of homicide the world over is androcide. Also, women are killed for the same reasons men are. Gender based violence isn't a thing. Women kill their husbands 2/3 as much as men do which is still significant. Women hire hitmen more and drive men to suicide emotionally tho. Women just love bringing up rape and murder to justify being bitchy😂. Grow up and stop making everything about life and death.
Seriously, someone needs to check up on the mental health of the men in South Africa because that’s just not normal. On the other hand, men are dealing with an epidemic of female narcissism in the west and it’s harder to deal with because feminism has become a stronghold here.
@@ilikepancakes2368but m’en are getting killed because of women in the west. Shut up and learn to be compassionate towards those women who are always joked about by men and those men literally kill them because a woman rejects them
Bless you Rebal for being surprised by this. You still have faith in the world. Unfortunately this is not some small minority of men that are like this. It really is a much bigger problem than you think
Rebal i have to tell you that most guys are like the guys in the twitter trend they are the norm you are the exception of the norm thats why most of your followers are women because you are the exception of the norm most guys are like these guys in the tweets!!
13:27 because they felt safe on twitter to say that and multiple other guys share the same sentiments. Its honestly sickening that u can spend your whole life with someone while they hate you to your core. Its literally life threatening if u think about it.
Firstly, i have to disagree with Rebal; that it's not "just a Twitter thread" . Thousands of men shared the way they feel, unless they made up everything. And thousands more liked the post's because they feel the same way. I personally think people end up in unhappy relationships because they went into them for the wrong reasons. They prefer to be miserable in a relationship than happily single. Instead of admiring others for holding off on getting involved in relationships they're not ready for, you're expected to get into them ⭐ just because⭐. I'm always asked if i have a boyfriend, never if he's a good person or if I'm happy. When I'm ready for a relationship i want to be committed to one good person and have something worth being proud of. Great video Rebal! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Yes! This! One guy in my uni told me that he only started dating because he had sex with girls and he "didn't have heart to tell that he didn't want a relationship" Uhmmm...you stayed in those relationships and agreed to them in the beginning because you knew you would have regular sex. That's it. He kinda admitted to that,but afterwards backtracked 💀💀💀💀 I can't fathom how some guys believe in this or and want us to believe it👁️👄👁️
i think it’s honestly less about the twitter thread and more about how women have been treated by men for centuries. not saying that all men deserve to get absolutely shit on but i can definitely see as an abuse survivor how that thread could mean a lot more to someone than just stupid guys online, although personally i do think the lover girl saying her chances of finding a happy marriage are “slim to none” is insane lmfao
@@paccawacca4069wtf are you on about bro??? it's literally written and ingrained into history; most murder victims, SA victims, and domestic violence victims are women or people assigned female at birth do your research before saying dumb shit lmao
I could never imagine treating my boyfriend this way, it's disgusting. Like if you don't like your partner maybe break up with them and save then years of an unhappy relationship??? I just don't understand why they're so adamant on tweeting and sharing their issues online instead of telling their s/o 💀
No such thing as gender based violence. Women aren't assaulted for being women. What an airheaded and womanly thing to try and claim. DV is also 50/50 in South Africa
Sorry to tell you, but on my Facebook I see lots of toxic black men in comments saying really disrespectful things about women. 🥲 I am a brown woman once I replied to this dude his entire black men mob came against me 🙂 I still fought back, there were other women to with me because it was a post about how all women should be forced to be housewives
There is no such thing as gender based violence. Women are killed for the same reason anyone is killed. It's not because they are women. Stop being a neurotic and hysterical female. Men are 90% of homicide victims in SA.
rebal i love you and i agree with you 100% of the time but with this video, it isn’t just twitter, this is REAL. it’s not just social media it’s literally everywhere. i experienced it too many times and seen it happen even more. can’t blame anyone for trying to protect their heart nowadays, it’s hard to believe healthy long lasting relationships even exists.
pls i never wanted to read that thread bc just seeing the start annoyed the shit out of me. and i was right. took a look at it and realized i was « the hated girlfriend » to my ex 🤡
@@benedetta_crln you can’t even imagine how better i’m without him! before leaving him i thought it would be the end of the world if i do, naive me lmaoo
I've heard many women talking about this long time before this thread. Honestly it just confirmed some things we already thought about. I know Rebal wants us not to lose hope but I just can't...
I think our society has gotten so self focused that people are just less tolerant of each other. I'm a lesbian and I hear lesbians talk this way about their partners all the time. It's a huge pet peeve of mine.
The normal people in normal relationships are busy enjoying their relationships. They are busy going on dates, creating memories, strengthening bonds, while these weirdos stay on social media.
They really are. Being miserable in a relationship is not normal, like at all. Those who value themselves AND their partner are typically in thriving relationships.
Yeah, I kinda feel bad for everyone.. me & my bf are too busy what’s next in our relationship instead of being on the trends of social media problems. He’s in college rn so I can’t really see him nowdays. My parents had similar problems tho & staying at their place is driving me crazy because I realize if I gave up & settled for what I’m used to, I would probably be a dumbass & dealt with the same problems.
As I read this thread, I remember feeling so defeated and like, I can't even imagine what I would do if I found out my bf thinks like this. I totally understand the girl who was crying, and although twitter isn't the most accurate representation of the real world, 100k guys is still a large number. Even if it's a joke, which either way is not a funny one, it's scary that it can even cross their minds. The dating scene is fucked up
If it makes you feel any better, men have to deal with the possibility of women cheating on us, divorcing us, taking all of our money, and forcing us to raise a child that isn’t ours. Some guy hating you is nothing compared to what men have to be cautious of.
@@IanAlwasComeback Correct, but the problem is no one gives a fuck when women talk like that about men. Its always dismissed, ignored, or worst of all, justified using feminist reasoning. Women are very unreciprocal people.
Currently going through a divorce because my husband turned out to be one of these types of men who hates women and uses them to make himself feel powerful. It is an epidemic. We as women need to stay vigilant and avoid these men like the plague because these men want to hurt us. Don’t give them access to you, and if they currently do, please realize your worth and get out. Stay safe ladies, be smart, value yourself ❤️
Sure…these men may not be the majority…but it’s scary to think how common it is. The fact there are men like this at all and pretend not to be to their girlfriends face is tragic. They don’t love their girlfriends cause they don’t love themselves either
That was what my ex did. Kept me as a backup while he kept looking for a replacement. I was so blindly in love I didn't notice the signs until he flat-out started ignoring me. I asked if he was trying to make me break up but he said shit like "no I want to spend the rest of my life with you". He forgot he left his login details on my messenger and I found his cheating messages with MULTIPLE women, with the top one being labeled "love" with a heart. Broke my heart and I almost killed myself. I'm way better now, and yes I did cut things off immediately when I found out. Karma was also amazing because his new "love" turned out to be one of those scam camgirl types.
honestly… reading those tweets opened my eyes for a past experience. And I felt so bad for my past self. It hurts. It is really hard to put trust in love after such an experience when the person who‘s supposed to love you purposefully hurts you without any shame.
I had it happen too, dont worry, we're stronger for it, and if he wasnt "man enough" to break up with you, he wasnt man enough to deserve you, youre worthy of a good relationship ❤
My last ex was like this, he was a minpulative narcissist who neglected so that I would break up with him even though he’s the one who passionately pursued me in the first place. I’m over it, I healed and I’m hopeful that there’s someone out there who’s perfect for me.
Oh bestie, there’s room for insecurity in healthy relationships. Been in a secure relationship for almost 3 years now with an SO that gives me so much affection it is sometimes overwhelming and I still sometimes ask them if they’re sure they don’t hate me. I ask my friends the same sht. To be fair, I have stuff in my past that I’m working on overcoming, trauma, boring, but I’m pretty sure most people are.
It’s interesting how aggressively they said, “I do not have enough self respect to walk away from relationships that aren’t working for me and act out so that others will abandon me and I can pout and play victim” considering these are the same kind of men that have canonically denied this exact pattern of behavior when it’s talked about. Comedy club’s got them slipping up.
Imagine caring for your partner, hugging them, smiling at them and they hating the fact that you like them? The person you're supposed to like? What the fuck? Just break up already! 💀
Seeing threads/videos of guys write things like this is just sad and pathetic. Makes one want to stay single, cause they just don’t say it directly. Like just tell me directly and stop acting like a loser online, cause you scared of being alone🙄
i heard somewhere that they don’t wanna let you go bc breaking up with you may portray them as the « bad guy ». but also they don’t wanna break up but instead ghosting you to keep you as an option or smtg like that. honestly that’s just immature. experienced something like that and it’s just… destroying a person.
It feels so good to be single these days , I totally respect you bestie for not being a jerk like these people and I love what you said abour when someone Hurst your sister
the girl talking about how men hate women at their core isn't completely wrong. it's not inherent, it's socialization. male socialization teaches men to seek out women for one thing only: sex. think about the friend-zone, the "you're not like other girls you actually have a personality", the extreme rise in boys and men glorifying people like andrew tate, using him as a mouthpiece to express what they already believed, the stats that men are six times more likely to leave their sick wives once she can't serve him anymore, violent and degrading pornography, which is created on the backs of trafficked and subjugated women, being so widely consumed to the point where it's pushed to teenage girls as "empowering", the fact that in every country, if there's a prominent and particularly horrific rape case, men en masse will have it trending on porn websites for weeks... in a patriarchal structure, there's a clear hierarchy; men as rational, logical beings with consuming interests and varying emotional depth, and women, the sub-human child-bearers, the wives and mothers and whores.
@K.C-2049 it shows when you ask them why they like their girlfriends and the answer is always what she does for him and nearly nothing about the person she is. if you look at old female obituaries, you learn so much about what she did for her husband and her family, and nearly nothing about who she was as an individual, what she liked. so, so many men will stay in a relationship with a woman they hate because they haven't found a replacement yet. look at the gods and religions they've created, where our role and purpose is to coddle and worship and serve with gratitude and without complaints. me from an year ago would have thought I am being extreme and paranoid right now. me from an year ago wasn't well versed in the history of women, untold, usually intentionally discluded from human history by male historians.
Yaaaa, tbh every time I go out I sink lower into believing men just hate women or they just have such low social awareness, that they deem all things women do as performative and aren't real ppl. I went to the store the other day and a man twice my size followed me around. When I say "followed" I mean less than 3ft distance and direct eye contact with a dead eyed expression like I ate his last chicken nugget. Today I got harassed at work by a couple old men, but it was a "compliment". Whenever I go to a local bar my friend works at, her co-workers that have been told multiple times I don't want to be touched, straight but said they don't care and they are an exception. THEY say they are the exception to MY boundaries. I've met more of these "twitter losers" in the wild than you would think, somewhere around the Andrew Tate era, behaving like this has just become acceptable to them. Not all men hate women or are bad, but jeesus this is a stagnating problem. Its a stereotypical joke that men hate their wives and its a repetitive plot point that there are no good men. What kind of reflection does that give our society? I always say I'll be in a relationship when I find someone that's better than the contentment of my own company. Seeking out a relationship these days feels masochistic.
Heavy on the low social awareness and believing everything we do has to be performative! It’s like some of them think we’re not people. That says everything about those types of guys though. I’m not into dating either, never have been, but by observing relationships around me I see it as being a huge risk to my peace of mind. At this point I only want to be alone or cultivate meaningful, non romantic relationships. If it’s not that, it can kick rocks
@@moethemoon, you can't choose when and who you fall in love with, that can happen to you and you don't choose if you fall in love or not, you can however as rational human being decide if they are good for you or not
"When you try to hold back the happiness when she's crying bec you hurt her." I've experienced this irl. He was laughing at my face when I was having an emotional breakdown trying to explain what he did hurted me.. I was blind to many things. Had put up with a ton of shit. Things will never be the same again. :')
Bestie you made me ugly sob with this video, that's a first but at least knowing there's still men like you out there gives me hope, trust issues going extra wild tho
The comment about the lady spending more than a day straight in labor, just for her ex to say she should've died delivering their child, was what made me pause so I wouldn't shed a tear. That is so upsetting & disturbing. Even if you're not attracted to somebody, any normal human would be relieved over a healthy birth. You must HATE that person to want them to die. My question is, why??? And why are you with them, then?? Edit: Yeah, don't mind the first reply. I used to be like that too, when I didn't know how weird it was to guess people irl's sexualities. Ig it's kinda telling that men with this much compassion & understanding are thought to be queer, bc that isn't seen from straight boys often.
I literally dated someone with some attitude described by these twitter guys, craziest thing is that it was my first relationship and I truly loved him because I honestly thought he felt the same. It was later I broke up with him I started realizing how stupid I was. it’s been 3 years and I don’t even have the confidence or trust to date anyone again
Think 1 of the biggest things is that some people really can't be alone so they're in relationships for the sake of being in 1 and not necessarily cause they value their partner
My ex used to hurt me and smirk, he would never show any kind of response or emotion if I cried and when I accused him of not even noticing if I was upset, he said; "I know when you're upset I just don't care." Obviously figured out he hated me, we broke up and I left him for someone else, he ended up stalking me and accusing me of cheating. Guys like this are just batshit, imagine just being with someone you actually want to be with.
One time when we had an argument he legit asked me how I manage to be calm and collected while he was screaming at me. "Why aren't you crying? Don't you care about my feelings? Is it a joke to you?" And I legit broke down crying, because I couldn't hold it anymore. Only after I left I realised how fucked up this was. I hope you feel piece now!
Ive never been in a "real" relationship, and im not sure if I even want to now. My insecure self cant take this, i didnt know guys actually thought like that 😭
These type of men will admit to hate dating women, but once someone tells them to just date men instead, they backtrack faster than they cam even have the balls to be the one to break off the relationship.
I have been single my whole life bruh. And let me tell you, it is mind blowingingly peaceful. Therefore, I can completely relate to all your words. I have so much love in my heart, and I proudly shower it on myself, and my mom, and my pets, instead of searching for a relationship. As a 28 year old woman now, the hyper independence and solitude is get to experience is much more valuable to me that I'm not ready to give it away. As you said, relationship happens. If it doesn't, then let it be, chill and sleep well. Have a simple peaceful life with less drama.
Being in (a good) relationship and being single has both pluses and minuses . Overall it's better to be alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone and mistreats you. And some prefer to be on their own ,happy singlehood can be very fulfilling (as well as happy relationship)
Rebal being out there with his golden heart proves us that there are good persons in this world and that not every male behaves like those thread’s users
This thread must be put in a museum . And yes ,its just a twitter thread, but its not also how many guys think. So girls be careful of this type of guys. Don't fall for every love bomb ,don't fall for all those with a charm easily.
This is why you need to DIG into your partner social medias so that you know what kind of person they are behind the screen. It's not being unreasonable or not knowing privacy, it's to know how they really are inside
Cop the Merch: rebal-d.myshopify.com/ 🫦
*Ever felt your boyfriend/girlfriend hated you lol then why did you stay* 👹
yeah :(
i stayed cuz i hoped it was just a feeling. until it wanst anymore
bc i was effin DESPERATE rebal what else 😭
Nah not really my introvert ass i dont like leaving my house🧍
Bestie still waiting for u to do a video about wattpad ff made about u
Or a bestie that hates me, love you bestie even if my name’s not Patricia 😘
The confidence of knowing your boyfriend isn’t one of those because you don’t have one 😂
😂😂 yes🥲
Everytime when I think that relationships r great, smth like this happens and then I again loose interest in it. Idk but it's such a complicated thing. All of my friends have been in a relationship that didn't end well. I am glad I am not one of them
Real
@@SuppGojooohaha yes … sometimes I see couples and I’m like aaaaw cute … and then I hear things like that and I’m like. Ha. Im Single
Fr 😂
Imagine the hate a woman would get if she did the same..
frrr
So true
Real
Nah frr
Fr she would get DESTROYED and there would be so much “Women ☕️” stupid ass jokes
"I don't wanna hurt her, I want her to think this is her decision" they literally want their girls to break up with them cause they want to play the "victim" and say they had a crazy ex who dumped them even after they "gave them everything" . I can't with these people they are literally cowards
As a woman, I've realised they do it this way because women make it very hard for the guy to leave if they are still into the guy. And they keep giving more and more, hoping he will stay. So the guy stays, until he finds a "better deal".
@@govegsaveanimals1972way to blame ALL women for this torture.unless a woman has borderline personality, she will accept the break up.
@@govegsaveanimals1972”As a woman” omfg…
My advice to these men, if you want to make a girl beak up with you; just cry and act emotional around her. Make yourself look weak and pathetic. We all know women have no sympathy for weak men.
@@govegsaveanimals1972 what processed you to write this comment...
“Why are men so lonely-“ publicly posting shit like this is probably part of it
Both men and women are the problem
We should let them write this stuff anyway, so we can be more aware of what they really think.
@@quantumangel737yup that number is probably increasing
FACTSS
Or probably because they don't know on how to live
I can’t imagine doing this to your significant other. Like, it’s just EMBARRASSING.
ikr like- girl I don't think this was the look you were going for- but okay
it is embarrassing, people that don’t have the compassion, love, or empathy in them to let go of someone that is fond of them so that they can actually experience a fulfilling relationship with someone… i don’t even have any words for it… they are a waste of skin in my personal opinion.
Rebal i have to tell you that most guys are like the guys in the twitter trend they are the norm you are the exception of the norm thats why most of your followers are women because you are the exception of the norm most guys are like these guys in the tweets!!
I may be wrong in this but I noticed that a lot of the people posting seemed to be black men. I even recognised some nigerian lingo in there, and as a nigerian myself, I am not surprised, just disappointed. This is one of the reasons I told my family that I don't want to marry a nigerian in the future
exactly, it is serious narcist behavior, and it gets to the point where it is evil.
It's so sadistic to want to see someone that genuinely cares for you, in pain
my faith in men 📉📉📉
Women do that all the time.
@@ilikepancakes2368show is the women’s thread then….oh ok
@@ilikepancakes2368proof?
@@ilikepancakes2368 They really do not
"being single gives you bragging rights" Rebal is truly a wise man of wise bragging words
You are famous
hello there Heisen
Can I call you Heisen?
I'm calling you Heisen
You're everywhere
"Wise bragging Words" is quite an oxymoron. But Rebal IS wise...
OMG HI
Imagine having a partner that hates you..
Yes i had one
can relate lmao. good thing i left
😂😂LMAO
Imagine ACHIEVING a girlfriend and just hating her that’s beyond my mental capacity 💀
Imagine having a partner...🗿
I'm convinced that these dudes would hit their girlfriends if it was legal. CONVINCED.
These dudes are definitely the ones with that "equal rights equal fights" slogan plastered everywhere
@@aeoligarlic4024these are literally the guys that end up the focus on a true crime channel
They do
Of course they would. DV laws were created for a reason. It used to be legal.
I say this with first hand experience, legality does not matter in the slightest. But yes I'm sure there are even more men who would if it was completely legal and acceptable in society. Just saying though, we're currently not that far off 🤷🏽♀️
They don’t wanna break up with their gfs because they’re probably living off of them! Gotta find a replacement, gotta find a new home 😄👍
They're mooching off their partner and they don't want to live alone anymore and handle more responsabilities, so they gotta find that replacement quick!
Based. And if not materially dependent, they are at the very least emotionally and intimately dependent vampires that cannot stay alone for one second because they cannot generate life energy on their own.
Deep down they know that they're terrible people. That's why they can't handle being alone. Being in relationship allows them to push all the blame and negativity onto their gfs.
Lol actually that's probably true! Ugh jerks
Literally have see. This so many times. Losers lol
I can't imagine the idea of these same men also wanting to be the "alpha" in the relationship with no balls to end it the same way they started it.
For real!
Exactly!!! Any man who wants to “lead” is simply a misogynist who wants a doormat to use, abuse, project all of his flaws on, and blame for all of his problems.
THIS.
maybe because it will be admiting to themselfs that "they choose wrong" or that was a mistake
@@aliceluis3272
Admitting one's mistake is a sign of self-awareness, self-reflexion and strength.
The men of this Twitter thread are cowards and incels.
i saw a tiktok of a girl saying « when men are unhappy, they make it your problem too » and i’ve never heard something more truthful. they prefer blaming things on you, pushing you to your limits instead of just breaking up. coward attitude. that’s why i say they’re projecting, they hate themselves so much, have such a low self esteem that now it’s your fault that they aren’t happy. wow 🙂
You're the same as these men, grouping men all like this is ridiculous
@@ChrisCouch-vx2te cry ab it 😻
@@inmyvenus Do you not have a good Father? If yes then be ashamed, if no then that explains a lot.
@@ChrisCouch-vx2te okay chris
@@ChrisCouch-vx2teya let’s just blame the women and not these man who are committing and ruining lives 😪
It's funny how some of these men said "women are boring" and "women are irritating" while saying that's why they cheat on their partners with more WOMEN. Like??????
Or maybe they’re cheating with men 😂
Maybe they prefer men? 😂🏳️🌈
also funny how they say women only want money and don't care about their feelings but then act like this with women who truly care, just to end up simping over women who clearly don't give a f about them
Men like sex but may not even like the woman they are sleeping with 😬
@@elisa1213YESSS
Thinking about all the lovely ladies who went through the thread to find any evidence of their boyfriends lingering there and then dumping him to live their best lives.
That’s what I hope happened. 🙌
Hope they caught them
Slay 💅
Girl boss 😍😌
sadly I think they'll gaslight their way out of that situation saying that "it's just a joke" and the gf would forgive...
"third child" the fact that this person continued procreating with someone they hate makes me die inside
I dislike people saying that "oh, these aren't real people just some Twitter losers" But these are real people, real people thinking these things, real people in a group coming together to say and think these things. You can't blame us women when we see things and giving us more reason to watch ourselves. There are good people, but now we know that these boys exist, now we have to tread even more lightly around dating. I'm sorry, but y'all stay safe.
Exactly, I think Rebal missed the point here, like sure most men aren't like this, but the fact remains that some are like this and sometimes you don't find out till it's too late. It's scary to commit to someone and be vunerable when you don't know if they will honour that. Also, I do agree with some of the women in the video, that a lot of men do hate women, or at least they don't truly love women in an equal way,. A lot of men have internalised misogyny, like how often will we hear men say that they couldn't be friends with a woman unless they'd want to get into their bed. Or how men call women "females" instead of women etc.
@@melissabloemen right??? I guess cuz Rebal is a guy he doesn't really understand what we women have to go through when it comes to these things. But at the same time, you see this all going down, the amount of people that genuinely think like this, bold enough to "joke" out on the Internet for everyone to watch it unfold. We also have to remember that there's real person behind the screen, actual real people this isn't just "Twitter losers". It's truly sad.
@@melissabloemenright!! so true
That's hilarious because _a lot_ of men are like this. Some men will deadass say their girlfriend is ugly. It's always "not all" , but it's plenty.
Right, he was like "these aren't the norm, they are crazy" and I was like every woman I know has met at least one of these assholes, either as the girlfriend or as the ex they messaged. In my case it was as not even the ex, my male best friend since High School pulled this shit just before his wedding. I was not his fiancees friend and we lived in different countries. But instead of standing up for himself, admitting he didn't want to get married, the coward tried to monkeybar onto me. No thanks.
But I am now married to one of the good guys and have only dated good guys. BUT, I only dated 2 guys in my 20 adult years, because I was cautious after what I just saw secondhand.
I would rather be alone and happy than miserable with a companion. People like these disgust me. Just break up if you don't like them anymore. It's called open communication and being a grown up. Also, the more time that passes, the more I'm convinced that men legit hate women and only interact with them for money or sex on tap.
It’s bc there’s more to it than just them actually hating them. They get off in it. It’s actually abuse in my opinion. They ENJOY this. They enjoy making these women feel less than. It’s a game to them.
I'm really not the type of person to generalize but there's *definitively* a pattern when it comes to men's perception of and motives towards women..
They don’t have replacement! They want sxe but not many options, so they just use their gf resenting her
@Kate-is5mz ITS what they are taught as they grow up. They are taught to be be non emotional as kids and if they do they are seen as weak and they Associate that with women so they see woman as less than or objects for their pleasure. It's really messed up that's why we should teach our kids that women and men are on the same level. Women and Men can be different but still be equal. And that Women aren't objects for men.
The problem here is they dont have the balls to do it ..that why they act like dicks ..
Ok girls here's some advice. Be picky and have high standards. It's the only way you'll find someone normal. If you keep on settling and accepting bad behaviors what do you expect. A good guy would never do that and trust me you'll find him. I mean i did😂 so you will too
You did?!😂😂 Gurl what
made you leave tho🤧
To be fair, he could seem really decent and up showing his true colours and you can’t always tell but if you’re deliberately seeking toxicity then you can’t complain too much.
I'd rather just get a girlfriend
@@aliciax5854 Yes, no kidding, he seemed so decent at first but then came the misogyny and trying to make me disconnect from friends, and always always bringing up sexu*l things even when I said no, i broke up with him pretty quick cause of this behaviour.
He also used to call us romeo juliet, because my father was in a higher position than his and would never allow it, till the end he thought i broke it off cause of that but no, my father was just right when he said to find someone with an upperclass mentality, not someone who looks down on women constantly.
@@lisasmith8272 honestly, yes! Your values align a lot more, easier to understand each other and you have the same needs and emotions. If love is there, of course .
on an even more serious note : this behavior and mentality are actually linked to immensely higher female homicides rates (perpetuated by male partners). and some answers/rt on this thread were straight up murder jokes....
It's the mindset that the boyfriend has where the girlfriend is supposed to SERVE them. If they aren't being served, because, you know, relationships arent for a soulmate they are for gain, the girlfriend is worthless. They feel like it is HER fault they can't leave and HER fault that they still have to pretend to be happy.
So they just keep going and going until they realize... oh well people will hate them if they leave their families that they did not have to have. Their kids will be stranded without a dad.
The bitterness and blame just grows. They blame their lack of autonomy on the girl (and sometimes kids), when it is really just he was too fucking stupid and immature to cut things off earlier. YOU ruined my life, not I ruined my own.
I have never been through this, but I see it all the time in super young marriages and with more conservative guys.
Do you have the link to the thread? :0
source please i want to read this
@@tonof.c.1397 my comment got deleted for some reason but I posted it yesterday : the guy who made this thread (on international boyfriend's day lmao October 2d if you want to find the tweet) is called: sk1tguru
@@robin-dx2zd it's not just one source, there are literally dozens of quantitative studies and academic papers/ thesis on the subject and adjacent ones! just type key words on google scholar and you'll find it. You can also simply check "female homicides rates by their partners" and compare it to male ones.
And then they say women are responsible for the majority of divorces.
Have guts to be a villain in the story when you are villain or leave gracefully without causing drama.
Maybe more women do initiate the divorce, but it's men who make them want to in the first place lol
My father initiated my family's breakup and was horrific towards my mother beforehand. He initiated the split, but officially the divorce is in her name. Oh, and he views it all as her fault. Even though he's the one who destroyed their relationship.
Yeah they conveniently fail to mention why are the women initiating the divorce, plus, it’s older couples that are the ones with more divorces ironically 😂 their “dream demographic”
They like neither 💀 there's a reason why they're losers 💀
Want to be the head of family, the alpha, but having poor leadership. If respect, love and trust is no longer there in the relationship, just gtfo asap. Life is too short for wasting time like that.
As a woman, I'mma say this. It's not easy seeing all this all the time, everyday. It's basically 90% of what we see on the internet and in real life. It's hard to believe that it's not at least 80% of the male population. You might be thinking that there are normal people who aren't like this, Rebal, because you're not like them. But in our perspective, it's just 10-20% of it. It's hard for us to believe. And everyday I keep drifting away from that dream love life, because I'm afraid I'll end up like the women whose boyfriends and husbands are on that thread.
yeah rebal doesn't get it. Even before I was online I had 0 faith in guys from the people around me. Not because of dating choices or relationships, just people. Peers, coworkers, teachers and family members. I slowly sarted realisng even men who seem good actually have some messed up beliefs and will use the fact that they're a man to justify it.
It’s definitely not most men lmao
Just don't date in modern age Solitude is peace and i am saying it as a guy best of luck
As a woman I would like to contradict this. Don't speak for all of us, if you don't know everyones POV. I don't see shit like that all the time. Actually almost never, because I don't actively seek out toxicity. I have healthy relationships with my friends who have healthy relationships with their partners. Of course I've met some toxic people irl and online, but you always have the choice to not surround yourself with them. Maybe do that?
Majority of the people in the replies are just proving my point.
the way they embarrass themselves lmaooo 😭
@stobit.Your PFP is just..... FAIR
@stobit.Pfp❤
ikr😭
Jokes are supposed to be funny. Hating and shitting on your own *girlfriend* , however, isnt funny. Especially when shes so genuinely caring.
this comment is so real please take this 👑🤭
Exactly
Same dudes who complain about women having baggage. My boy, YOU ARE the baggage 🤡
There is way more to this then them hating their partners. They enjoy it. This is a game to them. They enjoy talking shit and putting these genuinely good women down. And the sad part is alot of these poor girls probably have no clue.
They get off on this. It runs way deeper than what we’re seeing at surface level here. And it’s sick. These dudes are going to meet their match one day. I am confident. They’re gonna find a girl they’re obsessed with head over heels and she’s gonna shit on them. They WILL meet their match in the worst way possible.
Amen 🙏🏼
Yass may Nemesis wreck VENGEANCE
Amen!!!!!!!
Yess
Amen
Maybe I'm chronically online, but I do believe the dating pool is filled with people like what's in that thread. It makes me want to be single forever honestly.
Same tbh
It's not just online sadly. Personally so sick and tired of witnessing coworkers cheating on their partners, being hit on by married men regularly and watching so many women in struggle relationships
@@ojs5988Thisssssss. Married men hit on service workers all the time. It’s so gross.
Same. In no way i believe that it's all jokes and that truth is in real life. No no no. They feel safe on twitter or comment sections or just online in general so they allow themselves to say actual truth. In real life they pretend.
I know just as many women who cheat on their partners as I know men. this world is gross now. @@ojs5988
My advice on those dudes who hate their girlfriends:
"Maybe you don't like girlfriends, might as well get a boyfriend"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought the same 😂😂😂😂 Just date men then 💀
As a bisexual woman, I agree; more available women for me.
Haha..... casual homophobia..... so unique and funny😂😂😂
@@Rash23215how tf is that homophobia 💀
Lol 😂 fr 😂😂
I have a gf of 1 year and i could NEVER imagine thinking this way about her. Fellas, dont be a bitch and breakup with your girl if you dont feel happy with her anymore, free her.
Exactly!!
Common sense
Yes
as someone who has never dated, this is so scary😭😭
same
right, like I want intimacy but nevermind. After this I think I'm good. 😭
So long as you don’t fall for the toxic immature boy type, you’ll be fine.
@@mimik6414easier said than done
@@strudelhright and I’m only 14 😭 ik I’m young and shouldn’t think about this stuff but like I want to date someday but here just to many stuff going and the dating world and I’m not even an adult yet I can imagine what it would be like when I do. Honestly I’ve been lost hope for the dating world like at least 2 years ago or possibly three
my biggest fucking nightmare is to get married and have a baby with an abusive, lying, violent piece of shit. the idea of it is so terrifying to me, to be reliant on someone like that is unfathomably petrifying, that the idea of relationships is very off-putting. after that twitter thread and just men in general feeling so comfortable and confident about how they abuse women and don't feel bad about it, i really dont think dating is worth the anxiety and insecurities it could bring me.
i'm with you. i feel the same. i think we have trust issues, but if it prevents such a fate? is it really an issue?
My current reality. It is a nightmare.
That's my life. Met a nice man, or so I thought. We got together and I moved with him to his home country and got pregnant. That's when the abuse started. Finally got out after far too many years under his controll. Met another man. He was nicer. But he did cheat on me with his best friend and lied all the time about stupid shit. I still forgave him because atleast he wasn't abusive, right? I finally realized that he was not a good person just because he didn't abuse me like my previous ex and broke up with him. I've been single for a while now and it's so peaceful. I think I still have some work to do with myself so I don't get trapped again. And it's not just me. Most of the women in my life, friends and family, has experienced some kind of abuse.
I get why Rebal is shocked about this. He seems like a good person who could never even imagine doing stuff like this. But it's so common for us women that I am not shocked anymore. I see it everyday.
Modern men are a nightmare
As someone going through divorce after a horrible marriage, yeah I think a LOT of men are like this. I know there’s good men out there, but it might be like 1 out of 100. Plus, so many people are just so unhappy with themselves that even if they’re a good person, they wouldn’t make a good partner. A healthy relationship with two genuine people who have pure intentions is probably about as common as a unicorn sighting.
That's so true,I feel like these men are just so unhappy,hate themselves ,have low esteem issues but instead of actually working on them they project their hatred of themselves to other people
I love what you said about people being so unhappy with themselves that even if they’re a good person, they would make shit partners. And I don’t know about the state of the world right now, but that resonated with me on another level. I know so many people who feel like this and get partners because they’re hoping that they’re the ones that will fix them or it’s at least better than being alone with their own thoughts and I totally get it. The only reason I never fell to this is because of my social anxiety disorder and hyper introvertedness. I honestly don’t trust myself around others because at the age of 22, I’m still getting to know myself and learning how love her first. I know I crave love and affection as much as the next human, but I think I’m gonna be single for a looong while (till death do we part 💀✌🏽) until I find comfort in my own two feet.
@@Mizushimeee shoot I was gonna out 1 out of 10 but that was far too generous🥲
@@neemalore7967that’s what my boyfriend is doing to me now, he has an inferiority and superiority complex and has been acting like more of a bitch than i ever have (belittling me and making me feel bad about me not getting an apprenticeship yet and my current finances when i have side income streams and he relied on my money a year ago, putting me down psychologically, emotionally and making hurtful comments about my appearance) so i’m breaking up w him tomorrow 😌
I think your numbers are wrong, its just that the toxic people online speak very loudly. When we say all men cheat, we are fighting w fire. Not giving up hope is the best for your mental state, prejudice makes you blind
The thread started in my country, and if you look at our stats for domestic violence, rape, femicide, gender-based violence, SA etc you realise that for the women in my country its not just shits and giggles. These are real things that happen to real people. So I completely understand why a person seeing a thread like this would have a visceral reaction to it. It's not very funny to us when everyone knows atleast a handful of women who are going/ went through these experiences.
Sending love to my South African women out there. From my experience experience, a lot of them are super beautiful and educated. Even then, people deserve to be free from the violence and abuse 🙏🏾💕
And then on the other hand women get shamed for being single and unmarried, being “old” and nobody wants to be with an old woman so then they probably are pressured into staying in the relationship with an immature hateful man :(
Yoh, these men put us in the eyes constantly🙄
Same as a South African woman 😭
😭😭
Grow up you cutesy ditz.
Boys are killed more than girls in South Africa.
DV is committed by women more than men in South Africa.
Rape isn't common in South Africa.
Gender based violence doesn't exist in South Africa.
Feminists just love making everything a life and death scenario. So corny. Bitches bringing up rape and murder for no reason.😂
sadly this shit is actually so common where men start treating women like shit hoping they’ll leave and expect women to be psychic and just know, but they still have the audacity to say women don’t communicate 💀
Don’t date men who use Twitter, that’s already a cringe thing to do
LMAO 😂
Don't date anyone who uses that app , girl or boy , it's a red flag
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100 I use that app to stay updated on the latest research since many phd students & science labs post there & make threads when their papers get published 😭😭 we're not all the same 😭😭 Twitter has healthy corners... But yeah, they're pretty narrow healthy corners 🤣
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100😂💯
@@lumityviktuuristanartist4100It really isn’t lmao
This is why I'm scared of relationships with MEN 🤡
Dont be scary bestie, embrace tru girlfriend friendship 🗿💅💅✨✨
umm lesbians too exist so..
I remember three of my friends say "fuck men. let's just date each other. I'll be the top and you'll be the bottom." back in high-school. all during a situationship with one guy. ONE guy
@@zucchinikindaslayed well bb. They open eyes and look around ✨✨✨💅
Bestiessss unfortunately all my real life besties are straight af and I'm so sorry for them:")
Well I really am sorry for the girlies too, that experienced that much of a disappointment from one man lol
Those people are high key narcissists, they don't want to break up with their girlfriend because that would destroy their outer image, they don't love them
My ex just woke up one day and told me I should leave him alone for a few days because he wasn’t doing well and didn’t want to talk about it. He didn’t speak to me for two months and blocked me, saw him sitting at a restaurant with another woman 2 months later looking so happy. He said it’s because he never loved me , Lmao men are not good people 😂 this was a man that told me he loved me and would never leave my side the night before he disappeared
That guy didn't have any integrity or honesty in his character.
I'm so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you can find better now that he's out of the picture. I won't go too into detail, but my ex did a similar thing. He didn't get with someone else, but the night before he left for a trip to visit home he said something similar to "he loved me and would never leave my side" and even talking about marriage (he brought up the topic first btw) then a week after leaving for the trip he breaks up with me in one of the shittiest ways (via video call) then ghosts me. It's been 2 years, haven't heard from him since, nor do I ever want to again. We all deserve much better, authentic, and truly loving loyal partners
I am sure over time he started to hate that other woman too.
Did he AT LEAST look remorseful?
They are pure evil they lie to your face and pretend
my last bf was like this. he never wanted to see me, always said he was tired (all week, he never wanted to see me). after a month of dating, when i came to visit him at his work - which was in a shopping center - he said we couldn't kiss each other, because his work wouldn't allow. keep in mind: we had been kissing each other for weeks before that without problem, and the shopping mall is huge, we didn't do it in front of his work or in his clocked hours.
besides always saying he was tired and couldn't come see me, when we marked something, he had the habit of flaking. time after time.
so i broke up with him.
he then said to me he was in love with a girl he knows since he is a teen. that dates everyone, and always has excuses for him on why she can't date him.
THE AMOUNT of guys i know that are stuck on girls that CLEARLY are just stringing them along for attention, and they truly believe they have a shot, is ASTOUNDING.
a shame, but happens way too often.
Dayum that sounds depressing. Hopefully you find someone better
Scary part is, I recognized my ex in your comment.. he also was just always tired, never texted me back and if so after hours, never came to visit me.. was I also pushed into breaking up or what is happening
@@aynain1810 at the time it was quite a rollercoaster. when we were together it was mostly nice and fun, but the flakiness and absentness..... oh god 😭
i had to put my feet down, because it was making me crazy. but i do hope he finds someone, as well as i 🙏🏻🙏🏻
thank u for the kind wishes ❤️
You did an excellent job there❤
Most men are narcissists. They get off on the chase, that's why they like those girls. Never pursue men or treat them too good. They're evil and won't appreciate it
The immature little boys responsible for that thread, are the same kind of boys who used to cry about not having a girlfriend, and when they got one they started feeling powerful and big but they're just ungrateful little brats, who obviously don't deserve another human being's love.
It's honestly really heartbreaking. I would feel so honored to have a girlfriend rn. I would do everything I could to make her feel valued and respected so that we could help each other get through this difficult life together. And these absolute man-babies are squandering such a blessing.
My sister was having this conversation with me last year about guys that hate their girlfriend.honestly the reality of this just registered with me. CRAZY
Every couple I know is like this.
This is just f disgusting. They don't just ruin their relationships i saw PLENTY of girls starting to get insecure in their relationships and start overthinking because of this stupid shit
My ex who stopped doing anything for me, didn’t text me for 3 days and when I left him, he just hurriedly closed the door on me and immediately blocked me WAS LIKE THEM!!!! Such a coward omg….If I start to lose feelings for my boyfriend then I am gonna talk about it with him and leave him. Why do these dudes make it so hard to just leave???
i'm beginning to feel like some men love men and are just sexually attracted to women😂😂😂
Yes girl. I see it too😅. So weird
But they aren’t even sexually attracted to women! Men get hate boners, and can bone fruits and other inanimate objects. And most of the horrible males who think like this are disgusted by what female genitalia looks like, proving how super gay they are, and how they are too misogynistic to ever let go of an opportunity to abuse women.
That is honestly how i see it
thats why they only saw women as object sexual ??
You're just now realizing this?
Those ladies are correct! Literally encountered married men who when they didn't have the balls to break up or divorce their SO pushed the women to the point they proposed the idea! Then those same men walk around playing the victim like.... my wife of 12 yrs divorced me, yea btch cuz u pushed her to it by treating her like sh that's the part they always leave out!
typical men
What is your definition of being treated like crap? What scenario are you basing your comment on?
@@pandaaddict2756did you watch the video your commenting under?
It’s the same for domestic violence. Women push the man to hit them and then play the victim. Same energy.
@@richardjamesclemo6235 No one can push you to hit someone, you retard.
My ex (31years old at that time, already a grown man) did this for a whole Year, tried many times to communicate and share my concered and even point blank asking him what he wanted and he would say "I don't know". Then at some point I realized what he was doing and I started mirroring him for the last 4 months of our relationship while I moved on emotionally, eventually he got the guts to do it and I just smiled and said "finally, that wasn't so hard now was it?" And I walked away, gave myself space to be alone and eventually met my now husband, and girls he never leaves space for doubt.
Sounds similar to my story, but mine actually let me have a mental breakdown while I worked to build a “future” with him abroad. I had to end it because he was never going to. Also ended up with a good man. Happy for us ❤
@@jnn1280 It's like these shitty men come before the real one steps into our life, just to show us what fake love feels like. Happy for us as well :D
@@Loonasilver love the loona pfp!
I had a pandemic buddy, which I adored at the time. We agreed to not catch feelings, but me being stupid I was like "I can change that" in my mind. During the course of our situationship, we treated each other like we were in a relationship. But, towards the end, he started being disrespectful and blamed things on me and I felt like crap ultimately. Instead of manning up and telling me he didn't want to deal with me anymore, I saw signs of another woman being in his house and my heart just dropped. He eventually told me what I already knew. I tried playing it off like I was okay, but I wasn't. When I finally mustered up the strength to gather what little self-respect I had for myself and take all my things from his place... this fool had the audacity to say "What are you doing? You don't have to take all your things." I don't remember if I said anything to him, and just left. Blocked his number, and his work info ( we worked at the same company, in different departments) and never looked back. Lessons learned here, take what men say at face value, don't have coworker relationships, and don't treat undeserving men - it's just not worth it.
Or just don’t agree to that 😭 tbh you put yourself in that situation by agreeing to be “together” without feelings.
I'm proud of you for getting yourself out of that situation and learning your self worth. I wish you the best !!!! Keep strong sis!
Amen sister🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Proud of you ❤
@@tracylacy4467strong emotions make all people do strange things, no matter how impervious you think you are to it. It literally screws with your brain in the same way drugs do. Don’t expect logical thinking unless your fight or flight is literally triggered.
"Being single gives you bragging rights." SO REAL.
“thats why men cheat in their marriage” THEN DATE UR OWN GENDER GOSH
those are real people behind those accounts. people that we come across in our daily lives. if you check the stats of femicide and IPV, maybe you'll understand why women are scared and cautious all the time. it may seem like a "its just a social media thing" situation but this is how most things start- as "jokes". then it becomes normalized and then actually getting carried out.
Also this was a South African thread and we have one of the highest femicide rates and Intimate Partner Violence stats. they started "joking" about killing their girlfriends in that thread. they do that shit in real life here and its uncommon to get justice here. As women, the people most likely to kill or harm us are those that we know or are intimate with.
just check out that guy that was on Family Fued that joked about regretting getting married and later killed his wife.
Yeah...
It’s so horrifying honestly
Lol. Corny females being corny.
Women commit more IPV than men even in South Africa.
Men are killed significantly more than women in every single country on earth. The fact that femicide even exists as a term is just misandristic. Nobody talks about androcide, even though 90% of homicide the world over is androcide. Also, women are killed for the same reasons men are. Gender based violence isn't a thing.
Women kill their husbands 2/3 as much as men do which is still significant. Women hire hitmen more and drive men to suicide emotionally tho.
Women just love bringing up rape and murder to justify being bitchy😂. Grow up and stop making everything about life and death.
Seriously, someone needs to check up on the mental health of the men in South Africa because that’s just not normal. On the other hand, men are dealing with an epidemic of female narcissism in the west and it’s harder to deal with because feminism has become a stronghold here.
@@ilikepancakes2368but m’en are getting killed because of women in the west. Shut up and learn to be compassionate towards those women who are always joked about by men and those men literally kill them because a woman rejects them
I feel like the only reason the thread exists and people are getting away with it is because it could easily be seen as "made up jokes"
Bless you Rebal for being surprised by this. You still have faith in the world. Unfortunately this is not some small minority of men that are like this. It really is a much bigger problem than you think
That Twitter thread was one of the worst things I’ve ever read 😭
He is the only one who remind that funny people still exist in this world 😂
Rebal i have to tell you that most guys are like the guys in the twitter trend they are the norm you are the exception of the norm thats why most of your followers are women because you are the exception of the norm most guys are like these guys in the tweets!!
*and cute lol
13:27 because they felt safe on twitter to say that and multiple other guys share the same sentiments. Its honestly sickening that u can spend your whole life with someone while they hate you to your core. Its literally life threatening if u think about it.
They are inherently evil
Plotting against someone cause you don't have the guts to leave them... Wow😂😂
Terrifying.
Lol
Men moment😂
Firstly, i have to disagree with Rebal; that it's not "just a Twitter thread" . Thousands of men shared the way they feel, unless they made up everything. And thousands more liked the post's because they feel the same way. I personally think people end up in unhappy relationships because they went into them for the wrong reasons. They prefer to be miserable in a relationship than happily single. Instead of admiring others for holding off on getting involved in relationships they're not ready for, you're expected to get into them ⭐ just because⭐.
I'm always asked if i have a boyfriend, never if he's a good person or if I'm happy. When I'm ready for a relationship i want to be committed to one good person and have something worth being proud of.
Great video Rebal! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Nicely said
Yes! This!
One guy in my uni told me that he only started dating because he had sex with girls and he "didn't have heart to tell that he didn't want a relationship"
Uhmmm...you stayed in those relationships and agreed to them in the beginning because you knew you would have regular sex. That's it.
He kinda admitted to that,but afterwards backtracked 💀💀💀💀
I can't fathom how some guys believe in this or and want us to believe it👁️👄👁️
i think it’s honestly less about the twitter thread and more about how women have been treated by men for centuries. not saying that all men deserve to get absolutely shit on but i can definitely see as an abuse survivor how that thread could mean a lot more to someone than just stupid guys online, although personally i do think the lover girl saying her chances of finding a happy marriage are “slim to none” is insane lmfao
Exactly what I thought..women have been treated like this for centuries and it will continue into the future unless we're all re-educated
Most abuse is committed by women bro.
Women ain't gone through jack shit.
Wilting flowers cuties.
@@paccawacca4069site ur sources
Oh sure, lol.
"not saying that all men deserve to get absolutely shit on" yes you are stfu, lol.
Men ain't done shit to women for centuries.
@@paccawacca4069wtf are you on about bro??? it's literally written and ingrained into history; most murder victims, SA victims, and domestic violence victims are women or people assigned female at birth
do your research before saying dumb shit lmao
I could never imagine treating my boyfriend this way, it's disgusting. Like if you don't like your partner maybe break up with them and save then years of an unhappy relationship??? I just don't understand why they're so adamant on tweeting and sharing their issues online instead of telling their s/o 💀
Those ppl had the guts to berate these good women online but don’t have the guts to actually break up with them. Effin losers 😂
Hell is cold, Hell is empty. All the demons are here, walking among us.
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Sigh, seeing the South African names; when the country has some of the world's worst stats of GBV and assaults on women just saddened me even more
No such thing as gender based violence.
Women aren't assaulted for being women.
What an airheaded and womanly thing to try and claim.
DV is also 50/50 in South Africa
Sorry to tell you, but on my Facebook I see lots of toxic black men in comments saying really disrespectful things about women. 🥲 I am a brown woman once I replied to this dude his entire black men mob came against me 🙂 I still fought back, there were other women to with me because it was a post about how all women should be forced to be housewives
There is no such thing as gender based violence.
Women are killed for the same reason anyone is killed. It's not because they are women.
Stop being a neurotic and hysterical female.
Men are 90% of homicide victims in SA.
I’m just glad this thread became notorious so girls can find out if the guy they’re dating is a sociopath.
rebal i love you and i agree with you 100% of the time but with this video, it isn’t just twitter, this is REAL. it’s not just social media it’s literally everywhere. i experienced it too many times and seen it happen even more. can’t blame anyone for trying to protect their heart nowadays, it’s hard to believe healthy long lasting relationships even exists.
pls i never wanted to read that thread bc just seeing the start annoyed the shit out of me. and i was right. took a look at it and realized i was « the hated girlfriend » to my ex 🤡
the word “ex” is such a relief isnt it
@@benedetta_crln you can’t even imagine how better i’m without him! before leaving him i thought it would be the end of the world if i do, naive me lmaoo
Girl you're soooo pretty 😍
@@azi_adam_ omg ty for the compliment but it was a girl from pinterest am sorry ma😭 she’s indeed pretty tho 💕
I'm just realizing how badly I don't want a bf and I'm so glad I don't have one oml 😭
I've heard many women talking about this long time before this thread. Honestly it just confirmed some things we already thought about. I know Rebal wants us not to lose hope but I just can't...
I think our society has gotten so self focused that people are just less tolerant of each other. I'm a lesbian and I hear lesbians talk this way about their partners all the time. It's a huge pet peeve of mine.
The normal people in normal relationships are busy enjoying their relationships. They are busy going on dates, creating memories, strengthening bonds, while these weirdos stay on social media.
They really are. Being miserable in a relationship is not normal, like at all. Those who value themselves AND their partner are typically in thriving relationships.
Yeah, I kinda feel bad for everyone.. me & my bf are too busy what’s next in our relationship instead of being on the trends of social media problems. He’s in college rn so I can’t really see him nowdays. My parents had similar problems tho & staying at their place is driving me crazy because I realize if I gave up & settled for what I’m used to, I would probably be a dumbass & dealt with the same problems.
That’s true, we just hear about the fools more
The best coment I read 💗
As I read this thread, I remember feeling so defeated and like, I can't even imagine what I would do if I found out my bf thinks like this. I totally understand the girl who was crying, and although twitter isn't the most accurate representation of the real world, 100k guys is still a large number. Even if it's a joke, which either way is not a funny one, it's scary that it can even cross their minds. The dating scene is fucked up
It's not a joke, look at that user's other tweets, it's anti-woman after anti-woman tweet all of his feed. The guy is mentally ill.
I would argue women have been talking about men like this for a loooooong time.
If it makes you feel any better, men have to deal with the possibility of women cheating on us, divorcing us, taking all of our money, and forcing us to raise a child that isn’t ours. Some guy hating you is nothing compared to what men have to be cautious of.
@@paccawacca4069and? Still is a bad thing, no matter what is a men or a woman
@@IanAlwasComeback Correct, but the problem is no one gives a fuck when women talk like that about men. Its always dismissed, ignored, or worst of all, justified using feminist reasoning.
Women are very unreciprocal people.
I stopped letting people, specifically my family’s criticism on being single bother me so long ago. And stuff like these just prove my point.
We should compile a public google doc with their names, so that we will all know who to avoid
I can imagine a guy asking me out, he tells me his name, and I pull up *the list* on my phone 😹
ctrl f his name 😭💀
That would be amazing
literally have more chance seeing my “boyfriend” participate in this thread than winning the lottery
Girl,run.
Don't walk.
Run
Currently going through a divorce because my husband turned out to be one of these types of men who hates women and uses them to make himself feel powerful. It is an epidemic. We as women need to stay vigilant and avoid these men like the plague because these men want to hurt us. Don’t give them access to you, and if they currently do, please realize your worth and get out. Stay safe ladies, be smart, value yourself ❤️
I'm so sorry that you had to be with that kind of person!!! I wish you the best❤❤❤
Stay strong ❤
Sure…these men may not be the majority…but it’s scary to think how common it is. The fact there are men like this at all and pretend not to be to their girlfriends face is tragic. They don’t love their girlfriends cause they don’t love themselves either
being single gives you bragging rights 😭
also, im just here to get absolutely annihilated by rebal’s insults ☺️
um..
@@violetvictoria7248🤡
That was what my ex did. Kept me as a backup while he kept looking for a replacement. I was so blindly in love I didn't notice the signs until he flat-out started ignoring me. I asked if he was trying to make me break up but he said shit like "no I want to spend the rest of my life with you". He forgot he left his login details on my messenger and I found his cheating messages with MULTIPLE women, with the top one being labeled "love" with a heart. Broke my heart and I almost killed myself.
I'm way better now, and yes I did cut things off immediately when I found out. Karma was also amazing because his new "love" turned out to be one of those scam camgirl types.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you will find someone better 🙏💗
Rebal must be thinking of ways to tell everyone how being single is the best thing ever 😂😂😂😂😂
honestly… reading those tweets opened my eyes for a past experience. And I felt so bad for my past self. It hurts. It is really hard to put trust in love after such an experience when the person who‘s supposed to love you purposefully hurts you without any shame.
I had it happen too, dont worry, we're stronger for it, and if he wasnt "man enough" to break up with you, he wasnt man enough to deserve you, youre worthy of a good relationship ❤
My last ex was like this, he was a minpulative narcissist who neglected so that I would break up with him even though he’s the one who passionately pursued me in the first place. I’m over it, I healed and I’m hopeful that there’s someone out there who’s perfect for me.
Oh bestie, there’s room for insecurity in healthy relationships. Been in a secure relationship for almost 3 years now with an SO that gives me so much affection it is sometimes overwhelming and I still sometimes ask them if they’re sure they don’t hate me. I ask my friends the same sht. To be fair, I have stuff in my past that I’m working on overcoming, trauma, boring, but I’m pretty sure most people are.
Gosh that makes me sick. Lack of empathy is SUCH a big issue in our society. If everyone had empathy, so many problems could be fixed in this world.
It’s interesting how aggressively they said, “I do not have enough self respect to walk away from relationships that aren’t working for me and act out so that others will abandon me and I can pout and play victim” considering these are the same kind of men that have canonically denied this exact pattern of behavior when it’s talked about. Comedy club’s got them slipping up.
Imagine caring for your partner, hugging them, smiling at them and they hating the fact that you like them? The person you're supposed to like? What the fuck? Just break up already! 💀
Yeah why on earth are they in that relationship???
Cause most of them are 5:15 @@danika9411
Seeing threads/videos of guys write things like this is just sad and pathetic. Makes one want to stay single, cause they just don’t say it directly. Like just tell me directly and stop acting like a loser online, cause you scared of being alone🙄
i heard somewhere that they don’t wanna let you go bc breaking up with you may portray them as the « bad guy ». but also they don’t wanna break up but instead ghosting you to keep you as an option or smtg like that. honestly that’s just immature. experienced something like that and it’s just… destroying a person.
Fr. Like are you so dependent that you would rather put up with someone you can't stand than be on your own? Actually pathetic
@@inmyvenusThat's what one of my friends current partner did
It feels so good to be single these days , I totally respect you bestie for not being a jerk like these people and I love what you said abour when someone Hurst your sister
the girl talking about how men hate women at their core isn't completely wrong. it's not inherent, it's socialization. male socialization teaches men to seek out women for one thing only: sex. think about the friend-zone, the "you're not like other girls you actually have a personality", the extreme rise in boys and men glorifying people like andrew tate, using him as a mouthpiece to express what they already believed, the stats that men are six times more likely to leave their sick wives once she can't serve him anymore, violent and degrading pornography, which is created on the backs of trafficked and subjugated women, being so widely consumed to the point where it's pushed to teenage girls as "empowering", the fact that in every country, if there's a prominent and particularly horrific rape case, men en masse will have it trending on porn websites for weeks...
in a patriarchal structure, there's a clear hierarchy; men as rational, logical beings with consuming interests and varying emotional depth, and women, the sub-human child-bearers, the wives and mothers and whores.
Excellent breakdown
@K.C-2049 it shows when you ask them why they like their girlfriends and the answer is always what she does for him and nearly nothing about the person she is. if you look at old female obituaries, you learn so much about what she did for her husband and her family, and nearly nothing about who she was as an individual, what she liked. so, so many men will stay in a relationship with a woman they hate because they haven't found a replacement yet. look at the gods and religions they've created, where our role and purpose is to coddle and worship and serve with gratitude and without complaints. me from an year ago would have thought I am being extreme and paranoid right now. me from an year ago wasn't well versed in the history of women, untold, usually intentionally discluded from human history by male historians.
Wah this is so well written
@@Vi-nc1cv surprised u could understand it
@@Imauser88 ?
Yaaaa, tbh every time I go out I sink lower into believing men just hate women or they just have such low social awareness, that they deem all things women do as performative and aren't real ppl. I went to the store the other day and a man twice my size followed me around. When I say "followed" I mean less than 3ft distance and direct eye contact with a dead eyed expression like I ate his last chicken nugget. Today I got harassed at work by a couple old men, but it was a "compliment". Whenever I go to a local bar my friend works at, her co-workers that have been told multiple times I don't want to be touched, straight but said they don't care and they are an exception. THEY say they are the exception to MY boundaries. I've met more of these "twitter losers" in the wild than you would think, somewhere around the Andrew Tate era, behaving like this has just become acceptable to them. Not all men hate women or are bad, but jeesus this is a stagnating problem. Its a stereotypical joke that men hate their wives and its a repetitive plot point that there are no good men. What kind of reflection does that give our society? I always say I'll be in a relationship when I find someone that's better than the contentment of my own company. Seeking out a relationship these days feels masochistic.
Heavy on the low social awareness and believing everything we do has to be performative! It’s like some of them think we’re not people. That says everything about those types of guys though. I’m not into dating either, never have been, but by observing relationships around me I see it as being a huge risk to my peace of mind. At this point I only want to be alone or cultivate meaningful, non romantic relationships. If it’s not that, it can kick rocks
Your analysis is spot on
“Like I ate his last chicken nugget” 😂 I’m gonna use that
Have you seen the sh*t women say about men on TikTok and social media everyday? This thread is nothing.
@@moethemoon, you can't choose when and who you fall in love with, that can happen to you and you don't choose if you fall in love or not, you can however as rational human being decide if they are good for you or not
"When you try to hold back the happiness when she's crying bec you hurt her." I've experienced this irl. He was laughing at my face when I was having an emotional breakdown trying to explain what he did hurted me..
I was blind to many things. Had put up with a ton of shit.
Things will never be the same again. :')
I went thru the same
Bestie you made me ugly sob with this video, that's a first but at least knowing there's still men like you out there gives me hope, trust issues going extra wild tho
I feel like he’s gay but doesn’t know it yet😢 or maybe he’s bi
@@allluvin7977 fellas is it gay to be a good empathetic man
Don't just assume his sexuality, it's weird
@@Lunaxoxo3333 that’s not what I meant 😭😭 but yeah I’ll just keep it to myself
The comment about the lady spending more than a day straight in labor, just for her ex to say she should've died delivering their child, was what made me pause so I wouldn't shed a tear. That is so upsetting & disturbing.
Even if you're not attracted to somebody, any normal human would be relieved over a healthy birth. You must HATE that person to want them to die. My question is, why??? And why are you with them, then??
Edit: Yeah, don't mind the first reply. I used to be like that too, when I didn't know how weird it was to guess people irl's sexualities. Ig it's kinda telling that men with this much compassion & understanding are thought to be queer, bc that isn't seen from straight boys often.
I literally dated someone with some attitude described by these twitter guys, craziest thing is that it was my first relationship and I truly loved him because I honestly thought he felt the same. It was later I broke up with him I started realizing how stupid I was. it’s been 3 years and I don’t even have the confidence or trust to date anyone again
All these people deserve people that treat them the way they treated their girl. 😊
Can’t relate to other straights that hate their partners. Nearly 8 years and we still very much like eachother.😂
You can say that again!
Wholesome
hell yeah!!
That sounds nice. I hope nothing but the best for you two.
Think 1 of the biggest things is that some people really can't be alone so they're in relationships for the sake of being in 1 and not necessarily cause they value their partner
My ex used to hurt me and smirk, he would never show any kind of response or emotion if I cried and when I accused him of not even noticing if I was upset, he said; "I know when you're upset I just don't care."
Obviously figured out he hated me, we broke up and I left him for someone else, he ended up stalking me and accusing me of cheating.
Guys like this are just batshit, imagine just being with someone you actually want to be with.
One time when we had an argument he legit asked me how I manage to be calm and collected while he was screaming at me.
"Why aren't you crying? Don't you care about my feelings? Is it a joke to you?"
And I legit broke down crying, because I couldn't hold it anymore.
Only after I left I realised how fucked up this was.
I hope you feel piece now!
Ive never been in a "real" relationship, and im not sure if I even want to now. My insecure self cant take this, i didnt know guys actually thought like that 😭
most guys dont
These type of men will admit to hate dating women, but once someone tells them to just date men instead, they backtrack faster than they cam even have the balls to be the one to break off the relationship.
Oh, this can also apply to women ofc, but the video shows mostly men
@@vanillabeans4205What’s the point of your comment?
My ex is exactly like one of those guys in the thread... dating a guy, an later realizing he hates you is really painful
I have been single my whole life bruh. And let me tell you, it is mind blowingingly peaceful. Therefore, I can completely relate to all your words. I have so much love in my heart, and I proudly shower it on myself, and my mom, and my pets, instead of searching for a relationship. As a 28 year old woman now, the hyper independence and solitude is get to experience is much more valuable to me that I'm not ready to give it away. As you said, relationship happens. If it doesn't, then let it be, chill and sleep well. Have a simple peaceful life with less drama.
Chill is so fun
Being in (a good) relationship and being single has both pluses and minuses . Overall it's better to be alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone and mistreats you. And some prefer to be on their own ,happy singlehood can be very fulfilling (as well as happy relationship)
Rebal being out there with his golden heart proves us that there are good persons in this world and that not every male behaves like those thread’s users
Ikr
He's the only guy who restores my faith in men.
real
This thread must be put in a museum . And yes ,its just a twitter thread, but its not also how many guys think. So girls be careful of this type of guys. Don't fall for every love bomb ,don't fall for all those with a charm easily.
This is why you need to DIG into your partner social medias so that you know what kind of person they are behind the screen. It's not being unreasonable or not knowing privacy, it's to know how they really are inside