If I was married to someone AND they used some clever trick to prevent me from going to my own son or daughter's wedding our marriage would be officially over even before my daughter returned from her honeymoon.
He’s a weak man. He ignored everything so that he wouldn’t be alone. Now he can’t ignored it anymore. On the flipside, he’s stuck with that witch or he loses custody of his youngest daughter.
@@RobDaCajun He does NOT have to lose custody, not if he is willing to fight for 50:50. And I think Tessa needs to at least have someone sane in her life half the time (Op, not their father).
@RobDaCajun No actually, he does not. That cute little stunt she had her daughter pull ( going missing) shows that she is unstable. The most stepmom will get is 50/50.
story 1, if your dad was that worried about tess missing you, he would bring her to visit. evil stepmom doesn't have to be present everywhere tess and her dad goes... but it seems like dad is a real wimp where his wife is concerned. i would have divorced her if she did that to my daughter!
OP didn't put Tessa in the middle of anything, the step mother did. If Tessa is hurt that is on the step mother. As for the father, shame on him for trying to blame his wife's actions on his daughter
Story 1: The dad can very easily help maintain a relationship between his two daughters without his wife being involved. The man needs to step the fuck up on not only that, but also punish his wife for what she did cause what she did was unforgivable. Not even my Stepgrandma did that to my mom when she got married. My grandpa showed up and He and I got to walk my mom down the isle.
Yep,Dad can take Tessa to OP without wife. If wife has a problem with it,Dad can tell her she has no say on the topic of OP and Tessa being in contact.
This was my thought. If OP is still in contact with her dad, there would be no reason that her dad couldn't facilitate her relationship with her sister. If she is taking out her anger at her evil stepmother on her innocent little sister, OP needs to get some therapy. She has so much unresolved mommy anger, it will mess up her life. It already has. Not that she has to make up with the step-witch. But she especially needs to sort out her feelings before she has kids of her own. I feel for both sisters.
Sadly someone who was so vile as the stepmother would have no issue tearing Tessa away from her father to get her way...and the courts would probably support her.
Story 1: OP needs to go NC with her family. Dad made his choice. His wife did something depraved, and rather than leave her, he is using Tessa to manipulate OP. He wants reconciliation? Tell Dad, "Mom abandoned me, and now you have done the same. You only have one daughter now."
Actually, I think that is what the Stepmonster was hoping would that happen. She knew her husband is a spineless worm, who wouldn’t break up with her. Their whole relationship, she has slowly ramped up the abuse towards her stepdaughter and has seen that he does nothing about it because he didn’t even believe what his older daughter was telling him. She’s been biding her time until the OP finally had enough and cut her off. If she cuts her Dad off, too, then that would only be a win, in her book. Her and her child will be his only spouse/child and they won’t need to share his attention with anyone. If family members cut him off, this would be even better. The whole family needs to give her and her husband hell. Never let them have peace. Keep making OP’s Dad bring the kid sister to family events and meet-ups.
There's no way I wouldn't have divorced my wife behind deliberately making me miss my daughter's wedding. I would have told her to leave my younger daughter there and to GTFO. Divorce would have been filed Monday morning.
Story 1- Look Step mom in the eyes and say, "hahaha, You think Tessa is getting married? Who would ask her when it also means choosing YOU as a MIL? I shouldn't be surprised this never crossed your mind. There is nothing going on up there, is there? Smooth brain."
S1, why is your dad still with this toxic woman? Opies dad should tell his wife, I won't be walking Tessa either. You ruined it for Opie and Tessa both
Story 1: she’s giving her father too much credit. He’s spineless and an enabler, he never listened to his daughter before and didn’t do anything when the truth was exposed. Also he’s using Tessa to manipulate op.
Story 1. I would think there must be some laws violated by the stepmother, inducing panic perhaps being the least. Dad should have considered reporting her.
Story 1 ...your dad may be dead by the time sister marries thus deprived of ever walking a daughtef down the aisle. I would have a second wedding...make it a surprise( even to dad call it dinner) with Step mom absent. Karma is a B word
The guy who doesn't want the girlfriend not to parents his daughter, then the father should NEVER expect the girlfriend to do anything for his daughter as a parent would do...
He never "expected" her to take his daughter to school though! She voluntarily got up an hour earlier. Which leaves the question... how did the daughter get to school before step-mother-to-be moved in? And why didn't she continue to get to school like she used to?
Dang, that guy with the NACHO parenting business doesn't want a fiance/girlfriend/wife, he wants a friend with benefits who does housework. OP doesn't sound like the good guy/protective parent he's trying to make himself out to be AND the fiance isn't coming out smelling like roses here either. Break up.
1. OP is rightfully angry at stepmom. The dad is an idiot for staying married to the manipulative witch. 2. OP should reconsider marriage to the mommy wannabe.
I would go arrange a wedding vow renewal so OP could have her dad walk her down the aisle with sister as a bridesmaid. Step mom not invited of course. Then Tessa should be told when she is older so she knows how toxic her mother is. Also dad doesn't get to walk Tessa down the aisle, put a brain worm in Tessa's mind that her big sister gets that honour. Make sure Tessa is in your pocket not her mother's.
The second story, she set it up so she could guilt trip op, by getting up an hour early and taking the daughter to school, she has set up a perfect way to guilt trip,and furthermore she now has the perfect way to get people on her side by saying she does these things but can’t discipline
@@cyndib511 I mean yeah but if the dad didn’t get up until after? Also it shouldn’t be a thing, “oh I took your kid to school now I get to discipline” 🤣
@@alexisl3xmcmullin171 I'm just saying OP is obviously an adult, if you want to establish clear boundaries with people it isn't that hard, but you don't get to use someone to do something for you then claim they were manipulating you. Just do it yourself. My kid is my responsibility and if it was a very occasional thing when I had to be somewhere else, okay, but I'm not going to let someone else take my kid to school every day. And regardless weather the GF got up an hour earlier, the kid still goes to school at the same time every day. I agree a GF has zero authority to discipline the daughter, but OP needs to stop letting her do things that aren't her responsibility.
Why is he even bothering with marriage if he doesn't want her to be a stepparent? He better hope he never actually needs her to do something motherly. That's gonna be awkward.
2nd story: Had a ex who was a ass once when it came too his son. We were at a sporting stadium store getting fan gear. I picked up a jersey for his son I intended to buy. He saw it and loved it. Then jokingly I asked “What if he doesn’t even like your team. I didn’t like my dad’s, I cheered for my mom’s?” He said “He’s going to like my team cause he doesn’t have a choice.” I laughed and said “Really? He’s human, let him come to me and say he wants another teams gear. I’ll help him, it will just be a house divided! 😂” He looked at me and said “You listen to me now, You will NEVER have a say in my son’s upbringing or choices. That’s mine and his mother’s job, which ain’t you. Understand?” I looked at him, put the jersey back on the rack and walked too my seat. He came up a few minutes later and said “Oh so I put you in your place, and now you’re going to have a attitude.” I said “Nope, just thinking of all the money I can now save, since your son’s care isn’t my responsibility. Amazing you didn’t say all that when I was buying his clothes and shoes. Just want you to remember YOUR words, and hope they don’t come back and bite you in the ass!” Well it did a few months later, he had his son for the summer, and wanted to one night go out with the boys. I asked “Who’s watching your son. You know your responsibility? Hope you weren’t thinking it would be me. Naw we established where I belong in this father-son duet!” He was pissed that night, and I didn’t care! Next time it came up, I was leaving to visit my nieces and nephews. The ex asked if I would take his son, who had already started looking for his shoes. I said “Umm, I don’t watch or care for kids that I have nothing too do with. I treat every child that is with me like my blood, and would protect and punish them accordingly. You said I couldn’t be that with YOUR SON remember, I have no say in his discipline and I haven’t said anything too him while he’s been staying here. I let you his daddy handle it. So no I will not take him with me, ever! Your words are they haunting you yet?” When I came back he acknowledged he could of handled things differently. Oh well, we broke up after he took his son back too his mother and the son was playing with his phone. He called me and I heard the entire dinner conversation between him and his baby mama. It didn’t sound like things were over with them, if you know what I mean..Bastard..
Nacho parenting. You’re basically being told you will always be an outsider. She never should have moved in with you. She should have seen your red flags that you were not looking for a “family” relationship. Your just the sex at the end of the day.
I don't disagree with Nacho parenting. Literally step parents are literally the most abusive to children from a prior relationship. You can even hear it from the many stories on here, especially if it's a step mom. The first story was just a taste of how cruel step parents think. They don't like to see what someone they want to move on with already made. They want them gone and I heard too many child murder cases that involve step parents getting rid of prior children out of jealousy. It's nasty! So if you want to feel sorry for yourself when it comes to other people's children. You should just go find someone without children then make your own kid then raise them. If your relationship doesn't work out. Yet your partner gets a step whatever and your kid start getting violated while their step siblings get the golden child treatment. You'll honestly understand the importance of NACHO child parenting. Temporary lovers or new lovers shouldn't hold so much power over your blood.
2nd story: If OP told her, she should have stuck too what he said. If I was the fiancee, I would not do anything for his daughter since he was very adamant about not doing anything pertaining to his daughter.. That is not a hard decision. I would be glad not to do anything for my significant other child if they said so. That means the only person I need to deal with is the father and he deals with his own child.. BUT, I would make it clear that he better not expect me to do anything for his child, nothing!!
NTA, Tessa will be (if she's not already) old enough very soon to realize why you made the decisions you did and after you've had some time to cool off and he'll a little bit there's nothing saying you can't at least accept her back in your life and have some sort of relationship excluding her mother.
Unfrakn real that MONSter to do that to OP. She wasn’t missing they intentionally let the child go home with her friend. Claudia set it up ON PURPOSE. I’d tell the entire family on social media
Story #1: If I were the Dad, I'd divorce my wife. What she did over the course of over a decade to his daughter was emotional abuse. This wedding trick is one of the most disgusting non-criminal things I've ever heard. He should also sue for custody of Tessa. I'm uncertain if she's a good mother to her. She told her child to tell a majorly big lie. I know that the step-mother said it was so her daughter was the first child he walked down the aisle, which might sound like having a super-love for her daughter. But I actually think it's narcissistic, it makes no sense unless she wants the attention for herself. If the father doesn't do anything, Tessa is going to be used as a vehicle for the step-mother to get whatever she wants. Then she'll blame Tessa rather than take responsibility for her actions Tessa's emotional life is in danger and hopefully the father acts for her. As for OP, she needs to evaluate her relationship with her father. He didn't listen to her concerns before they got married, he didn't notice that his wife didn't treat her right over the years, and he didn't notice that his wife was treating her natural daughter differently. It wasn't as if he just married his 2nd wife, he had plenty of time to see her for who she was. If OP has children, she shouldn't involve her father in their life unless the father changes his life.
If I was the op the first story I wouldn't just be going no contact with the stepmother but also tell my father that you are not my father as of this point in time and walk away.
This father is a spineless coward. Your father should have walked you down the aisle. He should have divorced his wife and told her he wouldn't walk Tessa down the aisle because of her scemes
"Can't parent my kid": When he said I wasn't allowed to parent as a hard no, I would have said "Ok, then I'm outta here". If I was still fool enough to marry him, I'd have made MY hard limit be "Ok, that's fine, she's your daughter. BUT I will not be responsible for her in any way, shape, or form. She will not be left alone with me for *any* reason. If you have to go somewhere, she goes with you or you can drop her off somewhere. There will be no borrowing or lending of money. She is utterly and completely your responsibility, just as you want."
1. Stay close to Tessa, low contact as much as possible with step-mother. 2. Best thing to do is break up with fiancee. 3. It's not that she's young or it was due to the alcohol she is just inconsiderate. Ask for your clean belongings or for the money to buy new ones. Give her a time limit and if she doesn't follow through, take her to Small Claims Court.
The stepmom better pray that the father lives to walk Tessa down the aisle. What if Tessa doesn’t want to get married or what if something happens to her where she can’t get married.
Story 2: being in one another’s life also means that at least in basic form parenting should be done by both parties, otherwise the child will take advantage of that situation.matter on certain core rules and make everyone understand that those are valid all the time.
Story 1: Tessa did nothing wrong but you and your dad need to have a conversation with her about letting people know. I know OP is mad but it says more about the mom and how she is willing to weaponize her own daughter. I’m actually more worried for Tessa than I am mad for OP. It’s angering but there are other matters that need to be attended to first. The safety of a child is involved. Tessa could have actually been kidnapped and that plan could have truly turned serious.
Life is to short to constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if she planning some other way to get rid of you and if that means you go nc with tessa to, thats what has to happen. How can you every trust anything about step mom again
Story three I would make her clean it up and don't go drinking with her again she immature and she threw away your property she never got them cleaned and tell her your friends she destroyed your flat she should be ashamed
Last story: I'd think about telling Jenny you most likely have to inform her employer about her drinking habits. And that if she doesn't turn up with your items cleaned and x amount of money by date you are going to sue her. She's an adult. If she's old enough to work in a bar handing out alcohol, she's old enough to accept the consequences to her actions.
Story 1 NTA and I"d tell Dad sorry but having contact with Tessa means having contact with your wife and I will NEVER let her back into my life ....if you wish to stay with that toxic mess of a woman that is your choice but I will no longer be involved.
STEP COW 🐮 WANTS YOU 2 DISOWN YOUR FATHER !!!! CREATE WAYS 2 HURT YOU & DRIVE A WEDGE !!!!!! GOAL 2 GET RID OF YOU !!!!! NEVER EVER ALLOW HER 2 RUN YOU AWAY FROM FATHER !!!! RECORDING EVERYTHING EVIL !!!!! DONT BE USED & VERBALLY , MENTALLY , EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY ABUSE YOU !
story 1: you want my forgiveness DO NOT walk the other daughter down the isle when the time comes story 2: if she knew this beforehand she needs to move out
Story 1: OP's father should have divorced her, instead the spineless ahole asks OP "if she would even cut contacts with Tessa". OP should have asked her father "if he was okay to live with a evil monster, who would destroy his own daughter's life".
How any parent can stand back and let their partner treat their kid like that and let them away with pulling a pathetic stunt, to stop the husband walking his daughter down the isle. The reasons given were even worse. If I was that kid, the thanks given day meal, would have been the last time is spoke or contacted my dad, if it were me.
99% of the time stepparents and stepchildren relationships are failures, and even if they do work it is only for monetary and financial gains. It is always a chaos in such families. I am certainly not saying all the step relationships are failures, but I am certainly saying 99% of the relationships are failures.
First story: Have another ceremony at mom and dad's expense. Dad walks her down the aisle, stepmom's not invited so it's like it never happened. Everyone gets their way. Second story: ESH. She agreed to whatever she had to in order to get herself into your house. Kill the relationship and kick her out. However, with your requirements you should just accept that you are going to remain single until your kid moves out of your house. Third story: Manage to get yourself into her house and piss in the middle of her bed (and on the pillows). "There! We're even! Grind on that."
Story 1 you can still have a relationship with your sister without your step mother. If your dad can't see this it's time to go low contex. Set down with your dad and let him know that you want to keep a relationship with him and your sister. But that you are done with his wife. If he can't except this than you can cut him out too.She has made her feeling know so you are taking her at her words. She has shown you for years her true self believe her. Your dad need to take his blinders off.and see her as she is or lose your relationship.
S2 , Op your daughter has the best chance of success in a study group that has different people who are good in different subjects and they will help the ones who are weak in that subject to improve and it counts as socialising with her peers . Op your fiancee needs to respect your boundaries and the fact that her school arranged the study group in a controlled environment(library) .NTA
Story 1: OP NTA. Make it clear to your dad that b***h is banned and if he wants a relationship with u he either divorces her or chose who is more important. She ruined once in a lifetime moment for u and it will never come back. I would be furious rn with your father for not divorcing that lady
Story 1. Need to tell your dad to bring your sister over you. Still don't want any contact to do with your stepmother whatsoever that will improve your bond with your sister but keeps your boundaries with your stepmother Han story 2 Don't be surprised if your girlfriend/ fiance starts turning a blind eye to any wrongdoing or mischief. Did your daughter's doing? And when you ask her, why didn't she call you and she tells you it is not her responsibility to call you or parent your child oh honesty, I think it bros reverse and that was said to you. You would probably tell her to go f*** herself and you're out, so I think that's exactly what she should tell. You is clearly you have no idea what you're doing as a parent and your little girl is clearly walking all over you let's be honest what child wouldn't like the arrangement wear. Your mom or dad tells you. Don't worry honey, no matter if I get remarried or sun they will have no authority over you. You can just do as you please until I say otherwise so yeah, and that expect you're pretty spot on dumb
Story 2: If you marry someone, you marry their children. If you marry someone when you have children, they marry *your* children. Anyone OP wasn't willing to make into a parent to his daughter, they had no business marrying in the first place. It sounds as if this isn't someone who should be parenting Kylie, which is a legitimate decision by OP. But in that case, marrying her is not. When I married my husband, my children walked me down the aisle... and then stayed with us under the canopy, while we took vows to them as well as to each other. They are as much a part as we are of the new family we created, and I would never have considered a man against whom I had reason to set boundaries about "not parenting my kids." They are my first priority, and anyone I can't trust with them doesn't belong in my family in the first place.
The last story actually amused me. I have witnessed far too many drunk puke or urinating episodes in my life. I went to a friend's place with he and a couple of girls we knew and one friend of ours was passed out on the couch. We tried to get him to move but , he was out of it , so we just hung out and tried to ignore the elephant in the room. Well the elephant eventually got up, walked into the kitchen , opened the refrigerator , took out his penis and began urinating in the fridge...we all were watching with our mouths agape as he had got up without saying a word or acknowledging any of us and we watched exactly what he was doing. My friend Joe got up and rushed to the kitchen and started yelling at him "what the hell are doing man!!" Then I could see him snap out of it and realize what he had just done , he looked and saw me , and the two girls staring at him and Joe screaming at him to clean his damn refrigerator.😅 He had been sleep walking. When it finally dawned on him what was happening he made a bee line for the bathroom and locked himself inside. He was Soo embarrassed he wouldn't speak or come out no matter how much Joe yelled at him. We all figured if any of was going to need to use that bathroom or get him out we would have to leave (we definitely weren't going to drink any of those beers we had left in the fridge).
Story1 dad should have told the wife since you made me miss my daughter’s wedding, you should pay for her honeymoon! Oh you can’t afford it than go over to my daughters home and do choirs and work it off. Dad is pathetic
Op, its the world's oldest trick, if i ease him into it i can change him anyway i want, obviously this man is on the ball, she said she agreed and then went behind your back, i don't see that changing unless you dump her. Your daughter is almost a adult so playing june clever was a big mistake
Your a sad door mate letting it go at your wedding. Your dad was not there for you thanks to her you will Never get that back. Go After her for what she did. DO NOT LET HER GET AWAY WITH IT.
S1 nta, it's sad you don't have any parents worth keeping. Also sad you're a doormat that's willing to keep all these people. Why TF is stepmother in your presence. If I was op husband I would be considering divorce if I couldn't get an annulment, stage a kidnapping to distract father of the bride and she's still welcome.
Story 1 dad is whipped and wife probably manipulated him into manipulating daughter using younger sister, story 2 the problem with barring a partner from parenting a kid if you plan on staying together indefinitely is there will be no respect for that partner and you’ve already set the dynamic that the partner doesn’t matter, it will eventually cause friction and issues later down the line and probably cause the daughter and partner to hate each other and fight, the parenting needs to be done on both parts from the husband/ wife (or bf/gf) and talked on and agreed upon yes she did overstep when she was told no under no circumstances she could parent but that just seems like grounds for her to leave the relationship because neither the kid nor her father actually will respect her opinions, I understand blending a new family is difficult but the balance in it needs to exist to prevent issues, if she’s living there she should have some form of rights it’s not like she’s coming by once a week and telling the daughter what to do, again discussed between both partners but unless she’s there just to be an object eventually she’ll have to have some rights to parent
Story 2 You should not tell your daughter she can not say no to your daughter your daughter is going to use your girlfriend as a door mat and enjoy having power over your girlfriend and you shall not hold onto a partner because your daughter going to play
Story 1 - Stepmonster has weaponized Tessa to hurt OP, what's to say she won't do it again, or in a worse way? OP's sperm donor needs to level up and not be an enabler. I feel for the kid, but OP needs to protect herself since she can't rely on him to actually be a father.
Story 2 i wouldnt do anything for the fiancees kid i wouldnt accept to move in cz if we got married how would the household run the Lady should just leave this rship
First of all NACHO??!! Let's put aside the actual content of OP's post (2nd Story), but why are you with somebody that you don't trust to or do not give the authority to reasonably discipline your child *i.e. even if its to send them to their room or tell them no tv or something when they are being disrespectful, etc*? If OP does choose to marry this person then would she not be a step-PARENT??!?! That just seems weird to me and I could never be in a relationship like that.
Yeah, no dad is super controlling and he has a right. But, he should not bring a good and decent woman into his life. Bc most normal mentally stable women will take care of a child and mother it. Dude should wait until his daughter is 19
Story 2 - NACHO OP is a very self-centered control freak and a bully. Fiancee is not just .a future wife, but also a future step-mother. Single Dad needs to get his head out of his rear end.
This is not judgment or criticism this is just my personal feelings and opinion, if you are doing in your relationship what makes you happy and makes your life work then that's awesome. I'm sorry but I don't understand you want her to be your partner in your relationship but you don't want her to be a parent to your child. Did you ever happen to think that she loves your daughter and wants what's best for her equally as much as you do and what if something horrible happens (and you are absolutely not available) or not to be able to stop your daughter from getting in a situation that could possibly harm her in some way because she's not allowed to" parent". I am the mother of 8 children, 23 grandchildren (24 in April) and 2 great-grandchildren. [Biologically 3 of the kids and 5 grandchildren] but the" biological parents" of the others know how much l love them. All the children think of each other as siblings: all the siblings kids as nieces and nephews they couldn't imagine not having them in each other's lives. I can't imagine being with somebody who did not think of my child as an extension of me and love my child as much as I do.
Since everyone was still at the church, why didn't you just do a short dad and daughter walk down the aisle? This is not to say that your stepmother was right in what she did and i agree with your blocking her from your life, but it might have eased some of the pain. Not quite the same i know but it might have helped. See your little sister as soon as you feel better. Her witch of s mother doesn't need to be involved. Sorry for wedding problems.
I can't say I agree. It's not the actual act of walking down the aisle but the meaning behind it in the moment. Doing it after everything else is done is just pointless and adding salt in the wound. It would be like having tickets to a sporting event (say the Superbowl) and missing it because dad had the tickets and didn't show up. But they can just watch it on TV later so it's fine right? The moment is ruined and doing a pity walk isn't going to do anything to help the situation. They would also just use it as ammo to blow past the situation.
I’m just gonna say this her story to. I understand that there is some boundaries that he wants and everyone thinks that he’s not the a hole for it and I get it. She just overstepped some manners and shouldn’t have just been the way she was but also there’s a difference between when you’re just dating and meeting someone and setting that boundary for that but you’re wanting her to come in and be your wife one day you got engaged is woman you and your daughter have to respect that this is your wife and you’re not setting a boundary where your daughter needs to respect it by saying that oh you can’t do this you can’t do that what if there’s other children that get involved how is that gonna work you just gonna be like oh well they have to listen to her they have to do what she says, but you don’t have to you’re teaching your daughter to be disrespectful to the woman you say you love party so and that you are a jerk
straight off - story no 1 - why was the younger sister at school on the day OP was getting married? shush guys - these stories are starting to make less and less sense!
It just doesn't make sense to me about the 6 year old sister not being invited to the wedding, or why she wasn't a flower girl. You would think she would have been too excited about her big sister's wedding rather than going to her friend's house, even if her mother had told her to.
1st story: When it's Tessas turn to get married... kidnap the mother of the bride! Go through with the ceremony and "release" her when the reception is already midway. Make her miss her only daughters wedding!
If I was married to someone AND they used some clever trick to prevent me from going to my own son or daughter's wedding our marriage would be officially over even before my daughter returned from her honeymoon.
I'd be on my phone to a divorce lawyer before leaving the wedding reception.
He’s a weak man. He ignored everything so that he wouldn’t be alone. Now he can’t ignored it anymore. On the flipside, he’s stuck with that witch or he loses custody of his youngest daughter.
This father is spineless and under the threats of losing the second daughter.
A sorry excuse of a man.
@@RobDaCajun He does NOT have to lose custody, not if he is willing to fight for 50:50. And I think Tessa needs to at least have someone sane in her life half the time (Op, not their father).
@RobDaCajun No actually, he does not. That cute little stunt she had her daughter pull ( going missing) shows that she is unstable. The most stepmom will get is 50/50.
The dad in the first story really has the ability to pick toxic monsters as wives.
Guess he has a type
He is the toxic monster 👻, horrible father.
Walking down the aisle, alone with her tears, is something she will never forget, nor should she forgive.
Story 1: I can't believe your father is still with your step mom after the despicable trick she did on your wedding day .
I can because then he could lose all access to Tessa.
He's only staying with her because of Tessa
1st Story: That dad is an absolute coward. The fact he’s still with that stepmother after that shows that he’s truly spineless
story 1, if your dad was that worried about tess missing you, he would bring her to visit. evil stepmom doesn't have to be present everywhere tess and her dad goes... but it seems like dad is a real wimp where his wife is concerned. i would have divorced her if she did that to my daughter!
OP didn't put Tessa in the middle of anything, the step mother did. If Tessa is hurt that is on the step mother. As for the father, shame on him for trying to blame his wife's actions on his daughter
Story 1: The dad can very easily help maintain a relationship between his two daughters without his wife being involved. The man needs to step the fuck up on not only that, but also punish his wife for what she did cause what she did was unforgivable. Not even my Stepgrandma did that to my mom when she got married. My grandpa showed up and He and I got to walk my mom down the isle.
Yep,Dad can take Tessa to OP without wife. If wife has a problem with it,Dad can tell her she has no say on the topic of OP and Tessa being in contact.
This was my thought. If OP is still in contact with her dad, there would be no reason that her dad couldn't facilitate her relationship with her sister. If she is taking out her anger at her evil stepmother on her innocent little sister, OP needs to get some therapy. She has so much unresolved mommy anger, it will mess up her life. It already has. Not that she has to make up with the step-witch. But she especially needs to sort out her feelings before she has kids of her own. I feel for both sisters.
Sadly someone who was so vile as the stepmother would have no issue tearing Tessa away from her father to get her way...and the courts would probably support her.
@@anthonygilmour6236 The courts would NOT support her. Stop with that nonsense. That just gives men an excuse not to contest custody.
preach it im with you
Story 1: OP needs to go NC with her family. Dad made his choice. His wife did something depraved, and rather than leave her, he is using Tessa to manipulate OP. He wants reconciliation? Tell Dad, "Mom abandoned me, and now you have done the same. You only have one daughter now."
Actually, I think that is what the Stepmonster was hoping would that happen. She knew her husband is a spineless worm, who wouldn’t break up with her. Their whole relationship, she has slowly ramped up the abuse towards her stepdaughter and has seen that he does nothing about it because he didn’t even believe what his older daughter was telling him. She’s been biding her time until the OP finally had enough and cut her off. If she cuts her Dad off, too, then that would only be a win, in her book. Her and her child will be his only spouse/child and they won’t need to share his attention with anyone. If family members cut him off, this would be even better. The whole family needs to give her and her husband hell. Never let them have peace. Keep making OP’s Dad bring the kid sister to family events and meet-ups.
There's no way I wouldn't have divorced my wife behind deliberately making me miss my daughter's wedding. I would have told her to leave my younger daughter there and to GTFO. Divorce would have been filed Monday morning.
Story 1- Look Step mom in the eyes and say, "hahaha, You think Tessa is getting married? Who would ask her when it also means choosing YOU as a MIL? I shouldn't be surprised this never crossed your mind. There is nothing going on up there, is there? Smooth brain."
1. Story: where was dad's "we'll talk about this later"? Dad didn't do s... Also dad can bring Tessa over without stepmom.
S1, why is your dad still with this toxic woman? Opies dad should tell his wife, I won't be walking Tessa either. You ruined it for Opie and Tessa both
Story 1: she’s giving her father too much credit. He’s spineless and an enabler, he never listened to his daughter before and didn’t do anything when the truth was exposed. Also he’s using Tessa to manipulate op.
Story 1. I would think there must be some laws violated by the stepmother, inducing panic perhaps being the least. Dad should have considered reporting her.
Story 1 ...your dad may be dead by the time sister marries thus deprived of ever walking a daughtef down the aisle. I would have a second wedding...make it a surprise( even to dad call it dinner) with Step mom absent. Karma is a B word
Vow renewals are a thing that I hope op uses and invites her sister to to be the flower girl just to rub it in the evil step moms face.
The guy who doesn't want the girlfriend not to parents his daughter, then the father should NEVER expect the girlfriend to do anything for his daughter as a parent would do...
That's fine. Invaders constantly overstep and he could protect his child even more by keeping his love life completely seperate.
Bringing a kid to school is something a neighbor, friends or a bus can do. It’s not something that gives a person any parent authority.
He never "expected" her to take his daughter to school though!
She voluntarily got up an hour earlier.
Which leaves the question... how did the daughter get to school before step-mother-to-be moved in? And why didn't she continue to get to school like she used to?
The guy most likely got cheated on and got over by getting refilled so this is a beta male attempting to be both weak and irrational
You can have contact with Tessa & still have ZERO contact with stepmommydearest.
Dang, that guy with the NACHO parenting business doesn't want a fiance/girlfriend/wife, he wants a friend with benefits who does housework.
OP doesn't sound like the good guy/protective parent he's trying to make himself out to be AND the fiance isn't coming out smelling like roses here either.
Break up.
Agreed. The fiancee should dump him
1. OP is rightfully angry at stepmom. The dad is an idiot for staying married to the manipulative witch. 2. OP should reconsider marriage to the mommy wannabe.
I would go arrange a wedding vow renewal so OP could have her dad walk her down the aisle with sister as a bridesmaid. Step mom not invited of course. Then Tessa should be told when she is older so she knows how toxic her mother is. Also dad doesn't get to walk Tessa down the aisle, put a brain worm in Tessa's mind that her big sister gets that honour. Make sure Tessa is in your pocket not her mother's.
The second story, she set it up so she could guilt trip op, by getting up an hour early and taking the daughter to school, she has set up a perfect way to guilt trip,and furthermore she now has the perfect way to get people on her side by saying she does these things but can’t discipline
The dad just had to say "nope, I'm taking my kid to school, thanks anyway". The end.
@@cyndib511 I mean yeah but if the dad didn’t get up until after? Also it shouldn’t be a thing, “oh I took your kid to school now I get to discipline” 🤣
@@alexisl3xmcmullin171 I'm just saying OP is obviously an adult, if you want to establish clear boundaries with people it isn't that hard, but you don't get to use someone to do something for you then claim they were manipulating you. Just do it yourself. My kid is my responsibility and if it was a very occasional thing when I had to be somewhere else, okay, but I'm not going to let someone else take my kid to school every day. And regardless weather the GF got up an hour earlier, the kid still goes to school at the same time every day. I agree a GF has zero authority to discipline the daughter, but OP needs to stop letting her do things that aren't her responsibility.
@@alexisl3xmcmullin171 Right, a bus can take kids to school, but the bus driver never attempted to parent the kids.
@@cyndib511 .. but a stepfather/mother should have some kind of authority.
Why is he even bothering with marriage if he doesn't want her to be a stepparent? He better hope he never actually needs her to do something motherly. That's gonna be awkward.
2nd story: Had a ex who was a ass once when it came too his son. We were at a sporting stadium store getting fan gear. I picked up a jersey for his son I intended to buy. He saw it and loved it. Then jokingly I asked “What if he doesn’t even like your team. I didn’t like my dad’s, I cheered for my mom’s?” He said “He’s going to like my team cause he doesn’t have a choice.” I laughed and said “Really? He’s human, let him come to me and say he wants another teams gear. I’ll help him, it will just be a house divided! 😂” He looked at me and said “You listen to me now, You will NEVER have a say in my son’s upbringing or choices. That’s mine and his mother’s job, which ain’t you. Understand?” I looked at him, put the jersey back on the rack and walked too my seat. He came up a few minutes later and said “Oh so I put you in your place, and now you’re going to have a attitude.” I said “Nope, just thinking of all the money I can now save, since your son’s care isn’t my responsibility. Amazing you didn’t say all that when I was buying his clothes and shoes. Just want you to remember YOUR words, and hope they don’t come back and bite you in the ass!”
Well it did a few months later, he had his son for the summer, and wanted to one night go out with the boys. I asked “Who’s watching your son. You know your responsibility? Hope you weren’t thinking it would be me. Naw we established where I belong in this father-son duet!” He was pissed that night, and I didn’t care!
Next time it came up, I was leaving to visit my nieces and nephews. The ex asked if I would take his son, who had already started looking for his shoes. I said “Umm, I don’t watch or care for kids that I have nothing too do with. I treat every child that is with me like my blood, and would protect and punish them accordingly. You said I couldn’t be that with YOUR SON remember, I have no say in his discipline and I haven’t said anything too him while he’s been staying here. I let you his daddy handle it. So no I will not take him with me, ever! Your words are they haunting you yet?” When I came back he acknowledged he could of handled things differently. Oh well, we broke up after he took his son back too his mother and the son was playing with his phone. He called me and I heard the entire dinner conversation between him and his baby mama. It didn’t sound like things were over with them, if you know what I mean..Bastard..
Should have left after the first instance.
Nacho parenting. You’re basically being told you will always be an outsider. She never should have moved in with you. She should have seen your red flags that you were not looking for a “family” relationship. Your just the sex at the end of the day.
Yes, but if there's no marriage, she shouldn't be moving into the home with other ppl's children around anyway
I don't disagree with Nacho parenting. Literally step parents are literally the most abusive to children from a prior relationship. You can even hear it from the many stories on here, especially if it's a step mom. The first story was just a taste of how cruel step parents think. They don't like to see what someone they want to move on with already made. They want them gone and I heard too many child murder cases that involve step parents getting rid of prior children out of jealousy. It's nasty! So if you want to feel sorry for yourself when it comes to other people's children. You should just go find someone without children then make your own kid then raise them. If your relationship doesn't work out. Yet your partner gets a step whatever and your kid start getting violated while their step siblings get the golden child treatment. You'll honestly understand the importance of NACHO child parenting. Temporary lovers or new lovers shouldn't hold so much power over your blood.
Wow, she knew Op for over 16 years and she did that to her and her father.
2nd story: If OP told her, she should have stuck too what he said. If I was the fiancee, I would not do anything for his daughter since he was very adamant about not doing anything pertaining to his daughter..
That is not a hard decision. I would be glad not to do anything for my significant other child if they said so. That means the only person I need to deal with is the father and he deals with his own child..
BUT, I would make it clear that he better not expect me to do anything for his child, nothing!!
I guess I’d be more worried about a drunk person peeing on everything too. I wouldn’t let them stay in my house.
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NTA, Tessa will be (if she's not already) old enough very soon to realize why you made the decisions you did and after you've had some time to cool off and he'll a little bit there's nothing saying you can't at least accept her back in your life and have some sort of relationship excluding her mother.
hmm just wondering.... but why wasn't tess the flowergirl?
Why does it matter?
You can not move on by rug sweeping. There has to be an acknowledgement of what happened, and an apology.
Unfrakn real that MONSter to do that to OP. She wasn’t missing they intentionally let the child go home with her friend. Claudia set it up ON PURPOSE. I’d tell the entire family on social media
Story #1: If I were the Dad, I'd divorce my wife. What she did over the course of over a decade to his daughter was emotional abuse. This wedding trick is one of the most disgusting non-criminal things I've ever heard. He should also sue for custody of Tessa. I'm uncertain if she's a good mother to her. She told her child to tell a majorly big lie. I know that the step-mother said it was so her daughter was the first child he walked down the aisle, which might sound like having a super-love for her daughter. But I actually think it's narcissistic, it makes no sense unless she wants the attention for herself. If the father doesn't do anything, Tessa is going to be used as a vehicle for the step-mother to get whatever she wants. Then she'll blame Tessa rather than take responsibility for her actions Tessa's emotional life is in danger and hopefully the father acts for her. As for OP, she needs to evaluate her relationship with her father. He didn't listen to her concerns before they got married, he didn't notice that his wife didn't treat her right over the years, and he didn't notice that his wife was treating her natural daughter differently. It wasn't as if he just married his 2nd wife, he had plenty of time to see her for who she was. If OP has children, she shouldn't involve her father in their life unless the father changes his life.
CLAUDIA WILL ALWAYS HATE & BE JEALOUS , MAKING SURE ALL MONEY 💰 IS TIED UP & SPENT !!!!
If I was the op the first story I wouldn't just be going no contact with the stepmother but also tell my father that you are not my father as of this point in time and walk away.
Dad should be held accountable too for letting her make him miss op wedding
Cut contact with stepmom and never talk to her again
Who dry cleans sheets?
Just throw them in the washing machine
Story 1: that dad is whipped he has no spine
Story 2: you don’t want your fiance to parent your daughter? YATA and your setting your marriage up to fail. RIP OPs marriage
The 2nd story-the fiance should just leave. All he wants is a live-in maid.
This father is a spineless coward. Your father should have walked you down the aisle. He should have divorced his wife and told her he wouldn't walk Tessa down the aisle because of her scemes
"Can't parent my kid": When he said I wasn't allowed to parent as a hard no, I would have said "Ok, then I'm outta here". If I was still fool enough to marry him, I'd have made MY hard limit be "Ok, that's fine, she's your daughter. BUT I will not be responsible for her in any way, shape, or form. She will not be left alone with me for *any* reason. If you have to go somewhere, she goes with you or you can drop her off somewhere. There will be no borrowing or lending of money. She is utterly and completely your responsibility, just as you want."
1. Stay close to Tessa, low contact as much as possible with step-mother.
2. Best thing to do is break up with fiancee.
3. It's not that she's young or it was due to the alcohol she is just inconsiderate. Ask for your clean belongings or
for the money to buy new ones. Give her a time limit and if she doesn't follow through, take her to Small
Claims Court.
The stepmom better pray that the father lives to walk Tessa down the aisle. What if Tessa doesn’t want to get married or what if something happens to her where she can’t get married.
So the daughter was at school on the day of a wedding?? That doesn’t add up lmao.
Story 2: being in one another’s life also means that at least in basic form parenting should be done by both parties, otherwise the child will take advantage of that situation.matter on certain core rules and make everyone understand that those are valid all the time.
Story 1: Tessa did nothing wrong but you and your dad need to have a conversation with her about letting people know. I know OP is mad but it says more about the mom and how she is willing to weaponize her own daughter. I’m actually more worried for Tessa than I am mad for OP. It’s angering but there are other matters that need to be attended to first. The safety of a child is involved. Tessa could have actually been kidnapped and that plan could have truly turned serious.
Tell them all that the next party will be at THEIR house, not at yours.
Could you have called her parents & told them to come get her?
Stepmom achieved her goal. Her actions could not be reversed so apologies mean nothing.
WOW stepmonster is a horrible woman
Life is to short to constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if she planning some other way to get rid of you and if that means you go nc with tessa to, thats what has to happen. How can you every trust anything about step mom again
Story three
I would make her clean it up and don't go drinking with her again she immature and she threw away your property she never got them cleaned and tell her your friends she destroyed your flat she should be ashamed
Last story: I'd think about telling Jenny you most likely have to inform her employer about her drinking habits. And that if she doesn't turn up with your items cleaned and x amount of money by date you are going to sue her. She's an adult. If she's old enough to work in a bar handing out alcohol, she's old enough to accept the consequences to her actions.
Story 1 NTA and I"d tell Dad sorry but having contact with Tessa means having contact with your wife and I will NEVER let her back into my life ....if you wish to stay with that toxic mess of a woman that is your choice but I will no longer be involved.
STEP COW 🐮 WANTS YOU 2 DISOWN YOUR FATHER !!!! CREATE WAYS 2 HURT YOU & DRIVE A WEDGE !!!!!! GOAL 2 GET RID OF YOU !!!!! NEVER EVER ALLOW HER 2 RUN YOU AWAY FROM FATHER !!!! RECORDING EVERYTHING EVIL !!!!! DONT BE USED & VERBALLY , MENTALLY , EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY ABUSE YOU !
Story 2: Great dad. He needs to dump that buttinski.
Yeah but why is he even bothering trying to remarry if he doesn't want them to be a stepmom?
story 1: you want my forgiveness DO NOT walk the other daughter down the isle when the time comes story 2: if she knew this beforehand she needs to move out
Story 1: OP's father should have divorced her, instead the spineless ahole asks OP "if she would even cut contacts with Tessa". OP should have asked her father "if he was okay to live with a evil monster, who would destroy his own daughter's life".
Last Story:
Next time she'll drunk-diarrhea the bed.
How any parent can stand back and let their partner treat their kid like that and let them away with pulling a pathetic stunt, to stop the husband walking his daughter down the isle. The reasons given were even worse. If I was that kid, the thanks given day meal, would have been the last time is spoke or contacted my dad, if it were me.
99% of the time stepparents and stepchildren relationships are failures, and even if they do work it is only for monetary and financial gains. It is always a chaos in such families. I am certainly not saying all the step relationships are failures, but I am certainly saying 99% of the relationships are failures.
First story: Have another ceremony at mom and dad's expense. Dad walks her down the aisle, stepmom's not invited so it's like it never happened. Everyone gets their way.
Second story: ESH. She agreed to whatever she had to in order to get herself into your house. Kill the relationship and kick her out. However, with your requirements you should just accept that you are going to remain single until your kid moves out of your house.
Third story: Manage to get yourself into her house and piss in the middle of her bed (and on the pillows). "There! We're even! Grind on that."
Story 1 you can still have a relationship with your sister without your step mother. If your dad can't see this it's time to go low contex. Set down with your dad and let him know that you want to keep a relationship with him and your sister. But that you are done with his wife. If he can't except this than you can cut him out too.She has made her feeling know so you are taking her at her words. She has shown you for years her true self believe her. Your dad need to take his blinders off.and see her as she is or lose your relationship.
S2 , Op your daughter has the best chance of success in a study group that has different people who are good in different subjects and they will help the ones who are weak in that subject to improve and it counts as socialising with her peers . Op your fiancee needs to respect your boundaries and the fact that her school arranged the study group in a controlled environment(library) .NTA
Your dad should have divorced her for what she did to you.
Story 1: OP NTA. Make it clear to your dad that b***h is banned and if he wants a relationship with u he either divorces her or chose who is more important. She ruined once in a lifetime moment for u and it will never come back. I would be furious rn with your father for not divorcing that lady
Story 1. Need to tell your dad to bring your sister over you. Still don't want any contact to do with your stepmother whatsoever that will improve your bond with your sister but keeps your boundaries with your stepmother Han story 2 Don't be surprised if your girlfriend/ fiance starts turning a blind eye to any wrongdoing or mischief. Did your daughter's doing? And when you ask her, why didn't she call you and she tells you it is not her responsibility to call you or parent your child oh honesty, I think it bros reverse and that was said to you. You would probably tell her to go f*** herself and you're out, so I think that's exactly what she should tell. You is clearly you have no idea what you're doing as a parent and your little girl is clearly walking all over you let's be honest what child wouldn't like the arrangement wear. Your mom or dad tells you. Don't worry honey, no matter if I get remarried or sun they will have no authority over you. You can just do as you please until I say otherwise so yeah, and that expect you're pretty spot on dumb
Story 2: If you marry someone, you marry their children. If you marry someone when you have children, they marry *your* children. Anyone OP wasn't willing to make into a parent to his daughter, they had no business marrying in the first place. It sounds as if this isn't someone who should be parenting Kylie, which is a legitimate decision by OP. But in that case, marrying her is not.
When I married my husband, my children walked me down the aisle... and then stayed with us under the canopy, while we took vows to them as well as to each other. They are as much a part as we are of the new family we created, and I would never have considered a man against whom I had reason to set boundaries about "not parenting my kids." They are my first priority, and anyone I can't trust with them doesn't belong in my family in the first place.
The last story actually amused me. I have witnessed far too many drunk puke or urinating episodes in my life. I went to a friend's place with he and a couple of girls we knew and one friend of ours was passed out on the couch. We tried to get him to move but , he was out of it , so we just hung out and tried to ignore the elephant in the room. Well the elephant eventually got up, walked into the kitchen , opened the refrigerator , took out his penis and began urinating in the fridge...we all were watching with our mouths agape as he had got up without saying a word or acknowledging any of us and we watched exactly what he was doing. My friend Joe got up and rushed to the kitchen and started yelling at him "what the hell are doing man!!" Then I could see him snap out of it and realize what he had just done , he looked and saw me , and the two girls staring at him and Joe screaming at him to clean his damn refrigerator.😅 He had been sleep walking. When it finally dawned on him what was happening he made a bee line for the bathroom and locked himself inside. He was Soo embarrassed he wouldn't speak or come out no matter how much Joe yelled at him. We all figured if any of was going to need to use that bathroom or get him out we would have to leave (we definitely weren't going to drink any of those beers we had left in the fridge).
Story1 dad should have told the wife since you made me miss my daughter’s wedding, you should pay for her honeymoon! Oh you can’t afford it than go over to my daughters home and do choirs and work it off. Dad is pathetic
Op, its the world's oldest trick, if i ease him into it i can change him anyway i want, obviously this man is on the ball, she said she agreed and then went behind your back, i don't see that changing unless you dump her. Your daughter is almost a adult so playing june clever was a big mistake
Your a sad door mate letting it go at your wedding. Your dad was not there for you thanks to her you will Never get that back. Go After her for what she did. DO NOT LET HER GET AWAY WITH IT.
First story. I know it won't be the same but why not do the ceremony again and not include the evil step mother?
S2, is there an update
S1 nta, it's sad you don't have any parents worth keeping. Also sad you're a doormat that's willing to keep all these people. Why TF is stepmother in your presence.
If I was op husband I would be considering divorce if I couldn't get an annulment, stage a kidnapping to distract father of the bride and she's still welcome.
Story 1 dad is whipped and wife probably manipulated him into manipulating daughter using younger sister, story 2 the problem with barring a partner from parenting a kid if you plan on staying together indefinitely is there will be no respect for that partner and you’ve already set the dynamic that the partner doesn’t matter, it will eventually cause friction and issues later down the line and probably cause the daughter and partner to hate each other and fight, the parenting needs to be done on both parts from the husband/ wife (or bf/gf) and talked on and agreed upon yes she did overstep when she was told no under no circumstances she could parent but that just seems like grounds for her to leave the relationship because neither the kid nor her father actually will respect her opinions, I understand blending a new family is difficult but the balance in it needs to exist to prevent issues, if she’s living there she should have some form of rights it’s not like she’s coming by once a week and telling the daughter what to do, again discussed between both partners but unless she’s there just to be an object eventually she’ll have to have some rights to parent
Dad asked you to reconcile with step mom? Did he ask her to reconcile with you?
Story 2
You should not tell your daughter she can not say no to your daughter your daughter is going to use your girlfriend as a door mat and enjoy having power over your girlfriend and you shall not hold onto a partner because your daughter going to play
Story 1 - Stepmonster has weaponized Tessa to hurt OP, what's to say she won't do it again, or in a worse way? OP's sperm donor needs to level up and not be an enabler. I feel for the kid, but OP needs to protect herself since she can't rely on him to actually be a father.
Story 2 i wouldnt do anything for the fiancees kid i wouldnt accept to move in cz if we got married how would the household run the Lady should just leave this rship
First of all NACHO??!! Let's put aside the actual content of OP's post (2nd Story), but why are you with somebody that you don't trust to or do not give the authority to reasonably discipline your child *i.e. even if its to send them to their room or tell them no tv or something when they are being disrespectful, etc*? If OP does choose to marry this person then would she not be a step-PARENT??!?! That just seems weird to me and I could never be in a relationship like that.
S1: the dad has really vad taste in women
Yeah, no dad is super controlling and he has a right. But, he should not bring a good and decent woman into his life. Bc most normal mentally stable women will take care of a child and mother it. Dude should wait until his daughter is 19
Story 1 …I d go no contact with everyone, the dad jus\t don’t care , if he had a backbone would have left\ that witch
Story 2 - NACHO OP is a very self-centered control freak and a bully. Fiancee is not just .a future wife, but also a future step-mother. Single Dad needs to get his head out of his rear end.
But did you listen to the story and not understood she is not even fit to be a parent.
This is not judgment or criticism this is just my personal feelings and opinion, if you are doing in your relationship what makes you happy and makes your life work then that's awesome. I'm sorry but I don't understand you want her to be your partner in your relationship but you don't want her to be a parent to your child. Did you ever happen to think that she loves your daughter and wants what's best for her equally as much as you do and what if something horrible happens (and you are absolutely not available) or not to be able to stop your daughter from getting in a situation that could possibly harm her in some way because she's not allowed to" parent". I am the mother of 8 children, 23 grandchildren (24 in April) and 2 great-grandchildren. [Biologically 3 of the kids and 5 grandchildren] but the" biological parents" of the others know how much l love them. All the children think of each other as siblings: all the siblings kids as nieces and nephews they couldn't imagine not having them in each other's lives. I can't imagine being with somebody who did not think of my child as an extension of me and love my child as much as I do.
That was for Story 2
Im sorry but how was someone planning a wedding on a school day? Around a holiday? Edited to add: soumds like all bs. Story 1.
Since everyone was still at the church, why didn't you just do a short dad and daughter walk down the aisle? This is not to say that your stepmother was right in what she did and i agree with your blocking her from your life, but it might have eased some of the pain. Not quite the same i know but it might have helped. See your little sister as soon as you feel better. Her witch of s mother doesn't need to be involved. Sorry for wedding problems.
I can't say I agree. It's not the actual act of walking down the aisle but the meaning behind it in the moment. Doing it after everything else is done is just pointless and adding salt in the wound. It would be like having tickets to a sporting event (say the Superbowl) and missing it because dad had the tickets and didn't show up. But they can just watch it on TV later so it's fine right?
The moment is ruined and doing a pity walk isn't going to do anything to help the situation. They would also just use it as ammo to blow past the situation.
I’m just gonna say this her story to. I understand that there is some boundaries that he wants and everyone thinks that he’s not the a hole for it and I get it. She just overstepped some manners and shouldn’t have just been the way she was but also there’s a difference between when you’re just dating and meeting someone and setting that boundary for that but you’re wanting her to come in and be your wife one day you got engaged is woman you and your daughter have to respect that this is your wife and you’re not setting a boundary where your daughter needs to respect it by saying that oh you can’t do this you can’t do that what if there’s other children that get involved how is that gonna work you just gonna be like oh well they have to listen to her they have to do what she says, but you don’t have to you’re teaching your daughter to be disrespectful to the woman you say you love party so and that you are a jerk
straight off - story no 1 - why was the younger sister at school on the day OP was getting married? shush guys - these stories are starting to make less and less sense!
It just doesn't make sense to me about the 6 year old sister not being invited to the wedding, or why she wasn't a flower girl. You would think she would have been too excited about her big sister's wedding rather than going to her friend's house, even if her mother had told her to.
1st story: When it's Tessas turn to get married... kidnap the mother of the bride! Go through with the ceremony and "release" her when the reception is already midway. Make her miss her only daughters wedding!
First