As an African myself who grew up in and still lives in Africa, the toxcic nature of masculinity isn't lost on me. This was a very honest and revealing video. Massive thanks to the Atlantic for making these amazing and truthful videos
Obviously we only get a snapshot of the program and its members. Plenty of discussions are not for us, they are for the people in that room, but it would appear at least, that they are operating from a place of love and self-improvement. Forgiveness and progress rather than a place of judgement and dictation of "this is what you have to do" It is centered around letting things these men already sort of know to be true come forward and be recognized. To not feel isolated and shamed by their feelings or their humanity. I think this is the right approach as you will never fix psychopaths or those who don't want to change with programs like this, but supporting those who want to change and to give them a place to explore it and give it shape means everything to their mental health and that of their families.
I love this! It means so much to me, as a person of Congolese descent, to see my people and country portrayed in a positive light in the media. It's a rare thing, especially when the topic of discussion is the eastern part of the country. Jackson, vous m'avez réchauffé le cœur. Bravo pour tous vos efforts !
Men talking about masculinity in the context of their lives and community is a positive first step to change and healing. I find Jackson's efforts through the Fatherhood program (and its participants) commendable, encouraging, and empowering (hopefully it can continue once the region has stabilized). This kind of program is integral for men (and boys) anywhere and everywhere to develop a healthy identity surrounding their gender. Kudos!
Oh yes? How so? I fail to see the connection you made. By 'lgbt groups' being brought to the whole of Africa do you mean programs that raise awareness of issues that LGBTQ people face in society? If so, what's wrong with that?
currently in south africa europeans are pushing the lgbt and femenism issues. our issues in south africa is the land and racism. Europeans are funding these groups and the women have said that they would start a women political party 2019. europeans are funding this 100% and ive seen all the sponsers. agenda is to divide and conquer our people. white people are a wicked people who dont mind their business
I respectfully and wholeheartedly disagree. As a side note to what you wrote, I think it's great that South African women would want to create a political party of their own seeing that South African women suffer some of the highest rates of domestic violence and femicide in the world.
@@elizabethfarias9104 I have the stats 2018. India is 1 and america is 10th on violence against women. south africa is not listed in the stats. feminism is a fight to combat patriarchy but the patriarchy in south africa are white men who own the land , control the money and distribute and hire the women. black men in south africa are poor and are not a patriarch. how does feminism help south african women? white women is south africa reap the benefits of patriarch white men what do south African women benefit?
I am most happy that this message is coming from a black men who comes from the same culture and life as these men. They dont need a white savior and Im glad that this is showing how Africans can progress of their own will and power
@@hashslingingslasher4214 Mostly because it unites different tribes that don't speak the same language. It's a neutral way to communicate, without putting one tribe above the other. It also has a clear written alphabet and vocabulary while most local languages are spread orally and couldn't be written before the europeans came along and some tried to preserve these languages.
it's a pretty understandable sentiment. The kid has seen the difference between first and third worlds and rationalize it as a racial difference. It's sad, but not altogether unexpected.
Wow the work Jackson does is amazing. As a Congolese person this makes me very happy and optimistic about the future of Congo in terms of our mindsets. I love that he doesn’t make them feel ashamed but rather let’s them share their perspectives amongst other men in their community & guides men in healthily redefining their masculinity which is a beautiful thing to witness. I wonder what he’s up to now or whether he has a fund that we can donate to to help continue his efforts. Many thanks for this documentary !!👏🏾👌🏾
Instead of watching the video to understand the message that's being conveyed, people in the comments are zeroing in on the title and getting offended. Extreme physical violence perpetrated by men against their wives and children is common in these parts of the world. It's what happens when your perception of manhood has been warped by the traumas of war and poverty. I live in Rwanda where the situation is comparatively better than in DR Congo, and it's thanks to men like Jackson who offer counseling and re-education programs.
I really loved the message that this man is teaching other men in his community. The world has developed into a patriarchal society that is about displaying power and dominating other individuals which was fueled by colonization. I think goodness that not all men continue to think in this violent way and thank God for giving this one man a voice to make a difference in other men's lives. His program needs to grow and extend to MANY other countries.
@@asiakai9955 In many aspects it has. You make a great point, but if you do your research there were several cultures that esteemed women as equal and fostered an environment that allowed women to show power. Once we look into the expansion of European culture through colonization many areas have left those ideologies behind and favored men in many more ways than one. So to clarify my original comment - "society has developed into a more domimating culture that favors patriatchal beliefs, therefore paving a more patriarchal society publically and privately"
Amber Renee but you are speaking generally, generally men have always been above women in most societies on most if not all continents so where colonization had many other lasting negative effects i dont believe its responsible for this kind of toxic masculinity and mistreatment of woman as it would exist weather or not colonization happened and id say its easy to see its much better to be a woman in todays world so we have made progress...unless youre referring to specific societies in the Congo area that were directly effected by colonization i wouldnt know
T Y ok stfu there are no "roles" if an animal female seems like she has one its because nature just made her better suited to it and of you have to emphasize your point by telling someone to get back in the kitchen you never had one to begin with bye
I loved the message and the effort the guy is putting into bringing stability into the family. He is correct in saying that a stable family brings a stable community and people there are in a strong need of that. The text at the end broke me a bit though. I hope things get better.
Ethnic conflict didn't kill the Congo. Strategic and continuous meddling from predatory countries from the western oligarchy have destroyed the Congo, in hopes of robbing it blind.
I really liked this video, I think that the work of Jackson, and those like him, is important and very valued in such communities. Many of the other comments concerned with Social Justice seemed to be misinformed, while there are many negative consequences within the Western World from such social change, some degree is absolutely necessary and the effort being made in areas like this is very inspiring. I hope that the Fatherhood Program regains sufficient funding to begin operating again. Big thanks to The Atlantic for raising awareness of these events.
I’m so glad I subscribed to The Atlantic! This is the type of journalism I’ve been searching for. Medium length pieces of high journalistic quality on interesting and relevant subjects. Bravo 👏🏻
REAL Masculinity never involves suppressing the rights of women. A real man/person can recognize and appreciate the strengths of his equal. A real man wants equal treatment for his sons and daughters. We are all people first. Before you know the gender of your baby, you wish him/her the very best in life. We should all hope the same for each other, no matter what gender we were born with. Plain and simple. Any perversion of this either way is toxic masculinity/femininity.
@@generalgeo9468 I agree. The concept of dowry was not about purchase, but rather about demonstrating to the woman's family that the man could support a wife and children in a comfortable environment, free from want. It was a way for the woman's family to know that they were accountable for her successful future even in another's home. However, when the west introduced their version of money (or property) representing absolute power and exclusive ownership no matter the collateral damage, that greatly tainted the tradition of dowry, basically making it moot.
This is incredible program, seems truly capable of changing society with enough time and reach; it's a travesty that it has shut down due to lack of funding. This seems relevant in most societies today, both within Africa and the rest of the world.
Compelling take on responsibility, and the struggle in life to be a better person. Well done Atlantic, except for the title which I think may be confusing some
Just the fact that dudes in the comments are getting offended by the term "Toxic Masculinity" and not words like feminazi just proves its existence. It's unfortunate that some people can't be real and take criticisms of a culture without it damaging their ego. Even more comedic these dudes are the "logical and articulate" Ben Shapiros of the internet but can't explain how toxic masculinity isn't real. Any culture and behavior can be toxic. This video is actually great for masculinity as a whole because it's trying to revive the heroic responsibility of being a man.
I really hope the father hood program will re continue!! Something that is needed globally!! It's is TRUE world peace starts within the family first!! Faith for a harmonious family like SGI motto!! Please youtube SGI Buddhist movement an introduction full length version. We are in 192 countries threw out the world. Chanting Nammyohrengekyo will transform society and culture if people are WILLING to work on doing there inner change/ changing there own negative karmic tendencies!! Chanting Nammyohrengekyo has POWER! It's not a magic wand but it has POWER if you are willing to put in the work and do your human revolution!!!!
Very interesting video. Thanks, Atlantic! I'll be sure to share this video w/friends get their perspectives. Would you kindly consider making one on "toxic feminism in America and Europe"? I've been discussing it w/colleagues recently & we consider it to be a growing & alarming problem which threatens society just as badly as "toxic masculinity". With social media it has spread like cancer and has metastasized just as horrifically.
Some people say we should forget about slavery but it is part of the very fiber of black people. The concept of a black man today is much the same as it was during slavery. Be strong, be hard-working, disregard women, use women as nothing other than sex objects, reproduce, spreading your seed is more important than building your family, women and children are disposable, the child is the mother's responsibility. Like literally all of those concepts were drummed into our forefathers during slavery and it has yet to be broken. Black men didn't just wake up one day and decide to be abusive or decide to ill-treat their children and be womanizers. This is learnt behavior.
isn't telling how these men blame their culture for this so called toxic masculinity, but they are speaking French ? so who's culture is truly the culprit.
Men and women are not equal. They are differents. Yes We are against discrimination and violence against women but stop try to Westernize African Men and Women. Africa has it own ways of existing that has prevailed for centuries and it cannot be quantified or judged based on a Western view of the world. We hear you but we also know your agenda behind this.
i don,t think the child meant he wants to be a whiteboy. i think he menat the white previlege and easier life caucasians have. we all know how they got it. he will learn to once he is taught to be himself/economic power. unity of All African Countries.
@7:13 "Masculinity has mostly been expressed as "Don't ignore me. If you ignore me I will show you I am a man." So much to unpack there That just let me understand so much more about men.
@12:53 To be called stupid by your peers because you share a meal with your children. I cannot even imagine. A participant essentially says in order to be a good father you have to ignore the sayings of those around you. We all know in Africa, because it's collectivist society, ignoring your peers could mean a even harsher life for you. You can go against the grain in the west. One does NOT go against the grain in Africa. Is it any wonder that these abusive sentiments are perpetuated?
This work can change the country! A great documentary about what is means to be a man is "The Mask You Live In" made by the same team that made "Miss Representation"
Total, they speak a very clear French, it's very accented but in a clear way as most people there learn it on school as a second or first an a half language
Hi! I made this film - let know if you have any questions, I'll try to answer them. 😊 If you want to support Jackson and Fatherhood Program you can do so through the "JOIN good forces", a Norwegian NGO doing great work through local partners in eastern DRC: facebook.com/JOINgoodforces/
Why call it "toxic masculinity" when you could have said "violent culture" why is violence and abuse always equated to masculinity? Women cant be violent and abusive?
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat That isn't masculinity. . .its just violent culture. Like women who are violent . . .its not toxic femininity . . .its just violence.
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat So you are a sexist that has a problem with men? Or you just have a problem with social norms? Nothing you or this video is describing is inherently male or masculine. . . .it is cultural.
Mais le message qu'un homme doit travailler on le connait très bien mais à qui tu envoy ce message et pour quelle raison? Le pays souffre oui mais donne une positive conclusion c'est tout ce dont on a besoin. Ne te compare à personne mais abouti tes propres montagnes tous ces pays évolués ont commencer aussi quelque part!
So wonderful to see such amazing men !! Jehovah's Witnesses have a very similar program that is free ... and they will come right to your home. Peace bigins at home ♡. The best life ever !!
I am an American and have lived in the Congo for more than 17 years. There is no perfect place. The United States has way more violence and has had ore wars then an country in the last 100 years. At least the men in Congo act like men and are not triggered by every single person who disagrees with them and is one of the most respectful cultures I have ever lived in. Maybe they should do a documentary on all the western nations funneling money through Rwanda to create conflict, so the can get Congo's resources
@@joshmartinez938 because you have lived there? I am talking about a normal persons day to day life in a city, there is almost no crime. Sure if you go into the towns on the border, yes. But the rest of the country is far more peaceful than america
Augford P. Doggie ok but if i am right there is more towns than cities right? That means more violence yeah sure theres violence in the US but its far more peacefull and safer to live in the us
There are a lot of people in this comment section who are saying that, DRC is a place where women are actually oppressed, well i don't think so, we don't have have a system which discriminate against women or which oppresses them. yes there are wars, women get raped and people get killed but i guess that would happen in any war. when it comes to domestic violence that happen in villages and that is where this video was shot, but in towns where most of people have had access to decent education, any form of abuses is not tolerated, for instance growing up till i was 18 and left for university, i have never heard of a case where a man forced a woman into having sex with him in the town where i lived, and i think it would be hard to find any congolese who was bullied in school, because here if you provoke another student and that result in a fight or him being hurt, you can expect to be expelled from school the following morning. Most of cases of rape you will hear about are of men over 18 having sexual relation with minors. It is worth saying that our society is patriarchal and here men and women are okay with that as long as women get the same opportunity as men. The kid who want to be white. i don't think he meant that he want his skin to turn white, in DRC people who are rich or overseeing over something are referred to as "muzungu" in an informal language or white , because managers in most of organization (usually NGOs, because that what we have got) are white, so around there saying something like "nataka kua muzungu" as he said, often mean " i want to be in a position of authority or have money".
As an African myself who grew up in and still lives in Africa, the toxcic nature of masculinity isn't lost on me. This was a very honest and revealing video. Massive thanks to the Atlantic for making these amazing and truthful videos
Obviously we only get a snapshot of the program and its members. Plenty of discussions are not for us, they are for the people in that room, but it would appear at least, that they are operating from a place of love and self-improvement. Forgiveness and progress rather than a place of judgement and dictation of "this is what you have to do" It is centered around letting things these men already sort of know to be true come forward and be recognized. To not feel isolated and shamed by their feelings or their humanity. I think this is the right approach as you will never fix psychopaths or those who don't want to change with programs like this, but supporting those who want to change and to give them a place to explore it and give it shape means everything to their mental health and that of their families.
@@phantom12321800 👌🏾!
I love this! It means so much to me, as a person of Congolese descent, to see my people and country portrayed in a positive light in the media. It's a rare thing, especially when the topic of discussion is the eastern part of the country. Jackson, vous m'avez réchauffé le cœur. Bravo pour tous vos efforts !
I think it's beautiful. I'm so proud of them for rejecting colonialism and really finding themselves. It's wonderful.
Men talking about masculinity in the context of their lives and community is a positive first step to change and healing. I find Jackson's efforts through the Fatherhood program (and its participants) commendable, encouraging, and empowering (hopefully it can continue once the region has stabilized). This kind of program is integral for men (and boys) anywhere and everywhere to develop a healthy identity surrounding their gender. Kudos!
no disrespect but this is a european agenda to influence africa to bring in lgbt groups
Oh yes? How so? I fail to see the connection you made. By 'lgbt groups' being brought to the whole of Africa do you mean programs that raise awareness of issues that LGBTQ people face in society? If so, what's wrong with that?
currently in south africa europeans are pushing the lgbt and femenism issues. our issues in south africa is the land and racism. Europeans are funding these groups and the women have said that they would start a women political party 2019. europeans are funding this 100% and ive seen all the sponsers. agenda is to divide and conquer our people. white people are a wicked people who dont mind their business
I respectfully and wholeheartedly disagree. As a side note to what you wrote, I think it's great that South African women would want to create a political party of their own seeing that South African women suffer some of the highest rates of domestic violence and femicide in the world.
@@elizabethfarias9104 I have the stats 2018. India is 1 and america is 10th on violence against women. south africa is not listed in the stats. feminism is a fight to combat patriarchy but the patriarchy in south africa are white men who own the land , control the money and distribute and hire the women. black men in south africa are poor and are not a patriarch. how does feminism help south african women? white women is south africa reap the benefits of patriarch white men what do south African women benefit?
I am most happy that this message is coming from a black men who comes from the same culture and life as these men. They dont need a white savior and Im glad that this is showing how Africans can progress of their own will and power
Aysha Lamara Tywo yeah French speaking Africans.
@@hashslingingslasher4214 Mostly because it unites different tribes that don't speak the same language. It's a neutral way to communicate, without putting one tribe above the other. It also has a clear written alphabet and vocabulary while most local languages are spread orally and couldn't be written before the europeans came along and some tried to preserve these languages.
Peace in the world, begins at home.lovely words🕊
Gotta have something worth saving.
Terror is what we unleash upon the world when there's nothing tethering us to it.
No body gon' talk bout the lil 6 year old boy who wants to be a white man? (1:02)
it's a pretty understandable sentiment. The kid has seen the difference between first and third worlds and rationalize it as a racial difference. It's sad, but not altogether unexpected.
brother this is a white man agenda to interfere with africa and bring lgbt issues. white people do not want black people to progress believe me.
Aven Cannon That’s horrible
@@foundmypebbles3874 That's what I'm saying...
@@daveeast8715 Awe yea. France making like 5 different countries pay a colonial tax, for the "benefits" of colonization, still in 2018.
Wow the work Jackson does is amazing. As a Congolese person this makes me very happy and optimistic about the future of Congo in terms of our mindsets. I love that he doesn’t make them feel ashamed but rather let’s them share their perspectives amongst other men in their community & guides men in healthily redefining their masculinity which is a beautiful thing to witness. I wonder what he’s up to now or whether he has a fund that we can donate to to help continue his efforts. Many thanks for this documentary !!👏🏾👌🏾
Instead of watching the video to understand the message that's being conveyed, people in the comments are zeroing in on the title and getting offended. Extreme physical violence perpetrated by men against their wives and children is common in these parts of the world. It's what happens when your perception of manhood has been warped by the traumas of war and poverty. I live in Rwanda where the situation is comparatively better than in DR Congo, and it's thanks to men like Jackson who offer counseling and re-education programs.
even in western countries, men think like this, it's just not magnified because the western world is supposed to be perfect.
I really loved the message that this man is teaching other men in his community. The world has developed into a patriarchal society that is about displaying power and dominating other individuals which was fueled by colonization. I think goodness that not all men continue to think in this violent way and thank God for giving this one man a voice to make a difference in other men's lives. His program needs to grow and extend to MANY other countries.
Has the world not always been patriarchal
@@asiakai9955 In many aspects it has. You make a great point, but if you do your research there were several cultures that esteemed women as equal and fostered an environment that allowed women to show power. Once we look into the expansion of European culture through colonization many areas have left those ideologies behind and favored men in many more ways than one. So to clarify my original comment - "society has developed into a more domimating culture that favors patriatchal beliefs, therefore paving a more patriarchal society publically and privately"
Amber Renee but you are speaking generally, generally men have always been above women in most societies on most if not all continents so where colonization had many other lasting negative effects i dont believe its responsible for this kind of toxic masculinity and mistreatment of woman as it would exist weather or not colonization happened and id say its easy to see its much better to be a woman in todays world so we have made progress...unless youre referring to specific societies in the Congo area that were directly effected by colonization i wouldnt know
The patriarchal beliefs have always been around we now just more aware and skeptical of them
T Y ok stfu there are no "roles" if an animal female seems like she has one its because nature just made her better suited to it and of you have to emphasize your point by telling someone to get back in the kitchen you never had one to begin with bye
I loved the message and the effort the guy is putting into bringing stability into the family. He is correct in saying that a stable family brings a stable community and people there are in a strong need of that. The text at the end broke me a bit though. I hope things get better.
So sad that the program has closed, he was doing very importanrt work
Ethnic conflict didn't kill the Congo. Strategic and continuous meddling from predatory countries from the western oligarchy have destroyed the Congo, in hopes of robbing it blind.
Right sis
@@daveeast8715 The congo never lived dear
@Scott Stapp The aids given via polio vaccinations decades and decades ago.
Christina J yes I’m
Sure that must be what he is referring to my dear sister ❤️
Precisely
I really liked this video, I think that the work of Jackson, and those like him, is important and very valued in such communities. Many of the other comments concerned with Social Justice seemed to be misinformed, while there are many negative consequences within the Western World from such social change, some degree is absolutely necessary and the effort being made in areas like this is very inspiring. I hope that the Fatherhood Program regains sufficient funding to begin operating again. Big thanks to The Atlantic for raising awareness of these events.
I’m so glad I subscribed to The Atlantic! This is the type of journalism I’ve been searching for. Medium length pieces of high journalistic quality on interesting and relevant subjects. Bravo 👏🏻
This made me smile! Much love from your sister in EQ
Guinea❤️
REAL Masculinity never involves suppressing the rights of women. A real man/person can recognize and appreciate the strengths of his equal. A real man wants equal treatment for his sons and daughters. We are all people first. Before you know the gender of your baby, you wish him/her the very best in life. We should all hope the same for each other, no matter what gender we were born with. Plain and simple. Any perversion of this either way is toxic masculinity/femininity.
Only an American or a European would be "shocked" by this video. Africa is a completely different ballgame
Fact
Funny thing is, it's western europeans who caused much of this
@@generalgeo9468 I agree. The concept of dowry was not about purchase, but rather about demonstrating to the woman's family that the man could support a wife and children in a comfortable environment, free from want. It was a way for the woman's family to know that they were accountable for her successful future even in another's home. However, when the west introduced their version of money (or property) representing absolute power and exclusive ownership no matter the collateral damage, that greatly tainted the tradition of dowry, basically making it moot.
But Gillette taught me that white men are toxic and blacks perfect :/
Colonization and Imperialism greatly contributed to this mindset. I'm glad we are starting to undo these woes.
Makeda Phillips lmao I would love for you to explain this
Blame Belgium
It's intersting how they mix Swahili and French. Glad these men are unlearning toxicity. Come teach Kenyan men
I can even hear a bit of Arabic
@@myusernameisyara nope we don't speak Arabic at all, perhaps just the sound sounds similar to you
😂😂 we can't change bruh
As an East African, it was interesting to hear how the congolese speak in a mix of french, kiswahili, english etc.
Does he have like a donation page or something this is a worthwhile investment
If you go to the facebook page in the description, there is donation button on the page.
Truly sad what's happening in many parts of Central and sub-Saharan Africa, thank God we have people like Jackson
God bless this man, I hope he gets to continue his work.
Thank you, Jackson, for your dedication!
this program would be useful even in north American communities. Well done!
This is incredible program, seems truly capable of changing society with enough time and reach; it's a travesty that it has shut down due to lack of funding. This seems relevant in most societies today, both within Africa and the rest of the world.
We should all support the Fatherhood program ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙌
Thank you for sharing video, it was touching and made me cry because I want to see ALL human beings and the human race get along!!!
Compelling take on responsibility, and the struggle in life to be a better person. Well done Atlantic, except for the title which I think may be confusing some
The ending made me so mad. These type of dialogues are needed. Can you let us know of any fundraising projects that they may have?
You can search for 'JOIN good forces' on Facebook to find an NGO that supports this program.
The editor did a great job with the cuts and design.
Thank you for this video. Thanks you for the message
Just the fact that dudes in the comments are getting offended by the term "Toxic Masculinity" and not words like feminazi just proves its existence. It's unfortunate that some people can't be real and take criticisms of a culture without it damaging their ego. Even more comedic these dudes are the "logical and articulate" Ben Shapiros of the internet but can't explain how toxic masculinity isn't real. Any culture and behavior can be toxic. This video is actually great for masculinity as a whole because it's trying to revive the heroic responsibility of being a man.
Wow. Some people in comments section arguing for the sake of arguing and getting offended over everything.
As an African, I am surprised and happy that these reflections are being made more and more there. 🙏🏾
It happens more ofyen than people think and much earlier than the rest of the world aka the so called civilised world started talking about.
Overall, I Love this!!!
But the end broke my heart... Baba Bora 👏🏿
Not all heroes wear capes
Such a beautiful beautiful country. I hope they soon come out of those hard times.
The Atlantic is the new old vice!
Damn that ending was so sudden.
how sad this program got shut down!!!!!
C'est vraie le travail qui fait l'homme. Pour les gens d'aujourd'hui.
Merci
I really hope the father hood program will re continue!! Something that is needed globally!! It's is TRUE world peace starts within the family first!! Faith for a harmonious family like SGI motto!! Please youtube SGI Buddhist movement an introduction full length version. We are in 192 countries threw out the world. Chanting Nammyohrengekyo will transform society and culture if people are WILLING to work on doing there inner change/ changing there own negative karmic tendencies!! Chanting Nammyohrengekyo has POWER! It's not a magic wand but it has POWER if you are willing to put in the work and do your human revolution!!!!
Thanks The Atlantic.☺
The English subtitles to a degree didn't do the parts where they speak Swahili at the ground sessions justice
Very interesting video. Thanks, Atlantic! I'll be sure to share this video w/friends get their perspectives.
Would you kindly consider making one on "toxic feminism in America and Europe"? I've been discussing it w/colleagues recently & we consider it to be a growing & alarming problem which threatens society just as badly as "toxic masculinity". With social media it has spread like cancer and has metastasized just as horrifically.
How they gonna be playing upbeat music at the end of this seemingly happy ending to the video and then hit us with bad news at 18:16 😭😭😭
Excellent!!!
God bless you and much love!
Wonderful 💘 this!
I wish Congo could get it together. Their country has such vast resources. Its a shame the people have to live the way they do.
I love how Africans are talking insted of violence hopefully there is more prosperity in africa
Africans will bring a new dawn to Europe.
You say that in such a condescending way
@@TheBellaLuna94 WTF ! I did not say it, I typed it. The condescension is all in your head !
@@TheBellaLuna94 sis this is white men trying to bring lgbt agenda in africa
@@daveeast8715 Why did you respond to Bella Luna? She wasn't praising this lol
So many triggered men in denial in the comments.
Some people say we should forget about slavery but it is part of the very fiber of black people. The concept of a black man today is much the same as it was during slavery. Be strong, be hard-working, disregard women, use women as nothing other than sex objects, reproduce, spreading your seed is more important than building your family, women and children are disposable, the child is the mother's responsibility. Like literally all of those concepts were drummed into our forefathers during slavery and it has yet to be broken. Black men didn't just wake up one day and decide to be abusive or decide to ill-treat their children and be womanizers. This is learnt behavior.
What is the name of the song that's played for 1 minute ?
Cebass The song in the beginning is Staff Benda Bilili - Kuluna. They are Congolese and there is a documentary about them. Really fascinating!
@@CraWea Thank you very much !!
isn't telling how these men blame their culture for this so called toxic masculinity, but they are speaking French ? so who's culture is truly the culprit.
the measure of a man is not how many woman they can have but staying loyal to one.
Why is the music louder than the voices?
C’est extrêmement triste. Il y a pas des mots à expliquer le sensation a voir comment les personnes vie. Ça me fait mal à la cœur.
That band, who are them? Because they are great:)
So progressive and intersectional.
So Western....
Masculinity in the Congo: Work constantly, provide for your family and ceaselessly despise your wife.
what's that song in the beginning? anyone?
It's a Congolese band called Staff Benda Bilili. The song is Kuluna Gangs
Is there a way to support his work?
Men and women are not equal. They are differents. Yes We are against discrimination and violence against women but stop try to Westernize African Men and Women. Africa has it own ways of existing that has prevailed for centuries and it cannot be quantified or judged based on a Western view of the world. We hear you but we also know your agenda behind this.
i don,t think the child meant he wants to be a whiteboy. i think he menat the white previlege and easier life caucasians have. we all know how they got it. he will learn to once he is taught to be himself/economic power. unity of All African Countries.
The documentary is fantastic! I think this is very important for many men. Is there any way I can translate the subs in Russian?
There's nothing wrong with these boys aspiring to be as masculine as their forebears.
This was really interesting
S/O to the dude at 2:42 rocking the JP Losman Bills jersey!!!!
Anyone know where I can find the music in the video? Looking for the song that says man does not cry at around @8:10 min!
His name is Jupiter Bokondji (audio clip from the documentary Jupiter's Dance:)
What's the song in the beginning
@7:13 "Masculinity has mostly been expressed as "Don't ignore me. If you ignore me I will show you I am a man." So much to unpack there That just let me understand so much more about men.
@12:53 To be called stupid by your peers because you share a meal with your children. I cannot even imagine. A participant essentially says in order to be a good father you have to ignore the sayings of those around you. We all know in Africa, because it's collectivist society, ignoring your peers could mean a even harsher life for you. You can go against the grain in the west. One does NOT go against the grain in Africa. Is it any wonder that these abusive sentiments are perpetuated?
This work can change the country! A great documentary about what is means to be a man is "The Mask You Live In" made by the same team that made "Miss Representation"
some cultures are light years away from others
i live in spain not in south or north america
I wonder what is the level of mutual intelligibility between France french and Congo french
Total, they speak a very clear French, it's very accented but in a clear way as most people there learn it on school as a second or first an a half language
honestly i speak spanish and some portuguese, not french, and I can understand them better than French from France lol.
They were just talking about being a man is responsible being a man is hard-working and shit like that, replace that with woman and it still real.
Damn I thought this was some radical feminist bs, but then I realized how fucked up the problem is in that culture
There's a huge difference between actual toxic masculinity and the leftist term of toxic masculinity.
at 1:03 he asked the kid what he wants to be and he said a white man. I cant say I blame him.
baby steps
1:01 "no you want to be a comedian"
Toxic masculinity everywhere
Your name and profile pic are cool.
That's bullshit, there aren't that many places who actually have it as bad as this country
@@RetroMakesBeats thank you
@@SkyeDoesRJ They didn't say it was as bad as this country everywhere. It's pretty pervasive though.
@@AstralBeing I feel like u watch a lot of "woke" videos on here lol
Hi! I made this film - let know if you have any questions, I'll try to answer them. 😊
If you want to support Jackson and Fatherhood Program you can do so through the "JOIN good forces", a Norwegian NGO doing great work through local partners in eastern DRC:
facebook.com/JOINgoodforces/
Why call it "toxic masculinity" when you could have said "violent culture" why is violence and abuse always equated to masculinity? Women cant be violent and abusive?
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat That isn't masculinity. . .its just violent culture. Like women who are violent . . .its not toxic femininity . . .its just violence.
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat So you are a sexist that has a problem with men? Or you just have a problem with social norms? Nothing you or this video is describing is inherently male or masculine. . . .it is cultural.
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat So its not masculine. . .its just Societal toxicity
@Lapis-Lazuli Grenat How do you define and identify what is and is not masculinity. . .Who sets those rules
Mais le message qu'un homme doit travailler on le connait très bien mais à qui tu envoy ce message et pour quelle raison? Le pays souffre oui mais donne une positive conclusion c'est tout ce dont on a besoin. Ne te compare à personne mais abouti tes propres montagnes tous ces pays évolués ont commencer aussi quelque part!
A country worth $24 trillion dollars in natural resources 😳.... Blackman love yourself please
wow disgusting behavior but good reporting. interesting to know what the world is struggling with. poor women...
@nakanaka nalas im sure they are... doesnt take away from what i said, that unfortunately their men treat them like shit
So wonderful to see such amazing men !! Jehovah's Witnesses have a very similar program that is free ... and they will come right to your home. Peace bigins at home ♡. The best life ever !!
Jesus this just keeps going and going. Yes, don't beat your wives. Congratulations, you figured it out.
I am an American and have lived in the Congo for more than 17 years. There is no perfect place. The United States has way more violence and has had ore wars then an country in the last 100 years. At least the men in Congo act like men and are not triggered by every single person who disagrees with them and is one of the most respectful cultures I have ever lived in. Maybe they should do a documentary on all the western nations funneling money through Rwanda to create conflict, so the can get Congo's resources
Ok buddy i highly doubt the congo is a less violent country.
@@joshmartinez938 because you have lived there? I am talking about a normal persons day to day life in a city, there is almost no crime. Sure if you go into the towns on the border, yes. But the rest of the country is far more peaceful than america
Augford P. Doggie ok but if i am right there is more towns than cities right? That means more violence yeah sure theres violence in the US but its far more peacefull and safer to live in the us
@@joshmartinez938 He's an idiot.
@@Augfordpdoggie At least a million people have died in the Congo in war since 1998. Shut up.
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I think it's true with the world politics as well........
I wonder if some girl in the Congo is making a video about the lack of strong men in the west
Extremely dangerous and manipulative people .Stay away from them for your safety.
Please learn Swahili Today, its going to be the language of Africa, it is already for East and some parts of Southern Africa.
There are a lot of people in this comment section who are saying that, DRC is a place where women are actually oppressed, well i don't think so, we don't have have a system which discriminate against women or which oppresses them. yes there are wars, women get raped and people get killed but i guess that would happen in any war. when it comes to domestic violence that happen in villages and that is where this video was shot, but in towns where most of people have had access to decent education, any form of abuses is not tolerated, for instance growing up till i was 18 and left for university, i have never heard of a case where a man forced a woman into having sex with him in the town where i lived, and i think it would be hard to find any congolese who was bullied in school, because here if you provoke another student and that result in a fight or him being hurt, you can expect to be expelled from school the following morning. Most of cases of rape you will hear about are of men over 18 having sexual relation with minors.
It is worth saying that our society is patriarchal and here men and women are okay with that as long as women get the same opportunity as men.
The kid who want to be white. i don't think he meant that he want his skin to turn white, in DRC people who are rich or overseeing over something are referred to as "muzungu" in an informal language or white , because managers in most of organization (usually NGOs, because that what we have got) are white, so around there saying something like "nataka kua muzungu" as he said, often mean " i want to be in a position of authority or have money".
What? People in the Congo know swahili? I'm Kenyan.
are you kidding me? it's not like swahili originated in kenya
@@alessandromebarak It originated from East Africa mainly Kenya when the Arabs came in on our shores update yourself boy
Whats wrong with being masculine ?