If women are free to get divorce that means more chances to get away from domestic abuse. I think this freedom is fantastic compared to some other places where the consequences of trying to leave your husband could be dire.
Yes the religion allows divorce but what’s annoying is certain countries hold their cultural ways above the religion. Specifically south Asian and a few middle eastern countries frown upon divorce and the community shames you for it. It’s how our religion ALWAYS gets such a bad name when in reality our religion promotes peace and puts woman on a high pedestal. They do the complete opposite and constantly make us look horrible. I’m an African Muslim and thank goodness my country puts religion before culture. Woman would divorce their husband because he isn’t pleasing her in the bedroom lol 😂
I find this both refreshing and disturbing at the same time. I've remained single for most of my adult life after divorce and resent when I have to fill out paperwork and it lists, married, single or divorced for me to check one. I'm single period. But my honesty makes me check the box for divorced that might as well be a box that says failure, as that is how divorced is viewed in the United States, especially for women. A single mother raising her children and a single man raising his are also viewed very differently. A single mother is seen as having baggage and looking for someone else to help carry it. But a single father who has custody of his children that he's raising alone is seen as some kind of a hero and given special treatment in the workplace, because, you know, he's raising his children alone. All praise to him. The exact opposite of what a single mother faces in the workplace and in society as a whole.
You described this situation correctly. Almost as usual, there is far more stigma placed on the woman. I also agree - why is there such a damn emphasis on being married, divorced or single? (I am older - 70 - and divorced, something I should have done a billion years ago. Single and it's fabulous! And, not looking!)
@@musti12312 Of course you can. It's only people who belong back in the 50s who think women are defined by their marital status. What an outdated perspective.
I am a Mauritania girl , I want to tell you divorce is just a kind of freedom you don't have to hang in there for someone that does not deserve you and want to control you b, marriage is respect before love and there are handrouds of man that wish you , So make your self happy none is going to make that to you . Peace 🇲🇷❤❤
As an Egyptian I love your tradition in divorce, we need to spread it among all our Arab countries, In Egypt divorce is a stigma so that many beautiful girls and ladies are suffering from this social stigma that doesn't by the way belong to our religion instructions, may Allah bless you our mauritanian sisters ❤
The comment section proves most people didn’t watch the video. The journalist says that most of the women in that community were divorced because their husbands initiated it. One of the women flat out said “many men have babies and leave the woman to raise the kids alone.” But the comments are flooded with people talking about the children being kept from their fathers. You completely skip over the beauty of these women creating a community to care for one another and raise their kids. A lot of you are upset that these women are making the best of a bad situation. You’re mad that they aren’t pariahs. This global disdain for women is sick, even more so when it comes from other women. Couldn’t be me. I’m here for women celebrating the choices that lead them to happiness and safety. 💜
Yeah it was all fun and games until you looked below the hood and realised that. There is a lot of projecting. According to Mauritanian law after infancy the child by default stays with the father IF he is willing (but here the answer was no)
@@jesswhycamarz just like you didn’t pay attention to the part of the video where the woman said she left her THIRD HUSBAND for yelling at her or the part where the woman said she doesn’t listen to her husband and left him because she doesn’t like being told what to do. Even the man on the beach said his wife divorced him but his words were mistranslated. If it’s only the men who are initiating divorce why are the women celebrating it and getting married so many times just to get divorced again. It’s clear they are the cause of the problem. The usual narrative of portraying the ŵomen as helpless victims doesn’t work here, this documentary is biased and you’re easily fooled by the propaganda
@@OpinionatedNomad Yes and no. Some are married off young but not all. As an African too we've grown up in settings where our mothers and grandmas knew how to press those buttons and thorough beatings! We didn't leave. Imagine if all women get shouted at in marriages, do we just walk out? She's looking for her 3rd husband, darling, the first two men can't be that wrong. At times we need patience and proper hidaya in our lives because divorce isn't something to be happy about all the time. What about children sired in all those marriages? The cycle will continue as long as some of these women have glorified divorce to be a norm! You also saw the woman who was divorced while pregnant and her child is now 4 weeks? There's no child support but this one got divorced because of being shouted at? Naaaaah..
@@_MuniraAli I understand "patience", every relationship should have that, did you realize how you contradicted yourself tho? Your moms and grandmas never had patience, and now you're wondering why others don't? You were a CHILD you couldn't leave, it wasn't about patience, make that very clear. No one should stay in a violent home, you used a terrible example
@@diamond4270 Maybe you misunderstood me. I meant while growing up under those women who resolved matters through beatings and yelling, we endured it and learnt alot too hence the strictness that they had made some people upright! I meant that if we handled that, can't someone bear some sabr? Some women in marriages really know how to yell and shout at their children and husbands. Communication is off. We've been raised differently and shouting at someone shouldn't be condoned as there are proper ways of handling issues but it shouldn't bring about divorce. Imagine she's looking for husband number 3 and she'll get him InShaAllah. What if she's shouted at again, how much marriages and divorce will someone go through to finally come to her senses? It boils down to your upbringing too.
Divorce is fine but there is a problem. Why fathers are not accountable for not supporting their children after divorce? Is there a law of joint custody? Why only mothers are responsible for children after divorce?
@@just_a_woman-h9sunfortunately the law doesn’t really emphasize that. It is rather a cultural thing to raise the children in society as in (the mothers side of the family take the role of the father), they support the women raise them throughout their lives. It’s not badly seen for a man to just vanish from their kids life and not be too involved in it.. it’s a power given to the women but at the same time a handicap
It can not be normalized. The life conditions are not the same everywhere and the traditions. If you listen properly These women do not have an easy life as divorced. And even in countries where to divorce seems to be accepted the life for divorced women and children is not easy.
yea lets have women worldwide pay a higher tax so women can support divorcees and baby mamas welfare needs, daycare costs oh and they should fully fund early years primary school too instead of taxing men's properties and businesses.
Yeah bro 🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜 , women's are getting out of hand,,,, this womrns thinks that marriage is all about love but in reality it is full of hardships,, what can u expect from Illetarates@@kreativeforce532
Thank you. I fould not agree better with you. You can see the pain and emotional damage in her eyes... Many men in many countries do that or go and have several other women. The truth is those men truly don't love themselves enough to understand that his mates body changes and therefore buts his little pecker ahead of him self instead of learning his mate and how her body changes even her moods(emotions). She is not a peice of dam meat or a object of mere pleasure when he desires any time.
@@hassanabubakar648 who are you to be listened to? Do you behave respectful and caring towards your wife? Or do you treat her as she is a slave of yours? You arent a king, just another human trying to dominate a weaker gender. Bravo, Mauritania.
The partying was fun to watch but the women with children with no support from the men who gave them children was heart wrenching😢the Mauritanians need to be serious with life, divorce is a last resort not the 1st!😂
When a woman divorces in Mauritania, she does not typically support her children on her own. Instead, she returns to her father’s house and lives there with her children. If her father is deceased, she moves to the house of her favorite brother, who takes on the responsibility of providing for her. However, some women prefer independence and choose to live alone with their children, allowing them to raise them in the way they see fit. The ex-husband does not participate in financially supporting the children because he gives up any right to custody. If he wants to see his children, he visits the wife’s house for a few hours. In the worst cases, he might give small amounts of money during visits, while an average ex-husband sends a monthly allowance. If the woman remarries, she may take her children to her new home or leave them with their grandparents. Mauritanian society is family-oriented, and grandparents often take on the primary responsibility for raising the children. The issue of poverty is not because the husband has left but rather because poverty affects many people-both men and women-across the country. This economic reality naturally impacts children as well. The wisdom behind this tradition is not to glorify divorce but to acknowledge that it happens and that women bear no blame for it. Divorce is viewed as the man’s responsibility, so the woman is celebrated for surviving an unsuccessful marriage. Meanwhile, the man is stigmatized as irresponsible and faces difficulties in remarrying.
It’s always the man’s fault ain’t it? And the kids suffer. I can marry a divorcee or a single mother. Marriage is not game that you get in when it’s good and jump out when in hard times. Any society where divorce is celebrated should be the last place u got to find a wife. As society becomes more matriarchal, the women become more promiscuous, divorce rates go up, single motherhood goes up, and the society stops progressing.
Tbh it’s a religious country and they believe in celibacy till marriage so many get married early but it doesn’t always last. It’s like how most non-Muslims don’t stay with their first/second/third boyfriend forever. Sometimes people don’t find a suitable match till after a few tries. But they don’t have boyfriends they just get married straight up.
I wanted to say this. Even being Muslim in America some families may allow teenagers to have “religious marriages” to protect them from fornication. From the outside it looks like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, like they’ll still be living at home and in school etc. But yeah the celibacy thing is very real and sometimes marriage is the only way to be openly sexually active.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
I like the 'we' in your phrase. When both partners in a relationship are committed to a long-term relationship,they work things out-not 'he' or 'she' work things out. 'They.' 'We.' Very important!
Mauritanian women ! More power to you❤. I giggled when the lady said she left after being yelled at😂. Yes girl, no accepting that kind of treatment and attitude. It was refreshing to watch.
The Devil is a Deceiver, who makes everything bad looks. If am lying just take a look at the world. Marriage is secreted in the eyes of the lord God almighty.
The conversation @ 15:35 was mistranslated. He said it was his wife that wanted divorce. This documentary is so biased, the women told you that they don't listen to their husband and you have the businessman in the beach telling you the women there require so much and you're saying you don't buy it!!!
Yes it was mistranslated, she wanted the divorce but he did say they speak to each other and are civil with each other. From a man's perspective, if a woman doesn't obey/listen to him, it's a bad thing. From a woman's perspective it means she gets to make her own decisions instead of obeying him like a master/slave relationship.
@@piecelow2726you know absolutely nothing about a mans perspective. I wouldnt want snt of these women, they're all like gold diggers wandering from man to man being fake and only thinking of themselves, not even their children.
No murder reports after a woman divorced her man because he shouted at her, this just shows that mauratanian men are mature and understanding. And these women don’t like being controlled, so sounds like Mauritania is the place for a woman who doesn’t like to be controlled😂. But it would be interesting to delve deeper into their reasons for divorce, and whether there are a lot of the divorced women that date married men there, just more insight into a life of a divorced woman there.
This is wonderful. I never knew there were such levels of acceptance of divorce in Africa leave alone in a Muslim country. It is a process of life and there shouldn't been any shame to it and these women are showing us exactly that.
@@shaanakhtarkhan5621 lol. What is wrong with you? Where did I bash Islam or write anything phobic? Maybe learn to read properly before writing such a stupid and irrational comment to me. If you are trying to troll me, then, not today SATAN.
I’d like to see Mauritania change their legal marriage age to much older than 12! The girls are still children at age 12. Here in the United States, some legislators recently voted to keep child marriage legal. I was appalled. To me it’s just wrong. I was surprised to learn that the majority of Mauritanian divorces are initiated by men. It seems like a lot of those men don’t support their children financially.
I don't know about celebration but my great uncle told me that is very normal. In rural communities' women had value for their labour. So marrying a woman meant free labour and losing a woman meant loss of free labour. Divorce didn't become a problem until women only stayed home to take care of the children and it became a matter of ego rather than survival. The irony is half of the women now are breadwinners but still never claimed their leverage. Ps before you celebrate Mauritanian 'feminism' you might want to look up how they force-feed their daughters like geese for pate. When it comes to misogyny the calls often come from inside the house.
Damn what are you talking about? How feeding a woman who just had a child is a bad thing? We Somali also had this culture until western culture come to us and shaming body become normalised.
Off course you're willing. That's because you do not know how to manifest love. Perhaps you've been used to romance, but never experienced love - that's why you're willing to divorce a hundred times.
Divorce is positive. If people arent happy in the marriage anymore, its only a positive thing when they separate and are free to find happiness elsewhere
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni well if they aren't happy from within then staying in the marriage is not the solution either. They should divorce, separate and find happiness. Who cares how they get that happiness in the end.
@@ekg891 Your thinking is so twisted. You don't have a correct view of reality. The reason the ladies are into their third and fourth divorces is proof that divorcing is not the way to find hapiness if one is unhappy in their marriage. It's a fool's erand to go 'elsewhere' so you end up in third amd fourth marriages, etc. Finding happiness is a matter of having the life skill of how to be happy. It's about realizing that your personal happiness is not dependent on another person but on yourself alone. So those who have such a life skill can maintain happiness even when they are not getting their needs met from by their marriage partner. But you are so shallow, that speaking of deep things like this just goes over your head.
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni so they should stay in miserable relationships instead? I agree that they should take some time out of being in relationships if every single one is failing. But the factors contributing to their failed marriages could also just be because men in that country aren't the best people to marry and because a lot of these ladies don't seem like they were educated so they feel the need to get married to find some financial support. Whatever the reason is, if they find themselves unhappy in the marriage, it's right to divorce. Regardless of how many times they have been married. It's better to do that than to stay in a bad situation. Your way of thinking is exactly why many of our grandmother's stayed in marriages that hurt them and made them miserable. I would have rather my grandmother remarry 4 times than to have stayed in that marriage she was in.
@@ekg891 Girl, you got your knickers in a knot!!!!! You've been in a failed marriage haven't you? Or maybe a failed relationship? Judging by your thinking, you are not marriage material. You are too selfish! You expect your partner to make you happy - what a loser's mentality. Winners know how to be happy, inspite of their partners' actions or omissions. Such people are truly empowered to make a success of their relationships. A good starting point, in having a happy relationship, is understanding that the relationship is an opportunity to work on yourself, so that if you find yourself unhappy in it, what can you work, in yourself, tp bring up your level of happiness? What changes of mindset, perspective, etc are required to keep being happy. Whatever you do, if you have not yet grown up, as can be discerned from your comments, stay away from getting married. You're still a girl, not yet a woman. You still need to mature.
let’s not forget that this is only a brief look into one tribe of the people of Mauritania. there are plenty of other tribes who are highly against this way of life.
Actually it’s 70% percent of Mauritania. The only one not following this are the tribes descended from Senegal, Mali. But the nomadic people make 70 %. Their are black and lighter nomads.
@@Akbgbvow again, that’s still only one tribe (berbers) even if they are the majority. Us Soninkes, Fulanis, and Wolofs still exist in the country and have different cultures from the berbers. My point is that this is just one culture in Mauritania.
@@lallatandia1117 and my point is that 70% is significant. I know that other tribes exist. I‘m mixed with Berbers and Wolof. The majority their is doing it and therefore u can say it’s common there
and that still doesn’t change that 30% of the population follows different cultures. it wouldn’t be an issue if this was just specific to berbers which again is ONE tribe 🤣. if you actually read my first comment you would see that I in fact did not say that it wasn’t common but that it was one culture out of many which is a fact. have a blessed day ☀️
He said it was right given to them by Sharia and the culture. So the women understood their Islamic right, therefore though it can be sad and unfortunate to be divorced there is no “until death do us part” or that cultural shame which is manifested in many cultures (including Muslim cultures) Having said that I would also like to point out that in these countries there are NO sexual encounters therefor marriage is the only way of being intimate, so it might be shocking for people in some western countries, but if you think about the sexual encounters as marriages than it might be relatable.
I personally think Mauritania culture is so liberating, no stigma or shame on being divorced or not being married. Most women spend most of their life time chasing after marriage, whilst the Mauritanians run from it. I do think there’s a level of hurt and pain they go through despite the divorce celebrations, but women all over the world can learn a few things from them. That divorce doesn’t mean you are damaged goods and that your life is over, it is actually an opportunity to start a new life and be optimistic about the future and be free. This is in no way to condone divorce but to move away from the limiting stigma of divorce in our societies.
Tbh I think this stigma is mostly in the west world. Alhamdulilah in Muslim world especially in Africa or east Africa divorce is not stigmatised and in Islam as both spouse can divorce each other it’s the best solution in some cases.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
The ones who’ve abandoned their children it’s obvious but am sure the reasons will be the same as everyone else in west eg infidelity, abuse, incompatibility, disputes, financial etc
@@LadyMulinfidelity is not common in traditional Muslim societies (bc also pple are aware it has punishments even tho the governments doesn’t follow that law ) but other things are possible. Especially abandonment of children after divorce.
@@halalpolice23Infidelity is not common because Muslim men can simply get another three wives, having a total of four wives at one time. This is still forced Infidelity because the wife is often threatened with divorce if she does not go along with it.
I lives in Mauritania, to be realistic this country is not a place to get marry. Being a good man is not a guarantee for the survival of marriage in this country. The only thing that can make marriage stable here is for the husband to accept full control by the wife and her family members. Being a figurehead husband is the only thing that will make women comfortable to stay in the marriage.
Maybe but I also call bullshit. People marrying their daughters away for money without no care at all. Disgusting. Then a good and kind and caring man will get the respect from their wives and in-laws. If he has respect for himself and carry’s himself with respect( treating the woman good/ have financial funds to adequately take care of his family’s) will most likely never be treated Bad. Like the Lady taut for a divorce because she was unable to “please” him during pregnancy. There are a lot of the men that divorce because the women is not young enough anymore and they can keep being pedophiles. Please stop lying and coming to comment on behalf of your gender. It’s a disgrace.
As a Mauritanian man, thank you for visiting our country you did a great job here creating this documentary. Yet still you have showed one part of the story, the women side. What you need to ask yourself is the real question, what is the main reason why divorce is rampart in Mauritania? Get deep into the matter then you'll know if we the men are the problem or the women are. Just to clear to you one thing what Mauritanian men dose for their wife during their marriage ceremony, the gift that we give and money that we spent there's nowhere in the world that can compete us and its a matter of must. Mauritanian men are well known for not having a saying in their own home, yes the woman is in full charge of everything you do not dictate you just negotiate and beg. Yet still we respect or women highly they've full right ✅️ you should do part two of this and visit the men to ask the same question.
Yep I do agree I am a Mauritanian from the Fulani community and I do believe we need to hear the both side and to be honest sometimes the women aren’t cooperating in the marriage like they are so demanding
""REFRESHING ATTITUDE "" AND SCAPING FROM ABUSE SO WELL DONE TO THIS WOMAN... I'M VERY PROUD FOR THEM. THEY ARE NOT STUCK WITH SHIT MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.
THIS is NOT normalizing leaving. Very convenient and avoidant way to look at it. These women are clearly in difficulty and the fathers have no accountability for children they have fathered.
@@harrisre-nee3017 Your assumption if domestic violence is too general. So, its no good to make assumptions that are not applicable to every case. The point that was made here was that if a person is not happy in their marriage, they should divorce. So that would suggestion selfish motivations on the part of the one suing for divorce - they are selfishly focused on themselves and not on the children's needs etc.
Only thing is that the babysitting seems communal - not a bad thing. However, I agree - to learn to prevent pregnancy and take care of yourself as a young woman is key to a happier life, it seems to me.
It’s all the same, they use pseudo marriage to camouflage…. Men using this advantage to lure women , drop babies and go for the another women….. It’s a social religious illness😮
Children are the one suffering the most as the need stability and scurity untill adults. And even after to seg them up for life no family uite . Sooo sooo sad .
Perhaps in patriarchal societies, like those found in some Arab cultures, divorce can be a liberating experience for women, bringing them joy. Thank you for sharing your insight from a unique perspective..
👍👍👍 video. Glad that there's no stigma attached to divorce and that these women throw divorce parties to move on and signify that they're ready for the next relationship and a plan to fend for themselves and children as the market for divorced women indicated. It helps that they have group support. Interesting. Thanks for sharing
It's a different culture where the only permissible way to have sex is through marriage; otherwise, getting pregnant would be complicated, whereas in Western culture, it is ok to have sex at a teenage, and girls have the option to keep it if they get pregnant. In Mauritanian, girls don't smoke bongs and have sex in the park; you have to understand it is a different culture. Amazing report, thank you
@@halalpolice23 Islam doesn't allow a woman to be divorced sister, can you show me an authentic hadith? I know there are hadiths about newly reverted woman divorcing their wives when they just become muslim but not what this is saying.
@@ChadLuca Khula or khul is Islamic divorc of woman. The evidence for that from the Sunnah is that the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammaas (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I do not find any fault with Thabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Thabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5273). From this case the scholars understood that if a woman cannot stay with her husband, then the judge should ask him to divorce her by khul’; indeed he should order him to do so.
You heard what she said...Tomorrow i will put on facebook and whatsapp that am divorced, fishing for a new candidate. At 26 married 4 times and divorced 4 times and she's being praised for that. Another ignorant will try to marry her again and the cycle will repeat again.
Some marriages can be hell but looking at a lady/woman that has divorced 3 times and still looking forward to another marriage, then such a lady need to work on herself.
How about the gentleman/man that has divorced 3 times, abandoned the children and still looking forward to another marriage? He should work on himself, too.
Also it’s important to note that these people don’t have any relationships outside of marriage, unlike in the west, where you’ll have multiple gf/bf and end up getting married once. Here, marriage is a way to a relationship, and if it doesn’t work than find someone else but always in marriage, otherwise it’s seen as a sinful relationship, and a shame.
Divorce is never a good thing. Men and women need to be patient in a marriage. Divorce is not good for the children; it’s not something to laugh about!
Bro this womens gain only half knowledge because in the quran it's clearly said that divorse is not liked by allah,,, and so if they follow sharia then why this Illiterate womens don't allow their husbands for more wifes 😮
Never a good thing? Should a woman whose life is in danger stay with her husband? Should a wife whose children’s lives are in danger due to abuse from the husband stay? Should a man or woman who has been forcefully pushed into a marriage and threatened and abused stay in that marriage? I guess your answer to all these questions must be “yes” as you believe that “divorce is never a good thing.” And I guess you are also the kind of person who would tell a mother who lost her child due to an abusive partner, “At least they did not divorce. Be proud of your now deceased child and grandchildren because they stayed in the marriage. Only that matters.”
Islam gives so much rights , power and strength to women …….. they can always seek divorce if they dont feel safe, not happy, not given food n money, not treated well ny her husband ……..
What an interesting country! I'm just happy that they are not forced to stay in unhappy marriages like in some other cultures. But they need to listen more to their husbands as well - at 3:50 she cracked me up when dishing out the marriage advice.
Societal infrastructure should be paramount, especially in the interests of the children. Finding out that you're divorced via social media has to be devastating, especially when the father sees no obstacle in leaving behind his own child.
I think people in the comments dont know mush about our culture , then treu divorce is giving bad feels , but in our culture we love life and fun , and life won't end if I get divorced , so we party to show that life goes on
Your country and people are so messed up because of how nonchalantly you view the sanctity of marriage. Your woman have no knowledge, or respect for their role in a marriage. And the men have no knowledge on how to treat their wives and how to teach them in areas where they are lacking. But, I don't think that these women would even listen to their husbands. THE CRUX OF THIS PROBLEM IS THAT THESE BOYS AND GIRLS WERE NEVER TAUGHT THE BASIC RULES OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS, WHAT LOVE IS , AND WHAT ARE THE ROLES OF MEN AND WOMEN IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. IT IS APPARENT THAT THIS SOCIETY IS BASED ON SHORT TERM S.E.X. S.E.X. EMPTY S.E.X.
@10:44 I feel for her!! Postpartum depression is real. I hope her village is doing a better job than her ex-husband! This is NOT what Islam teaches. There's a chapter on divorce in chapter 65.
I've been divorced twice too. The second one was early this year. I am gonna tie the knot with my third one, Pakistani British. i hope he is the last one and won't take any divorce path under any circumstances.
During my stay in Japan I met a Japanese lady with her school going daughter. The lady told me that she was divorced from her husband. She said that Japanese men were not good to their wives. She was very happy about her divorce. She joked and said that she said goodbye to her husband.
There is nothing to be celebrated here...the trauma on the kids. There is a deeper issue for women or even men to marry and remarry so many times without accountability and the kids affected.
im glad those women are so strong overthere and assertive to get a divorce if they feel like its needed.And are able to remarry ofcourse as they are vieuwed as experienced in running a household.
This is fascinating! In the West, most religious people will tell you divorce is a bad thing. To hear them say stuff like "God gave us an ex-husband, he will give us another husband" and the idea that many men prefer divorced women really turns that on it's head! Fantastic coverage!
This can't be good. What makes a strong country are strong and stable families. If you have a weak family structure, it makes for a weak and the beginning to the end for any country.
Exactly! Funny how divorce in Muslim countries is celebrated in the West, yet they are seeing the results and aftermath of single mums in the West, and are now promoting religion and marriage. This is nothing to be celebrated and it can’t be a coincidence, that’s it’s in Africa. Statistics don’t lie, so these women should be putting their children first.
@@purplelove3666 -Its part of an ancient culture which is still alive and well today. If you don't first start to change the culture, it will be impossible to change the people.
Not even close. At least the women are the ones choosing to divorce in Mauritania. In the west baby momma/daddy culture has woman chasing the man & having his kids with no hope of being his wife, all while he simultaneously has relations (& babies) with other women.
@@MANAL83how about women keep their legs closed until after marriage? How about women no accepting men who want premarital sex and children? How about we PUNISH adultery?
Correction, Mauritania is not an Arab country, the Fulani ethnic group is the majority in Mauritania and there are other ethnic groups. Arabic is one of the spoken language.
I am also somali woman ❤I remember saying my granny the one who stay abusive marriage is greater than the one who marry 30 men means that our culture is OK to get divorce and it's like having that freedom is like privilege ❤
This would have been a great documentary if you have also interviewed the Men that have married these Women you have interviewed. There is always a two side of every story especially marriage
Im Mauritanian, and I think that it’s an interesting report frankly speaking plus it shows some of our realities without nuance. However it would have been better to also interview a few black subsaharan women, cause in our culture divorce is kind of a « taboo » sadly. Good job though 👍🏾
I love this documentary and ones like it that focus on unique cultures from around the world. It's what I've always wanted to do and create as a world traveler. Why do some Mauritanians in the video speak Arabic and other French? Is it just based on the region they're in or from?
They all speak their own arabic dialect which is the official language of the country, and some also speak french due to the country being colonized by france so this language is still being used in media and by a big part of the people who are well educated.
Singlehood is so underrated. If marriage is not your cup of tea it is OK to stay single and concentrate on other aspects of life instead of getting married and divorcing, worse still is bringing innocent children in to that messy cycle.
More power to the women of Mauritania. Nothing keeps them in an abusive marriage, and they can even right away search for another husband . No stigma attached.❤❤
Same male child who is a product of these broken home grew up to marry these women and the circle of broken home continues. There should be serious teaching to the men and women how to manage family and relationship. There are hard and soft times. There is a leader in a family. U must submit to that leader. That leader in turn is a leader and should learn what it takes to lead. If everyone things they are equal in the eyes of family then challenges emerge
Sorry but you gotta stop making everything about being a strong independent woman, there is nothing free about a child being forced to grow up without father, a woman that is left during pregnancy with the child alone, needing to finance her and her child alone in one of the poorest countries in the world. Its good that there is a possibility to divorce, but to be honest, looking at the divorce rates, this is the case in almost all countries in the world nowadays. These divorce rates are bad...for everyone. Also the women might play a role, stop saying "ohh the men are blaming the women", as if women are always the victims.
“Too ill and weak to please him,” after he impregnated her? Doesn’t that tell him that he failed in his duty to care for her, hence, she fell ill and weak? Sorry excuse for a human being.
Most of the people in the Sub-Saharan African region and across the dunes in the continent where you get polyglot Africans living together under Arabic and Islamic Influences, drink a lot of Green Tea mixed with Mint leaves and lots of sugar. Now this tradition started with the Arabs and Berbers in Morrocco, which is now marketed all over the world as a gastronomical delight called "Morroocan Mint Tea". Surprising, because tea plantations originated in China, and it was the latter that introduced Green Tea drinking to the world. How did this tradition reach the African dunes in places such as Mauritania and especially North African Nations? Maybe some nutritionist or Food Science Historian might be able to tell us more. Was it some kind of medieval tea, spices, and silk trade route juxtaposing from Africa to China? Enlighten us, please!
I am happy to see that in some other countries women can divorce freely because most of the time marriage is a very miserable place to be in & I have noticed that every time A woman leaves a Toxic marriage she becomes a better version of herself 🎉
Divorce doesn’t seem that great….that poor woman whose husband left her because she was pregnant and couldn’t “please” him. I can’t imagine my husband leaving me during pregnancy. I don’t think divorce should be so easily attained but it also shouldn’t have a harsh stigma for those who are leaving from abusive situations. However, this is their culture and they are the only ones who get to decide what benefits them. The children who are left behind are usually the ones to suffer.
Their irresponsibility is in celebrating divorce. It's not solely blamed on the women, It's cultury acceptable. This is an innovation that's unlawful. They need Duas , prayers for them are Needed .
Fitst of ALL.,they are not " celebrating divorce " BUT celebrating the end of the mandatory " iddat period " meaning the minimum time of 3 months for a women who has to wait that much time and then again can marry if she wishes..This ruling in Islam is to make sure that the women is not pregnant from her divorced husband and that she is not having a child..PLEASE RECTITY YOUR ACCOUNT.
If women are free to get divorce that means more chances to get away from domestic abuse. I think this freedom is fantastic compared to some other places where the consequences of trying to leave your husband could be dire.
Yes the religion allows divorce but what’s annoying is certain countries hold their cultural ways above the religion. Specifically south Asian and a few middle eastern countries frown upon divorce and the community shames you for it. It’s how our religion ALWAYS gets such a bad name when in reality our religion promotes peace and puts woman on a high pedestal. They do the complete opposite and constantly make us look horrible. I’m an African Muslim and thank goodness my country puts religion before culture. Woman would divorce their husband because he isn’t pleasing her in the bedroom lol 😂
" in sickness and in health , for richer ,or poor , for better, for worse '' ... so you mean these vows mean nothing ?
Lmao I doubt anyone would marry you. Damn girl, have you seen yourself in a mirror? 😂 at least get in good shape . 😂
@@pietrojenkins6901are you blind and stupid?
@@pietrojenkins6901 they aren’t christian are they, they don’t say those vows and divorce is allowed
I am feeling sad for the children who are not taken care of by their father . Financial support is the least they can do.
that's literally children all over the world, including in wealthy first world countries.
@@surajrshetty women in south East Asia are quite formidable, they are very good business women and are diligent workers.
This channel always delivers when it comes to off the beaten path cultural documentaries. Well done!
I find this both refreshing and disturbing at the same time. I've remained single for most of my adult life after divorce and resent when I have to fill out paperwork and it lists, married, single or divorced for me to check one. I'm single period. But my honesty makes me check the box for divorced that might as well be a box that says failure, as that is how divorced is viewed in the United States, especially for women. A single mother raising her children and a single man raising his are also viewed very differently. A single mother is seen as having baggage and looking for someone else to help carry it. But a single father who has custody of his children that he's raising alone is seen as some kind of a hero and given special treatment in the workplace, because, you know, he's raising his children alone. All praise to him. The exact opposite of what a single mother faces in the workplace and in society as a whole.
You described this situation correctly. Almost as usual, there is far more stigma placed on the woman.
I also agree - why is there such a damn emphasis on being married, divorced or single? (I am older - 70 - and divorced, something I should have done a billion years ago. Single and it's fabulous! And, not looking!)
Only ignorant and lesser men see single mothers that way, and if a baby helps sift through the worthless men, then maybe it's a good thing.
In their culture, the villagers/neighbors/friends, help them out
Yeah once married you cant be single again either divorced or widow(er)ed, forms are strange
@@musti12312 Of course you can. It's only people who belong back in the 50s who think women are defined by their marital status. What an outdated perspective.
I am a Mauritania girl , I want to tell you divorce is just a kind of freedom you don't have to hang in there for someone that does not deserve you and want to control you b, marriage is respect before love and there are handrouds of man that wish you , So make your self happy none is going to make that to you .
Peace 🇲🇷❤❤
As an Egyptian I love your tradition in divorce, we need to spread it among all our Arab countries, In Egypt divorce is a stigma so that many beautiful girls and ladies are suffering from this social stigma that doesn't by the way belong to our religion instructions, may Allah bless you our mauritanian sisters ❤
@@Fatimah-Islamicpearl Looking below the bonnet, it seems the ex husbands don't support the children the way they should.
divorce is the permitted thing that displeases ALLAH the most.
@@byanymeansnecessary9329 this is a fake hadith btw
@@Fatimah-Islamicpearlas far as I know Muslim women can not give divorce according to Sahih Bukhari
The comment section proves most people didn’t watch the video. The journalist says that most of the women in that community were divorced because their husbands initiated it. One of the women flat out said “many men have babies and leave the woman to raise the kids alone.” But the comments are flooded with people talking about the children being kept from their fathers.
You completely skip over the beauty of these women creating a community to care for one another and raise their kids. A lot of you are upset that these women are making the best of a bad situation. You’re mad that they aren’t pariahs.
This global disdain for women is sick, even more so when it comes from other women. Couldn’t be me. I’m here for women celebrating the choices that lead them to happiness and safety. 💜
Yeah it was all fun and games until you looked below the hood and realised that. There is a lot of projecting. According to Mauritanian law after infancy the child by default stays with the father IF he is willing (but here the answer was no)
@@musti12312 if you tried to prove a point you completely failed to do so, unless the point is that you have absolutely zero comprehension skills.
@@jesswhycamarz just like you didn’t pay attention to the part of the video where the woman said she left her THIRD HUSBAND for yelling at her or the part where the woman said she doesn’t listen to her husband and left him because she doesn’t like being told what to do. Even the man on the beach said his wife divorced him but his words were mistranslated.
If it’s only the men who are initiating divorce why are the women celebrating it and getting married so many times just to get divorced again. It’s clear they are the cause of the problem. The usual narrative of portraying the ŵomen as helpless victims doesn’t work here, this documentary is biased and you’re easily fooled by the propaganda
@@TheeGemstone 🤡
'My ex husband shouted at me so I left'
🙆♀️🙆♀️ And now she's looking for husband number 3.
Daaaaaaamn gurl!
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This is not funny. They're married off very young...that's what happens when you yell at children...leave.
@@OpinionatedNomad
Yes and no. Some are married off young but not all.
As an African too we've grown up in settings where our mothers and grandmas knew how to press those buttons and thorough beatings! We didn't leave.
Imagine if all women get shouted at in marriages, do we just walk out? She's looking for her 3rd husband, darling, the first two men can't be that wrong.
At times we need patience and proper hidaya in our lives because divorce isn't something to be happy about all the time. What about children sired in all those marriages? The cycle will continue as long as some of these women have glorified divorce to be a norm!
You also saw the woman who was divorced while pregnant and her child is now 4 weeks? There's no child support but this one got divorced because of being shouted at? Naaaaah..
@@_MuniraAli I understand "patience", every relationship should have that, did you realize how you contradicted yourself tho? Your moms and grandmas never had patience, and now you're wondering why others don't? You were a CHILD you couldn't leave, it wasn't about patience, make that very clear. No one should stay in a violent home, you used a terrible example
@@diamond4270
Maybe you misunderstood me. I meant while growing up under those women who resolved matters through beatings and yelling, we endured it and learnt alot too hence the strictness that they had made some people upright! I meant that if we handled that, can't someone bear some sabr? Some women in marriages really know how to yell and shout at their children and husbands. Communication is off. We've been raised differently and shouting at someone shouldn't be condoned as there are proper ways of handling issues but it shouldn't bring about divorce.
Imagine she's looking for husband number 3 and she'll get him InShaAllah. What if she's shouted at again, how much marriages and divorce will someone go through to finally come to her senses? It boils down to your upbringing too.
That’s my ancestral home and our traditional attire. Thanks for sharing this.
Divorce is fine but there is a problem. Why fathers are not accountable for not supporting their children after divorce? Is there a law of joint custody? Why only mothers are responsible for children after divorce?
@@just_a_woman-h9sunfortunately the law doesn’t really emphasize that. It is rather a cultural thing to raise the children in society as in (the mothers side of the family take the role of the father), they support the women raise them throughout their lives. It’s not badly seen for a man to just vanish from their kids life and not be too involved in it.. it’s a power given to the women but at the same time a handicap
We need to normalize this worldwide❤. No one should be allowed to stay in abusive relationships, be it man or woman...
It can not be normalized. The life conditions are not the same everywhere and the traditions. If you listen properly These women do not have an easy life as divorced. And even in countries where to divorce seems to be accepted the life for divorced women and children is not easy.
@@Flower-ck2bs It's a start for change. That's all that matters
@@Flower-ck2bs the life of a abused wife isn't easy either.
In Mauritania it is eomen who abuse the men, ask me how I know.
@Flower-ck2bs Not true. In Mauritania Divorced Woman are much more sought after than single women
It’s always good to see women supporting women. 💕
Not always - because women do sometimes support each other in doing the wrong thing, or at least, in doing negative things.
yea lets have women worldwide pay a higher tax so women can support divorcees and baby mamas welfare needs, daycare costs oh and they should fully fund early years primary school too instead of taxing men's properties and businesses.
Yeah bro 🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜 , women's are getting out of hand,,,, this womrns thinks that marriage is all about love but in reality it is full of hardships,, what can u expect from Illetarates@@kreativeforce532
Prostitution women's supporting prostitution women's that's right😂😂😂
@@kreativeforce532 You're not familiar with how procreation works, are you.
woe to man who leaves their woman because unable to please them while pregnant. woe on them
Thank you. I fould not agree better with you. You can see the pain and emotional damage in her eyes...
Many men in many countries do that or go and have several other women. The truth is those men truly don't love themselves enough to understand that his mates body changes and therefore buts his little pecker ahead of him self instead of learning his mate and how her body changes even her moods(emotions).
She is not a peice of dam meat or a object of mere pleasure when he desires any time.
Woe to women who does not listen to their husbands
Thats not why he divorced her. Shameful as well while shes heavily pregnant. What goes around comes around. @@hassanabubakar648
@@hassanabubakar648 who are you to be listened to? Do you behave respectful and caring towards your wife? Or do you treat her as she is a slave of yours? You arent a king, just another human trying to dominate a weaker gender. Bravo, Mauritania.
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The partying was fun to watch but the women with children with no support from the men who gave them children was heart wrenching😢the Mauritanians need to be serious with life, divorce is a last resort not the 1st!😂
When a woman divorces in Mauritania, she does not typically support her children on her own. Instead, she returns to her father’s house and lives there with her children. If her father is deceased, she moves to the house of her favorite brother, who takes on the responsibility of providing for her. However, some women prefer independence and choose to live alone with their children, allowing them to raise them in the way they see fit.
The ex-husband does not participate in financially supporting the children because he gives up any right to custody. If he wants to see his children, he visits the wife’s house for a few hours. In the worst cases, he might give small amounts of money during visits, while an average ex-husband sends a monthly allowance.
If the woman remarries, she may take her children to her new home or leave them with their grandparents. Mauritanian society is family-oriented, and grandparents often take on the primary responsibility for raising the children.
The issue of poverty is not because the husband has left but rather because poverty affects many people-both men and women-across the country. This economic reality naturally impacts children as well.
The wisdom behind this tradition is not to glorify divorce but to acknowledge that it happens and that women bear no blame for it. Divorce is viewed as the man’s responsibility, so the woman is celebrated for surviving an unsuccessful marriage. Meanwhile, the man is stigmatized as irresponsible and faces difficulties in remarrying.
No moaning,just pure joy to get out of abusive relationship.Thank you,,Next
You're literally assuming there was abuse AND these ladies were just innocent victims.
@@ericpowell4350 if they are celebrating,,it must have been horrible situation they got outta I guess
Did you mean mourning 😂😂😂
It’s always the man’s fault ain’t it? And the kids suffer.
I can marry a divorcee or a single mother.
Marriage is not game that you get in when it’s good and jump out when in hard times.
Any society where divorce is celebrated should be the last place u got to find a wife.
As society becomes more matriarchal, the women become more promiscuous, divorce rates go up, single motherhood goes up, and the society stops progressing.
it most definitely wasn't abusive.
Tbh it’s a religious country and they believe in celibacy till marriage so many get married early but it doesn’t always last.
It’s like how most non-Muslims don’t stay with their first/second/third boyfriend forever. Sometimes people don’t find a suitable match till after a few tries. But they don’t have boyfriends they just get married straight up.
best comment/explanation so far....the only big difference with most non-muslim countries is that children might be involved in each marriage
I wanted to say this. Even being Muslim in America some families may allow teenagers to have “religious marriages” to protect them from fornication. From the outside it looks like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, like they’ll still be living at home and in school etc. But yeah the celibacy thing is very real and sometimes marriage is the only way to be openly sexually active.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
You definitely should
I like the 'we' in your phrase.
When both partners in a relationship are committed to a long-term relationship,they work things out-not 'he' or 'she' work things out.
'They.'
'We.'
Very important!
Mauritanian women ! More power to you❤. I giggled when the lady said she left after being yelled at😂. Yes girl, no accepting that kind of treatment and attitude. It was refreshing to watch.
😂 they are sick
The Devil is a Deceiver, who makes everything bad looks. If am lying just take a look at the world. Marriage is secreted in the eyes of the lord God almighty.
@@karenkane2922 so people should stay in toxic marriages because marriages are* sacred?"
@@winniealwayo700 who normally yells more in general? Men or women? Now you still think yelling is "toxic marriage"?
she should stop dealing with man because man are humans too.
The conversation @ 15:35 was mistranslated. He said it was his wife that wanted divorce. This documentary is so biased, the women told you that they don't listen to their husband and you have the businessman in the beach telling you the women there require so much and you're saying you don't buy it!!!
He was a smooth talker, anyone with sense can see that.
Yes it was mistranslated, she wanted the divorce but he did say they speak to each other and are civil with each other. From a man's perspective, if a woman doesn't obey/listen to him, it's a bad thing. From a woman's perspective it means she gets to make her own decisions instead of obeying him like a master/slave relationship.
İ wish this van be pinned
Why get married?
@@piecelow2726you know absolutely nothing about a mans perspective. I wouldnt want snt of these women, they're all like gold diggers wandering from man to man being fake and only thinking of themselves, not even their children.
Darn... He couldn't have been that bad😂😂😂. Y'all too happy. Laughing with a sparkle in your eye😂
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Imagine him watching this video 😂
@@behuman3801 y'all just petty.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
No murder reports after a woman divorced her man because he shouted at her, this just shows that mauratanian men are mature and understanding. And these women don’t like being controlled, so sounds like Mauritania is the place for a woman who doesn’t like to be controlled😂. But it would be interesting to delve deeper into their reasons for divorce, and whether there are a lot of the divorced women that date married men there, just more insight into a life of a divorced woman there.
Mauritania has slavery. it was outlawed in 2007, but still widely practised.
@@arnoldmbuthia2687 Yes a lot of these feminists don't even know the state of the country. Maurotania is very backwards in many other aspects.
Beautiful documentary… thanks for your work !!!
This is wonderful. I never knew there were such levels of acceptance of divorce in Africa leave alone in a Muslim country. It is a process of life and there shouldn't been any shame to it and these women are showing us exactly that.
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At least try to hide your anti muslim bias here please
Or is it a trend to try to bash islam nowadays
@@shaanakhtarkhan5621 lol. What is wrong with you? Where did I bash Islam or write anything phobic? Maybe learn to read properly before writing such a stupid and irrational comment to me. If you are trying to troll me, then, not today SATAN.
@@shaanakhtarkhan5621 Lol can't handle criticism? How Islamic lmao.
@@minecraftparkourredditstorieswhy do you hate people?
I’d like to see Mauritania change their legal marriage age to much older than 12! The girls are still children at age 12.
Here in the United States, some legislators recently voted to keep child marriage legal. I was appalled. To me it’s just wrong.
I was surprised to learn that the majority of Mauritanian divorces are initiated by men. It seems like a lot of those men don’t support their children financially.
Fantastic 🇲🇷docu @Underreportred World good to see you back please continue posting more content
I don't know about celebration but my great uncle told me that is very normal. In rural communities' women had value for their labour. So marrying a woman meant free labour and losing a woman meant loss of free labour. Divorce didn't become a problem until women only stayed home to take care of the children and it became a matter of ego rather than survival.
The irony is half of the women now are breadwinners but still never claimed their leverage.
Ps before you celebrate Mauritanian 'feminism' you might want to look up how they force-feed their daughters like geese for pate. When it comes to misogyny the calls often come from inside the house.
Damn what are you talking about? How feeding a woman who just had a child is a bad thing? We Somali also had this culture until western culture come to us and shaming body become normalised.
@@halalpolice23 what are you talking about?
I'm willing to be divorced hundred times if I'm not happy with the husband so i support this women
Off course you're willing.
That's because you do not know how to manifest love.
Perhaps you've been used to romance, but never experienced love - that's why you're willing to divorce a hundred times.
Why get married then😂😂😂
People like you are the reason alot of men are scared of marriage
@@joemol1274 don’t give up untill u found the right one lmao
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Divorce is positive. If people arent happy in the marriage anymore, its only a positive thing when they separate and are free to find happiness elsewhere
You're delusional.
If a person cannot find happiness within, they will never find it elsewhere, if by 'elsewhere', you mean another individual.
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni well if they aren't happy from within then staying in the marriage is not the solution either. They should divorce, separate and find happiness. Who cares how they get that happiness in the end.
@@ekg891 Your thinking is so twisted. You don't have a correct view of reality.
The reason the ladies are into their third and fourth divorces is proof that divorcing is not the way to find hapiness if one is unhappy in their marriage. It's a fool's erand to go 'elsewhere' so you end up in third amd fourth marriages, etc.
Finding happiness is a matter of having the life skill of how to be happy. It's about realizing that your personal happiness is not dependent on another person but on yourself alone. So those who have such a life skill can maintain happiness even when they are not getting their needs met from by their marriage partner.
But you are so shallow, that speaking of deep things like this just goes over your head.
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni so they should stay in miserable relationships instead? I agree that they should take some time out of being in relationships if every single one is failing. But the factors contributing to their failed marriages could also just be because men in that country aren't the best people to marry and because a lot of these ladies don't seem like they were educated so they feel the need to get married to find some financial support. Whatever the reason is, if they find themselves unhappy in the marriage, it's right to divorce. Regardless of how many times they have been married. It's better to do that than to stay in a bad situation. Your way of thinking is exactly why many of our grandmother's stayed in marriages that hurt them and made them miserable. I would have rather my grandmother remarry 4 times than to have stayed in that marriage she was in.
@@ekg891 Girl, you got your knickers in a knot!!!!!
You've been in a failed marriage haven't you? Or maybe a failed relationship? Judging by your thinking, you are not marriage material. You are too selfish! You expect your partner to make you happy - what a loser's mentality. Winners know how to be happy, inspite of their partners' actions or omissions. Such people are truly empowered to make a success of their relationships.
A good starting point, in having a happy relationship, is understanding that the relationship is an opportunity to work on yourself, so that if you find yourself unhappy in it, what can you work, in yourself, tp bring up your level of happiness? What changes of mindset, perspective, etc are required to keep being happy.
Whatever you do, if you have not yet grown up, as can be discerned from your comments, stay away from getting married. You're still a girl, not yet a woman. You still need to mature.
This was an amazing glimpse into a country, a culture very far from us; THANK YOU
No is bad for family and morals kids grow without father is worst human If ever read phycology
You bombed a country next to them.. its called LIBYA !
let’s not forget that this is only a brief look into one tribe of the people of Mauritania. there are plenty of other tribes who are highly against this way of life.
Actually it’s 70% percent of Mauritania. The only one not following this are the tribes descended from Senegal, Mali. But the nomadic people make 70 %. Their are black and lighter nomads.
@@Akbgbvow again, that’s still only one tribe (berbers) even if they are the majority. Us Soninkes, Fulanis, and Wolofs still exist in the country and have different cultures from the berbers. My point is that this is just one culture in Mauritania.
@@lallatandia1117 and my point is that 70% is significant. I know that other tribes exist. I‘m mixed with Berbers and Wolof. The majority their is doing it and therefore u can say it’s common there
and that still doesn’t change that 30% of the population follows different cultures. it wouldn’t be an issue if this was just specific to berbers which again is ONE tribe 🤣. if you actually read my first comment you would see that I in fact did not say that it wasn’t common but that it was one culture out of many which is a fact. have a blessed day ☀️
@@lallatandia1117 well ok 😂😂 u too
3:50
Asking for advice from a person who celebrates divorce and was probably divorced a few times.😂
And she gave very honest and gr8 advice
@Ladytee2024 Actually, i agree it was honest advice but one of the worst i have ever heard in my life
He said it was right given to them by Sharia and the culture. So the women understood their Islamic right, therefore though it can be sad and unfortunate to be divorced there is no “until death do us part” or that cultural shame which is manifested in many cultures (including Muslim cultures)
Having said that I would also like to point out that in these countries there are NO sexual encounters therefor marriage is the only way of being intimate, so it might be shocking for people in some western countries, but if you think about the sexual encounters as marriages than it might be relatable.
طبعا لأنهم يطبقون الشريعة الإسلامية والتي تمنع أي علاقة جنسية خارج نطاق الزواج
@@exoandyou5796liar 😅😂
They most consumers of sex pre marriage.
Majority of men go for divorced women, why?
Lol! If you think no sexual encounters are happening before marriage you are very naïve. I live over here..all kiiinnnddds of things are going on.😂
@@jcymngo You live in Maurotania?
I personally think Mauritania culture is so liberating, no stigma or shame on being divorced or not being married. Most women spend most of their life time chasing after marriage, whilst the Mauritanians run from it. I do think there’s a level of hurt and pain they go through despite the divorce celebrations, but women all over the world can learn a few things from them. That divorce doesn’t mean you are damaged goods and that your life is over, it is actually an opportunity to start a new life and be optimistic about the future and be free. This is in no way to condone divorce but to move away from the limiting stigma of divorce in our societies.
Tbh I think this stigma is mostly in the west world. Alhamdulilah in Muslim world especially in Africa or east Africa divorce is not stigmatised and in Islam as both spouse can divorce each other it’s the best solution in some cases.
Mauritania is a place where slavery still exists.
I feel like you didn't watch the video. They are not running from marriage, simply leaving one to try to run into another.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
I enjoyed watching this so much I almost cried. Wonderful presentation. So very interesting. Excellent! A+
I wish they talked about why the women choose divorce if there are such dire situations afyer
The ones who’ve abandoned their children it’s obvious but am sure the reasons will be the same as everyone else in west eg infidelity, abuse, incompatibility, disputes, financial etc
@@LadyMulinfidelity is not common in traditional Muslim societies (bc also pple are aware it has punishments even tho the governments doesn’t follow that law ) but other things are possible. Especially abandonment of children after divorce.
They talked about that. Men don't provide, they just leave the women to survive with the children
Its the same worldwide "they aren't happy anymore" .. so they are looking for the next exciting thing
@@halalpolice23Infidelity is not common because Muslim men can simply get another three wives, having a total of four wives at one time. This is still forced Infidelity because the wife is often threatened with divorce if she does not go along with it.
I lives in Mauritania, to be realistic this country is not a place to get marry. Being a good man is not a guarantee for the survival of marriage in this country. The only thing that can make marriage stable here is for the husband to accept full control by the wife and her family members. Being a figurehead husband is the only thing that will make women comfortable to stay in the marriage.
even if the woman is educated?
You are laying you never been in Mauritania we Mauritanian mans we are gentlemans !
If he's less educated and less able than she, fair enough.
Yes even if she is well educated
Maybe but I also call bullshit. People marrying their daughters away for money without no care at all. Disgusting. Then a good and kind and caring man will get the respect from their wives and in-laws. If he has respect for himself and carry’s himself with respect( treating the woman good/ have financial funds to adequately take care of his family’s) will most likely never be treated Bad. Like the Lady taut for a divorce because she was unable to “please” him during pregnancy. There are a lot of the men that divorce because the women is not young enough anymore and they can keep being pedophiles. Please stop lying and coming to comment on behalf of your gender. It’s a disgrace.
In Indonesia and Malaysia I think its the same thing, a divorced women is experienced.
Yeah but Indonesia and Malaysia are better places than most aren't they.
As a Mauritanian man, thank you for visiting our country you did a great job here creating this documentary. Yet still you have showed one part of the story, the women side. What you need to ask yourself is the real question, what is the main reason why divorce is rampart in Mauritania? Get deep into the matter then you'll know if we the men are the problem or the women are. Just to clear to you one thing what Mauritanian men dose for their wife during their marriage ceremony, the gift that we give and money that we spent there's nowhere in the world that can compete us and its a matter of must. Mauritanian men are well known for not having a saying in their own home, yes the woman is in full charge of everything you do not dictate you just negotiate and beg. Yet still we respect or women highly they've full right ✅️ you should do part two of this and visit the men to ask the same question.
Yep I do agree I am a Mauritanian from the Fulani community and I do believe we need to hear the both side and to be honest sometimes the women aren’t cooperating in the marriage like they are so demanding
Do not let strangers come into your family business and spread it to the world in the wrong way. Be smart
""REFRESHING ATTITUDE "" AND SCAPING FROM ABUSE SO WELL DONE TO THIS WOMAN... I'M VERY PROUD FOR THEM. THEY ARE NOT STUCK WITH SHIT MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.
Love this. We need to normalize leaving situations that dont serve us. ❤
Nothing is about to "serve" you. I see why so many women are unmarried or just baby mothers. The mindset is pathetic.
THIS is NOT normalizing leaving. Very convenient and avoidant way to look at it. These women are clearly in difficulty and the fathers have no accountability for children they have fathered.
It is priceless to be indeed free from an abusive relationship. Big up my people. 👏👏
All I can say is WOW 😢 !
I feel pity for the innocent children caught in between
Bravo!
Of the many comments here, you are one of the few who has commented on the effect on the kids.
😟😟😟
Would you rather they be subjected to witnessing domestic violence in their home?
@@harrisre-nee3017 Your assumption if domestic violence is too general. So, its no good to make assumptions that are not applicable to every case.
The point that was made here was that if a person is not happy in their marriage, they should divorce. So that would suggestion selfish motivations on the part of the one suing for divorce - they are selfishly focused on themselves and not on the children's needs etc.
Only thing is that the babysitting seems communal - not a bad thing.
However, I agree - to learn to prevent pregnancy and take care of yourself as a young woman is key to a happier life, it seems to me.
Beautiful and fascinating piece of documentation. Thanks for sharing!
It’s like a baby momma/ baby daddy vibe, but they marry
It’s all the same, they use pseudo marriage to camouflage….
Men using this advantage to lure women , drop babies and go for the another women…..
It’s a social religious illness😮
Yeah pretty much, this culture enables single motherhood and absentee fathers 😢
Children are the one suffering the most as the need stability and scurity untill adults.
And even after to seg them up for life no family uite .
Sooo sooo sad .
Perhaps in patriarchal societies, like those found in some Arab cultures, divorce can be a liberating experience for women, bringing them joy. Thank you for sharing your insight from a unique perspective..
They just jump to the next man.
@@deborahdean8867 🙃 Your point is valid
👍👍👍 video. Glad that there's no stigma attached to divorce and that these women throw divorce parties to move on and signify that they're ready for the next relationship and a plan to fend for themselves and children as the market for divorced women indicated. It helps that they have group support. Interesting. Thanks for sharing
Happy Divorce! 😊🎉❤
What a wonderful documentary, these women are bosses! One said “ I only have God, and that enough”
If you want to be divorced like me, disobey your husband. Says the lady in blue scarf
I enjoyed this episode! It’s great to hear a positive perspective on divorce! I also appreciate learning the downsides as well.
It is great to see the roles reversed, Muslim men getting a taste of their own medicine.
It's a different culture where the only permissible way to have sex is through marriage; otherwise, getting pregnant would be complicated, whereas in Western culture, it is ok to have sex at a teenage, and girls have the option to keep it if they get pregnant. In Mauritanian, girls don't smoke bongs and have sex in the park; you have to understand it is a different culture. Amazing report, thank you
I make a vow to love you until major differences do us part.😊😊
Islam allows it. Don't impose your beliefs on others.
@@OpinionatedNomad Islam allows what?
@@ChadLucaprobably she mean Islam allowed divorce as both spouse can divorce each other
@@halalpolice23 Islam doesn't allow a woman to be divorced sister, can you show me an authentic hadith? I know there are hadiths about newly reverted woman divorcing their wives when they just become muslim but not what this is saying.
@@ChadLuca Khula or khul is Islamic divorc of woman. The evidence for that from the Sunnah is that the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammaas (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I do not find any fault with Thabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Thabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5273).
From this case the scholars understood that if a woman cannot stay with her husband, then the judge should ask him to divorce her by khul’; indeed he should order him to do so.
You heard what she said...Tomorrow i will put on facebook and whatsapp that am divorced, fishing for a new candidate. At 26 married 4 times and divorced 4 times and she's being praised for that. Another ignorant will try to marry her again and the cycle will repeat again.
They get divorced because of dudes like you lol
😂😂😂😂
@@notorio526💯
Bruh she was sold off to some dude at age 12
@@notorio526 It isn't brilliant to marry, to begin with.
Its so sad😢what the innocent children are caught in due to their parents divorce.😢
The kids look fine to me. Less fighting in the home/happier Mom is excellent for kids.
Some marriages can be hell but looking at a lady/woman that has divorced 3 times and still looking forward to another marriage, then such a lady need to work on herself.
Maybe, the selection of available men is poor.
Maybe less men need to stop being abusive
How about the gentleman/man that has divorced 3 times, abandoned the children and still looking forward to another marriage? He should work on himself, too.
Also it’s important to note that these people don’t have any relationships outside of marriage, unlike in the west, where you’ll have multiple gf/bf and end up getting married once. Here, marriage is a way to a relationship, and if it doesn’t work than find someone else but always in marriage, otherwise it’s seen as a sinful relationship, and a shame.
Divorce is never a good thing. Men and women need to be patient in a marriage. Divorce is not good for the children; it’s not something to laugh about!
Bro this womens gain only half knowledge because in the quran it's clearly said that divorse is not liked by allah,,, and so if they follow sharia then why this Illiterate womens don't allow their husbands for more wifes 😮
1 of the few sensible people in the comment section. Too many liberal 🗑 here.
You seem like a controlling hater. Divorce is a good thing if you don't want to die from an abusive spouse...
Never a good thing?
Should a woman whose life is in danger stay with her husband?
Should a wife whose children’s lives are in danger due to abuse from the husband stay?
Should a man or woman who has been forcefully pushed into a marriage and threatened and abused stay in that marriage?
I guess your answer to all these questions must be “yes” as you believe that “divorce is never a good thing.”
And I guess you are also the kind of person who would tell a mother who lost her child due to an abusive partner, “At least they did not divorce. Be proud of your now deceased child and grandchildren because they stayed in the marriage. Only that matters.”
I will never understand why divorce leads to the children not being taken care off specially by their fathers!?
this is what I needed. Too funny.
Islam gives so much rights , power and strength to women …….. they can always seek divorce if they dont feel safe, not happy, not given food n money, not treated well ny her husband ……..
Yes
Alhamdulilah
Yes!!!!! 💜
What an interesting country! I'm just happy that they are not forced to stay in unhappy marriages like in some other cultures. But they need to listen more to their husbands as well - at 3:50 she cracked me up when dishing out the marriage advice.
Here divorce is a business. More Take income, more appartments rented...double household costs for kids.
Societal infrastructure should be paramount, especially in the interests of the children. Finding out that you're divorced via social media has to be devastating, especially when the father sees no obstacle in leaving behind his own child.
I think people in the comments dont know mush about our culture , then treu divorce is giving bad feels , but in our culture we love life and fun , and life won't end if I get divorced , so we party to show that life goes on
Your country and people are so messed up because of how nonchalantly you view the sanctity of marriage. Your woman have no knowledge, or respect for their role in a marriage. And the men have no knowledge on how to treat their wives and how to teach them in areas where they are lacking. But, I don't think that these women would even listen to their husbands. THE CRUX OF THIS PROBLEM IS THAT THESE BOYS AND GIRLS WERE NEVER TAUGHT THE BASIC RULES OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS, WHAT LOVE IS , AND WHAT ARE THE ROLES OF MEN AND WOMEN IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. IT IS APPARENT THAT THIS SOCIETY IS BASED ON SHORT TERM S.E.X. S.E.X. EMPTY S.E.X.
@10:44 I feel for her!! Postpartum depression is real. I hope her village is doing a better job than her ex-husband! This is NOT what Islam teaches. There's a chapter on divorce in chapter 65.
I've been divorced twice too. The second one was early this year. I am gonna tie the knot with my third one, Pakistani British. i hope he is the last one and won't take any divorce path under any circumstances.
Girl, slow your roll. You gotta put them through the vetting process before signing up for life in the Holy Matrimony.
My sister, is he muslim?
@@ChadLuca yes of course
The odds are not in your favor. If it doesn't work out can I come to your divorce party? I'll bring some good food.
It will soon be third ..what made you fail twice will surely happen again.
During my stay in Japan I met a Japanese lady with her school going daughter. The lady told me that she was divorced from her husband. She said that Japanese men were not good to their wives. She was very happy about her divorce. She joked and said that she said goodbye to her husband.
There is nothing to be celebrated here...the trauma on the kids. There is a deeper issue for women or even men to marry and remarry so many times without accountability and the kids affected.
I will say although there is not a lot of infrastructure, it seems spotless clean and organized and peaceful.
im glad those women are so strong overthere and assertive to get a divorce if they feel like its needed.And are able to remarry ofcourse as they are vieuwed as experienced in running a household.
Running away from adversity is not a sign of strength it is a sign of weakness
@@TheeGemstone dont misuse or confuse ur adversity for abused women who have the right to get away from such monsterly men
This is fascinating! In the West, most religious people will tell you divorce is a bad thing. To hear them say stuff like "God gave us an ex-husband, he will give us another husband" and the idea that many men prefer divorced women really turns that on it's head! Fantastic coverage!
This can't be good. What makes a strong country are strong and stable families. If you have a weak family structure, it makes for a weak and the beginning to the end for any country.
You are right, the country is so weak and poor because of what you just stated.
Exactly! Funny how divorce in Muslim countries is celebrated in the West, yet they are seeing the results and aftermath of single mums in the West, and are now promoting religion and marriage. This is nothing to be celebrated and it can’t be a coincidence, that’s it’s in Africa. Statistics don’t lie, so these women should be putting their children first.
Then treat the women well and it won't be weak
@@purplelove3666even man love wife so much they ( the wifes) will say they should deserve better
@@purplelove3666 -Its part of an ancient culture which is still alive and well today. If you don't first start to change the culture, it will be impossible to change the people.
because dating/courtship/being in a relationship outside of marriage is forbidden in their country, they have no other choice than to get marry
😢 easily this is freelancing $ex in short term marriage while creating children on the way. 😭
Not even close. At least the women are the ones choosing to divorce in Mauritania. In the west baby momma/daddy culture has woman chasing the man & having his kids with no hope of being his wife, all while he simultaneously has relations (& babies) with other women.
@@MANAL83how about women keep their legs closed until after marriage? How about women no accepting men who want premarital sex and children? How about we PUNISH adultery?
Correction, Mauritania is not an Arab country, the Fulani ethnic group is the majority in Mauritania and there are other ethnic groups. Arabic is one of the spoken language.
I love seeing different cultures❤️❤️❤️
Glad they are debunking stereotypes regarding islamic opression of women.
People just leaving each other 😂😂😂
Men creating baby mamas and leaving them or initiating divorce per the video. So the women celebrate it and prepare for the next husband
You should see the divorce rate of Lesbians, its worse !! its like 90% ...but Gay people is like %20
I am Somali muslim, my aunt is on her 4th marriage. It is not a good thing but not stigmatized, things happen, life goes on.
I am also somali woman ❤I remember saying my granny the one who stay abusive marriage is greater than the one who marry 30 men means that our culture is OK to get divorce and it's like having that freedom is like privilege ❤
This would have been a great documentary if you have also interviewed the Men that have married these Women you have interviewed. There is always a two side of every story especially marriage
Im Mauritanian, and I think that it’s an interesting report frankly speaking plus it shows some of our realities without nuance. However it would have been better to also interview a few black subsaharan women, cause in our culture divorce is kind of a « taboo » sadly.
Good job though 👍🏾
Married at 12 years old OMG😢😢😢😢😢
😢. I almost fell off my bed.
Disgusting n child abuse
Look up marriage ages around the world in the past, included in Western world
Until today marrying at the age of 12 is allowed in some states in the US
You hoe around at 10 and 11 and 12 so why can't people get married ???
Very insightful documentary from a country we hardly hear anything about.
I love this documentary and ones like it that focus on unique cultures from around the world. It's what I've always wanted to do and create as a world traveler. Why do some Mauritanians in the video speak Arabic and other French? Is it just based on the region they're in or from?
They all speak their own arabic dialect which is the official language of the country, and some also speak french due to the country being colonized by france so this language is still being used in media and by a big part of the people who are well educated.
In Africa it's like that. Locals are free to speak colonizers languages if they want but mostly local dialects
Singlehood is so underrated. If marriage is not your cup of tea it is OK to stay single and concentrate on other aspects of life instead of getting married and divorcing, worse still is bringing innocent children in to that messy cycle.
It’s giving I’m marrying you but if you jeopardize me I’m out!
and rightly so
More power to the women of Mauritania. Nothing keeps them in an abusive marriage, and they can even right away search for another husband . No stigma attached.❤❤
The government should force all the man's to pay the bills for the children's when they divorce
I know this about divorce, but Im even more curious about the triangles in all the architecture
Same male child who is a product of these broken home grew up to marry these women and the circle of broken home continues. There should be serious teaching to the men and women how to manage family and relationship. There are hard and soft times. There is a leader in a family. U must submit to that leader. That leader in turn is a leader and should learn what it takes to lead. If everyone things they are equal in the eyes of family then challenges emerge
Teslem is very beautiful, she has her pick of the litter 💯
When Sis said God gave her her ex-husband and He’ll give her another one… that took me out 😂😂
Divorce is allowed in Islam and is a relief for those in abusive relationships, Alhamdulillah for Islam
Are you joking?clown
Sorry but you gotta stop making everything about being a strong independent woman, there is nothing free about a child being forced to grow up without father, a woman that is left during pregnancy with the child alone, needing to finance her and her child alone in one of the poorest countries in the world. Its good that there is a possibility to divorce, but to be honest, looking at the divorce rates, this is the case in almost all countries in the world nowadays. These divorce rates are bad...for everyone. Also the women might play a role, stop saying "ohh the men are blaming the women", as if women are always the victims.
Wallahi this is the most decent comment that I've come accross!
MashaAllah!
I agree with you 💯..
“Too ill and weak to please him,” after he impregnated her? Doesn’t that tell him that he failed in his duty to care for her, hence, she fell ill and weak? Sorry excuse for a human being.
Most of the people in the Sub-Saharan African region and across the dunes in the continent where you get polyglot Africans living together under Arabic and Islamic Influences, drink a lot of Green Tea mixed with Mint leaves and lots of sugar.
Now this tradition started with the Arabs and Berbers in Morrocco, which is now marketed all over the world as a gastronomical delight called "Morroocan Mint Tea".
Surprising, because tea plantations originated in China, and it was the latter that introduced Green Tea drinking to the world.
How did this tradition reach the African dunes in places such as Mauritania and especially North African Nations?
Maybe some nutritionist or Food Science Historian might be able to tell us more.
Was it some kind of medieval tea, spices, and silk trade route juxtaposing from Africa to China?
Enlighten us, please!
I am happy to see that in some other countries women can divorce freely because most of the time marriage is a very miserable place to be in & I have noticed that every time A woman leaves a Toxic marriage she becomes a better version of herself 🎉
Divorce doesn’t seem that great….that poor woman whose husband left her because she was pregnant and couldn’t “please” him. I can’t imagine my husband leaving me during pregnancy. I don’t think divorce should be so easily attained but it also shouldn’t have a harsh stigma for those who are leaving from abusive situations. However, this is their culture and they are the only ones who get to decide what benefits them. The children who are left behind are usually the ones to suffer.
Nah divorce should be easily attained. Rather have them leave than stay married to you but not being a good spouse.
The outrage for children suffering should be pointed at the parent that doesn’t show up to be a parent.
Wow this documentary is amazing..so much positivity
Their irresponsibility is in celebrating divorce.
It's not solely blamed on the women, It's cultury acceptable.
This is an innovation that's unlawful. They need Duas , prayers for them are Needed .
Fitst of ALL.,they are not " celebrating divorce " BUT celebrating the end of the mandatory " iddat period " meaning the minimum time of 3 months for a women who has to wait that much time and then again can marry if she wishes..This ruling in Islam is to make sure that the women is not pregnant from her divorced husband and that she is not having a child..PLEASE RECTITY YOUR ACCOUNT.