Think very carefully if marriage is really necessary, especially later in life.

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  • @manoflegacy
    @manoflegacy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    If you do marry, only do that with a prenup.

    • @manoflegacy
      @manoflegacy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @jmtolerico It isn't contradictory. It is about not allowing a third party to change your contract, the state can change the guidelines of divorce without your consent or an activist judged or a bias judge can also do that.
      California's a whole different issue at places a dumpster fire for so many reasons taxes laws etc. Where I live my prenup is enforceable and valid.

    • @andrewday7799
      @andrewday7799 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Many judges throw prenups out. A prenup is not guaranteed to work.

    • @manoflegacy
      @manoflegacy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @andrewday7799 very much depends on the jurisdiction.

    • @alphaomega1351
      @alphaomega1351 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Just don't get married! Wtf is wrong with y'all?! No wonder y'all continue getting taken to the bank 🏦. 😳

    • @Me-np8fb
      @Me-np8fb หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Prenuptial agreements are thrown out all the time. Signed under distress....

  • @spintheblock3x385
    @spintheblock3x385 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    This man is a gem.

  • @bradleyjackson7168
    @bradleyjackson7168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +73

    We met when I was 53. She was 46. We are both divorced. After vetting each other for 3 years, she lives with me. We are keeping the state out of our business. No judge will ever tell us what to do with our assets. We are so happy together. Way better than marriage at any age

    • @jcnlaw
      @jcnlaw  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@bradleyjackson7168 You are doing it right!

    • @anonanon7553
      @anonanon7553 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      beautiful story. I'm glad it's working out. Gives hope for the rest of us.

    • @raulturturean2497
      @raulturturean2497 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@jcnlawYeah, but Unfortunately you need to divorce minimum once in life to find true love, because women want to show 💍 for everybody and they want an album with a lot of pictures with their wedding dress, These are the most important things, the unconditional love never was on the list.

    • @bobfeller604
      @bobfeller604 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Except if you break up with her and she files for palimony.

    • @bradleyjackson7168
      @bradleyjackson7168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@jcnlaw we are in Michigan. So no common law nonsense

  • @GALLUS_PRIME
    @GALLUS_PRIME หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    A nickel’s worth of free advice, Mr. Esquire!

  • @sebastianniqvist3144
    @sebastianniqvist3144 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I’ve met people who just got divorced and went through a messy divorce.
    I ask them: ok so what now?
    They: I will start dating again and I hope to meet a more suitable partner to get married again…
    I just don’t get it….

  • @johnconrad5487
    @johnconrad5487 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I live in California and the State laws are such that if two people are living together eventually, i dont know how many years together, they are considered as a couple, whether married or not. If they part ways, one of them, usually the woman, gets half the assets.

    • @michaelhallas6450
      @michaelhallas6450 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@johnconrad5487 That’s true else where also . Here’s a good one , in Canada depending how much time you spend together with or without living together is considered marriage . The female can file for a percentage of what you own . Check the laws where you live , they a different according to where you live .

    • @Elizabeth-yg2mg
      @Elizabeth-yg2mg 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I lived with someone as I didn't want to get married. We had con tracts for our house and business but when we split he wouldn't buy me out or sell and kept me on a string for five years. It was a traumatic mess. It would have been easier to marry and then divorce.

  • @justingossard7913
    @justingossard7913 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Love this video and your content! Keep sharing!!!

    • @jcnlaw
      @jcnlaw  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@justingossard7913 Thank you! Happy to have you as part of my TH-cam community!

  • @oldmountaindawg4593
    @oldmountaindawg4593 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Alone an happy. An staying that way

  • @gregorylatta8159
    @gregorylatta8159 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    State law always favors the woman.

  • @lorraines.75
    @lorraines.75 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    They're also usually buried under layers of debt following a divorce. They're not looking for love or companionship, they are looking to survive via a secondary income/future caretaker.

  • @bradleyjackson7168
    @bradleyjackson7168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    If you older like myself. Im 57. I plan to work another ten years. I cant start over at my age. I own my house, and share it with my girlfriend. I am putting my house in a trust. My adult daughters will inherit the house, but If I die before my girlfriend, I want her to be able to live in the house as long as she wants to. When she dies, then my daughters will inherit the house. I do not want it to go to her adult children. This way i protect all three ladies that I care about. My girlfriend will always have a home, and my girls will inherit a free house. No marriage nonsense or state intervention will trump my wishes.

    • @ACTASIF101
      @ACTASIF101 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @bradleyjackson7168 This will not work. Her adult children will move in with her, and your daughters will never see a penny from this house

    • @fortunate14t48
      @fortunate14t48 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@bradleyjackson7168 I know a family that did this. It’s been almost 30 years now since the man passed. The lady won’t do any repairs to the home. The kids won’t pay for any repairs on the home and are just waiting on her to pass too. It’s not a good situation.

    • @ACTASIF101
      @ACTASIF101 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @bradleyjackson7168 Also, what will you have to protect your interest regarding your girlfriend having a live-in boyfriend and / or getting married and they decide to live in your daughter's home. There are too many variables. Remember regarding your live-in girlfriend....it is only your turn.

    • @bradleyjackson7168
      @bradleyjackson7168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @ACTASIF101 that's a great point. Most women will have new man in a week or two

    • @bradleyjackson7168
      @bradleyjackson7168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ACTASIF101 her adult children have trust funds from rich grandmother. Grandma has 5 homes and used to have a ranch next to Kevin Costner. I have seen pictures of them socializing. So my little ranch house is nothing to them.

  • @normanmacfarlane6724
    @normanmacfarlane6724 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This man speaks the truth ❤😂
    I am 67 , been through some serious illnesses but I am feeling pretty good right now , that's because playing the victim becomes so tedious.
    There are beautiful women who are 50+ do not really want to be married. We have all been under the shackle of marriage and at the age we're at the biggest aphrodisiac is freedom . By all means make a commitment but allow yourself and your partner to be free .
    That is the wisdom I share with you today.

  • @caucasianafrican1435
    @caucasianafrican1435 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    If you move in with somebody the state brings itself into your life

    • @peanut0brain
      @peanut0brain หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@caucasianafrican1435 not all states, I believe.

  • @navyreviewer
    @navyreviewer 18 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Never ever put your name on a marriage license. The moment you invite the government into your relationship, you've lost. If she insists, no matter how nice she acts, that tells you what her goal is.

  • @Randy-qg6rw
    @Randy-qg6rw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Or marry without the government.. do a ceremonional marriage where the vow is taken but no government involved

    • @peanut0brain
      @peanut0brain หลายเดือนก่อน

      The jooish way, in America

    • @Elizabeth-yg2mg
      @Elizabeth-yg2mg 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Jon told someone in a video I saw tonight of his that this could be taken as a legal commitment, the same as marriage.

  • @Michael-s2p3p
    @Michael-s2p3p 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Married my wife of 11 years because she was Colombian and we needed to do it for residency purposes. I was 62 at the time, so there are reasons to marry.

  • @ephilippos
    @ephilippos หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Have girlfriends instead…but at that age to be desirable u need some dosh in your pockets; marriage not necessary…

  • @ElizabethRedmond-r3y
    @ElizabethRedmond-r3y หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

    • @ElizabethRedmond-r3y
      @ElizabethRedmond-r3y หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
      I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

    • @ElizabethRedmond-r3y
      @ElizabethRedmond-r3y หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I promise you will not regret it.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r หลายเดือนก่อน

      I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤

  • @chuckysith
    @chuckysith หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I totally agree was never married and at 55 won’t be doing it any time soon

  • @DavidSmith-sw5kg
    @DavidSmith-sw5kg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Avoid government overreach

  • @VideoAssociates
    @VideoAssociates 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great advice, im 50 now and prefer dating for short time, dont need a life long contract

  • @sue6956
    @sue6956 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    In the event of a nasty separation of an unmarried couple, how does that couple manage the separation? Is it best to have some sort of documentation on how finances will be split? Who owns what etc.? If it is very contentious, then how to both parties manage? Lawyer? Court?

  • @eyegun
    @eyegun 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I'm 50 something. A few years ago my mother asked me if I was going to get remarried. I told her "No!- my plan is to live in sin and take the hit on the other side".

  • @PatrickDenehy-f4k
    @PatrickDenehy-f4k 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Im sixty five, been alone six years and wouldn't change it for the world. I got God finally and fully.

  • @nin1269
    @nin1269 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love this lawyer ❤

    • @jcnlaw
      @jcnlaw  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nin1269 Thank you!

    • @nin1269
      @nin1269 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jcnlaw No, thank youu. Keep saving the men, the legal system is stacked against us and we sleep walk into these situations.
      Too many good men off themselves because of the feminist legal systems in operation in most of the west.
      Sadly we only learn AFTER getting burnt.
      Thanks again ❤️

    • @Elizabeth-yg2mg
      @Elizabeth-yg2mg 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Poor baybeez.

  • @Michaelinsantamonica
    @Michaelinsantamonica 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yup, 100% ✊ this guy is the truth
    The moment I read, “The State becomes your master”
    I was outraged!
    Those are slave terms and that’s not cool
    It costs more to get a divorce than to get a marriage certificate, that’s a financial trap if you ask me

  • @TimothyWiley-r2b
    @TimothyWiley-r2b 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm 70 and divorced 2 and a half times, the last one hasn't made up her mind yet, that being said no more marriage, I'll just have to shack up now... but good advice guys, all three left when I was recovering from in order, a near death motor cycle wreck, the second after a near killing heart attack and the last one, the half one just because my SSI and VA pension wasn't enough, and I was getting to old for her....

  • @markh4926
    @markh4926 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wouldn't get "legally" married but if her and I wanted to stay together without legal entanglement, I'd ask her if she would like to marry in front of our friends and family. Just my thought.

  • @sherwinstaudt1881
    @sherwinstaudt1881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    In my mid 60s never been married never will, stay working and busy and hobbies, that's the key. Employ you a maid to clean your house and your pipes once in awhile lol.

  • @Classicrock4u
    @Classicrock4u 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For those of you that are a Christian like me Remember What the Bible says About Extramarital Sex you're never too old to get married but if your marriage isn't based on a lifelong commitment to each other it's not going to work

  • @dasdguy7606
    @dasdguy7606 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good advice.

  • @kennethmelnychuk9737
    @kennethmelnychuk9737 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In Canada, a common law relationship >6 months is considered marriage, so idk(?)

  • @jn3750
    @jn3750 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wise, sir. thank you!

  • @Bibleinformationandhelp
    @Bibleinformationandhelp หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is one problem though. Marriage is spiritual. If you want to engage in a certain things, spiritually you should be married. Even though it may not be logical concerning the law.

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You can be married spiritutually, do the ceremony and everything, and just don't do the legal part. Marriage is between the man, the woman, and God.

    • @seascape35
      @seascape35 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adim00lah If you marry in front of any clergyman, then won't the State insist you were married? Even in a non-religious ceremony, won't the State still bud in if one of the partners want it to in divorce?

    • @adim00lah
      @adim00lah หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@seascape35 Not without paying for a marriage license. Unless it's a common law state, they can't do anything. Only 8 states have common law.

  • @karenzilverberg4699
    @karenzilverberg4699 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks.

  • @michaelhallas6450
    @michaelhallas6450 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You should think twice about getting married at any age , due to that men do not have any rights in this world and not to mention , it’s very expensive.

  • @raulturturean2497
    @raulturturean2497 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just subscribed to your channel, I like your content, I didn't know divorce lawyers can be found on TH-cam and by the way, Ex- CIA agents with daily routine tips, totally crazy!!! 😂😂😂

  • @phillipstuart3318
    @phillipstuart3318 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Besides the fact that fornicating send the law should’ve never been in marriage at all. What does the state have to do with that?

  • @kumar2ji
    @kumar2ji 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Quite right

  • @beckybaker6907
    @beckybaker6907 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good advice

  • @EdelweisSusie
    @EdelweisSusie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Two ways I look at this:
    1. If you are over 60, have a good work-related/State pension, savings, own a property DO NOT GET MARRIED. There (sadly) are men who will flatter you, love-bomb you and make you feel really wanted, all the time they're trying to get what you have got all by yourself. Be wary.
    2. We have a whole generation of men who are totally screwed up. They went after a good-looking piece of skirt to show her off to their friends (rather than getting to know her morale compass) and she took him for everything: she quickly churned out a few kids so she would be tied to him for life then when they divorced she gets most of his money. Worst thing about all this? It's that when he meets a good woman - someone of strong moral fibre who has her own assets to bring to the table so she doesn't need his - he is an emotionally unavailable commitment-phobe who is so mentally damaged by losing all his money that he just sleeps around, hurting all the women who he meets along the way. No wonder relationships are f-ed!!!

    • @thepragmatist
      @thepragmatist หลายเดือนก่อน

      I completely agree with this. As a single, unmarried woman in her 50s with no children, I have seen this a lot. Then these guys come to me complaining about their exes and wanting me to be their free therapist. I don’t meet many men my age who have truly worked through their divorce. Most are bitter.

    • @histreasure3189
      @histreasure3189 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @"He is an emotionally unavailable commitment-phobe"

  • @edwardrobertson5115
    @edwardrobertson5115 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No marriage .

  • @caucasianafrican1435
    @caucasianafrican1435 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Government needs to get out of the marriage business

  • @terrywigerink3516
    @terrywigerink3516 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another thing to consider is Vance's thoughts about divorce, talking about taking away rights. Something like women can’t get a divorce, men can.

  • @khrys_maxwell
    @khrys_maxwell หลายเดือนก่อน

    💯

  • @PaulSawczyc
    @PaulSawczyc หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Go to the animal shelter, and get a pet.

  • @ZombiemanOhhellnaw
    @ZombiemanOhhellnaw หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hold up, let him cook

  • @markrussell4682
    @markrussell4682 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Marriage is literally never necessary.

  • @DrPhilGoode
    @DrPhilGoode หลายเดือนก่อน

    But my Jesus of Bethlehem said I would go to hell if I didn’t follow my pastors lead. 🤣

    • @Elizabeth-yg2mg
      @Elizabeth-yg2mg 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Some pastors are up to no good. The one at my cousin's church was screwing a woman in the congregation. 😮

  • @Randy-qg6rw
    @Randy-qg6rw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Of course it's necessary... fornication is a terrible sin.. what he says is true, but what he doesn't tell you is what happens after you die if you do this... God Bless

    • @tondaqakin3275
      @tondaqakin3275 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Randy-qg6rw marriage is front of God, there is not paperwork described in scriptures.
      Couple should go to counseling it never hurt and marry alone w God.

    • @willbark6430
      @willbark6430 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds like a rule for long term space travel

  • @maxiomburrows2099
    @maxiomburrows2099 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you were not successful the first time....

  • @ilovemelodyjane
    @ilovemelodyjane หลายเดือนก่อน

    Survivor benefits

  • @tenajyak
    @tenajyak 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Marriage is a covenant with God between a man and a woman. There will be no divorce.

  • @fire_ant_187x7
    @fire_ant_187x7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So I had to wait till the last 7 or 8 words of this video to understand what he was saying😒

  • @markboyle417
    @markboyle417 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Get a dog ❤

  • @allywolf9182
    @allywolf9182 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well if you believe in God and follow his rules.....

  • @lawrenceracies9578
    @lawrenceracies9578 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Tell me you're a pagan without telling me.

    • @jtmack77
      @jtmack77 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Rise of the Pagan. How to not be honest with yourself or the world.

    • @sntmdsa3628
      @sntmdsa3628 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Staying single and free is biblical

  • @thesignman704
    @thesignman704 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just not the kind allowed by God. So, your advice is to live in sin to avoid losing your hard earned stuff.

  • @bryanroye1112
    @bryanroye1112 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ya but where does God come in to your hypothesis. Let me guess you don’t think he is real? Sex before marriage bad.

  • @tenajyak
    @tenajyak 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just got married, a covenant marriage at 61, my husband is 44. So glad we don't subscribe to any of this nonsense.

  • @WHITELIONNYC
    @WHITELIONNYC 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    💯