I've been suffering with extreme anxiety and insomnia since my sister passed. Your videos keep me looking to improve myself. I'm so glad I'm not permanently damaged, and there is hope for me.
You can work through this anxious episode. My mum has just passed. A great book to read is anxiety the missing stage of grief. It helped me and this too shall pass. Much love
Sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure you've been told this but remember to allow yourself time and space to grieve and process. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you for your videos Tim. I found your channel after watching your TED talk where you said something that changed something in me in a very good way: "Anxiety is not an illness, it's an emotion.". It was so powerful to me that it made my eyes watery, and after having that change of prespective I am now able to accept this feeling, instead of trying to reject it.
Good point. It's like when we have thoughts about doing something bad or out of character: the fact we recognise them as bad tells us we don't need to fear any possibility of carrying out those thoughts.
My anxiety has been heightened due to perimenopause which is very common. Also my mum has passed and the book anxiety, the missing stage of grief is amazing. Also watch all of Dr Clare weeks videos. She gets it x
Hormonal changes can have a big impact. Not my specialist area, but worth being aware of when we are seeking to understand why we feel the way we do. Thanks Loz.
Very helpful. However, I wish mind coaches would address issues where a serious, ongoing life event is leading to anxiety. Not things like work deadlines, but serious family illness, painful child custody issues, etc.
Barbara this is a really good point and something I think I will be covering in either a live or in a future video. We'll often give examples of everyday concerns because these are perhaps most relatable to the wider audience, but I think it's in those times of extreme concern that these strategies become most important to implement. Thank you for commenting Barbara. Watch this space for more on this. Tim.
So sorry to hear this. It can be the expectation of the eventual panic attack that actually causes it. Dissociation can be a scary experience and I can see why your mind might have triggered a panic response in the face of that confusion and concern, but the journey out the other side involves recognising that whilst the experience of dissociating can be disconcerting it isn't dangerous. This enables a less panicked response when it happens and soon depotentiates the process. Hope this helps.
Your content is amazingly helpful for me Tim! You deserve more views! I recommend attacking TH-cam, Instagram and tik tok ‘reels’ as they’re the preferred content for out short attention spans these days 😂
Thanks, Brendan. I much prefer the longer format of TH-cam as I think it suits the subject matter but I have made a cautious step towards the dark side and I now have a TikTok account! ;)
Hi !Tim,I think this video is excellent.But you say that Anxiety can't hurt damage or kill us,once we've realised that and accepted that at a subconscious level,the second fear disipates.How do you get to that subconscious level.Regards G
Hi Gordon. This is a great question so I had a crack at answering it in the live last week. In short, accepting something at a subconscious level is referring to that moment when we accept something as true. When we have parts of us with conflicting beliefs we end up with cognitive dissonance (knowing something is true but behaving as if it isn’t). Clearing that cognitive dissonance is achieved by removing or invalidating the conflicting beliefs. Check the live out for more on this: th-cam.com/video/tnYSpyTMOuc/w-d-xo.html
Tim,I have been racked with anxiety most of this week.It normally starts in the morning,with the knot in the stomach.After forcing my self to work, throughout the day I am on edge,worried if something will happen that I can't cope with.I have been in my Job for many years so know I can do it.Have watched most of you Videos many times,and they make total sense,I should be able to accept feeling anxious,and know their is no threat to me.What am I missing? Thankyou for your help Gordon
Gordon, I think it would largely depend on what you feel your anxious about. Maybe you’re anxious about some aspect of life/work etc and are confusing it for ‘anxiety out of nowhere’. Accepting feeling anxious means recognising that anxiety is a healthy emotional function. Even when it feels unnecessary there’s always a purpose behind it. Working out what that is can often help us understand and work with it.
@@TimBoxMindCoach Thankyou for your reply,Its a feeling of being on edge,afraid something will happen that I can't cope with.Thankyou for your reply it is so much appreciated
A video about how parterns of people with anxiety can deal with the situation would be helpful. I feel that Im putting to much of a burden on my fiancé.
So accepting is mostly about removing that “second anxiety”, fear of anxiety itself? Would you recommend the same strategy for someone who doesn’t exactly fear anxiety, but constantly feel fearful of various things outside their control? War, social collapse, global warming… There is no end to things my mind think is important and really frightening. But I can’t say I am afraid of anxiety, I get that it is an emotion and not a sickness. But it’s still very disruptive in my life.
Peter, it's worth remembering that when we focus concerns on something it's a part of our subconscious trying to inspire action to change it in some way. There are times when we need to recognise that we're now focussing on things we can't change and have no influence over. Reminding ourself of the things experience has taught us can be of value: 1. What we fear is not as likely to happen as we think. 2. The effects of it happening are not as dire as we fear. 3. Our ability to cope with adversity is far greater than we give ourselves credit. A good qualifier I use for my own thought process is whether I would class what I was now doing as 'worrying'. Worrying is when I get concerned about things that I can do nothing about. If I find myself worrying than I know it's time to shift my focus to more productive thoughts. Hope these thoughts are of value.
Hi. Without knowing the specific background behind this I'm not really in a position to comment definitively (that might be something to do 1-2-1 with a chosen professional) but assuming you've had a doctor rule out anything physical going on a general piece of advice would be to remind yourself that this feeling won't ever actually stop you breathing. You'll always remain safe in that respect. Lowering the stakes in this way can help our mind stop focussing on it and after all, it's the heightened focus on it that perpetuates the feeling. Hope this helps
Hi Tim thank you so much for this video !😁🌞 I just have a question -i am recovering fro pretty severe Me/cfs and basically doing the simplest tasks cause anxiety /fear about how unwell the task will cause me to feel or cause symptomsto flare up (hard to explain one sentence 🤣) but what I've been learning is that stress/anxiety is potentially the main thing keeping me stuck in the fight flight loop and that's basically why people struggle to recover ,in a very simplified nut shell! So my question is how to not fear or have anxiety about the anxiety or about the symptoms when I know stress/anxiety is actually the main thing keeping me stuck/stopping my body from being able to get out of fight flight and able to recover or sometimes makes me get even worse 🤣😅 Sorry for this long question but really hope it makes sense! Thank you so much 🌞
Hi Megan. This question makes perfect sense. Whilst I'm not an expert on me/cfs it might be worth recognising that stress and anxiety are different things. Anxiety is the emotion that we feel when we recognise something as important and the stress response is the physical reaction to feeling under threat. It's the stress response that exhausts us. Doing what you need to to make sure you don't feel under threat from each activity would be a good start here (perhaps looking after your health and wellbeing as the number one priority in your life). I know many who deal with fatigue will often get frustrated with themselves and try to push through and 'refuse to let it beat me'. It can feel uncomfortable to put our own self care first, but it's often what we have to do to. I think you've accurately highlighted the concern being conveyed from your subconscious. It's what you do with that information that matters now. Hope this thought helps.
@@TimBoxMindCoach thank you so much for your reply! -i just wanted to say it's pretty amazing how many people you take your time to respond to, I'm sure everyone is super grateful for the work you do 🙏
I've been suffering with extreme anxiety and insomnia since my sister passed. Your videos keep me looking to improve myself. I'm so glad I'm not permanently damaged, and there is hope for me.
You can work through this anxious episode. My mum has just passed. A great book to read is anxiety the missing stage of grief. It helped me and this too shall pass. Much love
@@lozb1631 thanks, you're not the first to recommend that book. I'll be picking it up.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I'm sure you've been told this but remember to allow yourself time and space to grieve and process. Wishing you all the best.
Acceptance help us understand anxiety better. Anxiety is here to help not to hurt us .listen to it
You nailed it! Great video. You guys may also like
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Thank you for your videos Tim. I found your channel after watching your TED talk where you said something that changed something in me in a very good way: "Anxiety is not an illness, it's an emotion.". It was so powerful to me that it made my eyes watery, and after having that change of prespective I am now able to accept this feeling, instead of trying to reject it.
So pleased to hear this. :)
Thanks Tim.
You're very welcome. :)
Your videos are so amazing. Thank you.
Thank you so much. I'm glad they're proving of value.
I was told of you can ask yourself am I going mad?' Then you're not because if you we're mad you wouldn't be asking yourself that question x
Good point.
It's like when we have thoughts about doing something bad or out of character: the fact we recognise them as bad tells us we don't need to fear any possibility of carrying out those thoughts.
I’M SO THANKFUL I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL. Thank you!!! Honestly thank you isn’t enough, but thank you, thank you thank you.
Jade, you're so welcome. I'm glad the videos are helping.
Tim thanks for the videos, many people pay for this advice and you share it with the world. Thanks!!!
You're very welcome. :)
My anxiety has been heightened due to perimenopause which is very common. Also my mum has passed and the book anxiety, the missing stage of grief is amazing. Also watch all of Dr Clare weeks videos. She gets it x
Hormonal changes can have a big impact. Not my specialist area, but worth being aware of when we are seeking to understand why we feel the way we do. Thanks Loz.
I’ve had 24/7 on edge anxiety for like 6 months now. I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle and can’t get out
Very helpful. However, I wish mind coaches would address issues where a serious, ongoing life event is leading to anxiety. Not things like work deadlines, but serious family illness, painful child custody issues, etc.
Barbara this is a really good point and something I think I will be covering in either a live or in a future video.
We'll often give examples of everyday concerns because these are perhaps most relatable to the wider audience, but I think it's in those times of extreme concern that these strategies become most important to implement.
Thank you for commenting Barbara. Watch this space for more on this.
Tim.
My anxiety is mainly visual the world just dont look right. Its weird then eventually i just get a panic attack after feeling weird
So sorry to hear this.
It can be the expectation of the eventual panic attack that actually causes it.
Dissociation can be a scary experience and I can see why your mind might have triggered a panic response in the face of that confusion and concern, but the journey out the other side involves recognising that whilst the experience of dissociating can be disconcerting it isn't dangerous. This enables a less panicked response when it happens and soon depotentiates the process.
Hope this helps.
Your content is amazingly helpful for me Tim! You deserve more views! I recommend attacking TH-cam, Instagram and tik tok ‘reels’ as they’re the preferred content for out short attention spans these days 😂
Thanks, Brendan.
I much prefer the longer format of TH-cam as I think it suits the subject matter but I have made a cautious step towards the dark side and I now have a TikTok account! ;)
No level of anxiety will break you!!! :-)
Hear hear! 😊❤️
Hi !Tim,I think this video is excellent.But you say that Anxiety can't hurt damage or kill us,once we've realised that and accepted that at a subconscious level,the second fear disipates.How do you get to that subconscious level.Regards G
Hi Gordon.
This is a great question so I had a crack at answering it in the live last week.
In short, accepting something at a subconscious level is referring to that moment when we accept something as true.
When we have parts of us with conflicting beliefs we end up with cognitive dissonance (knowing something is true but behaving as if it isn’t). Clearing that cognitive dissonance is achieved by removing or invalidating the conflicting beliefs.
Check the live out for more on this:
th-cam.com/video/tnYSpyTMOuc/w-d-xo.html
Tim,I have been racked with anxiety most of this week.It normally starts in the morning,with the knot in the stomach.After forcing my self to work, throughout the day I am on edge,worried if something will happen that I can't cope with.I have been in my Job for many years so know I can do it.Have watched most of you Videos many times,and they make total sense,I should be able to accept feeling anxious,and know their is no threat to me.What am I missing? Thankyou for your help Gordon
Gordon, I think it would largely depend on what you feel your anxious about.
Maybe you’re anxious about some aspect of life/work etc and are confusing it for ‘anxiety out of nowhere’.
Accepting feeling anxious means recognising that anxiety is a healthy emotional function. Even when it feels unnecessary there’s always a purpose behind it. Working out what that is can often help us understand and work with it.
@@TimBoxMindCoach Thankyou for your reply,Its a feeling of being on edge,afraid something will happen that I can't cope with.Thankyou for your reply it is so much appreciated
A video about how parterns of people with anxiety can deal with the situation would be helpful. I feel that Im putting to much of a burden on my fiancé.
James, I'll get to work on this, and I'll also talk about it in the live this Friday.
So accepting is mostly about removing that “second anxiety”, fear of anxiety itself? Would you recommend the same strategy for someone who doesn’t exactly fear anxiety, but constantly feel fearful of various things outside their control? War, social collapse, global warming… There is no end to things my mind think is important and really frightening. But I can’t say I am afraid of anxiety, I get that it is an emotion and not a sickness. But it’s still very disruptive in my life.
Peter, it's worth remembering that when we focus concerns on something it's a part of our subconscious trying to inspire action to change it in some way.
There are times when we need to recognise that we're now focussing on things we can't change and have no influence over.
Reminding ourself of the things experience has taught us can be of value:
1. What we fear is not as likely to happen as we think.
2. The effects of it happening are not as dire as we fear.
3. Our ability to cope with adversity is far greater than we give ourselves credit.
A good qualifier I use for my own thought process is whether I would class what I was now doing as 'worrying'. Worrying is when I get concerned about things that I can do nothing about.
If I find myself worrying than I know it's time to shift my focus to more productive thoughts.
Hope these thoughts are of value.
Mr. Tim i got this feeling that i get choked, is there anything we could do about this?!
Hi.
Without knowing the specific background behind this I'm not really in a position to comment definitively (that might be something to do 1-2-1 with a chosen professional) but assuming you've had a doctor rule out anything physical going on a general piece of advice would be to remind yourself that this feeling won't ever actually stop you breathing. You'll always remain safe in that respect.
Lowering the stakes in this way can help our mind stop focussing on it and after all, it's the heightened focus on it that perpetuates the feeling.
Hope this helps
thank you, for once i don’t feel alone.
You're welcome Hunter. Glad this was helpful.
Hi Tim thank you so much for this video !😁🌞 I just have a question -i am recovering fro pretty severe Me/cfs and basically doing the simplest tasks cause anxiety /fear about how unwell the task will cause me to feel or cause symptomsto flare up (hard to explain one sentence 🤣) but what I've been learning is that stress/anxiety is potentially the main thing keeping me stuck in the fight flight loop and that's basically why people struggle to recover ,in a very simplified nut shell! So my question is how to not fear or have anxiety about the anxiety or about the symptoms when I know stress/anxiety is actually the main thing keeping me stuck/stopping my body from being able to get out of fight flight and able to recover or sometimes makes me get even worse 🤣😅
Sorry for this long question but really hope it makes sense!
Thank you so much 🌞
Hi Megan.
This question makes perfect sense.
Whilst I'm not an expert on me/cfs it might be worth recognising that stress and anxiety are different things.
Anxiety is the emotion that we feel when we recognise something as important and the stress response is the physical reaction to feeling under threat. It's the stress response that exhausts us.
Doing what you need to to make sure you don't feel under threat from each activity would be a good start here (perhaps looking after your health and wellbeing as the number one priority in your life).
I know many who deal with fatigue will often get frustrated with themselves and try to push through and 'refuse to let it beat me'. It can feel uncomfortable to put our own self care first, but it's often what we have to do to.
I think you've accurately highlighted the concern being conveyed from your subconscious. It's what you do with that information that matters now.
Hope this thought helps.
@@TimBoxMindCoach thank you so much for your reply! -i just wanted to say it's pretty amazing how many people you take your time to respond to, I'm sure everyone is super grateful for the work you do 🙏
@@meganobrien1019 thank you. :)
You're literally saving my life man🤍 , this video is what I needed