I’m 73 now. When I was in my 20s, I was in love and I thought I was going to get married but she married the other guy. But at least she was nice enough to invite me to the wedding so that I could take their wedding pictures. At the time I was devastated. But I realize now that it happened for the best. The guy she married is miserable. She made him get a house right next to her mother‘s in Pennsylvania! I know that I could never have stood that. I feel so sorry for him.
If she married the other guy, why were you willing to attend and take their wedding pictures? I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite, but I was invited and attended a “friend’s” wedding reception. This was about twenty-five years ago and regret attending because if I’m not good enough to be invited to her wedding, I was good enough to be a filler for her reception as since learned she’s a narc or some other illness affliction and everyone was for the production. I’m older now and decades out of being invited to these events which are just excuses for wedding gifts.
@ I never said that I attended the wedding ceremony. I just said that I was invited so that I could take the wedding pictures. I never wanted to see her again.
Well, masculinity and femininity are aspects that everyone has to have in balance, both men and women. The problem is that women don't understand that it's in their blood to be playing a victim. It simply is an evolutionary advantage in the world of animals, where the female nags the male into improving the life. But as humans we've reached a certain level where this is completely unnecessary, and is causing frustration for men, and unhappiness to women. Women live incredibly easy lives, but they are spiritually completely stagnant, unable to understand what about themselves they have to get over. A woman unaware of the fact that it's in her blood to play the victim, to be in constant want of more, is a woman that's unable of truly living. I have a girlfriend, but in many ways I have to deal with her like I would deal with a child. I'm not saying that to offend, I'm saying that because many women don't know about certain things about life that basically every man is forced to learn in his life. So women, whilst protected from the very dark aspects of reality, are very discontent in their ignorance. Not only that, but they are being brainwashed into being afraid. While it's 0.001% of men who are actually dangerous, they have been brainwashed into thinking that 100% of men are out there to get them. I'm saying this without any spite, I just understand certain aspects of human psychology that most people seem to be ignorant of. In their fantasies they are victims, while in reality the victims are the everyday men who keep this faecal-show running.
I wouldn't say masculine, but wayyy too independent and self centered. A lot of woman tend to be a bit shallow when they have something else to focus on instead of a man or children, they usually have fake, shallow friends which pretend to support their efforts which doesn't help. All their effort seems to go towards themselves instead of new life or people. Not all woman are like that. But definitely at least 50%
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
It depends on what the other person wants. Not everyone wants children or it all to be about having loads of money. Some of us are looking for the non-superficial stuff, and to work towards a better life together with another person who would like the same.
@@axjkhl7699 I disagree. I am a woman and I have dated men who have money and status and they have done nothing for my happiness. They often have expected me to be a doormat because they have more money and status than I had or have. I have my own thoughts and dreams, feelings and values and I didn't have children because I always swore I would never have children with a man who just sees life that way with a woman. It's not fair on children to bring them up in a miserable environment that rotates around a marriage built on what they think is due to what the woman can get from them financially. I know there are a lot of women who do not think as I do, but there are those who do too. Just as men are not all alike, there are women who are aware of the real things in life that bring happiness to a relationship that lasts. It is also a two way avenue. Why do men tell themselves that these things are important to a female with regards to being with a man? In previous generations where less opportunities were available (or none) for women to gain their own status and income, I understand the mentality, but that does not apply in the same way nowadays.
Thank you for these comments. This is exactly the message I want to convey. There’s so many men in their bubbles actually believing that these stereotypes apply to 100% of women. Relationships are about dynamics between the 2 and it’s about a whole lot more than money. Saying “I can’t afford it emotionally” is a great statement though since it’s very difficult to have a good relationship if you are not in the right headspace to work things out together.
That's the age I was when I genuinely believed I should be single the rest of my life. I'm 3 months away from 60 now, and my plan has not changed. I'm very content.
I'm 58 and have never been married, nor do I have children. Moreover, I never had any remote desire to be tied down given what I saw growing up with regards to my parent's marriage. I've always been a solitary type of guy and one who loves and values his freedom and autonomy, both professionally and privately. And as an artist (painter, photographer, and writer), categorically, I will never be bothered to explain or apologize for the fact.
internet and social media turned social dynamics upside down and really messed up the relationship between men and women. It's definitely a major part of why society is the way it is today.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
i legit saw a woman make a whole page about hating men and she got thousands of approval from women............THAT SHOULD TELL US EVERYTHING WE NEED TO KNOW
Im 61, dated a few women in the last 4 years, only 1 came close to being perfect. The rest, gold diggers, Narcissists and players. I was married for 28 years until my wife had 2 affairs. Women are unapproachable these days. They only want a guy with a 6 figure job, nice house, car and the looks to match. If you are none of those things your screwed. I hate to be negative, but women just dont care any longer and its all want, want, want !!! Being a decent, honest, loving guy gets you nowhere.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
It's been years since I even thought about dating. I don't know what happened, I just got discouraged and stopped trying.. Like most of my friends I gave up years ago.. I'm fit, tall, make good money, own a nice home. I just don't try because I didn't like how I'm treated when I do.
Yeah, if you don’t find someone by chance in a way where you can essentially skip the dating part, it doesn’t really feel worth the negative feeling of the whole ordeal. My brother is dating now like his life depends on it and it sucks to listen to because of how many girls he has to go through.
As a 52-year-old, introverted 6'4" man. I have dated quite a lot of women. Maybe 2% of them were marriage material, and that was with a low standard bar of acceptance. Most women today have little to offer but expect the world to revolve around them. It's the entitlement, solipsism, and selfishness that women have developed that will keep many of them single.
People blame the internet a lot but for me it is a refuge For someone who never fit in even before the internet having access to this online world was a huge relief
That’s a great perspective. It was the same for me when I was in my early teens actually, but I had forgotten that by now. Thank you for reminding me of this point of view!
I'm conventionally 'attractive' wtf that means but I stopped in 2018. I can't in my good conscious give any time to people who've completely become unhinged, hateful and nothing like I remember them in the late 90s -mid 2000s.
Thanks for sharing! I really do hope “the pendulum swings back” and something forces people to become more grounded and realistic again but I wouldn’t hold my breath, despite my message in this video.
Yeah I'm in a similar boat - considered attractive and I do get attention, but I've been struggling ever since 2016. Meeting women is really difficult, but just when I think i've met one I like, there's always some fckery around the corner.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
@@who_is_disDating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
Im what you can consider a chad-lite, not short of options but I opted out entirely. Having grown up witnessing the dysfunction in my family and that of others, the promiscuity and radicalization of women thru social media and the torture married men endure during and after marriage, I thought f all that.
Also in the Bhagavad Gita wich is a bit over 5000 years old. It goes into detail about female nature and how society needs to handle it in order to avoid civilization collapsing. I used to think ancient scripture was misogynistic until I began to see the exact same thing playing out today. As soon as women were liberated by a combination of technologies and legal privileges, and given tools like social media, they defaulted to unrestrained hypergamy and promiscuity, wich is the side of the feminine that is socially destructive. People of the past knew better and by enforcing certain societal rules they were not trying to oppress us, but to protect us and their societies.
To be fair, I didn’t pursue women much at all except online. But I suppose your point still stands in the sense that it proves just how difficult it is to attract women online if you don’t display extraordinary wealth or status
I'm glad you understand Actually I'm talking about being very good at a hobby besides gym and job for example chess, tennis and the like. But I think the part that most men skip is that they don't have hobbies related to intelligence In other words many men only focus on the physical part of the hobbies. They dont have hobbies that focus on intelligence such as chess@@indiesorcerer
Yeah, the society changed but the laws didn’t. With something like 70% of divorces being issued by women in the US, it’s not just about trust and romance anymore.
I see nothing wrong with being alone, Im 29 had a relationship when I was 15-19, but apart from that nothing. I enjoy my own company, I do only worry about when im 65+ and will have no family alive but myself, but oh well
josh....don't worry about being 65+ and single....i'm 74.....single and grateful for that... some of us are better off alone.....not lonely at all but self suffucient strong and happy
I agree with windman, it's wonderful to see Finland in late Autumn being transformed into a winter wonderland. Already giving me flashbacks back to August when I made the trip down south to Australia's alpine region. Truly something magical/mystical about about snow.
There is also very feminine women outside the west, who are family oriented. If you feel like the common guy, completely invisible. The common woman is raised to be independent and this leads to a lot of women who cant figure out how to fit men in to their life.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
Having other peoples fake lives forced down our throats via social media, that's the problem. Women always want what other women have, this is the very reason and purpose of the fashion industry. Not having the minimalist home, the fancy cars, it makes them unhappy.
You said something very important in passing... you met your girlfriend at a medieval festival. And that's the important part, go do the things you like, do your favourite sport, take evening classes in something you're interested in, go hiking or horse riding or to a rock show or whatever you like and if that can be done in a group and/or there are other people there who share this interest, you have a chance to meet new people and who knows, your next girlfriend might be one of them.
Stop caring and start living your life. I think way too many men only care about getting a woman. Woman smell that desperation a mile away. It'll do you no favors. You might end up like me and realize being alone with good friends and family is preferable to the girlfriend rat race.
Men are supposed to want to take care of women and love them but i honestly am incapable of feeling anything for most of them. There was one girl who was really special to me, she was one of a kind in many regards. And unfortunately she died recently from something that has insanely low chance of happening and I could not have predicted it in a million years, it was out of my control. In hindsight had i been more direct, there is a chance butterfly effect would have prevented it but there is just no way i could have known. I feel really bad not just because of a loss of someone special to something so avoidable but also a lot of answered questions and no resolution.
I think the issue today is, they are all looking for a meal ticket ( looks unimportant ) so they can laze about all day, and hang about nail salons, spa's and shopping Malls with their shallow vacuous friends - while the 'husband' works like stink to pay for everything.
I've been close several times to completely giving up on women and dating, particularly Australian women whom I've never had any luck with and find immensely confusing haha. I can't speak for most of the rest of the world but here I find the whole culture surrounding dating/relationships to be so toxic to the point that many men have completely given up and are going their own way, and many women have been completely confused to the point that they no longer know what they want. This leads to an unhealthy dynamic forming where people focus on arbitrary status symbols like material possessions and hyper-consumerism, turning to alcohol, p*rn and casual hookups and no longer know what a true a loving relationship looks like. Having spent enough time and effort on dating apps,my main option is to take the longer and more difficult approach of actually maing the effort to get out there and meet real people. I've made some inroads in this department this year, rekindling connections with old school friends, and beginning to form a small like-minded circle. But it's going to take a while to fully snap out of the old patterns of behavior. Respect that you're realistic and straight-forward with your explanations, relating it to your own experiences. Keep up the great work Erno, 300 subs soon!
Thanks for the thoughtful comment as always my friend. As men, we are not in a hurry to find a partner, so I think it’s best to ditch the apps and meet real people instead, even if it takes a long time.
I appreciate your comment brother. I understand where all the cynics and pessimists come from but we need men to hold strong and push back. We can’t all just give up and crawl into darkness. Especially since not all women are “modern” women, which is my main point. Hunt those unicorns.
I quit dating after my last marriage she took or I should say the courts took 75% of EVERYTHING…money/cars/house… That was 15 years ago…the first coupe years were a little tough… The last 13-14 years have been the best of my life… I will never go back the bs/drama of having a female around…
I’m 19(almost 20) 6,3 190-200 pounds like a bulky runner build with a big chest, 6 pack, and broad shoulders. I’ve been blessed with a well off family thanks to generational wealth and I’m going to a community college atm. I have high functioning autism and adhd but I’m very outgoing and have the confidence to talk to people, ask for phone numbers, and etc thanks to my job. I’ve had a rough life and mostly lonely due to me not thinking or like other people. I’ve been searching for something real in a relationship but I’m about to give up on women. At least American women because I put so much effort to meet people but i get turned away and ghosted every time. It’s the same way with just making friends too I find it so tiring and hard when I try to find like minded people who have the same interests only to have them gone the next day. At this point id rather be a hermit lol.
You're right and it's not just men...there is too much narcissism and abuse on both sides. I'm a woman and I have been unfairly treated by men to the point that I've had to be alone for my own well-being. I see good men and good women being terribly treated. If you have a good partner, appreciate it, it's not a given in this world. Otherwise, we have to put our mental and emotional well-being first and be kind to ourselves.
Honestly, I'm discouraged and taking a nice long break from it. I live in a big city and used online dating with a lot of "success" but could never meet the type of woman I was looking for. Almost everyone approached looking for their next relationships while having 1 or more hookup buddies or just wanted their next hookup buddy while pretending they were looking for a relationship. And don't let me get started on horrible projections on what a lot of them thought a man should be - from completely providing for them from date 1 (they're strangers, I'm not throwing my money around like that), being open to polyamory later on, etc.
Thanks for sharing. It really is mentally taxing out there.. I think taking a long break is a smart move and I hope you will meet someone sensible somewhere in the future
As a Scandinavian man who's not tall, I can confirm that many women care about height. At least initially. But that's one bad card. I had women in my life, and I had even been married. I'm not denying that dating is hard these days, not at all. But it's also not as terrible and dark as a lot of these pill influencers claim online. I even had women tell me: INITIALLY, I wanted a tall guy. But if he has a lot of other great qualities, it's not necessarily a dealbreaker. Life is not fair, never have been and never will be.
Yes, because women who are not being shallow and thinking primarily about sexual desires, will often realise that the superficial picture of the man they think they will be physically drawn towards, doesn't matter, when the person standing in front of them turns them on in all the important ways anyway. The real physical attraction that lasts happens after we get to know and admire/desire the important qualities, such as how you think, communicate with us, and if it gets go that stage kiss and hold us. I have kissed men in the past who other women loved to tell me "wow, he is really hot" thinking afterwards, "he isn't because he is grabby, kisses in a mechanical, non caring way and is only talking about himself rather than being inclusive" and that means the physical attraction goes out of window in seconds. There has to be more there than fulfilling "the looks and status" expectations. To my mind, that is such a BS way as a female to see men. How can anybody expect to be contented when that's all they're viewing a potential partner as, for a future with them? There's much more to it than that. It is about communication on every level unless a person wants different partners anyway and doesn't really want to be with and invest in one specific person in the long-term anyway...and relationships require work from both people, so if the communication and intentions aren't there, then it is destined not to "work" anyway.
@@ryantucker2166 Does that matter at all if none of those ethnic & European women are in Scandinavia? What does it do to me if some random woman a thousand miles away is into me 😅 That does nothing for me.
As a Canadian of 5'6 who's had more girlfriends than all my tall friends I can inform you its attitude and availability not height, status, money or even good looks. I have about 2,000 single women just on my city block. Height does not matter when 300-400 are shorter than me. Especially when they can text me at 1am and i can be there by 1:05am.
@indiesorcerer It will happen and it already started with the men movement and what I call the big correction. Men are rebelling and finding their lost masculinity by refusing to partake in the current crooked system and denying today's twisted reality of gender reversal. It's a change within ourselves is what we need. Once it happens everything else will change too and things will fall in their rightful place.
Guys, don't totally give up on girls. There are still some really good ones out there, but they're usually not going to be found on the dating hook up sites. Meet them the old fashioned way before the dating sites became available. My old boss met the love of his life at Costco at one of the food sample stations. Join clubs, go on hikes, take ballroom dancing lessons or something fun like West Coast Swing and you'll meet a lot of women there and get to know them gradually over the course of many dance lessons.
@jbmoney357 Well, believe it or not, there really are some good ones out there, and yes, I am one of them. I'm having the same difficulty meeting a wonderful man with integrity good moral character and kindness. Not all of us are looking for a meal ticket, as a number of us have supported ourselves well for quite some time. Finally, not all women are self-entitled, superficial, immature messes, but I will admit that a number of them have devolved!
@jamiecloud1897 Let me put it like this...I won't even entertain the idea of a longterm relationship with a woman. It's pointless. You all play games. Life is far too short for that.
Any woman that wants you just because you have money, car, house and other materials things is a woman that will turn her back on you in hard times. Go have fun and if love comes your way good for you but be sure it is love and not lust. A partner worth having always has your back. Women and their strange ideas now days are why so many men do not want a relationship.
The only way to win the game is not to play. Don't give up on women. Don't even aspire to have one. Chase MONEY. Not women. MONEY. That's what will make your life better.
2 Esdras 7:75 I answered and said, "If I have found favor in thy sight, O Lord, show this also to thy servant: whether after death, as soon as every one of us yields up his soul, we shall be kept in rest until those times come when thou wilt renew the creation, or whether we shall be tormented at once?" 76 He answered me and said, "I will show you that also, but do not be associated with those who have shown scorn, nor number yourself among those who are tormented. 77 For you have a treasure of works laid up with the Most High; but it will not be shown to you until the last times. 78 Now, concerning death, the teaching is: When the decisive decree has gone forth from the Most High that a man shall die, as the spirit leaves the body to return again to him who gave it, first of all it adores the glory of the Most High. 79 And if it is one of those who have shown scorn and have not kept the way of the Most High, and who have despised his law, and who have hated those who fear the Most High -- 80 such spirits shall not enter into habitations, but shall immediately wander about in torments, ever grieving and sad, in seven ways. 81 The first way, because they have scorned the law of the Most High. 82 The second way, because they cannot now make a good repentance that they may live. 83 The third way, they shall see the reward laid up for those who have trusted the covenants of the Most High. 84 The fourth way, they shall consider the torment laid up for themselves in the last days. 85 The fifth way, they shall see how the habitations of the others are guarded by angels in profound quiet. 86 The sixth way, they shall see how some of them will pass over into torments. 87 The seventh way, which is worse than all the ways that have been mentioned, because they shall utterly waste away in confusion and be consumed with shame, and shall wither with fear at seeing the glory of the Most High before whom they sinned while they were alive, and before whom they are to be judged in the last times. 88 "Now this is the order of those who have kept the ways of the Most High, when they shall be separated from their mortal body. 89 During the time that they lived in it, they laboriously served the Most High, and withstood danger every hour, that they might keep the law of the Lawgiver perfectly. 90 Therefore this is the teaching concerning them: 91 First of all, they shall see with great joy the glory of him who receives them, for they shall have rest in seven orders. 92 The first order, because they have striven with great effort to overcome the evil thought which was formed with them, that it might not lead them astray from life into death. 93 The second order, because they see the perplexity in which the souls of the unrighteous wander, and the punishment that awaits them. 94 The third order, they see the witness which he who formed them bears concerning them, that while they were alive they kept the law which was given them in trust. 95 The fourth order, they understand the rest which they now enjoy, being gathered into their chambers and guarded by angels in profound quiet, and the glory which awaits them in the last days. 96 The fifth order, they rejoice that they have now escaped what is corruptible, and shall inherit what is to come; and besides they see the straits and toil from which they have been delivered, and the spacious liberty which they are to receive and enjoy in immortality. 97 The sixth order, when it is shown to them how their face is to shine like the sun, and how they are to be made like the light of the stars, being incorruptible from then on. 98 The seventh order, which is greater than all that have been mentioned, because they shall rejoice with boldness, and shall be confident without confusion, and shall be glad without fear, for they hasten to behold the face of him whom they served in life and from whom they are to receive their reward when glorified. 99 This is the order of the souls of the righteous, as henceforth is announced; and the aforesaid are the ways of torment which those who would not give heed shall suffer hereafter." 100 I answered and said, "Will time therefore be given to the souls, after they have been separated from the bodies, to see what you have described to me?" 101 He said to me, "They shall have freedom for seven days, so that during these seven days they may see the things of which you have been told, and afterwards they shall be gathered in their habitations." 102 I answered and said, "If I have found favor in thy sight, show further to me, thy servant, whether on the day of judgment the righteous will be able to intercede for the unrighteous or to entreat the Most High for them, 103 fathers for sons or sons for parents, brothers for brothers, relatives for their kinsmen, or friends for those who are most dear." 104 He answered me and said, "Since you have found favor in my sight, I will show you this also. The day of judgment is decisive and displays to all the seal of truth. Just as now a father does not send his son, or a son his father, or a master his servant, or a friend his dearest friend, to be ill or sleep or eat or be healed in his stead, 105 so no one shall ever pray for another on that day, neither shall any one lay a burden on another; for then every one shall bear his own righteousness and unrighteousness." .....2 Esdras 7:75 ///////////
I have been married to my husband for 43 years.he has been bedriddenfor 6 years..he is starting to walk again.i have a broken dack in 2 places.i took my husband to dr.s i didn.t.i went i came up pre diabetic.i got gym equipment.and i walk around the ranch.8 times.i do all the care for my huneybunny.he.s getting better.we hope for him to drive again..i got me a big christmas pony im going to ride again.we still have hopes and dreams.we are married to the end.we love each other.❤
personally, i don't have a dark outlook being single in fact I very much enjoy it and don't need to do my hair because I don't have any ;) i probably do need to level up in the relationships department a bit though. great video btw.
Actually some people have been made as much as 6” taller by leg lengthening surgery. I don’t recommend it, but you can do something about it if it bothers you, or a person, that much. But none of that matters if you only pursue your SOULMATE and then remain faithful to each other. Your soulmate will love everything about you, unless you have some destructive aspects that need healing and revision. We all need to be honest with ourselves and our closest people. But if you want to be a player, yeah then you need all the things you mentioned. But if you want real love, you don’t need any of those things, you only need your soulmate.
I loved the history lesson he gave on childhood disease. I had ear aches and such and was given antibiotics. I wonder if I would have ever died without antibiotics. Likely people in the past also were malnourished and cold, weakening their immune systems further. He is right we should be happy about technology instead of sad that life is still unfair. But we are not wrong if we try to make it fair.
I was visiting more remote Pacific Islands looking for and found a very nice wife for me. 40 years married with children. Both my wife and I are old and gray now plus trust each other. I think my wife has warren makeup 3-4 times only. But men still ask me where did I find such a good wife.
Excelente video. Saludos desde Mallorca. I gave up on women long ago, I am 60 now, I have an interesting life and I am quite happy. At my age, bringing a woman to my life is bringing chaos. But I am positive, as you say in your video. If I find a women that really loves me, she is wellcome.
Do not make your happiness contingent on meeting a woman. Travel, build a career, get academic qualifications. Do other things. Maybe a good women will come into your life or maybe not but you'll be happy. I'm a very average person; short 5" 5" and now 51 years old. I've been married and now widowed. I've seen the vast open skies of Texas and I've walked the hutongs of Beijing. I've breathed the freshest of air in Norway and and stood on the docks of Singapore. I've seen the Eiffel Tower and the ancient port of Marseille. This year I walked along the shore of Lake Geneva and next year I'll visit Japan. Seek joy for yourself. I grew up poor in a tiny former fishing village in the highlands of Scotland. I've had no advantages in life. Find your own happiness. It's out there waiting for you.
I think that's a fine statement and good advice. By the way I got in plans of a walk along Lake Geneva, and West Highland Way, myself in the near future)
I believe not being a commodity to be acquired, but the magic of love available to everyone. Dismiss your Pre concieved ideas of a perfect love, and open your mind and heart allowing real love in. I gave up on men after a divorce. Never even looked. But by some magic my husband came in to my life. I married him at 61 after 10 years of 'testing' as my damage expected him to leave any minute but he was meant for me. And i for him. Totally unexpected. Our bond is true and real with maturity comes gratitude and flexibility.
Trust nobody, except your loved o es ! Superficial, be open is Ok but the odds find somebody compati le not brainwashed by socie ty are are so low only live your life love what you see or ignore whate you hate only be happy with your own peace of mind !
Exactly 180cm, which seems to be average in Finland at least - although the younger generation has become taller. I see guys 10~ years younger everywhere who are at least 190cm
I'm short, 5'7" but I can date women and yeah they are on the short side too. I've been married before she was just 5 feet tall, but a beautiful asian woman from Thailand. It lasted about 14 years, and we have 2 kids that are grown now. We were separated around 6 years and then I went to an attorney, and then after awhile the divorce was finalized. I guess I'm saying if you're short well there are some short women too.
She stopped talking after i showed a little anger & i apologised later. But she too did same thing to me earlier, but i didn’t stopped talking. We used to behave like good friends..... She is near 50.,...healthy..... I,m 27... But,,,,as i,m attached to her Beauty 😂.....she keeps remains remains in my mind always 😢😢
I'm well into my seventies and have witnessed over fifty divorces among friends and co-workers, all but two initiated by the wife. They always got the kids, and with the kids came the house, child support, alimony, and half the retirement. Worse, they often messed around with the child visitation or moved out of state with the kids altogether. What men don't realize today is that women MARRY THE STATE, not the man. With the state backing them up, they can do pretty much whatever they desire, which is often self-destructive for the family. "Break up the family unit and you destroy the country" - Lenin
Women can be brutally vicious. The one divorce close to me had the wife try to keep the child to herself, despite having no family left on her side - meanwhile the father’s side has big, close, loving family. Very interesting how you put it - “marrying the state”. Thank you for your input, experience and knowledge. Take care!
I don't really think the game has ever been easy. I've always ached for humanity at large for all the loneliness and alienation that so many experience. There are plenty of lonely woman out there that men don't find attractive. They suffer the same. I wish for everyone to be able to cultivate as much platonic intimacy (good friends) as possible so that the absence of romantic love doesn't sting so much. Get and give hugs to all your friends and pals. We are mammals and need touch. Platonic snuggles help.
I’m 73 now. When I was in my 20s, I was in love and I thought I was going to get married but she married the other guy. But at least she was nice enough to invite me to the wedding so that I could take their wedding pictures. At the time I was devastated. But I realize now that it happened for the best. The guy she married is miserable. She made him get a house right next to her mother‘s in Pennsylvania! I know that I could never have stood that. I feel so sorry for him.
If she married the other guy, why were you willing to attend and take their wedding pictures? I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite, but I was invited and attended a “friend’s” wedding reception. This was about twenty-five years ago and regret attending because if I’m not good enough to be invited to her wedding, I was good enough to be a filler for her reception as since learned she’s a narc or some other illness affliction and everyone was for the production. I’m older now and decades out of being invited to these events which are just excuses for wedding gifts.
@ I never said that I attended the wedding ceremony. I just said that I was invited so that I could take the wedding pictures. I never wanted to see her again.
@ Gotcha. My apology to you Sir.
Western mind set... it's common for multi-family homes in Eastern Europe and Asia, etc.. west sux.
@ I understand that in Europe, it is common for three or four men to share the same bed. That is why I’m glad I’m an American.
Nobody gave up, we put down the burden
Exactly.
I'm old and young guys have been dealt a bad hand..,.young western women are extremely masculine today.
Not masculine, just arrogant
Well, masculinity and femininity are aspects that everyone has to have in balance, both men and women.
The problem is that women don't understand that it's in their blood to be playing a victim. It simply is an evolutionary advantage in the world of animals, where the female nags the male into improving the life. But as humans we've reached a certain level where this is completely unnecessary, and is causing frustration for men, and unhappiness to women.
Women live incredibly easy lives, but they are spiritually completely stagnant, unable to understand what about themselves they have to get over.
A woman unaware of the fact that it's in her blood to play the victim, to be in constant want of more, is a woman that's unable of truly living.
I have a girlfriend, but in many ways I have to deal with her like I would deal with a child. I'm not saying that to offend, I'm saying that because many women don't know about certain things about life that basically every man is forced to learn in his life. So women, whilst protected from the very dark aspects of reality, are very discontent in their ignorance. Not only that, but they are being brainwashed into being afraid. While it's 0.001% of men who are actually dangerous, they have been brainwashed into thinking that 100% of men are out there to get them.
I'm saying this without any spite, I just understand certain aspects of human psychology that most people seem to be ignorant of.
In their fantasies they are victims, while in reality the victims are the everyday men who keep this faecal-show running.
I wouldn't say masculine, but wayyy too independent and self centered. A lot of woman tend to be a bit shallow when they have something else to focus on instead of a man or children, they usually have fake, shallow friends which pretend to support their efforts which doesn't help. All their effort seems to go towards themselves instead of new life or people. Not all woman are like that. But definitely at least 50%
Man heads its called!!!
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
There is no point in fighting a losing battle.
Agreed 110%
The only battle that you're guaranteed to lose is the one you didn't bother to fight.
"The only way to not lose is to refuse to play the game in the first place"
I totally agree!!! 👍
I can't afford a relationship financially or emotionally
It depends on what the other person wants. Not everyone wants children or it all to be about having loads of money. Some of us are looking for the non-superficial stuff, and to work towards a better life together with another person who would like the same.
@@happyhands117if the other person is a women she definitely wants lots of things from the other person aka the man
@@axjkhl7699 I disagree. I am a woman and I have dated men who have money and status and they have done nothing for my happiness. They often have expected me to be a doormat because they have more money and status than I had or have. I have my own thoughts and dreams, feelings and values and I didn't have children because I always swore I would never have children with a man who just sees life that way with a woman. It's not fair on children to bring them up in a miserable environment that rotates around a marriage built on what they think is due to what the woman can get from them financially. I know there are a lot of women who do not think as I do, but there are those who do too. Just as men are not all alike, there are women who are aware of the real things in life that bring happiness to a relationship that lasts. It is also a two way avenue. Why do men tell themselves that these things are important to a female with regards to being with a man? In previous generations where less opportunities were available (or none) for women to gain their own status and income, I understand the mentality, but that does not apply in the same way nowadays.
They're not worth it anyway.
Thank you for these comments. This is exactly the message I want to convey. There’s so many men in their bubbles actually believing that these stereotypes apply to 100% of women. Relationships are about dynamics between the 2 and it’s about a whole lot more than money.
Saying “I can’t afford it emotionally” is a great statement though since it’s very difficult to have a good relationship if you are not in the right headspace to work things out together.
4 things a younger man needs to do 1. bank the cash, 2. exercise, 3. keep their standards, and 4. move abroad
Cash is trash. Buy Bitcoin and keep your keys (12 words) in your head.
I'm 55 and decided I'm better off alone. Only when I really believed that statement did I stop looking.
Thanks for sharing, it’s always good to hear from people who have more life experience
I am also becoming better of alone, at my 51 years , Because God is with me. Pwy.
Most relationships are a farce.
Same age here. It is a kind of limbo age where no one really knows where to put you, haha
That's the age I was when I genuinely believed I should be single the rest of my life. I'm 3 months away from 60 now, and my plan has not changed. I'm very content.
I'm 58 and have never been married, nor do I have children. Moreover, I never had any remote desire to be tied down given what I saw growing up with regards to my parent's marriage.
I've always been a solitary type of guy and one who loves and values his freedom and autonomy, both professionally and privately. And as an artist (painter, photographer, and writer), categorically, I will never be bothered to explain or apologize for the fact.
You sound like a true free soul. I’m glad to hear about your unique path in life, thanks for sharing!
The problem is not the internet, it's the people who are superficial and fake.
Internet and social media makes people extra superficial
internet and social media turned social dynamics upside down and really messed up the relationship between men and women. It's definitely a major part of why society is the way it is today.
Cultural Marxism and "the long march through the institutions"
Yes, it is Not the internet, but it's the Wealth , which is Harmful 4 Any soul.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
i legit saw a woman make a whole page about hating men and she got thousands of approval from women............THAT SHOULD TELL US EVERYTHING WE NEED TO KNOW
Just ignore and be nice or be quiet.
@@triffid68
No. It's a sign. No man in his right mind has time to deal with chameleons and harpies.
Where can I find it so I can point and laugh at all the disgruntled single women?
Im 61, dated a few women in the last 4 years, only 1 came close to being perfect. The rest, gold diggers, Narcissists and players. I was married for 28 years until my wife had 2 affairs.
Women are unapproachable these days. They only want a guy with a 6 figure job, nice house, car and the looks to match. If you are none of those things your screwed. I hate to be negative, but women just dont care any longer and its all want, want, want !!!
Being a decent, honest, loving guy gets you nowhere.
Im pretty tired of this world at times
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
@pololikikuju blaming the jews is played out and fake news
I know me too
@@pololikikuju what are their names?
@@pololikikujuyou are correct
no woman...no problem
Correct.....No wife happy life.....and no drama!
Women have been so cruel to me. I have pulled myself out of despair so many times.
It's been years since I even thought about dating. I don't know what happened, I just got discouraged and stopped trying..
Like most of my friends I gave up years ago..
I'm fit, tall, make good money, own a nice home. I just don't try because I didn't like how I'm treated when I do.
Yeah, if you don’t find someone by chance in a way where you can essentially skip the dating part, it doesn’t really feel worth the negative feeling of the whole ordeal. My brother is dating now like his life depends on it and it sucks to listen to because of how many girls he has to go through.
As a 52-year-old, introverted 6'4" man. I have dated quite a lot of women. Maybe 2% of them were marriage material, and that was with a low standard bar of acceptance. Most women today have little to offer but expect the world to revolve around them. It's the entitlement, solipsism, and selfishness that women have developed that will keep many of them single.
100% Agree
Can't change women.
Ignore that thing completely. 😆
I'm 37, average looking and couldn't find ONE date in more than 10 years now.
you are lucky and have been spared my friend....
People blame the internet a lot but for me it is a refuge
For someone who never fit in even before the internet having access to this online world was a huge relief
That’s a great perspective. It was the same for me when I was in my early teens actually, but I had forgotten that by now. Thank you for reminding me of this point of view!
I'm conventionally 'attractive' wtf that means but I stopped in 2018. I can't in my good conscious give any time to people who've completely become unhinged, hateful and nothing like I remember them in the late 90s -mid 2000s.
Thanks for sharing! I really do hope “the pendulum swings back” and something forces people to become more grounded and realistic again but I wouldn’t hold my breath, despite my message in this video.
@@indiesorcerer The message was great but guys like me have our ears and eyes wide open and know what this gender is REALLY like. All the best man.
Yeah I'm in a similar boat - considered attractive and I do get attention, but I've been struggling ever since 2016. Meeting women is really difficult, but just when I think i've met one I like, there's always some fckery around the corner.
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
@@who_is_disDating apps, hook up culture, social media were invented to destroy relationships, marriages and dating. It is to keep us single and selfish. By the time we get to 60s we look in the mirror old and alone and realize we will likely die off alone in our homes (maybe someone will find the body after a few weeks or months)?? No kids, no partner, it is scary... All this garbage culture is to keep us alone and easily controlled and in financial hardship as one single income is no longer enough. This was all by design... few families, children and a poorer and degraded citizen base.
You're young and still attractive for women. That will change with age, as you'll discover.
46. Single guy. Never married. No kids. Dating has become a second unpaid job : (
Im what you can consider a chad-lite, not short of options but I opted out entirely. Having grown up witnessing the dysfunction in my family and that of others, the promiscuity and radicalization of women thru social media and the torture married men endure during and after marriage, I thought f all that.
Plus in any dispute the courts will favour women over men every time
Also in the Bhagavad Gita wich is a bit over 5000 years old. It goes into detail about female nature and how society needs to handle it in order to avoid civilization collapsing. I used to think ancient scripture was misogynistic until I began to see the exact same thing playing out today. As soon as women were liberated by a combination of technologies and legal privileges, and given tools like social media, they defaulted to unrestrained hypergamy and promiscuity, wich is the side of the feminine that is socially destructive. People of the past knew better and by enforcing certain societal rules they were not trying to oppress us, but to protect us and their societies.
I'm afraid but if we are White men today in 2024 it's over until things change.
My biggest fear is when things get better they can get worse again
I'm in my 50s. It's not that I've given up, I lost interest.
In this economy more worried about survival.
If even a handsome man like you is having trouble, I guess we must have extraordinary talents to be successful
To be fair, I didn’t pursue women much at all except online. But I suppose your point still stands in the sense that it proves just how difficult it is to attract women online if you don’t display extraordinary wealth or status
I'm glad you understand Actually I'm talking about being very good at a hobby besides gym and job for example chess, tennis and the like. But I think the part that most men skip is that they don't have hobbies related to intelligence In other words many men only focus on the physical part of the hobbies. They dont have hobbies that focus on intelligence such as chess@@indiesorcerer
Appreciate you having the balls to speak out on something that impacts so many of us men.
Until they changed divorce court laws getting married isn’t worth it for men.
Yeah, the society changed but the laws didn’t. With something like 70% of divorces being issued by women in the US, it’s not just about trust and romance anymore.
I see nothing wrong with being alone, Im 29 had a relationship when I was 15-19, but apart from that nothing. I enjoy my own company, I do only worry about when im 65+ and will have no family alive but myself, but oh well
No rush! Being single can be amazing
josh....don't worry about being 65+ and single....i'm 74.....single and grateful for that...
some of us are better off alone.....not lonely at all but self suffucient strong and happy
Aside from the main topic - what a beautiful late autumn Finnish scenery. Lovely natural surroundings you've got there, Erno. Suomi on upea 😍
The snow does wonders! Thanks for the comment, it makes me happy of course to hear praise for my country 🇫🇮
I agree with windman, it's wonderful to see Finland in late Autumn being transformed into a winter wonderland. Already giving me flashbacks back to August when I made the trip down south to Australia's alpine region. Truly something magical/mystical about about snow.
@@indiesorcerer I think you need to give black girls (me) a chance lol.😅
@@indiesorcerer Finland rocks. I am a Brit living in Pori th-cam.com/video/g5-xLvQ9KHg/w-d-xo.html
There is also very feminine women outside the west, who are family oriented. If you feel like the common guy, completely invisible. The common woman is raised to be independent and this leads to a lot of women who cant figure out how to fit men in to their life.
Well said!
what most really can't see is WHO is really DOING this and WHO is "they"... And that's the reason why all of this is happening to us. Do you know who "they" are? Starts with a j - vvs
Having other peoples fake lives forced down our throats via social media, that's the problem. Women always want what other women have, this is the very reason and purpose of the fashion industry. Not having the minimalist home, the fancy cars, it makes them unhappy.
Exactly. I hope these trends will slowly change, but we shall see..
For a man it's all risk for small reward.
It's a cost/reward equation, that's all.
If you feel lucky, roll those dice if you choose.
You said something very important in passing... you met your girlfriend at a medieval festival. And that's the important part, go do the things you like, do your favourite sport, take evening classes in something you're interested in, go hiking or horse riding or to a rock show or whatever you like and if that can be done in a group and/or there are other people there who share this interest, you have a chance to meet new people and who knows, your next girlfriend might be one of them.
Stop caring and start living your life. I think way too many men only care about getting a woman. Woman smell that desperation a mile away. It'll do you no favors. You might end up like me and realize being alone with good friends and family is preferable to the girlfriend rat race.
Men are supposed to want to take care of women and love them but i honestly am incapable of feeling anything for most of them. There was one girl who was really special to me, she was one of a kind in many regards. And unfortunately she died recently from something that has insanely low chance of happening and I could not have predicted it in a million years, it was out of my control. In hindsight had i been more direct, there is a chance butterfly effect would have prevented it but there is just no way i could have known. I feel really bad not just because of a loss of someone special to something so avoidable but also a lot of answered questions and no resolution.
sorry to hear that, life is harsh sometimes
I think the issue today is, they are all looking for a meal ticket ( looks unimportant ) so they can laze about all day, and hang about nail salons, spa's and shopping Malls with their shallow vacuous friends - while the 'husband' works like stink to pay for everything.
There’s probably plenty of those people around for sure, unfortunately
@@indiesorcerer I would say most are like this now - so few people actually have any work ethic whatsoever - even those with a job!.
Yet, still call themselves "independent strong" women that's the irony in it.
I've been close several times to completely giving up on women and dating, particularly Australian women whom I've never had any luck with and find immensely confusing haha. I can't speak for most of the rest of the world but here I find the whole culture surrounding dating/relationships to be so toxic to the point that many men have completely given up and are going their own way, and many women have been completely confused to the point that they no longer know what they want. This leads to an unhealthy dynamic forming where people focus on arbitrary status symbols like material possessions and hyper-consumerism, turning to alcohol, p*rn and casual hookups and no longer know what a true a loving relationship looks like.
Having spent enough time and effort on dating apps,my main option is to take the longer and more difficult approach of actually maing the effort to get out there and meet real people. I've made some inroads in this department this year, rekindling connections with old school friends, and beginning to form a small like-minded circle. But it's going to take a while to fully snap out of the old patterns of behavior. Respect that you're realistic and straight-forward with your explanations, relating it to your own experiences. Keep up the great work Erno, 300 subs soon!
Thanks for the thoughtful comment as always my friend. As men, we are not in a hurry to find a partner, so I think it’s best to ditch the apps and meet real people instead, even if it takes a long time.
People don't travel enough. I've been searching for my partner. I know he is in a different country
doing gods work brother. i know some of the brothers need to hear this
I appreciate your comment brother. I understand where all the cynics and pessimists come from but we need men to hold strong and push back. We can’t all just give up and crawl into darkness. Especially since not all women are “modern” women, which is my main point. Hunt those unicorns.
I quit dating after my last marriage she took or I should say the courts took 75% of EVERYTHING…money/cars/house…
That was 15 years ago…the first coupe years were a little tough…
The last 13-14 years have been the best of my life… I will never go back the bs/drama of having a female around…
Damn.. that’s ruthless. I’m happy to hear you have been happier since. I wish you all the best for the next dozen years also!
Been in monk mode for a while now, l don’t see that changing either at least l have tranquility.
It’s a peaceful way to live 👍
I gave up on women 5 years ago and started buying bitcoin every week! Thank the heavens I dropped women for bitcoin
I’m 19(almost 20) 6,3 190-200 pounds like a bulky runner build with a big chest, 6 pack, and broad shoulders. I’ve been blessed with a well off family thanks to generational wealth and I’m going to a community college atm. I have high functioning autism and adhd but I’m very outgoing and have the confidence to talk to people, ask for phone numbers, and etc thanks to my job. I’ve had a rough life and mostly lonely due to me not thinking or like other people. I’ve been searching for something real in a relationship but I’m about to give up on women. At least American women because I put so much effort to meet people but i get turned away and ghosted every time. It’s the same way with just making friends too I find it so tiring and hard when I try to find like minded people who have the same interests only to have them gone the next day.
At this point id rather be a hermit lol.
When the game is rigged, the only winning move is not to play
You're right and it's not just men...there is too much narcissism and abuse on both sides. I'm a woman and I have been unfairly treated by men to the point that I've had to be alone for my own well-being. I see good men and good women being terribly treated.
If you have a good partner, appreciate it, it's not a given in this world. Otherwise, we have to put our mental and emotional well-being first and be kind to ourselves.
Being short in latin America is not that of an issue. Being short in Europe, F.
It's so over.
Honestly, I'm discouraged and taking a nice long break from it. I live in a big city and used online dating with a lot of "success" but could never meet the type of woman I was looking for. Almost everyone approached looking for their next relationships while having 1 or more hookup buddies or just wanted their next hookup buddy while pretending they were looking for a relationship. And don't let me get started on horrible projections on what a lot of them thought a man should be - from completely providing for them from date 1 (they're strangers, I'm not throwing my money around like that), being open to polyamory later on, etc.
Thanks for sharing. It really is mentally taxing out there.. I think taking a long break is a smart move and I hope you will meet someone sensible somewhere in the future
MGTOW bro.
As a Scandinavian man who's not tall, I can confirm that many women care about height. At least initially. But that's one bad card. I had women in my life, and I had even been married. I'm not denying that dating is hard these days, not at all. But it's also not as terrible and dark as a lot of these pill influencers claim online. I even had women tell me: INITIALLY, I wanted a tall guy. But if he has a lot of other great qualities, it's not necessarily a dealbreaker. Life is not fair, never have been and never will be.
Yes, because women who are not being shallow and thinking primarily about sexual desires, will often realise that the superficial picture of the man they think they will be physically drawn towards, doesn't matter, when the person standing in front of them turns them on in all the important ways anyway. The real physical attraction that lasts happens after we get to know and admire/desire the important qualities, such as how you think, communicate with us, and if it gets go that stage kiss and hold us. I have kissed men in the past who other women loved to tell me "wow, he is really hot" thinking afterwards, "he isn't because he is grabby, kisses in a mechanical, non caring way and is only talking about himself rather than being inclusive" and that means the physical attraction goes out of window in seconds. There has to be more there than fulfilling "the looks and status" expectations. To my mind, that is such a BS way as a female to see men. How can anybody expect to be contented when that's all they're viewing a potential partner as, for a future with them? There's much more to it than that. It is about communication on every level unless a person wants different partners anyway and doesn't really want to be with and invest in one specific person in the long-term anyway...and relationships require work from both people, so if the communication and intentions aren't there, then it is destined not to "work" anyway.
Lots of ethnic & European women love Scandinavian men. Be grateful that you're not short, ethnic & ugly.
@@ryantucker2166 Does that matter at all if none of those ethnic & European women are in Scandinavia? What does it do to me if some random woman a thousand miles away is into me 😅 That does nothing for me.
@@omnissiah7247 No ethnic women in your neck of the woods? I find that hard to believe.
As a Canadian of 5'6 who's had more girlfriends than all my tall friends I can inform you its attitude and availability not height, status, money or even good looks. I have about 2,000 single women just on my city block. Height does not matter when 300-400 are shorter than me. Especially when they can text me at 1am and i can be there by 1:05am.
Your thought process resonates with the Roman Emperor and stoic philosopher Marcus Arelius... carry on bro... good stuff!
Thanks! That’s an epic compliment
Ive been single since age 15, im now 28. I feel like it was a good decision compared to how i see people living now.
Im done , never going to have another relationship ever.
Remember your viking ancestors and just take what's yours, Ragnar.
Honestly we need some more of that spirit in men.
@indiesorcerer It will happen and it already started with the men movement and what I call the big correction. Men are rebelling and finding their lost masculinity by refusing to partake in the current crooked system and denying today's twisted reality of gender reversal. It's a change within ourselves is what we need. Once it happens everything else will change too and things will fall in their rightful place.
No wife! Happy life fellas
Absolutely, and no drama!
After being burned so many times you tend to stay away from the fire.
Remember guys, the Internet is still young, which means we are still learning how to use it, give it 100 years or so.
Life is fair. Everybody dies in the end no matter what.
Guys, don't totally give up on girls. There are still some really good ones out there, but they're usually not going to be found on the dating hook up sites. Meet them the old fashioned way before the dating sites became available. My old boss met the love of his life at Costco at one of the food sample stations. Join clubs, go on hikes, take ballroom dancing lessons or something fun like West Coast Swing and you'll meet a lot of women there and get to know them gradually over the course of many dance lessons.
No. There really isn't. I'm 50 years old and have had plenty of relationships.
@jbmoney357 Well, believe it or not, there really are some good ones out there, and yes, I am one of them. I'm having the same difficulty meeting a wonderful man with integrity good moral character and kindness. Not all of us are looking for a meal ticket, as a number of us have supported ourselves well for quite some time. Finally, not all women are self-entitled, superficial, immature messes, but I will admit that a number of them have devolved!
@jamiecloud1897 Let me put it like this...I won't even entertain the idea of a longterm relationship with a woman. It's pointless. You all play games. Life is far too short for that.
@@jamiecloud1897 Yeah, I won't take that chance anymore.
Its ok. You just havent learned thier evil nature. You will boy and grow cold just like the rest of us did.
Great inspirational video !!!
True the internet has ruined women most of all across the board!
Appreciate your honesty erno!
Any woman that wants you just because you have money, car, house and other materials things is a woman that will turn her back on you in hard times. Go have fun and if love comes your way good for you but be sure it is love and not lust. A partner worth having always has your back. Women and their strange ideas now days are why so many men do not want a relationship.
Amen 🙏
The only way to win the game is not to play. Don't give up on women. Don't even aspire to have one. Chase MONEY. Not women. MONEY. That's what will make your life better.
3:08 Might makes right. You can make your own rules provided you have enough power.
need more men like you on the internet - for someone in there 20s trying to unlearn all the redpill BS content, this is very inspiring
2 Esdras 7:75
I answered and said, "If I have found favor in thy sight, O Lord, show this also to thy servant: whether after death, as soon as every one of us yields up his soul, we shall be kept in rest until those times come when thou wilt renew the creation, or whether we shall be tormented at once?" 76 He answered me and said, "I will show you that also, but do not be associated with those who have shown scorn, nor number yourself among those who are tormented. 77 For you have a treasure of works laid up with the Most High; but it will not be shown to you until the last times.
78 Now, concerning death, the teaching is: When the decisive decree has gone forth from the Most High that a man shall die, as the spirit leaves the body to return again to him who gave it, first of all it adores the glory of the Most High. 79 And if it is one of those who have shown scorn and have not kept the way of the Most High, and who have despised his law, and who have hated those who fear the Most High -- 80 such spirits shall not enter into habitations, but shall immediately wander about in torments, ever grieving and sad, in seven ways.
81 The first way, because they have scorned the law of the Most High. 82 The second way, because they cannot now make a good repentance that they may live. 83 The third way, they shall see the reward laid up for those who have trusted the covenants of the Most High. 84 The fourth way, they shall consider the torment laid up for themselves in the last days. 85 The fifth way, they shall see how the habitations of the others are guarded by angels in profound quiet. 86 The sixth way, they shall see how some of them will pass over into torments. 87 The seventh way, which is worse than all the ways that have been mentioned, because they shall utterly waste away in confusion and be consumed with shame, and shall wither with fear at seeing the glory of the Most High before whom they sinned while they were alive, and before whom they are to be judged in the last times.
88 "Now this is the order of those who have kept the ways of the Most High, when they shall be separated from their mortal body. 89 During the time that they lived in it, they laboriously served the Most High, and withstood danger every hour, that they might keep the law of the Lawgiver perfectly. 90 Therefore this is the teaching concerning them: 91 First of all, they shall see with great joy the glory of him who receives them, for they shall have rest in seven orders.
92 The first order, because they have striven with great effort to overcome the evil thought which was formed with them, that it might not lead them astray from life into death. 93 The second order, because they see the perplexity in which the souls of the unrighteous wander, and the punishment that awaits them. 94 The third order, they see the witness which he who formed them bears concerning them, that while they were alive they kept the law which was given them in trust. 95 The fourth order, they understand the rest which they now enjoy, being gathered into their chambers and guarded by angels in profound quiet, and the glory which awaits them in the last days. 96 The fifth order, they rejoice that they have now escaped what is corruptible, and shall inherit what is to come;
and besides they see the straits and toil from which they have been delivered, and the spacious liberty which they are to receive and enjoy in immortality. 97 The sixth order, when it is shown to them how their face is to shine like the sun, and how they are to be made like the light of the stars, being incorruptible from then on. 98 The seventh order, which is greater than all that have been mentioned, because they shall rejoice with boldness, and shall be confident without confusion, and shall be glad without fear, for they hasten to behold the face of him whom they served in life and from whom they are to receive their reward when glorified.
99 This is the order of the souls of the righteous, as henceforth is announced; and the aforesaid are the ways of torment which those who would not give heed shall suffer hereafter." 100 I answered and said, "Will time therefore be given to the souls, after they have been separated from the bodies, to see what you have described to me?" 101 He said to me, "They shall have freedom for seven days, so that during these seven days they may see the things of which you have been told, and afterwards they shall be gathered in their habitations."
102 I answered and said, "If I have found favor in thy sight, show further to me, thy servant, whether on the day of judgment the righteous will be able to intercede for the unrighteous or to entreat the Most High for them, 103 fathers for sons or sons for parents, brothers for brothers, relatives for their kinsmen, or friends for those who are most dear." 104 He answered me and said, "Since you have found favor in my sight, I will show you this also. The day of judgment is decisive and displays to all the seal of truth. Just as now a father does not send his son, or a son his father, or a master his servant, or a friend his dearest friend, to be ill or sleep or eat or be healed in his stead, 105 so no one shall ever pray for another on that day, neither shall any one lay a burden on another; for then every one shall bear his own righteousness and unrighteousness." .....2 Esdras 7:75
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Technology didn't do this, they were saying the same things in the 60s 70s 80s 90s. Hold them accountable.
The basketball coach said " you cant teach height "
I have been married to my husband for 43 years.he has been bedriddenfor 6 years..he is starting to walk again.i have a broken dack in 2 places.i took my husband to dr.s i didn.t.i went i came up pre diabetic.i got gym equipment.and i walk around the ranch.8 times.i do all the care for my huneybunny.he.s getting better.we hope for him to drive again..i got me a big christmas pony im going to ride again.we still have hopes and dreams.we are married to the end.we love each other.❤
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personally, i don't have a dark outlook being single in fact I very much enjoy it and don't need to do my hair because I don't have any ;)
i probably do need to level up in the relationships department a bit though. great video btw.
Thanks! Being single has many positives for sure, it doesn’t have to be a dark place at all
He’s hot & young. And that accent!!!
🔥😍 Lucky girlfriend.
Also - I subscribed, you have a great philosophy on life.
Actually some people have been made as much as 6” taller by leg lengthening surgery. I don’t recommend it, but you can do something about it if it bothers you, or a person, that much. But none of that matters if you only pursue your SOULMATE and then remain faithful to each other. Your soulmate will love everything about you, unless you have some destructive aspects that need healing and revision. We all need to be honest with ourselves and our closest people. But if you want to be a player, yeah then you need all the things you mentioned. But if you want real love, you don’t need any of those things, you only need your soulmate.
where is this nice forest ?
Finland.
I loved the history lesson he gave on childhood disease. I had ear aches and such and was given antibiotics. I wonder if I would have ever died without antibiotics. Likely people in the past also were malnourished and cold, weakening their immune systems further. He is right we should be happy about technology instead of sad that life is still unfair. But we are not wrong if we try to make it fair.
The same law applies to everything else we want in our lives. Usually things that require uncomfortable actions are right. Fortune favors the brave.
Exactly. You can’t get lucky if you don’t even try.
And thank God fellas!
You can make it on your own!!
We can't just blame the internet.
Narcissists are created long before people are old enough to use electronic devices.
Are you in Sweden?
Good guess! Finland 🇫🇮
I was visiting more remote Pacific Islands looking for and found a very nice wife for me. 40 years married with children. Both my wife and I are old and gray now plus trust each other. I think my wife has warren makeup 3-4 times only. But men still ask me where did I find such a good wife.
love the Skyrim backdrop. Watch out for dragon attacks.
Great comment, cheers!
Excelente video. Saludos desde Mallorca. I gave up on women long ago, I am 60 now, I have an interesting life and I am quite happy. At my age, bringing a woman to my life is bringing chaos. But I am positive, as you say in your video. If I find a women that really loves me, she is wellcome.
You can rent one, the chaos is minimal to none and in 1 hour she's gone.
Women definitely bring chaos.. so she has to be a really good one to balance the pros and cons.
Do not make your happiness contingent on meeting a woman. Travel, build a career, get academic qualifications. Do other things. Maybe a good women will come into your life or maybe not but you'll be happy. I'm a very average person; short 5" 5" and now 51 years old. I've been married and now widowed. I've seen the vast open skies of Texas and I've walked the hutongs of Beijing. I've breathed the freshest of air in Norway and and stood on the docks of Singapore. I've seen the Eiffel Tower and the ancient port of Marseille. This year I walked along the shore of Lake Geneva and next year I'll visit Japan. Seek joy for yourself. I grew up poor in a tiny former fishing village in the highlands of Scotland. I've had no advantages in life. Find your own happiness. It's out there waiting for you.
I think that's a fine statement and good advice. By the way I got in plans of a walk along Lake Geneva, and West Highland Way, myself in the near future)
@ You’ll love Lake Geneva especially around Montreux. The weather is pretty good even in November. Look out for the Freddie Mercury statue!
I believe not being a commodity to be acquired, but the magic of love available to everyone. Dismiss your Pre concieved ideas of a perfect love, and open your mind and heart allowing real love in.
I gave up on men after a divorce. Never even looked. But by some magic my husband came in to my life. I married him at 61 after 10 years of 'testing' as my damage expected him to leave any minute but he was meant for me. And i for him. Totally unexpected. Our bond is true and real with maturity comes gratitude and flexibility.
I agree with you and think your feelings towards relationships are spot on. Preconceived ideas can kill motivation about anything. 😉
That’s so great to hear! Thank you so much for sharing
Trust nobody, except your loved o es ! Superficial, be open is Ok but the odds find somebody compati le not brainwashed by socie ty are are so low only live your life love what you see or ignore whate you hate only be happy with your own peace of mind !
I'm old and drive a 1994 Ford Taurus but I'm tall. So basically I get any woman I want. It's not bad.
I did some years ago, thanks God.
41 divorced, had a two year relationship fail recently. I’m done with relationships. It is all risk.
How tall are you?
Exactly 180cm, which seems to be average in Finland at least - although the younger generation has become taller. I see guys 10~ years younger everywhere who are at least 190cm
Work with women feel their feelings stand by their side
I'm short, 5'7" but I can date women and yeah they are on the short side too. I've been married before she was just 5 feet tall, but a beautiful asian woman from Thailand. It lasted about 14 years, and we have 2 kids that are grown now. We were separated around 6 years and then I went to an attorney,
and then after awhile the divorce was finalized.
I guess I'm saying if you're short well there are some short women too.
Beautiful landscape. Sweden?
Finland!
Bro, I opted out of dating, it's all about the professionals now, easier life that way.
My thoughts exactly
Thanks for this video!!!!!
She stopped talking after i showed a little anger & i apologised later. But she too did same thing to me earlier, but i didn’t stopped talking.
We used to behave like good friends..... She is near 50.,...healthy..... I,m 27...
But,,,,as i,m attached to her Beauty 😂.....she keeps remains remains in my mind always 😢😢
I'm well into my seventies and have witnessed over fifty divorces among friends and co-workers, all but two initiated by the wife. They always got the kids, and with the kids came the house, child support, alimony, and half the retirement. Worse, they often messed around with the child visitation or moved out of state with the kids altogether. What men don't realize today is that women MARRY THE STATE, not the man. With the state backing them up, they can do pretty much whatever they desire, which is often self-destructive for the family. "Break up the family unit and you destroy the country" - Lenin
Women can be brutally vicious. The one divorce close to me had the wife try to keep the child to herself, despite having no family left on her side - meanwhile the father’s side has big, close, loving family.
Very interesting how you put it - “marrying the state”.
Thank you for your input, experience and knowledge. Take care!
I don't really think the game has ever been easy. I've always ached for humanity at large for all the loneliness and alienation that so many experience. There are plenty of lonely woman out there that men don't find attractive. They suffer the same. I wish for everyone to be able to cultivate as much platonic intimacy (good friends) as possible so that the absence of romantic love doesn't sting so much. Get and give hugs to all your friends and pals. We are mammals and need touch. Platonic snuggles help.
Great comment, thank you so much! I hope people won’t disconnect any more than we already have due to technology