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I remember I got into a fight with my partner (well ex now lol) and he was supposed drive me home after a party but since he was mad he didn't. I was stuck and had to call my parents for a ride. Quite honestly that was the end for me, relationships include conflict and fights (some fights worse than others) but I remember thinking that if he really cared for me I don't know how he could let anger be the reason he does something hurtful like that. (it was such a stupid fight as well). You and Shane clearly have enough respect and love for each other that even in a fight you can still respect each other. I think if your partner doesn't help you or do the bare minimum for you during fights that's a red flag.
I heard that when this particular man's wife would get upset with him, he would purposely tighten the lid on the pickle jar so she would have to talk to him. LOL
If it’s a pressured jar and that’s why you can’t open it, stab the lid. Just a little hole will release the pressure so it’s easy to open. No need to talk to him then 😇 lol
I cared for my parents for about 25 years. Somehow when you are a caregiver the support role still goes on as usual during tough times. It's hard to explain, but it's almost like your mind totally separates the 2 and the caring is innate.
I was annoyed with my dad the night he died and I never told him I loved him before I hung up the phone. I planned on seeing him the next morning so i didn't worry about it and I never got to talk to him again. That's a good reason to never go to bed angry. No matter who it is, you never know what will happen in the night.
I am sooo sorry that your dad passed and that you had the guilt too because of your fight. I still talk to my dad, I'm sure he is with you and that he knew and knows that you love him 💛
@@loulou1356 Thank you. DEC 19th was actually my birthday and the 20th today is the anniversary of my dad's death so its a hard time. I miss him every day
@@amysedam2767 I'm sorry what an awful time of year it must be for you! Like I said talking to my dad helps I try to remember he is still with me though I can't see him, I hope that can bring you some comfort at least.
@@amysedam2767 im so sorry. For me, my cousin was like my bestfriend. And I ran away from my moms at 17, so I wasnt allowed to talk to him anymore. 2 years later, he passed away suddenly in his sleep at age 19. I wish every day I could talk to him again.
@@amysedam2767 I often wish....if I could only have 5 minutes, just one more time to talk to my son...it will be 5 years in March...feels like yesterday.
Its very hard for me to believe that hannah is in her early or mid 20. For a long time i thought she is 30. Something about the way she talks, carries herself, thinks and maturity is unreal, makes you look so much older in a positive way
Well if you think about it, one must be wise to go beyond societal norms and love a disabled person, especially one who would be completely physically dependent upon her.
I just don’t think you’re the type of person that would be vengeful. Especially when it comes to a basic need. Spoiler alert you can still love somebody and be angry in the moment.
@Jake Anderson unfortunately that is a very toxic thought process that i truly hope you don't believe long term. Anger is a natural emotion, and it's what you do with it that matters. Working through it with your partner is realistic. Suppressing it, or nurturing an environment in which someone is never allowed to be mad is probably not very healthy
@Jake Anderson I can just imagine being in shanes position and having to ask my pissed off significant other to take me to the bathroom and having her roll her eyes. I would feel like my syndrome makes me so helpless and at the pity of someone who is mad.
@@lilsamantha1 so you’re perfect and never roll your eyes and are always patient? Hannah is allowed to have emotions and express them, she should not be expected to be this ray of sunshine all the time- especially if her husband has done something that upset her. She helps with his care but but that in no way should ever invalidate her feelings; she should be able to express that she is upset when she is upset. It’s so ignorant and dehumanizing to say something like ‘she can’t roll her eyes’. I roll my eyes when my husband upsets me; it doesn’t mean I don’t love him or wouldn’t help him if he needed it. Grow up.
Yeah that's was super cool!! I love it when my Pekingese dog, Rickardo, drinks water for a long time, sometimes they're really really thirsty! Sweet Keep well and be safe everyone!
I've been watching these guys for a while now and just realised that I don't see them as an interabled couple anymore I just see them as a couple. I love everything about both of you, and I believe the little fights and arguments are what make relationships stronger
I lost it when the slurping began and they just stared into the camera because the beautiful beast had once again usurped their content! We need a t-shirt with Chloe drinking and huge SLURP SLURP SLURPs all over the front, sleeves, and back!
This was a very nice look into a part of relationships that are not always discussed openly. People usually only talk about the very positive sides but arguments are a natural part of any relationship and I find it great that you can talk about it in a way that is both enlightening and amusing. Love you guys, keep making your awesome videos!
Thats because its vlogmis theyre looking for things to post. Id watch even if they were watching a movie in the evening. We could just watch movies together, why not?
Yeah the thing is, if I am buying a corded product who in the world is going to think it also needs a battery to operate? If I was buying a portable something, or wireless something, then yes look to see that the battery is included or what kind it takes.
I'm my husband's ride to and from work (especially if it's dark outside) and we have had some pretty bad fights to the point that i think, i don't wanna give him a ride tonight. He can figure it out himself. But I sit there with that thought and realize that even if I was able to, i wouldn't do that to him. That's my person and i would never. Usually the length of the car ride home is what it takes for us to talk it out and be okay again lol. Can't stay mad at each other even if we tried❤️
LOL my husband just reminded me it was HIS gift from my mom, not mine ... 😅 I remember at the time being unimpressed but it is so handy. Smoke detector beep? I got it. Kids toy run out of juice? I got it. I found a battery in the bottom of the drawer?I can test it and see if its worth saving. Such a good present! Haha
I was greatly sceptical when I first started watching your Channel, then I realized I was just hugely ignorant!! There’s so much love between the two of you and watching your videos reminds me that true love really exists. Cheers.
I LOVE YOU TWO! YOU ARE SO TRANSPARENT... Please, know that You are VERY FUN for Us & I appreciate Your willingness to be SO open. Keep up the GOOD LIFE. AND KNOW, THERE IS REWARD FOR THOSE Who live Their lives helping others. Could You tell Me if You have religion of any kind? Does it lift Your spirit s in any way? Just wondering.💘❤
For me it comes from Sept 11th. Im 30 now but I was in 5th grade at the time. And I remember they did and still use the "3000 went to bed that night not realizing their last morning was ahead of them." I heard that mantra my whole childhood and into my adult life that now I have paralyzing fear of not being on good terms with someone, spouse and otherwise, when they go to sleep or leave (for work, on a trip, etc). It's probably healthier not to be gripped by fear 😅 but what do ya do. I think sleeping it off does help if you are able to! Taking any sort of break, getting a breather, distancing yourself is good.
It has never mattered how angry we r at each other! I feel that just because u arent happy at the moment doesnt mean u will always b that way and I would never hold care from anyone jist because I'm TEMPORARILY upset with them..
I just have to say that I recently discovered your channel about 5 days ago. I want to say that I really appreciate the both of you for a multitude of reasons. I think the biggest one is how you show love for each other in the most unconditional way. It is a breath of fresh air to watch something with people who genuinely care for each. Also, your graveyard humor is really entertaining to me. In the Army, that was all we ever did. Thanks for teaching people how to care for each other.
This video is the definitive proof that your relationship is nothing but a regular one, which by the way is the very reason it’s beautiful. Everyone can relate to this situation.
Sharing this very intimate details of your life makes it so relatable and people really appreciate the openness. You do a great service for people in similar situations. Thanks. Greetings from Austria 🇦🇹
Your relationship forces both of you to become so self-aware. We ALL need to be as self-aware but often choose relationships that assist us in avoiding it! You two are to be admired for being so radically open to self-examination and growth, and the power that comes with both!
It’s like fighting with a partner with whom you also parent. You both still have to care for your children, and it can help break the tension and make you move through it more quickly. Wish I could say that my husband and I fight as infrequently as y’all do 😂
The never go to bed angry is so silly to me because I'm autistic and my boyfriend has ADHD, so sometimes we really get overwhelmed and tired and what fixes it is going to bed and realizing we were overstimmed and being silly in the morning😅
Hahaha! Shane has the funniest sense of humor and you are both some of my favorite TH-cam creators. Thank you, Shane and Hannah, for sharing part of your lives with us.
Haha, I can relate! I quickly learned the first time I threw something in anger that it would also be the last time, the clean up required makes it soooo not worth it lol!! 😅
Oh I did something similar I had gotten off the phone with my abusive ex and threw my phone in a fit of rage and shattered my phone into a bunch peices. One second after it hit the floor, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I just shattered my entire livelihood because all of my contacts, texts about appointments, and My ability to get ahold of my clients was gone and I was super poor so replacing the phone was a hardship. It really taught me to check myself and assess potential damage to the potential catharsis.
Liese Lemay yeah, like you, my “shattering” days were very short lived thankfully! Contemplating and clearing up all the damage after one impulsive move definitely gives you the chance to cool down and see how unhelpful that kind of tactic is. Was most definitely a learning experience for me and taught me to keep my temper in check. On a side note, though, I hope you tossed that abusive partner away for good! That would be a throw-away I would 100% encourage!! 🚮
@@lolly5453 He was already an ex but was using the kids as pawns to get to me. But the youngest turns 18 in 17 months (not that I am counting) and then I can really breath. It has been a long 15 years. Edit: And thank you. And yes, post shatter clarity is a thing to behold.
You guys are so open. And somehow I hear more often about people's sex lives than about how and about what they are fighting. You guys breaking so many taboo's and it's refreshing. Much appreciation!
I was care giver to my grandmother throughout her 90's. It was a totally separate relationship. It trumped any disagreement we may have had. It was never a thought to not help her. I turned back into caregiver when she needed something.
You two are absolutely awesome 👍😂 Having been in the nursing field for years and working with people in the burn unit, or spinal injury floor, I'm so expressed with how awesome you both are. Namaste 🙏
That, and the fact that it can really screw up your sleep, or prevent falling asleep period. I tend to dwell on things, and going to bed with things bothering me is a real pain.
I also hink it's a lot to do with having a bad night and sleep is not worth it. It can carry on so much longer by letting it drag out. Someone I was with would always do this and I wouod have so much anxiety and worry that didn't need to happen. I'd either sleep very little or not at all and it is much heavier on your body and mind plus having to lay next to someone and feel that bad energy is awful. Very unnecessary in my opinion... and def builds resentment for letting someone feel like garbage or bottle things in all night etc . Ugh very toxic that relationship was ... is... not even sure anymore.
I dunno. Letting things rest for a while can help bring in some perspective. And doing something just because you might die in the morning seems a little silly.
@@ashleydeeble1397 as someone with anxiety who sometimes goes to bed with anxiety. Would you rather they pretend to be ok or be honest about their anxiety? What could they have done to make it easier and less toxic for you?
Are you saying you’re likely to die in your sleep so you should settle it before bed just in case you don’t wake up? If so that’s definitely a reach, lol. I’d preach don’t leave for work when you’re angry before I’d preach don’t go to bed angry. Commuting/traveling is way more dangerous than a person in generally good health just going to sleep.
Sounds like you two communicate so well. I don't always read reviews all the time either. A lot of items don't come with batteries. On-line or in-store. No one's fault...just one of those little things you learn along the way. Stay safe and happy.
Per usual...you’re just so full of relationship insight and wisdom...for everyone. Thanks for sharing the reality that having physical challenges and needing assistance ...more often than not fosters good communication and laughter....
Complete truth is being shared here...I love the part where you still make it known that you are still mad but help in silience..this is real n I know how much love is being shared with you too always.
Haha! I couldn’t imagine arguing with Shane because he’s the type to have you laughing before you could do anything else! I so enjoy this look into both of your lives. Thank you for sharing so much with us!
OK, so I just got to the part where you said "So, our fight started 20 minutes ago." I just think it's so awesome that you're comfortable with yourselves and eachother and the relationship that you're willing, even eager, to make this video! How to fight fair is such an important part of a relationship! OK. I've got my popcorn, so let's go.
It’s probably a good thing that you still have to communicate. Breaks the ice ( just a little) it’s similar when you have children and you still have to communicate. Otherwise the sulking might go on and on.
I feel people have normalized toxic relationships that even if they weren’t in an interabled relationship people would still have this question. People think leaving someone while angry is okay or not helping their partner is okay. I think it’s just toxic mentality at play
I hate going to bed angry, I can't sleep unless the fight is solved. But when I fight with my partner it's usually because he is too tired to listen to me and so we have to go to bed angry when we fight. It's awful but we usually end up reconciling in the middle of the night after he's had some sleep.
It is found in the Bible, Ephesians 4:26-27. Be angry but don't sin. Don't let sun go down on your anger. It reads slightly different in each translation. But I do understand that getting in to deep discussion in the middle of the night is not the greatest time to resolve things.
There's a difference between an innocent oversight and purposely ignoring information that will turn out be be an inconvenience in the end. I don't think there is any fault to be placed on anyone. It happened. Correct it and move forward. No anger needed. ❤
Lol, ya'll are tooo funny...there we have it, men and women shop differently. I had an MRI today that took over an hour. Is it strange that when I was getting a little anxious being in the tube my thoughts turned to ya'll? I could hear Hannah telling Shane "relax, take a deep breath" . I heard ya'll laughing in my head, thank ya'll for the distraction and encouragement!!! Hubby and I have gone to bed with unresolved issues and I agree 100% sometimes waiting until morning to continue the conversation is the way to go, would be hard to unhear things that were said when exhausted. Love to ya'll
Y'all are the best! I agree with Hannah. Sometimes you need to trust the strength of your relationship and work through the disagreement the next day after a good sleep.
It is weird to me that people would even THINK u would not do things for Shane if u fight. Smh That is nuts but I'm sure there ARE people who would not help someone out of spite.. crazy(a little scary as well).
Very honest and transparent! So relatable. We all fight. So good to hear how you work thru it. Your unconditional love shines thru in your giving one another permission to feel your feelings but to still manage the caregiving….even if there’s a bit of sass or snippy attitude! 🤣😉. You two are the real thing! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I find the "What happens when we fight. Who does the care giving?" question to potentially be the most... insane question you guys have had to answer and I have heard some ridiculous ones on this channel. I don't mean to compare apples to oranges but it equates in my mind to "I was mad at my boyfriend when he cut his arm off so I made him drive himself to the hospital." Y'all are so good natured to answer all these questions because my sarcastic nature would not be so mature haha
Hahahahahaha the new mic got the dog slopping noise very clearly. Love Hannah looking around the room waiting for the water gulping to end. Ok edit to ad clearly not new mic but still hilarious
I say that! Never go to bed angry. My cousin and her mom were arguing one night before she went to bed. They went to bed angry. Her mom had a heart attack in the middle of the night and died. Noone knew until the next morning when she didnt get up like she usually did, went to check on her and she was cold. My cousin has so much guilt from that. And ever since we all say never go to bed mad ❤
Just love you two. I think communication is the key in any relationship, I tried never to go to bed angry either with my ex, but it didn't work. I can't sleep if I have a fight with my partner or anyone else for that matter, so I prefer to resolve things, but that's not always the best sometimes. It's just better to come back to unresolved stuff in the morning. Shane, I'm sure Hannah will let you order from Amazon if you promise to always read reviews. I always read reviews, although I've still bought some products that didn't work as advertized. Keep up the great work you two, just love you. Dolores
I can absolutely see care helping lower those walls. Kids can help too. Like we are mad at each other then a kid needs help, like they start puking and it snaps us out of it probably faster than had the kid not done that
in my communications class, my professor brought up the saying “never go to bed angry”, but then he said that sometimes it’s the best thing you can do. he brought up this thing in AA, called HALT. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired, meaning you’re most likely to have conflict (or relapse) when under one of those influences. plus, after waking up after a good night sleep, sometimes the things you fought about before bed won’t even matter anymore because you were tired. so yes, do go to bed angry, sleep it off. if you’re still angry in the morning, talk about it after a good nights rest.
For some people that works out well, but not for me. I can't go to sleep angry. It gives me anxiety and insomnia. I will just lie in bed going over the whole thing anyway, and I will get no sleep. I need to have things resolved before bed or it is going to be an awful night for me. It also feels so awkward when you see each other in the morning after going to sleep angry the night before. I hate that feeling. It is just awful for me to have unresolved conflict like that. I'm sure it is fine and even beneficial for some couples to take a rest and address it the next day, but it doesn't work for me at all. Every couple is different and what works for one doesn't work for all.
The reason people say never go to bed angry is because you never know if the person you're mad at will not wake up the next day and you won't have a chance to ever apologize
More people need to have this line of communication. I go to bed angry all the time. It’s okay unless your anxiety tells you your other half is going to die in there sleep. You two rock!
Hannah, I agree so much about going to bed angry. You need time to cool down. Let you and your other be alone with their thoughts. You are both so mature.
The beginning with Shanes expired food rant😂 ok, so im a widow(he died young) and like 5 years ago, my husband was eating some golden crisp cereal. I see him take a bite. Make a face. Take another bite and then dramatically run to the sink, spitting it out, rubbing his tongue with a napkin and being so dramatic😂 Apparently, mixed in with his golden crisp cereal, was chunks of WOOD. And the first bite, he was suspicious and the second bite confirmed, definitely wood. Why the hell would you take a second bite when youve just tasted wood?!? At first I think hes just nuts. And when he poured the entire contents of the brand new box out, i was like "yes, hes nuts" and then i looked....and there's splintered pieces of wood mixed in with the cereal, its hard to notice at first because of the color similarity. Theres no hole on the outer box, but theres a hole in the plastic bag the cereal is in. Hes like what the actual hell, how?!?! He CALLS post cereal. They are also perplexed, probably because hes laughing as he explains😂 but also because wood isnt a ingredient in their cereal. A few days later a KIT arrives in the mail from Post. A bag labelled EVIDENCE is inside the kit. My husband was far too excited about the "CSI looking crime scene kit" they sent for some pieces of wood and the cereal box. We get a call a few weeks later and are informed that in the factory, the bags of cereal are put on like wood palettes and before it was boxed, it was somehow stabbed by the wood palette and the palette splintered off into the cereal. And then they mailed us two coupons for 50 cents off our next box of golden crisp cereal. Which he could never eat again, because he was dramatic AF and said the taste of wood would always linger😂😂 He literally complained about his mouth tasting like wood for days and made me look for splinters in his tongue.
I purchased frosted animal cookies with sprinkles for my daughter (when she was 2) I poured some out on her tray and went about my business cooking. She screamed and started crying, when I turned around she had blood all over her lips. Long story short, shards of super thin, like lightbulb glass, was all over them. To this day, I can’t pass by them in the grocery store without cringing.
Never go to bed angry is rooted from the fact that there is a chance of someone not waking up in the morning! It's along the same lines of always making sure someone knows you love them, especially in a fight!
my partner (aged 32) started reading reviews this year after watching me online shop for shoes and scroll through reviews for comments about whether they fit large/small etc. He proudly announced it to me a few months ago, saying "they're so handy!". Yes honey, welcome to sensible online shopping.
I've personally never let a fight drag on into the next day because I can't fall asleep if I know that things aren't okay between me and my partner. Luckily, we've never gone to bed angry with each other because we usually resolve a fight fairly quickly, and if not we always apologize and move past it before bed.
It is pretty impressive that you could film this so soon after the disagreement. I think going to bed might help to refresh before discussing anything further. And yes, lol, I always read the reviews
I find it so relatable how you feel like you still want your partner to know you’re angry and he’s not forgiven yet but still want to care for him when he need it 😂
@@druepinkerton4973 but its just not true - that's not where it comes from? The people who wrote the bible got it from their surroundings and so added it to the book
You guys are terrific! I wish my husband and I had the emotional maturity you both have early on in our marriage. We spent way too much time arguing in the middle of the night thinking that “we shouldn’t go to bed angry.” What a waste. We had to learn that did not work for us. It is much better for us to get some good rest and plan on having the discussion at a better time.
Love you two - Doesn’t get more real than that! I’ve Been married for 35 years and my husband (disabled with chronic disease) and I argue from time to time. But if he needs help, I do what is required. Disability doesn’t change the fact that we are all human and have emotions.
I certainly DO want to make some special woman , Very happy ! I am just not certain that I could stay positive - for so much of the time .....as these two seem - to do !!
I adore you both so much! I adore you love, your relationship, your willingness to share your everyday stuff! The everyday stuff, are the simple things that make or break relationships, you laugh about them, talk about them and share them with us. The people that don't know what love looks like are the ones that doubt your life and love, because to me you show it and share it in the simple things. Thank you for continuing to share, the world could use a lot more of Squirmy and Grubs love!
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Good effort! Laughed so much, your doing a great job 💚
I've noticed!! You guys kick butt!!!💜 thank you so much
I hope you can keep up the daily videos all through vlogsmas! I'm loving all of these! Thank you!!!!
Does Shane’s glasses have blue blocker in them? I wonder if that leads to the white around his eyes?
Apparently when Hannah is mad at Shane she gives him rotten guacamole! 😂
“I do Shane’s care, just *sassily*” .. is exactly what I wanted out of his video hahaha
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Do anyone else that is disabled like me feel like they could conquer the world after seeing how positive they are!!!!
Definitely does
I'm abled and they make me feel that way too.
I'm not disabled, but I feel a disabled person can achieve anything!!!!! 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
You should also check out The Ginchiest channel =)
@@emilyfast9242 whoa Christmas on the brain...I literally read this as the GRINCHiest channel haha
I remember I got into a fight with my partner (well ex now lol) and he was supposed drive me home after a party but since he was mad he didn't. I was stuck and had to call my parents for a ride. Quite honestly that was the end for me, relationships include conflict and fights (some fights worse than others) but I remember thinking that if he really cared for me I don't know how he could let anger be the reason he does something hurtful like that. (it was such a stupid fight as well). You and Shane clearly have enough respect and love for each other that even in a fight you can still respect each other. I think if your partner doesn't help you or do the bare minimum for you during fights that's a red flag.
Sounds like a child!
Damn, seriously... Well he was probably a young guy and that's why.. Mature guys, beyond 33 years old don't really do such things.. Lol sweet.
You dont leave your partner in danger or stranded somewhere if you love them. Doesn't matter if you are fighting or not
If you care about someone you make sure they get home safe. Hell, you just don't leave anyone stranded, full stop!
@@politiciansthrowstones they both sound like a child lmfao
I heard that when this particular man's wife would get upset with him, he would purposely tighten the lid on the pickle jar so she would have to talk to him. LOL
If it’s a pressured jar and that’s why you can’t open it, stab the lid. Just a little hole will release the pressure so it’s easy to open. No need to talk to him then 😇 lol
@@d.aniela LOL
Really Virginia? Does your hubby know you do that?? 🥴💕
@@pureblood7240 I wasn't talking about my hubby. LOL
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I cared for my parents for about 25 years. Somehow when you are a caregiver the support role still goes on as usual during tough times. It's hard to explain, but it's almost like your mind totally separates the 2 and the caring is innate.
Given the fact that you have been quarantined together for 9 months I would say you two are actually doing pretty good ☺️
Neither have a job they go to usually. So this isn't much different
@@politiciansthrowstones but before they could get out and do things. Not so this year.
@@joymorrison6614 exactly! My husband and I work from home, even before this craziness. It's not the same!
Right! You've gotto be good to handle this nightmare together with grace
@@politiciansthrowstones I mean Shane has a whole ass charity so...
Emotional maturity, you guys hit right on. There is a bigger goal in marriage than the little things we tiff over
I was annoyed with my dad the night he died and I never told him I loved him before I hung up the phone. I planned on seeing him the next morning so i didn't worry about it and I never got to talk to him again. That's a good reason to never go to bed angry. No matter who it is, you never know what will happen in the night.
I am sooo sorry that your dad passed and that you had the guilt too because of your fight.
I still talk to my dad, I'm sure he is with you and that he knew and knows that you love him 💛
@@loulou1356 Thank you. DEC 19th was actually my birthday and the 20th today is the anniversary of my dad's death so its a hard time. I miss him every day
@@amysedam2767 I'm sorry what an awful time of year it must be for you! Like I said talking to my dad helps I try to remember he is still with me though I can't see him, I hope that can bring you some comfort at least.
@@amysedam2767 im so sorry. For me, my cousin was like my bestfriend. And I ran away from my moms at 17, so I wasnt allowed to talk to him anymore. 2 years later, he passed away suddenly in his sleep at age 19. I wish every day I could talk to him again.
@@amysedam2767 I often wish....if I could only have 5 minutes, just one more time to talk to my son...it will be 5 years in March...feels like yesterday.
Its very hard for me to believe that hannah is in her early or mid 20. For a long time i thought she is 30. Something about the way she talks, carries herself, thinks and maturity is unreal, makes you look so much older in a positive way
Well if you think about it, one must be wise to go beyond societal norms and love a disabled person, especially one who would be completely physically dependent upon her.
They are Beautiful Old Souls!
I just don’t think you’re the type of person that would be vengeful. Especially when it comes to a basic need. Spoiler alert you can still love somebody and be angry in the moment.
I think she is. He just said she rolled her eyes
@Jake Anderson unfortunately that is a very toxic thought process that i truly hope you don't believe long term. Anger is a natural emotion, and it's what you do with it that matters. Working through it with your partner is realistic. Suppressing it, or nurturing an environment in which someone is never allowed to be mad is probably not very healthy
@Jake Anderson I can just imagine being in shanes position and having to ask my pissed off significant other to take me to the bathroom and having her roll her eyes. I would feel like my syndrome makes me so helpless and at the pity of someone who is mad.
@Dagny Forever first of all. Makes sense but to justify her attitude I dont like
@@lilsamantha1 so you’re perfect and never roll your eyes and are always patient? Hannah is allowed to have emotions and express them, she should not be expected to be this ray of sunshine all the time- especially if her husband has done something that upset her. She helps with his care but but that in no way should ever invalidate her feelings; she should be able to express that she is upset when she is upset. It’s so ignorant and dehumanizing to say something like ‘she can’t roll her eyes’. I roll my eyes when my husband upsets me; it doesn’t mean I don’t love him or wouldn’t help him if he needed it. Grow up.
Hannah, it was definitely Shane’s fault.
Shane, I would’ve made the exact same mistake.
I spit out my coffee, laughing so hard, when you both stopped talking so Chloe could drink. Love it!!!
Right
Yeah that's was super cool!! I love it when my Pekingese dog, Rickardo, drinks water for a long time, sometimes they're really really thirsty!
Sweet
Keep well and be safe everyone!
I've been watching these guys for a while now and just realised that I don't see them as an interabled couple anymore I just see them as a couple. I love everything about both of you, and I believe the little fights and arguments are what make relationships stronger
Agreed 💯
Yes❗🙌🏾🤎
Same, yesterday I was wondering why again do they make videos about themselves ? Oh yeah he’s disabled I forgot
Chloe's drink mic works! 🐶
I lost it when the slurping began and they just stared into the camera because the beautiful beast had once again usurped their content! We need a t-shirt with Chloe drinking and huge SLURP SLURP SLURPs all over the front, sleeves, and back!
This was a very nice look into a part of relationships that are not always discussed openly. People usually only talk about the very positive sides but arguments are a natural part of any relationship and I find it great that you can talk about it in a way that is both enlightening and amusing. Love you guys, keep making your awesome videos!
Thats because its vlogmis theyre looking for things to post. Id watch even if they were watching a movie in the evening. We could just watch movies together, why not?
I say its amazon's fault. For not saying as most things come with battery these days
I totally agree!!
Yeah and it sounds like there is a space for the battery and they just don’t put it in the box???
Ok but have you ever ordered something off Amazon without at least looking at 1 review? Let alone expensive equipment?
Yeah the thing is, if I am buying a corded product who in the world is going to think it also needs a battery to operate? If I was buying a portable something, or wireless something, then yes look to see that the battery is included or what kind it takes.
Definitely! It should be in the description. No one should have to rely on the reviews of others to determine how to use the product.
I'm my husband's ride to and from work (especially if it's dark outside) and we have had some pretty bad fights to the point that i think, i don't wanna give him a ride tonight. He can figure it out himself. But I sit there with that thought and realize that even if I was able to, i wouldn't do that to him. That's my person and i would never. Usually the length of the car ride home is what it takes for us to talk it out and be okay again lol. Can't stay mad at each other even if we tried❤️
The supplier is at fault. They should disclose that a battery is required but not included 🤣😂🤣
I HIGHlY recommend keeping a good supply of AA, AAA and 9 volt battery's on hand at all times. You kids are STILL the greatest!
I got a big set of batteries and a case for them (with a tester) last year for Christmas and it has been the best gift ever. So handy!
LOL my husband just reminded me it was HIS gift from my mom, not mine ... 😅
I remember at the time being unimpressed but it is so handy. Smoke detector beep? I got it. Kids toy run out of juice? I got it. I found a battery in the bottom of the drawer?I can test it and see if its worth saving. Such a good present! Haha
Truth
This is such a cute "dad" type comment
Seriously. Who doesn’t keep batteries in their house?
I was greatly sceptical when I first started watching your Channel, then I realized I was just hugely ignorant!! There’s so much love between the two of you and watching your videos reminds me that true love really exists. Cheers.
Hannah: so tell us who’s at fault.
Shane: no, that’s not the plan.
😂😂😂
The mic came out "fully formed with the cord attached." This microphone was a baby.
HaHaHaHaHa!!!
I LOVE YOU TWO! YOU ARE SO TRANSPARENT... Please, know that You are VERY FUN for Us & I appreciate Your willingness to be SO open. Keep up the GOOD LIFE. AND KNOW, THERE IS REWARD FOR THOSE Who live Their lives helping others. Could You tell Me if You have religion of any kind? Does it lift Your spirit s in any way? Just wondering.💘❤
"I enjoy making him aware I'm still mad..." You're a wife, that's your job. 😂
LMAO!
I personally literally can't sleep if I'm fighting with my husband. I'll lie in bed awake the entire night and be angry or sad.
Same, it also sucks how the men seem to fall asleep quickly no matter what lol
For me it comes from Sept 11th. Im 30 now but I was in 5th grade at the time. And I remember they did and still use the "3000 went to bed that night not realizing their last morning was ahead of them." I heard that mantra my whole childhood and into my adult life that now I have paralyzing fear of not being on good terms with someone, spouse and otherwise, when they go to sleep or leave (for work, on a trip, etc).
It's probably healthier not to be gripped by fear 😅 but what do ya do. I think sleeping it off does help if you are able to! Taking any sort of break, getting a breather, distancing yourself is good.
@@MC-fv9no lol every time. I'm so angry and after 2 minutes he's just sleeping.
Exactly who sleeps or sleeps well in a fight
SAAAAME! As much as it sucks, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one.
Oh my god yes! Everyone says don’t go to bed angry but I’m so irritable when I’m tired😂 better discuss it after my beauty rest
It has never mattered how angry we r at each other! I feel that just because u arent happy at the moment doesnt mean u will always b that way and I would never hold care from anyone jist because I'm TEMPORARILY upset with them..
You find him funny?
@@i_kissed_a_pixie1537 you don’t? He’s hilarious
I just have to say that I recently discovered your channel about 5 days ago. I want to say that I really appreciate the both of you for a multitude of reasons. I think the biggest one is how you show love for each other in the most unconditional way. It is a breath of fresh air to watch something with people who genuinely care for each. Also, your graveyard humor is really entertaining to me. In the Army, that was all we ever did.
Thanks for teaching people how to care for each other.
This video is the definitive proof that your relationship is nothing but a regular one, which by the way is the very reason it’s beautiful. Everyone can relate to this situation.
Sharing this very intimate details of your life makes it so relatable and people really appreciate the openness. You do a great service for people in similar situations. Thanks. Greetings from Austria 🇦🇹
You guys are a lot more mature than a lot of people who have been married for many years!! 😁😁😊😊
Your relationship forces both of you to become so self-aware. We ALL need to be as self-aware but often choose relationships that assist us in avoiding it! You two are to be admired for being so radically open to self-examination and growth, and the power that comes with both!
It’s like fighting with a partner with whom you also parent. You both still have to care for your children, and it can help break the tension and make you move through it more quickly. Wish I could say that my husband and I fight as infrequently as y’all do 😂
It gives me hope to know that it’s possible to find the love you two have for each other.
The never go to bed angry is so silly to me because I'm autistic and my boyfriend has ADHD, so sometimes we really get overwhelmed and tired and what fixes it is going to bed and realizing we were overstimmed and being silly in the morning😅
Hahaha! Shane has the funniest sense of humor and you are both some of my favorite TH-cam creators. Thank you, Shane and Hannah, for sharing part of your lives with us.
So funny to “help in silence”. I remember throwing a sandwich at my husband and then realized I had a mess to clean up🤣
Haha, I can relate! I quickly learned the first time I threw something in anger that it would also be the last time, the clean up required makes it soooo not worth it lol!! 😅
Oh I did something similar I had gotten off the phone with my abusive ex and threw my phone in a fit of rage and shattered my phone into a bunch peices. One second after it hit the floor, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I just shattered my entire livelihood because all of my contacts, texts about appointments, and My ability to get ahold of my clients was gone and I was super poor so replacing the phone was a hardship. It really taught me to check myself and assess potential damage to the potential catharsis.
Liese Lemay yeah, like you, my “shattering” days were very short lived thankfully! Contemplating and clearing up all the damage after one impulsive move definitely gives you the chance to cool down and see how unhelpful that kind of tactic is. Was most definitely a learning experience for me and taught me to keep my temper in check.
On a side note, though, I hope you tossed that abusive partner away for good! That would be a throw-away I would 100% encourage!! 🚮
@@lolly5453 He was already an ex but was using the kids as pawns to get to me. But the youngest turns 18 in 17 months (not that I am counting) and then I can really breath. It has been a long 15 years.
Edit: And thank you.
And yes, post shatter clarity is a thing to behold.
@@lieselemay It's ok to count in your situation. Counting the days to freedom!
You guys are so open. And somehow I hear more often about people's sex lives than about how and about what they are fighting. You guys breaking so many taboo's and it's refreshing. Much appreciation!
I was care giver to my grandmother throughout her 90's. It was a totally separate relationship. It trumped any disagreement we may have had. It was never a thought to not help her. I turned back into caregiver when she needed something.
You two are absolutely awesome 👍😂
Having been in the nursing field for years and working with people in the burn unit, or spinal injury floor, I'm so expressed with how awesome you both are. Namaste 🙏
The reason people say never go to bed mad is because NO ONE IS PROMISE TOMORROW..
That, and the fact that it can really screw up your sleep, or prevent falling asleep period. I tend to dwell on things, and going to bed with things bothering me is a real pain.
I also hink it's a lot to do with having a bad night and sleep is not worth it. It can carry on so much longer by letting it drag out. Someone I was with would always do this and I wouod have so much anxiety and worry that didn't need to happen. I'd either sleep very little or not at all and it is much heavier on your body and mind plus having to lay next to someone and feel that bad energy is awful. Very unnecessary in my opinion... and def builds resentment for letting someone feel like garbage or bottle things in all night etc . Ugh very toxic that relationship was ... is... not even sure anymore.
I dunno. Letting things rest for a while can help bring in some perspective. And doing something just because you might die in the morning seems a little silly.
@@ashleydeeble1397 as someone with anxiety who sometimes goes to bed with anxiety. Would you rather they pretend to be ok or be honest about their anxiety? What could they have done to make it easier and less toxic for you?
Are you saying you’re likely to die in your sleep so you should settle it before bed just in case you don’t wake up? If so that’s definitely a reach, lol. I’d preach don’t leave for work when you’re angry before I’d preach don’t go to bed angry. Commuting/traveling is way more dangerous than a person in generally good health just going to sleep.
I love how you both make each other laugh so much even when talking about arguments you have had. Xxxx
Sounds like you two communicate so well. I don't always read reviews all the time either. A lot of items don't come with batteries. On-line or in-store. No one's fault...just one of those little things you learn along the way. Stay safe and happy.
Per usual...you’re just so full of relationship insight and wisdom...for everyone. Thanks for sharing the reality that having physical challenges and needing assistance ...more often than not fosters good communication and laughter....
It took longer for them to explain the fight than it did for them to get over it. 😂
Cute couple. ♥️🎄♥️🎄♥️
Ha!
I’m literally in love with both of these beautiful individuals. ❤
I love how you look at him smiling as he speaks.
Complete truth is being shared here...I love the part where you still make it known that you are still mad but help in silience..this is real n I know how much love is being shared with you too always.
Haha! I couldn’t imagine arguing with Shane because he’s the type to have you laughing before you could do anything else! I so enjoy this look into both of your lives. Thank you for sharing so much with us!
OK, so I just got to the part where you said "So, our fight started 20 minutes ago." I just think it's so awesome that you're comfortable with yourselves and eachother and the relationship that you're willing, even eager, to make this video! How to fight fair is such an important part of a relationship! OK. I've got my popcorn, so let's go.
Huge effort. Well done you guys. So enjoyable! Best wishes from Australia.
The two of you are 'human' but very mature and extremely evolved human beings ❤️
Seriously Shane, who doesn’t read the review come on!!!! Hahahahahaha. You guys are awesome!
It’s probably a good thing that you still have to communicate. Breaks the ice ( just a little) it’s similar when you have children and you still have to communicate. Otherwise the sulking might go on and on.
A argument and Shane's care are different. STOP putting them down and being nasty. If you don't believe go away. We love them.
I feel people have normalized toxic relationships that even if they weren’t in an interabled relationship people would still have this question. People think leaving someone while angry is okay or not helping their partner is okay. I think it’s just toxic mentality at play
They were exposed by BIGSID check it out
@@nicaus7362 what is the link or video called?
@@nicaus7362 lololol. Googled. Was amused.
@@sexyangel072 She still helps him, no matter what.
OMG when your dog was drinking and you had to stand there so serious and profesional waiting for her to finish hahahahaaha made my day
The argument to “not go to bed angry” comes from the older generations understanding that many people pass in their sleep.
I hate going to bed angry, I can't sleep unless the fight is solved. But when I fight with my partner it's usually because he is too tired to listen to me and so we have to go to bed angry when we fight. It's awful but we usually end up reconciling in the middle of the night after he's had some sleep.
It is found in the Bible, Ephesians 4:26-27. Be angry but don't sin. Don't let sun go down on your anger. It reads slightly different in each translation. But I do understand that getting in to deep discussion in the middle of the night is not the greatest time to resolve things.
People are so lucky to have people in their lives that get mad and can let go and not resort to hating another.
There's a difference between an innocent oversight and purposely ignoring information that will turn out be be an inconvenience in the end. I don't think there is any fault to be placed on anyone. It happened. Correct it and move forward. No anger needed. ❤
Lol, ya'll are tooo funny...there we have it, men and women shop differently. I had an MRI today that took over an hour. Is it strange that when I was getting a little anxious being in the tube my thoughts turned to ya'll? I could hear Hannah telling Shane "relax, take a deep breath" . I heard ya'll laughing in my head, thank ya'll for the distraction and encouragement!!! Hubby and I have gone to bed with unresolved issues and I agree 100% sometimes waiting until morning to continue the conversation is the way to go, would be hard to unhear things that were said when exhausted. Love to ya'll
🤣 You have to pee during a fight gives "grabbing Shane's joystick" a whole new visual. 😂
I ❤️ you two.
LOL! I thought the exact same thing!!! I wonder how many other incredibly observant (and slightly gutter-minded) people noticed that!
Y'all are the best! I agree with Hannah. Sometimes you need to trust the strength of your relationship and work through the disagreement the next day after a good sleep.
It is weird to me that people would even THINK u would not do things for Shane if u fight. Smh That is nuts but I'm sure there ARE people who would not help someone out of spite.. crazy(a little scary as well).
Very honest and transparent! So relatable. We all fight. So good to hear how you work thru it. Your unconditional love shines thru in your giving one another permission to feel your feelings but to still manage the caregiving….even if there’s a bit of sass or snippy attitude! 🤣😉. You two are the real thing! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I get so frustrated with my SO bc they never check prices when buying things!🤣 I think that's similar to not reading reviews.😝
I love the way Chloe finds her way into the videos..she will not be ignored
I find the "What happens when we fight. Who does the care giving?" question to potentially be the most... insane question you guys have had to answer and I have heard some ridiculous ones on this channel.
I don't mean to compare apples to oranges but it equates in my mind to "I was mad at my boyfriend when he cut his arm off so I made him drive himself to the hospital."
Y'all are so good natured to answer all these questions because my sarcastic nature would not be so mature haha
You are right about yourself.
Hahahahahaha the new mic got the dog slopping noise very clearly. Love Hannah looking around the room waiting for the water gulping to end.
Ok edit to ad clearly not new mic but still hilarious
I say that! Never go to bed angry. My cousin and her mom were arguing one night before she went to bed. They went to bed angry. Her mom had a heart attack in the middle of the night and died. Noone knew until the next morning when she didnt get up like she usually did, went to check on her and she was cold. My cousin has so much guilt from that. And ever since we all say never go to bed mad ❤
Just love you two. I think communication is the key in any relationship, I tried never to go to bed angry either with my ex, but it didn't work. I can't sleep if I have a fight with my partner or anyone else for that matter, so I prefer to resolve things, but that's not always the best sometimes. It's just better to come back to unresolved stuff in the morning. Shane, I'm sure Hannah will let you order from Amazon if you promise to always read reviews. I always read reviews, although I've still bought some products that didn't work as advertized. Keep up the great work you two, just love you.
Dolores
I can absolutely see care helping lower those walls. Kids can help too. Like we are mad at each other then a kid needs help, like they start puking and it snaps us out of it probably faster than had the kid not done that
Kids too! Yes love that.
Yep
Yep. Was in a big fight when my 1 year old son started erupting like old faithful. The next day we didn't even remember what the argument was about
That backstory made the best first video I've ever seen on someone's channel, I feel like I'm your therapist right now! I'm glad this was the answer.
in my communications class, my professor brought up the saying “never go to bed angry”, but then he said that sometimes it’s the best thing you can do. he brought up this thing in AA, called HALT. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired, meaning you’re most likely to have conflict (or relapse) when under one of those influences. plus, after waking up after a good night sleep, sometimes the things you fought about before bed won’t even matter anymore because you were tired.
so yes, do go to bed angry, sleep it off. if you’re still angry in the morning, talk about it after a good nights rest.
For some people that works out well, but not for me. I can't go to sleep angry. It gives me anxiety and insomnia. I will just lie in bed going over the whole thing anyway, and I will get no sleep. I need to have things resolved before bed or it is going to be an awful night for me. It also feels so awkward when you see each other in the morning after going to sleep angry the night before. I hate that feeling. It is just awful for me to have unresolved conflict like that. I'm sure it is fine and even beneficial for some couples to take a rest and address it the next day, but it doesn't work for me at all. Every couple is different and what works for one doesn't work for all.
I love both your senses of humor so much. For some reason I'm betting you two are even 10X funnier in person when not sensoring yourselves for yt.
The reason people say never go to bed angry is because you never know if the person you're mad at will not wake up the next day and you won't have a chance to ever apologize
More people need to have this line of communication. I go to bed angry all the time. It’s okay unless your anxiety tells you your other half is going to die in there sleep. You two rock!
Thanks, you two, for posting every day! I look forward to it!
Hannah, I agree so much about going to bed angry. You need time to cool down. Let you and your other be alone with their thoughts. You are both so mature.
The beginning with Shanes expired food rant😂 ok, so im a widow(he died young) and like 5 years ago, my husband was eating some golden crisp cereal. I see him take a bite. Make a face. Take another bite and then dramatically run to the sink, spitting it out, rubbing his tongue with a napkin and being so dramatic😂
Apparently, mixed in with his golden crisp cereal, was chunks of WOOD. And the first bite, he was suspicious and the second bite confirmed, definitely wood. Why the hell would you take a second bite when youve just tasted wood?!?
At first I think hes just nuts. And when he poured the entire contents of the brand new box out, i was like "yes, hes nuts" and then i looked....and there's splintered pieces of wood mixed in with the cereal, its hard to notice at first because of the color similarity. Theres no hole on the outer box, but theres a hole in the plastic bag the cereal is in. Hes like what the actual hell, how?!?!
He CALLS post cereal. They are also perplexed, probably because hes laughing as he explains😂 but also because wood isnt a ingredient in their cereal. A few days later a KIT arrives in the mail from Post. A bag labelled EVIDENCE is inside the kit. My husband was far too excited about the "CSI looking crime scene kit" they sent for some pieces of wood and the cereal box.
We get a call a few weeks later and are informed that in the factory, the bags of cereal are put on like wood palettes and before it was boxed, it was somehow stabbed by the wood palette and the palette splintered off into the cereal.
And then they mailed us two coupons for 50 cents off our next box of golden crisp cereal. Which he could never eat again, because he was dramatic AF and said the taste of wood would always linger😂😂
He literally complained about his mouth tasting like wood for days and made me look for splinters in his tongue.
I purchased frosted animal cookies with sprinkles for my daughter (when she was 2) I poured some out on her tray and went about my business cooking. She screamed and started crying, when I turned around she had blood all over her lips. Long story short, shards of super thin, like lightbulb glass, was all over them. To this day, I can’t pass by them in the grocery store without cringing.
1) Emergency room 2) lawyer
Two .50 coupons?? Wow that's ridiculous! You should have a least got a case of your choice of something else.
Never go to bed angry is rooted from the fact that there is a chance of someone not waking up in the morning! It's along the same lines of always making sure someone knows you love them, especially in a fight!
my partner (aged 32) started reading reviews this year after watching me online shop for shoes and scroll through reviews for comments about whether they fit large/small etc. He proudly announced it to me a few months ago, saying "they're so handy!". Yes honey, welcome to sensible online shopping.
Bless him at least he's learned
I love your honesty. Both of you. Real people being honest. Youre both golden.
No wrestling match? What a boring fight lol... I’m on team Shane for this one lol (Hannah you still rock!)
Hannah was obviously in the right but I respect your stance.
I think people say you shouldn't go to bed angry because tomorrow is never promised.
I've personally never let a fight drag on into the next day because I can't fall asleep if I know that things aren't okay between me and my partner. Luckily, we've never gone to bed angry with each other because we usually resolve a fight fairly quickly, and if not we always apologize and move past it before bed.
It is pretty impressive that you could film this so soon after the disagreement. I think going to bed might help to refresh before discussing anything further. And yes, lol, I always read the reviews
I find it so relatable how you feel like you still want your partner to know you’re angry and he’s not forgiven yet but still want to care for him when he need it 😂
You two are definitely on track, says someone whose been married for 48 years. Keep it up
*listening to chloe slurp her water*
shane: drinking sounds difficult for her, she sounds like she’s choking
hannah: she’s not good at it… 🥺
You guys are so HEALTHY! Yes, you do have more emotional maturity. Wonderful stuff. Keep it up.
The not going to sleep angry rule originated from the bible, "do not let the sun go down on your anger".
I'm sure that rule has existed a lot longer than the bible
It doesn't matter anyway the bible is made up & "God" doesn't exist.
Actually it is because most people die in their sleep.
@Cassaap I was looking for this comment like; “Who’s gonna tell them...” 👀 Even if you don’t believe the Bible it’s one of the oldest books around!
@@druepinkerton4973 but its just not true - that's not where it comes from? The people who wrote the bible got it from their surroundings and so added it to the book
You are my go-to examples for genuine love and emotional maturity.
Hi guys ! New sub here , been binge watching for hours
Shane’s maturity is that of a 12 year old dirty jokes are made a lot
Welcome to the S&G Fam!
Been watching for about 2 years
It’s very bingeable that’s for sure 😆
Welcome to the family~!!!
You guys are terrific! I wish my husband and I had the emotional maturity you both have early on in our marriage. We spent way too much time arguing in the middle of the night thinking that “we shouldn’t go to bed angry.” What a waste. We had to learn that did not work for us. It is much better for us to get some good rest and plan on having the discussion at a better time.
Ya I’m going to stay out of it lol I will say it’s nice that you feel comfortable working out your dispute with all of us 😄
You guys are the best . Thank goodness for good people!!!
Interlude by Chloe.. 🤣🤣🤣
Love you two - Doesn’t get more real than that! I’ve Been married for 35 years and my husband (disabled with chronic disease) and I argue from time to time. But if he needs help, I do what is required. Disability doesn’t change the fact that we are all human and have emotions.
Does anyone else want a relationship so transparent loving and understanding ? 😍😍😍
I certainly DO want to make some special woman , Very happy ! I am just not certain that I could stay positive - for so much of the time .....as these two seem - to do !!
I adore you both so much! I adore you love, your relationship, your willingness to share your everyday stuff! The everyday stuff, are the simple things that make or break relationships, you laugh about them, talk about them and share them with us. The people that don't know what love looks like are the ones that doubt your life and love, because to me you show it and share it in the simple things. Thank you for continuing to share, the world could use a lot more of Squirmy and Grubs love!