She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her
asian parents want their kids to do better than they did. This includes scores on tests, SATS, really anything. So the kids probably would be better but honestly, I think the parents are doing good at what their doing.
Living vicariously through their children is a hobby for most Asian parents. My mom did not care if I get into an Ivy or not as long as I become financially successful. Have to agree. You can't eat a dioloma or give it as a deposit for a house.
My parents reaction with my marks: 40 below: wtf is wrong with u? 50-60 : dis is not i want 70-80 : pass below 90! 90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!! 100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy
I usually get only 93-97 and my parents keep asking me why I don’t get a 100 but, when I do get a 100, they say that maybe it was too easy and to get a 100 on tests that are hard.
Exactly! It takes more than grades to be successful. I'm a Harvard graduate and I'm studying law there. When I first got accepted, I was making A's and B's (mostly A's, maybe one B) my junior year all the way through my senior year, and a 1508 average for the SAT but I was very well rounded and got involved into the community. That's all there is to it. They aren't looking for the perfect-grade students, but students who are well-rounded.
And the lawsuit against Harvard shows that is false. That is the dumb myth perpetuated by the Ivy's to justify why they have so little Asians. Say that against the Blacks and its racism. Say it against he Asians and it's "the truth".
“you can party when you get older” “you can party after school” “you can party when you get into harvard” “you can party when you get a job” “you can party after work” “you can party when you retire” “haha too bad you’re dead now”
@@TempleofBrendaSong not everyone believes in Heaven and we don't know if it exists. and i'm pretty sure God didn't tell us to work ourselves to death all the time.
these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.
The parents more concerns about kids further, the better college means higher chance to have a good life. As a Chinese, I would do the same thing like my parents required me, higher degree and better school gave me more chance than other peers. I don’t want my kids live in a poor families in the future.
Chad lee I understand but they still need a social life. Going to school and straight home, you will develop no social skills. High school is a very important time of their life, but also their last time as a minor. After high school they’re going to be working for the rest of their life.
@@chadlee870 yeah that might be one of the reasons but Nhi Le is also right as well, my parents who are Vietnamese consider any college or university with a 40% or higher acceptance rate as easy to get in which means that it isn't worth aiming for. They see it as an embarrassment to themselves if they let me go to any university or college that is "easy" to get in.
Is the fact that these kids are trying very hard and getting GREAT scores not good enough for their parents?? Come on, give your kids credit. They’re constantly pushing themselves to the limit, studying hard, and doing the school work.
I can't stop crying seen all the pressure, stress and hardwork they put up and still didn't get any appreciation from parents. They are gonna be great in future for sure but will miss all the youthful activities they wished they had. Strict parenting and over obedient kids. Study well and enjoy well whenever possible. Don't get stuck with alcohol and drugs. Stay blessed. Happy for all your hardwork and success
Sameeeeeeeee! My parents are very very fun but a little bit serious and too pushy and and I can't get a break when my mom is screaming a lot sometimes and I love listening to music and art and also expressing myself and having fun PS I'm 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian.😂😂😂😂😂😂🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
maybe top tier schools arent even worth the crazy student loan debt... ugh.. i read a post of a kid pressured to go to one has like 120k debt.. nothin g wrong with community college and state school
@@yoleeisbored there is absolutely NOTHING wrong going to community college or state school. Actually that’s the smart thing to do. Biology is biology. Harvard isn’t teaching voodoo magic ok. Same shit
I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.
+Brandon Yong But the effort athletes put in goes into their physical ability. They work just as hard as these kids, they just put the effort towards something different.
I'm Vietnamese, and when I have kids, I will advocate my my children to succeed, have high expectations, and really propel my kid academically, but I will never pressure them because I know what it feels like. Stress makes it hard to learn as it is.
Jan Tran, I'm actually pretty happy with my life. All I said is I want my kids to be intelligent, creative, kind, etc. But that I will not force my children to comply with my wants. What's wrong with that?
Nothing wrong with that, i hope you live in a good life, try to give them affection from both father and mother. Learn from experience and learn new changes. If you cant even do that... Dont have children..simple
I'm a Korean-American. I was born in Chicago, Illinois. And guess what? My parents don't treat me like these morons do. What happens when I get a bad grade? They tell me to do better next time, and say there's nothing you can do since it's the past. They have NEVER been stubborn or strict about grades in any way. Compare them to white parents. Education works best when the child wants to learn and has a supportive environment to do so. I get to hang out and live a normal, happy life. I get to live a good childhood.
Im Korean-American and im from Illinois too! Sane thing goes for me, i got a C once and all my parents told me was "do better next time". I have awesome parents and im proud to be korean. Meanwhile my other asian friends have dumb founded parents that tell them to be a doctor.
As a Japanese who was born and raised in Kyoto in the most traditional way, these american asian kids have it SO easy. My parents were 10 times stricter and harsher on me. I didn't have more than 3 hours of sleep a day from age 12 to age 18. I studied 18 hours a day then had to go to martial arts lessons. If i had complained even once my parents would have kicked me out of the house at 15 years old and told me to manage by myself and i would have never seen them again. And i am a man i had it easy, because girls had to study twice harder because their mothers wanted them to succeed while their father told them that all they needed to do was marry a rich man and have kids (and become slaves of their mother in law). Plus girls on top of studying constantly had to also take care of everything in the house, cleaning, cooking washing up, laundry, and on top of that piano and violin lessons, and in even stricter Japanese families had to learn the tea ceremony, incense ceremony, flowers arranging, calligraphy, etc, ... For me, the lives of these american asian kids feels like a spa. And i should not even complain, at least i am Japanese, if i were Korean, it would be even harder, because there the pressure is twice harder than Japan and the parents also starve the girls to death and send them to plastic surgeon to make sure they look like models, and boy are expected to look like GI Joes (which eventually completely destroys their self-esteem). Asian parents are insanely toxic and the most toxic thing of all is that love that parents have for their kids is not unconditional, you have to deserve it and earn it twith straight A's and impeccable behaviour and when you fail they will scold you and make you feel like you have shamed the entire family since the first ancestor and for generations to come and will tell you that they curse the day you were born, that you are worthless and useless and cost them only worries and money. In the west if a western kid bring home 9 A's and on B the parents will be thrilled and overjoyed and will maybe even get a present for the kid, when i did this, my parents scold me for 3 hours for not getting 10 A's and sent me to my room to study for a full month and brought food to my room, and i was only allowed to leave it to use the toilets, bathe or go to school. And the door was constantly open so that my mother could check on me all the time. When i am asked why the suicide rate of people between age 10 and 18 is so high in Japan, i always answer that my only surprise is that it is not higher.
@@noshitsherlock9709 Nope that was the norm for every one in those days and when everybody does the same thing, then it can't be called insanity anymore !
It is crazy how different our cultural backgrounds can be. Im a caucasian American. My parents hardly raised me at all and gave no guidance and had no expectations for grades. Simply put, im not very smart. I never have been. I dont grasp very basic concepts easily. Although I wish I had parents who have me more structure and cared about my success. I think I would have literally been abandoned if I grew up in a strict Asian household or I would have killed myself.
I don't know what to say. My parents are 109282810x better than this. Like seriously. They were disappointed in me at times. But that's it. They never intentionally put pressure on me. I'm sure you must feel like I'm in heaven. Sorry for you bro.
I think it is important to let their kids pick what career they want to follow with guidance of course. But still leaving the path entirely to them. That’s what my mom did for me. When I was younger I wanted to be an art teacher and my mom said ok. Then I wanted to be an author and she said ok I’ll support you. Then I said I wanted to be a cop. Through all of that she supported me, and I always really appreciated her for that.
I think this was also one of the things that really fucked me up as well. My parents expected me to do SO WELL that my grades actually started to slip. I hated it, I damn near went into a spiral of depression and lack of motivation and loathing myself. It wasn't until I moved away from my family that I learned that not everything is all based on grades. Right now, I'm going to my dream college, I've got a whole lot of connections and I'm excited to see where the future leads me.
You have to give your children a balance in life, otherwise, you are compromising their mental health and well-being all in the name of Academia. That's that,
Bro... no you wouldn't. You might feel like you would, but a five-hour scream lecture for getting a C or disagreeing with them on academic decisions will change your mind real quick.
Anson L nope its kinda they do hate or no but asian parenst usually want their kids do well is ofc cuz they will be rich but they ALSO want money and other things from the child when they have money and then they may brag about u to othe rppl which i will kinda feel bad for the others but yeah some will grow to hate their parents
These kids will get to a certain age and will have just had enough and go off the rails. They might drop out and start doing drugs, or just leave unexpectedly or stop talking to their parents, but kids who are raised like this don't turn out well.
As a Filipino, my parents pushed me for good grades because they believed in me; especially when i did sciene fairs, math olympics, and spelling bees all from 3rd-8th grade. As much as it hated studying for all of it, i sucked it up and gave it my all, and seeing their proud faces when i did great in the competitions made it all worth it. And when i say pushed me it was NEVER like this. On the subject of ivy leegue schools, that was actually a dream but never a reality all in part of my own laziness to study for the SAT and ACT. Took the ACT 3x and my highest score was a 23. But with that score i ended up going to the best school i know, LOUISIANA TECH BABY!! 🔵🔴🐶 That 23 helped my a lot scholarship wise and made me realize that ivy leagues are not the only path to success.
The thing is we gotta remember we aren't only put on this Earth to just study. There is a lot more to explore in this world such as relationships/friendships, lots of emotions, our strengths/weaknesses, our "own" values.
You are right. But save that crap for Asian parents they only care about: pride, Face, money, honor. Asians parents have no feelings because Its not important to them.
***** very true! And they are very self righteous and feel superior when looking at other cultures. My mother always says that she doesn't care what other people think, but then she's always talking about what other people think, and my sole purpose in life is apparently to be the subject of her facade, so that she can say 'my son this, my son that'... I've completely given up living her dreams and am following my own now :D
Ian Patricia Chan The other thing that pissing me off the most is not my parents! They are the other relatives and their so called friend. If their child is smart at school they using him as a bad example if that child is stupid they using him as bad example. A lot of my relatives using me as a bad example and saying negative stuff about me. I am like who the fuck are you? 365 Days in a year I only see you once our not even that! I never talking to you and I never even seen you for years and you going to judge me by my grades when your conversation with me is like average 1 hour in 10 years! Bitch please is what I think of them!
There’s a difference between being smart and having good grades and there is a difference between school and education and the last thing is that if you look up depression in the dictionary you will see a picture of school
The “F” in the chat by everyone else’s standards: respect. The “F” in the chat to an Asian parent: disrespect. They’d probably force u to give A+ for respect
yes 101 I did my reasearch long ago than you very much and don't agree with it. Just like giving high positions to women despite the the fact there are more qualified men in countries near mine to make an image of civilized society. That is a really bad move and does not lead to progress.
Dude I got a 91 in a subject where my previous highest score was around 83 and when my mom saw the examination sheet she said had I been your teacher I would have given you a 33.
If they want their child to be happy, they aren't doing a good job. Their kids look so stressed. :/ They aren't listening and they think it's a big joke, like they can just say "DO THIS. DO THAT" and the kids won't feel any negative effects from not being teenagers?? To see the smile on her face fade because her father wasn't proud of her shattered me. This is why kids have self esteem issues. IT'S NEVER ENOUGH FOR THE PARENTS.
TheMagicalSofa You could not be more wrong. It's the kids who receive constant cheap and easy praise who end up with self-esteem problems. Cheap and easy praise is the preferred tool of lazy and disinterested parents, and it's this disinterest which tells later in life. The kids in this piece have very committed and involved parents, so they have a very solid sense of being valued.
DP 63 Using your offspring as a means of living the life you always wanted but never could and as a tool of control is not to be confused with being involved. It should be seen as nothing more than controlling behavior.
TheChickenRiceBowl That's an absurd leap to make - that involved parents are living vicariously through their children. The majority of such parents are themselves successful professionals, and are in no need of boosting. I see more of that controlling thing from arty and lax parents ... who insist via conditioning that their kids are also arty, or musical, or whatever, to the point that such kids are effectively brainwashed into making a career of it. Asian parents don't compel kids into particular careers ... they simply make sure they don't choose useless degrees which will never earn them any money. That's not controlling, that's being a responsible and caring parent. Love isn't only hugs and freedom ... it's the cold hard work of setting our kids up to succeed materially, as well as psychically. That means involvement and ego-less guidance.
DP 63 Are you kidding me? One of the things I have ever wanted was someone, most of all my dad, to tell me that I was good at something, or I did well. Not "Oh yeah, you got a 85 on your test. Why didn't you get a 100, Pranav's dad just told me at work today that his son got a 95 on his test." My mom is the only one who tells me that I did something good, even then she will backtrack immediately anyways. You shouldn't constantly be shoving praise at them for everything, but I wouldn't mind if for once something I did was good enough. It's disappointing to work hard to not even get a little praise from them.
These parents are better than some in at least showing more affection to their children and telling them that they are proud. I will never get that, I bet a lot of kids don't regardless of race or culture. I can respect it in a way, because it's kinda better than the way I have seen other kids grow up.
12:30 wait is she upset that she's getting a full PAID scholarship?? Lol, she has no clue how the real world works. She'll have no student debt, which is a blessing.
"After about four months, she could do fractions, decimals, additions, subtraction, multiplication and division" Me who still cant do any of those: *notlikethis*
Strict Parents: *More like parents who want an obedient son/daughter to pay their taxes in the future; killing creativity maniacs. I have a feeling they want to have a personal slave instead of a child who has a passion.*
I really feel for the girl. The best is actually both good at studies and also have a good personality and friends and things like that. My parents just want to get me to harvard and when I just look at my phone for 4 minutes she just calls me a unworthy child.
I studied in Hong Kong and seriously, this is how lots of us study... even students from primary school sometimes have at least 15 pieces of home work p/day
Ancient Guidance I know... some of my friends in Hong Kong studied until 12 o clock when they were just in 3rd grade or so... the Hong Kong education system is messed up...
God Bless The West oh wow they have dinner in school? That’s hardcore lol, my school never had that, that sounds very hard... Ya I agree, nowadays I’m getting used to this new education system I certainly grown lazier haha..
Avocado Cado it funny how I saw the reaction to the SAT score coming. “Not good, but not awful” - sounds like something I would tell my child if they showed me a report card with full of B’s and C’s.
@@GuardianDiancieSome Asian parents would use this grading scale: A = Average (or Acceptable) B = Below average C = Can't eat dinner D = Don't come home F = Find a new family Asian child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!" Asian parent: "That's OK, you could do better." Normal A = Excellent B = Above average (Good) C = Average (just Ok) D = Below Average (Poor) F = Failed (Very bad) Western child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!" Western parent: "Wow, that's really awesome! I'm so proud of you!"
@@aaronchao7562 Omg true, since I've been living in the US I would say my parent's "grading scale" is a mix of both when I was in 6th grade since my average GPA was 3.8, but in by the end of 7th grade my GPA throughout the entire year was a 4.0 so now my parents always expect me to get all A's while for my OLDER brother 2 B's are fine.
I said that too. And if I do have kid I want them to live for them self. I don't really find enjoyment letting someone else do what I wanted. If that wanted to do it to that's fine but I want to do it for my self.
Elena Lina Unlike asians we would rather choose to not be stressed out to the point of killing ourselves. Us blacks, hispanics, and white people would rather be truly successful and happy.
@@heavensangel7882 That is very true, but do you think we have a choice in not following our parents' words? They would disown us if we didn't act according to their wishes.
Julie Song I know that you don’t have a choice as a child but I was replying to the person who said that Hispanics, blacks, and whites were less successful than Asians just because our parents don’t stress us out with unnecessary work and pressure.
@@ira5290 At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
@Xushi1sMissing At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
Judging if that were my dad/mom, they mean that every single thing that they expect me to do (a crap ton) should be done before they think that you've died and come to jabber for half an hour about how their friends' kids are more responsible and could get into Ivy Leagues.
Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.
My Asian parents can't understand this. I take part in orchestra and since I need to practice a lot, I didn't study as much. My grades was still the same though, the typical between 70-90 which they are always so disappointed in. My mom keeps saying that orchestra is affecting my grades and tells me to quit orchestra. I tell them that co-curriculum marks are important too but guess what my mom said? She said that universities prioritize grades more than co-curriculum activities. I honestly don't know how to convince her to understand... Sorry you had to listen to me rant
It's just how differently the college process works in China. It's literally your score on a single test that decides everything iirc. Still extremely upsetting to think about, though.
@@AngelicaStar I'm really sorry they don't understand. Perhaps they don't know that universities don't just consider grades as a path to success. Extracurricular activities, community service hours, GPA, SAT scores, and a good character are all incorporations which decides if colleges are going to accept you or not. Sorry if I don't have much to say to this but I feel really bad that your mom is harsh on you like this. I'm Asian and I guess my parents are the same, especially they push me so much to rant and work about on SATs and sometimes it's just really, really annoying.
Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.
Zack Tom Damn. Here in my family my parents are the one who consoles me whenever I get shit grades. Always telling me that Im already doing my best and that I shouldn’t stress over it. Hell they’re happy as long as I pass, and get excited when I get on top of class. (I usually got honors from Elementary to Senior High and 90+ on cards but I don’t see myself as a smart guy since I have to make a huge effort and study time with my friends just to pass Math in Senior High). Compared to this girl I was very average when I was her age, yet my parents always bragged about me to their friends (I dont know whether to feel embarrassed or happy lol). Really puts things into perspective. Glad I don’t live in a family where grades equate to your parents love.
My parents never really congratulate me when I get good grades and I'm never rewarded for them, and they also never console me when I get not so good grades lol they just tell me I need to study that subject harder and not so much phone 💀💀
as an asian myself, asian parents usually have double standard and only focuses on grades rather than their kid's actual talent and wont bother help developing it. they usually want their kids to be a doctor, lawyer, or a rich investor. so like becoming a singer,actor,etc is considered bad by asian parents lol
If I was her I will abandon him later. Fuck that, they think they can just fck and have a baby without fulfilling the baby's emotional needs. Disgusting. I'm asian and I loathe this.
Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.
Same for my asian parents. They don't really care about my grades as long as they aren't a C or lower, or if I really tried my best. They only care about my health and happiness
But sadly this is the condition of several Asian students (Particularly Indian ) I personally have seen a lot of my friends here in India have parental pressure like insane
RIGHT, its mine too :D I live in Cali so its also conveintent but the campus and everything else just makes me want to go!. I hope they accept me. (I have three years left of highschool) and I hope they accept you whenever you apply.
If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help
Nah, most people who even apply to Harvard Princeton Yale have full score acts and full scores on 3-4 SAT subjects tests. For Asians, that's practically expected for any applicant. You need extracurriculars and leadership on top of that. Even non hyp like Penn, Dartmouth, Cornell, and Brown have like a 2-3% acceptance rate for Asians, and most of them applying will have full scores. It's crazy.
Arctic Zombie nah lol I’m asian as hell too. In asia it’s pretty normal that students do no extra curricular and mainly focus on exam scores. I remember at my my high school(USA), the seledectorian wrote a long ass Facebook post on how he was depressed af since he didn’t get into Stanford and only focused his GPA. He blamed not doing any extra curricular and his obsession to his school rank. He ended up going to Cornell. Other stories like this were not uncommon in my school.
FireNinja606 tbh every prestigious college in the US is filled with snobby white kids, majority are mostly, if not, all white. I know because I go to UPENN.
Wanna have an estranged relationship with your kids? Do this. Force them to do what you want. Treat them as numbers. I promise you will be hated when they move out.
The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.
and what would they be doing, when their child really did well at school, did success, would they even be proud of their child and praise their child besides beating?
Dad: We need to talk about your report card 😡 Girl: But I got straight A’s!!! Dad: no you didn’t! Look, it says “Gender: F” Girl: but that’s because I’m female! Dad: you can’t use being a girl as an excuse! 😂 that was from a tv show
I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it like that. They would've been happy with any Ivy League college but Havard, Yale and Princeton and the oldest Ivies and have a bigger reputation.
I’m Asian myself and if I went through this, I would’ve honestly killed myself. All this stress, peer pressure, anxiety and no love. I pray for these children.
@@_also__also_5170 btw, I want to take 5 APs next year for sophomore and my Asian parents(which value education) and they are like bruh, most kids only take 6 APs for entire 4 years at Highschool at my school and I’m like bruh, let me work harder. Smh
There are three types of birds 1. Those that learn to fly early 2. Those that learn to fly late And 3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly. I believe most asian parents are 3.
@@Boymanjusri tried to understand them a lot for all my life of 21 years... But I don't know how many times I found their obsession to success as reasonable. Like, what if kid doesn't like and it u force it on them?! I always dreamt of studying business administration and my parents said "it's not for girls" and forced me to study computer science which I hate the most and they still expect me to top in it! Yeah I understand them.
@@army_4ever748 actually, I have also tried to think in their pov and I think I can understand them. The thing is that Asian parents want us to achieve the things that they never could achieve. They think that if they push us to have good grades, atleast we will be able to get into good colleges and get a good job and earn money. I am sure they also feel regret somewhere in their life and thus, making us do things. I believe this kind of parenting is not healthy and should never be encouraged. A kid should have the freedom to choose whatever they want to become in their life. This kind of parenting runs in the family. My grandmother used to beat up my mom when she was younger and she was also verbally abusive but they never realised it. So now my mom also does the same to me. Honestly, I am just gonna start being independent and start earning my own money and then move out when I turn 18.
She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her
Jimmy Neutron that’s true and even though colleges indeed require after school activities
Exactly, you need a balance between the two
Yes but asian parents don't see that if there was a parent who would the older generations would say no
Jimmy Neutron agree
Number Five absolutely. As a professor I can tell you grades is only one factor
*Gets 100% on SAT*
Asian parent: Do better.
FBI... open up
Why is that soo true? I got a 4 and 4 is the highest in our school system and my dad said get a 5 next time when 4 is literally the highest!!!
Say it with a Chinese accent lol
Extra credit
IT IS I DIO! Lmao make your own questions and answer them 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Child: *gets 760 out of 800*
Parent: *"noT So Bad, NoT sO gOoD"*
Honestly I'd like to see them do better
Ikr
It was actually 770..
Sadly every Asian parent is like that sooo..
@James the said thing is that those parents want their children to live THEIR ideal life not the life the kid want, sad honestly
asian parents want their kids to do better than they did. This includes scores on tests, SATS, really anything. So the kids probably would be better but honestly, I think the parents are doing good at what their doing.
You cannot live your failed dream though your kids. The kids has their own dream to fulfill.
Indeed.
That is exactly what happened to Sophie’s dad. None of his 3 children attended Ivy League schools.
Nature, wherofore doesn't hesitate to turn the tables on such a person. That's exactly what betides when you have a nimiety of expectations.
unfortunately, they didn't get that memo.
Living vicariously through their children is a hobby for most Asian parents. My mom did not care if I get into an Ivy or not as long as I become financially successful. Have to agree. You can't eat a dioloma or give it as a deposit for a house.
Child:listens to cardi B
Parent : LISTEN TO CARDI A!
This comment is so underrated
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My parents reaction with my marks:
40 below: wtf is wrong with u?
50-60 : dis is not i want
70-80 : pass below 90!
90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!!
100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy
I usually get only 93-97 and my parents keep asking me why I don’t get a 100 but, when I do get a 100, they say that maybe it was too easy and to get a 100 on tests that are hard.
Gets 0: get the hell outta my house
what about 40-50
I bet that Indonesian or malaysian parents lol
@@mysticalx7974 Out of house?
More like executed
They probably arent getting accepted because they’re only focusing on their grades
Some else said that in the comments too.
Exactly! It takes more than grades to be successful. I'm a Harvard graduate and I'm studying law there. When I first got accepted, I was making A's and B's (mostly A's, maybe one B) my junior year all the way through my senior year, and a 1508 average for the SAT but I was very well rounded and got involved into the community. That's all there is to it. They aren't looking for the perfect-grade students, but students who are well-rounded.
Anonymous Anonymous
One question, what was your gpa?
Sumaiya Fatema, my GPA was 3.8, I believe.
And the lawsuit against Harvard shows that is false. That is the dumb myth perpetuated by the Ivy's to justify why they have so little Asians. Say that against the Blacks and its racism. Say it against he Asians and it's "the truth".
“you can party when you get older”
“you can party after school”
“you can party when you get into harvard”
“you can party when you get a job”
“you can party after work”
“you can party when you retire”
“haha too bad you’re dead now”
so true
i hate being a "good kid"
i rather be differnet than a puppet
But you can party for eternity in Heaven.
@@TempleofBrendaSong not everyone believes in Heaven and we don't know if it exists.
and i'm pretty sure God didn't tell us to work ourselves to death all the time.
@@TempleofBrendaSong What's the point of partying in heaven anyway if u wasted your whole life living like a robot.
Never attempted parties because I procrastinate at home. And then I just get used to complaining to the piano.
these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.
The parents more concerns about kids further, the better college means higher chance to have a good life. As a Chinese, I would do the same thing like my parents required me, higher degree and better school gave me more chance than other peers. I don’t want my kids live in a poor families in the future.
Chad lee I understand but they still need a social life. Going to school and straight home, you will develop no social skills. High school is a very important time of their life, but also their last time as a minor. After high school they’re going to be working for the rest of their life.
@@chadlee870 yeah that might be one of the reasons but Nhi Le is also right as well, my parents who are Vietnamese consider any college or university with a 40% or higher acceptance rate as easy to get in which means that it isn't worth aiming for. They see it as an embarrassment to themselves if they let me go to any university or college that is "easy" to get in.
you obviously dont understand Chinese parents. the parents dont care about their face, they care about their children's future.
T yeah by forcing them to do something that pays well but is boring to the child and making the rest of their life: work/eat/sleep.
this is a perfect example of conditional love. their affection towards her is based on her academic success.
Kid “mom I got stung by a bee” mom why you not stung by A”
aee
hahaha😂
Brilliant .🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂🤣🤣
Stealing this and posting on another vid
As a Chinese,i can't stop cursing while watching this video,they are your offspring,not slaves,holy fuck!
LOL
lol I feel bad for these kids, studying is worth nothing if you don't love the subject that you are studying.
My parents don't really care what university I go but I want to go to a good university
YES EXACTLY WHAT I WAS THINKING
I wanted to play the piano
but nope
not enough $
I dislike how her mom keeps comparing her to her brother
comparing siblings is honestly one of the worst ways to be a parent tbh
Jasmine Love Ha its funny you say that because that's 99% guaranteed to happen in every Asian family.
Jasmine Love eh when you have a twin people compare you to everything
Like my parents don’t compare every single thing me and my brother do
michael a sav tho
i got a 790, my parent's reaction? why not 800?
we're Asian....not Bsian or Csian for a reason.
that's a good one
oof. 😂 I felt that.
Us asian have it hard mann even if my parents dont pressurise me i still care about my education
Than Africans and Arabic also Americans should be straight stressful ass A
So original 😂
Is the fact that these kids are trying very hard and getting GREAT scores not good enough for their parents??
Come on, give your kids credit. They’re constantly pushing themselves to the limit, studying hard, and doing the school work.
710 is not good
@@bradley3157 710 out of 800... thats still a good score
I can't stop crying seen all the pressure, stress and hardwork they put up and still didn't get any appreciation from parents. They are gonna be great in future for sure but will miss all the youthful activities they wished they had. Strict parenting and over obedient kids. Study well and enjoy well whenever possible. Don't get stuck with alcohol and drugs. Stay blessed. Happy for all your hardwork and success
Amen 😔
Singapore, India, Korea, hongkong, Taiwan and China all the same. No life for kids.
It actually makes me so sad watching this...the mental and emotional abuse these kids had to go through ...
YT LG it’s. Not. Abuse.
YT LG it is called the way of traditional Chinese
Leo Lu it actually is in some places
Leo Lu oh yeah it's not abuse to literally deprive a child of their basic right to make the ONE childhood they get EVER as fun as they can.
lmao its definitely a traditional asian upbringing but i still think its abuse to some degree.
You only get a childhood *once*
Sadly they don't have one lmao there whole life is based on materialistic values
Childhood is only for having struggle later in life
@@mimicutiee6975 What?
@@mimicutiee6975 what type of shit are you on?
Chiraag Sharma only realistic diehard people know what im saying. Aint for simpel soft people
13:45
Dad: play the song congratulations
Daughter: there's no song called
congratulations
Me: thinking how great post malone would go into this moment
Bill Sosa
well this was recorded many years ago and at the time there was no congratulation
Surafel Geleta no shit sherlock
Bill Sosa I was singing that song when he said that 🤣😂
Pewdiepie
or pewdiepie
I’m grateful that my Asian parents don’t pressure me when studying.
Sameeeeeeeee! My parents are very very fun but a little bit serious and too pushy and and I can't get a break when my mom is screaming a lot sometimes and I love listening to music and art and also expressing myself and having fun PS I'm 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian.😂😂😂😂😂😂🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
Same. My parents aren’t too bad either. I’m filipino as well. 🇵🇭
You lucky individual
It's so sad that parents and school influence students to believe their self-worth depends on getting into a top-tier university.
maybe top tier schools arent even worth the crazy student loan debt... ugh.. i read a post of a kid pressured to go to one has like 120k debt.. nothin g wrong with community college and state school
@@yoleeisbored there is absolutely NOTHING wrong going to community college or state school. Actually that’s the smart thing to do. Biology is biology. Harvard isn’t teaching voodoo magic ok. Same shit
Dad: Play a song. "Congratulations"
Michelle: there's no song called congratulations..!
Dad: whatever, we play it
She should've played: "Post Malone-Congratulations"
Excuse me, but you have invented a new kind of stupid.
Deborah Coffy *2005
Boffano Olano I
POST MALONEEEE
I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.
same, except mine are biracial (mom is black dad is white).
@semi that’s great news
Oh my god, my parents learned that around the same time too.
Yes, I can relate this!
Lmao these kids getting rejected and athletes with half the study time get in
Brandon Yong because athletes have extra curricular activities which gives u a higher chance of getting in
+Brandon Yong But the effort athletes put in goes into their physical ability. They work just as hard as these kids, they just put the effort towards something different.
College athletes are heavily exploited though...making thousands for the school yet not being paid.
Donald trick Trump Has STD's from Stormy D. Please. Those athletes are overpaid and overprivileged. They don't contribute shit to society
In fairness athletes work their asses off too, just in a healthier way
"I've got 851/850!"
*such disappointment...*
I'm Vietnamese, and when I have kids, I will advocate my my children to succeed, have high expectations, and really propel my kid academically, but I will never pressure them because I know what it feels like. Stress makes it hard to learn as it is.
Thương Trần Please don't have children
Salloua Amrani, why not?
+Thương Trần because don’t put your dreams onto children when you are not happy with yourself
Jan Tran, I'm actually pretty happy with my life. All I said is I want my kids to be intelligent, creative, kind, etc. But that I will not force my children to comply with my wants. What's wrong with that?
Nothing wrong with that, i hope you live in a good life, try to give them affection from both father and mother. Learn from experience and learn new changes. If you cant even do that... Dont have children..simple
I'm a Korean-American. I was born in Chicago, Illinois. And guess what? My parents don't treat me like these morons do. What happens when I get a bad grade? They tell me to do better next time, and say there's nothing you can do since it's the past. They have NEVER been stubborn or strict about grades in any way. Compare them to white parents. Education works best when the child wants to learn and has a supportive environment to do so. I get to hang out and live a normal, happy life. I get to live a good childhood.
They encourage my dream, which is to become a future coaster designer or NBA player. I wanna go to Duke, and they completely support that.
Im Korean-American and im from Illinois too! Sane thing goes for me, i got a C once and all my parents told me was "do better next time". I have awesome parents and im proud to be korean. Meanwhile my other asian friends have dumb founded parents that tell them to be a doctor.
*same
+Planet Frick Glad to hear. These parents need to understand this is the US, not China.
+TheWiseMiner I'm from Chicago too
I'm very successful today after being pushed hard by my Tiger mom. I've also been in therapy for the last 3 years.
Depends what you define as successful then?
As a Japanese who was born and raised in Kyoto in the most traditional way, these american asian kids have it SO easy.
My parents were 10 times stricter and harsher on me. I didn't have more than 3 hours of sleep a day from age 12 to age 18. I studied 18 hours a day then had to go to martial arts lessons. If i had complained even once my parents would have kicked me out of the house at 15 years old and told me to manage by myself and i would have never seen them again.
And i am a man i had it easy, because girls had to study twice harder because their mothers wanted them to succeed while their father told them that all they needed to do was marry a rich man and have kids (and become slaves of their mother in law). Plus girls on top of studying constantly had to also take care of everything in the house, cleaning, cooking washing up, laundry, and on top of that piano and violin lessons, and in even stricter Japanese families had to learn the tea ceremony, incense ceremony, flowers arranging, calligraphy, etc, ...
For me, the lives of these american asian kids feels like a spa. And i should not even complain, at least i am Japanese, if i were Korean, it would be even harder, because there the pressure is twice harder than Japan and the parents also starve the girls to death and send them to plastic surgeon to make sure they look like models, and boy are expected to look like GI Joes (which eventually completely destroys their self-esteem).
Asian parents are insanely toxic and the most toxic thing of all is that love that parents have for their kids is not unconditional, you have to deserve it and earn it twith straight A's and impeccable behaviour and when you fail they will scold you and make you feel like you have shamed the entire family since the first ancestor and for generations to come and will tell you that they curse the day you were born, that you are worthless and useless and cost them only worries and money.
In the west if a western kid bring home 9 A's and on B the parents will be thrilled and overjoyed and will maybe even get a present for the kid, when i did this, my parents scold me for 3 hours for not getting 10 A's and sent me to my room to study for a full month and brought food to my room, and i was only allowed to leave it to use the toilets, bathe or go to school. And the door was constantly open so that my mother could check on me all the time.
When i am asked why the suicide rate of people between age 10 and 18 is so high in Japan, i always answer that my only surprise is that it is not higher.
18 hours????? Are they insane??????????
@@noshitsherlock9709 Nope that was the norm for every one in those days and when everybody does the same thing, then it can't be called insanity anymore !
It is crazy how different our cultural backgrounds can be. Im a caucasian American. My parents hardly raised me at all and gave no guidance and had no expectations for grades.
Simply put, im not very smart. I never have been. I dont grasp very basic concepts easily. Although I wish I had parents who have me more structure and cared about my success. I think I would have literally been abandoned if I grew up in a strict Asian household or I would have killed myself.
when you become successful leave them alone so they will regret abusing their child whos 100x smarter than them and 100xmore disciplined then them
I don't know what to say. My parents are 109282810x better than this. Like seriously. They were disappointed in me at times. But that's it. They never intentionally put pressure on me. I'm sure you must feel like I'm in heaven. Sorry for you bro.
The dad: I wish you could’ve gotten a 500
*gets 760*
The dad: I wish you could’ve gotten 800
Me: Bish wut?!?!?!
I think it is important to let their kids pick what career they want to follow with guidance of course. But still leaving the path entirely to them. That’s what my mom did for me. When I was younger I wanted to be an art teacher and my mom said ok. Then I wanted to be an author and she said ok I’ll support you. Then I said I wanted to be a cop. Through all of that she supported me, and I always really appreciated her for that.
I think this was also one of the things that really fucked me up as well. My parents expected me to do SO WELL that my grades actually started to slip. I hated it, I damn near went into a spiral of depression and lack of motivation and loathing myself. It wasn't until I moved away from my family that I learned that not everything is all based on grades. Right now, I'm going to my dream college, I've got a whole lot of connections and I'm excited to see where the future leads me.
You have to give your children a balance in life, otherwise, you are compromising their mental health and well-being all in the name of Academia. That's that,
Academia....😏😏😏
I did very well in school, but if I had parents like this, I would've rebelled and gotten bad grades out of sheer spite.
Bro... no you wouldn't. You might feel like you would, but a five-hour scream lecture for getting a C or disagreeing with them on academic decisions will change your mind real quick.
that's why these kids end up hating their folks
+TALY JIMMY except mine. I'm not Asian. I'm Hispanic. My parents are super strict and overprotective that I can't even learn to drive at 17! -.- b
Actually they don't. In fact, it is the exact opposite.
Anson L nope its kinda they do hate or no but asian parenst usually want their kids do well is ofc cuz they will be rich but they ALSO want money and other things from the child when they have money and then they may brag about u to othe rppl which i will kinda feel bad for the others but yeah some will grow to hate their parents
ALPHABARN
Kids buy love from their parents with grades. Parents buy love from their kids with money. It's a perfect system.
Word
These kids will get to a certain age and will have just had enough and go off the rails. They might drop out and start doing drugs, or just leave unexpectedly or stop talking to their parents, but kids who are raised like this don't turn out well.
I feel you.
It’s true.
@@adventurewithme1624 Sophie actually got arrested for weed possession in 2010.
@mystic who is Sophie again?
Mystic who is Sophie again?
“Everything else is lower class”
y’all wtf 💀😭
This type of parenting will boil all positive emotions from your Child. And will only leave sadness and anger.
As a Filipino, my parents pushed me for good grades because they believed in me; especially when i did sciene fairs, math olympics, and spelling bees all from 3rd-8th grade. As much as it hated studying for all of it, i sucked it up and gave it my all, and seeing their proud faces when i did great in the competitions made it all worth it. And when i say pushed me it was NEVER like this.
On the subject of ivy leegue schools, that was actually a dream but never a reality all in part of my own laziness to study for the SAT and ACT. Took the ACT 3x and my highest score was a 23. But with that score i ended up going to the best school i know, LOUISIANA TECH BABY!! 🔵🔴🐶 That 23 helped my a lot scholarship wise and made me realize that ivy leagues are not the only path to success.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
The thing is we gotta remember we aren't only put on this Earth to just study. There is a lot more to explore in this world such as relationships/friendships, lots of emotions, our strengths/weaknesses, our "own" values.
You are right.
But save that crap for Asian parents they only care about: pride, Face, money, honor.
Asians parents have no feelings because Its not important to them.
***** very true! And they are very self righteous and feel superior when looking at other cultures. My mother always says that she doesn't care what other people think, but then she's always talking about what other people think, and my sole purpose in life is apparently to be the subject of her facade, so that she can say 'my son this, my son that'... I've completely given up living her dreams and am following my own now :D
Ian Patricia Chan exactly with my parents too. Asian parents also loves to denying stuff and they NEVER like to admit that they are wrong.
Ian Patricia Chan The other thing that pissing me off the most is not my parents!
They are the other relatives and their so called friend.
If their child is smart at school they using him as a bad example if that child is stupid they using him as bad example.
A lot of my relatives using me as a bad example and saying negative stuff about me.
I am like who the fuck are you? 365 Days in a year I only see you once our not even that! I never talking to you and I never even seen you for years and you going to judge me by my grades when your conversation with me is like average
1 hour in 10 years! Bitch please is what I think of them!
There’s a difference between being smart and having good grades and there is a difference between school and education and the last thing is that if you look up depression in the dictionary you will see a picture of school
"Unless she got 800, then I would hug her"
Conditional love at its finest lmao
As an Asian kid myself I just wanted to say that not all Asian parents are like this!!
A LOT of them r
You are right. However, by a rough estimate you’re apart of the 1-3% that got lucky.
The other 97%, (mine too), god help us.
The “F” in the chat by everyone else’s standards: respect. The “F” in the chat to an Asian parent: disrespect. They’d probably force u to give A+ for respect
We shouldn't have to list our race or ethnicity at all on a college app.
yes 101 why the fuck wouldn't that be fair?
yes 101 It's fair if the best get in. Are you delusional?
yes 101 I did my reasearch long ago than you very much and don't agree with it. Just like giving high positions to women despite the the fact there are more qualified men in countries near mine to make an image of civilized society.
That is a really bad move and does not lead to progress.
yes 101 Well, your argument that it wouldn't be "fair" started this, didn't it?
yes 101 Seeing the original comment is against this, I would't say it's view of general population.
I got an 81% on my chemistry unit test and my mom was like “oh that’s okay you could have done better but great job”
-black mom 2019
chemistry itself is difficult
tbf an 81 isn't that good
I got 92 % and nobody cared
Dude I got a 91 in a subject where my previous highest score was around 83 and when my mom saw the examination sheet she said had I been your teacher I would have given you a 33.
@@navyagupta8950 I'm so lucky to not have people that yell at me even tho I'm asian
Hey mom hey dad, I got into Harvard
Them: I’m so disappointed in you
"Play a song Congratulation"
" THERE IS NO SONG CALLED CONGRATULATION" had me dead 😂😂😂
Congratulations by Hamilton.
Brawllers Congratulations by day6
@@rommeleloisa *flashbacks*
“I’m proud of you” doesn’t come out until they get the results they want. And even if they did get the results they wanted, they always expect more.
If they want their child to be happy, they aren't doing a good job. Their kids look so stressed. :/ They aren't listening and they think it's a big joke, like they can just say "DO THIS. DO THAT" and the kids won't feel any negative effects from not being teenagers?? To see the smile on her face fade because her father wasn't proud of her shattered me. This is why kids have self esteem issues. IT'S NEVER ENOUGH FOR THE PARENTS.
TheMagicalSofa You could not be more wrong. It's the kids who receive constant cheap and easy praise who end up with self-esteem problems. Cheap and easy praise is the preferred tool of lazy and disinterested parents, and it's this disinterest which tells later in life. The kids in this piece have very committed and involved parents, so they have a very solid sense of being valued.
DP 63 Using your offspring as a means of living the life you always wanted but never could and as a tool of control is not to be confused with being involved. It should be seen as nothing more than controlling behavior.
TheChickenRiceBowl That's an absurd leap to make - that involved parents are living vicariously through their children. The majority of such parents are themselves successful professionals, and are in no need of boosting. I see more of that controlling thing from arty and lax parents ... who insist via conditioning that their kids are also arty, or musical, or whatever, to the point that such kids are effectively brainwashed into making a career of it. Asian parents don't compel kids into particular careers ... they simply make sure they don't choose useless degrees which will never earn them any money. That's not controlling, that's being a responsible and caring parent. Love isn't only hugs and freedom ... it's the cold hard work of setting our kids up to succeed materially, as well as psychically. That means involvement and ego-less guidance.
DP 63 Are you kidding me? One of the things I have ever wanted was someone, most of all my dad, to tell me that I was good at something, or I did well. Not "Oh yeah, you got a 85 on your test. Why didn't you get a 100, Pranav's dad just told me at work today that his son got a 95 on his test." My mom is the only one who tells me that I did something good, even then she will backtrack immediately anyways. You shouldn't constantly be shoving praise at them for everything, but I wouldn't mind if for once something I did was good enough. It's disappointing to work hard to not even get a little praise from them.
These parents are better than some in at least showing more affection to their children and telling them that they are proud. I will never get that, I bet a lot of kids don't regardless of race or culture. I can respect it in a way, because it's kinda better than the way I have seen other kids grow up.
Mom: Oh, you’re a fan of The Bee Gees? Why don’t you like AYY GEES?!!
12:30 wait is she upset that she's getting a full PAID scholarship?? Lol, she has no clue how the real world works. She'll have no student debt, which is a blessing.
I’m blissful knowing that SAT’s are no longer regarded when a student is applying for a university in the UC or CAL system. It’s such a reliever.
“There’s no song called
congratulations “
Post Malone: Am I a joke to you
*Pewdiepie
*Day6
she didn't have the time to listen to music anyways
Jonathan Jets you realize that this was made in 2010 right
eric nam: am i a joke to you
"After about four months, she could do fractions, decimals, additions, subtraction, multiplication and division"
Me who still cant do any of those:
*notlikethis*
Strict Parents: *More like parents who want an obedient son/daughter to pay their taxes in the future; killing creativity maniacs. I have a feeling they want to have a personal slave instead of a child who has a passion.*
This is way more intense than any Hollywood movie I've ever seen.
*asian parents: THATS NOT GOOD ENOUGH!!* *also Asian parents: “doesn’t know what 100 x 9500 is lol*
I think it's 95000.
It's 950,000.
It's way too easy to calculate. Just look at the zeroes. 950000
I really feel for the girl. The best is actually both good at studies and also have a good personality and friends and things like that. My parents just want to get me to harvard and when I just look at my phone for 4 minutes she just calls me a unworthy child.
I studied in Hong Kong and seriously, this is how lots of us study... even students from primary school sometimes have at least 15 pieces of home work p/day
Ancient Guidance I know... some of my friends in Hong Kong studied until 12 o clock when they were just in 3rd grade or so... the Hong Kong education system is messed up...
Skynet Cyborg exactly! This is just parenting done wrong...
God Bless The West oh wow they have dinner in school? That’s hardcore lol, my school never had that, that sounds very hard...
Ya I agree, nowadays I’m getting used to this new education system I certainly grown lazier haha..
Mycroft Holmes that’s so little try Malaysia
rajesh raj yeah ik my sister goes through that but I am lucky whoo
Dad: “I hope you will yell at yourself”
*WTF?*
Hahahahaha! LOL😊😊😊😊😊🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭😀😀😀😀😀😀😀🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
That didn’t make any sense 😒😐
Child: *blood types B*
Asian parents: *disappointed*
Duh😂
Hmm I see u have been watching chonny
B pos is still not good enough, not til I get A pos
😂😂😂
Ooof am O positive. And will never be A positive lmao
"unless she got 800 then i would hug her" damn i feel so sorry for these kids
Lewi i started crying when I heard that
Damn right you should😂
Hmm... Welcome to my daily life
@@shrutis damN I feel you 😔
They’re so lucky, i wish my parents were like that. I naturally love studying tho. But motivation like that would be good.
Kid: I got a perfect SAT score!
Parents: Not good, but not awful.
Avocado Cado it funny how I saw the reaction to the SAT score coming.
“Not good, but not awful” - sounds like something I would tell my child if they showed me a report card with full of B’s and C’s.
That's pushing it.
That's what my parents would say if I got an A- on my report card ( I'm not asian, I'm black)
@@GuardianDiancieSome Asian parents would use this grading scale:
A = Average (or Acceptable)
B = Below average
C = Can't eat dinner
D = Don't come home
F = Find a new family
Asian child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Asian parent: "That's OK, you could do better."
Normal
A = Excellent
B = Above average (Good)
C = Average (just Ok)
D = Below Average (Poor)
F = Failed (Very bad)
Western child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Western parent: "Wow, that's really awesome! I'm so proud of you!"
@@aaronchao7562 Omg true, since I've been living in the US I would say my parent's "grading scale" is a mix of both when I was in 6th grade since my average GPA was 3.8, but in by the end of 7th grade my GPA throughout the entire year was a 4.0 so now my parents always expect me to get all A's while for my OLDER brother 2 B's are fine.
“You can’t argue with a stubborn Chinese man”
Words of wisdom.
M2RC0 expect a black woman can...
Heh 666 likes
@@BlueberrySummertime oof only if they weren't stubborn 😂
PREACH
I just recognized am so so lucky from minimal pressure of a Chinese background family - am rarely lucky to have a stress free childhood
Parenting 101:
*Don't live through your kids*
I said that too. And if I do have kid I want them to live for them self. I don't really find enjoyment letting someone else do what I wanted. If that wanted to do it to that's fine but I want to do it for my self.
Drenched in black
I don't want kids
Until I'm 32 years old
@@theroadtocosplayandcomicco5840 big mood
@@QuanBrown27 What does "live for them self" even mean? Children are molded by their environment. What you are proposing is a fool's errand.
These parents think they are making their kids succesfull but in reality they are making them depressed and unsocialized
And soon develop mental disorder..they push their kids to the breaking point
Plus an unsocialised adult is not a successful one...
These parents are turning their children into robots.
wiktoria kohman they can be social when they are rich and successful
@@ty9392 you can't be rich of your not social. Your not gonna be able to find connections or pitch a idea
The girl that got accepted in yale didnt cry because she got accepted but cried because her mom finally hugged her
LMAO AHAHAXHAHAHAHHA
Wouldn't be surprised if it was her fist time.
And she can't wait til mom ...
Poor girl has no me-time. If I was her, I would’ve had a mental breakdown
Elena Lina Unlike asians we would rather choose to not be stressed out to the point of killing ourselves. Us blacks, hispanics, and white people would rather be truly successful and happy.
@@heavensangel7882 That is very true, but do you think we have a choice in not following our parents' words? They would disown us if we didn't act according to their wishes.
Julie Song I know that you don’t have a choice as a child but I was replying to the person who said that Hispanics, blacks, and whites were less successful than Asians just because our parents don’t stress us out with unnecessary work and pressure.
My parents are a lot like this, it would just be a step up.
@Elena Lina top 10 richest people in the world: *white*
when sophie was overflowing with joy and called her dad only to be disappointed yet again, i felt that
honestly she looked so sad 😢
At wat time?
time?
Timestamp?
@@void-xt8pw 7:24
The Asian Grading Scale:
A-Average
B-Bad
C-Can't Eat Dinner
D-Don't Go Home
F-Find a New Family
haha! child abuse so funny to joke about right?!!!!
@@ohno685 Fuck yeah
@@ohno685 its reality most of the times
Copy and paste
@@ohno685 yep
They didn’t accept her because she didn’t join any clubs or activities. Like colleges want more from a student than number
right, these schools want well rounded individuals, not just doing well on tests. your extra curriculars, communication, and volunteer work matter.
Yeah but she couldn't do any because her parents made her study all day
From what I heared the only important thing is 1. Being great at a popular sport 2. Having a bullshit amount of volunter work
Little Blue it’s more like showing passion and initiative in a specific field of interest, so if that passion happens to be a sport yeah
You're an idiot. All colleges want are students with the best scores. Clubs and other activities have no importance to being a well rounded person.
What breaks me the most is when I hear their voices. Their tones express all their feelings. You can just hear their exhaustion and emptiness.
Their soul and spirit already left their body..They just operate on auto pilot mode.
we get used to it
@@ira5290 At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
@Xushi1sMissing At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
3:23
Dad: I hope you will yell at yourself.
Daughter: For what?!
I burst out laughings.
Lol
Judging if that were my dad/mom, they mean that every single thing that they expect me to do (a crap ton) should be done before they think that you've died and come to jabber for half an hour about how their friends' kids are more responsible and could get into Ivy Leagues.
“I’m not special enough” when she said that, it broke my heart
True dat. She needs to be more special . Cookie cutter doesn’t work.
It’s cause she doesn’t do extracurricular activities smh
Her parents
April Dong that’s not enough. You need to show some special skill or achievement. Be unique. They don’t want cookie cutter.
The daughter will be next strict asian parent too... they are same 😂
just boils my blood the type of kids that usually feel this way go on to commit suicide or eventually breakdown and lose themselves
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” - Carl Jung
Omg I never even thought about this, this is such a good quote thank you for sharing this
Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.
girl got into Yale but seriously I wanna join Harvard I do get straight As but I only can draw anime oof
My Asian parents can't understand this. I take part in orchestra and since I need to practice a lot, I didn't study as much. My grades was still the same though, the typical between 70-90 which they are always so disappointed in. My mom keeps saying that orchestra is affecting my grades and tells me to quit orchestra. I tell them that co-curriculum marks are important too but guess what my mom said? She said that universities prioritize grades more than co-curriculum activities. I honestly don't know how to convince her to understand...
Sorry you had to listen to me rant
It's just how differently the college process works in China. It's literally your score on a single test that decides everything iirc. Still extremely upsetting to think about, though.
I’m Asian and my parents gave up on me when I was 10
@@AngelicaStar I'm really sorry they don't understand. Perhaps they don't know that universities don't just consider grades as a path to success. Extracurricular activities, community service hours, GPA, SAT scores, and a good character are all incorporations which decides if colleges are going to accept you or not. Sorry if I don't have much to say to this but I feel really bad that your mom is harsh on you like this. I'm Asian and I guess my parents are the same, especially they push me so much to rant and work about on SATs and sometimes it's just really, really annoying.
Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.
Source?
Wheres the source
Relapsed?
*ITS JUST WEED*
source? also weed should be decriminalized everywhere
@@juniper154 people have a poor understanding of how one gets into drugs
Asian grading system
A: acceptable
B: Beating
C: can’t have dinner
D:Don’t come home
F: Find new family
That's clever
I am asian but thank God my parents are not like them
Same, that's too much.
A: a is for average
A - average
B - bad
C - crap
D - dead
F - fucked
Asian kid: *Listens to 50 cent*
Asian parent: *Y u no listen to 100 cent*
If asian parents see you listen to rap they'll yell at you and be racist and compare you to black kids in a bad way.
@@PENSDYNASTY for 1st gen immigrant parents yes but not for 2nd and 3rd gen.
PENSDYNASTY 2020 lmao that may be true in most cases, but I’m asian American and I listen to rap with my parents in the car and they like rap too😂😂
Lmao
@@PENSDYNASTY my parents are first generation and my dad loved tupac when he came here so...
Chinese Parents : " Get good grades "
Children : " What's the highest you guys have ever gotten "
Chinese Parents : "You want beating!?"
Me an edge lord: do you want to drown in your own blood?
@@veevee1111 nah, after school they just forget shit. Like me- Whenever I ask my Korean mom, she just tells me to go finish my work-
@@veevee1111 they meaning my parents-
My mum got straight A and scholarship, this will never work
“Unless you gets 800 I would hug her.” Ok I can say that this parent failed as being a parent.
Zack Tom
Damn. Here in my family my parents are the one who consoles me whenever I get shit grades. Always telling me that Im already doing my best and that I shouldn’t stress over it. Hell they’re happy as long as I pass, and get excited when I get on top of class. (I usually got honors from Elementary to Senior High and 90+ on cards but I don’t see myself as a smart guy since I have to make a huge effort and study time with my friends just to pass Math in Senior High). Compared to this girl I was very average when I was her age, yet my parents always bragged about me to their friends (I dont know whether to feel embarrassed or happy lol). Really puts things into perspective. Glad I don’t live in a family where grades equate to your parents love.
My parents never really congratulate me when I get good grades and I'm never rewarded for them, and they also never console me when I get not so good grades lol they just tell me I need to study that subject harder and not so much phone 💀💀
@Benjamin Miller haha too bad for you guys. my race, black, we get diversity. what a shame for y'all
@@Nope-en9bo plZ say dang
as an asian myself, asian parents usually have double standard and only focuses on grades rather than their kid's actual talent and wont bother help developing it. they usually want their kids to be a doctor, lawyer, or a rich investor. so like becoming a singer,actor,etc is considered bad by asian parents lol
The look on Sophie's face when her dad wasn't that happy with her getting 760 on both subjects just sucked the life out of her.
Her dad's so fickle in his thinking. My God! For heaven's sake, make up your mind.
If I was her I will abandon him later. Fuck that, they think they can just fck and have a baby without fulfilling the baby's emotional needs. Disgusting. I'm asian and I loathe this.
Imagine if she responded by saying “YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED?!!”
Bro it’s like the only F she ever received was her gender on her report card.
Ikr😂😆
Then how bout m oh yeah the word start with silent *a* ...m
hi directioner!
Her parents where probably mad at thst lmao
this remind me of that amazing world of gumball episode
Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.
Grace Lieu You read I love yoo too
Kocoa Butter, YEP!! :)
That's all parents but they need to have a life as well
My parents are exactly like that too.
Same for my asian parents. They don't really care about my grades as long as they aren't a C or lower, or if I really tried my best. They only care about my health and happiness
This is making me so angry. No child should every be pressured like this😠
Fuck those parents
But sadly this is the condition of several Asian students (Particularly Indian ) I personally have seen a lot of my friends here in India have parental pressure like insane
Tech Wiz my parents are asian and Arab and it’s really tuff dealing with the pressure
Bebe Kingham ikr but fight on dude....and you’ll achieve your dream on your own way
I agree with u bro
He thinks UCLA is lower class?! That’s my dream college!!
RIGHT, its mine too :D I live in Cali so its also conveintent but the campus and everything else just makes me want to go!. I hope they accept me. (I have three years left of highschool) and I hope they accept you whenever you apply.
@-_*SlickySlickDo* _- Its a religion.
Back in his day college admissions weren’t as competitive
Socializing her to look down upon Rutgers. Gtfoh
In 2010, UCLA wasn't nearly as reputable as it is now. As of 2019, the acceptance rate is around 11% which nears less competitive ivy leagues.
If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help
Nah, most people who even apply to Harvard Princeton Yale have full score acts and full scores on 3-4 SAT subjects tests. For Asians, that's practically expected for any applicant. You need extracurriculars and leadership on top of that. Even non hyp like Penn, Dartmouth, Cornell, and Brown have like a 2-3% acceptance rate for Asians, and most of them applying will have full scores. It's crazy.
Maybe for Harvard but Ik plenty of Asians who still get into Cornel and Dartmouth just because they had great GPA and a good essay
Arctic Zombie nah lol I’m asian as hell too. In asia it’s pretty normal that students do no extra curricular and mainly focus on exam scores. I remember at my my high school(USA), the seledectorian wrote a long ass Facebook post on how he was depressed af since he didn’t get into Stanford and only focused his GPA. He blamed not doing any extra curricular and his obsession to his school rank. He ended up going to Cornell. Other stories like this were not uncommon in my school.
Lmao this guy thinks that Duke, Stanford and MIT are “lower class”
Duke is pretty trash, though. Stanford and MIT are much more reputable and aren't filled with snobby, overly pretentious white kids.
FireNinja606 tbh every prestigious college in the US is filled with snobby white kids, majority are mostly, if not, all white. I know because I go to UPENN.
also lmao MIT is pretty much the top uni in the world right now
@@timbat5324 *Jewish
@@zoeguan9941 you mean Princeton right? MIT is the top tech university in the world, not THE top university in the world.
Wanna have an estranged relationship with your kids? Do this. Force them to do what you want. Treat them as numbers. I promise you will be hated when they move out.
Exactly
lol then they 'll pretend of being choqued about why their kids hate them
They probably gonna pretend part of their paychecks
you dont know asian parents. so shut the fuck off you mouth.
asian parents gave lot of love to theri children, much more than white parents
Aww how cute, you kiss your mother with that mouth kid?
The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.
They will wonder why their kids do not call or talk to them. But they will never learn.
@@PungiFungi And they will die alone and not even meeting their child’s family and will be forgotten and die empty.
@@firemangan2731 Very poetic. When the internet is more emotional mature than the AP themselves.
@@longwlenguyen4214 Thanks.
True then wonder why they’re kids don’t call or come around as much.
I think if she had gotten 800 they would have been like why not 900?
@@andrewtaylor2430 it did
@@andrewtaylor2430 r/woooosh
Andrew Taylor it’s called a joke.....
Like the other comments saying, why %100? Why no get %150?
Lucy Nguyen I bet if she got 900 they would be like “U need to get da 1929847573929299494 dumb child”
900 why not 9000
Hahaha wow if the cameras weren't around they'd be beating their asses
and what would they be doing, when their child really did well at school, did success, would they even be proud of their child and praise their child besides beating?
My mom still kicks my ass.
Mincah what i mean is they would get a beating because of their attitude towards their parents
女子高生 My mum stopped when i stuck up for myself
+Eden Sika Lucky, I stick up for myself but she doesn't care. I just have 1 more year before I can move out.
Dad: We need to talk about your report card 😡
Girl: But I got straight A’s!!!
Dad: no you didn’t! Look, it says “Gender: F”
Girl: but that’s because I’m female!
Dad: you can’t use being a girl as an excuse!
😂 that was from a tv show
Gumball
Yup 😏
Maddie Fishblob Nicole Waterson 😂😂
Clever, very clever
‘’You can’t use being a girl as an excuse’’ yeah wow I know 😂
Yale, Harvard, or Princeton “Everything else is lower class”
So Columbia is lower class? Hmm,
I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it like that. They would've been happy with any Ivy League college but Havard, Yale and Princeton and the oldest Ivies and have a bigger reputation.
kjcpoper ahh ok. Got it :]
u forgot Penn, MIT, Stanford, Princeton, Cornell, Brown, Colombia, CALTECH and all the others
Of course! And Cornell? Don't even get me STARTED on that shithole.
Cornell is one of the easier ivys to get into.
If the cameras weren’t there.... the parents would’ve taken out the old sandal...
Nah man probably the belt and the slippers. double damage!
@@racheltlytly1178 you forget wires
my mexican parents : the voy a dar la chancla
There’s the metal pole for me.
the broom and the stick
I’m Asian myself and if I went through this, I would’ve honestly killed myself. All this stress, peer pressure, anxiety and no love. I pray for these children.
I’m Asian and I’m going through it and honestly, I push myself harder than my parents.
@@Evili555 GOD STILL LOVES YOU
@@_also__also_5170 nice
@@_also__also_5170 btw, I want to take 5 APs next year for sophomore and my Asian parents(which value education) and they are like bruh, most kids only take 6 APs for entire 4 years at Highschool at my school and I’m like bruh, let me work harder. Smh
I wouldn't be surprised if she's a bit suicidal too tbh
"Dad is gonna be so happy about this."
7:41 her reaction though... it makes me want to cry too..
Ame thyst That’s so sad!
It happens to me everytime
They just wanted her to be smart and successful so that they could live in her life and house later on
parents : next time, 500 atleast
also parents : 770 is not good
also the parents : 800 minimum
There are three types of birds
1. Those that learn to fly early
2. Those that learn to fly late
And
3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly.
I believe most asian parents are 3.
Yessir
so sorry you dont understand your parents. maybe you will when you have children
@@Boymanjusri tried to understand them a lot for all my life of 21 years... But I don't know how many times I found their obsession to success as reasonable. Like, what if kid doesn't like and it u force it on them?! I always dreamt of studying business administration and my parents said "it's not for girls" and forced me to study computer science which I hate the most and they still expect me to top in it! Yeah I understand them.
@@army_4ever748 It's really hard. I've been this same situation. But atleast I can choice with my own.
@@army_4ever748 actually, I have also tried to think in their pov and I think I can understand them. The thing is that Asian parents want us to achieve the things that they never could achieve. They think that if they push us to have good grades, atleast we will be able to get into good colleges and get a good job and earn money. I am sure they also feel regret somewhere in their life and thus, making us do things. I believe this kind of parenting is not healthy and should never be encouraged. A kid should have the freedom to choose whatever they want to become in their life. This kind of parenting runs in the family. My grandmother used to beat up my mom when she was younger and she was also verbally abusive but they never realised it. So now my mom also does the same to me. Honestly, I am just gonna start being independent and start earning my own money and then move out when I turn 18.