I'm 36, and I've been on my own since I was 7 - that's when I realized I wasn't a "normal man" and when I realized I'd lose my family for good if I turned out to be the "fag" so many of my classmates thought I would be... Coming out and losing my family definitely cemented this feeling of loneliness, and I've been unable to build real connections since. I moved out at 15, and I think that's when my life really ended. What kind of a life is it when your whole community is left behind? I wonder when this feeling of loneliness will finally end - probably when I die. So I am really looking forward to it.
@@prkrmc6457 I am like you. A 37 yrs old familyless fag. No friend, no lover, no one. Death is pretty much a relief to think about for me. On a brighter side, I shared 13 years of my life with a dog: she was( still is)my everything. I will meaby adopt one other hairy angel before I go. They are not like humans, they are kind, loyal, brave. Having a walk in the nature with a happy doggo is the best thing ever happened to me. I wish you some joy, love and happiness my Friend.
I'm in my late 40's and tonight I considered going dancing at the club to get out of my isolation but my back and my knees hurt. That reminds me I'm not 30 anymore.
As a gay man, I've ALWAYS been lonely. Pretty much my entire life. But I don't think this is just a gay problem. Plenty of straight middle-aged and elderly men commit suicide. It's our modern culture, which is very alienating and isolating. Especially since smartphones came out.
Lots of these straight middle aged guys are actually closeted themselves, even if they have their own families. The lucky ones come to terms with themselves, fund a guy, and divorce their wives or leave their girlfriends. Facts.
I mean yeah, but being marginalized plays a huge factor in this too. Queer people tend to be more lonely than your average cishet person (even if they're lonely themselves too) for one simple reason - the vast majority of us aren't born in a community, and have to actively seek it out and fight to maintain it. That plays a HUGE tool in the development of your own personhood and sense of safety. We lack the numbers and the safety nets that cishet people do. I've personally noticed that I am always othered to some extent, even by the most accepting people, being perpetually filtered through a narrow view until most of my personhood vanishes.
I know I will die alone. Part of this is my own fault since I was a horrible person to people that cared for me. Some days are a struggle, but I don't really deserve any better.
I am a young gay and already have that same sense that I am left out. I believe that the best we can do is find the right place and make the most for ourselves in a heterosexual world.
I'm from Latin America (Costa Rica), and I'm gay. I grew up in a Christian family and in an intolerant and ignorant third-world society, so it was difficult for me to accept myself since I was a child, receiving since that age and from everywhere, messages about how everything related to me was bad, wrong, or a reason to go to hell. Nowadays all of that is different for me and my current context in life, but I see my grandfather, 90 years old, around all this family taking care of him, and when I see that, I know that's how things are not going to be in own my final years, instead of that, I see (maybe biased by my overthinking) a lot of loneliness, and I understand why gay men think about ending their lives before that point. It's scary.
I have always been alone! I dated a lot of ppl which led me to hear rumors of talking down. I got into altercations/ continued to find friendships and validation through dating apps. Poor memories of life lies within when I go to a gay bar alone. Now I just accepted loneliness rather than being betrayed by ppl.
I’m aro/ace. There is not a day I don’t think about it. I don’t think the guy featured in the video is happy. I think he’s just dealing with life. I’m just dealing with life. I’m just waiting to die or waiting for the day that I have had enough. On that day, I will do it. I will add that being asexual I have felt rejection from the lgbt. We aren’t even mentioned. I used to belong to a Facebook group for aromantic men. Most of us are depressed. Not having a place to accept us just adds to our misery.
You would date him and then move on to your next adventure. It's how gay community works. Also he is an older guy. I know these types, they would rather die alone than to even date people their age. Most of them want you for your youth. Thankfully, I was able to distant myself from the gay culture. Found my partner, who was a great match for me, who was just as tired of the gay community as I was. Back then it was the straight culture that was to blame. But our generation, we did not have that problem, and we still face this loneliness bcz of the gay culture. Most of my friends are either lonely, or go in and out of relationships without even trying to make things work. Its all about sex adventures nothing else. Then they end up being lonely. Sorry for being judgemental, but this was my experience within that community. I have rarely ever heard other people saying very good things about the community either.
@@alex0315 You are 100% right. I am finding this now. I am sick of being sad. I should have found a wife and had kids by now. Gay is not a good way to go.
I'm not gay! But i don't hate them! But i think this is more everyone! They think that 40 percent of woman will be single by 2030 so it will be 50 percent for gays and 60 or 70 percent for lesbians! So a lot of lonely people all together! SO SAD!
THERE IS A WAY THAT SEEMS RIGHT TO A MAN BUT THE END IS DESTRUCTION. SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS AND ALL OTHER THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU.
Life just sucks at times for me all the time majority of people out there only cares about looks the important things no longer exist so yeah dieing alone is a most likely it's sad but unfortunately true
Watching this video is like watching my future. I don't know if I want to cry or laugh.
I want to cry but my tears have all dried up because of unchosen loneliness..Big tight HUG to you. You surely need it as
much as I do!.
@@machoman6969 if u r from India may I come to hug u
Do both😂😢
That is what I ll try to do too my Friend❤
I'm 36, and I've been on my own since I was 7 - that's when I realized I wasn't a "normal man" and when I realized I'd lose my family for good if I turned out to be the "fag" so many of my classmates thought I would be...
Coming out and losing my family definitely cemented this feeling of loneliness, and I've been unable to build real connections since. I moved out at 15, and I think that's when my life really ended. What kind of a life is it when your whole community is left behind?
I wonder when this feeling of loneliness will finally end - probably when I die. So I am really looking forward to it.
@@prkrmc6457 I am like you. A 37 yrs old familyless fag. No friend, no lover, no one.
Death is pretty much a relief to think about for me.
On a brighter side, I shared 13 years of my life with a dog: she was( still is)my everything. I will meaby adopt one other hairy angel before I go.
They are not like humans, they are kind, loyal, brave. Having a walk in the nature with a happy doggo is the best thing ever happened to me.
I wish you some joy, love and happiness my Friend.
I can feel this already. Being over 40 starts making things a bit more difficult, and loneliness begins to settle in.
I'm in my late 40's and tonight I considered going dancing at the club to get out of my isolation but my back and my knees hurt. That reminds me I'm not 30 anymore.
I’ve been alone my entire life , it just feels worse because it feels like all hope is lost now
@@RustyMikeyTiger don’t lose hope
As a gay man, I've ALWAYS been lonely. Pretty much my entire life. But I don't think this is just a gay problem. Plenty of straight middle-aged and elderly men commit suicide. It's our modern culture, which is very alienating and isolating. Especially since smartphones came out.
Lots of these straight middle aged guys are actually closeted themselves, even if they have their own families. The lucky ones come to terms with themselves, fund a guy, and divorce their wives or leave their girlfriends. Facts.
If you're old and gay, pretty much the only way to get a date is by becoming a sugar daddy.
@@YoBoyMarcus Or stay fit. I'm almost 50 and run 20 miles per week and weigh the same as I did in middle school.
I mean yeah, but being marginalized plays a huge factor in this too. Queer people tend to be more lonely than your average cishet person (even if they're lonely themselves too) for one simple reason - the vast majority of us aren't born in a community, and have to actively seek it out and fight to maintain it. That plays a HUGE tool in the development of your own personhood and sense of safety. We lack the numbers and the safety nets that cishet people do. I've personally noticed that I am always othered to some extent, even by the most accepting people, being perpetually filtered through a narrow view until most of my personhood vanishes.
There is nobody to talk to. They are too busy with a stupid smartphone
I know I will die alone. Part of this is my own fault since I was a horrible person to people that cared for me. Some days are a struggle, but I don't really deserve any better.
I am in the same boat with you
Me too with some of it
If all you three men feel the same build a support group!
@@kashawnk2975 omgg you're so funny... how do you do it?
I feel you I accepted it as well
I told you so moment . More gay men die all alone than any other demographics
So do a lot of straight seniors with kids who never visit them in the convalescent homes!
I am a young gay and already have that same sense that I am left out. I believe that the best we can do is find the right place and make the most for ourselves in a heterosexual world.
It certainly is a real problem for people like us ✝️
Dear LGBTQ's, please don't end your lives. Jesus loves you and I love you
I'm from Latin America (Costa Rica), and I'm gay. I grew up in a Christian family and in an intolerant and ignorant third-world society, so it was difficult for me to accept myself since I was a child, receiving since that age and from everywhere, messages about how everything related to me was bad, wrong, or a reason to go to hell. Nowadays all of that is different for me and my current context in life, but I see my grandfather, 90 years old, around all this family taking care of him, and when I see that, I know that's how things are not going to be in own my final years, instead of that, I see (maybe biased by my overthinking) a lot of loneliness, and I understand why gay men think about ending their lives before that point. It's scary.
But Jesus wants them holy. He won't accept gays into Heaven
Thank you so much
Buddha loves you too
When everyone is captivated with material things and can not form healthy relationships with each other.
🎯
They aired this on Mormon TV? Blimey!
Before Nature with such a tender smile , destroys her crooked child.( "The moths", Tenessee Williams)
My moral and love support send to you amigo from here in Atlanta/Doraville, Georgia . And WE ARE NOT ALONE .
I hope he's ok
I have always been alone! I dated a lot of ppl which led me to hear rumors of talking down. I got into altercations/ continued to find friendships and validation through dating apps. Poor memories of life lies within when I go to a gay bar alone. Now I just accepted loneliness rather than being betrayed by ppl.
Ageism is rampant
I’m aro/ace. There is not a day I don’t think about it. I don’t think the guy featured in the video is happy. I think he’s just dealing with life. I’m just dealing with life. I’m just waiting to die or waiting for the day that I have had enough. On that day, I will do it. I will add that being asexual I have felt rejection from the lgbt. We aren’t even mentioned. I used to belong to a Facebook group for aromantic men. Most of us are depressed. Not having a place to accept us just adds to our misery.
This kinda sucks
Please dont kill yourselves. Look to Christ, brothers and sisters.
cut the drag
I think there are more single people now than ever.
Dane, you’re a handsome man. I would date you ❤
You would date him and then move on to your next adventure. It's how gay community works. Also he is an older guy. I know these types, they would rather die alone than to even date people their age. Most of them want you for your youth.
Thankfully, I was able to distant myself from the gay culture. Found my partner, who was a great match for me, who was just as tired of the gay community as I was.
Back then it was the straight culture that was to blame. But our generation, we did not have that problem, and we still face this loneliness bcz of the gay culture. Most of my friends are either lonely, or go in and out of relationships without even trying to make things work.
Its all about sex adventures nothing else. Then they end up being lonely. Sorry for being judgemental, but this was my experience within that community. I have rarely ever heard other people saying very good things about the community either.
@@alex0315 Don't most relationships began with a date? (Why so cynical?)
@@alex0315 You are 100% right. I am finding this now. I am sick of being sad. I should have found a wife and had kids by now. Gay is not a good way to go.
We all die alone, gay or straight
Who he $ and hoes
The likeliness of doing this if he was married to a woman and with children. It is not normal or good for a man to be alone ( BIBLE)
tell that to the good married straight guys with kids who still want to unalive
He is gay though, not straight. Embrace truth, not the madeup falsehoods of the bible
@@velevetyyflieslots of them are actually mostly gay themselves.
@@Robert-vf6nyNo they're not. Gay people are less than 5% of the us population and that's eay less when you go to other cultures
@@Miss-V123 so what do you call guys who say they are straight and like having sex with men? They're not gay or bi???
I'm not gay! But i don't hate them! But i think this is more everyone! They think that 40 percent of woman will be single by 2030 so it will be 50 percent for gays and 60 or 70 percent for lesbians! So a lot of lonely people all together! SO SAD!
Who was wit em tho haha
Feminism fails 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Toxic patriarchy has caused these ideot
THERE IS A WAY THAT SEEMS RIGHT TO A MAN BUT THE END IS DESTRUCTION. SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS AND ALL OTHER THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU.
Life just sucks at times for me all the time majority of people out there only cares about looks the important things no longer exist so yeah dieing alone is a most likely it's sad but unfortunately true
Oh well, who really gives a ____