Life Update: No Longer Breastfeeding, Hard Mom Days and Being Honest (It’s Been Tough)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ค. 2024
- In today’s video I share all the real and raw behind the scenes of what the first warm weekend looked like around here. From big feelings and breakdowns in the car to family dinners and family time, this is just what a real weekend sometimes looks like around here.
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 - intro
0:24 - Good morning
2:18 - Dance class
3:10 - Sage update
5:22 - Big news
7:50 - Date with Sage
9:10 - Back home
9:48 - Gigis house
12:40 - Bbq
13:38 - Next day
14:09 - Matts moms house
14:36 - Outro
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Motherhood is the hardest job in the world! This phase will pass and they are on to their next phase, never ending. But when they are asleep they look like little angels.😊 Thank you Nikole for keeping it real....
always, thank you for being apart of this community
This is such a fun stage but with the highs def come the hard times to but Im soaking it all up because toddler life is so short
Thank you so much for being real and letting us struggling moms out here don’t feel bad for feeling this way also. It’s so hard somedays. We cry together sometimes😅
Thank you for sharing your honesty and being so vulnerable with us! Makes me feel less alone! You’re so loved!!
happy to vent and share
It's so cool to hear Sage talking and basically watching her grow up from afar!
Two things:
You both are amazing parents, you continuously show how much you love your little girl.
And, the things you say about your child while they are in earshot are internalized and become your child's inner voice. That is something I always keep in mind before I talk about certain struggles ❤️
I love your reminder about everything being a phase. We’re currently going through a heavy tantrum phase and it’s so hard. Sending you love ❤
I can feel your heartbreak in this video, Nikole. I have a 19 month old son and it makes me cry thinking about our breastfeeding journey ending eventually. You’re an amazing mom and thank you for always keeping it so real. Would love that video on weaning and how you guys transitioned. ♥️
it was deffiilet bittersweet but now that its been a few weeks it just seems normal that its not part of our routine. She did randomly ask for it tonight while putting her to bed and it was a reminder which made me a little sad but I know she was just asking to prolong going to bed because she also requested a bath lol
Isn’t it crazy how the mood can change every few minutes with toddlers?! Such a wild ride. I have a 4 yo and 2 yo, I so relate to all of this. The hard days can be so, so hard. The joyful times are so beautiful it’s painful. Thank you so much for sharing with us and being so authentic
Thank you for listening to me vent
Omg I’m sobbing on the GO train watching this. I started working again and I had to wean my son to only one feed when he wakes up. Weaning was VERY emotional for me and I also suffered from terrible mood swings. I still want to breastfeed him because i miss the bond so so much but I know it’s best for him as his independence from me is important when I’m gone at work. I just miss being with him every day and nursing him every hour now😭❤️ sending you love cause I know how hard this is
sending you virtual hugs! I know its an emotional transition for sure.
After the challenges of the newborn/baby stage with breastfeeding and sleeping (which was the very hardest for me, looking back) comes the challenging toddler period, which, depending on the toddler, can be quite rough. It was very rough with my first, though not as rough as the baby stage. I would say the key is stepping back, just like you do when your baby is crying non stop and you take a break from it. The tantrums and meltdowns are very emotionally draining so it's important that, while staying connected to your toddler, you take a step back from the situation as often as possible. I remember this time very vividly. It gets better, and sooner than you probably think. Suddenly you have a lovely school-aged child (school age is from 3-4 where I live) and it's all so much better. Sending you strength!❣💪
Basically having a toddler is like being in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unstable, their brain is underdeveloped and emotional regulation does not work yet. This gets soooo much better, I promise.🌹
I related so much to this. Some days my son is going through all the emotions and it’s hard. Nikole you’re doing great and Sage is such a beauty, I cannot believe how big she is ❤. Hoping for some easier times for both of us.
You could not have described motherhood better. We have a sick kid right now in the house and I’ve been up throughout the night. I’m exhausted and just wondering when the constant hits will stop. You’re doing a great job and it’s completely normal how you feel! It’s the hardest thing in the world.
sending you lots of love and support
Aw this is so sweet and relatable. Children drive us crazy in the WORST & BEST ways ❤❤
Couldn't imagine our life without this crazy monkey keeping us on our toys
Having a rough time with my toddler too lately, it's not complaining it's just a natural feeling we all go through sometimes. I literally cried when you said the when your 80 you would miss this day. 😭
Ugh wow I was crying right along with you talking about breastfeeding and then the appreciating these moments when we are 80 story...
today was definitely one of those hard days for me and my LO and I am super grateful for your continued positivity AND realness. Others said this already but it's true for me too, you made me feel way less alone❤ wish we were besties 😂❤
these kids just make us so emotional! haha
Congrats on 2.5 years breastfeeding! ♥️ thanks for always keeping motherhood real in your videos, it’s hard work - but so rewarding at the same time.
So glad to see a video like this. I’ve been having hard time lately and feeling defeated too. Tomorrow’s a new day, new start 🥰
sending you support
Patiently waiting for the toddler e-book :) ❤
I wish every mom could read the book “regretting motherhood” without that title scaring everyone away. We have got to start normalizing the hardships of parenting so that people have realistic expectations and can make decisions on whether it’s for them or not. Thank you for keeping it real.
That is an intense title haha I agree though that people need to understand and see both sides of parenting. Sage is so much fun right now and teaching us so much every day but its also a hard job.
@@HealthNutNutrition yes it IS about the name of the title but mostly it’s just about the taboo ambivalence of mothering that includes both the intensity of the love and the unimaginable that they aren’t now in our lives along with not ignoring how tough it really can be.
So mostly just to say I see you mama and know it’s hard sometimes 🤍
Motherhood is an emotional rollercoaster for sure, but I think we are allowed to not enjoy everything about this journey. I just give myself permission to feel the way I feel, and knowing that I’m allowed to not be happy all the time helps me deal with the emotions more easily.
This video is so relatable. My daughter is in the same stage and it’s draining and so tough. We’re also still breastfeeding and I can feel that I am ready to start weaning and I just have no idea how to even start to try, my daughter is obsessed and so dependent on it. I would love to see another video on that if you were thinking of doing one! Congrats on 2.5 years, I know it’s a rollercoaster. 🥲
Aaaahhhh Nikole, you're doing great with Sage, every stage of childhood/teenhood is a challenge and a treat, some days are wonderful and others not so much..... but from a mom of 3, "This too shall pass Mama" - Sending lots of love xxx
Thank you for the kindness sometimes it can really be hard to see the light and other days its all light
You helped me figure out how to breastfeed and made me feel confident in doing so. I’m now just shy of 15 months and going ❤ thank you for all you share! We love you!!
Hello! You and Matt are great parents. My oldest has a very strong-willed temperament. Now he’s 9 and he is still that way. When he was younger I used to wonder “is it me/us?! What am I doing wrong?” The mental wondering and confusion was almost the worst part. And no one understood. Once I accepted that it’s just the way he is (it’s his temperament, not us) it relieved the pressure and I gained confidence. I was able to find what works as far as boundaries and discipline, and what fills his cup with positive. Once he started school, life became a lot easier. He has wonderful qualities as well. Child 2 is polar opposite. He still has his moments but overall is a much less stressful experience. He is more “normal.” It’s the way that they are born. I’m already gearing up in my mind for the teenage years with #1. A whole new world to navigate. Yikes!!! 😂
#1 is also extremely intelligent. He’s too smart for his little body! It blew my mind when I started realizing through his educational pursuits just how intelligent he is. I think that contributes a lot to his hard headedness. There are great positives too!
Thank you for sharing. I am the daycare provider for my 17month old grandchild. Lol looked at my husband just last night and said how can we do this again. They will push all the buttons but I look back at all 3 of my daughters and say we did a great job. May have been not so perfect days with husband gone since serving in the Marines, but will make you a strong mom and a good one. Keep pushing ahead and know the end result is a true blessing.
Embrace the good and the not so good because time goes by in a flash and then they are grown. BUT no matter how grown, they will Always Trust and need their momma! Nursing both my kids past 2 years each was unheard of in my time and it made such a special closeness in life that has bonded us in the most loving and beautiful way. That will always be. Hugs to you lovely! your Amazing!
Awe that transition is sooo emotional. I remember crying for a couple weeks at the least.
Maybe Sage is going through her feelings about no more breastfeeding as well.
It makes me sad to think about when we will start weaning when my daughter is close to 2 or 2 1/2 years old, she’s almost 14 months now and just thinking about getting to that point makes me want to SOB. Huge kudos to you to getting to two and a half!!!! I know it can be hard when they get to this age, they’re feelings lots of different things and don’t always know how to express it. My youngest brother is going through this phase too it will pass and get better ❤️ keep strong you two!!!!
Ironically I've binged your videos throughout my five months breastfeeding journey so far
Thankyouu for that 80 year old reminder ❤️❤️❤️ needed it
I feel you with the up and down phases. We had lots of down phases until 10 m then we had a much better phase and it’s been so nice but I know it’s always going to keep going down and up.
You are such a good mommy! Don’t listen to hate comments, ever. You literally do everything in your power to keep your family healthy and happy. Motherhood is very tough. I wanna know how you made those gummies!
We have passed the week mark without breastfeeding. Around 20 months. I felt my hormones weren’t where they should be and wanted to just get back to pre-pregnant pre-breastfeeding me. It was a hard week. Just check in with yourself and know that what your feeling is probably hormone regulation and you aren’t alone and it’s so normal. Just not really talked about. I’m taking Maca root powder to balance out. Definitely speak to your dr about it! I hope others see this and we can all give each other some solidarity love!
Looking forward to that BF video ❤
Oh Nicole, we just finished breastfeeding too. At 2.3 years old. It was harder for me than it was for my son.😅 Very emotional.😭🌞
ugh I needed this. So emotional being a mom. The best but so hard too
I agree i have my daughter and 2 yr old granddaughter living with me. I baby sit and some days i tell myself im too old for this. Were going thru a hard phase right now . Shes a month younger then sage. So i get it. Some days are soo hard 😫.
I relate to this so much, I spend all day trying not to upset my toddler and walking on egg shells around her and then she goes to bed and I’m like OMG I miss her 🤣
Same! Usually need pure junk food to comfort myself after he goes to bed, lol
Thanks for sharing. I understand the end of breastfeeding thing, probably hormone changes involved as well that makes it hard.
Stopping breastfeeding will cause a hormone shift in your body akin to post partum so it’s natural that you are feeling a little extra emotional right now and Sage feels that and is going through her own transition in this time as well so it’s to be expected that you are both a bit off emotionally. My motherhood mantra has been “it’s phase” it remind me to stay present to enjoy the good moment and take a deep breath and know the hard ones will pass.
I’d love a whole q/a video on the wind down of your breastfeeding journey. I am at a year and a half now and don’t really have a goal or any idea how long we will go. Insight into what that looked like for you would be cool perspective
just filmed a video about it on friday but it wont be going out for a couple weeks but stay tuned!
Thinking about stopping breast feeding this week of her 2 yr birthday and I'm getting emotional about it. You're not alone in that. Its definitely not silly. ❤
thank you for the kindness and warm words
The thought of stop breastfeeding my almost 2 year old now too makes me so unreasonably sad and it feels impossible. I was hoping he would be a kid who just grew out of it. But he loves it so much 🥺please share any tips and tricks!
Stopping breast feeding causes a drop in your oxytocin and prolactin which can make you very depressed/emotional, so I was supppppeer depressed for a month or two after until I started to feel normal again. It does get better!
Hey girl! I am trying to attempt to wean my 22 month old soon and I'm slowly trying to cut comfort feeds out and he was also really emotional and my sisters said it's probably because you are taking his major comfort away. He doesn't use a pacifier or anything else so I just want to encourage you that could be a big reason why she's so sad and emotional and it will get better. They adjust so quickly!!
I am in this phase. It's emotional and crazy beautiful. I find it hard to give myself grace.
I never comment hardly, but I just wanted to say I breastfed my firstborn till he was 2 years and 9 months. It was a very emotional journey, but I was pregnant with my second born at the time and my milk just dried up. I was ready to go till he was 3 or even 3.5! Lol the cuddles and snuggles are so rewarding tho. And they feel a lot more life giving and less depleting than your body just being at the mercy of them and their demands lol! Thank you for your honesty and raw emotions! It’s so so emotional being a momma. It’s such a bittersweet feeling watching your baby grow up every day. You like want time to stop in its tracks but you also want to see them grow into all that they are going to be and the awesome human being they’re going to grow up into. Just know you’re not alone with all those feels!! Hugs 🤗
When you become a mom there’s nothing better than going to grandma’s and being fed lol
right? And I always take leftovers home haha
Love the part that you said your in awe of your daughter and how smart she how much she has grown and next minute your in a middle of a huge meltdown tantrum over something you can’t exactly understand what they wanted and why 😅 so can relate 🥰
Thank you for this video 💕
Hella relatable ! My LO is right around the same age as Sage and I feel you mama😅
My baby is 8 months and I dread when we stop breastfeeding 😢 the emotional attachment is so real. I know it changes into a different kind of attachment but like to said it’s the routine. Ugh I’m gonna cry too 😭
I remember stressing about stopping around that time thinking I would have to stop at 1 year old. Take your time there is no rush to end your journey sooner than feels right
Really loved this video, I’m going to remember that 80 year old self tip. ;)
I have a little ginger too but a boy. Sage’s energy reminds me so much of him.
Would love if you spoke about how it’s been going adjusting to two kiddos;)
When the toddler book will be available? 😍 can’t wait! ❤️
What a wonderful breastfeeding journey you’ve had! Amazing job 👏 It’s totally normal to feel emotional about it ending.. I finished breastfeeding my little boy a couple of months ago after an amazing 27 month journey & my mama heart hurt so much for a good 2-3 weeks. Now I think of it so fondly. It’s a big transition for both of you, be kind to yourself ❤
thank you xo
Hi I'm a 62 years old grandma, and raised one son.. it is very hard to raise a child, especially these days.. stay strong mama !❤❤😊
Just weaned at 18 months and I cried so much the night before 😭
Wow sagey is so cute ♥️♥️♥️ , I tried something with my toddler when ever she got a meltdown, i sing a song about emotions ( sometimes when i get angry , cuz I don’t get what i want , sometimes when i get angry , cuz I don’t get what i want , then i stop! I close my eyes and take a deep breath. Cuz everything will be alright “ its from super simple songs channel. It always calm her down and I repeat as needed until its over and she get calm . Also i never try to force her to be happy when she’s not , i hug her and try to be patient . But sometimes i lose my patience 😭💔 , looking forward for your next video ♥️
Love your vlogs❤
I love how you show the reality of being a mom. The good and the challenging. Respect to you for being an awesome mama 🙌🏾
Nicole, I think that's why Sage has been emotional. Your beautiful breastfeeding journey has come to an end, and she feels something is off. Time will help ❤
thats a very good point
Oh no Sagey! She's not teething is she? My 2 year old is going through a rough patch too, I just realized her molars are coming in.
Sending love!! 💕
Sage Is Adorable 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I always found that the second half of a year (say 2.5-3) that they were more challenging. It is just a skills and communication issue.
She really want to make her decisions, thats why she always says no to everything you ask her :D try to not ask her, but inform her if she really cannot choose. Let her choose where there is two comfortable joices for you. It looks really sweet and funny when you ask her about random things and she always is at no :D
Please do a breastfeeding journey video!! Almost at the 2 year mark and baby girl is not interested in weaning.
will definitely think about creating this!
Hi nicole❤this vlog was the best.....my baby is almost 2 now nd she is very much like sagee her mood chngs in evry scnd....i try not to loose my patience but sometimes it would be out of control.....
Yes I agree, i have a 2 yr old granddaughter living with me. I hear that 3 yrs can be get worse then 2. I have been told that by several mothers of 3 yr old. Yikes!!
just curious what was sage doing when you were vlogging in the car? did she have any screen or anything? bcoz my 2 yr old would never sit still on his own in a non-moving car.
Congratulations on such a great breastfeeding journey, you've done such an amazing job 💖
I'd definitely love a video talking more about how you managed the weaning process. I'm breastfeeding my 20month old with no plan to stop yet, but I'd really appreciate your advice for the future ☺️
keep going mama thats amazing
ohhh yum yum, those are choquinhos , I love them grilled. Would love to know what else was added to the olive oil sauce?
Same
Love these vlogs! Your daughter is hilarious 🤣
Thank you 🥰
Please do a video dedicated to stopping breastfeeding!! I’m with baby #2 so will be weaning my first in a few months… I’m nervous about how emotional I’ll be, and how to respond when my LO asks for milk 😫
Were going through it now and I definitely want to create a video for this!
Hi my friend! If you have any EndoFlex oil at home, try that for the tantrums! Swipe on the back or the chest- I’ve seen SO many stories of how it’s helped. Wouldn’t hurt to try if you have it!
I totally feel you!! We have a two year old that goes from one extreme to the other in seconds 🙄. I guess the terrible two's are real and here to stay for a while 😭. Hopefully she phases out and doesn't carry on to 3 😂😂. Do all the car therapy needed!! We are here listening and supporting each other.
BTW, yout mom's pasta salad!!! Can we know her recipe?? Does she put any type of dressing on it?? It looks delish!! Everything looked yummy!!!
Yes exactly thats why i share moments like these... Its true it can feel very isolating at time but then I get to hear from all of you that we are all going through the same experiences 💕
I am not a mom but I’ve babysat. I can’t imagine how hard it is at times being a mother.
Very hard at times
I haven’t watched one of your videos in awhile but you are looking so gorgeous and I love those earrings on you 😍
*brb to cry happy tears* you're so sweet
Please Nicole do an update about weaning off.
yes I definitely will!
Lulas! Muito boas. Thanks for sharing, love to see your blogs
Are you still doing any type of milk either with meals or during the day? I’m just wondering lol I have a 2 year old son as well and sometimes even just a walk helps.
Nikole, just a gentle reminder that it doesn't last forever. All children will grow out of this stage 💞
Im honestly in no rush to move past the toddler stage I love seeing Sage learn to talk, laugh at everything and be silly but sometimes I just need to vent haha
These vlogs are the best ❤
I always feel like these ones are all over the place and a mess but I know they're real
You have to take the good with the bad. Mom life is hard life. But those hard times will pass. It’ll get a little easier, I think 3s are fun. Mine is 3, she’s sassy in a different way. New adventures will come up. You’ll be okay❤ also you should probably flip her seat to face foreign, she’ll love it more. Obviously as long as she’s tall enough for it.
Yes please do a video on weaning off breastfeeding. Did she wean herself off or did you wean her off and what are some tips.
Is sage drinking whole milk from a cup when she wakes up & bedtime? 💖
Hi guys Congratulations again on your engagaement ❤Sage she's has gotten so big so cute Hi cashew 😊
thank you so much! I know her and cashew are so big and besties
@@HealthNutNutrition you're so welcome😊❤aww so cute
Stop making me cryyy with that thought experiment 😅😂
haha "think about your 80 year old self" 😂
@@HealthNutNutrition I have my own Matthew and we just went from baby to toddler real quick, thinking about the future but still not wanting to ever have her not be my baby makes me cry....sad, then happy and then sad tears on repeat 😂😭🤣
Honestly hard is not even a word to describe what we as mothers go through on daily basis. We as women were never supposed to raise children on our own. I'm not even gonna mention our partners because if you're lucky enough he'll be a hands-on dad but many of us are not lucky enough to even get that help. It takes a VILLAGE to raise a child. Back in the day, mothers would leave their kid with their cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents and friends so they can go and crop the fields and what not. THAT was a standard and normal way of raising kids. People you grew up with and even neighbours would help out until the mother comes back from the field and can take over. Now a days we obviously don't have that help and that's why it's super overwhelming for a mother to go through SO many emotions in a day because most of the time we don't even have time to process what just happened. I'm glad you talk about this. I myself am struggling with my 3.5 year old daughter. Just when I thought the terrible two's were over with...here comes the horrible 3's! She is a handful alright. So much attitude and sass. I mean I guess what she's going through is normal it's just A LOT as you said. Sometimes we just need a breather and we don't even get it 😢 I pray for you and all mamas out there ❤🙏🌷
Please do a breastfeeding end journey video. We are 2 years 7 months and often contemplate when/how that will come to a stop fir us ❤❤😢😢
Recipe for the lulas please?
Nicole pls share ur breastfeeding journey....how could u stop all of the sudden....im trying hard to stop breastfeeding my baby girl nd its very difficult for me nd her
Nikoke your skin looks beautiful😊
Thank you! I feel like I was off my skincare game for a bit but getting back into it
@@HealthNutNutrition you're welcome we can't tell you look good😊
Sage’s hormones are probably fluctuating since you guys just stopped breastfeeding. Also it’s an emotional change for you, imagine the emotional change it’s been for her 🥹❤️ wishing you all the grace and patience.
I just realized she's still rear facing in the carseat. I have already changed my child to forward facing when he turned 1. Is that odd or am I doing something wrong?
After doing a lot of research on this subject it seems that many babies are moved to front facing way too soon. You should follow the IG account safeinseat she's amazing. It has to do a lot with their spine and how their body would move if there was an accident and forward facing can be very dangerous. I know there is a lot of pressure to turn your baby around but I plan to keep Sage back facing for a while.
@@HealthNutNutrition thanks for the info
Will u share how to stop breastfeeding...I could not do😢
Can you show us the gammy recipe?
U look so simple nd beautiful even without makeup.....u have got double ear piercing so beautiful 😍
Toddlers are... bipolar! 😂😂 I couldn't agree with you more!
Feeling all your emotions, crying about breastfeeding, tears about 80 year old going back in time and ... Meltdowns...just one word - Motherhood 😅
It kind of breaks my heart to hear you talk about how things are difficult with your daughter while she’s right there with you in the car and she can hear everything. You are a great mom and being a mom is so hard, you know your child best and you do what you think is best for your family. But I think that if I had been Sage in that moment, this would have made me feel sad.
Are you fr? When sage is older she will a million gazillion percent understand. I'm 25 and I'm grown enough to understand that my mom is allowed to feel tired, being a mom is the hardest job in the world. Omg and I'm sure I drain my mom's energy lol 😆 but she loves me and I love her 💕 it's not that serious
@@roses495 right like good lord 🙄🙄🙄🙄
The fact that this comment got any likes let’s me know how many haters and negative people there are out there! I pray you don’t have kids because this level of ignorance is sad if you’re responsible for another human. How many things do you remember from that age…a conversation like that was probably had in front of you and not even your SUBCONSCIOUS would remember. This comment was so uncalled for.
She doesn't need dance , she needs you
When are you going to tell us you're preggo? I have a feeling..
saaameee
I love the honest mom rants and chat! There aren't many times when people are honest in a good way. And it is very emotional when BF stops! I had a hard time leading up to it. I have 2 toddlers, fits like crazy and copying each other.. so I get those days! May have to cut bananas w a fork and see if my picky eaters eat it better...
Maybe instead of taking Sage on a smoothy date when she's emotional, take her to a park to climb on the play equipment and have free play in the fresh air and sunshine. Understandably, she might instead just need a good nap.