Your channel is literally an act of love. For those that can’t afford or don’t have access to mental health services, your clear and considerate way of breaking down this education can be so impactful. I’ve done a lot of self development work but some ideas felt too abstract or weren’t a good fit for self guidance. IFS has been an absolute game changer and I’m seeing myself in an entirely new light. Not just treating symptoms and pretending I’m healing but understanding and having more concrete inner work happening. Your channel, among others, has been really helpful in digesting this information. Thank you so much for having this information out here for free ❤❤❤
I agree. My therapist suggested to watch another video about IFS and I landed here, this has been so helpful and I'm learning so much about myself. Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏
“I’m usually a pretty nice guy, but then sometimes I’m not, and it really freaks me out, and I feel crazy and ashamed.” - 5:10: This is what I said aloud into my empty kitchen, after my last relationship ended. That was when I surrendered and went to therapy.
I enjoy all your clips Dr. Olds but the IFS series has been very impactful to me. I've taken several "intro" IFS courses some of which are direct material of Dr. Schwartz's. But your approach and explanation of IFS is so clear and easy to understand, to relate to, and to apply in the clinical setting (I'm a therapist). THANK you for your continued dedication to our profession and your service to your community.
What a phenomenal explanation! I’ve been practicing IFS for years now and have heard many intros and this one is so simple and enjoyable to listen to. Very cohesive and fluid and delivered with a really lovely tone. Thank you!
I have been on a quest to know my self and get rid of my "limiting beliefs" for some time. I know that I am more than what I think I am; but I have not been able to find a way to "get there". Your video simply pierced through every shell I have literally build around my heart and brought warmth to it. Thank you for sharing in such a beautiful and compassionate and loving way. You have not only touched my heart but also showed me a way to help that little kid inside, who is trapped in a cold and dark hole for so long, by listening to its protectors, persuading them to step away, taking their permission to extend a hand to that child and helping him feel safe and motivated to climb out of that hole by telling him I will be climbing with him to love, protect and coach him all the way till he gets out. Thank you a million times. My best regards...
I love how you tied it all in with the survival of the human race at the end. Not only to end the cycle of trauma but just to have the wisdom and brainpower we need! ❤Recovery work (in Western society at least) is usually viewed so individually. We’re on our own and we’re only doing it because something is wrong with us. But yeah! This work is a necessary contribution to society!! THATS the shift in attitude that I want to see take place.
I love your channel. Parts work changed my life. My therapist and I agreed to temporarily stop therapy mid-last year, so I can use what I have learned on my own. Her words were, "you have remapped the blueprint of yourself." I am so proud of what I have accomplished. I use your channel to remind myself of what I have learned. Thank you for all that you do.
As a Psychotherapist, I love listening to you. You are amazing at expressing and communicating these ideas and modalities. Even though I am already IFS informed, I stayed just to hear how you explain it. Thanks.
Thank you for making these videos. In four videos you made IFS clearer and more accessible than a year of study has done for me, and I say this as a practicing therapist. Thank you.
Free= integrated Thank you. Free from unresolved/traumatized hurt experiences, integrated mind that can make healthy choices without being torn from every direction. So simple yet very complex. Thank you for your clarity.
You are a divine spark! I would love to meet your parents, teachers, and other significant people from your childhood! They did quite a good job. You are not of advanced years, and yet you are very obviously acting from your Self to enthusiasticly sharing this information with such clarity and truth, and inspiration! Thank you so much for making this series of videos. I am sure that those who are even slightly curious and watch this will begin to become people who can literally save the human race one part at a time !❤️
I have just started IFS. Listening to the book by Richard Schwartz was a bit confusing in the begining. These videos are clear, concise and powerful. Thank you so much for this.
Listening to your channel feels super soothing to me. I have been studying for a super long time in self-development and internal healing, and I feel I have made huge progress in my life. However some really big pieces weren't connecting lately. I haven't been sleeping, my body is totally tense and I feel like I am in fight or flight mode... I am struggling to function well, and I am discovering I have been avoiding facing the part that is trying to protect me from failure. Learning about IFS therapy seems like the key in lifting the lid. Scary as it is! Anyway thank you for your channel! I am a new subscriber.
I am very excited to be a part of this transformation series. I am a student of mindfulness and just completed the Palouse 8 week mindfulness course (MBSR) based on Jon Cabot Zinn's scientific studies which offers daily meditations and interactions with others seeking to optimize their life circumstances. I learned of Dr. Olds IFS transformational series in one of the meditation groups. I'm so grateful to have found IFS through MBSR. I am a retired Psychotherapist. Thank you for this opportunity.
Wow, your attitude is incredible. Thank you for sharing the knowledge so incredibly kind. As if you care for all the strangers that you will help with your videos. Thanks a lot!
I feel like simply being 'in contact' with you and experiencing your compassion towards me (and all the other people on the internet) makes me feel more connected and loved and courageous to unlayer myself. Thanks for being such a role model. I feel you have really positively impacted my life. Thank you...
The Self is amazing because we are created in the image and likeness of God and Dick discovered that within each of us. Compassionate, connected, curious connected with our created divine self which connects with the love and wisdom of God.
I cannot explain to you how helpful these videos are. I recently uncovered early childhood abuse & have been absolutely drowning. Feels like I've lost my true Self. Learning of this type of therapy though, I feel hopeful. Very happy to hear youre training other therapists. You clearly have much to teach & the love pouring out of your heart is strong 🩵 thank you thank you thank you
Excellent video. The importance of this therapy is incredible. Now I understand why Dr. Gabor Maté mentioned this form of therapy as being very useful. The world would be certainly different if this form of therapy would be applied on a massive scale. Thanks Dr. Olds for such a brilliant, clear and complete explanation of IFS.
In my 30+ year journey of healing from a rough (to say the least) childhood, I’ve found help through books & videos of a few standout teachers including the groundbreaker in compassion towards addiction - Gabor Mate. I encountered the work of Richard Schwartz about a month ago. I’m fairly good at understanding abstract concepts although Schwartz’s book No Bad Parts is a little had to grasp the application on a practical level. Finding your videos, Dr. Olds, was a stroke of luck for me. Your explanations are so clear & graspable! ♥️🙏 And reading here that another viewer also appreciates the wisdom of Gabor Mate is affirming. I love it when there is an overlap in the wise voices that teach me & move me towards healing. I hope you will write a book, Dr. Olds - maybe with a partner workbook on healing with IFS. Sending much gratitude!
It's so amazing. You inspire me very much. I remember the time I practice IFS. It looks like i let each of my protectors step back. Many time it's not easy with some protectors. And I just quit temporarily. But I would love to try again. Because the more I try, the more love and courage i get. It just likes something that had gone now back home and I become more than i can see
Really good video, thank you. I would add that the brain resides not only in our head, but also in our heart. So an integrated brain means we have an open heart, and we can be in connection with ourselves, others and the wider world.
Absolutely ❤🎉😊 Finally found a warm explanation of what I've known about my self, I can't be described easily nor the same each day. That we are all multi-faceted & inherently good.
8:33 the Big Eight. Love it. You said it's not a sacred list but really it is. Or we might question that. So, I question myself: "can the eight 'c' words become sacred me?" And; "ought this be taught to others as a sacred truth?" And I answer boldly: " Yes, yes, and yes." The Buddha said, " life is dukkha" but he could have said, "life is joy" instead. Dukkha is how our parts produce our fate, meaning how our parts block the path of wholeness. These parts need our attention. Indeed they are demanding it. Until we can give proper attention to these parts of ourselves, we will not connect with higher self. So, the Buddha was saying that we are suffering and that suffering is what cuts us off from nirvana...our true self. In order to reconnect with the higher self (Nirvana) we must relinquish our grievances, our ideology, our hard one opinions and tightly held assumptions, our wants and wishes. That's a long list but it really comes down to three things. Our views, our desires, and our fears. That's the ego story and that's the source of our suffering. That's the parts of us all demanding to be a part of the narrative. The bit actor wants a bigger role. This is just a natural competition of parts, They all have a vision for the future. They all want the whole to succeed but they don't agree on how to accomplish this. This is why dialogue is so important. Meditation (sati) is to remember and what you ought to remember? How about the voices within yourself that don't agree with executive decisions. Meditation is a time to let them talk. It is a spiritual practice whereby the Self stops talking, then actively actually listens to the constituent parts, takes on their perspective. At least Hypothetically. Then repeats back. "I think I heard you say..." this or that, until the calibration is 100%. The ego mind needs to hear what the little egos have to say. This is absolutely brilliant.
Tori, this is the first I've ever heard of you. I just perused your website. YOU ARE A GEM. You bleed love and compassion. I can feel it. & you're a musician too?! I resonate so much. You encourage and inspire me (already!). Thank you for your work.
Wow.......fantastic....thank you so much!!!!! I have 2 consultations with IFS therapists next week and it was great to get this incredibly succinct and clear overview, blessings!!
It seems like the highest self, could be compared to the spiritual consciousness. Relieved of the conflict of living or being caught in mental and emotional polarity, the open flowing Self can emerge in the center of awareness. In my studies it feels like the highest vibration is a state of grounded freedom. Then to a state of possibility, where choice feels real. And then to a state of fragmentation where we divide into selves, parts, identified limitation.. The key to health being the conscious relaxed allowing of All Three states. The Self is source, possibility is emotional flexibility. Identify is bounded limitation. The flow state, would be the freedom to enjoy all three states without being caught in any of them. Just some tangential thoughts that played out from this valuable insightful vidio. Thank you.
I also think that our true self is always acting behind the scenes. Even when I’m blended with a part, my true self is there holding me so I can untangle from the enmeshed thought processes of my ego/part. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a clear and profound way. I appreciate you.❤
I just Love your delivery and approach on the topic of embracing all our parts as opposed to negating them and punishing ourselves more in the process of resisting them. Therefore continuing to feed the traumas, rather than walking thru them and knowing they’re just mechanisms in place established to protect us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️ “The higher self is def always there and always amazing!”
When the psychologist asked me who am I? Obviously said mother, doctor, daughter etc etc my therapist said I have 6 months to answer this question. I even google it it and became obsessed and asked random people if they knew the answer to this question! Now I know the answer I am a free soul who’s only happy when I am living my authentic self
We are so proud of you! Your parents and partner are so proud of you! Your kids are going to be amazing! We all wish you could be our therapist! Thank you so very much, deeply!
Probably the best description of Internal Family Systems parts I’ve heard! 🤩 I’ve been practicing IFS daily since 2016. Congrats on putting together such a well thought out, articulate video! 🌟 (And yes…that’s my Self speaking.) 😄
Thanks so much for saying so!! Interesting the follow-up comment and how to practice IFS. I should really make more videos to guide people…that’s the plan!! :)
I very much appreciate the work you are doing. It feels as though you’re being the link between science and spirituality helping them meld, therefore increasing access to people from all walks of life and belief systems. Thank you 🙏
Brilliant. You explain IFS so well. I posted a comment on part one of your video. I'm really hoping we can use IFS as a family and/or individually to heal ourselves and our relationships. I've done a bit on my own with an on-line Dick Schwartz meditation and some on my own. Not sure if I'm doing it right but I feel like I'm getting a real benefit already. I'm so much more focused on planning and getting things done without distraction; I am in my 50s and was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. It would be great to find a good therapist(s) here in the UK, Nottingham. I love what you said at the end of this video about the human race facing complex problems that we all need to be able to present for with our true adult selves (or words to that effect). I'm feeling like IFS has the potential to empower the disenfranchised, the meek, the damaged should among us to take on those who are equally in need of IFS who are destroying the planet. I'm so concerned about the climate crisis and want to be as affective as I can to bring about change. I've been down a very long and twisty internet rabbit hole with lots of branching side tunnels to find your video, but I really feel I've arrived at the solution to my own salvation and hopefully, collectively of the human race and the diversity of life and habitats on this beautiful planet.
Thanks for the thoughtful and kind comment, Steve! Yes, I think if we can all learn to attend to the various aspects of our experience so they can heal (rather than be voiceless or conversely take over our mature capacities), then we would be in better stead in terms of facing that external problems we need to collectively face. I appreciate your comments...
Thank you so much. You explained these concepts so clearly. I’ve been practicing this work as a client and just on myself for years, and now as a therapist in training I’m so excited to learn to support others through it too.
Wow you have such a lovely manner about you that it makes it easy to listen to your explanation. Also the way you word things is super easy to understands these tricky concepts. Thank you
I love your explanation and knowledge share. I'm currently studying IFS as part of a Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching program, your explanations are amazing and have truly helped. Thank You so much
True self is an illusion from the ego. We are a product of many parts and the world around us. Happy people don't ever question who they are, losing that question is a better goal than trying to solve it I think 😊❤
I can tell that you wield your blended (s)elf like the "Full-Fledged-Human-Being" that you are. Are you really the "Doer" though. Lastly, I want to say that I believe you are a Brilliant Being in Action. Please, please continue this work. You reach so many...You've reached me.
Looking at it from a Maslow's heirachy of needs POV, I'd say the socioeconomic problems of today are undermining the various levels below self actualisation rather than problems we need to be self actualised to solve.
Your videos are lovely in so many ways, but your voice is so calming. When you are listing the 8 C's I feel like having that clip on loop, kinda as affirmations would be powerful
Oh, that's cool to hear!! Someone commented that it might be nice to have a few guided meditations from me as well...which I think is a great idea...but also glad to know that the content itself is soothing for you! :)
Authenticity feels like freedom, but it’s also scary to get there. Thank you for this video, it’s given me so much to reflect on. 🌿💫 How do you practice being true to yourself daily?
I was 50, married to a narc before I realised that I was a people pleaser with no boundaries and I allowed people to treat me like a doormat. No more, I've shown them the door and firmly shut it behind them
WOW! Such an important video that really gives me a fuller perspective to what I have found in other therapies, couching and reading. This is the fundamental question for every human being. "Who am I", and how do I truly express myself and interact with other people, nature and circumstances as authentically as possible? I am always in the search for the Self, or the "I". and looking for language I understand expresses it clearly. So this is pretty clear to me. I learned of IFS from Gabby Bernstein, her book "Happy Days" and her podcast with Ed Mylett. Other interesting therapies are EMDR, Brainsportting, Rapid Transformational Therapy, RTT. I also had great help understanding IFS through studying "the Stick Person" by Bob Proctor:
Your videos are incredibly helpful. I am relatively new to IFS, but I've known about it for years. Your explanations make the concepts very accessible. Thank you!
Hi there from sunny Australia 😊 I'm new to your channel, but I'm already a fan! You have a very warm and kind energy which is lovely! I'm a sucker for learning about the way us humans think, and how we can grow and learn to love and be more compassionate.. Wondering what you think of the Myers-Briggs personality test and its validity? I found out I'm an INFP (Much to my dismay lol 😆 I took the test another 2 times hoping I'd get a different result haha) Hope its ok to ask! Love your work! 💜 Xxx
I’m grateful for the effort and care put into this. Unfortunately I’m having trouble understanding what it’s about. I feel like most of what I heard was the title said a bunch of different ways without any help getting there. I want the help
Nice videos, thanks! The "Big Self" sounds like the "Self as Context" in ACT, experienced more and more with the practice/experience of mindfulness (sensations, thoughts, and feelings) and cognitive defusion. "Neural integration" sounds like the concept of "psychological flexibility," too 😊
Thank you for this. How do we relate to others in the work place who do not have this information and they are pulling you into a dysfunctional system?
Your channel is literally an act of love. For those that can’t afford or don’t have access to mental health services, your clear and considerate way of breaking down this education can be so impactful. I’ve done a lot of self development work but some ideas felt too abstract or weren’t a good fit for self guidance. IFS has been an absolute game changer and I’m seeing myself in an entirely new light. Not just treating symptoms and pretending I’m healing but understanding and having more concrete inner work happening. Your channel, among others, has been really helpful in digesting this information. Thank you so much for having this information out here for free ❤❤❤
I agree! So helpful for those of us who can’t afford a therapist trained in trauma work & IFS therapy. This is a generous offering from Dr. Olds.
I agree. My therapist suggested to watch another video about IFS and I landed here, this has been so helpful and I'm learning so much about myself. Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏
"It is always there and it is always amazing". Twice for effect. Thank you so much
“I’m usually a pretty nice guy, but then sometimes I’m not, and it really freaks me out, and I feel crazy and ashamed.” - 5:10: This is what I said aloud into my empty kitchen, after my last relationship ended. That was when I surrendered and went to therapy.
I enjoy all your clips Dr. Olds but the IFS series has been very impactful to me. I've taken several "intro" IFS courses some of which are direct material of Dr. Schwartz's. But your approach and explanation of IFS is so clear and easy to understand, to relate to, and to apply in the clinical setting (I'm a therapist). THANK you for your continued dedication to our profession and your service to your community.
You're so welcome!! Thank YOU for the kind comment ;) I appreciate your taking the time....
any therapist recommendations in Boston area?? pls let me know
Any Therapist in the South Florida area Fort Lauderdale
Thank you. Your video was very user-friendly. I'm looking forward to learning more from you.
What a phenomenal explanation! I’ve been practicing IFS for years now and have heard many intros and this one is so simple and enjoyable to listen to. Very cohesive and fluid and delivered with a really lovely tone. Thank you!
Your description of "unblending" is so valuable. So simple. Slow down, unlayer and be nice to the parts. Thank you!
Nice summary, Scott!! Love you!! ;)
I have been on a quest to know my self and get rid of my "limiting beliefs" for some time. I know that I am more than what I think I am; but I have not been able to find a way to "get there". Your video simply pierced through every shell I have literally build around my heart and brought warmth to it. Thank you for sharing in such a beautiful and compassionate and loving way. You have not only touched my heart but also showed me a way to help that little kid inside, who is trapped in a cold and dark hole for so long, by listening to its protectors, persuading them to step away, taking their permission to extend a hand to that child and helping him feel safe and motivated to climb out of that hole by telling him I will be climbing with him to love, protect and coach him all the way till he gets out. Thank you a million times. My best regards...
I love how you tied it all in with the survival of the human race at the end. Not only to end the cycle of trauma but just to have the wisdom and brainpower we need! ❤Recovery work (in Western society at least) is usually viewed so individually. We’re on our own and we’re only doing it because something is wrong with us. But yeah! This work is a necessary contribution to society!! THATS the shift in attitude that I want to see take place.
Yes! :)
I love your channel. Parts work changed my life. My therapist and I agreed to temporarily stop therapy mid-last year, so I can use what I have learned on my own. Her words were, "you have remapped the blueprint of yourself." I am so proud of what I have accomplished. I use your channel to remind myself of what I have learned. Thank you for all that you do.
Oh, that's great to hear!! Yes, you should be so proud of the work you've done, and I'm so glad to be a helpful reminder of it! Yay! ;)
Hello can you please explain how you practice ifs mediation by yourself
Does this help fybromyalgia I've read
what area are you in?? Im in Boston id be very interested in any possible references to therapists please
Could you please share some more details about your remapping? I'm new here and I want to know what changes can be real?
"It is always there and it is always amazing. It is always there and it is always amazing."
I needed to hear that in this moment. Thank you.
Could listen to you speak all day..Love Your Chanel and all you teach..Absolute Gold❤
As a Psychotherapist, I love listening to you. You are amazing at expressing and communicating these ideas and modalities. Even though I am already IFS informed, I stayed just to hear how you explain it. Thanks.
So lovely to hear!! Thanks for those kind words! :)
I love to hear stuff I "know" explained by others. It nearly always deepens or challenges something.
Thank you for making these videos. In four videos you made IFS clearer and more accessible than a year of study has done for me, and I say this as a practicing therapist. Thank you.
It’s such a joy to read your comment! I’m thrilled that this content has been helpful to you. 💛
Free= integrated
Thank you.
Free from unresolved/traumatized hurt experiences, integrated mind that can make healthy choices without being torn from every direction.
So simple yet very complex.
Thank you for your clarity.
You got it!! :) thanks for the reflection!
You are a divine spark! I would love to meet your parents, teachers, and other significant people from your childhood! They did quite a good job. You are not of advanced years, and yet you are very obviously acting from your Self to enthusiasticly sharing this information with such clarity and truth, and inspiration! Thank you so much for making this series of videos. I am sure that those who are even slightly curious and watch this will begin to become people who can literally save the human race one part at a time !❤️
Oh, that’s so nice to read!! Thanks for the lovely comment and warm reflections!! :)
Wow! truly revalatory and powerful.
You are amazing at expressing and communicating these ideas and modalities.
I’ve so often been amazed at the gently transformative power of compassion and curiosity. IFS is one of the best things I’ve ever experienced.
I appreciate all your work. You have a gentle presence and a clear way of explaining these concepts.
So true.
Thank you so much for your kind words!
You’re so clear it makes me happy
I’m thrilled that this content has been helpful to you! 💛
I have just started IFS. Listening to the book by Richard Schwartz was a bit confusing in the begining. These videos are clear, concise and powerful. Thank you so much for this.
I’m thrilled that this content has been helpful to you!
Listening to your channel feels super soothing to me. I have been studying for a super long time in self-development and internal healing, and I feel I have made huge progress in my life. However some really big pieces weren't connecting lately. I haven't been sleeping, my body is totally tense and I feel like I am in fight or flight mode... I am struggling to function well, and I am discovering I have been avoiding facing the part that is trying to protect me from failure. Learning about IFS therapy seems like the key in lifting the lid. Scary as it is! Anyway thank you for your channel! I am a new subscriber.
Lovely to hear!! Thanks for joining my channel and hope to connect some time :)
I am very excited to be a part of this transformation series. I am a student of mindfulness and just completed the Palouse 8 week mindfulness course (MBSR) based on Jon Cabot Zinn's scientific studies which offers daily meditations and interactions with others seeking to optimize their life circumstances. I learned of Dr. Olds IFS transformational series in one of the meditation groups. I'm so grateful to have found IFS through MBSR. I am a retired Psychotherapist. Thank you for this opportunity.
One of the most clear and interesting explanations of parts work I've come across! Thank you Dr. Olds!
Thank you for your experience! It's great to know it's been useful for you. 😊
You are such a wonderful, magical healer 😭 I can feel your energy and emotion through the video. It is very healing ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that the content has been helpful to you. 😊
Thank you for putting together such a powerful series of videos about IFS. You have a beautiful presence and energy and are an exceptional teacher.
Wow, your attitude is incredible. Thank you for sharing the knowledge so incredibly kind. As if you care for all the strangers that you will help with your videos. Thanks a lot!
I feel like simply being 'in contact' with you and experiencing your compassion towards me (and all the other people on the internet) makes me feel more connected and loved and courageous to unlayer myself. Thanks for being such a role model. I feel you have really positively impacted my life. Thank you...
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that the content has been helpful to you. 😊
This is my favorite. This work is changing my life. Thank you 😭❤️🙌🙏 thank you so much
The Self is amazing because we are created in the image and likeness of God and Dick discovered that within each of us. Compassionate, connected, curious connected with our created divine self which connects with the love and wisdom of God.
I cannot explain to you how helpful these videos are. I recently uncovered early childhood abuse & have been absolutely drowning. Feels like I've lost my true Self. Learning of this type of therapy though, I feel hopeful. Very happy to hear youre training other therapists. You clearly have much to teach & the love pouring out of your heart is strong 🩵 thank you thank you thank you
Excellent video. The importance of this therapy is incredible. Now I understand why Dr. Gabor Maté mentioned this form of therapy as being very useful. The world would be certainly different if this form of therapy would be applied on a massive scale. Thanks Dr. Olds for such a brilliant, clear and complete explanation of IFS.
Thanks for saying so! :)
In my 30+ year journey of healing from a rough (to say the least) childhood, I’ve found help through books & videos of a few standout teachers including the groundbreaker in compassion towards addiction - Gabor Mate. I encountered the work of Richard Schwartz about a month ago. I’m fairly good at understanding abstract concepts although Schwartz’s book No Bad Parts is a little had to grasp the application on a practical level. Finding your videos, Dr. Olds, was a stroke of luck for me. Your explanations are so clear & graspable! ♥️🙏
And reading here that another viewer also appreciates the wisdom of Gabor Mate is affirming. I love it when there is an overlap in the wise voices that teach me & move me towards healing.
I hope you will write a book, Dr. Olds - maybe with a partner workbook on healing with IFS.
Sending much gratitude!
@@antheakaranasos2047have you listened to Dr Rangan Chaterjee’s interview with dr Schwartz? It’s fantastic.
It's so amazing. You inspire me very much. I remember the time I practice IFS. It looks like i let each of my protectors step back. Many time it's not easy with some protectors. And I just quit temporarily. But I would love to try again. Because the more I try, the more love and courage i get. It just likes something that had gone now back home and I become more than i can see
I like how to b-roll is both minimal and expressive to illustrate things about our minds that are pretty abstract
Really good video, thank you. I would add that the brain resides not only in our head, but also in our heart. So an integrated brain means we have an open heart, and we can be in connection with ourselves, others and the wider world.
Yes! :)
Absolutely ❤🎉😊
Finally found a warm explanation of what I've known about my self, I can't be described easily nor the same each day. That we are all multi-faceted & inherently good.
8:33 the Big Eight. Love it. You said it's not a sacred list but really it is. Or we might question that. So, I question myself: "can the eight 'c' words become sacred me?" And; "ought this be taught to others as a sacred truth?" And I answer boldly: " Yes, yes, and yes."
The Buddha said, " life is dukkha" but he could have said, "life is joy" instead. Dukkha is how our parts produce our fate, meaning how our parts block the path of wholeness. These parts need our attention. Indeed they are demanding it. Until we can give proper attention to these parts of ourselves, we will not connect with higher self.
So, the Buddha was saying that we are suffering and that suffering is what cuts us off from nirvana...our true self. In order to reconnect with the higher self (Nirvana) we must relinquish our grievances, our ideology, our hard one opinions and tightly held assumptions, our wants and wishes. That's a long list but it really comes down to three things. Our views, our desires, and our fears. That's the ego story and that's the source of our suffering. That's the parts of us all demanding to be a part of the narrative. The bit actor wants a bigger role. This is just a natural competition of parts, They all have a vision for the future. They all want the whole to succeed but they don't agree on how to accomplish this.
This is why dialogue is so important. Meditation (sati) is to remember and what you ought to remember? How about the voices within yourself that don't agree with executive decisions. Meditation is a time to let them talk. It is a spiritual practice whereby the Self stops talking, then actively actually listens to the constituent parts, takes on their perspective. At least Hypothetically. Then repeats back. "I think I heard you say..." this or that, until the calibration is 100%. The ego mind needs to hear what the little egos have to say. This is absolutely brilliant.
Tori, this is the first I've ever heard of you. I just perused your website. YOU ARE A GEM. You bleed love and compassion. I can feel it. & you're a musician too?! I resonate so much. You encourage and inspire me (already!). Thank you for your work.
Wow.......fantastic....thank you so much!!!!! I have 2 consultations with IFS therapists next week and it was great to get this incredibly succinct and clear overview, blessings!!
What an account!! You do such great work.
Pls more about IFS 💜🙏🏼🙌🏼
You have such a nice voice to listen to. Thank you 🙏
It seems like the highest self, could be compared to the spiritual consciousness. Relieved of the conflict of living or being caught in mental and emotional polarity, the open flowing Self can emerge in the center of awareness. In my studies it feels like the highest vibration is a state of grounded freedom. Then to a state of possibility, where choice feels real. And then to a state of fragmentation where we divide into selves, parts, identified limitation.. The key to health being the conscious relaxed allowing of All Three states. The Self is source, possibility is emotional flexibility. Identify is bounded limitation. The flow state, would be the freedom to enjoy all three states without being caught in any of them. Just some tangential thoughts that played out from this valuable insightful vidio. Thank you.
I also think that our true self is always acting behind the scenes. Even when I’m blended with a part, my true self is there holding me so I can untangle from the enmeshed thought processes of my ego/part.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such a clear and profound way. I appreciate you.❤
I just Love your delivery and approach on the topic of embracing all our parts as opposed to negating them and punishing ourselves more in the process of resisting them. Therefore continuing to feed the traumas, rather than walking thru them and knowing they’re just mechanisms in place established to protect us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️ “The higher self is def always there and always amazing!”
Yes!! Thank you! :)
Thank you. Just pure heart-felt gratitude.
When the psychologist asked me who am I? Obviously said mother, doctor, daughter etc etc my therapist said I have 6 months to answer this question. I even google it it and became obsessed and asked random people if they knew the answer to this question! Now I know the answer I am a free soul who’s only happy when I am living my authentic self
We are so proud of you! Your parents and partner are so proud of you! Your kids are going to be amazing! We all wish you could be our therapist! Thank you so very much, deeply!
aww thank you so much, Your words mean so much!
Probably the best description of Internal Family Systems parts I’ve heard! 🤩 I’ve been practicing IFS daily since 2016. Congrats on putting together such a well thought out, articulate video! 🌟 (And yes…that’s my Self speaking.) 😄
What do you practice ?
Thanks so much for saying so!! Interesting the follow-up comment and how to practice IFS. I should really make more videos to guide people…that’s the plan!! :)
@@DrToriOlds Yes please!!
I very much appreciate the work you are doing. It feels as though you’re being the link between science and spirituality helping them meld, therefore increasing access to people from all walks of life and belief systems. Thank you 🙏
It’s such a joy to read your comment! I’m thrilled that this content has been helpful to you. 💛
Brilliant. You explain IFS so well. I posted a comment on part one of your video. I'm really hoping we can use IFS as a family and/or individually to heal ourselves and our relationships. I've done a bit on my own with an on-line Dick Schwartz meditation and some on my own. Not sure if I'm doing it right but I feel like I'm getting a real benefit already. I'm so much more focused on planning and getting things done without distraction; I am in my 50s and was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. It would be great to find a good therapist(s) here in the UK, Nottingham.
I love what you said at the end of this video about the human race facing complex problems that we all need to be able to present for with our true adult selves (or words to that effect). I'm feeling like IFS has the potential to empower the disenfranchised, the meek, the damaged should among us to take on those who are equally in need of IFS who are destroying the planet. I'm so concerned about the climate crisis and want to be as affective as I can to bring about change.
I've been down a very long and twisty internet rabbit hole with lots of branching side tunnels to find your video, but I really feel I've arrived at the solution to my own salvation and hopefully, collectively of the human race and the diversity of life and habitats on this beautiful planet.
Thanks for the thoughtful and kind comment, Steve! Yes, I think if we can all learn to attend to the various aspects of our experience so they can heal (rather than be voiceless or conversely take over our mature capacities), then we would be in better stead in terms of facing that external problems we need to collectively face. I appreciate your comments...
This video is so moving at a deep level for me, thank you for sharing this content!
This one I can relate to. I have connected with my True Self about 10 years ago.
Thank you so much. You explained these concepts so clearly. I’ve been practicing this work as a client and just on myself for years, and now as a therapist in training I’m so excited to learn to support others through it too.
Wow you have such a lovely manner about you that it makes it easy to listen to your explanation. Also the way you word things is super easy to understands these tricky concepts. Thank you
great video - many thanks. nice to end on the societal benefits of the inner work. 🌈
Beautiful, Tori. Looking for a trained therapist now.
I love your explanation and knowledge share. I'm currently studying IFS as part of a Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching program, your explanations are amazing and have truly helped. Thank You so much
You have such a beautiful way of describing it. This work is changing my life. 💙
I really really appreciate this video. Yours is a treasure of a channel!
Your words mean so much, thank you so much!
A very beautiful and eloquent yet accessible explanation of this powerful modality - thank you! well done!
thank you for your services, Dr. Olds...your videos are truly heaven sent 🙏 please keep on sharing them with us 🌼
Thanks for saying so, Sibel!! I will try to keep them coming as quick as I can! :) Best wishes...
Thank you for the gift of this channel.
I loved your explanation of the neural net! As a clinician it’s interesting to see how well this nests with CBT
Wow, the Cs.... Kind of sums up each of us strives to imbhib❤
True self is an illusion from the ego. We are a product of many parts and the world around us. Happy people don't ever question who they are, losing that question is a better goal than trying to solve it I think 😊❤
Excellent video... thank you very much. Your presentation was clear and educational.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Beautiful summary at the end. So eloquent. Just perfect. Thank you.
thank you so much!
Grateful for this IFS series! 🙏
This is excellent information 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I can tell that you wield your blended (s)elf like the "Full-Fledged-Human-Being" that you are. Are you really the "Doer" though. Lastly, I want to say that I believe you are a Brilliant Being in Action. Please, please continue this work. You reach so many...You've reached me.
Oh, that’s so nice to hear and I really appreciate you taking time to let me know!! :)
This is an awesome series, and a great breakdown to understanding IFS. Thank you.
Looking at it from a Maslow's heirachy of needs POV, I'd say the socioeconomic problems of today are undermining the various levels below self actualisation rather than problems we need to be self actualised to solve.
Loving this content! My psychiatrist mentioned IFS to me recently and just listening is helping me reframe my tendency towards addiction
I'm glad to hear that the content has been helpful to you. 😊
You explain this better than the PESI course I bought!
Your videos are lovely in so many ways, but your voice is so calming. When you are listing the 8 C's I feel like having that clip on loop, kinda as affirmations would be powerful
Oh, that's cool to hear!! Someone commented that it might be nice to have a few guided meditations from me as well...which I think is a great idea...but also glad to know that the content itself is soothing for you! :)
It gave me goosebumps! Wonder why it did.
You may just be the most eloquent and authentic speaker I've seen present on this topic! Thank you for an incredible series! 🙏
Authenticity feels like freedom, but it’s also scary to get there. Thank you for this video, it’s given me so much to reflect on. 🌿💫 How do you practice being true to yourself daily?
The other thing you have to do to allow the true self to flourish is to stop letting people walk all over you by having boundaries
I was 50, married to a narc before I realised that I was a people pleaser with no boundaries and I allowed people to treat me like a doormat. No more, I've shown them the door and firmly shut it behind them
This is so helpful. Thank you! May God bless the work that you do. 😇🌸
Thanks Stephan!! Really appreciate that :)
Wonderfully explained. Thank you.
Thank you! It is exactly what I am looking for. Subscribed to find out the way to discover my true Self.
WOW! Such an important video that really gives me a fuller perspective to what I have found in other therapies, couching and reading. This is the fundamental question for every human being. "Who am I", and how do I truly express myself and interact with other people, nature and circumstances as authentically as possible? I am always in the search for the Self, or the "I". and looking for language I understand expresses it clearly. So this is pretty clear to me. I learned of IFS from Gabby Bernstein, her book "Happy Days" and her podcast with Ed Mylett. Other interesting therapies are EMDR, Brainsportting, Rapid Transformational Therapy, RTT. I also had great help understanding IFS through studying "the Stick Person" by Bob Proctor:
Thanks for the lovely response, Petri!! Really appreciate it ;)
Great Video! So grateful
The whole video is just beautiful ❤
Thank you for this work. It is helping me on my healing journey
Thank goodness I stopped scrolling and gave this a shot. ❤
Grateful for sharing your beautiful wisdom 🧡🧘🏼♀️🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm truly grateful that my videos resonated with you. It means a lot to me. 💛
Your videos are incredibly helpful. I am relatively new to IFS, but I've known about it for years. Your explanations make the concepts very accessible. Thank you!
This was wonderful! Thank you!
I am happy you enjoyed it!
Hi there from sunny Australia 😊 I'm new to your channel, but I'm already a fan! You have a very warm and kind energy which is lovely! I'm a sucker for learning about the way us humans think, and how we can grow and learn to love and be more compassionate.. Wondering what you think of the Myers-Briggs personality test and its validity? I found out I'm an INFP (Much to my dismay lol 😆 I took the test another 2 times hoping I'd get a different result haha) Hope its ok to ask! Love your work! 💜 Xxx
I love your channel. So helpful!!! Thank you!
You are so welcome! Thank YOU for the comment ;)
Excellent! 🙏🏻
Glad you liked it!
Thank you so much for bringing clarity into my mind.
Fantastic content, thanks so much! Subbed and liked.
You explain things so clearly. How do you prepare for your videos?
So incredible and helpful! You are brilliant!
I can always tell when a post was written by my sister. Is that you, Char? ;)
"Brilliant"..yes, agreed! ..we all are!!
Compelling and informative!
Awe, thanks Lisa! Love you... ;)
I’m grateful for the effort and care put into this. Unfortunately I’m having trouble understanding what it’s about. I feel like most of what I heard was the title said a bunch of different ways without any help getting there. I want the help
Nice videos, thanks! The "Big Self" sounds like the "Self as Context" in ACT, experienced more and more with the practice/experience of mindfulness (sensations, thoughts, and feelings) and cognitive defusion. "Neural integration" sounds like the concept of "psychological flexibility," too 😊
Yep! You’re right on! Or the “wise mind” from DBT :)
@@DrToriOlds I love the 8 C’s of the Self! I'll remember to share these, thanks!!
Thank you for this.
How do we relate to others in the work place who do not have this information and they are pulling you into a dysfunctional system?
Thank you 😊🤲