Insecurity, depression, anxiety, jail, relationships, and sobriety? - (Episode 150)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ย. 2022
- I have a confession... Like you, I also experience anxiety, fear, depression, and wonder if things are going to get better.
One of the reasons why I quit drinking, was to eliminate the variables of not being my best self. To have a better chance of being able to COUNT ON MYSELF every morning. To get better sleep. To have better mental health. To be able to achieve the things that really matter most to me.
But in the attempt to have my cake and eat it too, I learned a few hard lessons: Jail, love lost, bankruptcy, and more.
We burn the candle at both ends. We shave precious time off the ends of our lives and create distance between the people we love, including ourselves.
I like to say that "I tried everything to quit alcohol except for quitting alcohol".
Going back to the school of life doesn't always look like 4 walls and student loans; sometimes it's just sitting yourself down, shutting yourself up, and having a real listen into what the universe and your higher self have to say to you.
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"Your future self is waiting for your present self to stop acting like your past self".
This video is definitely in my top 10 favorite episodes.
Classics still slappin!! 😎
That’s awesome! I’ll be thinking about that now. Thanks. 🙏
Jae, it’s been a while. I totally forgot to tell you I celebrated one YEAR of sobriety on Aug.21. These videos are what got me through those first few months. I have so much gratitude for you and this page. The community helped me so much when I felt like quitting, they literally talked me off the edge at 3 months sober. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart. 💕 Thank You
Woaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!! Let's celebrate!!!! We are going to add YOUR name to our celebration list on Sundays Livestream. I hope you can make it. What a blessing :)
Can you write out your story? Tell us about your pros/cons, struggles/successes? Feel free to leave it as a comment or email to GettingSoberAgain at Gmail dot com
Way to go Jennifer! You rock👍
Congratulations on one year of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
Heavy video Jae. That's awesome that you mentioned the Hero's Journey. A friend introduced it to me a few years ago and it blew me away. I couldn't stop asking everyone "You ever heard of the Hero's Journey? It's amazing!"
I've definitely gone through the abyss and rebirth a few times it seems; I don't think that's a one-off event. I'm a few years older than you and I've been around. I've seen some shit, done some shit etc. But I'm a pretty reflective guy and as the saying goes "When you lose, don't lose the lesson."
I'm grateful that I've come out okay to face more challenges time and time again, and my relationship with booze etc is just another challenge.
Glad I'm out here fighting. Glad I found your channel. Glad for SO much in life, although sometimes I think I could be a bit more appreciative. I'm only human.
If I could give you a great big hug right now I would Jae! Keep it up!
WHEN YOU LOSE, DON'T LOSE THE LESSON!!! Expressing gratitude in my opinion is just as important as food, water, sleep and exercise!
The official way to send a hug is to support this important work we do, via Patreon! We certainly don't have enough to be anywhere near sustainable.
When you're able, please consider =)
Even if it's for a short while!
www.patreon.com/GettingSoberAgain
This really hit home my friend. It's been a tough year, but I'm still here! Many thanks Jae 🙏
What are some of your personal successes along your journey? If we lose track of the good, the bad always wins...
Self imposed imprisionment...............that sums up my feelings about alcohol. Starting day 1 again.........your videos give me inspiration and encouragement. Thank you. I accept the fact that things wont change unless I make different choices...........and that will Set Me Free.
You are the prisoner AND the key holder. tbe sooner you know that you can let yourself out, the better 👊👊👊
Thank you so much for sharing. :) I needed this reassurance today.
That's why we do what we do! I pray that I say what I need to say, how I need to say it and when I need to say it so that each episode finds it's home with those in our community who may find themselves lost from their path.
We are alike. We struggle and we succeed!!!
Great video! Just at the right time of the year! Thank You!
The changing of the seasons....oh my....
Hello Paul L. Keep striving to improve yourself
Hello Jae, once again a video that hits home.
It's not easy to continue to stay sober but I find it's all about taking one day at a time and it is now much easier to no thank you when offered a glass of something without feeling like I am missing out.
Self-doubt, depression, anxiety and all those negative emotions we have are inevitable and can be incredibly destructive and having a drink or three will help overcome them and take the edge off.......NO.
Recognising that and dealing with them is hard but not impossible.
I try and find a positive in every situation; that's easy to say and always difficult to do but it can be done and of course a big thank you for your honest approach to staying sober.
Today is one year and 1 day for me being sober and I can't say how proud I am of myself.
Is it wrong to be proud? I don't think so.
Keep the faith and keep sober.
One of the stops along our sobriety journey is to be able to say "Sobriety is MINE and I am not giving it back! Congrats for hitting this HUGE milestone of 1 year. We will shout you out on Sunday's livestream!!!
Congratulations on your long streak of sobriety. Keep the momentum going!!
Congrats
Awesome vid, brosky!! Day 15, and that’s two weeks & a day, and winding down my third Sunday AF, and it feels great! I will confess, I felt some tugs today, but my work & kids kept me going ❤
Uploaded on my birthday which is when I drank a whole bottle of tequila and many beers. IDK why I feel like I have to outdrink everyone to prove something or drink at all for that matter. This channel speaks truth with wisdom.
Your very relatable, Thank you 😊 🙏
Thanks KT! Let the good times roll (sober)!
Wow @ physical memories. Spot on with that one 💯💯🎯
It be like that! Hope you feel better today
You’re a great creator
YOU THINK SO????? I am humbled to read such a lovely message so early in the morning. This journey has continued to take me to new levels of truth, and I accept the mission!
Thank you for another great video. Much love
My pleasure! This episode came to me in one swift session, but I had been waiting a long time to write it proper!
I remember going out with my friends years ago and waking up the next morning not knowing where I was until I looked out the bedroom window I was in and seen the Aylmer water tower. It was like whew at least I'm still in town lol!!! The new me would never do anything like that now.
You're a wild one Chuck!
As I watch these videos, I find hidden gems! In this one, the statement of how we give the power of feeling of excitement, joy, and love over to alcohol. You spoke my truth and I immediately scribbled it into my sobriety journal
we have to be open to the truth to receive it. 🫂
Thank you for all you do. It doesn't go unnoticed
I appreciate you! I try my best to be my best and to help others to be THEIR best 🥰
Great short, Jae! Timing mentally, spot on! Adventure! Passport in progress, suitcase is out, Paris here I come by New Year's Eve. Excited, determined and motivated! You dove deep with this one, Jae!!
What can I say, the community brings out the best in me. Have fun in Paris. Buy yourself something French =)
Congratulations on making plans to go to Paris. I hope you have a wonderful time there.
@@gwillis01 Thank you!
How are you doing with the Paris plans? I hope you have a great time in Paris, France
@@gwillis01 Hi Gwin, Paris is on pause. Life can throw curveballs sometimes...depending on results on December 2nd, will tell me where to focus going forward. Thanks for inquiring!
Excellent very well said and articulated. 👏🏼
Spot on 🎯
Thanks Mark!
I am definitely in the part of my heroes journey where my dormant powers have been awakened and I am using them to defeat my Demons.
Day 27! Thank you Jae for making such relatable content and sharing your vulnerability and humanity. It goes such a very long way to know that I'm not alone in my journey 🙌
Thanks for using your powers for good!! 🙏💗
Oh Erika, I was worried about you...AND THEN YOU SHOWED UP!!! I'm gonna shout you out for your 30 days on Sundays Livestream!
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks for thinking of me!! I've had a houseguest and got off my normal commenting streak, but my sober streak is going strong!
I'll be there Sunday and can't wait to celebrate!!!! 🎉🙌😁
I think that one very important concept is competitiveness. When you are competing to be the most important person on the company softball team or the employee who most deserves to be promoted to supervisor of all 18 people in your section of the company, you don't want to show any weaknesses or vulnerabilities.
Since many people think that strong, tough, persistent people make the best leaders, a person must suppress all points of weakness and all stumbles.
Why is it considered "out of character". for the boss to say that you can leave early to see your child perform in a school play or a band concert?
Would the company really lose that much money if you did not make the last three sales visits of the day to go to a school activity once every three months?
Great point! We as a society could use a little softening
Beatiful Video. Felt everything to my heart.
I was a little nervous to put it out into the world, but I'm glad that after doing this for 3.5 years, we are still creating content that our members can feel 🙏
Dude - you are amazing. You have such a way of explaining and connecting. I wish you'd do a Ted Talk and the world could see your talent.
Great idea!
WOAH!!! That would be a blessing!! If you have a way to facilitate this, please let us know!! =)
Thanks Ellen =)
You explain me word for word......................................Wow!
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Very well said. I can relate 100%.
Wonderful video amazing super helpful man. Thank you.
I’m gearing up for battle against my demons. That’s where I’m at. Thank you, I love your channel.
The battle is coming wether we are ready or not. Luckily we have hundreds of videos since this one came out!
Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety!
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You hit that one hard thank you so true 🎃
Thanks Jae. It’s Paulie in Japan. I really liked your video. 200 days AF next week. Getting better day by day. I’ll write u a longer one next time. Goodnight bruh.
Heyyyy Paulie good to hear from you!! Congrats to your big 200, we will celebrate you on our Livestream Sunday at 7pm Eastern :)
Congratulations on 200 days of sobriety. Keep up the good work dude
Thanks! Love the clips, great topics.
Videos like this are top tier and so important ! Thank you so much! Im 2 1/2 years sober. If im being honest ive never felt so lost and out of place in my life lol ill figure this shit out eventually! Thanks again man!
Have you considered that you may be going through a huge spiritual transformation? Every rung up the ladder presents unfamiliar territory. Leveling up is not easy and why most people don't do it. Remember: if you're not where you want to be, keep going!
You are great. So many connections to your testimony. Crappie year here. Dropping the drinks and getting ready for life.
Get that head start on the NEW YEAR!
Fantastic reference to the hero's journey 👍
I'm glad you got it! Sometimes I wonder if people are listening =)
Great episode! 🙌💯
Thanks for this video, Jae. I'm so happy you're in a better place and are able to help so many people (especially me!) with your story! ❤
I'm on day 14 of my sobriety journey. Definitely feel like I've been battling my dragon these past two weeks. Have had to put myself to bed super early lately, I'm so exhausted. But when I wake up the next day (NOT hungover🎉) I'm grateful I get another chance at life and do my day all over again. 🐉🗡️
Well the time change and the season change is naturally doing that to all of us as well. I think I went to bed at 755 the other night lol.
Always ask yourself this question: Will I be happy with my decision when I wake up?
If the answer is yes, then get some rest! You're still recovering from years of poisoning. Think of it that way. Your body needs to detox first. THEN the healing starts to begin. You owe it to yourself and you DESERVE to feel your best and GRADUATE to the next level in life 😁
Thanks for encouraging video Jae! Very cool 😊
Happy to be of service 😎
This video made me cry,it really reasonated with me so much,thankyou Jae.
Tears are just our soul getting our for a little fresh air 🥰
Wow! That was honest and encouraging! Thank you, Jae.
Luckily, I don't know how to do it any other way =)
Thanks!
You're the best, thank you 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you Jae for this bold, honest video. We are all imperfect and we all make mistakes. The best thing to do is to learn from your mistakes. Be creative enough to make a different mistake the next time.
It certainly took some bravery!
Brilliant video. Thanks
You should see our newest ones!
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Another goldmine for the sober community. Jae, can you please touch on drinkers who fly solo at home? I think for the older members of this community it'd resonate. I have a family and I hardly go out and it's hard staying sober bc the "devil" on my shoulder is very persuasive - "Go ahead you're not driving", "Treat yourself you're saving money", "Do it man you're not gonna make a fool of yourself in public" etc etc ***
How about this: tell us, what are the keys to your personal success from now until the end of the year?
@@GettingSoberAgain Bigger picture: family, and wanting to provide for them as a husband and father. Daily goals: meditation, focus, activity; achieving balance. But put under a microscope these values and goals still have holes - that's where alcohol seeps in - at home, alone, at 20:19 (current time here)
@@jackedkerouac4414 Great goals! How do you stay on top of them? I FINALLY put myself to a schedule. Everything from making the bed, to pushups, workouts, creative time, etc. If it's not time for social media, I don't go on it.
You are the BOSS and the EMPLOYEE! Staying on top of your schedule is key.
I WILL > I HOPE
@@GettingSoberAgain Pretty much do the same as you. I think I'll read more books on sobriety. Some of them have exercises that are really useful
@@jackedkerouac4414 don't forget our website has plenty of great titles!
www.gettingsoberagain.com/sobriety-books
Great video Jae
Really helped me
Totally identified
I always say that if one of us feels it, we all feel it. so why not let the cat out of the bag!
Thanks to your awesome videos, this community, AA and especially God: 439 days sober. Also 45 days nicotine-free from Copenhagen and Marlboros.
👏👏👏 You're making huge changes that you should be proud of!
I had to pause at 7:44. You mentioned your dad dying. I had to comment. I lost my dad (And my mom later) . That took its toll on me also. But the bad part was, I wasn't there. I was in a different state and couldn't see them. It hurt. I did see my mom once before she passed. My addiction came from my dad. He slowly died from drug use. I don't do drugs, but alcohol is taking over me. But I just had a visit with my GP (doc) on how to slow down and quit on my own (he's been my doc for 20 years. I trust his advice). I've been to the hospital where they overdosed me on drugs to get me off of alcohol but I don't want to do that again. I showed him your video on how to cut back slowly and, surprisingly, he agreed!
Tapering is always adviseable. But having a solid date lined up for quitting is the most important part of that equation. That's why we always suggest the 10 in 10 method. If you consume 10 units of alcohol a day like I did, set a date to quit 10 days from today. Have your normal amount of alcohol today, one less tomorrow, one less the next day until you hit 10 days later and you're down to zero.
too many people keep flirting with tapering as an excuse to keep drinking and then never actually quit drinking while staying imprisoned in a state of tapering.
@@GettingSoberAgain I drink way more than 10 units a day. It's aquatint to maybe 15 units of vodka a DAY. I'm not proud of it (and I'm a small girl!). But it's got to stop. I'm ruining my life.
8 days sober ❤
I LIKE THIS!!!!
Binge watching your videos and this one got me 👍
Which part 🤓
A lot of bad things have happened to me over the last 5 months and I started drinking a lot to cope with everything! I’m now 18 days sober and I’m tackling my problems now. You’re taking care a future you resonates with me.
@@MrHandy-nr5hi Make sure your future you grows up to be big and strong! 🐒
Well ive been steadily catching your vids daily, hopefully more than one. Definetely made to order. Ive been working on my sobriety with some serious intention since 2017. I come from a long line of alcoholics. All the men in my family are dead because of this. Ive been using any and all tools available. Strangely enough I only came across your channel recently for some reason. I just tell myself I willed it into existence because up to now your content and understanding of alcoholism is pretty much made to order for me. Maybe its a generational thing, I dont know, but you definetely speak my language and I really appreciate you doing this. Is the channel still active? I started digging in on older videos I guess, any suggestions?
Again thank you Jae. Ive been sober but i'm smart enough to know its to early to even begin counting days, which I don't like honestly. I'd like to just open my eyes one day and realize its been a month. Which has been a rare occurence in my life, rare but it exists.
Think of it like this: none of the other men before you were brave enough to STOP the generational trauma.
you WILL BE that person. and you WILL BREAK THE CURSE. Be the change you want to see in your family. And when you do, you will be able to pass these foundations on to help those that need it most.
it is a blessing and a huge opportunity. life is short, but our legacy depends on the words we share, the actions we commit to, and the hugs we give along the way.
and yes, we are still active lol
Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety!
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Ho are you !!! ???
It was like you have spoked from my own mind, my deepest secrets I don’t allow even myself to know about me 😳
I am grateful for your content and appreciate you very much. You make the impossible seem possible.
I just discovered your content 🙏🏼
Lenka how did you find us!! They say the brighter you let your light shine, the more undeniable your presence.
While we hid in the darkness for so long, we avoided being truly present. There will come a time when those around us need us most, but will we be there mentally? Will we be there emotionally, spiritually, or physically?
I'm happy you're here. And while I have your attention:
1. Be kind to yourself
2. Know that you are practicing. Practice makes PROGRESS!
3. Be patient with your sobriety journey (we all learn lessons along the way)
4. REPEAT 1-3 🙏🏼
Yesterday I simply typed “what happens when you stop drinking alcohol “ on TH-cam 🤣
And your content resonated and convinced me to do it !!! Day 2 and already feeling better, thanks to you I am confident !!!
@@lenkahairsalon9482 so here's what I'd like to offer you:
For the next 2 weeks I want you to comment on any one of our videos and I'll write you back!! Even if you have a sobriety detour, I want to hear from you ❤️❤️❤️
@@lenkahairsalon9482 Congratulations on embracing sobriety. Keep the momentum going. Better days are ahead Lenka
Preach
Hey Douglas!!
@@GettingSoberAgain Hey back at ya!! Keep on keeping on!! You help many. Seriously!
@@douglascollier7767 that makes me so happy to hear bro! Thank you for being a shining light in this community ❤️❤️❤️
@@GettingSoberAgain I'm only a reflection.
hello Jae
❤ dang r u reading my mind #lol ( 3 weeks sober)
I has superpowers 🦸
I have a question for you Jae:
Do any of your old "party" friends know you do this channel? Have you ever been outed?
I'm fairly public, but I do keep my different creative endeavors separate from my personal pages for the most part.
I actually went out on memorial day and went to an after party at this huge mansion (totally wasn't expecting this out of my evening). Some of the people there were talking to me about the channel. It was great.
It's important to me not to preach. It's also important to "be me for free"; to hang out and have a good time without people needing to know that I happen to be sober.
There are generally 3 categories, people either know, Know and don't care, or don't know. General, I know. But also it's important to me to not have any one particular thing be MY IDENTITY. I am not the artist guy, the sober guy, the DJ guy, I'm just Jae. Make sense?
A lot of people who I used to DJ with, or make art with, see that I am now just more productive which is also important to me. I want to be able to show people that they can still be creative, social, and themselves....SOBER!
@@GettingSoberAgain I understand Jae that you don't want to be put into one small box. You want to be known as a complex, intelligent person with many facets.
Awesome video Jae! Is your left eye ok? Looks swole 😆
Swole? If you're talking about the thumbnail, I'm making a grimace face.
Other than that, I'm 40 and not wearing makeup, idk, maybe my lighting tricks didn't do a good enough job of keeping you FOCUSED ON THE MESSAGE 🕵️♀️ lol
Thanks for stopping by
@@GettingSoberAgain 😂 sorry I am just a concerned comment member. Love ya dude!
@@two.wheelin.drummer9291 you should see the other guy...