I absolutely know that my shopping addiction stems from my childhood. I did not have a lot of clothes as a child. My mom sewed a lot of my clothes and I wore hand-me downs. Then, after learning how to sew at age 12, I sewed most of my clothes until I was a young adult. There was a comment made that I overheard when I was 12...about me wearing the same dress (it was the first dress I made myself and it was my favorite)..MEAN girl comment. I'm 60 years old and I've never forgotten it.
Yes those moments do stick!! And only now, as an adult, can I tell myself that actually, wearing the same favorite dress is a sign of real personal style - that's a "signature" look right there, something to wear with pride.
It is pretty cool how open you are with your audience! You make us feel very included and special. We want to support you and make up for some of the hardship and stress. We are very glad that things are finally becoming more comfortable. You seem to us to deserve a good life!
Aw thank you! And I feel like life is indeed pretty good, wouldn't change anything in the past either as it's got me to today 😄 All the best to you too!
I love your channel! Keep pushing. I think I will forever be on this journey of working towards consuming less. I do not have children, nor do I want them, but I care deeply about the future of all children and the world I am leaving behind for them. I wish you continuous success on your personal journey :)
Yes it seems to be a constant process especially since it feels like there is a constant onslaught of marketing and social influence to fight off...that's one of the reasons I made this channel in the first place, to try and dilute power of "influencing" on these platforms! Thank you!
I’m 5’ 10”, half Belgian half Ethiopian, and I grew up in Iowa with an alarming amount of overlap to your story ❤️ I appreciate and relate to your mixed race and culture struggles. You just want to fit in and it’s so hard and weird as a kid. All my lasting friendships were with other first gen and/or mixed kids.
Ha I moved to South Dakota two years ago. We live north of where you lived. So sorry you had a negative experience here. Definitely learn Korean. Be proud of your heritage.
Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable - I think this helps your content resonate even more. I appreciate how you talked through what the causes might be, under the surface… it makes me think about my own experiences more deeply. You’ve clearly grown so much, it’s inspiring, and I’m so excited to keep following your channel and learning from your perspective!
I am similarly embarrassed about my overconsumption, which has been especially excessive since Covid. Although I have been working diligently to reduce my belongings and future consumption to a significant degree, I am not always successful.
I feel the same as you Cindy and found my consumption increased during Covid and since, probably because it became much easier buying on-line and became more the norm. Adjusting my buying habits is a work in progress and I know the triggers are email notifications and scrolling online so try to minimise that.
Thanks for your candor. I moved back to my suburban hometown after living on my own in the city for 10 years. It’s crazy how the insecurities of adolescence come flooding back when you do that. I have openly stated to my close friends (with whom I am still close) from middle school that I’m ready to be in the suburbs again because I can finally dress designer and make my kids “proud” of me like I could never do back in the day as, like you, I was the only Asian kid in an all white neighborhood. Now there are many more Asian families in our town than there were in the 90’s and I hope my kids don’t have to go through anything similar, but I still can’t deny my own feelings.
I can totally relate to your past. My mother is Vietnamese and my dad is Caucasian. Growing up, I never felt that I fit in with the Asian kids or the white kids. We also moved after my 8th grade year so I started a new high school knowing nobody. I guess I’ve always had insecurities and that I tried to mask with clothes. But I came from a very frugal and modest home-so no lavish spending. Luckily I didn’t have social media (I’m old 😂) but Covid definitely ramped up my feelings of boredom and loneliness. Like you, I’m just trying to do better! Thankful for finding you!❤
I have just found your channel and I’m enjoying your content. I am doing a no buy July and otherwise just trying to take a break from buying anything I want just as soon as I want. I want to enjoy what i have. Your content and other channels like yours will be so helpful in changing some of my behavior!
Thank you so much for sharing this! It really resonated with me and has encouraged me to look at my own motivations to have the “right” look to fit in. You’re brave to make a video like this and I love your content!! 😊
Alexa, have you read “Crying in H-Mart” by Michelle Zauner? Your childhood feelings reminded me so much of what the author (she’s also half South Korean by mother) went through. And it’s a great book anyway.
It is on my library waitlist and I think I'm almost at the front of the queue, so I WILL get to read it hopefully this summer! That's so cool to hear that it's probably going to be extremely relatable, I'm excited
Incredible video! I relate to your story so much. And I have a half-Korean daughter, so I’m afraid she’ll go through some of the same things you did as a child. Your video had such a happy ending :) thanks so for sharing your story and for all of these videos! You’re a gem. 💎
Aw well I do notice there are more and more mixed race people in general these days so I hope she finds others to relate to sooner than I did! Thank you so much for this kind comment 😊
Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy you kept pursuing a career in music. Without getting too 'woo woo'...it's for the spirit and heart, transcends language, and so enriching for the people who hear you. Financial insecurity is such a huge life stressor. Even if you have enough in the moment, it's always there. I'm so glad you made it to where you are now. My online shopping did get worse during the pandemic. I was a nurse in Australia and my regular patient cohort at that time were (immunocompromised) transplant patients. So even when we weren't in actual lockdowns, I was so scared that I would go out, get covid, and bring it back to my patients. Even with all the PPE we were wearing, it was a risk I felt I couldn't take; I would have felt so much shame and guilt if I'd gotten any of my patients sick. So I ended up ordering so many things online, predominantly clothes. Funnily enough, once the pressure was off, they were basically all the items I rehomed. But it was sooooo much *stuff*. It was literally just that dopamine hit I was seeking because I was so stressed and isolated.
I believe in the "woo woo!" At least in that regard - after all it's what keeps me going as a musician and trying to reach deeper levels of communication through playing for people. That sounds incredibly stressful regarding your pandemic situation. I really admire you for being on the front lines in that way and taking it so seriously for the sake of those you took care of. While anything can be "justified," so in some ways my saying this is meaningless, I do look at that situation and feel that the search for dopamine through shopping is kind of justified, even if it's not necessarily constructive in hindsight!
I recently discovered you and have been having a bit of a binge. I love how open and relatable you are. I'm curious how your husband manages personal finances and shopping. If there's a way you could share your similarities and differences with him and how you manage it together, while still respecting his privacy, I'd be interested in that content. Thank you for all that you share!
Thank you! So to answer part of your question, our finances are totally combined and generally we talk about each purchase we make before spending the $. It was actually just me who would occasionally make a sneaky purchase here and there, that he'd find out about later, hence me going on the "no buy year". He doesn't tend to shop much except for directly necessary things for activities he's doing (running/cycling stuff, lawn gear). It might be something I talk about in more detail later since it might be an interesting comparison when I've thought about it a bit more, but at least for now my focus is pretty exclusively on myself and how to navigate the urge to buy things now that I'm finally saying "no" this year 😅
Hi! I'm a fellow musician. It was great to hear your story. Congratulations! You have accomplished so much, both musically and in general, in your life up to this point. Keep going!
Aw thanks so much! I'm going to try and do some more playing online for a kind of "summer project" so I'll try and bring more snippets of that to this channel 😊
So glad I stumbled across your video! I am sooooo over social media and overconsumption it kind of makes me queasy when I see these girls with like 200 bottles of product in their bathroom. I have a blush from 2020 that I still haven’t hit pan on 🤣 like why do I need 7 blushes??
YES yes yes, welcome! I'm so happy I didn't fall in THAT deep, I don't have a massive makeup collection or anything like that, but even with the collections of clothing and makeup that I DO have, I want to pare down and most importantly stop the inflow of new things this year so that I can start combating the influence of social media on our collective consumerism habits! No one needs that much, not even "influencers" who make it their "jobs".
I came across your chanel a few days ago and keep watching your content as its very inspiring. Your honesty and stories really resonate with me. I enjoy the creativity of fashion as its a bit of a outlet for me but I do feel the financial burden of consumerism as its constantly there and not easy to get away from. Ive always enjoyed buying things but as little treats a few times a year or to save up for something and 2020 was defo the year for me too when it changed and became more of a habit than an occasional enjoyable treat
Aw welcome, and thank you! I'm planning to do a bit more "fashion-oriented" content on here too soon, the little bit I've done has helped me see some things about my style preferences! Fashion is a creative outlet for me too 😄
Love your channel. I like to play these and other similar creators’ videos in the background. You sharing your story in detail for this one was super refreshing i love how your goals at the end perfectly align with the story of your journey, they are such healthy special intentions that are custom to you.
Me too, I also like listening to content in the background and try to find people who align with my current goals and values! Now just to see if I can actually act on my goals - some of these have been subconscious goals for a long time I think, that I haven't made any moves on thus far but I'm hopeful that actually talking it out like this will help!
Revisited 7/24 . When taken all together the weight of social hardship, none of it within your control, makes the soothing need for shopping to extreme very understandable. The psychology, however, would probably not have been evident to you at that age. As a young person you just do what feels good and lessens tension. Unfortunately the habit takes hold. As habits go it was not that destructive! (Not alcohol or drugs or shoplifting!) But now the adult you can see that the habit caused problems as well as comfort. Thank you so much for allowing us to accompany you on this journey of self awareness and recovery! 🙏
Haha I'll also say, as a young person who had to leave all her friends and move to New Zealand, the other thing I did was eat way too much chocolate, which luckily didn't turn into anything too destructive either 😅
Hi from Houston! 👋You've lived such an interesting life! Also, I'm totally aligned with you in terms of what I want out of life right now. Shopping is ultimately not fulfilling and the dopamine rush we get from it is not sustainable.
I just found your channel and LOVE it! You’re such an inspiration. I’m also a mom of 2 littles in Omaha. 😊 So glad you’re happy here! (I was so jazzed when I found out you’re in Nebraska!!! I feel like no one’s ever from Omaha 😂)
Ooh hi, happy to meet you on here! Yay Nebraska 😄 totally unrelated but let me know if you ever want to see the Omaha Symphony, I can possibly get you comp tickets depending on the show 🎶
@@Alexas.nobuyyear I would love that! 🥹 Would be a great date night for me and the hubby. Would love to see you and the other enormously talented musicians perform! That’s right up our alley. 😄
Great! I'm not just saying that either - when the season starts up again in September I'll probably mention it in a post or something on here, (I know I've reached at least one other person from Omaha) which will say where to email me if you know what show you might like to see!
Ohhhhhhh waow 🥲 Thank you for playing for us❤ I am a singer but I have always admired viola and violin. Such a difficult instrument. Thank you for sharing from a recovering shop-aholic myself 😊
Thank you for such an insightful video 😊. I am a Korean-American adoptee who lived in South Dakota as a baby (parents originally from there). Also lived in Texas in grade school and Pennsylvania while writing my dissertation. No doubt my problematic relationship with shopping has similar roots to yours. I’ve been trying forever to get things under control, but still struggle. Your videos are very helpful and inspirational!
I know! I was so surprised! Can you believe how popular Korean culture is now? I had no interest in Korea for most of my life, but discovered BTS during the pandemic from watching so many Asian food videos. Then I "met" some wonderful American fans (women in their 70s and 80s!) of BTS on TH-cam, who got me hooked on K-dramas. I never thought that I would become such a fan. If you've never watched K-dramas before, you might find Crash Landing on You or Extraordinary Attorney Wood fun. Also, you might find Korean sunscreens appealing. They have more advanced filters than U.S. sunscreens (Dr. Dray is an excellent source). Plus, they are significantly less expensive.
@@Alexas.nobuyyear It’s such a fun way to learn a little about Korean culture (which has a lot of problems, but still). K-dramas can mix a lot of genres together, which I find interesting. I really love them 😊
Thank you for sharing your story! I came across your channel a few days ago, and much of it is so relatable. I’m excited to have your videos as reinforcements for accountability but also a support as many of us will slip (as with all things as we work toward behavior change) and so to those videos where you are hard on yourself, I appreciate your honesty and hope you are gentle on yourself as it is all part of behavior change❤ Looking ahead, I don’t have children now but have thought about how the online scrolling and shopping will be sooo easy (but also not that fulfilling) when I’m tired, sad, low energy…all the things! You’re doing great, and I’m sure life changes have made it easy to fall on shopping and consuming. It’s great to reflect and no better time to make changes than *now*
Thank you!! Kids or no kids, we'll all have low-energy, tired, not-happy times so like you said, no better time to make changes and get on the "path of progress" 😄
Hi. I just discovered your channel yesterday and I keep watching your videos in my free time. I can relate to so many things you've been talking about on your channel and I'm so happy that I found you. I'm actually going through kind of the same thing as you. I'm so done with being influenced and keep buying things I don't need and being trapped in consumerism. Last month I've decluttered my wardrobe, I just did my skincare\makeup this weekend. Luckily my things are brand new\unused so maybe I can regain some of my 'lost' money by selling them online. Keep up doing what you do beacuse for many of us whom going through the same it's so helping mentally that we know we are not alone. ☺
Aw welcome!! So happy to hear we are doing this together! I'm hoping to list a bunch of my "declutters" online soon too, so thank you for the renewed motivation 😅
Aw I'm sorry for your loss, and sending you comforting energy as you navigate through the ripples of emotion and change that go along with a transition like this🥰
Thanks for making these videos I relate to a lot of what you said in this video. We both had babies in 2020 too! I’m looking forward to hearing more updates. I’m currently trying the same thing and it’s hard! Not feeling alone in this helps a bit though.
Wow, thank you for that private little gift concert :D You play lovely
Aw thank you! 🎶
I absolutely know that my shopping addiction stems from my childhood. I did not have a lot of clothes as a child. My mom sewed a lot of my clothes and I wore hand-me downs. Then, after learning how to sew at age 12, I sewed most of my clothes until I was a young adult. There was a comment made that I overheard when I was 12...about me wearing the same dress (it was the first dress I made myself and it was my favorite)..MEAN girl comment. I'm 60 years old and I've never forgotten it.
Yes those moments do stick!! And only now, as an adult, can I tell myself that actually, wearing the same favorite dress is a sign of real personal style - that's a "signature" look right there, something to wear with pride.
It is pretty cool how open you are with your audience! You make us feel very included and special. We want to support you and make up for some of the hardship and stress. We are very glad that things are finally becoming more comfortable. You seem to us to deserve a good life!
Aw thank you! And I feel like life is indeed pretty good, wouldn't change anything in the past either as it's got me to today 😄
All the best to you too!
I love your channel! Keep pushing. I think I will forever be on this journey of working towards consuming less. I do not have children, nor do I want them, but I care deeply about the future of all children and the world I am leaving behind for them. I wish you continuous success on your personal journey :)
Yes it seems to be a constant process especially since it feels like there is a constant onslaught of marketing and social influence to fight off...that's one of the reasons I made this channel in the first place, to try and dilute power of "influencing" on these platforms! Thank you!
Oh I loved hearing you play!
Oh 2020 is what taught me to shop and introduced me to influencers.
I’m 5’ 10”, half Belgian half Ethiopian, and I grew up in Iowa with an alarming amount of overlap to your story ❤️ I appreciate and relate to your mixed race and culture struggles. You just want to fit in and it’s so hard and weird as a kid. All my lasting friendships were with other first gen and/or mixed kids.
Iowa! Another Midwestern experience🌽
Your channel is so authentic and refreshing. Can relate to so much!
Thank you!
yay Bach!
Woo!
Ha I moved to South Dakota two years ago. We live north of where you lived. So sorry you had a negative experience here. Definitely learn Korean. Be proud of your heritage.
I might need to confess I’m addicted to your content, hahah so inspiring and super interesting!
Aw thank you so much!!
Love your channel! I’ve been feeling like I’ve become a little addicted to shopping because I would buy something to make myself feel better.
Thank you! And yes I've been there, just trying to stop my addiction this year! 🙃
Thank you for letting us know about your life.❤
FUCKING HELL you're so talented!!!!!!
omg you're too kind, thank you :)
Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable - I think this helps your content resonate even more. I appreciate how you talked through what the causes might be, under the surface… it makes me think about my own experiences more deeply. You’ve clearly grown so much, it’s inspiring, and I’m so excited to keep following your channel and learning from your perspective!
Thank you so much!
I am similarly embarrassed about my overconsumption, which has been especially excessive since Covid. Although I have been working diligently to reduce my belongings and future consumption to a significant degree, I am not always successful.
One step at a time! Thanks for sharing in this with me.
I feel the same as you Cindy and found my consumption increased during Covid and since, probably because it became much easier buying on-line and became more the norm. Adjusting my buying habits is a work in progress and I know the triggers are email notifications and scrolling online so try to minimise that.
Thanks for your candor. I moved back to my suburban hometown after living on my own in the city for 10 years. It’s crazy how the insecurities of adolescence come flooding back when you do that. I have openly stated to my close friends (with whom I am still close) from middle school that I’m ready to be in the suburbs again because I can finally dress designer and make my kids “proud” of me like I could never do back in the day as, like you, I was the only Asian kid in an all white neighborhood. Now there are many more Asian families in our town than there were in the 90’s and I hope my kids don’t have to go through anything similar, but I still can’t deny my own feelings.
What an interesting story - a life well lived thus far❣️
Thank you! I feel very lucky :)
I can totally relate to your past. My mother is Vietnamese and my dad is Caucasian. Growing up, I never felt that I fit in with the Asian kids or the white kids. We also moved after my 8th grade year so I started a new high school knowing nobody. I guess I’ve always had insecurities and that I tried to mask with clothes. But I came from a very frugal and modest home-so no lavish spending. Luckily I didn’t have social media (I’m old 😂) but Covid definitely ramped up my feelings of boredom and loneliness. Like you, I’m just trying to do better! Thankful for finding you!❤
Aw thank you for sharing your story, and welcome!
I have just found your channel and I’m enjoying your content. I am doing a no buy July and otherwise just trying to take a break from buying anything I want just as soon as I want. I want to enjoy what i have. Your content and other channels like yours will be so helpful in changing some of my behavior!
Thank you! Let's do this thing together 🤝
Thank you so much for sharing this! It really resonated with me and has encouraged me to look at my own motivations to have the “right” look to fit in. You’re brave to make a video like this and I love your content!! 😊
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Alexa, have you read “Crying in H-Mart” by Michelle Zauner? Your childhood feelings reminded me so much of what the author (she’s also half South Korean by mother) went through. And it’s a great book anyway.
It is on my library waitlist and I think I'm almost at the front of the queue, so I WILL get to read it hopefully this summer! That's so cool to hear that it's probably going to be extremely relatable, I'm excited
I have binged all of your content!
I love hearing you play, also ❤
I really enjoy hearing your story. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you.
You are so kind to say so, thank you so much. I appreciate you too!!! 💖
Incredible video! I relate to your story so much. And I have a half-Korean daughter, so I’m afraid she’ll go through some of the same things you did as a child. Your video had such a happy ending :) thanks so for sharing your story and for all of these videos! You’re a gem. 💎
Aw well I do notice there are more and more mixed race people in general these days so I hope she finds others to relate to sooner than I did! Thank you so much for this kind comment 😊
Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy you kept pursuing a career in music. Without getting too 'woo woo'...it's for the spirit and heart, transcends language, and so enriching for the people who hear you.
Financial insecurity is such a huge life stressor. Even if you have enough in the moment, it's always there. I'm so glad you made it to where you are now.
My online shopping did get worse during the pandemic. I was a nurse in Australia and my regular patient cohort at that time were (immunocompromised) transplant patients. So even when we weren't in actual lockdowns, I was so scared that I would go out, get covid, and bring it back to my patients. Even with all the PPE we were wearing, it was a risk I felt I couldn't take; I would have felt so much shame and guilt if I'd gotten any of my patients sick. So I ended up ordering so many things online, predominantly clothes. Funnily enough, once the pressure was off, they were basically all the items I rehomed. But it was sooooo much *stuff*. It was literally just that dopamine hit I was seeking because I was so stressed and isolated.
I believe in the "woo woo!" At least in that regard - after all it's what keeps me going as a musician and trying to reach deeper levels of communication through playing for people.
That sounds incredibly stressful regarding your pandemic situation. I really admire you for being on the front lines in that way and taking it so seriously for the sake of those you took care of. While anything can be "justified," so in some ways my saying this is meaningless, I do look at that situation and feel that the search for dopamine through shopping is kind of justified, even if it's not necessarily constructive in hindsight!
I recently discovered you and have been having a bit of a binge. I love how open and relatable you are. I'm curious how your husband manages personal finances and shopping. If there's a way you could share your similarities and differences with him and how you manage it together, while still respecting his privacy, I'd be interested in that content. Thank you for all that you share!
Thank you! So to answer part of your question, our finances are totally combined and generally we talk about each purchase we make before spending the $. It was actually just me who would occasionally make a sneaky purchase here and there, that he'd find out about later, hence me going on the "no buy year". He doesn't tend to shop much except for directly necessary things for activities he's doing (running/cycling stuff, lawn gear). It might be something I talk about in more detail later since it might be an interesting comparison when I've thought about it a bit more, but at least for now my focus is pretty exclusively on myself and how to navigate the urge to buy things now that I'm finally saying "no" this year 😅
Hi! I'm a fellow musician. It was great to hear your story. Congratulations! You have accomplished so much, both musically and in general, in your life up to this point. Keep going!
Thank you! Got some more auditions lined up this Fall 😅
I loved the intro! Again, again!
Aw thanks so much! I'm going to try and do some more playing online for a kind of "summer project" so I'll try and bring more snippets of that to this channel 😊
So glad I stumbled across your video! I am sooooo over social media and overconsumption it kind of makes me queasy when I see these girls with like 200 bottles of product in their bathroom. I have a blush from 2020 that I still haven’t hit pan on 🤣 like why do I need 7 blushes??
YES yes yes, welcome! I'm so happy I didn't fall in THAT deep, I don't have a massive makeup collection or anything like that, but even with the collections of clothing and makeup that I DO have, I want to pare down and most importantly stop the inflow of new things this year so that I can start combating the influence of social media on our collective consumerism habits! No one needs that much, not even "influencers" who make it their "jobs".
I came across your chanel a few days ago and keep watching your content as its very inspiring. Your honesty and stories really resonate with me. I enjoy the creativity of fashion as its a bit of a outlet for me but I do feel the financial burden of consumerism as its constantly there and not easy to get away from. Ive always enjoyed buying things but as little treats a few times a year or to save up for something and 2020 was defo the year for me too when it changed and became more of a habit than an occasional enjoyable treat
Aw welcome, and thank you! I'm planning to do a bit more "fashion-oriented" content on here too soon, the little bit I've done has helped me see some things about my style preferences! Fashion is a creative outlet for me too 😄
Love your channel. I like to play these and other similar creators’ videos in the background. You sharing your story in detail for this one was super refreshing i love how your goals at the end perfectly align with the story of your journey, they are such healthy special intentions that are custom to you.
Me too, I also like listening to content in the background and try to find people who align with my current goals and values!
Now just to see if I can actually act on my goals - some of these have been subconscious goals for a long time I think, that I haven't made any moves on thus far but I'm hopeful that actually talking it out like this will help!
Revisited 7/24 . When taken all together the weight of social hardship, none of it within your control, makes the soothing need for shopping to extreme very understandable. The psychology, however, would probably not have been evident to you at that age. As a young person you just do what feels good and lessens tension. Unfortunately the habit takes hold. As habits go it was not that destructive! (Not alcohol or drugs or shoplifting!) But now the adult you can see that the habit caused problems as well as comfort. Thank you so much for allowing us to accompany you on this journey of self awareness and recovery! 🙏
Haha I'll also say, as a young person who had to leave all her friends and move to New Zealand, the other thing I did was eat way too much chocolate, which luckily didn't turn into anything too destructive either 😅
Hi from Houston! 👋You've lived such an interesting life! Also, I'm totally aligned with you in terms of what I want out of life right now. Shopping is ultimately not fulfilling and the dopamine rush we get from it is not sustainable.
Woo Houston! And very happy to have your solidarity on this journey too 😊
Thank you so much for sharing your life over view! It was nice to hear, I relate to you in many similar ways.
Thanks for sharing in this with me and I am also happy to find people to relate to here!
I just found your channel and LOVE it! You’re such an inspiration. I’m also a mom of 2 littles in Omaha. 😊 So glad you’re happy here! (I was so jazzed when I found out you’re in Nebraska!!! I feel like no one’s ever from Omaha 😂)
Ooh hi, happy to meet you on here! Yay Nebraska 😄 totally unrelated but let me know if you ever want to see the Omaha Symphony, I can possibly get you comp tickets depending on the show 🎶
@@Alexas.nobuyyear I would love that! 🥹 Would be a great date night for me and the hubby. Would love to see you and the other enormously talented musicians perform! That’s right up our alley. 😄
Great! I'm not just saying that either - when the season starts up again in September I'll probably mention it in a post or something on here, (I know I've reached at least one other person from Omaha) which will say where to email me if you know what show you might like to see!
I completely understand from a back brace/scoliosis point of view. I have severe Scoliosis and I still have trauma from that back brace! ❤️
Aw happy to meet another scoliosis sister 🥰
Ohhhhhhh waow 🥲 Thank you for playing for us❤
I am a singer but I have always admired viola and violin. Such a difficult instrument.
Thank you for sharing from a recovering shop-aholic myself 😊
I admire singers! They're sharing their ACTUAL voice, which I can't do (without it being intensely embarrassing haha)
Thank you for such an insightful video 😊. I am a Korean-American adoptee who lived in South Dakota as a baby (parents originally from there). Also lived in Texas in grade school and Pennsylvania while writing my dissertation. No doubt my problematic relationship with shopping has similar roots to yours. I’ve been trying forever to get things under control, but still struggle. Your videos are very helpful and inspirational!
Wow no way, we lived in so many of the same places!!! Happy to meet you here online 😁
I know! I was so surprised! Can you believe how popular Korean culture is now? I had no interest in Korea for most of my life, but discovered BTS during the pandemic from watching so many Asian food videos. Then I "met" some wonderful American fans (women in their 70s and 80s!) of BTS on TH-cam, who got me hooked on K-dramas. I never thought that I would become such a fan. If you've never watched K-dramas before, you might find Crash Landing on You or Extraordinary Attorney Wood fun. Also, you might find Korean sunscreens appealing. They have more advanced filters than U.S. sunscreens (Dr. Dray is an excellent source). Plus, they are significantly less expensive.
Omg yes the Kpop and K-dramas. Thanks for those recommendations I've actually been looking for which ones to try!
@@Alexas.nobuyyear It’s such a fun way to learn a little about Korean culture (which has a lot of problems, but still). K-dramas can mix a lot of genres together, which I find interesting. I really love them 😊
Thank you for sharing your story! I came across your channel a few days ago, and much of it is so relatable. I’m excited to have your videos as reinforcements for accountability but also a support as many of us will slip (as with all things as we work toward behavior change) and so to those videos where you are hard on yourself, I appreciate your honesty and hope you are gentle on yourself as it is all part of behavior change❤ Looking ahead, I don’t have children now but have thought about how the online scrolling and shopping will be sooo easy (but also not that fulfilling) when I’m tired, sad, low energy…all the things! You’re doing great, and I’m sure life changes have made it easy to fall on shopping and consuming. It’s great to reflect and no better time to make changes than *now*
Thank you!! Kids or no kids, we'll all have low-energy, tired, not-happy times so like you said, no better time to make changes and get on the "path of progress" 😄
Thank you for the context.
Hi. I just discovered your channel yesterday and I keep watching your videos in my free time. I can relate to so many things you've been talking about on your channel and I'm so happy that I found you. I'm actually going through kind of the same thing as you. I'm so done with being influenced and keep buying things I don't need and being trapped in consumerism. Last month I've decluttered my wardrobe, I just did my skincare\makeup this weekend. Luckily my things are brand new\unused so maybe I can regain some of my 'lost' money by selling them online. Keep up doing what you do beacuse for many of us whom going through the same it's so helping mentally that we know we are not alone. ☺
Aw welcome!! So happy to hear we are doing this together! I'm hoping to list a bunch of my "declutters" online soon too, so thank you for the renewed motivation 😅
My shopping addiction started after my father died. I guess I was looking for something to make me feel better…but I felt more and more empty.😢
Aw I'm sorry for your loss, and sending you comforting energy as you navigate through the ripples of emotion and change that go along with a transition like this🥰
Glad I found your channel!
Aw me too, thanks!
Thanks for making these videos I relate to a lot of what you said in this video. We both had babies in 2020 too!
I’m looking forward to hearing more updates. I’m currently trying the same thing and it’s hard! Not feeling alone in this helps a bit though.
2020 was a good year for babies! At least I feel like it was, with the extra time mandated at home. Here's to undertaking this pursuit together!
❤🎶🎻👏 also korean roots here 🤗
Ooh thank you for sharing! 🇰🇷
Racism is everywhere. I grew up in another country and was told to go back to China even though my family have been in that country for 3 generations.
UGH I'm sorry this has happened to you as well 😓