"Bad Boy" Traits That Women Find Attractive | Courtney Ryan
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- You’ve probably heard so many times “bad boys win and nice guys always finish last” or something along those lines. I think this terminology often leaves guys feeling confused (and rightfully so) so in this video I break down the things guys do that make them successful with women. I hope this video makes things a bit more clear!
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It’s simple:
1. Women are easily bored
2. The looks and behaviors of bad boys delay women from becoming bored
3. Bad boys leave before a woman becomes bored with them
Nah, you just bitter bro. Or hang around boring women.
@@RiceDaddy07 nah dude is right on #2. I hear a lot of women say guys that are "bad boys" are a lot more exciting, good in bed, never a dull moment, etc.
It's that or there may be some women that want to change them. I'm not saying all women are like that but my ears have been around a few tables and OP isn't completely wrong nor completely right.
Women want to change bad boys. But if Course they run before that happens
@@RiceDaddy07 Some people are indeed easily bored.
And it' not only the women and it's not only the men. Getting bored means that there is a high probability for you to have difficulties with keeping your attention in one place for a longer period of time. The often you getting bored, the bigger the probability is.
One thing that those people don't realize is those difficulties are a problem inside THEIR yards, not inside the other's yards.
@@RiceDaddy07 Sorry that you can't face reality.
“Nice guys finish in divorce court. Bad boys finish on her face” - Darius M
very true
@Yez Kex 1. why tf would you want to get married in today's day in age 2. Bad boys don't care to get married 3. Exactly Annatars point, bad boy uses woman, nice guy saves the day and marries her, then gets destroyed in court when bad boy tries to use her again.
Yeah, like 2 and a half men, Charlie is the bad boy and fuck around during Alan have to pay to his ex wife and rarely get a pussy, because he is to nice and not confident.
dude i almost died laughing when i read your comment
Bad boys end up lonely and sad in the end cos all they ever did was chase girls, nice guys get married and live happy, meaningful lives with the women they married, whom they love and who love them back.
1) Be independent
2) Sense of humor
3) Confidence
4) Being direct
5) Body Language and Social Skills
These are traits bad boys possess, not traits that make a bad boy. It’s often the fact that “nice guys” don’t have these traits or don’t show them that makes them finish last. These are all positive traits you can have without coming off as or being a douche, a bad boy, a jerk or asshole. Be direct with what you want, have good social skills to express what you want to compliment your words and be confident when expressing what you want. Have your own life, take what you do and want seriously be lighthearted and easy to approach and talk to when you talk to others, not just when approaching women. If you have a problem doing this when approaching women in particular, consider that maybe you’re overthinking how women work. Women and Men are still more similar than they are different. Two sides of the same coin, but still on the same coin.
@Women's rights was a Mistake And forget you have to be packing 7in+
He's 6' 1" (not 6' 4")..I'm 6' and my height represents about 15% of men in the world population.
@Women's rights was a Mistake If you have a lot of money then it doesn't matter how you look. lol
@@brianlittrell797 nah stop it
A man can have all 5 of those traits but if he is short, he is doomed to Monkhood.
Wishing you all very happy new year may it bring health, wealth, prosperity in your life. 🌹
Things to avoid this year -
1. Trying to please everyone
2. Fearing change
3. Living in the past
4. Overthinking
5. Being afraid to be different
6. Sacrificing happiness for others
7. Thinking you're not good enough
8.thinking you not have purpose in life
Love this! Happy new year!
@@CourtneyRyan 💙🌹
Love your advice.
Wrong on no. 8 completely - this is a sign of virtue, not something to avoid. All the best.
@@CourtneyRyan 3 years ago I had a hard time being confident and I noticed that all TH-cam videos talk about that so I forced myself to be confident around women and I have improved so thanks for your advice ☺️
Ohh man not this haha 😆. I think guys should stop worrying about trying to be what women want in terms of this bad boy stuff and just focus on being the best version of themselves. One thing I've learned from talking to different women; is they all like different things in guys. You just gotta be confident in your good qualities and put yourself out there for women who like those things. Plus nothing wrong with being a good guy. I rather people say "Georgio was a good man who always looked out for people" when my time on this earth is done. That is how we should think. Anyways happy New Year everyone and thanks Courtney for your kindness and great content my friend 🙌🏽♥️🥂
Agree . These types of videos are nothing but misleading and misguiding craps . When you try these advices in real life you just get your ass kicked . Women to women have different opinion and it's not a good way to use one perception for all people. I don't want to be a bait for predator
Awesome comment, Georgio. I hope you'll live long and happily!
@@abdelkaderelbrazi Thank you man! I only try to share my experiences and so guys can see that there is hope in this dating game/life. Have a blessed one 😊🙌🏽
@@mahdipasban3872 now don't get it mistaken, Courtney advice in all her previous videos and comments have helped me greatly especially last year. I'm grateful for that but the bad boy stuff comes up a lot throughout TH-cam because it's the popular topic that gets searched so i don't fault her for it. I just want guys who aren't all of these things to realize that they are just important and attractive to a quite a few women out there. We just have to be confident in our strengths/good qualities as men and don't dwell on things we aren't or our weaknesses. That's all i wanted to say. Anyways be safe man 💫
@@mahdipasban3872 Some people like to be conned and not think for themselves...
As someone who made it out of the friendzone last year,im not a bad boy.I just matured and realized that you just need to appeal to the mental attraction,stop being thirsty,and realize if she don't like you find another woman that does💯 And keep your options open
you get out of friendzone when you stop making friendship with women
Rather, the best approach is to wait until you find a girl who you fall in love with. Then go after her and win her over through your passion for her sensing that she is the right girl for you and you are the right guy for her. It's like what Plato describes in his *Symposium* when Aristophanes tells the story of people originally being both male and female until the gods split us apart and then we go looking for our other half. We know that other half of ourselves when we see her. Love reunites the two lovers.
I was a nice guy in my teens until other guys told me to knock it off. I started being a bad boy, rude, dismissive, jerky, and girls chased me and competed to be with me. HOWEVER: I did not like the person I was, and I noticed that the older you get, the less the girls want you to be like that. But the biggest enemy of females is: they depend on guys to handle the fact that they are constantly bored and don't know what to do with themselves. They should have a life, and prefer nice/kind guys. If "guys are your life", then you'll end up with a guy with a rap sheet who might commit domestic abuse, leave you with a baby, etc.
very good comment
I see where you are coming from when you say "...the biggest enemy of females is: they depend on guys to handle the fact that they are constantly bored and don't know what to do with themselves. They should have a life, and prefer nice/kind guys. If "guys are your life", then you'll end up with a guy with a rap sheet who might commit domestic abuse, leave you with a baby, etc".
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Haha funny 🤣
For me it's the other way around. I went from being a jerk and being cold to being sweet and kind to people. Girls stopped giving a sh*t about me now
You should though of that earlier, I’m not gonna change my personality to be bad because of woman I be good to everyone so they dislike that ,it their fault not mine
1.) prioritise yourself as a man and don’t spend energy to think about what she wants or feels
2.) don’t forget rule one
3.) You can lose all your money by chasing women, you will never lose women by chasing money
4.) it’s not the good of your heart but the size of your wallet that makes you stand out
5.) For men, intimacy is always transactional - one way or another you pay-for-play. Chose the right playground and look for quality, not quantity.
6.) She is never yours, it’s just your turn
7.) She has a backup guy - you should have a backup plan too
8.) Never tolerate drama or shit tests - keep her in check
9.) Be confident when others flirt with your girl, if she flirts back, leave her immediately.
10.) lift weights 5 days a week, no matter your age
Correct man
Umm...Dude, it's not just the size of your wallet that makes you stand out.
you summarized every thing
@@a_m7ammad writing it is the easy part - live by these or similar rules every day is excelling in discipline & willpower. That’s the hard part.
@@danieldpa8484 Dear daniel I agree with you but guess what, If you have a passion and you are obsessed with it, you would not give a fuck about what women think because you always will have things to do and accomplish and women can come along your journey or not you are the winner at the end of the day .. and guess what scares the shit out of women two things 1 - Men with multiple female options 2- Men having things going on in their life (work commitment) because they subconsciously know whatever shit test they came with she stays at the secondary level, I hope you got my point and excuse my bad English.
There was a girl who broke up with a guy early into dating because she thought he was too into her when he wasn't. What he did was normal dating actions where you date the woman.
What she didn't realize was he was sought after by many women. His new girlfriend was beautiful and she started coming back around. But it didn't matter because he was no longer interested.
She was probably more comfortable being treated badly or indifferent. These women exist.
Kinda sad eh
That’s most women
Leave her if is used in this treatment
k man
Those type of women nowadays are the majority, unfortunately... That's THEIR problem, not yours, for she's a grown-ass woman and need to figure a way out of that mindset herself.
1) Be independant - you can work on that and learn.
2) Sense of humor - I would say you can also work on that if you are a chill person that is happy with their own life.
3) Confidence - Going to the Gym, feeling great about yourself I would say is the Key.
4) Being direct - Honesty is important too.
5) Body language - I think this one is the hardest because there is way too many shy people that just can't do this at all without feeling unconfortable.
Well I am Social Chameleon Introvert that alter my Body language on command and thus I don’t give too much stock to such.
@@vickrunalza8057 Being a gay chameleon with rainbow colours isn’t going to cut it. Go touch grass
I agree with what you are saying, Arthur, you make great points.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@@vickrunalza8057Lmfao same here
According to the FBI - Crossing your arms is one of most misunderstood body poses. It is not a defensive, or angry posture like so many think it is.
It depends on how tightly you cross your arms or if it got too chilly or cold out and you didnt dress warmly enough or things like that
@David Michaels Same. I often do it because I can rest or comfort my back a little when I get back pain after hours of doing something physical
I know. I do it sometimes because I feel comfortable
I do it bc I can’t be still
I see crossed arms as actually a sign of comfort because it's a way to relax your back when standing. As long as the crossed arms aren't too tight.
So many guys falsely equate being a bad boy with being rude to and ignoring women. That will only make women give up and dislike them.
No. They will like you more lol
I hear what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
But that is a bad boy. They are rude. Another term for a "bad boy" is a jerk.
Hmm, there are a-hoke guys as well that will do the same but are not bad boys, just want the woman to f off.
No it wont. It would if they were logical but they're not.
You are surounding the real issue here. Confidence, sense of humor, etc. Those are good guy atributes. Unfaithful, rude, violent, abusive... That's a "bad boy". Why are they irresistible to many women? Because some people just like problems and drama to feel alive. They think that's what they deserve.
I agree with what you are saying and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
"Bad boys" are just tall good looking guys who don't let women push them around. Ever seen a short guy being referrred to as a "bad boy"? I didn't think so.
tom cruise
Works for me. :P
@@music-jj2pl Rich and famous. Doesn't count. Also not really a "bad boy".
Yeah, A LOT of short guys. I webt to high school with a dude who is like 5' 7" or so and hispanic. He was very blunt with his thoughts, never gave any attention to the girls at school because he literally just didn't find too many of them attractive, and they all swooned over him because of it.
Tbh. If a man is not a simp in a relationship, women will shame him and call him a "bad boy".
This grifter is trying to come up with ways to get men to simp "confidently" lol.
One thing that is really missing from the discussion is the fact that the examples people use as evidence that bad boys win are attractive, fictional characters with great senses of style. Hank Moody Harvey Spector, Lori etc. In real life you often find that "bad boys" have almost the same amount of success as confident nice guys. The only difference is Bad boys seem to care less about rejection than other types. If there is any attribute one should take from the bad boy, it is the ability to not care about things that do not build or desire you like most other guys do.
I think that can seem like selfishness, so we need to emphasise the importance of priorities. A person is first and foremost responsible for himself
The REAL reason women like bad boys:
1)the don't give a f about her. She wants them more than they want her.
2)they don't hold women in high moral standards. Which serves the unrepentant nature of women.
3)they are more assertive.
@@keylanoslokj1806 correct 👍🏻
@@keylanoslokj1806 Exactly!!! The 2nd one is key.
Dead on! 💯💯💯
I like how she says im not telling you to be a bad boy,but thats basically what she is telling you to do😂😂
If you know
You know 🤣😜
Well she's just telling us what girls like, and unfortunately girls are immature and emotional
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Let's be very, very clear on something. The #1 reason that "bad boys" are so attractive is 90% of the time they are tall and hot so the woman let that behavior slide because of this. If an unattractive man tried to do even close to half of these things they will get into actual trouble. Stop lying
Indeed. That's very true. 🙏🙏🙏
facts.
Well nice guys are also tall and attractive
@@ank7652 at least they get some form of positive attention and reinforcement. When you have been called ugly by basically every woman you are interested in. Feels pretty pointless at some point to even try. You really start to feel like a worthless piece of shit because of it.
Facts
I think one thing that girls miss here - I notice girls that have liked the “bad boys” - totally true.
The thing is, once I notice that about a woman, it’s a complete turn off. I am not attracted to her anymore.
Sometimes these videos seem to come with an assumption that the girl is the ultimate prize. Be the best version of yourself to get the girl.
Except, yeah, no thanks. Not interested in girls for fall for the dumb bad boy game.
RIGHT ON, MY FRIEND. I agree with what you are saying, women do give off a lot of mixed signals. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
A great video to start of the year with & it's true most of those traits are misunderstood to be "bad" but they aren't, it's basically just getting out of your comfort zone & being more confident in your life.
I agree with what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Hi Ms. Ryan - I do all the five things you suggested. I do them naturally when speaking to ladies, I don't consider myself a "bad boy" I see myself as a guy who likes ladies company and I have a lot of fun as in laughs and good times with women, yes I look after myself and I don't dress or smell like all the other guys in the room or club. Maybe that's why I get noticed. What I will say is this - guys all you have to do is stop with the naughty thoughts and speak to women with respect and treat them I'm a manner you wish to be treated myself. Also no dirty jokes - big no,no,. Oh the number one rule is - if you walk up to a lady say "Hi" And she is not interested. Then just walk away, don't say anything as it will make zero difference. And be cool about it. This bit will sound a tad odd - if you do right, sometimes a lady will be impressed by the way you handled yourself with the rejection and then she may come over to you and start speaking or she will be close to you in order for you to speak to her. However, always play it save - if she's near you. Then again walk away without saying a word. That way you're being safe. Another cool thing is to go out with some of your lady friends as that always makes other ladies look at you. There's a certain mystic involved when women see a guy with ladies around him they become very interested in who he is and what he does. But the golden rule is always be modest and listen to what the lady is saying and reply accordingly. Yes say something to make her smile. But no dirty jokes. And eye contact is king.
Brilliant and authentic advice Courtney. Your vids never fail to educate and inform in a kind way.
When Courtney said "At the end of the day Most women would prefer to be approached by you instead of having to do it themselves" I immediately thought translation, they'd rather do the rejecting than having to worry about being rejected....lol 😆 Maybe I'm just pessimistic but I don't see the rules of the approach changing sadly, I do believe however a big part of "guy has to approach not the woman" is due to the fact that they don't want to be rejected either. Like a job, think about it. Is it easier for 10 companies to be interested in you with you having easy pickings or you going out there on interviews day in, day out hoping you get that job?
But anyway great vid and Happy New Year Courtney.🙂🎇🧨
If, by pessimistic, you mean realistic, then yes but the rule are somewhat different in the "autistic" community.
@@miguelpasamano4995 lol exactly, I mean I am more pessimistic these days with everything going on but I've been binging lots of dating channels including hers and a lot of others believe this to be the case. It's much easier to deal with being approached then doing it yourself for sure. Yeah I know what you mean, I think real autistic people have more smarts than those types.
Naw!!! That's the Truth!
@@UnexpectedWonder Which part the part about dating sucking now more than the past or the part about women deep down are also scared of being rejected so they'd rather do it instead? lol
I've been the rejected and the rejectee and in the first case you just go in prepared for a 'no thanks'. Most people are pretty nice about it and won't make you feel bad over it. If they do, then you've dodged a bullet anyway! Plus, in most cases when you are asking someone out, you'll have spent at least some time around them and will have an idea of whether they are at least friendly towards you. So you're not going in 'cold'.
Watching Courtney and Teddy's channel back to back to start the new year 🙌🏾
1/- be hot.
2/- avoid being unattractive.
3/- be successful (aka, have cash).
body language, social skills, confidence ? won't hurt.
I can tell you RIGHT NOW that being good looking, tall and having money DONE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for me.
@@OffGridInvestor lol good one
@@chrissantos5580 It’s all about confidence, Chris.
Money only atract gold diggers
I hear what you are saying, but I think it has more to do with a man having status, wealth, and power, rather than good looks. Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
All guys are confident we just show it more in other areas. Like I show my confidence by working and building things just because I have a hard time talking to ppl doesn't mean I'm not confident . People need to under stand that about guys
I hear what you are saying, and I am glad that you are confident in your life. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Much respect for being consistent even the day before and first day of New Years!
That’s because she doesn’t have a job or a life.
The only thing that she is consistent about is being a charlatan. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I heard that body language is stronger than what is actually spoken. When a woman seems interested, but nervous too, a posture of interest and encouraging to speak more mixed with confidence, I think Courtney would agree how importance this is and once past this, if a flow of communication occurs, it will be good for the both of you. I have been told by woman I met within an hour or two say they feel like they have known me for a long time and I can't say I even really understand this. I am calm and friendly and will ease into any topic and am easy going, so maybe that has something to do with it.
maybe it's her comfort level.
The key is to be a hybrid of the good man and the bad boy! It works for me.
How tho? Lol
If you have to ask, you ain't doin' it right
The key is to be yourself
@@miguelpasamano4995 you full of shit you ain’t got know answers you can see but you ain’t got no vision
obviously a lier
The definition of a bad boy to every woman is different, so it is hard to generalize. From my observations, it tends to be the guy that alot of girls want. Women love the competition or even the drama of getting the man that all her friends like. Sometimes, she will even try to steal the man from a friend. As long as the guy does his own thing and stays aloof to women in general, women will obsess over him, but I have also seen the baddest of the bad boys get dumped if they show too much interest in certain girls. A woman wants what she can't have or wants to change a man. As long as the man doesn't let her succeed in those two things, he will be craved by alot of women.
@Women's rights was a Mistake So I checked out your channel, I must say, I'm impressed. I had a good laugh, but not in the way you may expect. I wasn't laughing at you, I was more laughing at the state you're in. You cannot attract anything or anyone into your life that you want when your attitude is: why him, why not me? When just the sound of your tone of voice makes a sahara dessert of a woman's nether regions. You must understand that you like the pretty, happy lady, so why wouldn't a woman want you to be looking and feeling good too? Courtney always mentions how you don't have to be the best looking, so do more than nothing about your appearance.
I agree. You’re right. A bad boy is different to every woman. And women will want to fight and compete over a chad and some of us see that as a waste of time and energy. It varies from woman to woman.
Edit: I think CR’s definition of a bad boy is not as accurate to the bad boys I’ve come across! They’re more reckless and immature
I wouldn't care if I got dumped for showing too much interest, or if i seem like a beta boy. I dont want to change how i act for validation
@@Nah-ah Thank-you!
I do agree with you on how so many females love to compete in the area of romance. They are foolish for doing so. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I think we need to define the "bad boy" trope. I live in the south, and what I've noticed with this trope, at least where I live, this trope has a lot of problems. Usually drugs and alcohol. Dealing drugs, doing them, and ultimately being abusive. I've seen it all. I was literally denied a good relationship for an abusive ex. Then came the "hoe phase" rejecting me once more for "Not being emotionally available" and then two weeks later, actually gets a boyfriend. Pissed me right off, and I absolutely bounced. I'm not second fiddle to a false trope nor a lame ass "phase". At the end of the day, I've got my own thing going on, built from the sweat of my brow, and my brow alone.
Nothing to do with the south, you just in the hood damn peckawood.... come to Minnesota and experience Minnesota nice... it wI’ll leave any dirty of the south seem mild.....
I agree with what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
It's absolutely true, and I learned my lesson the hard way when I was a simp. I have also learned you can be good and bad at the same time, all women I mean all women either consciously or subconsciously like bad guys. You have to know how to ignore them from time to time and treat them the way they wanted to be treated, be a jerk. Most women when they look for guys usually based on 2 things. First is the look when she's under 30, she will drive 100 miles to sleep with you if you look like an Armani model. Then money when she is older than 30, she will drive 200 miles to sleep with you if you are rich. Accept these 2 facts, you will never get disappointed in life, and your life will be a lot simpler and happier. Years ago, I read a book called "The Code" after I got heartbroken, one of the best books I have ever read! Society has changed dramatically in the past 20 years, but some of the codes are still working, because human nature doesn't change, chics are still chics.
What author wrote that book? Can you share?
Saturday morning 01 January 2022. These are traits of CONFIDENT men. Thanks for what you do, Courtney. Take care and all the best in 2022.
I think almost every man in the world is unconfident about something in there life but I believe some are better at hiding it than others.
I think that's true
I agree with what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I used to have all of attributes to be in the great Chad, 6'3", athletic, 6 figure salary, talk easily to women, etc, even tried it for a while. My biggest problem is I don't like the drama, hassles or stresses associated with being a Chad. I've had women ask me out and my response was nah, too much of a hassle. I'd rather just do my own thing and don't have the personality for it.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration with having to continually putting on a facade, and dealing with female drama. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Happy New Year Courtney - I eagerly await your excellent TH-cam posts in 2022!
Happy new year to the true bad boys ! Happy new year Courtney !
Happy New Years Courtney! 🍇🥳🎉🎊❤
So much for kindness and respect being considered confident. Just cause someone is not an out front or manly. Doesn't mean we are not confident. Keep up with the struggle nice guys. Don't give up.
I never was a nice guy or a bad boy cause I was to busy learning to be a good man.
@@timhill356 Damn straight!
And think of all the bullets you’re dodging! Quality over quantity. I actually had to convince my wife I WASN’T an A-Hole before she’d go out with me.
Ikr?!
@@no_regerts5176 I feel ya.
Happy New Year Courtney! 🙌🏻
You just described Danny Devito. There wasn't a single comment about what causes AROUSAL. Nothing about about the man's physicality , or the sense of anxiety THAT LEADS TO AROUSAL that a Bad boy creates in a girl that makes her want to have sex upon first meeting. Either because of a complete lack of sense awareness of what triggered your arousal when you did meet those men and it did lead to sex, or you've honestly forgot, or you're unaware that you're talking about what makes a man ATTRACTIVE for long term, AFTER you've already been Aroused by him. Or you're virtue signally.
meanwhile the same girl at the Club: (thinking) " I want to get with that new DJ (status) I've never spoken to, with the great arse, big guns (Physicality), who all the other girls are also drooling over! (Preselection and Competition Anxiety)"
With the above list, I believe I have most of what you, Courtney saw. I still need a little work.on the social skills, since most of the time I am doing stuff by myself. I do not shy away from people. I am just one of those 'Lone wolves'.
Confidence comes from being comfortable with yourself and who you are.
Thank you for all the great advise! Happy I found your channel. Happy new year!
Happy you’re here! 🤍
Be careful, James. DON'T BE TAKEN IN BY HER. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I'm in the early stages of a relationship, and I don't know why but i love watching content like this lol...
This is because Courtney Ryan lures men in with her charm and demeanor. So don't be taken in by her. She (and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Bad boys win for one main reason, they are physically attractive.
Again, it's all about looks. There are very few exceptions. Most average or ugly looking men can't be bad boys, because they don't have the looks to be able to get away with being cheeky or even somewhat aggressive, like many bad boys are. Some bad boys are downright forceful, but their good looks trump everything.
Being independent and non clingy isn't attractive to a woman when the man is ugly or average looking.
Being independent and non clingy only is attractive if the man is attractive physically.
I wish Courtney would just come out and say that her advice is only for men who are an 8/10 in looks.
Confidence rarely works in non physically attractive men. It only works in the end, after the attractive woman has ridden the carousel for many years and decides to settle for the beta male, but he'll have to have a lot of money to make up for the fact that he doesn't look like Chad. Facts with very few exceptions.
You nailed it. Being physically attractive is why bad boys can get away with mistreating women. Women (and men too, to be fair) are willing to overlook a LOT of bad behavior if the person in question is attractive.
@@flyinute Bingo.
I've seen many attractive women end up going home with the bad boy, even after the bad boy annoyed them by pressuring them to stay out with them and so on.
This BS talk of confidence is cringe, especially when coming from a woman who likely only dated and slept with Chads her whole life until settling (For now...) with a beta with money, a good looking beta that is.
All in all, if you're good looking, 95% of the time everyone will forgive you for your sins, because you've got a handsome face and great hair, but if you're average looking or ugly, prepared to be canceled and sued and reported to the police and gossiped about, even if you'd done nothing as bad as what a Chad has done.
Ugly people and average looking people are forgiven much less than good looking people. Good looking people are always given the benefit of the doubt, whereas non good looking people are almost always considered bad or up to no good.
Happy new year lol
well mostly I agree. Bad boys are usually good looking. Dudes with aggressive behavior and bad boy traits but ugly looks are rather these angry, bitter, radicalised incels that spread violence even towards women.
I really don't think women will chase a bad guy if he is short fat and bald. Of course it's about loooks.
EXACTLY. `UGLY bad boys don't cos they are never selected. All this talk of directness or sense of humour or confidence is BS
Love Courtney's advice in general and enjoy her videos. Fellas never chase, although Courtney is describing it as sexy, confident and attractive I believe she is projecting on what she would like men to do which is not the same as what is in their best interest. By all means act on signs of attraction from a woman but chasing comes off as needy and will put you in a certain box in her mind. Instead if you are finding yourself having to chase, look at your own life and start improving yourself. When you are your best version women that you never new existed suddenly come out of the woodwork and pay attention to you.
TLDR Improve yourself, don't chase guys.
I agree with what you are saying, and I much prefer that a women initiate contact rather than leaving men to do all the work. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Happy New Year to you and Teddy. I hope it treats you both well.
Thank you, my friend! Happy new year!
@@CourtneyRyan did teddy hit puberty yet?
Haven't viewed this video of yours but just because of the caption/heading it gets my thumbs up!
Happy New Year, Courtney and all!
Male Game: Being confident, assertive, decisive, unpredictable, and having an abundance mindset.
Female Game: Being submissive, cooperative, loyal, supportive and having a virtuous and wholesome image.
bruh this is so true....escpecially the one of abt women coz as an adult man i love women like this...but alot of women act as if wht u wrote is sexist or smtg
IT IS LIKE ONLY WOMEN NEED TO BE LOYAL , MEN DON'T
@@tisitabarman6633 you are missing the point entirely smh, that's ALL you got from that wall of wisdom?
Women need to be submissive and supportive..... that's all right , but in this era it is so much abandoned in women, sorry for the expectations u have from women
All the while deceiving him and lying through her teeth. Women are far from being virtuous and wholesome. Devious and conniving are more the truth.
Men need to be independent and confident and direct and funny and take all the risks and spend all the money and chase and pursue her.... and none of it works if you’re wearing the wrong shoes!
I give up.
I feel ya Pain.
Oh, I forgot… above all be yourself.
I hear what you are saying, and I agree with your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Happy new year Courtney and hopefully a video with Teaching men fashion in 2022
From personal experience the bad boy package can backfire because some good women assume you're an F-boy
F boys are men that don't actually want a relationship and just want sex. But instead of making that clear and/or just hooking up with women who just want sex via apps, they lead women on and make them think they are actually interested in them. It's not an issue as long as you are open and honest.
And yeah, I would reject any guys that come across that way as I'm only interested in a long term committed relationship instead of a hookup.
And then they’ll call you after 11:00 PM. Ask me how I know
YUP. Been there. Heck I’ve even been rejected only to find out it’s because “I heard you’re sleeping with a bunch of girls” when at the time? I wasn’t sleeping with anyone I don’t think. But because of this womens preconceived notions about me because of how I look and my personality, she just automatically assumed that I was a player or some bullshit.
I agree with what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Stay on your purpose gents and be confident always. Minimal effort is needed at that point.
I agree with what you are saying. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Based on observations in my own environment, there seems to be a correlation between the "bad boy type" or "fake alpha types" and "loose women types". These are not the types to exude an actual interest in relationships and are thus prone to sleeping around and make for horrible partners. So long as they remain this way they tend to showcase themselves as being bad mates male/female. These are generally speaking also the "popular kids" at school or the "jock and cheerleader" archetypes and tend to be rather aggressive in these environments which is why you see them as filling a sort of "alpha role" but this tends to be a false perception, as they don't actually fulfill the responsibilities of an alpha. It's quite fascinating to observe people around you. Now of course I could be completely wrong here and frankly be making an ass of myself, however it is what I have observed over the years and the correlation does seem correct.
I think you are right
I think your observations are correct for the most part. In my opinion "alphas", "machos", and "bad boys" are all a bunch of bozos, and they are a big joke.I agree with what you are saying,
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Simple way to say it is be respectfully brave, read her vibe and be confident about your values
2022 Courtney’s channel is going to make it to 300k to 500k. Calling it now.
Build young Men, Build... for reference, you don't have to be a "Bad boy" to have these traits, but it's important to have them because it's going to be essential to not only getting the woman you want, but keeping her around... it's a process that will take time, So invest that time into yourself to become the Best you can be. Happy New year and Good luck with y'alls Goals/Purpose
at this point in my life i've seen so many strange things that women have been attracted to that it's really no magic wish list that you can tell a guy to follow.
just be around enough women and be at least a little sociable no matter how awkward you are, at some point some women will like what you are.
i've seen the most clumsiest, cringiest, dorkiest guys completely mesmerise women with how "cute" they are when they are fumbling around with their words.
i've seen criminals just standing around women and the women getting all excited about being with them, not because of muscles or any particular attitude, just for the very fact that they are criminals.
i've seen fat people, small people, tall people who all look extremely strange be attractive to women in some shape or form and none of these guys had any game or assertiveness or acted dominant in any way.
it's all about her perspective that you need to be favourable about you for her to like you.
how many times does women not lament every time why they go for bad guys? not necessarily a bad guy but a guy with next to no redeeming qualities.
it's all day every day.
stop trying to figure out women and just shoot your shot, if she likes you she will move the basket so it's unmissable.
You eventually get tired of beautiful girls. Trust me bro they are not that special
@@rodrozil6544 i never really been too much into really beautiful girls, very often they don't do much but just sit and say nothing, there's very little for me to latch onto about them, like how am i suppose to relate to someone who don't share their opinions and doesn't express who they are.
like i'm mostly just indifferent to them, if they say nothing i'm gonna think nothing of them.
also i can't stand girls with too much make up because it's not fun to kiss a face full of make-up.
like if it's not skin or her actual face i'm kissing it's not gonna be that great because lipsticks and foundation doesn't feel nice to kiss.
to me make up is basically a condom on her face, might aswell be the same thing.
@@bobxbaker Yeah, I agree with whatever you said. On my part, I want to say that girls and, women are shallow and superficial at least from my experiences. In my honesty, I have never mer a woman, even from my family of deeper level as me. And worst thing is that women turn men shallow level as them.
@@rodrozil6544 there are some deep thinking women out there but usually they are into some kind of bullshit that's outside of reality so it's hard to find someone grounded but still thinks deeply about things but they do exist, just exceedingly rare and probably someone you wouldn't think about looking at twice.
but yeah, i do think women tend to think more shallow as they perceive themselves to be judged more shallowly and therefore puts emphasis on it, but i think women are capable of thinking deep if they chose to, it's just not as much of a habit maybe.
and it's really not that women make men think more shallowly, it's just if a man have to understand what a woman is thinking he has to understand the perception she has of him.
it's a weird thing.
but i figure women are better with abstract thinking while men are better at conceptual thinking, although the divide is not that deep.
@@rodrozil6544 exactly. Its not about being chosen. Choose the girl,
🌟 Happy new year to Courtney's fans! Go crush your 2022 goals! 🌟
Happy New Year Miss C, best wishes and stay cute and healthy, keep it up!
Much respect to you Courtney especially when you said on your other videos telling us men to delete only fans account.. you have so much values, a humble spirit and so feminine with her speech and act. Those traits are mens weakness.. Happynewyear courtney! And i just wanna say thank you for helping us to know women better and to make ourselves ready to make the actions.
Why would I delete my only fans member account? I like looking at nude women.
@@Filthy_Larry - if you don’t know the answer to that, then clearly you haven’t learned anything from Courtney’s videos
@@Reed___ the only thing I learned is that Courtney is a hypocrite making money off you simps. If it wasn’t for this she too would be on onlyfans.
@@Filthy_Larry - how is she a hypocrite? She’s the most genuine person that I’ve seen on YT who actually gives great dating advice, fashion, grooming, etc.
Nah, Courtney wouldn’t do something like that - she has respect for herself.
Do yourself a favor and go find yourself a lady, instead of paying to see them need on OFs.
@@Reed___ clearly you have very less experience with wimen. That's why you think of them as having high moral standards just by seeing their cute childlike faces and sugary talks. Have some experience mate!
If you put in the time to learn and understand female pleasure it literally changes everything for you
this is truth happy new year courtney
Happy New Year Courtney
"just because you are loud and obnoxious does not mean I am not confident about who I am" - Daft Punk
confidence=the ability to make others belive that you really know what you are talking about
Confidence is a state not an ability. It comes from knowing who you are and what you believe in. Confident people don't have to convince anyone of anything because they don't care what other people think of them. They don't need validation or to be liked or accepted to be ok because they draw their "okayness" from an internal source not an external one
@@ethanhuntakabobturner4285 you totally missed the irony but it's ok ;)
Oh yes haha I see
Great video Courtney, like always ! Excellent advices !
Bad Boy is very relaxed with women because he's constantly flirting with few of them at the same time. He's approaching so many women, he doesn't even have time to call all of them 🤣.
The perfect video to start out the year
I came across something interesting you can look into and make a video about. In the North American continent about 8% of males ate 6ft or taller. About 14.5% of just US males are 6ft or taller. Somehow many women believe there is an over abundance of men over 6ft and they make 150k/yr up to 250k and that each woman in the US thinks there's one around for just them. You've mentioned the 6ft thing being a silly requirement, and trust me, I've been with women taller than me, it is silly, but it does slow down one's desire to cold approach. If you could make a video that will help both men&women simultaneously, for me, i hope it leads to more subs because you should be one of the top major channels in human's overall well being.
Well if a woman has shallow and superficial requirements like must be 6ft tall or more and must make a lot of money then you know she isn't the right one for you. You want the quality women, not women like that. There is a saying "Rejection is God's protection" and it really is true. Now if the woman has mature expectations like the man must be honest and have integrity, have enough money that he's not dependent on anyone, must be secure and confident, must have a personality I find interesting. That's reasonable because men also want those things in a woman too. That's a human thing.
@@brianlittrell797 you got that right. I don't want a woman, I want a lady and there is a difference. Let us be protected from those who would stain (even destroy) the beauty we create
Damn, I'm only 5'10", have a six pack abs and only a 5 figure income. Oh well, we can't all be 6 feet or taller with a 6 figure income now can we. Then again, would you want someone who only want you for your income and what kind of car your drive? Lol!
Every time a woman has asked me how tall i am, I answer straight back ,
"How much do you weigh"?
It usually gets rid of them and also provides me some entertainment.
You make good points, Joseph. Women are unrealistic in their expectations of men. But I think it really has more to do with a man's status, wealth and power rather than looks, or physical attraction. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. In essence, what she, and many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Anyone else just over dating and trying to be "successful" with women? Doesn't seem worth it all specially these days. Rather stay alone and happy than to have to put in so much work with women when you can put that energy into other areas of your life
I hear what you are saying, and I agree. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Spot on Courtney :) Being yourself is the best thing..I have life that women want to be apart of.. My friend Amanda says women want to be on your fun bus because there is no drama.
Beta buxx
I’ve been single for 4 years so being a nice guy ain’t cutting it
Real man doesn't aspire to be a bad boy to win a girl's heart ... Thank you ..... God bless ..
Dorks win the day, all day long.
That's a false narrative I'm afraid where I live anyway in England. You have to be a badboy character to get somewhere with women else it's impossible I'm afraid.
I'm sure this is all what God intensive
Tired of hearing about this fkin bullsh1t
I'm honestly just going to block this channel
Great video! I like how you described the traits/behaviors. This lets guys lnow what they already do well and can look at areas they can work on.
Don't be taken in by her! Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I used to be a nice guy, but i realized putting your self first and be confident more often makes you a better person, its not about being an asshole its about knowing your worth, and knowing that if you are unhappy you can not make anyone else happy. I still a kind person just not a push over.
Bad boys talk. Totally cracks me up. Bad boys may get the girl at first but are terrible at long-term relationships. Yes, terrible.I know this very well due to my profession. Not being nervous or insecure is dating 101. And women do approach first, very often.
I hear what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. And I much prefer having a woman initiate rather than letting men do all the work. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Great video Courtney. Quick question though. I am one of the rare breeds that will go up to anybody and approach and 75% of the time at least get a phone number. I’ve had great luck with it and have never used dating apps. When I tell people I approach them, most girls say what are you crazy that’s creepy and scary etc. They say that you’re a complete stranger, but ironically strangers are also on dating apps and you can easily lie about yourself.
When I tell guys, there like that’s awesome but then some guys in general are afraid to approach and I guess it’s natural to me.
So I guess the question is why do most girls say they want men to approach them, and then when people like me do it they get weirded out? Keep in mind, older woman I have approached never are weirded out and they appreciate it but girls in their 30s and 20s are creeped out by it which of the ones that say they want to be approached more. Very confusing, can you please elaborate on this Courtney. You’re the best ☺️
I generally don't cold approach women. the only time I "approach' women is when I have a reason to approach like for example I'm at a coffee shop and see a woman with a cute puppy and would strike up a conversation and when I feel like the timing is right I'll shoot my shot and ask for her number to go out sometime. other than that I just go to speed dating events (since I live in NYC there's lots of them)
I'm not Courtney but I have a hypothesis about this.
If you look around, it would be easy to say every guy looks average. But with makeup, style, design, the gym, also cool sculpting, cosmetic dentistry, botox, brazilian butt lifts etc. it's actually possible, and even socially desirable, for every girl to raise their attractiveness/smv/points value - although I hate the ten scale and everything associated with it - significantly, even if it sometimes becomes self-destructive (bulimia, anxiety, cutting etc etc) So, there are a lot more objectively attractive girls out there nowadays. Problem is that this means that they get a lot of attention from men, and every girl can tell when they're getting that attention. And associated with this is that every girl is almost expected to be attractive; culturally and through social media, the standard has become a lot higher, no matter what environment a girl finds herself in - with her friends, at work and career, socially, or in the dating scene. But all this attention means that girls often have to keep their guard up and that takes a lot of energy. Because there is no doubt that every girl has been the subject of unwanted attention. It's easy to say, don't wear certain things, don't go out of your way to make yourself attractive or seem approachable, but there are some men out there who'll just glom onto you because you're female and of a certain age, which is pretty gross, no matter how plain you make yourself out to be.
I think 'creepy' is an overused term. That said If you were in a woman's shoes and had to spend so much time in your day keeping your guard up against unwanted attention you'd be bitter too and you'd use any excuse to discourage it. So, women dismiss guys as creepy, who have no ill intentions and are trying as best they can to make the approach which all guys are told women want; they are dismissed by women cuz it's an easy and convenient (and mutually agreed upon by women) way of saying "I don't even have the energy to politely refuse your approach because I've had to have my guard up for hours, and don't even have the energy to consider you as a potential suitor, so I'm just going to think of you as an icky creep because I don't want to think of myself as shallow or rude." And this is understood by most women.
Again just a hypothesis, but I feel like there's some truth to it.
They think you are unattractive. If they thought you were attractive the story would be different
Simple answer on age thing: Older women don't get hit on as often because the key to desirability for men is beauty, and older women get the less beautiful they are. Younger women are more beautiful, has to do with fertility. Therefore, they're hit on more often.
Older women will take what they can get. Younger women have endless options. That's why older women enjoy you. I wouldn't necessarily cold approach a girl that you have nothing in connection with. Like if they go to your school, or work, or are in social group, then yeah. A complete random stranger at the movie theatre, no. You could be good looking and they'll still think you're a creep just because it's rarely done.
If you do go for a random woman, make sure there's at least some reason to. Like if you're eating at a deli and she's there and she has your favorite band t shirt on, then bring it up. Can't be completely just walk up randomly.
Hard truth bud but my guess is you're probably not good looking enough and aiming out of your league. A woman with a high level of physical attraction for a man who has the confidence to approach her will always win if she's available... always 😉
Literally, every point on this list is: "If you're hot, this will work." "If you're ugly, this is harrassment."
Now that hits hard.
A guy that knows what he wants has to keep in mind that u can't negotiate attraction. i can know that i want that girl but if there is no attraction to what she can see or hear at first then it doesnt matter what guy does cuz she not attracted..
Based and blackpilled
I hear what you are saying, but I think it has more to do with a man having status, wealth, and power, rather than good looks. Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Happy new year!🙌🏽💯
The thing is, you can't fake confidence. Be yourself and love yourself, and confidence will exude from you.
No matter what a woman tells you she wants the guy she really wants is that guy she cannot have. Why do you think when you have a girlfriend it's so much easier to get other females?
Agreed. This spiel is a bunch of poppycocm
I agree with what you are saying, women do give off a lot of mixed signals. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Yeah I definitely fall under the category of being confused. When women said they wanted equally and independence I thought that meant socially as well. I thought they would be begin approaching me and paying for my meals, lol.
Nah, they secretly don't want this.
I agree with what you are saying, and I can understand your confusion. Women only seem to want equality when it benefits them. And they want traditionalism when it benefits them. In essence, they want it both ways.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Aight yall check this out:
I had serious issues with women. In HS I was popular, record setting athlete as a point guard and 100m sprinter, heck even a decent student, lead singer in a band and even learned how to teach myself to play some sick guitar. Yet still? Had no success with women. I was very very insecure, but not even in a way that made me feel “sad”. I just assumed that since I had orgscnallly ended up having all of these traits I began to notice were the typical “ladies man” traits, yet no women wanted me? I just assumed that I had a terrible perosnality and was super ugly. And I sort of accepted it easily. But I was so out of touch. I sort of didn’t put it all together. I had forgotten about the times at parties when upper classman pretty girls had tried to sleep with me and I rejected them( out of fear and lack of confidence) early on in HS. I had forgot about the times my friend-girls said things like “dude I was looking at this hot dude across the room..then I realized it was just you!” All of these interactions had happened between me and women that i had forgot about, or didn’t really think deeply about, and didn’t realize what the actual situation was. I thought that since I hadn’t been with any women, Clealty none of them liked me. I forgot that the truth was? Not only had I rejected women who had come onto me, but I had literally not ONCE asked a girl out or even made it clear that I was interested. So uh..DUhHhH, clearly I had this vibe going between being so insecure about my desirability, or sure that I had none combined with making some women assume I must be gay.
I had such a feminine energy. I had been subconsciously waiting for women to approach ME( and when they had, rejected them!) and then whenever a women didn’t approach ME, I let that mean that I Clealty just wasn’t of high value to ANY of them, and so I just became someone who accepted I wasn’t desirebale. I literally created my own issues with women. By the time I was a senior, and at my “peak” in terms of HS years wirh sports and popularity and all of that, all of the girls at school treated me like a gay BF. They all loved to hang around me and shit, but they also sort of talked down to me whenever something about dating or sex came up. It was like they didn’t even see me as a man. So again since I didn’t understand what I had been showing all along, this just cemented to me I had no “value”.
Buuuut then I get to college? Right? Where the girls have no idea who I am, have no opinons formed about me through my HS behavior, and it was the first time I started to get really confused. I had accepted I wasn’t attractive, if I had all of these other things going for me and I still couldn’t get girls in HS rifgt? But then at college it was like from the beginning of first semester, all of these BEAUTIFUL girls( way more beautiful than anyone I knew in HS) were being like extraaaa nice to me lol. My buddies were even like “bro she wants you!” But again, since I was so insecure, I thought they were just being nice? Literally it got to the point where one told me she wanted to have my babies, the other straight up just jumped on me and kissed me, one came and found me and asked me to “walk her home” from the party, and so on and so forth. Had an old friend girl from HS come visit me and she said she was getting Death Stares from some of the college girls the night we went out together. She said they were jealous and didn’t want her to be with me. Dudes…all of this should have helped me see clearly, but no. I still didn’t take advantage of any of this. It did make me wonder a bit more if maybe I did have a chance wirh some of these women? But I was still too self loathing in my core to do anything. Wanna know how I finally lost my official V card? A girl got ME almost blackout drunk and jumped me in my car lol. It was like she was the first one to just be like “ok this dude is such a pussy im just going to force myself on him, clearly the obvious flirting doesn’t work”. Even after that I still had no confidence. I swear looking back I don’t know how I had all of these experiences and Still lacked any confidence wirh women..but I think it was just becuse my internal makeup was SO much more that of an insecure woman than a confident man. It was like no matter what experience I had already had, the next day I always needed more external validation or else I had no belief in myself or that anyone would want myself.
Eventually I became so depressed. I really really liked girls. I knew I wasn’t close to gay. Heck I even wanted to be gay some days, because gay men had no issue approaching ME and that made it easier on a soft ass like myself. But anyways I end up stumbling into opiate pills that some friends had been using. It was a crazy experience. It was like they just took away all of the fear. All of the constant second guessing in my own mind. My conscience. Gone. All that existed was me and my desires. All of a sudden I started to act like the way all of my guy friends always acted. They just went after it. They were sort of selfish sometimes. Sort of rude. Made passes at girls all of the time, got rejected, sometimes didn’t get rejected. They didn’t care. And this new drug I had found made me just like that, maybe even more extreme! And guess what? I slept with more women than I had ever, ever, ever come close to before. Sometimes two in one day. And I was a drug addict prick. I remember as I was going through it I always was sort of studying it. I thought it was so weird and intersting. Like it got to the point where I had a rep for using drugs…so some of these girls they would like literally know and think I was a bad guy who was using drugs…but then they’d sleep with me??? Like wtF right? Lol. I remember my friends who really cared about me would say that they miss the old me. That I wasn’t being myself. That I was better before, I was such a good guy. But from my point of view? Not only could I get away with being a selfish prick, but it seeemed to actuallt get me more what I wanted? It was like if I was “nice” than that’s what gave my friends what they wanted. If I was a dick? It got me what I wanted. So effed up.
I ended up cleaning myslef up. But I always tell anyone interested how what I experienced was that I had to literally become a drug addict to truly be more like the typical “guy”. Isn’t that so wild? I’m naturally SO empathetic and friendly and happy and even super intuitive, all qualities that I’ve learned to really cherish! But it turns out the the oppsite of those qualities worked out best for me romantically. Since I cleaned up I did continue to date women. I def had gained a bit of confidence through it all. I had come to seee that I was attractive to some women and I should be confident about that, and that allwoed me to approach them and shit. But what I have to deal with now is a weird type of rejection. Like I’ve had girls multiple times go from saying how in love they are with me to ghosting me, only to tell me later on when they come back that it’s becusdr they were terrified I would leave them, because they didn’t trust me, or because they thought i was “too good” for them. Like they sort of thought I could do better. Even they MY choice was to be with THEM. Shit is crazy. Ever since my drug days I haven’t been close to a player or anything like it, but just becusde of how I look I def get girls who just assume that I’m off limits cuz they can’t trust someone who looks like me. I’m not some super tall guy with a chiseled body, but I guess I have a really nice face? I don’t like it that much lol, but that’s what they say. So I guess I just wanted to share allll of this story because it seems like a lot of people think that any guy who has the physical desires that women wants locked down, makes dating easy? I’m not saying that isn’t true, but I am saying that sometimes even if you look good, if you’re disposition is swung too far on the feminine side, it might not even matter if you look good. And also, sometimes even if you are the exact opposite of a player, women might just assume that you are and therefore they’ll reject you to protect themselves.
The distinction between "Bad Boy" and "Bad Man" is quite interesting and telling.
I agree with what you are saying and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I think there's a huge disconnect with what women perceive as a bad boy vs what a bad boy truly is
There is, what she describe here is really a strong and masculine male that is progressing with their purpose in life and not allowing disruptive people to distract them from that purpose. TRUE bad boys are low life criminals that don't have a purpose and thus resort to crime.
@@smithrr6 and those criminals have women on the outside fighting for the conjugal visits. 🤔
Absolutely!
@@smithrr6 For the most part, yes.
@@tlewis84able Indeed.
Just be yourself, it's very simple.
I just discovered this channel. Very good advice, it has helped explain a lot.
No it didn't
Love your videos I learn a lot thanks for your relationship wisdom
Don't be taken in by her! Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I wish all men a year filled with close relationships, platonic and romantic love.
Right on!
I got money to spend on strippers.
@@Filthy_Larry Ok. And???
@@UnexpectedWonder you got a problem?
@@Filthy_Larry No...Just why announce that? 🤨🤨
Young men you don't have to be a bad boy. Be your authentic self and raise your self respect it will make you a masculine man in which females love
That won't do a bit of good without a bunch of cash laying around, lol
The key to women is not caring at all about what they think about you. men should focus on themselves and maybe a woman will come along the way, but they shouldn’t waste their time on how to pursue women cause women don’t even know what they want
@@totorosdad7965 best comment I read on this thread
I agree with what you are saying, and I agree for the most part. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Early 20s had a bad break up with a cheater and narcissist. I am about as strong of a male type as it comes, but this girl damaged me for about 1.5 years. I guess this was my "bad boy phase". Ran through women, didn't care and just did what i would need to do to get women and live my life however I wanted. I wasn't abusive or verbally manipulating, I basically just didn't care. Would literally sometimes go up to a group of women and just chat them up until i figured out which ones of the group I could play off each other to get a ONS or fling out it. It was garbage way to live and luckily had a buddy of mine and an eventual woman who i had a great relationship with for several years snap me out of it. I still utilize these traits when it comes to dating now that she describes in the video, but when i was in my "bad boy phase.", i was a complete scumbag and would just jump from woman to woman. Now i am much more selective about who I actually want to pursue a possible relationship with.
Excellent job at solving this one. This one has mystified and confounded men since they experienced high school. Can we make this video definitive on the subject? K thx!
The thin line between confidence and arrogance is how good looking you are. If you're ugly, chances are high that you will be seen as arrogant cause you should know she is out of your league before approaching her.
I hear what you are saying, but I think it has more to do with a man having status, wealth, and power, rather than good looks. Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Courtney knows her audience.This will get 80k views while her super insightful how to pull of a tweed jacket will get 10k views
It’s sad how desperate people on the tube are for female insight. I watched her initially because I think her taste in shoes is fucking stellar, but toilet paper is getting expensive so I don’t blame her.
@@oneRyanJoseph What is sad is not that Courtney or anyone else puts out content like this, it's that the same content has been around for literally decades but people still soak it up like crack. Fathers not educating their kids to be men or just unhappy people who keep seeking validation.
@@celticc9580 Same thing with 30-06 vs 270 and 9mm vs 45 articles.
The REAL reason women like bad boys:
1)the don't give a f about her. She wants them more than they want her.
2)they don't hold women in high moral standards. Which serves the unrepentant nature of women.
3)they are more assertive.
People who watch Courtney’s videos are pathetic lmao.
Happy newyear!! 🎆🎇
You make wonderful videos. You have great knowledge and insight. I do have one question?
When I took my fiance on business and I had a black tie event. She always said I was going to leave her. I was confident I was very successful with my own business. When we got married everything changed she told me who I could see and associated with . Why ? I got divorced and she refuse to see a marriage counselor.
If a woman wants you she'll approach you and ask you out or for your number. It's not really worth approaching a women because you may just be making them feel obligated to go out with you, and there's more chance she'll try to escape from you... Let them come to you.
AMEN, BROTHER. I also prefer that women initiate. That way the communication is clear, and there is no chance of being accused of sexual harassment. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I don't think these attributes are necessarily tied to bad boys, just something that more extroverted men use. Women will only seek the thrill of a bad boy when they're young and dating. Once they reach the age where they want to settle down and for the guy to stick around for their children, that phase wanes. If a girl is still chasing bad boys in her 40s, chances are, she'll end up as a childless cat lady.
Indeed.
I hear what you are saying, BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. Courtney Ryan ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Courtney is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
This just happened to me with someone I worked with during Covid. The place we work is conservative/church compared to hanging out at Cafe Stella in Silver Lake. So I told her I was going to make mushroom soup. We talked about Hans Zimmer. She would literally not return texts etc. Turns out she is hooking up a married guy with three kids. I'm sure there talking about Hans Zimmer. This happens all the time Courtney.
That "no" at 6:20 is too sweet 😁