How To Help An Alcoholic Friend or Partner Who Doesn't Want Help with Peter Sage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 มิ.ย. 2024
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On this Podcast, we go inside #addiction to discuss #whyweusedrugs and #helppeopleinsaddiction
Peter Sage gives us his take on addiction and gives us ways to help alcoholic friends, partners or loved one who doesn't want help.
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Chapters:
00:00 - 00:14 Introduction
00:14 - 00:43 Welcome Peter Sage
00:43 - 02:49 Defining and Understanding Addiction
02:49 - 04:01 Needs and Secondary Gains in Addiction
04:01 - 05:43 Identity and Addiction
05:43 - 08:04 Family and Enabling
08:04 - 09:37 Emotional Shifts and Motivation
09:37 - 12:43 Consciousness and Practical Psychology
12:43 - 15:09 Family Dynamics and Enabling
15:09 - 18:33 Removing Blocks to Highs
18:33 - 21:13 Accepting Responsibility and Growth
21:13 - 23:12 Observing Thoughts and Meditation
23:12 - 27:09 Shifting Identity and Consciousness
27:09 - 33:06 Changing Environment and Peer Group
33:06 - End Connection to Something Bigger and Closing Remarks
This is gold! Thanks❤
Glad you like it!
Amazing video guys. 👍🏽🙏🏽
Very good and quite accurate!
its a great interview, thanks for making it.
What Peter says rings true on so many levels...it hurts to hear him speak out the hard truth,but ik he's right and everyone who is trying to help someone needs to be mentally prepared for failure and protect themselved from the consequences...like he says "if you want more for someone else than they want for themselves, you're wasting your time."
And like he says, your environment is a big part of what you become, and changing someone's peer group is damn difficult/impossible unless they want to do it themselves...
Ok I have one conflicting thought. You say you become who your surrounding yourself with.....then why don't I have a drinking problem after being with an alcoholic for 9yrs?
often that happens because you learnt different coping mechanisms from your parents
So we have to literally take on a new possitive habit. Recondition the brain...! 😁👍🏽
I cannot tell u how tired I am of hearing talk after talk after talk supposedly about alcoholism and drug addiction, and who gets BLAMED? Their loved ones. Family, friends, etc. in what other situation is “Caring for someone” considered the Problem? Isn’t addiction an illness? That’s what the Big Book SAYS! But do you blame the spouse, parents, etc , when u get arthritis, cancer, Fibromyalgia? Huh? Right?
It’s mental illness so it’s different. Not letting the addict feel the consequences of their own actions keeps them in their denial and delusion that everything is okay
Thanks.
I hear what you are saying and thank you for leaving a comment.
I agree with you that it is unfair to blame everything in the addict's life onto their loved ones. In reality that is not the case and that point of view does not help anyone.
Regarding the "Big Book" - there are many "Big Books" about addiction and its causes and the whole approach to addiction will vary based on which book you resonate with. For some it's illness, for some it's weakness, for us it's a trauma response and a response to an emotional dysregulation.
Our families and loved ones do play a role in one's addiction whether we like it or not. They also play role in one's recovery. However, it is not their sole responsibility to make that addict recover. But it should be their responsibility to recognise how they contribute to the cycle (which is what Peter mentioned in the video), to set up healthy boundaries with the addict and to maintain a healthy self-care for themselves.
Who is Lisa? Lol
Lisa was Luke’s mum (our founder) who died because of alcohol and drugs when he was 10 years old