The Real Cause of Procrastination Explained
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ม.ค. 2025
- In order to overcome procrastination (or the passive putting off of important work even though you know it’s hurting your life) we need to understand why it happens. If you understand this, I promise that you’re about 90% there in terms of overcoming it. The other 10% is just a little tweaking and implementing of practical techniques.
So, here’s the first big piece of information I’m going to give you. The reason we procrastinate is because we have low self-esteem. I want you to remember this. It really is fundamentally important to keep in mind. Now, this low self-esteem is a problem because it leads to all sorts of dysfunctional behaviour, designed to further reinforce feelings of worthlessness and inferiority. And procrastination is simply one of the ways this is achieved. The real problem is that there’s so much bad advice out there in terms of what to do about the underlying low self-esteem. Very few people understand how it originates and how it is perpetuated. You may even be thinking that it’s practically impossible to fix it. I assure you it is entirely possible to fix it. When we do, the issue with procrastination becomes very easily understood and solved.
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Dr. David Maloney is a Psychologist and therapist. His has trained in a variety of techniques (person-centered, Gestalt, ACIM, psychodynamic) and works with people on a wide variety of issues. His main areas of expertise are in self-esteem, motivation, and relationships.
Thanks for watching. If you're short on time, skip to the 22:00 minute mark where the underlying cause is outlined. The earlier parts of the video talk about things to avoid when overcoming procrastination. If you found the video helpful, please leave a like and subscribe. Thanks, David
i consider myself one of the lucky few people who have watched this video. very enlightening and illuminating.
You are so welcome 🙏
I cannot thank you enough for your channel. I've just signed up for your membership and can't wait to do the Procrastination course. I have been paralyzed and suffering from this beast of procrastination and experiencing the horrible feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. A terrible spiral. And the worse it gets the more i punish myself by depriving myself of time for fun and rest. Thank you, thank you for offering this work to the world.
Thank you so much Diane. You are very welcome 🙏
This video just blew my mind. I have been sitting for more than 20 minutes after watching it, as I am mentally digesting what I already knew very deep inside of me.
Other videos I have seen have been eye opening, but yours has been eye, mind and heart opening...so much that I am in awe at how peaceful I feel now by just understanding the real underlying cause.
So many things make sense about my life now. I am so glad an algorithm took me here, ironically while procrastinating, in search for a reason for my persistent procrastination.
Thank you!!
Thank you for the great feedback. Delighted this video spoke to you. Keep working on the mindset shift and great things will happen!
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I noticed lately when I'm wasting time procrastinating, it's not like I even want to do the things that I'm doing.
100%. Its that little guilt voice that seems to taint it. We also stay in these things longer than we typically would when in avoidance mode. You're not alone my friend. Don't beat yourself up for this.
its amazing how after decades of using will power and hard work, this all eventually fails,.. eventually u feel hopeless and like life isnt worth living.... u feel numb and like u just want to get drunk on the couch... lol.. eventually u feel so exhausted, u cant do anything.. its amazing how ur mind can make ur body feel extremely exhausted, like ur dying...like each cell has a heavy weight on it... like each limb is so heavy....ur blood feels heavy... ur bones feel heavy.... everything is heavy... each step is a struggle ... like u have a 200 lbs on ur back
Yes, will power is typically not a sustainable long term solution I feel. Balance and compassion are very often overlooked in our conditioning. It leads to an exhaustion or psychological weariness.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy couldn't agree more
Very well-expressed; couldn't have put it better myself. I can relate to everything you said
I'm there now
I wish I came to this before. Unfortunately self-declared masters of productivity and time management are somehow more popular and famous than the professionals with degrees in the field ,who can actually help us become better individuals.
What I have learned from this video is that the underlying cause of procrastination is guilt,fear and old limiting beliefs that form themselves to due to procrastination,paradoxically.
Yes. 💯
...i have lost years and years in my way of procrastination,
...i am 51 , now...and unfortunately, havent yet overcome it by now,...praying for breakthrough...🌹❤️🙏🏻...
Hope you found something insightful here my friend. I've been there too.
I wasn’t always a procrastinator with a certain skillset that I achieved but once I quit drinking I lost the desire…what the hell is that all about? Now I’ve committed to a project and I’ve turned into a major procrastinator…Ill learn what I can from you and TH-cam..your information is giving me some hope and insights I had not considered so far…Thank You Dr…🧐
Glad to hear this. Hope the videos help you understand the issue a little more.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Thank You Dr..people really need your book…I really appreciate the comment back to me! 😁
Thanks for this. It really hit hard. A true revelation.
Most welcome!
This was really insightful and I think will help me immeasurably. Procrastination blights my life I’ve always known from past trauma that I had low self esteem but never saw the correlation between the two before. I absolutely crucify myself with guilt and berate myself for being a failure for not doing stuff I know I can do but just can’t at times. Can you do a video on techniques to overcome low self esteem and negative self talk? Anyway just wanted to say thank you, this was an excellent video.
Having said that, I've never heard such a lucid and exact discourse on why I procrastinate. Bravo!
Amazingly simple and massively empowering video. THANK YOU!
You're so welcome!
Dear Dr Maloney, thank you for this great video! This is the most in depth information I have come across so far! Thank you so much for this one❤️ Kindest regards, Julia
You're very welcome Julia!
It leads me to a feeling of loser, failure and trapped, so my basic self identity. So procrastination promotes my self image.
Yes, I think procrastination reinforces this self-perception. When we learn to stop it, we then go back to the root to address the misperception 🙏
This youtuber is so underrated
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He so is!! I'm so thankful I came across his channel so I've subscribed
This video is so eye-opening. Thanks!
You're so welcome!
literally cry , thank you so much for such a brightfull explanation
Very welcome indeed!
A consequence of procrastination (guilt) is not the same as a payoff.
Guilt, which is self blame, is a desparate way of trying to motivate someone to take action.
Very good explanations with a very nice drawing! I love it 💡
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Thanks so much 🙏
What the fuck this is crazy... 🤯
This is truly mind blowing.
Rarely does a TH-cam video leave me speechless, but this one of them.
Especially the point about the guilt. That's crazy.
Glad this helped 🙏
I agree totally. He is so educational with his videos
Very cool. Thank you
Thank you Hamoun 👍
Hi David,
Thanks for your analysis; a lot to work on. Are your familiar with Badre`s "On Task"? Great book; but, funny thing, if you search the pdf file, you'll see that the words procrastinate/procrastination are not used once. Neurologically, the PFC (his acronym) is responsible for initiating and sustaining action. It's malfunction is the reason for self destructive behavior and though you won't find the word, procrastination. Would love to get your take on this.
That hit home so hard. Great video!
Thank you 🙏
Well done! Very helpful! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
amazing explaination
Thanks so much 🙏
I have been procrastinating whole week and i dont know what the reason is
I have studies those topics before but when now i want to study because its my exams i cant even read a word
Its really is stressing me out because even if I have studies the whole year
If i dont study now it will all be a waste
I am frustrated with my self, i dont even like waking up and bringing my self to just read even a line. What am i supposed to do
Great video! Could be shorter for better impact. Thanks!
Well Explained!
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How 40 hours a month converts to 55 days in a year? 40 * 12 = 480 Hours / 24 = 20 days
thank you so much dr. you just open my eyes. i am really great-ful. love from Nepal. someone mention your channel on insta reel. i found and your video. it was really helpful
So nice of you. If you remember where you saw my video, do share. I'd like to thanks them 🙏
Thank you for this.
My pleasure!
Hey, loved It. But I got a question How to do It If you dont wanna do it
Great breakdown , thank you !
Glad it was helpful!
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I’ve live that wheel since I was a kid (46 now). What helped you break it ?
Amazing video🎉
Thanks so much!
Thank you so much.
Can you help with the problem of not being consistent
Thanks for digging deeply into the root causes, I'm a typical procrastinator, I'm absolutely investing in your course, however, do you offer any discount coupons? not to underestimate the value, but due to my circumstance.
Hi Hosamo. Contact me through the site and I'll help with this.
23:24 What do we get from procrastination
So,in esence (i rebel aginst myself just to show them that what they did and said to me when i was little was bad,and this is how i "pay " them back?🤔in a way we turn against ourselves...
Nicely put. It's a sort of misguided attempt to express ourselves, when the people we want to communicate with are no longer in the picture, so to speak.
I have high self-esteem due to academic and work achievements but I'm a chronic procrastination since childhood. So, I don't understand your hypothesis.
Hi Dr, please fix your audio in all of your videos. You have best advise but hard to hear you.
Thank you
man i wanna hug you so bad.
I have to confess I feel the same. He's really dug deep down into the subject and shown insights into it in a way that appears absent in other videos.
This is perhaps random, but is your MBTI type INFP?
You spelled disappointment wrong. I guess we’ll just see how long it takes you to fix it. It’s already been 3 years.
That's very dissapointing 🤣
It seems to me that you procrastinate getting to the point.
Sad comment
Basically a 25 minute intro…
Halfway in and he didn’t really say much…
Thank you for this beautifully calm and genuinely insightful video.
You are so welcome!