1) insecurity issues from the past projecting it onto your current relationship without probable cause 2) a "Yes" woman. you agreeing with everything the man says and not giving your own personal prospective. Tell him your opinion respectively. 3) emasculate the man - breaking/tearing him down especially in public. Don't make him feel less than a man. It hurts him. 4) don't out man him. Keep your sweet/feminine behavior demeanor. Be a Queen not the King 5) hitting/threaten your man ..... Wow! didn't know hitting was going on? 6) criticizing the things that he cannot control and things he is trying to do for you. It makes him feel that he is not enough. 7) criticize the Mother of his child(ren) especially in front of the children. 8) Don't speak about the things that your ex to your new man. This is a new relationship 9) don't try to change a man. It's not your job. A man is not going to change. He is not a project. Men do not want to be change. Don't save, change a man
I was looking for #10. And the only thing I found was when Sealz said " Don't try to chase or change a man..." I think that 9 and 10 are together. Based on my observation. SHALOM.
I know in my case, I never intentionally emasculated my man. It was never my intent. My parents marriage was World War 111. I'm serious. I had to unlearn everything I grew up with. We have to see our partners hearts. Its a process.
If you are a woman and the man cannot provide for you they way you want to be provided for and he is giving his best . Accept it and be grateful and find a way to get your needs met without disrespecting him. It is cruel . Get a job or a something or if at a dating stage find another man. Don’t spoil someone’s life
#2..... some men can't handle a woman with her own mind. They think you're being difficult or combative. Even when I say agree to disagree they want to keep arguing. I hate to argue. I do get rid of those men. However, there are men who want women to just go along to get along.
Agreed. I met a guy in a group setting and he said to one of his friends... Does she seem "agreeable" to you? The other guy laughed and said, no. I asked what they meant by "agreeable." They said, someone who will just go along with the flow without asking a lot of questions. I said, if I trust the man I'm with it would be second nature to trust his decision making. However, it doesn't mean I may not ask questions lol. Men and women balance each other. There may be something he hasn't thought about that could enhance the experience for both of us.
'Some' men??? Nah... MOST MEN. Lol 😆 😆 Alot of men, will see ANY opposition to his 'word', as her being mean, aggressive. Regardless, how soft and sweetly she says it. Esplly blk wmn. Wht wmn, no.. theyll (blk men) will roll over like a puppy, and beg for his belly to be rubbed. If blk wmn disagrees with him, most blk men will go : see, typical aggressive angry blk wmn. smh... Most blk men dont appreciate a wmn having her own mind. Which makes them undateable.
Sometimes I ask myself am I the only one who enjoys been single?ladies please stop doing this to your self acting as though u will never breathe again if u are not in a relationship with a man?dam what have to be will definately be don't force love it doesn't work ,relax take time love yourself first and see how comforting and conferrable life can be and most importantly seek GOD 🙏 first blessed night everyone
From Philly - so accurate about emasculation and out toughing men/trying to be the relationship leader. It’s such a turnoff even for me to see as a woman
Awesome advice regarding healthy relationships..However I didn't hear anything about The Most High Yah..I've learned prayer changes all things..The kicker here is WE need to kno who The Most High is together .It jus keeps Love real yet Spiritual. It takes a certain amount of maturity to maintain
Exes shouldn't even be brought up, period. Ugh, the thought of that being mentioned by a woman to her man or vice versa. Plus "build a bear" mentality can backfire & 🔥🚒, glad I came across your channel, have subscribed in prep for me deciding am readying myself to start dating again
That's wild that ud bring that up...cuz I think my "husband" came across one of my old journals/diaries...n because I like to write down my thoughts I was having a personal venting session...n I wrote down good qualities from my past experiences only because most of the time I have no problem with demonizing ex companions...n well in my growth stage I decided I didn't want to b the bitter woman that made monsters out of my exes so I wrote down the good characteristics of each relationship that made a major impact on my life n I think the love of my life thought that I was comparing him to them ..n that was totally NOT the case..I was simply...listing the good qualities each of them had so that I wouldn't paint a negative narrative of anyone from my past being awful ppl..yet understanding that the man I have now is everything I could ever wish for ...because he inspires me to b my best self while still loving me at my worst..he is amazing n I wouldn't trade him for all the rubies n diamonds in the world...I'm completely happy with him just as he is..cuz he is truly my blessing from God..I hope he never feels as tho there is is a secret competition with him n no other man on this planet..cuz they could never take his place in my heart..he is everything to me on even his worst days!!♎️🦇🤴🏿💪💯🙏🥰😘👑
You are awesome. I thank God that I’ve learned and I appreciate you sharing because some people still need to learn. You will get no argument from me. We have to respect as women it is coming from a man which is the best knowledge. I appreciate you brother may your channel grow expeditiously. Abundance. God bless 🙏🏾😍🎖️
What came to my mind with this is Eddie Murphys character in "Coming to America" he wanted a woman that stimulated his mind and had her own thoughts and opinion and challenged him.
I think sometimes i can come off as "out manning", but its not really like that for me, either its in good fun like being a little competative, or just that im a little bit of a tomboy and im proud of the skills ive developed, like for instance ive built houses and i love building, but when i tell a man that they seem to feel intimidated, or ive seen it when men try to dismiss me and treat me like im not capable, and thats just disrespectful. All in all i think a healthy, stong, and secure man would love a strong healthy woman and encourage her skills and strengths no matter if they are a not necessarily the norm.
This is me, too. I love tools, I am handy and I enjoy it. I have learned to be that way and enjoy doing those things without making my man feel like I can do it better than him. Luckily, I found the man who loves that I can help renovate the kitchen, and then decorate it to make it a home.
Exactly. I own a home, love tools, fixing, and building things, and take pride in my web development career. If a man is too insecure to encourage or at least accept those things about me, I’m not for him.
He says things that sound correct and on the mark, but I feel (on some points) his delivery sounds a little harsh too. For example, some of the facial expressions he makes, like when pointing out women's mishaps or flaws -- to me, it just comes across sounding kind of harsh and a bit arrogant. As a first - time listener, this is what I'm picking up.
@c.p.8798 I don't get that at all from him. But with that generalized statement, of course it overlooked a lot of facets of people's unique personalities that aren't specified, and dont fit into this category. And you just can't cover everything when speaking in general terms. I just wanted to point out that women shouldn't be presumed as trying to out man a man just because they enjoy more generally masculine activities. But I think a secure healthy man isn't going to feel bad about himself if a woman enjoys building, or sports, or camping/ hunting etc etc...
Your last point, I struggle with, sometimes I feel like I'm helping, but then I feel that my help turns into "well you always do it, so I figured you would ", So then I feel used. But I'm am I helping or taking away something you should be doing for yourself???????
I love being called his queen…. L-O-V-E being his queen: called queen, treated like his queen, cherished like his queen! but only can rightfully be her becuz HE is my KING and I honor and respect him with this sweet mindset… not just in public places, BUT in privacy between us only behind closed doors. That’s the most important place: that I love and cherish him every moment, every second of our life. Forever! Thank you so much, I so enjoy your channel: you’re a breath of fresh air and will help me learn how to be the best wife for myLove. Love ‘n blessings to you. 🔥🔥✨🤴🏻👸🏻✨😇🙏🏼✨🔥🔥
I dated a man with kis. The kids always complaind about their mother. I told them that is their mother you always love her but, you font have to approve of what she does.😊
This video offers some insightful tips on how to avoid common mistakes that can negatively impact your relationship with your man. From being too critical to neglecting to show appreciation, these mistakes can slowly erode the connection between two people who love each other. It's important to be aware of these mistakes and actively work to avoid them. The tips in this video are practical and easy to implement, and can make a big difference in the quality of your relationship. Whether you're currently in a relationship or looking for one, this video is definitely worth a watch!
what happens if you love someone, and you know they are broken. Do you stand beside them and raise them up to your level with love patients and commitment. you don't talk about the women that break a man and bring them to their knees.
Ma'am pls leave. You CANNOT out love his trauma especially when he refuses to acknowledge it. I tried & it cost me big time. Give him to God & focus on yourself. If it's meant to be it will
When you're talkin about a man's baby mother in your video and how any conversation about a man's baby mother can be dicey..... My question would be ..how can a girlfriend go about having a conversation about her without saying something the wrong way? I'm currently in a relationship and he has already gave his opinion on my baby's father in not the nicest way(but i agree with what he said though) and boyfriend said he thought i still had feelings for the guy ...i have no feelings for my daughter's father . I have felt like he wasn't honest about some things he's said about his baby mother and a comment he made that he wouldn't have had me over when his baby mother came over for their childs birthday if he was still sleeping with her......is that a red 🚩 ?? Has he cheated on women in the past and has he cheated on me?!
My mom taught a couple of other family members, to never bad mouth parents in front of the kids because you're building a negative influence for your kids
I guess these are all good ideas.....if you are in a healthy relationship. As long as i feel respected, it will be easier for me to respect you. (And i would assume vice-versa) everybody LOVES 'feminine energy' until they have to put the work in to foster it. If i cant trust you to provide physically, emotionally, spiritually, then my needs are not being met. And if i have to display 'masculine energy' to meet those needs...welp, be mad i guess. Ill even go a step further. Everybody has their way of doing things, but if your way is CLEARLY not correct/efficient and you wont take my advice bc your the 'man' and you have to handle everything...thats not good. And it doesnt make me want to respect you. And if it happens enough, or concerning something vital, im gonna need to step in. It would be better if we could work together.
If you have a fice and childrens please I don't want you 2 I don't know about you and your job then how I will criticise about you Father all whatever you had you ask me each person about your careter your friends of your group said
1) insecurity issues from the past projecting it onto your current relationship without probable cause
2) a "Yes" woman. you agreeing with everything the man says and not giving your own personal prospective. Tell him your opinion respectively.
3) emasculate the man - breaking/tearing him down especially in public. Don't make him feel less than a man. It hurts him.
4) don't out man him. Keep your sweet/feminine behavior demeanor. Be a Queen not the King
5) hitting/threaten your man ..... Wow! didn't know hitting was going on?
6) criticizing the things that he cannot control and things he is trying to do for you. It makes him feel that he is not enough.
7) criticize the Mother of his child(ren) especially in front of the children.
8) Don't speak about the things that your ex to your new man. This is a new relationship
9) don't try to change a man. It's not your job. A man is not going to change. He is not a project. Men do not want to be change. Don't save, change a man
Where’s number 10?
I was looking for #10. And the only thing I found was when Sealz said " Don't try to chase or change a man..." I think that 9 and 10 are together. Based on my observation. SHALOM.
Maybe I'm old school, but i take pride in "masculating" my man every chance I get and he appreciates it. ❤✌️🌻
To hear a man speak this way is so healing.
EXACTLY, i do NOT chase and i do NOT attempt to change!!!!!! THANK YOU, BROTHER!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
I know in my case, I never intentionally emasculated my man. It was never my intent. My parents marriage was World War 111. I'm serious. I had to unlearn everything I grew up with. We have to see our partners hearts. Its a process.
If you are a woman and the man cannot provide for you they way you want to be provided for and he is giving his best . Accept it and be grateful and find a way to get your needs met without disrespecting him. It is cruel . Get a job or a something or if at a dating stage find another man. Don’t spoil someone’s life
#2..... some men can't handle a woman with her own mind. They think you're being difficult or combative. Even when I say agree to disagree they want to keep arguing. I hate to argue. I do get rid of those men. However, there are men who want women to just go along to get along.
Agreed. I met a guy in a group setting and he said to one of his friends... Does she seem "agreeable" to you? The other guy laughed and said, no.
I asked what they meant by "agreeable." They said, someone who will just go along with the flow without asking a lot of questions.
I said, if I trust the man I'm with it would be second nature to trust his decision making. However, it doesn't mean I may not ask questions lol. Men and women balance each other. There may be something he hasn't thought about that could enhance the experience for both of us.
You're absolutely right. They have to "own* you. They are seriously INSECURE! AND WOLL GO THERE IF THEY FEEL JUSTIFIED!
'Some' men???
Nah... MOST MEN. Lol 😆 😆
Alot of men, will see ANY opposition to his 'word', as her being mean, aggressive. Regardless, how soft and sweetly she says it. Esplly blk wmn. Wht wmn, no.. theyll (blk men) will roll over like a puppy, and beg for his belly to be rubbed. If blk wmn disagrees with him, most blk men will go : see, typical aggressive angry blk wmn.
smh...
Most blk men dont appreciate a wmn having her own mind. Which makes them undateable.
Yeah and this social media induced "virus" I call it of women being called "masculine", so sick of hearing this, right ?
It really depends on your tone and how things are conveyed. The Bible says "speak the truth in love". Also, gentleness is a plus.
Sometimes I ask myself am I the only one who enjoys been single?ladies please stop doing this to your self acting as though u will never breathe again if u are not in a relationship with a man?dam what have to be will definately be don't force love it doesn't work ,relax take time love yourself first and see how comforting and conferrable life can be and most importantly seek GOD 🙏 first blessed night everyone
Daring is so hard and complicated sometimes its better just being single and at peace
Dating
Thank you Sealz
I will never get tired of your teaching,
More WISDOM from Above
Peace and Divine blessings 😂😂😅👍💯
From Philly - so accurate about emasculation and out toughing men/trying to be the relationship leader. It’s such a turnoff even for me to see as a woman
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾❤️ i definitely dont change my man because i believe God will and he can 👍🏾👍🏾
Awesome advice regarding healthy relationships..However I didn't hear anything about The Most High Yah..I've learned prayer changes all things..The kicker here is WE need to kno who The Most High is together .It jus keeps Love real yet Spiritual. It takes a certain amount of maturity to maintain
You speak so eloquently. Your Nieces are lucky that you are passing on your views 😊
Exes shouldn't even be brought up, period. Ugh, the thought of that being mentioned by a woman to her man or vice versa. Plus "build a bear" mentality can backfire & 🔥🚒, glad I came across your channel, have subscribed in prep for me deciding am readying myself to start dating again
That's wild that ud bring that up...cuz I think my "husband" came across one of my old journals/diaries...n because I like to write down my thoughts I was having a personal venting session...n I wrote down good qualities from my past experiences only because most of the time I have no problem with demonizing ex companions...n well in my growth stage I decided I didn't want to b the bitter woman that made monsters out of my exes so I wrote down the good characteristics of each relationship that made a major impact on my life n I think the love of my life thought that I was comparing him to them ..n that was totally NOT the case..I was simply...listing the good qualities each of them had so that I wouldn't paint a negative narrative of anyone from my past being awful ppl..yet understanding that the man I have now is everything I could ever wish for ...because he inspires me to b my best self while still loving me at my worst..he is amazing n I wouldn't trade him for all the rubies n diamonds in the world...I'm completely happy with him just as he is..cuz he is truly my blessing from God..I hope he never feels as tho there is is a secret competition with him n no other man on this planet..cuz they could never take his place in my heart..he is everything to me on even his worst days!!♎️🦇🤴🏿💪💯🙏🥰😘👑
A solid relationship will always overcome
This man is RAW and Authentic with his content!!💯💯💯💯
Wait you in Jersey me too Let's Gooooo now I'm subscribing 😂😂😂
You are awesome. I thank God that I’ve learned and I appreciate you sharing because some people still need to learn. You will get no argument from me. We have to respect as women it is coming from a man which is the best knowledge. I appreciate you brother may your channel grow expeditiously. Abundance. God bless 🙏🏾😍🎖️
What came to my mind with this is Eddie Murphys character in "Coming to America" he wanted a woman that stimulated his mind and had her own thoughts and opinion and challenged him.
Brother keep on opening our eyes. Much love❤️🇿🇦
We are here 🇿🇦😊
I think sometimes i can come off as "out manning", but its not really like that for me, either its in good fun like being a little competative, or just that im a little bit of a tomboy and im proud of the skills ive developed, like for instance ive built houses and i love building, but when i tell a man that they seem to feel intimidated, or ive seen it when men try to dismiss me and treat me like im not capable, and thats just disrespectful. All in all i think a healthy, stong, and secure man would love a strong healthy woman and encourage her skills and strengths no matter if they are a not necessarily the norm.
This is me, too. I love tools, I am handy and I enjoy it.
I have learned to be that way and enjoy doing those things without making my man feel like I can do it better than him. Luckily, I found the man who loves that I can help renovate the kitchen, and then decorate it to make it a home.
Exactly. I own a home, love tools, fixing, and building things, and take pride in my web development career. If a man is too insecure to encourage or at least accept those things about me, I’m not for him.
He says things that sound correct and on the mark, but I feel (on some points) his delivery sounds a little harsh too. For example, some of the facial expressions he makes, like when pointing out women's mishaps or flaws -- to me, it just comes across sounding kind of harsh and a bit arrogant. As a first - time listener, this is what I'm picking up.
@c.p.8798 I don't get that at all from him. But with that generalized statement, of course it overlooked a lot of facets of people's unique personalities that aren't specified, and dont fit into this category. And you just can't cover everything when speaking in general terms. I just wanted to point out that women shouldn't be presumed as trying to out man a man just because they enjoy more generally masculine activities. But I think a secure healthy man isn't going to feel bad about himself if a woman enjoys building, or sports, or camping/ hunting etc etc...
Thank u for the jewels
This is tremendous. Thank you so much.
Great video. Lots of wisdom.
Appreciate all the jewels ya drop! ❤
Your last point, I struggle with, sometimes I feel like I'm helping, but then I feel that my help turns into "well you always do it, so I figured you would ",
So then I feel used. But I'm am I helping or taking away something you should be doing for yourself???????
Ahhhh shout out to New Jersey
Thank you! This actually gave me a better understanding of how I should (and shouldn't) be treated as a good woman, by a good man.🖤
Good Morning SealztheMan! Shout out to North Jersey from Philly! 💚
Thank you as always for your energy. Njoy your weekend.
I love being called his queen…. L-O-V-E being his queen: called queen, treated like his queen, cherished like his queen! but only can rightfully be her becuz HE is my KING and I honor and respect him with this sweet mindset… not just in public places, BUT in privacy between us only behind closed doors. That’s the most important place: that I love and cherish him every moment, every second of our life. Forever! Thank you so much, I so enjoy your channel: you’re a breath of fresh air and will help me learn how to be the best wife for myLove. Love ‘n blessings to you.
🔥🔥✨🤴🏻👸🏻✨😇🙏🏼✨🔥🔥
Awesome advice 👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾💜
New Jerzee just ran across your channel ✊🏾
I dated a man with kis. The kids always complaind about their mother. I told them that is their mother you always love her but, you font have to approve of what she does.😊
They don’t have to love her, that is for *them* to decide. They should, however, be encouraged to respect her (if she wasn’t abusive).
I appreciate and value u Sealz…peace n blessings 🇩🇲🇩🇲🇩🇲💙💙💙
Yesssss!👏🏾🙏🏾
Trustee! 🙏🏾👏🏾
Thanks for the good advice brother ❤
Love your content so on point and helpful, thank you for this.
Thanks for your advice my brother,its so helpful ❤
Thank you 😊
Build a bear work shop😂 lol
Love this guy! Such a cutie pie!
I just love your teachings Sealz the man. You always bring out everything you say raw. Thank you so much because I do learn alot from you ❤
Thanks for advice in all your videos. I am really enjoying watching them
It's a good talk indeed
This video offers some insightful tips on how to avoid common mistakes that can negatively impact your relationship with your man. From being too critical to neglecting to show appreciation, these mistakes can slowly erode the connection between two people who love each other. It's important to be aware of these mistakes and actively work to avoid them. The tips in this video are practical and easy to implement, and can make a big difference in the quality of your relationship. Whether you're currently in a relationship or looking for one, this video is definitely worth a watch!
Yup I took notes
This is a great video!
Yessss Sealz the man great video po peace and blessings po✌️🙏🏽👍❤️
You Said More ThN Enougb
Amen
Very helpful.
Give me a safe place where I feel my heart is safe and I will be the sweetest thing you’ve ever seen!
Empathize with the child, because it's not their fault that the parents are having toxic differences. Which should never involve the child
Jersey🙏🏾❤️🔥💯
THE GODDESS. KNOW YOUR PLACE WOMEN.
No one can change any one in this world only God knows about how to change
Thank you for sharing, greatly appreciate the information.
what happens if you love someone, and you know they are broken. Do you stand beside them and raise them up to your level with love patients and commitment. you don't talk about the women that break a man and bring them to their knees.
Ma'am pls leave. You CANNOT out love his trauma especially when he refuses to acknowledge it. I tried & it cost me big time. Give him to God & focus on yourself. If it's meant to be it will
CHILDREN NEVER FORGET, SO BE CAREFUL."
Appreciate you brother 🤍 one love.
Come to the south! We are can be as sweet as pie!
It was really hard to help a man legally in a professionally manner during his divorce when I saw the real deal she was doing to him and the kids.
When you're talkin about a man's baby mother in your video and how any conversation about a man's baby mother can be dicey..... My question would be ..how can a girlfriend go about having a conversation about her without saying something the wrong way?
I'm currently in a relationship and he has already gave his opinion on my baby's father in not the nicest way(but i agree with what he said though) and boyfriend said he thought i still had feelings for the guy ...i have no feelings for my daughter's father .
I have felt like he wasn't honest about some things he's said about his baby mother and a comment he made that he wouldn't have had me over when his baby mother came over for their childs birthday if he was still sleeping with her......is that a red 🚩 ?? Has he cheated on women in the past and has he cheated on me?!
On point.Thank you.God bless🔥❤️
That part, if he makes you feel insecure DON'T stay with him and don't be a yes woman. It will costs greatly
I also feel safe, when I'm heard like him
My mom taught a couple of other family members, to never bad mouth parents in front of the kids because you're building a negative influence for your kids
No Jersey girl slander please 😭 I worked in Newark for 10 years, the women are different 😅
Mr Sealz👍👍👍👍🇹🇿🇹🇿🇹🇿🇹🇿🇹🇿
Hey
What part of Jersey? North or South 👀
I guess these are all good ideas.....if you are in a healthy relationship. As long as i feel respected, it will be easier for me to respect you. (And i would assume vice-versa) everybody LOVES 'feminine energy' until they have to put the work in to foster it. If i cant trust you to provide physically, emotionally, spiritually, then my needs are not being met. And if i have to display 'masculine energy' to meet those needs...welp, be mad i guess. Ill even go a step further. Everybody has their way of doing things, but if your way is CLEARLY not correct/efficient and you wont take my advice bc your the 'man' and you have to handle everything...thats not good. And it doesnt make me want to respect you. And if it happens enough, or concerning something vital, im gonna need to step in. It would be better if we could work together.
Yes 😂😂 Many of these examples are based off the northeast 😂
Criticism of your child mother or ex from current girlfriend you lost me on that one
If you thing anything negative feelings about me than I'm not forcing you ok
If you want child's marri a younger girl sho she can have Childrens as fast as you can have ok
USA WATCHING A MOVIE 🎦 🎦
If you have a fice and childrens please I don't want you 2 I don't know about you and your job then how I will criticise about you Father all whatever you had you ask me each person about your careter your friends of your group said
Becaful stop playing games with the people's of Truth ful God Becaful
If your're a woman watching this video to heed this dusty's advice your are losing at life. Please cultivate self respect and love yourself.
I want only what God has for me! I ❤ u jimmycrackcorn&idc