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I had one of these talks all alone, pretending Julien was grilling me. It was the realest conversation I've ever had. Even alone, there was resistance and a facade, but after chipping away, I ended up in tears. I wanted someone to be there with me, but I held myself and it was the first time I ever showed love to myself. Thanks Julien for keeping it real.
I'm writing down these sort of principles of charisma, wich to me are essencially the ESSENCE of one, the authentic self. I'm not even finishing one, AND AM ALREADY TWO PAGES IN, MY HAND FXKING HURTS. But I'm loving and nurturing every second of it. Thank you Julien and everyone for welcoming me to this space. ❤️
Just watched this right before a job interview. I got it! Thanks Julien and to the brave guys who showed up and participated and made this content possible. :). Inner child work is super nuanced and we are all very lucky to have educational resources like your work that help us navigate that world in order to move forward and make our lives awesome.
I agree that we need to break out of our shells but I don’t agree that EVERYONE should be extroverted 24/7. Most times I just don’t really enjoy talking to people because no one ever has anything in common with me. I’m way too different than most. I’ve met countless people and they’re all the same old bullshit just copying one another… That’s why I usually prefer to be to myself. Doesn’t mean I’m not honest and blunt and constantly being myself though!!!
My fear when I’m speaking up and loudly in front of people is that I’ll forget what I’m trying to say or stutter and make a fool out of myself. I know it’s as easy as just letting go of that fear and most of the time I speak fine in those situations, but the handful of times I’ve actually stuttered bad or froze up have scared me away from putting myself in those situations intentionally. Not sure how to fully let go of this fear
You should watch all Julien's videos and u will figure it out I have the same problem as u and I am trying to improve everyday and now I shutter less than I use to be.
Is it possible that some people just possess a calmer more nurturing energy? Not saying it's worse, just different and equally valuable. I feel like many people interpret this advice as having to be a different energy than they naturally align with
For me, I remember as a child being shamed for speaking my weird and goofy thoughts. I was told to stop talking and quit being weird. By both adults and my peers, this was probably 3rd/4th grade. It still affects me til this day. Like the client in this video says, you are tough, Julien! Sometimes that’s what people need, though.
I am a total slave to my mood. But how can it feel real to not act in the mood you are in? F.e. Feeling sad inside just still be loud and happy when you are feeling bad inside?
An introvert that acts extroverted for too long, will simply burn out. Introverts do exist. It's not true that an introvert can be an extrovert all the time.
It's something you do (or say) to deal with or hide from negative thoughts or emotions (listening to music, getting defensive, giving silent treatment etc)
julien doesnt understand that not everybody is like him. u dont have to be loud bold and brash or screaming at everyone to enjoy the moment or do his little "fuuuckk yeaaaah"s so onedimensional coming from a charisma coach
It's true that everyone has different personalities, but the point is you should have the *ability* to be as loud as you want without the thought of yelling and getting noticed paralyzing you... not that you should actually be loud 24/7
The thing he's trying to get across is you should be confident to express yourself however you want whenever you want (within reason). Most people aren't quiet because they're a strong silent type who chooses not to use their confidence to speak, but when they do, they demand respect and command the room, that is one of the rarest types of person. 99% of people are fearful and guarded in most social contexts. The most delusional people are those who think they're naturally a quiet and shy person. NOBODY is, you just don't value yourself enough. Children are never quiet and shy unless they're anxious and feel unworthy, adults are exactly the same. even worse than quiet and shy, is being inexpressive too
@@dcgreatman thats not his point. he set the frame as in being confident and content with yourself while being quiet as negative. he pressured the guy and coerced him into saying things that fit juliens narrative. if ure young and impressionable that works really well. but by any logical standards that anyone else might hold julien to, some of his shit is just absurd.
@@dxfifa no, julien is literally selling his bs of "introverts dont exist" and are merely little pussies who are afraid to speak up. He belittels those kind of people when he uses that word. bitch if they want to recharge their energy because being around people drains them, so be it. there is nothing shameful about that. julien should be ashamed for even establishing that frame of reference in the first place.
no.... i like to be introuverted and quiet even if i can be funny and loud.... f@ck extroversion "" FOR ME JUST FOR ME "" intouvertion is mush cooler and honest .. i like you alot man but i will not listen this time
@@kicack no he is veeery good actually .... but i think that he thinks people cant be born introuverts directly like sommething has to happen to you to you make an introuvert AS IFFFF extroverts are all confident .... NOP for me that is wrong
Julian’s logic is he wants everyone to be authentic but if your “authenticity” doesn’t look like his, then it’s not authentic. Everyone’s authenticity is different! Sounds like Julian has some brutal lessons to learn himself.
You dont see it man. Its not about being like that. Its about the freedom to be like that when you want. If you just choose ti be quite and relaxed. Then it is you. But if you doing that because a lot of old bullshit is holding you back. Then there is no freedom in yourself to be authentic. Its living in chains
some of the stuff is good but julien is way too dominating. give the guy some space, and also julien needs to be consicous that this stuff is extremely triggering and opening up to such issues must be done with so much more consent and sensitivitiy. you can't just FORCE your way into his childhood trauma
Not necessarily... The difference between quiet people who are charismatic and quiet people who aren't, is that those who are charismatic CHOOSE to be quiet (and could easily be loud at any moment) and those who aren't charismatic are quiet out of reaction (they're afraid to be loud).
@@JulienHimself Ah I see. I was wondering because even when I was a kid, i didn't talk much, unless I really had something to say or wanted to talk about something I was really passionate about. Then I couldn't be made to shut up 😆 But otherwise I was mostly quiet because that was just my natural state, I guess I just liked thinking, I liked listening and observing things. Admitedly, now, as an adult, I feel shy if I have to talk to ignorant people who would missinterpret my words or actions. So in my view, what turns my charisma on is when I feel passionate about something. Now usually when I am quiet, I've been told I look intimidating. Even tho I am 160 cm tall and skinny and have a ingenue face. And I never thought I would seem intimidating to anyone. I find that fascinating.
Feedback for the guy in black T shirt black hair. For the love of his stop saying like. It makes you sound like a silly teenager and weak. Just be honest.
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You're just throwing that 95 percent stat out there with nothing to back it up lol
I had one of these talks all alone, pretending Julien was grilling me. It was the realest conversation I've ever had. Even alone, there was resistance and a facade, but after chipping away, I ended up in tears. I wanted someone to be there with me, but I held myself and it was the first time I ever showed love to myself. Thanks Julien for keeping it real.
Keep it up! Respect 👊
That's amazing ❤
welcome aboard
Amazing, do you notice any changes in your world view or how did that self talk impact you?
It's really hard to have a real conversation with yourself, mad respect man, don't be so hard on yourself!
I'm writing down these sort of principles of charisma, wich to me are essencially the ESSENCE of one, the authentic self. I'm not even finishing one, AND AM ALREADY TWO PAGES IN, MY HAND FXKING HURTS. But I'm loving and nurturing every second of it. Thank you Julien and everyone for welcoming me to this space. ❤️
Nice! If you'd like my FULL step by step breakdown of charisma and social dynamics, check this out: www.highvibecommunication.com/bhvc
Just watched this right before a job interview. I got it! Thanks Julien and to the brave guys who showed up and participated and made this content possible. :). Inner child work is super nuanced and we are all very lucky to have educational resources like your work that help us navigate that world in order to move forward and make our lives awesome.
Amazing to hear, congrats!! Glad my content has been so helpful for you! 🙏
@@JulienHimself over a decade, friend. So very grateful to be growing parallel. :)
@@JulienHimself you and your content are a blessing! A true 💎 🙏🏽
I agree that we need to break out of our shells but I don’t agree that EVERYONE should be extroverted 24/7. Most times I just don’t really enjoy talking to people because no one ever has anything in common with me. I’m way too different than most. I’ve met countless people and they’re all the same old bullshit just copying one another… That’s why I usually prefer to be to myself. Doesn’t mean I’m not honest and blunt and constantly being myself though!!!
For those of you that you that don’t know julien this seems “fluffy” but just listen and try these things it can change your life.
My fear when I’m speaking up and loudly in front of people is that I’ll forget what I’m trying to say or stutter and make a fool out of myself. I know it’s as easy as just letting go of that fear and most of the time I speak fine in those situations, but the handful of times I’ve actually stuttered bad or froze up have scared me away from putting myself in those situations intentionally. Not sure how to fully let go of this fear
You should watch all Julien's videos and u will figure it out
I have the same problem as u and I am trying to improve everyday and now I shutter less than I use to be.
I have the same problem, but I think its the fear itself that distracts me and makes me forget what I’m saying.
Is it possible that some people just possess a calmer more nurturing energy? Not saying it's worse, just different and equally valuable. I feel like many people interpret this advice as having to be a different energy than they naturally align with
Yes, of course! As long as you have the ability to EASILY be loud/high energy if you wanted to... 👌
For me, I remember as a child being shamed for speaking my weird and goofy thoughts. I was told to stop talking and quit being weird. By both adults and my peers, this was probably 3rd/4th grade. It still affects me til this day. Like the client in this video says, you are tough, Julien! Sometimes that’s what people need, though.
This is why people drink liquid courage. But the key is to have natural courage and expression.
He ain't wrong.🙏💯🇬🇧
It all goes back to the work of diving into the darkness.
I am a total slave to my mood. But how can it feel real to not act in the mood you are in? F.e. Feeling sad inside just still be loud and happy when you are feeling bad inside?
Thanks Julian!
You’re so welcome!
So, after bringing up the problems and becoming aware of them, what is there to do? What's the next step?
Bro, say him just watch your mentor manifesto 😭
He handled this well btw
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An introvert that acts extroverted for too long, will simply burn out. Introverts do exist. It's not true that an introvert can be an extrovert all the time.
you are goddamn awesome julien
Juniel...i love the way of expressing ...cud u plz translate ur video's in hindi so that everyone cn understand and take benefit of this ...🙏🙏🥰🥰
When’s the next time your coming to Dallas Julian ?
😂😂😂😂 he said a charisma class and they say keep your back straight! 😅😅😅😅 dude is hilarious.
3:50 that looks so epic
You are fucking ace Julian! 🎉 xx
Best video 🙌
Glad you think so!
Really great video
Thank you!
What is coping mechanism?
It's something you do (or say) to deal with or hide from negative thoughts or emotions (listening to music, getting defensive, giving silent treatment etc)
Hey Julian. How are you bro?
Doing great! Let me know your top takeaway from the video! 👊
Action Trigger Release Repaet. And dive into the darkness within you and let go to bring in the light!
Great takeaways!
@@JulienHimself 🥵
Good stuff
Me too heaven and He'll. We will be hugged for every idol word we speak
Edit: judged
PersonalityHacker in the house?
The number of times i heard like in this video is infinite
How can you participate in these events without putting $400 on the line?
I do free events all around the world: www.selfhelpfreetour.com
The girl with the giant burrito 😂
Love that
Glad this resonates with you!
What is my intention by watching a video, Do I want to understand or solve my problem?
Buddys gone off the deep end
understanding vs solving
Yes! KEY difference and a trap sadly too many people fall into...
julien doesnt understand that not everybody is like him. u dont have to be loud bold and brash or screaming at everyone to enjoy the moment or do his little "fuuuckk yeaaaah"s
so onedimensional coming from a charisma coach
It's true that everyone has different personalities, but the point is you should have the *ability* to be as loud as you want without the thought of yelling and getting noticed paralyzing you... not that you should actually be loud 24/7
The thing he's trying to get across is you should be confident to express yourself however you want whenever you want (within reason). Most people aren't quiet because they're a strong silent type who chooses not to use their confidence to speak, but when they do, they demand respect and command the room, that is one of the rarest types of person. 99% of people are fearful and guarded in most social contexts. The most delusional people are those who think they're naturally a quiet and shy person. NOBODY is, you just don't value yourself enough. Children are never quiet and shy unless they're anxious and feel unworthy, adults are exactly the same. even worse than quiet and shy, is being inexpressive too
@@dcgreatman thats not his point. he set the frame as in being confident and content with yourself while being quiet as negative. he pressured the guy and coerced him into saying things that fit juliens narrative. if ure young and impressionable that works really well. but by any logical standards that anyone else might hold julien to, some of his shit is just absurd.
@@dxfifa no, julien is literally selling his bs of "introverts dont exist" and are merely little pussies who are afraid to speak up. He belittels those kind of people when he uses that word. bitch if they want to recharge their energy because being around people drains them, so be it. there is nothing shameful about that. julien should be ashamed for even establishing that frame of reference in the first place.
Resistance is strooonggg
Why mock people when they are being vulnerable?
So they can feel all those embarrassing emotions and deal with them
no.... i like to be introuverted and quiet even if i can be funny and loud.... f@ck extroversion "" FOR ME JUST FOR ME "" intouvertion is mush cooler and honest .. i like you alot man but i will not listen this time
He seems to have very simplistic views on temperaments and personalities.
@@kicack no he is veeery good actually .... but i think that he thinks people cant be born introuverts directly like sommething has to happen to you to you make an introuvert AS IFFFF extroverts are all confident .... NOP for me that is wrong
He’s got his moms blouse on with his sisters pants. Wears it well tho
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Julian’s logic is he wants everyone to be authentic but if your “authenticity” doesn’t look like his, then it’s not authentic. Everyone’s authenticity is different! Sounds like Julian has some brutal lessons to learn himself.
You dont see it man. Its not about being like that. Its about the freedom to be like that when you want. If you just choose ti be quite and relaxed. Then it is you. But if you doing that because a lot of old bullshit is holding you back. Then there is no freedom in yourself to be authentic. Its living in chains
some of the stuff is good but julien is way too dominating. give the guy some space, and also julien needs to be consicous that this stuff is extremely triggering and opening up to such issues must be done with so much more consent and sensitivitiy. you can't just FORCE your way into his childhood trauma
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Do you have to be loud to be charismatic?
Not necessarily... The difference between quiet people who are charismatic and quiet people who aren't, is that those who are charismatic CHOOSE to be quiet (and could easily be loud at any moment) and those who aren't charismatic are quiet out of reaction (they're afraid to be loud).
@@JulienHimself Ah I see. I was wondering because even when I was a kid, i didn't talk much, unless I really had something to say or wanted to talk about something I was really passionate about. Then I couldn't be made to shut up 😆 But otherwise I was mostly quiet because that was just my natural state, I guess I just liked thinking, I liked listening and observing things. Admitedly, now, as an adult, I feel shy if I have to talk to ignorant people who would missinterpret my words or actions. So in my view, what turns my charisma on is when I feel passionate about something. Now usually when I am quiet, I've been told I look intimidating. Even tho I am 160 cm tall and skinny and have a ingenue face. And I never thought I would seem intimidating to anyone. I find that fascinating.
@@JulienHimself how about those that choose to be quiet because that is the energy they align with? You don't have to be loud to be taken seriously
First comment!
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Thanks,
Feedback for the guy in black T shirt black hair. For the love of his stop saying like. It makes you sound like a silly teenager and weak. Just be honest.