Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor-Marisol

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  • @marismoodswings
    @marismoodswings 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28340

    Hello everyone,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to my story. Words can’t express how grateful I am for YOU!! Never let anyone take your voice, strength, love, and most importantly YOUR WILLINGNESS TO LIVE FOR YOURSELF
    May God bless all of YOU!!!
    Love Mari ♥️

    • @hayleywhelan3243
      @hayleywhelan3243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +489

      I'm so sorry you went tru all of this is so upsetting but you are a strong beautiful woman with so much to give to the world and I hope you find happiness and more in your life xxx hayley from Dublin Ireland ☘🍀🌻

    • @leahdinatale9606
      @leahdinatale9606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +469

      Mari, you are such a beautiful person. You are strong, brave, and so smart! May God continue to bless you and cover you in his love.

    • @hmmm8552
      @hmmm8552 2 ปีที่แล้ว +265

      Thank you for sharing ❤️ stay beautiful and continue to heal yourself every day

    • @juliefennell3343
      @juliefennell3343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +247

      God bless you, Mari. Thank you for sharing your incredibly impactful words. You are so articulate and poised. I’m praying for you. God bless you. ❤️

    • @Heartsinhandshorsemanshipllc
      @Heartsinhandshorsemanshipllc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +191

      Thank you Marisol for sharing your story. You are a very strong young lady, and we all appreciate your honesty. Those of us who have been through trials can learn so much from you.

  • @SuperMiIk
    @SuperMiIk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4573

    A conversation needs to be had about mothers that abuse their daughters and coddle their sons. And before anyone twists my words, *no* , sons don't deserve to be abused either.

    • @DaMensch86
      @DaMensch86 2 ปีที่แล้ว +557

      This happens a lot in the latin or Hispanic community. Not so much abuse, but the boys are treated like little prince and the girls are treated like housemaids

    • @kimcarroll4955
      @kimcarroll4955 2 ปีที่แล้ว +221

      I agree totally! My mothers a narcissist, who would accept anything that a male in her life could dish out (my brothers, her partners) but treated me like shit & a verbal punching bag my whole life. Not excusing her behaviour, but I think it comes down to her father and that need for acceptance from him that she never got. Which translates to women in her life being second class and accepting any toxic behaviour from men.

    • @nikkidalogan3502
      @nikkidalogan3502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +191

      Also in the black community will at least the Caribbean I have many female cousins that can’t go outside to play like there brothers can etc. They don’t understand how this causes children to rebel

    • @lailahfields8916
      @lailahfields8916 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      @@nikkidalogan3502 no the black community period. There's black American mothers out there who do the same thing

    • @Web19814
      @Web19814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +198

      100%. I am Hispanic and this is exactly how it was and is. It's disgusting. We had to do so much for my brothers. Serve them, iron their clothes... It was all BS. I now have 2 kids, 1 girl and 1 boy. I make sure they both do chores, both know how to do laundry. I don't know how I got lucky with my husband as well.

  • @missgui4400
    @missgui4400 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    The cry at the end was the little girl who needed consoling, loving, and understanding. Made me cry too 😢

    • @carsongibson5145
      @carsongibson5145 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I would like to hear how she's doing now. Despite everything thrown at her she still manages to have a good head on her shoulders and a positive attitude. I wish nothing but the absolute best for this young lady.

  • @vanessaaac
    @vanessaaac ปีที่แล้ว +606

    The sheer amount of children being sexually assaulted all of the time is truly unfathomable. I am so deeply disgusted every single time I hear about these poor children and I hear about it a LOT. Like......WHAT THE F*** IS WRONG WITH THESE HORRIBLE PEOPLE?! I don't f***ing understand!
    All of you survivors out there are so strong, thank god for you. You all have a great purpose on this earth, even if it feels the exact opposite sometimes. Mari, your courage is inspiring and I will never forget your strength.

    • @Celestialnighthawk
      @Celestialnighthawk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Broken people create broken homes which create more broken people and all the anger and sadness is inflicted onto innocent people then more broken people are created and the cycle continues it’s probably never going to stop but I pray it does one day also some people are just born evil

    • @JesusistheonetrueGod
      @JesusistheonetrueGod 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Children are sexually assaulted in schools now without their parent's knowledge, they just call it "gender affirming healthcare" and convince people it's a good thing.

    • @dawnsky11
      @dawnsky11 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I agree. These men need to start telling themselves NO - whenever they are tempted. Also, kids need to be supervised. Please, be aware of what your kids are doing at home, especially when they are teenagers.

    • @steveotatooed
      @steveotatooed 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Its very simple the abusers were once the abused they are just repeating learned behavior

    • @danabee311
      @danabee311 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was thinking the same thing!!

  • @unlitdarkness6
    @unlitdarkness6 2 ปีที่แล้ว +889

    Round of applause for the detective who believed her.

    • @samuelpena3195
      @samuelpena3195 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Give him a raise

    • @sweetness5599
      @sweetness5599 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      And a pit in hell reserved for the detective who didn't believe child me

    • @blueStarKitt7924
      @blueStarKitt7924 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@sweetness5599 😡🤬😔 Sorry for what you went through. May you heal and find peace and love.❤️🙏

  • @greggonzalez661
    @greggonzalez661 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3188

    This beautiful young woman was betrayed by all of those who were placed on Earth to love and protect her. This is the cruelest betrayal of all.

    • @patriciaque197
      @patriciaque197 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Marisol, I pray you know in your soul that the trauma had to be revealed in order to begin casting it from your being. You are brave and you are worthy. 🙏💛🙏

    • @bohemia9956
      @bohemia9956 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      💛💚💙

    • @rsdouglass4
      @rsdouglass4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You said it.

    • @davidx4120
      @davidx4120 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Yes, I almost cried. Her voice was trembling as she was discussing her mother. Every girl wants their mothers love. This has to be difficult.

    • @donp9982
      @donp9982 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So sad bro

  • @Pollyjisdabest
    @Pollyjisdabest ปีที่แล้ว +720

    This story broke my heart more than any other SWU video I've watched before... This channel makes me realize more and more how it should become a top priority to everyone to keep children safe. Even if you are not a parent, watch out for the children in your life. Once a child's spirit is broken, they will never be the same.

    • @flordelis9649
      @flordelis9649 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Same here. I was abused as a child by family and my mother still doesn't believe it!! If sexual abuse was talked about and taken more seriously we could fix the problems of the world.

    • @Pollyjisdabest
      @Pollyjisdabest 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@flordelis9649 I'm so sorry that happened to you. Some people think denial brings protection, but that's not how it works. The more that people share their stories and speak out about the issue, the more awareness it brings. I never would have thought that child abuse of this kind was so persistent around the world until I started watching YT. May God bring you and anyone with childhood scars strength and peace 🙏

    • @jaynesegman7847
      @jaynesegman7847 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      YOU MUST ALSO WARN NAIVE YOUTH OF ALL THE DANGERS OUT THERE.

    • @bonniecleveland3470
      @bonniecleveland3470 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      This one is hard because of some stuff I went through

    • @Axeboygangzilla
      @Axeboygangzilla 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nobody cares about boys who are molested. They only care about the girls

  • @ztebazile
    @ztebazile ปีที่แล้ว +564

    "I didn't know that I can say no" 💔 every one of these stories makes me a more fierce mama bear. Sibling sex abuse happened in both my child's father's and grandmother's family and I am here to protect and break the cycle !!! Much love to you Marisol and thanks to Mark for giving her story space.

    • @cosmicreef5858
      @cosmicreef5858 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Happened to me as well and i do not tolerate ANY of it. It is EVIL. One of the worst betrayals you can ever experience.

    • @loanicastillo3327
      @loanicastillo3327 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do not let your children have sex education at school. Home school. Go to church. Sex is the idol of young generation. Not God. But sex. They do not read the lives of the Holy. Or the Bible. Sex education makes children to explore. Kids are even raped in college these days. So common! They can get whatever they want in planned parenthood without your permission. Adults can be raped not only children. Adults are not safe either. Do never let them live with a person they are not married to. Do not let them be promiscuous as teens or adults. Talking about sex with children is promoting the idea. I am from a different country and I don't know what to think of sex education. At least I was in the Middle class and people are respectful and Kids do not have a social life. I wish I knew nothing about it. I was abused as an audult. I think sex education should be at the doctor's office when you get married. But now I remember procreation and sex is not the same thing. A teacher first mentioned this to me. And God wants the first. Still I cannot beleive people can procreate so easily, the whole thing to this day seems so crazy to me I don't know how people actually do it. So I don't know why people even want to do that. As a Child pancakes looked delicious on T. V. But in reality, they were never that good. So if you watch porn you may become lustful. I have never Heard of a real person enjoying it.

  • @rideorfly13
    @rideorfly13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4300

    You really have won the lottery of life if you are a born into a caring, loving family. I’m a lucky, lucky guy

    • @ThePresentation010
      @ThePresentation010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Pretty much wyte..

    • @david21216
      @david21216 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      I often think of the statistic that around 50% of the world lives on $5.5 dollars a day, birth can be all about those statistics homie, gotta be thankful all the time

    • @rideorfly13
      @rideorfly13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      @@ThePresentation010 yeah cos no white people live in poverty do they….

    • @rideorfly13
      @rideorfly13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@david21216 damn right

    • @sarahhirshlee
      @sarahhirshlee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      White person living in poverty here 👋🏼(actually "perceived white person" as I'm half indigenous/ native American and half Anglo-Saxon but I have yet to benefit (in any financial and/or societal way) from my native heritage and everyone just assumes I'm white so I guess I have that assumed White privilege going for and against me...) But anyway I didn't always live in poverty. I grew up in the suburbs to working class parents who worked their asses off and now they are technically millionaires and I'm 40 just bought my first home which is a mobile home for $2,000... So now that We've gotten all of the formalities out of the way 😉🤣 I agree that yes if you're born into that I think you win some kind of lottery in Life or even if you're born into a family that holds its top priority to be others perception that you are a loving caring family I think if you're born into that kind of family you win some kind of life lottery as well. Based on the whole fake it till you make it theory...
      (All of this In my humble and usually crappy opinion 😉)

  • @courtney8203
    @courtney8203 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3566

    Family molestation is so swept under the rug yet so prevalent in society. Marisol, thank you for sharing your story and you are a courageous human… much love

    • @leilacherradi3485
      @leilacherradi3485 2 ปีที่แล้ว +154

      Right ? It's scary when you see how common it is.... It makes you wonder what kind of society we live in!!!!

    • @Desaree1
      @Desaree1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Her story touched me and reminded me I'm not alone we are not alone

    • @sandypandy5506
      @sandypandy5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      My boyfriend and I could not sustain a relationship. I believe it’s the severe molestation from his dad. He never trusted me. I was totally devoted to him. Still love him. I went to work and he moved out. This abuse destroys families

    • @sandypandy5506
      @sandypandy5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      And relationships

    • @naturallaw1733
      @naturallaw1733 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@leilacherradi3485
      what do you mean 'Society'? this is actually part of the Human story. it's one of the usual Taboos throughout time and place. 🤷‍♀️

  • @bee1715
    @bee1715 ปีที่แล้ว +345

    12.09 she nails it by explaining childhood sexual abuse. It’s dissociation and your mind does it to keep you safe because what is happening is the WORST most horrific traumatic thing that’s ever happened to you. It’s why so many people don’t even remember or have recall of their abuse until as late as mid 40s. Prayers on EVERYONES healing journey who has had their lives ruined by sexual abuse

    • @SharlaMontgomery
      @SharlaMontgomery 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You stated that perfectly. ❤ Sending you love 💐

    • @carmenrodriquez-cedillo9082
      @carmenrodriquez-cedillo9082 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Your right, I used to feel like I was spinning and falling at the same time during my SA. I also would pee on myself. I'm almost 40 and am trying to build courage to go to therapy

    • @Kenza__try
      @Kenza__try 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wait , that's true I got sexually assaulted at the age to 5 or 6 by 3 people ( 2 male and 1 female) back then i didn't know what was going on , Now I'm 23 and I still can't remember properly in detail what actually happened, however i only have little vivid memory of those horrible times. I'm scared of people touching me till this date

  • @ja398
    @ja398 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    Amazing Mari!!!! I didn't speak of my childhood abuse to my parents until I was 57 years old. By then both of the abusers were dead. My parents gave me to my grandparents because my grandmother wanted a child with blue eyes. I was between 1 and 2 when I went there and was sexually abused by my grandfather and an uncle until I was about 7 or 8 and returned to my parents. Therapists in a program convinced me to tell my parents. Parents believed me but I blamed them for giving me away to where I got abused. There wasn't a need for me to go to my grandparents. How could my parents just give me away like a puppy. I just wanted them to say they were sorry that this happened to me. I never got it, even when I asked for it. It's not done in our culture, you don't say you're sorry. So I am saying to you now with all my heart that I am so very sorry that you went through all that abuse. You are beautiful inside and out. Wishing you love and happiness.

    • @myrnab2022
      @myrnab2022 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I'm sorry that you were abused and that your parents couldn't say sorry for sending you away. ❤

    • @deveaneatkinson2450
      @deveaneatkinson2450 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      :Your grandmother is a child abuser enabler she knew what they were doing and put up with it. I am so sorry

    • @Tabithaatk2019
      @Tabithaatk2019 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I’m also wishing YOU a lifetime of love and happiness and peace ❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing this comment

    • @EternalRiver90
      @EternalRiver90 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m so sorry as well for all you had to to through. I was also abused by two older male cousins when I was 5. One time at my house and a couple other times at my grandparents’ as well... Not sure why so much abuse happens at grandparents’ houses whether it’d be by them or another family member. It’s so weird. Anyway I hope you’ve gotten the therapy you needed and definitely deserved. You are loved always and forever ❤

    • @alyssachausse6752
      @alyssachausse6752 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And I am very sorry that you felt betrayed, and hurt by people who were supposed to protect you❤ and I am proud of you

  • @personallynicki2455
    @personallynicki2455 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1917

    Her tears when she hugged Mark shows that all she needed/wanted outside of peace was for someone to hear and see her. You are heard Mari, we love you!

    • @JFU245
      @JFU245 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      It made me cry. I cried with her. She’s so strong!!

    • @personallynicki2455
      @personallynicki2455 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@JFU245 after watching this I’ve found out that my husband niece have been being rapped by her father for 4yrs. She 16 now. The universe is an amazing thing. I never thought I’d know someone who’s personally been through such torment. I cried for Mari and I cry for keke too now. What is life! She was only 12. Her mother knew. My heart is broken.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@personallynicki2455 i found out one of my rlly close family members was also being raped by another one of our older family members since childhood. This crap is so scarily common. I hope youre there for her and were able to tell her that its not her fault and it doesnt define her, and that you are there for her!!!!! Such simple words are sometimes needed to be heard by someone else!!!!

    • @personallynicki2455
      @personallynicki2455 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@yyg4632 absolutely me and my husband now are trying to pick her up and show her a normal family dynamic. We’ve always tried to pick her up and was denied that because he lived with the mother and for years NO ONE WAS ALLOWED in their home and they would make excuses why she couldn’t join our family outings. We know now. Only god knows!

    • @that_blonde_punk
      @that_blonde_punk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ur right, she was heard and felt. love these people and followers

  • @Jivolt
    @Jivolt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +453

    She held it together for over 51 minutes.
    The power of hugs.

    • @stansmith5610
      @stansmith5610 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hugs?

    • @P4PKing
      @P4PKing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@stansmith5610 Yeah, she broke down after the hug. So, the power of hugs.

    • @crissypoo83
      @crissypoo83 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@P4PKing òplllĺ

    • @brianda5793
      @brianda5793 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She needed the hug, she’s definitely been deprived of affection

  • @natashavandekamp145
    @natashavandekamp145 ปีที่แล้ว +383

    This was one of the hardest videos I’ve watched so far. I can feel her pain. So many people failed her and it breaks my heart. She’s a beautiful human inside and out. ❤️

    • @jackiesmith765
      @jackiesmith765 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Her parent, her parents and elder failed her period!! 😢

  • @Lilsonya262
    @Lilsonya262 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    The fact that she said her dad was the only one out of that whole family that was somewhat mentally stable and took care of her & even thought of him as amazing but then once he found out that she was being molested by her own siblings all the support just vanished and he too even shunned her. 💔 just shattered my heart most of the time in these tragic stories we want at least one person to be their support system. 😔

  • @cindys2995
    @cindys2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1636

    When I was a teacher, we were always taught that a child smelling like urine was a sign of abuse, but I NEVER understood that, other than that possible neglect. Her explaining her bedwetting was an eye-opener....such a sad, yet POWERFUL story!

    • @bambabalino
      @bambabalino 2 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      I knew someone whom 'smelled' etc., years and years later, I found out they had been abused - after watching this, I wonder if same/similar situation... It's an eye opening thing for me too and I'm taught also to look for signs of 'Neglect', without considering this as the 'type' of abuse happening...

    • @jonahsummersell345
      @jonahsummersell345 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@amandasmith2109 how is that funny

    • @pambeforethestorm9784
      @pambeforethestorm9784 2 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      @@bambabalino Yes I remember a girl who smelled of urine in middle school daily and she was teased relentlessly....she was my friend so I never participated but always wondered why...she would explain to her tormentors that he brother wet the bed each night. Later, I realized she just thought up a story but found out she And her brother were abused and she married an abusive husband. People don't realize how far abuse follows into adult life if not treated properly with therapy. So sad, but I'm glad I never teased her....

    • @bambabalino
      @bambabalino 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@amandasmith2109 That including emojis? lol
      ..Using, I think, in right context? (!) …Just in case, we are trained as best we can be (depending where we work, whom we work for, which service etc.), to look for signs of abuse, and this particular sign would initially/normally, I personally think, indicate neglect.. I have never been made aware of it be a sign of sexual abuse, but I will certainly bring it up in our next Safe-Guarding training... hence this video may help care/support givers another aspect to consider... the beautiful woman in this video, Mari, deserves a medal for potentially saving children... even if just one...

    • @samueldoss9608
      @samueldoss9608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      I went to school with a girl
      That was abused
      Thankfully she recovered very well, has a family of her own doing very well
      When we were younger
      We have those talks
      My understanding is
      It's not neglect so much as to making themselves undesirable, in hopes not to be touched anymore
      I would say if the person is
      Really young than its negligence
      If there coming to an age of self sufficiency
      Then it's a defensive tactic and possibly a quit cry for help

  • @SteveEilertsenSouthAfrica
    @SteveEilertsenSouthAfrica 2 ปีที่แล้ว +543

    Hi married a "Marisol" 20 years ago. She told me what happened when we met - and I said I love you, and want you regardless. She dumped me almost at the altar but I fought for her and finally got her. I love her more than anything. She is precious beyond words. Today she was sick and I took off work to care for her. Some things have taken years to heal - I am a patient man - she is worth it. If you are a Marisol, you are worth it. There is someone out there who will love you for the precious person you are.

    • @dragonflyparade8143
      @dragonflyparade8143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      What a lovely message to give out. I hope your wife is now well again and up and about. Be very happy together for a very long time.

    • @DA-ib1ii
      @DA-ib1ii 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ❤️🙏❤️

    • @dontevercalmdowntsegai
      @dontevercalmdowntsegai 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Someone pin this comment 🥰

    • @christopherhorn1161
      @christopherhorn1161 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      This is the most beautiful thing I've ever read, given who Marisol is.

    • @ElderandOakFarm
      @ElderandOakFarm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She is lucky to have you

  • @mayragonzalez2070
    @mayragonzalez2070 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    "All I want is to know how to read." As a teacher, these words broke my heart. 😢

  • @KayliDaShizNit
    @KayliDaShizNit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Her saying “all she ever wanted and wished for was to learn how to read” my heart broke in that moment. What a beautiful, pure, stunning soul! We can all learn a lot from this strong amazing girl ❤sending love and strength

  • @alabamajenny8751
    @alabamajenny8751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +734

    Those words,” I’m being sexually abused at home.” Those were the were most freeing words you could have expressed.
    It’s okay, Marisol. You are not alone.

    • @TAM2031006
      @TAM2031006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes, until you do you are in a prison of your own misery.

    • @catherinenevin747
      @catherinenevin747 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You deserve good things

    • @patriciacole8773
      @patriciacole8773 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know Jenny. It’s not happening now, right?

    • @StevenEvens7125
      @StevenEvens7125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sounds a lot like snitching

    • @s3m4jno5w4d
      @s3m4jno5w4d 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@StevenEvens7125 the fuck are you talking about?

  • @chicagolife5302
    @chicagolife5302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1795

    Marisol is already a HUGE success! She's not a drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother. Y'all watch the channel and understand the repercussions of an abusive childhood. God bless you Mari 🙏 you're a great role model.

    • @eltorocal
      @eltorocal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      @Patrick Meallet ...she doesn't have to be a drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother. But, she could have been, as it is treatment by the very same people as what she experienced that forms or creates the drug addict, prostitute, incarcerated, neglectful or abusive mother.

    • @davidx4120
      @davidx4120 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Even when the abuse is verbal & mental to a child by adults in my neighborhood.

    • @karithema9ician657
      @karithema9ician657 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Yeah she’s literally a goat 🐐 all the things life tried to break her down with…. She keeps fighting. She heavy handed too 💪🏾🙌🏾🔥

    • @eltorocal
      @eltorocal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@karithema9ician657 Damn Good Woman there... she will make a Man a really Good Man... some day. Her decision... Her's ..and Her's alone.

    • @MandenTV
      @MandenTV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Bar for success is pretty low if not being a drug addict, prostitute, in prison or an abusive parent are the goals.

  • @cliffordbrock9242
    @cliffordbrock9242 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    Hello Maris,
    I am a, nearly sixty two, year, old man. I was diagnosed two years ago. With Complex -PTSD. In my case there are three, dynamics at play for me. Childhood, Armed Forces and my marital divorce.
    I could so, relate to your experiences and trauma!!. One of the anxiety traits I developed, was bed wetting, up until I was seventeen years old. I thank you, for having the courage and tenacity to speak up. You are a beautiful human being. I pray and hope that the, rest of your life, is, contented, and to your, satisfaction. You deserve to be loved..💓
    Love Cliff..xx

    • @samuellandos785
      @samuellandos785 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      But also you deserve to feel loved Cliff! Take care ❤

    • @SharlaMontgomery
      @SharlaMontgomery 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you for your service and God bless you sir ❤

  • @wetsand7379
    @wetsand7379 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    I never comment on videos but damn... this woman is strong. Hearing her story makes me feel so angry and dissapointmented in humanity but I'm so glad she's still here with us and that she's making a healthy life for herself. Much love to this woman!

  • @deniselomeli450
    @deniselomeli450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1055

    This hits so close to home. My sister was molested by my oldest sister’s husband and when we told my mom, she told us not to tell anyone. Fast forward 20 yrs later my mom gave him $70k to open up a restaurant. Some parents are so fucked up in the head. Instead of protecting her children she awards the perpetrator.

    • @pamelaroach319
      @pamelaroach319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Wow that is horrible

    • @deniselomeli450
      @deniselomeli450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Yes, but I’m blessed to have an amazing life away from all of those sick people. My sister that was molested is still around those animals. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @care4animals114
      @care4animals114 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      So sorry ppl are disgusting
      God heal you please 🙏

    • @Notworried9
      @Notworried9 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That’s disgusting 🤮 I’m sorry you girls went through that.

    • @chicnoir29
      @chicnoir29 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      OMG why would she do that. Some women throw other women to the wolfs.

  • @rlms56
    @rlms56 2 ปีที่แล้ว +731

    She is so articulate and conveys her traumas so well. She would be a great at working with other abused children.

    • @giannacargill796
      @giannacargill796 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My thoughts exactly.

    • @grandmamarymarthatammy_blo6603
      @grandmamarymarthatammy_blo6603 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Good point!!

    • @sandypants111
      @sandypants111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agreed. I thought she may have shared that at the end. What a true warrior 💕

    • @PippiLong1
      @PippiLong1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I wonder if they now, would like to apologize. Now that they are older and may know better, they may be ashamed. They might need help getting to that point of approach.

    • @tatertot58
      @tatertot58 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@PippiLong1 They probably still deny it ever happened classic abuser style.

  • @georgiastewart4479
    @georgiastewart4479 ปีที่แล้ว +181

    Marisol, You survived a nightmare childhood, and my heart breaks hearing you talk about this. You're a survivor. I hope you can find peace and comfort. You deserve that. All the best to you

  • @vaar2742
    @vaar2742 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Thank you Marisol, your story really hit home for me. I am a 71 year old woman who suffered from sexual abuse, physical and emotional abuse for years from family, co-workers and in marriage. All the time believing it was because I was a sub standard, flawed human being. My own mother turned against me also and so have my siblings..never believing me. I was blessed with two of the most wonderful children in the world who believe in me and love me with all their hearts and this has helped me along my journey. I am so sorry you suffered as you did, I pray that God will always be there for you and comfort you. You are right..Love is liberating and I feel hate and holding grudges puts us in a kind of prison., a prison I have broken out of. Take care of yourself and God Bless you.

  • @lavernebell6274
    @lavernebell6274 ปีที่แล้ว +568

    I’ve been through this from age 5 to 15 yrs old. My stepfather was the culprit.
    Then went onto being homeless, having intimate experiences with men much older than me. Onto many broken relationships, losing friends from me lashing out.
    Finally at 63 yrs old, yes a lifetime of misery and a broken world I have found a beautiful therapist who is looking after me.

    • @Rose_budd
      @Rose_budd ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Rooting for u!

    • @tdeo2141
      @tdeo2141 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I wish you lots of peace and healing.
      I know how distressing it is when it happens right at home, a place that is supposed to be safe and comfortable when the exact opposite happens.

    • @MrEpz4321
      @MrEpz4321 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your mother was the culprit. Look up single mother statistics.

    • @idamaebennett9965
      @idamaebennett9965 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Am sorry you experience such evil

    • @carolinareaper8089
      @carolinareaper8089 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I sent my ❤ love and support to you! Reeder you are amazing person and you mean a world !!!! Don’t be hard on yourself! I am sure your guardian angel is watching over you! I wish you only good days and a lot of sun ☀️ and happiness! Sending hugs 🤗

  • @Strength_In_Wisdom
    @Strength_In_Wisdom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1965

    Does anyone feel how much love she carries in her heart. Really you can feel her love.
    You're an amazing soul Marisol

    • @kevinkinney5445
      @kevinkinney5445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      How do like being an empath?

    • @kevinkinney5445
      @kevinkinney5445 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do like being an empath?

    • @wesleyalan9179
      @wesleyalan9179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I completely understand, Growth

    • @Strength_In_Wisdom
      @Strength_In_Wisdom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@kevinkinney5445 😁 Being such has become a whole lot easier. It's like being the actual sun.

    • @marismoodswings
      @marismoodswings 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Thank you so much Growth for listening! May God bless you!!! ♥️

  • @LiaLia-fu1di
    @LiaLia-fu1di ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Damn she says she has so much respect for her dad. If I was her dad I don't think I could ever forgive myself for not being there for her when that's supposed to be his job. She was failed big time. May God always be with her and keep her strong

  • @deeyoung8611
    @deeyoung8611 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    “Therapy is life”. Absolutely love this. It saved me too and I’ve been a therapist for over a decade to provide the same support and unconditional positive regard for each client who has been violated, minimized, marginalized, abused. I tell people, you don’t need therapy, but instead you deserve it.

  • @Magoodw
    @Magoodw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +670

    “You don’t define me. And I forgive you”. - She set herself free with those words. She will be unstoppable in life in all that she does. She is a Survivor. What a Beautiful Soul.

    • @JaneSpades
      @JaneSpades 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Let's hope she does better

    • @JaneSpades
      @JaneSpades 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She's beautiful. Sorry forryakkvpain and dad see was a beast

    • @angie_is_tired
      @angie_is_tired 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good god, i’d read your comment before she said those words during the interview …
      Your comment literally struck me sober.
      I don’t know you; you don’t know me. But it’s so weird how the things we say can help people …
      God bless ✌️

    • @carlmorgan8452
      @carlmorgan8452 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She has her own youtube channel now....sharing and helping others on it too ... may God bless her 🙏❤

  • @GaiaDay66
    @GaiaDay66 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1390

    As a licensed therapist…I want to say to you Marisol. Thank you 🙏🏾 for telling your story. Your poise and eloquence in speaking your truth, brought me to tears. I want to let you know you are loved and appreciated. Your story…sadly to say is a similar story I’ve heard in my practice, more times than I want to count. Someone here needed to hear this today. Thank you so very much for sharing you don’t how many you’ve helped.

    • @shawnscott5647
      @shawnscott5647 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I have been through the same way things. I have a therapist but I don't really know how to talk to him about it. Were can I find a female therapist.

    • @GaiaDay66
      @GaiaDay66 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@shawnscott5647
      Hi Shawn,
      There are several different ways you can seek out therapy and ask for a female. First, if you have insurance you can call your insurance provider and ask the rep to send you a list of in-network female providers in your zip code. Another, also way is that there a lot of new online platforms and in person centers that are nationwide like, BetterHelp and Thrive Counseling that you can ask for a female. Also free counseling and support in organizations like RAINN and Mending the Soul. I hope this helpful, thank you for reaching out.
      I hope you find someone, your courage to ask for guidance, is very much an indication that you’re ready to receive it.
      With love and appreciation of you reaching out, I wish you the best.
      Gail

    • @alyssacozart716
      @alyssacozart716 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Truth

    • @Ygonnaeatthat3136
      @Ygonnaeatthat3136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Gail, I've lost all confidence in the therapist I've been seeing for three years now. Before, we would discuss and work towards goals of getting better. Now, our time consists of catching up and addressing trivial instances of events that recently transpired.
      Have you ever encountered this and how should I approach resolving this? Thank you.

    • @northernstar7162
      @northernstar7162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Ygonnaeatthat3136 It sounds to me like you and your therapist have outgrown each other? Maybe you could use the suggestions/advice offered in Gail's second comment and start looking for a new therapist?

  • @sue5158
    @sue5158 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I recall the embarrassments of being abused in f4ont of others. Itvadds a whole new level of shame. Its like, " I must be so bad to be treated 5his way. And now everyone knows". My parents mirror Marisols. Thanks for sharing. We aren't alone. We aren't to blame. Xx

  • @nora__
    @nora__ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    It’s so unsettling how common it is for people to experience this abuse everywhere they turn as they’re growing up. Thank goodness her teacher recognized something was up and did the right thing. Glad she has gotten help and is healing now.

  • @megancgreen
    @megancgreen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +500

    The amount of adults in this child’s life who utterly failed her is staggering. I’m angry at them, but so in awe of Marisol’s strength and wisdom.

    • @nicksterp2805
      @nicksterp2805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      just awful how her family shunned her when SHE was the victim

    • @user-lk1qx7gb5o
      @user-lk1qx7gb5o 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      That's very common, adults inside the home, schools and community all turn the other way. No one wants to get involved. Which in my opinion is the worst part of the crime. You see this public neglect to a lesser degree everyday at grocery stores, fairs, events..the general public will walk right past a crying child alone without a parent in a public place. I've had to jump to the rescue hundreds of times in my life in public places for children and animals.

    • @dawsonb5569
      @dawsonb5569 ปีที่แล้ว

      What if you had said, "No! I don't want to do this!"

    • @dawsonb5569
      @dawsonb5569 ปีที่แล้ว

      Praise God!! You told on them!!

    • @jaymegallo5575
      @jaymegallo5575 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@dawsonb5569and it would still happen. people say no all the time and they are still forced to do things. how ignorant of you.

  • @Lunapoodles
    @Lunapoodles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    Therapy has saved her...she knows her boundaries, understands its not her fault and not her shame to carry anymore. POWERFULL!!!!

  • @nadiasoho1
    @nadiasoho1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Marisol, you telling yourself to ‘snap out of it’ made me burst out crying. The fact that you had been through hell and back, the hurt, the mental and physical pain, the failures of those around you… and you still had the strength to say that to yourself…is mind blowing and epic. You are a warrior of life and deserve the the best of everything. Your strength is other worldly and I want to say you are loved. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏽♥️

  • @fhoeflich
    @fhoeflich ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I thought I was a pretty hardened SWU viewer - had really heard it all by now - and then came Mari. You'd have to be made of stone to watch and listen to this angel of a woman tell her story and not shed tears over it. Mark himself hardly said a word this time, because she said it all for us. But if she could survive to this point, she can survive anything. 💪💐

  • @nursenikki513
    @nursenikki513 2 ปีที่แล้ว +555

    My heart aches for Marisol. I was also sexually abused as a child, physically abused by my mother and mentally by my stepfather. The one silver lining for me though was a grandfather who knew what I was going through and as a teenager made me come live with him. He taught me that I was deserving of love. It was bc of him and my grandmother that I’m am a successful adult today. I miss them so much.

    • @hesbonkiproticharapkirwa9097
      @hesbonkiproticharapkirwa9097 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sorry 🙂.

    • @mimilalla6197
      @mimilalla6197 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      God bless your grandparents

    • @RGTomoenage11
      @RGTomoenage11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are deserving of Love, God bless you

    • @Katenpotatoes
      @Katenpotatoes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My mimi saved me from alot too, i miss her terribly.

    • @jennykaur7055
      @jennykaur7055 ปีที่แล้ว

      God bless your grandparents and god bless you.

  • @specialk5579
    @specialk5579 2 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    The traumatic experiences of incest & sexual abuse by her siblings still haunts her immensely praying u find peace in ur soul to b happy

  • @freelivinglyd5309
    @freelivinglyd5309 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    Your encounter with Jesus brought me to tears. You’re a resilient woman.

  • @itsjust_deanna
    @itsjust_deanna ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I remember seeing your video a year ago. I cried and was touched so deeply by your vulnerability and bravery for speaking out on things that aren’t easy to speak about. I was incredibly inspired by you. So I reached out to Mark myself and a year later I was able to share my story on here as well. It was so empowering and I thank you so much for sharing and being so strong ❤

    • @krischanlive
      @krischanlive 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I watched your interview, it was very touching.. hope you're doing alright 😊

    • @itsjust_deanna
      @itsjust_deanna 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@krischanlive Thank you so much! Yes, I’m doing much better these days 🙏🏼

    • @krischanlive
      @krischanlive 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@itsjust_deanna That's great, I'm glad 😇

    • @JesusistheonetrueGod
      @JesusistheonetrueGod 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Go with God. There is hope in Lord Jesus

  • @kimsekulski4328
    @kimsekulski4328 ปีที่แล้ว +507

    I could feel her trauma. I could see her relive it as she was sharing it. Heartbreaking. I wish her healing and the life she deserves free from her past.

    • @pinkpugginz
      @pinkpugginz ปีที่แล้ว +10

      her dad seriously pissed me off. I bet he knew what was going on the whole time

  • @maureenmartini5094
    @maureenmartini5094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +467

    Her parents are examples of people who should never have had children. I am so sorry she was abused her entire life. She has strength beyond belief. So well spoken and eloquent. She should be a writer. I am in complete admiration of her survival and just her as a person. I wish her peace and love and happiness...she deserves all good things. I lost it when Mark hugged her. This is the MOST impactful video he has ever made.

    • @Catalinaobregon
      @Catalinaobregon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Unfortunately broken people have children everyday. It’s takes a Marisol to stop the madness. Fortunately there are Marisol’s out there to do just that.

    • @gracemurrayart
      @gracemurrayart 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      She'd write an incredible book

    • @kadeelacayo4806
      @kadeelacayo4806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Not her parents , her mother. Her father did the best he could

    • @femmedraven
      @femmedraven 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@kadeelacayo4806 Until he stood up for his sons and treated her like garbage when she finally told the truth.

    • @ashleyp2625
      @ashleyp2625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She should definitely be a writer. I would love to read anything she wrote. The strength she has is so admirable. So sorry she had to go through this in her childhood. I wish those who hurt her would have gotten their punishment. Horrible disgusting people.

  • @superunknown70
    @superunknown70 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    When she describes the way she seized control of her life for herself @ 42:45 was really inspiring. She chose not to live in a victimized state of mind for the rest of her life. I'm struggling to find the right words. Marisol, YOU are a freaking bad ass!! I hope your life, the one you create gives you every happiness you deserve!! Best wishes and thank you for sharing.

  • @user-et4yy7gw3u
    @user-et4yy7gw3u 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I’m not sure how I came across this.?! I watched the movie Sound of Freedom and have been so moved that I can’t stop researching and learning about all the types of trafficking molestation trauma abuse etc…
    Your story hurt my heart. I cried numerous times. I’m so sorry
    I have to encourage you now and say
    YOU MADE IT!!
    KEEP THAT HEAD UP!!
    You survived and now I pray you thrive!
    You truly are stunningly beautiful inside and out!
    God is and will continue to use you to help others in similar situations past and present.
    I’m so very sorry no one has apologized to you. Their loss and issues, not yours! Their deep rooted issues themselves are what keep them from apologizing.
    I pray and pray you can realize( if you haven’t already) it’s NOT YOU.
    You should be given a Medal of Honor for surviving your abuse! They are in the WRONG 10000000%
    I pray you get so strong and happy and healthy that you can feel amazing about yourself and LIVE AGAIN! You deserve a beautiful ending. I am praying for you ! ❤ God bless you sweet girl!

  • @nikkikrow2211
    @nikkikrow2211 2 ปีที่แล้ว +282

    In spite of having a horrific child marked by abuse, Mari blossomed into a beautiful, sweet young lady.

  • @ginaseaton3646
    @ginaseaton3646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +217

    "But at night, who's gonna protect me from THEM" Wow. This sentence cut through me like a knife. Peace and Love Marisol

    • @olivia-hh9ml
      @olivia-hh9ml 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It gives me chills, so sad

    • @karenevanoff8586
      @karenevanoff8586 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@olivia-hh9ml Same.

    • @user-cf2ky4fc1c
      @user-cf2ky4fc1c 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But why did they abuse their sister? As they knew what they were doing...

  • @529Missy
    @529Missy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    This is the saddest one I’ve seen on this channel. I’m literally crying. Girl you are beautiful and worth more than you know ❤

  • @lisaclaire4679
    @lisaclaire4679 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    You’re a brave young woman. Your story will help thousands, possibly millions, speak the Truth and out their abusers.
    Thanks for hugging her for us, Mark.

  • @whitebread-bn3ve
    @whitebread-bn3ve 2 ปีที่แล้ว +582

    A 45 year old white guy from the sticks who lived something similar. My entire life has been messed up from it. I feel for you sis. When our siblings mess us up, no one can understand. Stay strong!

    • @niaprice3267
      @niaprice3267 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      We see you too White Bread!!! We are with you in Spirit! May you continue to heal and shine bright!!

    • @ellamayoxoxo9510
      @ellamayoxoxo9510 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      That’s so fucked up 😔 I’m so sorry my friend

    • @ms.chacon7920
      @ms.chacon7920 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Love and Light and Healing to you 🙏

    • @RayleneG679
      @RayleneG679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      💔❣🤟🏻🙏

    • @syeager2389
      @syeager2389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Take care. Best wishes n Blessing in the New Year 2022. 💖

  • @kimle190
    @kimle190 2 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    The fact that her siblings used to abuse her like that suggest to me that they were also abused in the same way growing up. The fact that her dad didn't defend her and wanted her to lie for her abusers suggest to me that he thinks its ok and may have abused the oldest siblings in the same way.

    • @EddyG0rdo
      @EddyG0rdo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Yea, someone had to teach them. Kids don’t just grow up sexualized at a young age. She didn’t mention the age gaps, but still they couldn’t be more than 5 or 6 years older Someone had to manipulate the brothers. Its so sad.

    • @GetTheeBehindMe23
      @GetTheeBehindMe23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @Claire Joy Lives : The mom sounds more emotionally angry… The kind of mother that beat the crap out of their kid for the smallest thing. She made it seem like her mother just beat her but I’m sure if her sisters can tell their stories it will be very similar to hers.

    • @thematriarchy2075
      @thematriarchy2075 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@GetTheeBehindMe23 And the mother was most likely denied to just be a frikkin human being when she grew up. The cycle.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      None of it means her father was the abuser.

    • @kadeelacayo4806
      @kadeelacayo4806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Why do you jump to the father ? The mother was the abusive parent that ran off. Also, I was never abused or taught anything about sex and I had a lot of sexual thoughts VERY young

  • @BerryOng
    @BerryOng ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I am also a domestic violence survivor and thank you for sharing your story. You have strength to walk out of tragedy made by abusers. Hope you get happiness and you deserve it. Best wishes

  • @tonioceans7727
    @tonioceans7727 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Thank you Mark for giving Marisol the platform to express her authentic self, give rest to her past and hope for her future. Thank you Marisol for being strong and hanging in so that you could give inspiration and love to others through your story. I pray many blessings upon your life.

  • @vivio2852
    @vivio2852 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    You are the black sheep because you’re the only one who’s not messed up. What a courageous, gentle spirit you have. I hope your light keeps shining.

  • @yyg4632
    @yyg4632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    A teacher literally has lives in their hands. God bless those 2 teachers who took time out of their lives to actually worry about her problems and literally improve her life so much. Heroes.

  • @thomasmiller1670
    @thomasmiller1670 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That's a powerful woman right there. Smart, beautiful and so well spoken. I'm clapping and crying for you. You're unstoppable

  • @iyabinghiashantitafari1360
    @iyabinghiashantitafari1360 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "I cried with so much joy"
    I felt that deep in my soul.

  • @jadeharper4623
    @jadeharper4623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +505

    I wonder if she knows how poetic she is. It’s truly beautiful. She said she couldn’t hear what her mom was saying over the feeling of the cold water hitting her body. Though I’ve never actually felt that, I felt her words. And then she described the feeling of the warmth of the sun on your face in a car ride, and that red color when your eyes are closed. I would’ve have never known to use those descriptors of that feeling, yet I knew exactly what she was talking about. She speaks like how my favorite writers, write: Zora Neale Hurston and Maya Angelou.

    • @ashleyjade570
      @ashleyjade570 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      OMG YES!

    • @noelhickman1048
      @noelhickman1048 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes! I totally agree 💭📖💕

    • @user-sh2mk8ew4c
      @user-sh2mk8ew4c 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No she does not. She need to be told daily what a wonderful lady she is.

    • @pamelaroach319
      @pamelaroach319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes the ones that walk with pain write poetry to keep us sane.though broken down and defeated feeling like we have been cheated.we find peace in small things like how the waves crash or a bird sings.we started out brokenhearted and without a chance now we can be free and to the moonlight we shall dance.

    • @jviarruel
      @jviarruel 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes!!! 🙏

  • @kdog9104
    @kdog9104 2 ปีที่แล้ว +467

    I know her inner child is so proud of her for standing up on this platform and strongly telling her story and helping others who may be going through similar things. Thank you Mari

  • @elaibesummers906
    @elaibesummers906 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I just came across your story Marisol. So sorry you had such a traumatic childhood. You are one of the most strongest person I know for having the courage to tell your story. I can relate to so much issues you had as a child survivor myself. I can't help crying. I never understood why I was an angry person and I also developed disorders, which to this day I still have. I also had no boundaries. Embarrassment, shame and blame is not yours to own. It was not your fault. Your a beautiful, strong woman. God wants you here for a purpose. Thank you for sharing your difficult story. I pray continuous healing over your life xx

  • @Juviosa_
    @Juviosa_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Man that hug at the end broke me 💔 What a story, thank you so much for your courage to share this. Its so important!

  • @ruhiyyakhaspoladli4332
    @ruhiyyakhaspoladli4332 ปีที่แล้ว +603

    started crying at min 8 as a person who face sexual abuse when i was a kid. you are very very strong Mari! God bless you!

    • @forever-rosebud
      @forever-rosebud ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💛

    • @hannahkayee831
      @hannahkayee831 ปีที่แล้ว

      Her mom should be in jail.....

    • @MiraSky
      @MiraSky ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same, I felt like she was speaking FOR ME!!

    • @tdeo2141
      @tdeo2141 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is particularly distressing when the abuse happens by a sibling.
      I've been there as well and wish you all peace and healing.

    • @jerrynospringer2516
      @jerrynospringer2516 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do not call her Mari, you don’t know her

  • @KathleenHemrich
    @KathleenHemrich 2 ปีที่แล้ว +553

    Thank you Marisol! I'm a therapist and am so thankful that you had the bravery to share your story. Your story, your voice helps others who cannot tell their story. And thank you Mark for giving us the privilege of wathching such courageous beings. Bless you.

    • @bettynelson5361
      @bettynelson5361 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Very brave indeed, I relate to her and could not tell my story for all to see. I'm praying she finds a peaceful life. I've been in counseling over 40 yrs. Hopefully it happens for her in less time. 🙏⚘

    • @KathleenHemrich
      @KathleenHemrich 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@bettynelson5361 I agree Betty! I actually have my own TH-cam channel and tell a bit of my story intermixed with counseling tips/tools but it's nothing compared to what Marisol went through. It reminds me of Maya Angelou the writer who wrote I know why the caged bird sings - after her trauma she stopped talking for some years as a little girl and then she said something akin to "Once I started talking again, you could not stop me" So powerful and I see Marisol this way.

    • @teresamyers6992
      @teresamyers6992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Everyone in this comment section is a therapist,

  • @abigailreid8667
    @abigailreid8667 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I was holding strong until that dream/experience.... You can just hear the trauma in this woman. Praise the Lord she has overcome!!!!

  • @ashleymcilroy3779
    @ashleymcilroy3779 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    You’re so resilient. I wish more people spoke out about their trauma. It could prevent so much and save so many lives. Aloha from all of us in Hawaii. Xxxo

  • @pattys7775
    @pattys7775 2 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    I've never seen Mark hug any of his guest speakers. I immediately broke down when he hugged Marisol 😭💔

    • @h.fmarie6369
      @h.fmarie6369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I made it through this one without crying... Until the hug

    • @tommyc4123
      @tommyc4123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Loss for words

  • @ethanyarboro1745
    @ethanyarboro1745 2 ปีที่แล้ว +275

    It’s a miracle that she’s not strung out and on the streets. Too many times that’s the case with that sort of sexual abuse that you hear stories about on this channel. She is def a beauty too and could have a career on film or modeling, or anything she wants- she’s an all around boss. Sending Love and strength from Washington D.C

    • @marisela7825
      @marisela7825 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Say that LOUDER for the people in the back! You hit the nail on the head!

    • @SmartMoveGraphics
      @SmartMoveGraphics 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Well said.

    • @lolsamftw
      @lolsamftw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I honestly think its because she's been honest with herself. She's admitted what happened and told others. It helps A LOT with trauma. A lot of these junkies on the streets havnt been honest with themselves since childhood. Its eating them alive.

  • @xtinabellarini9393
    @xtinabellarini9393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It’s unfathomable that anyone could do that to a child……but siblings?? And even the sister?? I just can’t

    • @sbb998
      @sbb998 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This kind of behavior is typically a result of being victimized themselves as young children. Not excusing it, just it is the typical cause of this behavior amongst siblings.

  • @ccziv
    @ccziv ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This interview means so much to me. Mark, thank you for your brilliant work. You’re definitely in the top five of “any person, alive or dead, whom [you] would most like to have a conversation with.” And thank you, Marisol, for being that person for whom I have searched my entire life and, in you, found. You have the capacity for greatness; please stake your claim. ❤❤❤

  • @loriedwards4953
    @loriedwards4953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I started telling my daughter at 2, That no one should ever touch her private area's. That it was not allowed or ok. That if she felt something wasn't right to tell me, a teacher, grandparents. Never be afraid to talk about these things with your kids. I think kids need to be taught from a very early age that SA, isn't there fault, and they can & should have a place to learn that the person hurting them will scare them into staying quite.

    • @ally4ever
      @ally4ever 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      This comment really hit me hard. I am a child that was also sexual abused as a child and now I am a mother of a daughter. I too started talking to her about her sexual parts at 2 while showering her. She is now 6 and I speak to her about sooooo many mature topics. I just need her to be prepared for this cruel world. People that have not experienced trauma as a child will never understand but “who feels it knows”.

    • @350BMW09
      @350BMW09 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ditto! My husband and I started talking to our daughter at 2 as well. It is so important to drill this lesson down early!

    • @jenniferlacorazza1575
      @jenniferlacorazza1575 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ditto

    • @loriedwards4953
      @loriedwards4953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ally4ever , I know your pain very well. I've sadly heard to many children say that as a child they were afraid to tell anyone because of the fear the abuser caused. But, they always would add, at 1st I didn't understand what was happening was wrong. Would my daughter tell me if someone touched her inappropriate. I honestly didn't know, that scared me into talking to her regularly about these things. I would also discuss things during bath time. Because it was a opportunity to teach her what is & isn't allowed. Very sad world we live in today.

    • @amandahuber6639
      @amandahuber6639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well done! My mother also told me about "good and bad touches" and it saved me! I was in a bad situation when I was 9, as soon as I realized what the other person's intent was I got out of that situation immediately. Forever grateful for my mother who taught me boundaries. I told my brother right away and he had the same experience with the same kid and we banned together to stay safe.

  • @sandife4nandes365
    @sandife4nandes365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Another important note. In Hispanic culture, therapy ( psychology, psychiatrist) is not discussed. It is looked down upon as you must be CRAZY to seek emotional help. So, it's not something we are aware of. We have to learn to seek help.

    • @TrainStopReads
      @TrainStopReads 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes I am Hispanic and I had a very abusive mother and what you say is exactly correct

    • @febrero161
      @febrero161 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True true

    • @neciu7686
      @neciu7686 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same in the blk community...your looked at as crazy...

    • @sandife4nandes365
      @sandife4nandes365 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are right.

    • @j.6549
      @j.6549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I’m not Hispanic but it’s the same in the black community. There’s a lot of what I call “toxic Christianity” where people tell you “just pray about it”. It needs to stop.

  • @AnnickS89
    @AnnickS89 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    How beautiful she is! Sharing so much love and grace despite such horrible experiences. A true inspiration, thank you!

  • @dawn6954
    @dawn6954 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yup hardest video thus far... dealt with this type of abuse. I think the worst part of growing up with family incest is when it becomes known, and blame is placed on the victim, there's no coming back from that aspect of the abuse alone. Especially at a young age you become programmed to believe you are the cause, harbor all the shame guilt and condemnation upon yourself as if you were the perpetrator while the actual perpetrator goes unscathed and loved. I will never understand how or.why family's can do that. Much love to this woman. Prayers for full healing.

  • @smokewolf8746
    @smokewolf8746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    I love how he just put her name, no title could do her story justice. Such a beautiful woman on the inside and out, and has such a great laugh but you can tell she laughs rarely which makes it even more beautiful

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The original title was censored by YT

    • @sereneserene8
      @sereneserene8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@samuelelder9434 what was it?

    • @janetmcbee
      @janetmcbee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@samuelelder9434 why!!! The truth is the truth, and she doesn't realize, with speaking up, or, out, how much she's helping herself, and Soooo many others .
      Right

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sereneserene8 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @samuelelder9434
      @samuelelder9434 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@janetmcbee sounds like you’re arguing with me about something

  • @blane2472
    @blane2472 2 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    The dad's reaction to the SA makes me think he knew/ suspected what was happening but just didn't do anything, either consciously or because he felt too exhausted. No father should react that way and he might have worked his ass off for these kids but he failed as a father nonetheless.

    • @nechelewatts9127
      @nechelewatts9127 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      100% Truth

    • @sandypandy5506
      @sandypandy5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      F a I l e d

    • @naturallaw1733
      @naturallaw1733 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      probably just worked too much and didn't have much time for anything else. so any suspicion would have just turned into denial.

    • @sgvwes3505
      @sgvwes3505 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      He was a piece of shit. In my opinion

    • @diduck6878
      @diduck6878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@sgvwes3505 raising 7 kids by himself, = piece of shit???. There's guys that run away from the responsibility of 1.

  • @fayeclawson6662
    @fayeclawson6662 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You're so brave to tell your story. I went through all this, too. Not by my siblings but cousin and neighbors. I'm finally getting help with this. I'm finally talking about it. It's so painful. I went into a deep depression these last couple of years. I'm 52 and finally dealing with it. Prayers and continued healing for you. You're a beautiful lady. Thanks for sharing.

  • @jasonconley771
    @jasonconley771 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You showed your strength by surviving the hell you went through at home. Nobody should ever have to experience that type of torture, especially from family!! Keep your head up! Stay strong!

  • @orpha9031
    @orpha9031 ปีที่แล้ว +284

    Powerful story.
    By the time I came to grips with childhood sexual abuse I was 57 and my abuser was deceased. I wrote out a "mock" police report detailing the abuse. It brought me much healing. I ended up burning it. Marisol, go forth and conquer! We deserve peace and happiness 😊.

    • @ashly9379
      @ashly9379 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      you are a very strong and brave person. im sorry that has happened to you ❤️

    • @gemcove5783
      @gemcove5783 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Great idea. I too had a situation with a next door neighbor. Never told a soul because my Mom was Crazy & would have killed him. When he died. I had a party! I got thru my childhood trauma with a lot of therapy. I wish I had said something to someone.

  • @Timsgal777
    @Timsgal777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    These feelings she had of blame are exactly why I never told on my uncle, and now I have major problems at 59. You did the right thing sweety.

    • @icecreamman1
      @icecreamman1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Please get help it’s never too late.

    • @jenrich111
      @jenrich111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes, when we become Grandma age we truely realise the depth of damage and our innocence stolen and whole life shadowed by the betrayal and abandonment

    • @janpangilinan2979
      @janpangilinan2979 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My heart is with you.. You're a amazing strong woman. Bring inspiration to all women who needs guidance.

    • @MandenTV
      @MandenTV 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Didn’t tell anyone then, don’t stop now. Getting help now won’t actually help.

  • @BeautyandtheBeeze
    @BeautyandtheBeeze 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    She is so brave and so strong. And I'm both in tears and in awe of her strength and perseverance.

  • @ingeborggrosse
    @ingeborggrosse 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It makes me so angry (!!) how these people extinguish a soul in a second without even caring for it. And it goes to my heart how long these souls take to find healing. I am so proud of Mari for finding her healing and for her courage to share her trauma with us. ❤

  • @pepper1188
    @pepper1188 2 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    I understand..I got away from my "family" at 15 and never looked back. People raised with love are so lucky. God bless this woman.

    • @novelaego2404
      @novelaego2404 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      i can barely go visit each time i do it hurts

  • @lesliejohnson1138
    @lesliejohnson1138 2 ปีที่แล้ว +690

    Thank you, Mark, for knowing to be mostly silent while Mari told her story. She had quite a story to tell and she did it so beautifully. You knew something magical was happening and your silence let it unfold. Mari, you are a gifted person. Your telling of your story took my breath away. You are awesome and I hope you take the world by storm!

    • @albertohernandez2540
      @albertohernandez2540 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hispanics already un the majiriaty un los ángeles,Leslie TIC TAC TIC tac,the poder of Moctezuma

    • @whofarted2903
      @whofarted2903 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi yeah same this poor girl Marisol
      Also took my breath away
      Does anyone know what that meant for me please ?
      I'm so sorry to her ❤️

    • @mariemonn8912
      @mariemonn8912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Mark always allow the silence….a good trauma counselor know not to interrupt also….

    • @katrinascheuermann763
      @katrinascheuermann763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree 100%

    • @ohlottie
      @ohlottie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Here here to your comment. It’s exactly how I felt listening to Marisol.

  • @Fairydust74k
    @Fairydust74k ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The way she let it all out at the end 💔
    I’m so sorry bbg. I hope you heal and have the most beautiful days and wonderful people surrounding you

  • @56brever
    @56brever 2 ปีที่แล้ว +758

    This is one of the most compelling testimonies I've ever heard. God, please protect and bless this beautiful soul.

    • @viva2pk
      @viva2pk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Amen 🙏 May she have many blessings in this life and protection.

    • @unclesamzbastardsonu.s.b.s9315
      @unclesamzbastardsonu.s.b.s9315 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol, your god let it happen.

    • @nomadsteve5297
      @nomadsteve5297 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your god sat back and watched this poor child being abused for years and never did anything to help,
      Your god sounds like a real evil b&£ta£#

    • @kerifernandez
      @kerifernandez ปีที่แล้ว

      God didn’t protect her bc there is no god.

    • @anna-marialestrade6698
      @anna-marialestrade6698 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Marisol, you're such a wonderful person.... Sweet, gentle, kind, sensitive, intelligent and absolutely gorgeous!
      I can't describe how enraged I am about your history! I wish there was a way I could help you. I've watched this video a couple of times since it was posted and my heart chatters in a thousand pieces. Every time. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @andreak6132
    @andreak6132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +301

    This was the most emotionally intense thing I have ever watched. Never have I ever cried so hard for a perfect stranger.
    God bless your beautiful shining soul, Marisol.

    • @alwaysmoreme
      @alwaysmoreme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your God should have blessed her by saving her from years of being raped by her brothers.

  • @lorrainefagan3579
    @lorrainefagan3579 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You are an amazing strong woman , NEVER FORGET THAT ! I’m so sorry you went through this alone ❤ sending you the biggest huggs from Ireland 🇮🇪 ❤

  • @veronicaaldaco2140
    @veronicaaldaco2140 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Marisol, you’re a chingona and a guerrera! Your resilience, grit and determination have helped you survive your traumatic childhood. Blessings to you❤

  • @_Cristina_
    @_Cristina_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +316

    How articulate is her language, she sounds so intelligent and educated! And her smile is like the sun after the rain, just like her name suggests.

    • @Sunshine-gh6vy
      @Sunshine-gh6vy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That comment was beautifully written. When she laughed & I saw her smile it made me smile. Look at a person & you Can’t believe what a person is going through in life. Makes you aware to treat everyone kind

    • @subcool1762
      @subcool1762 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Imagine how much smarter she would be if she would of been in a good family that cared and showed her the way..

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@subcool1762 Educated, not smarter.

    • @kali4good
      @kali4good 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Why is everyone so surprised when someone comes across as intelligent or educated. Is she not supposed to?? Someone help me out here….

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@kali4good She told us about not being able to read, being passed from grade to grade and skipping school. Most of us know that would affect being able to express and explain ourselves.

  • @lisa4498
    @lisa4498 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Why do people think they have a "right" to have children. Just because we can, does not mean we should be parents. I feel for this woman. The pain she has endured is beyond horrific. I am so very sorry Marisol. I wish you peace.

    • @jw6156
      @jw6156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well the answer to that question is easy: People think they have a right to have children, because they do!
      I feel for the woman, still I ask myself, who do people think they are to even think about who has the right to have children and who has not.
      Because that means totalitarian control - which is always wrong! I am German, I know what I am talking about...
      Children have rights and the state has to protect their rights. That is the solution.

    • @lakishapastures1825
      @lakishapastures1825 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Becoming a parent is a very selfless act. It takes a lot of work.

    • @naomimimi9358
      @naomimimi9358 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@jw6156 completely disagree. Not everyone should become parents, some people are complete degenrates and then eff up the child's life. No one is entitled to have kids lol.

    • @jw6156
      @jw6156 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@naomimimi9358 Do you guys realise, that this is Eugenics? Noone is entitled, to be a Eugenic N..zi and decide who is allowed to have children and who not. So who is the one who allows it then? Big Brother? And what do you wanna do with the people who are not good enough to receive children? Do you want to sterilise them? Or do you want to force them to abort? If you are asking for something like this, you have to have a final solution, right??
      I am German, I know how Eugenics work, You remind me of my own Country around 80 years ago. You have to read more, people, especially the books of history and learn from it. Americans were also very much in the Eugenic ideas and they did it up to last century, do you know that?
      YOU ARE ENTITLED to think that you can allow people to have children. This is China politics as well. Just mad totalitarian communists everywhere.

    • @cryptocred5754
      @cryptocred5754 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jw6156 They simply aren’t thinking deeply enough. Their first emotional reaction tricks them into thinking it’s the logical 1. It’s how the very intelligent evil people or very intelligent politicians are able to socially engineer their power to grow or their horrible ideology to take root. It’s unfortunate, but they people who are disagreeing with you, just don’t know what you mean. It’s frustrating, but I definitely agree with you. As bad as it can get under freedom, it gets soooo much worse when you hand those freedoms over to a state or government.

  • @stevetakacs654
    @stevetakacs654 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    WOW..... Just WOW.. what a strong woman. Marisol's story was hard to listen too. I could not even start to imagine the torment she went through. Thank you for taking the time and effort to put these videos on. If they can help others to seek help and realize they are good people and deserve they love. Your channel is priceless. ✌️

  • @disasterofalldisasters
    @disasterofalldisasters ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is agony just to hear, let alone live through. What a light she is.

  • @SophieMarieWellness
    @SophieMarieWellness ปีที่แล้ว +358

    I am just blown away by her ability to tell her story so eloquently. I’m still sobbing. What an absolute warrior woman. Much love to you Marisol

    • @AmberLovesMystery
      @AmberLovesMystery ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@shottashabazz6721 are you serious? I’m sure she means because just LISTENING to such horror is difficult to get through- let alone recount. Why are you trying to make this about race.
      Do better ❤

    • @blackthornsloe8049
      @blackthornsloe8049 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@shottashabazz6721 energy vampire be gone

    • @dawnmazarati3301
      @dawnmazarati3301 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shottashabazz6721 you're not only a racist piece of shit for making this assumption, but also a loser piece of shit. Only those guilty of racism themselves jump to the race card. The rest of us in the human race give zero fucks about your wounded agenda.

    • @jesseramirez9062
      @jesseramirez9062 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shottashabazz6721 if the first thing you say is about race, you are the racist.

    • @ISa-jy8ol
      @ISa-jy8ol ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shottashabazz6721 Hey Shotta - I just want to make sure you know that your comment here, is the comment of a bad person. Why you making everything about race? It’s obvious you have no idea what it is like to experience adversity.

  • @sirreadsalot786
    @sirreadsalot786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +192

    The part where she states “to everyone else they were good people “resonated. The “upstanding “ individuals in society who are actually monsters and inflict so much damage. I often wonder how they can live with themselves.

    • @heatherholyland157
      @heatherholyland157 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That’s quite the very hardest part to understand , how can abusive people live with themselves , how can you be so evil and sleep at night ?? 😡🥺🥺

  • @rowenar5433
    @rowenar5433 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My heart breaks for you and at the same time very happy for you that you have a strong spirit and wisdom to be able to break out from your trauma. A lot of people would have been lost forever.

  • @stefanievalle1928
    @stefanievalle1928 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It breaks my heart to hear how she still defends them and the ones who were suppose to be there for her and instead condemned her. I know family loyalty is a Major factor for sexual abuse being thrown under the rug especially in hispanic families. Poor baby. She says her father was too busy to know but the way he reacted I wouldn’t doubt he already knew

  • @carpediem2445
    @carpediem2445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    She started crying when she spoke of her boss showing her a picture of his girlfriend which was 14 years old. Her heart broke for her. She stayed strong with no emotions about herself. Sad. I hope she knows that she can cry for herself. She needs it. She deserves it.

    • @daniellejohnson1448
      @daniellejohnson1448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So true. She has such a loving ❤ heart. She in empathetic & you can feel for others sometimes more than you can yourself. Be Blessed