Hi Dr. Erasmus, thank you so much for this video. I learned so from this. I just have a question following up to this video. What if my need arises from the need of predictability, security and communication from my partner? Is there a way to seek that within ourselves, or do we have to let our partner know. At what point do we need to ensure that we don't depend on others for our needs?
Dear Jane - Thank you so much for your awesome question. There is a huge difference between being dependent on others (clingy, needy), independent from others (distant, aloof, disconnected) and being INTER-dependent on others ... In some ways, we DO depend on one another to meet our needs, and part of our growth is from the dependent children in us who "needs" others to show up in a particular way for us to feel safe and secure, to the more mature parts of ourselves who are more able to live with ambiguity and unpredictability. All these parts of ourselves needs love and acceptance ... I have written in more depth about this here, in case you are interested: blog.yvetteerasmus.com/2016/07/05/cultivating-interdependence/
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It is incredible guidance, thank you so much!!
Thank you so much. You put into words exactly what I needed to hear because I have been confused about how to deal with my feelings. Great info!
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I really enjoyed your videos! How can I access your handouts? TYIA :)
Thank you! Great to hear... Many of my key handouts can be found here: programs.yvetteerasmus.com/handouts-worksheets/
Hi Dr. Erasmus, thank you so much for this video. I learned so from this.
I just have a question following up to this video. What if my need arises from the need of predictability, security and communication from my partner? Is there a way to seek that within ourselves, or do we have to let our partner know. At what point do we need to ensure that we don't depend on others for our needs?
Dear Jane - Thank you so much for your awesome question. There is a huge difference between being dependent on others (clingy, needy), independent from others (distant, aloof, disconnected) and being INTER-dependent on others ... In some ways, we DO depend on one another to meet our needs, and part of our growth is from the dependent children in us who "needs" others to show up in a particular way for us to feel safe and secure, to the more mature parts of ourselves who are more able to live with ambiguity and unpredictability. All these parts of ourselves needs love and acceptance ... I have written in more depth about this here, in case you are interested: blog.yvetteerasmus.com/2016/07/05/cultivating-interdependence/