"The narcissist is whoever they have to be at the moment to get what they want." This is especially true about their moral values. What they believe is morally acceptable depends on who they are with at the moment. The narcissist is the ultimate hypocrite not because they willingly contradict their values but, because they actually have no values, at all. This makes them extremely dangerous.
I wholeheartedly agree. It's like a narcissist wants to be a 'tabula rasa' or a clean slate. Just like a white board you can wipe all the markings off with one sweep. 😮 They are changelings with no purpose or cause, very dangerous indeed.
I was involved with a narcissist for a while, not very long. I used to ask myself why I felt so nauseous and miserable in their company when, on the face of it, there was nothing wrong with the person? There was nobody THERE at all, it was all a facade, it felt like I was talking to the living dead from hell. And now if I come across someone like this, I take quick evasive action.
"Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light," hiding the true self to mirror what kind of personality their target would like. This is what roped me into the first marriage. Learning about the behaviors and tendencies of narcissists has helped me recognize all the past experiences that "quack like a duck."
We sleep in separate rooms yet are married, he doesn’t want our son to see us making out (we always lock the door- but this is an excuse in his mind) and then when in-laws come home he is the best son, when other relatives come home, he interacts with me as if everything is fine- but when it’s just us- he has some work or the other- plays his sports everyday without fail ( when he can give me some of his time - at least once a week) he was supposed to come back with a game plan to focus on us as couple- but that has never happened. Also at the starting of our relationship I asked him “what do you like about me” he said “you are just like my Mom” it was such a major flag- i am being kept in this marriage as a front - in his mind I feel his has already devalued and discarded me.
this reminded me of that dexter scene with the donuts where he goes around the office pleasing people with treats pretending hes all innocent and in the end he opens the box and says -just like me: empty inside
Yes, everything you have just stated is so true about my husband. He changes like the wind. I never know from one day to the next what his personality is going to be. On our Morning Show here in Australia, just recently they were discussing narcissistic relationships and the only thing the two compares stated was, "It must be very hard work to live in a relationship with a narcissist." And, indeed, it is extremely hard work. And there is hardly any fun as the personality of a narcissist can change so quickly.
Yes, that very much sounds like the guy I have had a narrow escape from. He was so confusing and you never knew who he would present himself as. He could be about 10 different people in a day and that could change in a moment. I am still recovering from that 'Narcissist Effect' so I hope you, find the ability to escape one day too😔
Oh my God, your words are so true. It's is mind blowing. These days we have to explain people what it means to have a personality. How many are these people around? God help us all.
Many! When you listen to modern mainstream music (which I don't because it makes me nauseous), you hear all the narcissistic works in the lyrics. Very dark.
💯 When you look at personality reference books, there is a lot to learn and it's not exactly a hot topic. I really think that if more attention was given to understand personality and what it means, people can at least begin to find the source of their thoughts and emotions.
One minute sad and depressed. One minute needing to go to the ER. One minute fuming. One minute screaming. One minute begging. One minute lying in bed all day. Next minute can't sit still.
He is definitely a chameleon. Exactly what you said, he wanted to get married, and so we did, though I initiated it, because 18yrs was too long I turned 54yrs and what a big mistake it was 😢. He treats me like either his mother, or his Toy that he doesn't want to play with, or a lamp stand, so he can turn on and off with love bombing, which that stopped because it became flowers when he was happy we made up, cheap and easy. Then he's a child when he uses silent treatment, and then when he decides to be friends again instead of a husband 😢. Boy you have nailed all the points I go through 😢. Praise God for his coming to take his child of God and destroy the child of the devil 🙏
I don't believe in multiple personalities, but I think narcissists enjoy the idea of having this problem so as to avoid responsibility and add mystery to themselves. To a narcissist, any official diagnosis would be a blessing, but they avoid therapy ...so they self-diagnose by adopting whatever hip or edgy illness that might assist them.
It's a very thought-provoking idea that there are no people with multiple personalities. I think that the nature of humanity is unlimited diversification, but people who are severely mentally ill, like narcissists, fall short of being their own person. Instead, they mask or suppress their shame, guilt, lies, rage, pain, etc. and become everything but authentic. Instead of having even one personality, a narcissist doesn't even have one genuine self. It's somewhat ambiguous to call this Narcissistic Personality Disorder, since they generally lack 'personality'. Great topic for discussion on complicated mental illnesses.
@nessauk2786 thank you, I wish it was easier, but there is no full proof treatment for narcissistic personality disorder. It is a puzzling one for sure in psychiatry and criminology. All people can do is look for patterns and hope to find what's hidden underneath all the layers of false selves.🤪
“I don’t believe in multiple personalities.” LOL, you can not believe all you want - though, it certainly exists; and your denial of reality will do nothing to change that. I have been diagnosed with DID and I was raised in a family - and spent a large portion of my time - with someone diagnosed NPD (interestingly, I was treated far better by the one diagnosed, than the ones who weren’t); as well as am an only child, with an immensely neglectful home-life, and few friends when growing up, while living in a rural town. On top of a childhood brain injury. It’s the perfect formula for someone, such as myself, to develop multiple personalities. Especially being a child who spent most of their time alone, when not being abused. I have never - not once - used DID as an excuse for any poor behavior. In fact, no one knows when I “switch” - because these personalities are integrated enough, for me to always be present. At least, to a degree. Though, doesn’t mean I won’t let one of ‘em take the wheel, when necessary. And it’s no one’s business when that happens. I can feel where my two main alters sit, in my brain - one is more of emotionless “protector,” which, sits on the top right side; one is more of my naive side (I am, also, autistic), on my left. I can feel the shift, behind my eyes, when it happens. Though, I can feel the protector behind my right eye - always watching and waiting. Again, no one even knows when it’s happening - and I do not differentiate these personalities, as separate from the main observer, that is myself. I do not talk about this, to anyone, hardly ever. My two close friends know I have been diagnosed with such, and I have mentioned things in passing - though, I don’t talk about it, hardly ever. Or to “add mystery.” Please. How pathetic. If anything, I am mysterious, all on my own. I mean, hell.. Dolly Parton, herself, gave me that very compliment - about my “mysterious look” (her words) - when we were both waiting for an elevator, outside of our doc’s office, at Cedars Sinai Hospital. I don’t need to flaunt my mental illnesses in order to feel good about myself. I have plenty else going for me.
@@norcal1009- You are spot on. Like the movie ‘Single White Female.’ I was raised with diagnosed NPD, in my family - and they have always attempted to absorb anything that may draw attention, regarding another person in the family. My mother bought a mustang. My grandmother bought a mustang. (Never drove it). My grandmother’s companion bought a truck. My grandmother bought a truck. My mother bought a house. My grandmother bought the house next door. My autistic-ass only wears black dresses, and gold jewelry, in the summer - and black leggings, black long sleeve shirts, and boots, in the winter. My mother started only wearing such, during the summer, and leggings/long sleeves black shirts and boots, during the winter. I have always worn leopard print, though, the moment I expressed how excited I was my new leopard guitar strap went so well with my guitar - my mother started wearing leopard print. Anytime I start to talk about my beloved heavy metal music with someone - my mother chimes in about her “favorite” metal band, and how I bought her tickets for her birthday.. When it’s really my all-time favorite metal band I listened to non-stop, and she couldn’t help but learn their music - where I bought tickets to their show, for our birthdays that are a week apart, while she visited me, because I thought it would be cool to go with my mother (prior to my realizing how sadistic she is). These are only a few minor examples. Though, I have had people copy me who aren’t narcissistic, also. From a friend I grew up with getting a tattoo in the same spot and of the same flowers I said I wanted - not long after I said I wanted it (ended up looking like a vagina, though. Totally what she gets). To, legit, having someone “Single White Female” me, while I was dating a guy who had a crush on her (what a mind-f*ck that was. To date a guy who wants a girl, trying to look/act like you.. She might have been a narcissist.. A lot of BS and lies, with her).. To former clients of mine seeing IG photos and doing their hair and shifting their style to look like me.. Which, I am not saying all this to brag or attempt to flaunt I am so original or whatever. I think we’re in an epidemic where people don’t know who they are,-‘d are attempting to do so, the best way they can figure out - because narcissism has, legit, been bred into western society, since the end of WWII. People have been affected by it, en masse. This is why so many people copy the likes of the Kardashian’s, get caught up in celebrity drama, obsess over certain cosmetic procedures, etc. etc. And we’re at a point where not only that, though - where the attempt to consume a person’s personality isn’t just because a person lacks their own personality and is trying to find their way.. It’s, also, an attempt to destroy the person who is the main focus - by engulfing and enmesh everything they are, to where people cannot tell who came first/who was the original, and will cause people to constantly associate the two people, together, from that point forward. I’ve learned that the hard way. Also, I’m from NorCal - howdy, neighbor.
I was married to my narc for 33 years. He had the ability to actually become the person he was with. He’d mirror their behaviour, the tone of their voice, the way they moved - every single little nuance. He’d charm them and use everything they told him, to get what he wanted out of them. He could have won an Oscar for his performances. When we split up, he also discarded our children. He changed his religion, dietary preferences, the way he dressed and the music he listened to - absolutely everything about him. His children were part of who he’d been. They knew he was a narc, and he was no longer getting any supply from them, so he discarded all 6 of us. He’s living a new life, 30 pounds lighter, and physically fit. I fear for his next victim, I mean partner!
The one I have to deal with... I have nicknames for the most common personalities she trots out. Helps me maintain my objectivity during the attempts at manipulation. After enough of these experiences I also concluded that there's nobody home. Written with appreciation for the insight and validation I get from your presentations.
My husband does the shape-shifting stuff all the time. He even copies our sons and tries to wear their clothes. He sleeps in his studio and rarely talks to me. I was so lonely and developed health issues. I moved out and trying to heal.
So true..a jack of all trades.but a failure at all. Ill never lose myself. You have helped me tremendously understand what he really is about.and where this mental illness came from Thank you
I m so grateful to God that I came across your channel Danish. I need all my feelings and thoughts validated because till sometime back I thought I was the crazy ones and always reading between the lines. After seeing your therapideos, I can confirm that I faced narcissistic abuse from family members for the last 4years. This has affected me quite a lot because I do not recognize myself now. The current me is not the actual person who I used to be for the past 30 years. I am trying to heal myself but still struggle on some days. And I strongly believe I do not deserve what I faced.
Your comment touched me because I feel like I don't deserve what happened to me either. 'Therapideos' 😂💟 are a wonderful resource, and I can especially relate to this channel. I'm glad we found it! ☺️
😂 so true, that and reverse projection, when all your good feelings get projected onto them and you think they feel the same way you feel about them. It's like playing with a blank set of cards, all trickery.
Danish you are truly brilliant to encapsulate the Narcissistic behaviour and articulate it. No wonder the victims are so confused. It is an alien life force. I have observed and suffered from this treatment and have often thought I was living in a parallel universe, which I was. But I never thought anyone would understand the strangeness of it all. Thank you so much for your videos, they are a massive strike against darkness and an all embracing force for goodness.
I agree-4 years younger sibling started being me from age 12 and is 51 now- I have disowned her since 13 years ago and her narc illness got worse-i took control by removing her from my life-and loving every moment and no regrets.
This makes so much sense what I got was that I got covertly hypnotized and brainwashed to believe a false facade. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it.
Me too. It seems The narcissist effect is a powerful one and creates all kinds of internal conflict with those that have been exposed to one. Wishing you peace and healing my friend as I wish upon myself, also🕊💚🕊
That is true, Danish! These people have been doing my head in for years and continue to do my head in. Nowadays, I avoid them at the first signs of their mask slipping thanks to obeying my 'spidey sense', silent prayers and grey walling them (in environments where it is avoidable, such as at my local shops or whenever members of my local church would frequent those shops).
I met someone that I liked so much. She was very outgoing. She liked praising, but when she did it, she took it away from you in some seconds just because you got happy by your praise. She was not consistent. I saw that every pieces of advice she gave to me depended on her sense of humour. At that time what helped me was my curiosity. I spent a lot of time trying to understand her behaviour. After a few months, I stopped giving importance on her words. My advice is: even if someone is very close to you, pay attention if their words combine with their actions.❤
So true! My mom is a narc, and has her cosmetology license (so she can get free product and do her own hair) she has a realtor license (so she can move around and make profit off her own mother who was selling her house, she works in a psych ward (uses this as her knowledge of mental health) She has a degree in addiction (to try to figure me out, apparently I’m addicted to weed and my life was doomed lol) But all these careers, while she was in school, the reason was always “so I can take care of my kids! Your mom deserves a career!” And she would treat her whole family like shit, making sure the world absolutely revolves around her every time. And you can’t even talk to her because she thinks she’s an expert in EVERYTHING! Honestly she was nicer when she was fat working at red lobster.
All I can say is Thank You.! These people literally exhaust you. The examples you give are spot on. With your help I understand, at last, what I was dealing with. That you confirm the narcs unbelievable actions is so healing. ❤️
the screenshot that I saw implied that they try to "become you" but then the topic doesn't seem to reflect that - either way I am responding to "they want to become you" - at least in my case it applies. people say, "oh it's flattering", oh really? I can't tell you how boring this is and creepy it is to me but the narc I deal with seems to want to be ME. goes thru my things, digs in my trash, etc., I guess I'm just so fascinating is why .
My mom used to go through all my stuff behind my back..but she did this to find my secrets, faults, flaws and problems .so that she could taunt me in future ..and man! She did ..so awful and painful that experience was..if narc is sneaky then its better to never keep any secrets at home/ in his easy access.. And this is extemely dangerous as well..
I think they are JEALOUS and try to find out all they can about YOU. so be pro active and self protective, I just got back from throwing my trash a half mile away so she can't find out anything about me unless I choose to "plant something" (that is fake) to satisfy her weirdness. yes, be self protective. ugh. @@mumin1115
It's as if they think, at some feeble, unconscious, infantile level, that they can make themselves a whole person simply by directly copying someone who already is one. And that, tragically, is the literal opposite of how one introspects and becomes a whole person. When it inevitably doesn't work, they inevitably respond in an equally infantile way: frustrated rage and projection of blame onto us, the people they tried to copy.
you know what I have felt? I know it sounds bad, but to destroy you, to become you and you aren't important so it is to get rid of you because you make them look inferior or bad. weird. like that POD movie, the body snatchers..........@@tommcewan7936
Anorher good video. How about the narcissists that pretend to be very sick so they can be the victim when they are not getting enough attention. Sometimes they really are sick and they enjoy every minute of it. If you're sick, or grieving it is always mild in their eyes.
Whenever I got seriously ill, my sister (golden child) got 'sicker' but in fact wasn't even ill but she managed to get more attention from our narc mother than I ever got.
Fantastic insights, and you've put them forward very lucidly. My relationship to myself, to my health, to food, to money, to success, to pretty much every damn thing has been ruined by my hideous covert narc parents. Those scumbags! I feel like there's too much stuff to heal and too little time. So I get overwhelmed and start watching cat and dog videos instead...lol Btw, Danish, would you be able to speak about trauma dumping? I have an entitled narc neighbor who constantly seeks me out to trauma dump. I am her favorite emotional vomit bag. How do I stop being a magnet for trauma dumpers?
Maybe try to deflect their attempts by asking them to reach out for help from others so they don't get used to dumping on one person. I recently made suggestions to an acquaintance to look for people with more knowledge in certain areas, that I had no idea whatsoever how to help.
It helps to remind me who he is and what he is by watching the videos .. makes me sad but makes me stronger by knowing what I have dealt with and not to allow it again
That's very helpful, thank you so much. I am so much affected being in a relationship with a narcissist that I started doubting myself having lost all my confidence
You have helped me SO much. Thank you for bringing clarity to a chaotic mess of a human being. The best revenge to their abuse is leaving them alone forever with a mirror.
They fake other’s characters and own them as theirs which in turns confuses people around them. They also try to gain the popularity as that person who they have turned out to be so that people can follow them without knowing their facade.
Fun Fact: The original saying was: "Jack of all trades, Master of one" This is how spec ops units operate, for example. Every soldier is able to perform every other soldiers role but are experts in their normal assigned role. It is a great mentality to apply to every aspect of life. Be well rounded, yet specialize in something.
Reminds me of a lighter kind of socialism, where everyone gets to sample all the aspects of community building. It could be done with teams, but harder to achieve when people do things for a reward.
Yes, lying is what they do to ensure their ego isn't bruised. Lying for a narcissist comes first before the truth because it helps them stay clean from their criminal thinking and illicit behaviors.
Thank you for doing these videos. I find them very educational and I get some comfort knowing that, with the growing awareness of people about narcissists, they won't be as succesful anymore with their strategies, because now we know what we're looking at. The whole shapeshifting thing messes with one's mind. I used to think if I'd just be upfront with people I'd get that back, but then I met a bunch of narcs and it's sad to have to lose confidence in people because of a bunch of bad ones ruining it for the rest.
I had to start recording my interactions so that I could see what he had first said before he changed his story. He is hollow inside, an empty shell. Two weeks out from leaving this monster I'm realizing just how f*cked he really is. More power to the next woman he decides to be with.
They don’t have multiple personalities. They have one personality and that personality comes hand and hand with acting ability that could win an Oscar. They spend their live continually playing a role. The role just depends on who they’re with and what they’re trying to get from them
i think they also enjoy and need to keep people on their toes...they can never let people feel like they have a solid idea of who this person is... they never want to feel like there isnt more to them as a person, more to discover.... but they dont know that theres always more to diacover without intentional ambiguity
I'm dealing with one right now that I have a child with and it is a living hell he manipulates controls we aren't even together he dares me to do anything
"I'd marry you yesterday!" No ring. Living under my roof I paid for... complain about groceries... while I make dinner every single night. "I'm a Buddhist Monk," No... "I'm Christian." It's a game! You don't even know what the game is.... but you're in it! I even asked for the rules. I never got them.
This is avery important video. I think there are much more narcissists out there as we may think, as narcissism has become one of the most important survival techniques of our time especially at our work place. Nobody wants to be held responsible, nobody acts on common values anymore but everybody wants to have success, I have a boss who is exactly like that, when sth. went wrong it was never his fault or wrong decision making. He is deceitful and the truth for him is relative. He copies older colleagues to appear more mature while in reality he is emotionally very immature and codependent. He held his actual girlfriend only as a friend for months while in reality he was in a relationship with her. There was no commitment. He speaks. Bad or harsh about her behind her back and is faking as if he doesn’t love her to keep his options with other girls open. When he speaks you have always the intuition that he is hiding some facts from you and he acts very irrational. He is a narcissist for sure. 😂
The funniest tying is they expect you to be swell, and punishing you if you don't know something that they do. You can't know everything and they can't stand it, I rather be an expert in one thing that average in many.
His FB profile was "Jack of All trades, master of none" it makes sense now. And "No" I nevrr got the chance to know him becuase he kept himself hidden just showered me with outward things.
My X told me she asked a girl if she was married.? She said the girl told her that she didn't want to lose her freedom. Then my X said she told her friend that SHE (X) hadn't lost her freedom. Narcs unwittingly tell on themselves .
I confronted my now-ex-husband with his ever changing values depending on who he was interacting with. He told me he "goes along to get along". He adopts whatever values, traits, and interests his audience has in order to ingratiate himself to them. Now some of these 'values' were pretty core values not just what flavour of ice cream do you like. I was appalled and said "Don't you even have a personality of your own?" He did not answer. And @ 6:53 He actually suggested after 20+ years of marriage that we live as 'roommates'. I have no idea what was going on in his head but he did not ask for a divorce. I sought a divorce so I guess that allowed him to save face with his friends by saying I wanted a divorce. Really f*cked up. Seven years later he has not gotten into another relationship so it's not like he had another lined up.
They have a "personality" it's a four year old that takes hissyfits. For the rest it's a cartoonish version of aspects (usually negative) of people around them that they think will be useful to them or enhance their "image". A serial cheater who appears to be getting away with it or a small successful business owner who is fairly ruthless for example. The narcissist doesn't see that most people find the serial cheater a disgusting person who is damaging their children or the business owner has worked 16 hour days for the last 20 years and doesn't cheat their customers. So you end up with a negative version of said personalities, even worse if the copied personality was already negative. It can be a way to discover a narcissist though, if a personality requires knowledge they seldom know that much about it.
There are various types of narcissists. They have a personality. Their personalities and narcissism combined cause certain characteristics. Not all are rhe same. Some are criminal, others highly religious. Religious types distort reality and want to LOOK perfect. There are covert types that hide their intentions. Only the victim knows. They are great manipulators. Maybe this is what you describe.
YES, only the victim knows. Some of the more psychopathic types of narcissists will have many victims, all of which will have various degrees of harm done to them in some cases. A narcissist can turn a little white lie into something unbelievably sinister. It seems to me that a narcissist's flat personality is a mere reflection of the inner workings of their mind playing out through their harmful intent.
My narc wife do not want to sleep with me in the same room. For 3 years we sleep in separate room. I dont understand this behaivor. Is another behaivour that i dont understand. She stay in the the bed for all the time . During the day she sleep and during all the night she stay in bed dont sleep but is all the night watching the phone.
Lol we were “together” for about 4 months and I had met his dad and all of that and even moved in to stay for a while and he didn’t still officially ask, I lowkey forced him to officially ask me on the spot so I won’t hear the “but I never asked” later on lol
Multiple Personality Disorder as it used to be called is caused by severe trauma in childhood. It's not a choice the person makes like it is for narcissists. I recommend watching some videos by the CTAD clinic on youtube about it. It's really sad. It's a lot like having ptsd. The person can't form a whole personality due the trauma, so they form many different ones to cope but not by choice. Yes severe narcissistic abuse can cause a child to develop "Multiple Personalities" ❤Thanks for the video! Heres a good explanation. th-cam.com/video/qQTPDRB65jQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JLxscAPcLXsdZrca
i am so confused! I just dont understand who he is ! or was! or what is his real ideologies! Just so confused , I dont know if I have a future here! I need help terribly! I dont know how to navigate myself through this! im extremely suicidal ... and the societal pressure is just not giving me any space! somebody HELP!
Here is a good one the sociopath and narcissist just got engaged and of course there exposure on face book shown as the super couple why does he hoover me ?? hypocrite i thank God i am in recovery from this toxic person
This is so ironic, because my narc husband literally says he’s a jack of all trades, master of none where his job/skill set is concerned. Double entendres?
My narcissistic husband would stay in a separate room in the same house and talk with his new supply from srilanka now he has been away to srilanka for about three months no divorce nothing
l have to trust God, Romans 8:28: And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.
It astounds me you can walk away. Put it back on provoke stir listen see how fast operating at cellular speed. You are rinsed spunned out. Questioning how tranformation took place. They say there frail ego so much imphises are over and above excludes out 1 min tells you get out
"The narcissist is whoever they have to be at the moment to get what they want." This is especially true about their moral values. What they believe is morally acceptable depends on who they are with at the moment. The narcissist is the ultimate hypocrite not because they willingly contradict their values but, because they actually have no values, at all. This makes them extremely dangerous.
I wholeheartedly agree. It's like a narcissist wants to be a 'tabula rasa' or a clean slate. Just like a white board you can wipe all the markings off with one sweep. 😮 They are changelings with no purpose or cause, very dangerous indeed.
Zero morals
Now this is true. Different rules of it suits them
I was involved with a narcissist for a while, not very long. I used to ask myself why I felt so nauseous and miserable in their company when, on the face of it, there was nothing wrong with the person? There was nobody THERE at all, it was all a facade, it felt like I was talking to the living dead from hell. And now if I come across someone like this, I take quick evasive action.
we have no idea who people are, it took my uncle years to find out his wife was having an affair, and he is a very good lawyer.
So true! You never know who they really are. They twist everything. Lie brilliantly. Gaslight. And are delusional! Another great video. Thank you! 💗
"Even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light," hiding the true self to mirror what kind of personality their target would like. This is what roped me into the first marriage. Learning about the behaviors and tendencies of narcissists has helped me recognize all the past experiences that "quack like a duck."
I've always said they are chameleons.
We sleep in separate rooms yet are married, he doesn’t want our son to see us making out (we always lock the door- but this is an excuse in his mind) and then when in-laws come home he is the best son, when other relatives come home, he interacts with me as if everything is fine- but when it’s just us- he has some work or the other- plays his sports everyday without fail ( when he can give me some of his time - at least once a week) he was supposed to come back with a game plan to focus on us as couple- but that has never happened. Also at the starting of our relationship I asked him “what do you like about me” he said “you are just like my Mom” it was such a major flag- i am being kept in this marriage as a front - in his mind I feel his has already devalued and discarded me.
Uh oh- the mother wound! Run 🏃♀️
this reminded me of that dexter scene with the donuts where he goes around the office pleasing people with treats pretending hes all innocent and in the end he opens the box and says -just like me: empty inside
Yes, everything you have just stated is so true about my husband. He changes like the wind. I never know from one day to the next what his personality is going to be. On our Morning Show here in Australia, just recently they were discussing narcissistic relationships and the only thing the two compares stated was, "It must be very hard work to live in a relationship with a narcissist." And, indeed, it is extremely hard work. And there is hardly any fun as the personality of a narcissist can change so quickly.
No fun at all when they enjoy watching you spin around like a top searching for answers to simple living and basic relationship building.
Same with my husband.
Yes, that very much sounds like the guy I have had a narrow escape from. He was so confusing and you never knew who he would present himself as. He could be about 10 different people in a day and that could change in a moment. I am still recovering from that 'Narcissist Effect' so I hope you, find the ability to escape one day too😔
Oh my God, your words are so true. It's is mind blowing. These days we have to explain people what it means to have a personality. How many are these people around? God help us all.
Many! When you listen to modern mainstream music (which I don't because it makes me nauseous), you hear all the narcissistic works in the lyrics. Very dark.
Too many people
💯 When you look at personality reference books, there is a lot to learn and it's not exactly a hot topic. I really think that if more attention was given to understand personality and what it means, people can at least begin to find the source of their thoughts and emotions.
One minute sad and depressed. One minute needing to go to the ER. One minute fuming. One minute screaming. One minute begging. One minute lying in bed all day. Next minute can't sit still.
DRAMA Kings and Queens 🤦🏻♀️
There is no rest for wicked people
He is definitely a chameleon.
Exactly what you said, he wanted to get married, and so we did, though I initiated it, because 18yrs was too long I turned 54yrs and what a big mistake it was 😢. He treats me like either his mother, or his Toy that he doesn't want to play with, or a lamp stand, so he can turn on and off with love bombing, which that stopped because it became flowers when he was happy we made up, cheap and easy. Then he's a child when he uses silent treatment, and then when he decides to be friends again instead of a husband 😢. Boy you have nailed all the points I go through 😢. Praise God for his coming to take his child of God and destroy the child of the devil 🙏
I don't believe in multiple personalities, but I think narcissists enjoy the idea of having this problem so as to avoid responsibility and add mystery to themselves. To a narcissist, any official diagnosis would be a blessing, but they avoid therapy ...so they self-diagnose by adopting whatever hip or edgy illness that might assist them.
It's a very thought-provoking idea that there are no people with multiple personalities. I think that the nature of humanity is unlimited diversification, but people who are severely mentally ill, like narcissists, fall short of being their own person. Instead, they mask or suppress their shame, guilt, lies, rage, pain, etc. and become everything but authentic. Instead of having even one personality, a narcissist doesn't even have one genuine self. It's somewhat ambiguous to call this Narcissistic Personality Disorder, since they generally lack 'personality'. Great topic for discussion on complicated mental illnesses.
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@nessauk2786 thank you, I wish it was easier, but there is no full proof treatment for narcissistic personality disorder. It is a puzzling one for sure in psychiatry and criminology. All people can do is look for patterns and hope to find what's hidden underneath all the layers of false selves.🤪
“I don’t believe in multiple personalities.”
LOL, you can not believe all you want - though, it certainly exists; and your denial of reality will do nothing to change that.
I have been diagnosed with DID and I was raised in a family - and spent a large portion of my time - with someone diagnosed NPD (interestingly, I was treated far better by the one diagnosed, than the ones who weren’t); as well as am an only child, with an immensely neglectful home-life, and few friends when growing up, while living in a rural town.
On top of a childhood brain injury.
It’s the perfect formula for someone, such as myself, to develop multiple personalities.
Especially being a child who spent most of their time alone, when not being abused.
I have never - not once - used DID as an excuse for any poor behavior.
In fact, no one knows when I “switch” - because these personalities are integrated enough, for me to always be present.
At least, to a degree.
Though, doesn’t mean I won’t let one of ‘em take the wheel, when necessary.
And it’s no one’s business when that happens.
I can feel where my two main alters sit, in my brain - one is more of emotionless “protector,” which, sits on the top right side; one is more of my naive side (I am, also, autistic), on my left.
I can feel the shift, behind my eyes, when it happens.
Though, I can feel the protector behind my right eye - always watching and waiting.
Again, no one even knows when it’s happening - and I do not differentiate these personalities, as separate from the main observer, that is myself.
I do not talk about this, to anyone, hardly ever.
My two close friends know I have been diagnosed with such, and I have mentioned things in passing - though, I don’t talk about it, hardly ever.
Or to “add mystery.”
Please.
How pathetic.
If anything, I am mysterious, all on my own.
I mean, hell..
Dolly Parton, herself, gave me that very compliment - about my “mysterious look” (her words) - when we were both waiting for an elevator, outside of our doc’s office, at Cedars Sinai Hospital.
I don’t need to flaunt my mental illnesses in order to feel good about myself.
I have plenty else going for me.
@@norcal1009- You are spot on. Like the movie ‘Single White Female.’
I was raised with diagnosed NPD, in my family - and they have always attempted to absorb anything that may draw attention, regarding another person in the family.
My mother bought a mustang.
My grandmother bought a mustang. (Never drove it).
My grandmother’s companion bought a truck.
My grandmother bought a truck.
My mother bought a house.
My grandmother bought the house next door.
My autistic-ass only wears black dresses, and gold jewelry, in the summer - and black leggings, black long sleeve shirts, and boots, in the winter.
My mother started only wearing such, during the summer, and leggings/long sleeves black shirts and boots, during the winter.
I have always worn leopard print, though, the moment I expressed how excited I was my new leopard guitar strap went so well with my guitar - my mother started wearing leopard print.
Anytime I start to talk about my beloved heavy metal music with someone - my mother chimes in about her “favorite” metal band, and how I bought her tickets for her birthday..
When it’s really my all-time favorite metal band I listened to non-stop, and she couldn’t help but learn their music - where I bought tickets to their show, for our birthdays that are a week apart, while she visited me, because I thought it would be cool to go with my mother (prior to my realizing how sadistic she is).
These are only a few minor examples.
Though, I have had people copy me who aren’t narcissistic, also.
From a friend I grew up with getting a tattoo in the same spot and of the same flowers I said I wanted - not long after I said I wanted it (ended up looking like a vagina, though. Totally what she gets).
To, legit, having someone “Single White Female” me, while I was dating a guy who had a crush on her (what a mind-f*ck that was. To date a guy who wants a girl, trying to look/act like you.. She might have been a narcissist.. A lot of BS and lies, with her)..
To former clients of mine seeing IG photos and doing their hair and shifting their style to look like me..
Which, I am not saying all this to brag or attempt to flaunt I am so original or whatever.
I think we’re in an epidemic where people don’t know who they are,-‘d are attempting to do so, the best way they can figure out - because narcissism has, legit, been bred into western society, since the end of WWII.
People have been affected by it, en masse.
This is why so many people copy the likes of the Kardashian’s, get caught up in celebrity drama, obsess over certain cosmetic procedures, etc. etc.
And we’re at a point where not only that, though - where the attempt to consume a person’s personality isn’t just because a person lacks their own personality and is trying to find their way..
It’s, also, an attempt to destroy the person who is the main focus - by engulfing and enmesh everything they are, to where people cannot tell who came first/who was the original, and will cause people to constantly associate the two people, together, from that point forward.
I’ve learned that the hard way.
Also, I’m from NorCal - howdy, neighbor.
I was married to my narc for 33 years. He had the ability to actually become the person he was with. He’d mirror their behaviour, the tone of their voice, the way they moved - every single little nuance. He’d charm them and use everything they told him, to get what he wanted out of them. He could have won an Oscar for his performances.
When we split up, he also discarded our children. He changed his religion, dietary preferences, the way he dressed and the music he listened to - absolutely everything about him. His children were part of who he’d been. They knew he was a narc, and he was no longer getting any supply from them, so he discarded all 6 of us. He’s living a new life, 30 pounds lighter, and physically fit. I fear for his next victim, I mean partner!
The one I have to deal with... I have nicknames for the most common personalities she trots out. Helps me maintain my objectivity during the attempts at manipulation. After enough of these experiences I also concluded that there's nobody home. Written with appreciation for the insight and validation I get from your presentations.
A sense of humor with the nicknames helps! Use names that privately make you want to laugh. It’s better to laugh than to cry.
My husband does the shape-shifting stuff all the time. He even copies our sons and tries to wear their clothes. He sleeps in his studio and rarely talks to me. I was so lonely and developed health issues. I moved out and trying to heal.
So true..a jack of all trades.but a failure at all. Ill never lose myself. You have helped me tremendously understand what he really is about.and where this mental illness came from
Thank you
Exactly 💯 This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting, it’s super cruel.
I used to tell him I am a boring person at the start of a relationship and he would say he is a boring person too!
I m so grateful to God that I came across your channel Danish. I need all my feelings and thoughts validated because till sometime back I thought I was the crazy ones and always reading between the lines. After seeing your therapideos, I can confirm that I faced narcissistic abuse from family members for the last 4years. This has affected me quite a lot because I do not recognize myself now. The current me is not the actual person who I used to be for the past 30 years. I am trying to heal myself but still struggle on some days. And I strongly believe I do not deserve what I faced.
Your comment touched me because I feel like I don't deserve what happened to me either. 'Therapideos' 😂💟 are a wonderful resource, and I can especially relate to this channel. I'm glad we found it! ☺️
They mirror you, so you actually fall in love with yourself.
😂 so true, that and reverse projection, when all your good feelings get projected onto them and you think they feel the same way you feel about them. It's like playing with a blank set of cards, all trickery.
I hadn't thought of it, like that but yes, I suppose that's quite accurate🤔
Oh wow, yeah, I'd never thought of it like that!
Danish you are truly brilliant to encapsulate the Narcissistic behaviour and articulate it. No wonder the victims are so confused. It is an alien life force. I have observed and suffered from this treatment and have often thought I was living in a parallel universe, which I was. But I never thought anyone would understand the strangeness of it all. Thank you so much for your videos, they are a massive strike against darkness and an all embracing force for goodness.
I agree-4 years younger sibling started being me from age 12 and is 51 now- I have disowned her since 13 years ago and her narc illness got worse-i took control by removing her from my life-and loving every moment and no regrets.
This makes so much sense what I got was that I got covertly hypnotized and brainwashed to believe a false facade. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it.
Me too. It seems The narcissist effect is a powerful one and creates all kinds of internal conflict with those that have been exposed to one. Wishing you peace and healing my friend as I wish upon myself, also🕊💚🕊
That is true, Danish! These people have been doing my head in for years and continue to do my head in.
Nowadays, I avoid them at the first signs of their mask slipping thanks to obeying my 'spidey sense', silent prayers and grey walling them (in environments where it is avoidable, such as at my local shops or whenever members of my local church would frequent those shops).
Hit the nail on the head😢😢 story of my life for 39yrs I got rid trying now divorced
Confusion is the name of their game...
I met someone that I liked so much. She was very outgoing. She liked praising, but when she did it, she took it away from you in some seconds just because you got happy by your praise. She was not consistent. I saw that every pieces of advice she gave to me depended on her sense of humour. At that time what helped me was my curiosity. I spent a lot of time trying to understand her behaviour. After a few months, I stopped giving importance on her words.
My advice is: even if someone is very close to you, pay attention if their words combine with their actions.❤
So true! My mom is a narc, and has her cosmetology license (so she can get free product and do her own hair) she has a realtor license (so she can move around and make profit off her own mother who was selling her house, she works in a psych ward (uses this as her knowledge of mental health)
She has a degree in addiction (to try to figure me out, apparently I’m addicted to weed and my life was doomed lol)
But all these careers, while she was in school, the reason was always “so I can take care of my kids! Your mom deserves a career!”
And she would treat her whole family like shit, making sure the world absolutely revolves around her every time. And you can’t even talk to her because she thinks she’s an expert in EVERYTHING! Honestly she was nicer when she was fat working at red lobster.
All I can say is Thank You.! These people literally exhaust you. The examples you give are spot on. With your help I understand, at last, what I was dealing with. That you confirm the narcs unbelievable actions is so healing. ❤️
They are empty inside
the screenshot that I saw implied that they try to "become you" but then the topic doesn't seem to reflect that - either way I am responding to "they want to become you" - at least in my case it applies. people say, "oh it's flattering", oh really? I can't tell you how boring this is and creepy it is to me but the narc I deal with seems to want to be ME. goes thru my things, digs in my trash, etc., I guess I'm just so fascinating is why .
My mom used to go through all my stuff behind my back..but she did this to find my secrets, faults, flaws and problems
.so that she could taunt me in future ..and man! She did ..so awful and painful that experience was..if narc is sneaky then its better to never keep any secrets at home/ in his easy access..
And this is extemely dangerous as well..
I think they are JEALOUS and try to find out all they can about YOU. so be pro active and self protective, I just got back from throwing my trash a half mile away so she can't find out anything about me unless I choose to "plant something" (that is fake) to satisfy her weirdness. yes, be self protective. ugh. @@mumin1115
Whether it's love-bombing, mirroring, looking for flaws to expose, or any other insecure reason, it's very creepy the narcissist is doing this! 🫣
It's as if they think, at some feeble, unconscious, infantile level, that they can make themselves a whole person simply by directly copying someone who already is one. And that, tragically, is the literal opposite of how one introspects and becomes a whole person. When it inevitably doesn't work, they inevitably respond in an equally infantile way: frustrated rage and projection of blame onto us, the people they tried to copy.
you know what I have felt? I know it sounds bad, but to destroy you, to become you and you aren't important so it is to get rid of you because you make them look inferior or bad. weird. like that POD movie, the body snatchers..........@@tommcewan7936
Anorher good video. How about the narcissists that pretend to be very sick so they can be the victim when they are not getting enough attention. Sometimes they really are sick and they enjoy every minute of it. If you're sick, or grieving it is always mild in their eyes.
Yes, that's my mother. She overdramatised her minor health issues she had since I was a child.
Whenever I got seriously ill, my sister (golden child) got 'sicker' but in fact wasn't even ill but she managed to get more attention from our narc mother than I ever got.
Fantastic insights, and you've put them forward very lucidly.
My relationship to myself, to my health, to food, to money, to success, to pretty much every damn thing has been ruined by my hideous covert narc parents. Those scumbags!
I feel like there's too much stuff to heal and too little time. So I get overwhelmed and start watching cat and dog videos instead...lol
Btw, Danish, would you be able to speak about trauma dumping? I have an entitled narc neighbor who constantly seeks me out to trauma dump. I am her favorite emotional vomit bag. How do I stop being a magnet for trauma dumpers?
Give them ambiguous answers like oh or that's interesting. Don't hesitate toske excuses. Remove yourself and don't give them unconditional air time.
Maybe try to deflect their attempts by asking them to reach out for help from others so they don't get used to dumping on one person. I recently made suggestions to an acquaintance to look for people with more knowledge in certain areas, that I had no idea whatsoever how to help.
We need more videos and help on this because the narc Neighbor is an absolute nightmare
It helps to remind me who he is and what he is by watching the videos .. makes me sad but makes me stronger by knowing what I have dealt with and not to allow it again
Im an introvert and he certainly is not but he would claim that he is an introvert just to become "me"? Now i understood what is shape shifting 😢
That's very helpful, thank you so much. I am so much affected being in a relationship with a narcissist that I started doubting myself having lost all my confidence
Thank you for binging this forward. Always subconsciously knew this but never pulled this together in organized thought…until now. :)
You have helped me SO much. Thank you for bringing clarity to a chaotic mess of a human being. The best revenge to their abuse is leaving them alone forever with a mirror.
6.43 to 7.15 exactly what is going on in our life. Hat's off to Danish you have such a master mind about narcissist.
They fake other’s characters and own them as theirs which in turns confuses people around them. They also try to gain the popularity as that person who they have turned out to be so that people can follow them without knowing their facade.
Fun Fact: The original saying was: "Jack of all trades, Master of one"
This is how spec ops units operate, for example. Every soldier is able to perform every other soldiers role but are experts in their normal assigned role. It is a great mentality to apply to every aspect of life. Be well rounded, yet specialize in something.
Reminds me of a lighter kind of socialism, where everyone gets to sample all the aspects of community building. It could be done with teams, but harder to achieve when people do things for a reward.
thank you so much again and again
Kept telling me i was moving the goal posts 😂when In reality he was doing that!
yes - always a lack of consistency in personality, views etc
Their only profession is lying they are good at this
CONSTANTLY
Yes, lying is what they do to ensure their ego isn't bruised. Lying for a narcissist comes first before the truth because it helps them stay clean from their criminal thinking and illicit behaviors.
@@norcal1009 Facts not fictions
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@@Carolwarr448 they practiced from day dot
Thank you for doing these videos. I find them very educational and I get some comfort knowing that, with the growing awareness of people about narcissists, they won't be as succesful anymore with their strategies, because now we know what we're looking at. The whole shapeshifting thing messes with one's mind. I used to think if I'd just be upfront with people I'd get that back, but then I met a bunch of narcs and it's sad to have to lose confidence in people because of a bunch of bad ones ruining it for the rest.
I had to start recording my interactions so that I could see what he had first said before he changed his story. He is hollow inside, an empty shell. Two weeks out from leaving this monster I'm realizing just how f*cked he really is. More power to the next woman he decides to be with.
They don’t have multiple personalities. They have one personality and that personality comes hand and hand with acting ability that could win an Oscar. They spend their live continually playing a role. The role just depends on who they’re with and what they’re trying to get from them
i think they also enjoy and need to keep people on their toes...they can never let people feel like they have a solid idea of who this person is... they never want to feel like there isnt more to them as a person, more to discover.... but they dont know that theres always more to diacover without intentional ambiguity
This was one of your best videos 🎉🎉
so true 😢 very sad
Yes yes yes
I haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate it her dabul lshit
F. Em
I'm dealing with one right now that I have a child with and it is a living hell he manipulates controls we aren't even together he dares me to do anything
"I'd marry you yesterday!" No ring. Living under my roof I paid for... complain about groceries... while I make dinner every single night. "I'm a Buddhist Monk," No... "I'm Christian." It's a game! You don't even know what the game is.... but you're in it! I even asked for the rules. I never got them.
It sure is epidemic and very sinister.
Excellent info. Thank you
They wear so many masks. I’m not even sure which one that I actually fell for . 😂 .
They constantly switch roles, and often use other people and [even] animals to regulate their behavior.
So true of my narcissistic mom. She has no consistent personality. A typical Jekyll and Hyde.
This is avery important video. I think there are much more narcissists out there as we may think, as narcissism has become one of the most important survival techniques of our time especially at our work place. Nobody wants to be held responsible, nobody acts on common values anymore but everybody wants to have success, I have a boss who is exactly like that, when sth. went wrong it was never his fault or wrong decision making. He is deceitful and the truth for him is relative. He copies older colleagues to appear more mature while in reality he is emotionally very immature and codependent. He held his actual girlfriend only as a friend for months while in reality he was in a relationship with her. There was no commitment. He speaks. Bad or harsh about her behind her back and is faking as if he doesn’t love her to keep his options with other girls open. When he speaks you have always the intuition that he is hiding some facts from you and he acts very irrational. He is a narcissist for sure. 😂
Thank you for the amazing videos and a deep dive into the intricacies of the narcisstic relationships
The funniest tying is they expect you to be swell, and punishing you if you don't know something that they do. You can't know everything and they can't stand it, I rather be an expert in one thing that average in many.
His FB profile was "Jack of All trades, master of none" it makes sense now. And "No" I nevrr got the chance to know him becuase he kept himself hidden just showered me with outward things.
My X told me she asked a girl if she was married.? She said the girl told her that she didn't want to lose her freedom. Then my X said she told her friend that SHE (X) hadn't lost her freedom.
Narcs unwittingly tell on themselves .
I used to think they were pretty good actors but since the veil has been lifted and my discernment has gotten sharper I spot narcs within seconds
I confronted my now-ex-husband with his ever changing values depending on who he was interacting with. He told me he "goes along to get along". He adopts whatever values, traits, and interests his audience has in order to ingratiate himself to them. Now some of these 'values' were pretty core values not just what flavour of ice cream do you like. I was appalled and said "Don't you even have a personality of your own?" He did not answer. And @ 6:53 He actually suggested after 20+ years of marriage that we live as 'roommates'. I have no idea what was going on in his head but he did not ask for a divorce. I sought a divorce so I guess that allowed him to save face with his friends by saying I wanted a divorce. Really f*cked up. Seven years later he has not gotten into another relationship so it's not like he had another lined up.
Fine with me if he wants to be SEEN as married as long as I NEVER have to live under the same roof with him again!
They have a "personality" it's a four year old that takes hissyfits. For the rest it's a cartoonish version of aspects (usually negative) of people around them that they think will be useful to them or enhance their "image". A serial cheater who appears to be getting away with it or a small successful business owner who is fairly ruthless for example. The narcissist doesn't see that most people find the serial cheater a disgusting person who is damaging their children or the business owner has worked 16 hour days for the last 20 years and doesn't cheat their customers. So you end up with a negative version of said personalities, even worse if the copied personality was already negative. It can be a way to discover a narcissist though, if a personality requires knowledge they seldom know that much about it.
They got to tell this,lies to make you look bad.Mind blowing how the monkeys is so dumb
Great explanation!!!!!
There are various types of narcissists. They have a personality. Their personalities and narcissism combined cause certain characteristics. Not all are rhe same. Some are criminal, others highly religious. Religious types distort reality and want to LOOK perfect. There are covert types that hide their intentions. Only the victim knows. They are great manipulators. Maybe this is what you describe.
YES, only the victim knows. Some of the more psychopathic types of narcissists will have many victims, all of which will have various degrees of harm done to them in some cases. A narcissist can turn a little white lie into something unbelievably sinister. It seems to me that a narcissist's flat personality is a mere reflection of the inner workings of their mind playing out through their harmful intent.
My narc wife do not want to sleep with me in the same room. For 3 years we sleep in separate room. I dont understand this behaivor. Is another behaivour that i dont understand. She stay in the the bed for all the time . During the day she sleep and during all the night she stay in bed dont sleep but is all the night watching the phone.
Lol we were “together” for about 4 months and I had met his dad and all of that and even moved in to stay for a while and he didn’t still officially ask, I lowkey forced him to officially ask me on the spot so I won’t hear the “but I never asked” later on lol
hi again thank you so much for this video
Thank you 💯💯💯%
Thanks you for helping me 🙏🦉
Genius you
I told the narcissist, to spend time with people you love instead of spending time with me because I highly value time.
I became so ill i developed masking.
True🥰💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
So true....I am known as this narcissists wife only after he left me.....
Thank you❤
Multiple Personality Disorder as it used to be called is caused by severe trauma in childhood. It's not a choice the person makes like it is for narcissists. I recommend watching some videos by the CTAD clinic on youtube about it. It's really sad. It's a lot like having ptsd. The person can't form a whole personality due the trauma, so they form many different ones to cope but not by choice. Yes severe narcissistic abuse can cause a child to develop "Multiple Personalities" ❤Thanks for the video! Heres a good explanation. th-cam.com/video/qQTPDRB65jQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JLxscAPcLXsdZrca
I feel that 💯 and u r right
So true 👍 👌 😢 👏
i am so confused! I just dont understand who he is ! or was! or what is his real ideologies! Just so confused , I dont know if I have a future here! I need help terribly! I dont know how to navigate myself through this! im extremely suicidal ... and the societal pressure is just not giving me any space! somebody HELP!
You may need to Google the the hotline and speak to someone.
I was told more than million times it's my fault, I'm making it up, I made them do it. Just liars
Yep, and they'll even call you the narcissist. You could literally find a ventriloquist dummy smarter than a narcissist.😂
Here is a good one the sociopath and narcissist just got engaged and of course there exposure on face book shown as the super couple why does he hoover me ?? hypocrite i thank God i am in recovery from this toxic person
Narcissists : social/emotional chameleons .
I feel some everytimes
Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde × 1000.
This is so ironic, because my narc husband literally says he’s a jack of all trades, master of none where his job/skill set is concerned. Double entendres?
My narcissistic husband would stay in a separate room in the same house and talk with his new supply from srilanka now he has been away to srilanka for about three months no divorce nothing
Do you have tips on dealing with narcissistic co-workers?
l have to trust God,
Romans 8:28:
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.
So true
True....
Let me ask
My Mother and I have no where to go but she wants me to beat the red light why?
OCD? Or maybe just 'hurry up and wait' 😂❤️
Hi Danish, how u can escape from your narcissistic parents?
Truth!!
It astounds me you can walk away. Put it back on provoke stir listen see how fast operating at cellular speed. You are rinsed spunned out. Questioning how tranformation took place. They say there frail ego so much imphises are over and above excludes out 1 min tells you get out
This is creepy n I make sure they can't be like me cus I change up on them a lot then drop them
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