I deleted all social media apps 3/11/23 never felt better. I lost 50 pounds & instead of congratulations I got “ now you need a bbl” .. no tf I don’t. I’m happy & getting healthy, mental and physically! ❤ Edit: thanks for all the love! 🥰
The body dysmorphia is real.....and alot of people in the gym....are....suffering from it....amazing bodies still suffering in their heads. Super healthy....still picking at themselves for having a cookie. It's hard too because you can't separate btwn just working on you....and trying to prove your worth to others.
Very true!! I lost weight and i can be perceived as a gym body with the proper workout clothes but i also struggle with binge eating disorder. Losing weight and being desirable doesn’t mean a disorder disappears
Thank you for this video. I recently lost almost 100lbs. I did it for health reasons. It continues to bother me how men who wouldn't give me the time of day are all in my DM's. I make it a point of not dating people who knew me when I was heavier.
From my experience, I can’t be fat or gain weight in peace. People always have remind me I’d be better going to the gym, my weight gain is too much and that I need to slim down. Why do we need to police bodies to this extent?
I definitely relate to this somewhat as a skinny person with low muscle tone; it's one of the reasons I don't go to the gym like that! If my little ass feels insecure in there, I can only imagine how fat people feel! Plus, as much as love my body, I don't workout for aesthetic reasons, I do it for self defense!
I personally stopped sharing my fitness journey or gym selfies or any check in post on IG. I just find that i didn’t want the validation or any compliments or feedback for people who would disregard me any other time. People would ask me for tips and what i did to lose weight, then never talk to me again. I’m someone that loses 5 pounds and gains 5 pounds back. So I’m just gonna move like Meg the stallion and you and continue to treat it like a mental clarity session.
I took a social break for the first time in a long time a month ago. Honestly, tiktok, insta, and even twitter sometimes can just be really toxic and not good for our mental well-being.
The Y2K reboot is bringing back a lot of that old thinking we did around bodies. The inclusion of crop tops and low rise jeans have reminded us of the EDs that were popularized to get “the look”.
You are perfect. You are handsome, kind, smart, insightful, compassionate, courageous, eloquent, funny and lovable. I don't care what shell you're in, I'm just glad you're on this planet. We need more people like you. Hugs to you.
i've been up and down consistently in the gym since 2019. the pandemic of course threw me off but this year i'm going a little extra hard because it helps me focus on my sobriety. i'm doing 6 months no drinking for several reasons. either way, i hear you. i typically keep my journey private for this exact reason. to be honest, where ever i end up, i'm not rly trying to inspire anybody. also your crewneck is really cute.
So recently i had to cut a friend of 17 yrs off for talking about me to her new guy friend calling me "big girl" instead of just referring to me by my name..That hurt me and i definitly let her know and cut ties with her now im even more conscious of my weight all over again! It sucks i hate it here sometimes like ive actually lost 10 pounds in 2 months but its not enough but im working through this...😢
I love this conversation! And you are absolutely right. This is why I have gone to the gym on my own terms and I refuse to look at the scale but more so how my clothes fit and how I feel
Weight has been a struggle for me my whole life. I struggled with the mental part of it worse because of others in my childhood and sadly in adulthood. Im making the change in a healthier lifestyle cause lord knows being big most medical personnel blames everything on that. I lost 50 pounds. I definitely dont want to be a size 0. I just want my peace from society and their hate
I love that you're speaking about this because it's a necessary conversation. From someone that has been thin, went to having excess body fat, and now being somewhat toned and muscular, I notice how shallow people tend to be. Sometimes it's without even noticing. Seeing the tone shift when your body changes to something that's considered more desirable is in fact telling. We went from praising people who were fully jacked to now wanting men with "dad bods," so long as they still have muscle. Why can't we just celebrate everyone regardless of how they look? If you're a fat person (especially a fat black person) you're always boxed into the category of being the "auntie" kinda like you said. Being a queer person is even weirder, because fat is just considered not having washboard abs which is again very odd. Presently, I just want to workout to feel good and to improve my mental health, but it's sad to notice how you get treated when you have any form of desirable vs when you don't.
I had to take a social media break for the same reason. I'm pretty comfortable with my body, but it definitely had me second guessing myself bc of how OTHERS view larger bodies. I just want a world where we can just exist in our bodies without unwarranted critiques.
Great post. Not sure if there is an “answer” to this discussion. It’s such a conundrum. I’ve had to give up social media at times to keep from being depressed about my body. But I also find inspiration there. It’s a razor sharp edge.
I also have been in the gym myself. And there’s been plenty of times where I’ve felt invisible.However when I do get my body to a slimmer size, I want to uplift those who want to do the same, not make them feel LESS than HUMAN.
I wish more people would fall in love with being stronger, finding dicipline, adding years to their lives etc.. All things that fitness provides other than the physical changes. The social media fitness space uses before and after pics to grab ppls attention and prey off ppls insecurities and internalized anti-fatness instead of showcasing the other aspects.
I’ve been struggling bad with body dysmorphia and I found being off social media has helped me and now I’m focusing on my weightloss and getting healthier
I have a roommate from college that I follow on Facebook and she’s always posting pictures of herself in the gym. One post she was at the gym for damn near five hours. She thought this was healthy!!! She’s constantly posting pictures of her at the gym doing something to try to “improve”. It is sad. I spoke with someone who knows both of us if they stated that she’s always felt that she was “fat” even though society wouldn’t have called her fat at the time. I was always been a fairly thin person until I begin taking medication. Now, I’m consider what they were called morbidly obese 🙄🙄🙄. Most times I’m OK with how I look but it’s when I can’t fit the clothes because they don’t make the clothes fit us right that makes me frustrated like a mofo!!! I appreciate you, Justin, for being so vulnerable and transparent. I understand what you mean about not wanting to lose so much weight in the gym because you don’t want to make it seem like you hate being fat. It’s so messed up the way we have to think about these things in order to just exist in this damn world!
I don’t understand why not love yourself while you’re losing the weight?? But I understand society says hate, be disgusted by your fat now. When it should be love yourself at ALL stages.
Justin!!!! Thank You so much for talking about this subject. I’ve been overweight more of my life than skinny. So I’m used to it, but hate when family members/ friends act like they don’t know/remember that. I deal with bad knees, back and now post-covid health issues that genuinely make it impossible for me to go to anybody’s gym and do a “regular workout”. I have some things I can do, but nowhere like it was pre-covid or when back when I was 21yrs old. I’ve had to ask people in my circle to refrain from “playing Dietician” simply because they’re slim, never battled with weight issues or have recently lost weight. Great that what they were able to do worked for them, but may not work for everyone else. No excuses, just real life for some of us who would love to be able to do a regular workout, go jogging or just take a nice walk thru the park and can’t. Understanding, caring (not judging) and being there as a true friend is much more helpful than being cruel & critical…any day.❤️🙂❤
I started working for the post office last year and ended up losing ~60 lbs. And the difference in the treatment I received has been disgusting. I used to be invisible to folks but now I’m “beautiful” and folks want to talk to me. I was beautiful last summer. Anti-fatness is so insidious where folks think they’re complimenting me but it’s just a sign of their prejudice.
Same thing happened to me but the reaction was opposite. I worked at the post office after I had my son, so I still had a little pregnancy weight on me. I lost a lot of weight being on a walking route. And people told me I was getting too skinny. Saying things like “stop losing weight” 🙄 as if I was actually trying to.
I knew as a teenager that I would have to be more because of what I did or didn't look like. I dont look like an Instagram model or a video vixen. I've always been on the heavy side so that disqualifies me from a lot of romantic interactions (unless, like you said, I'm doing labor). I took myself out of the dating pool and started discovering who I was. It can be a lonely existence but it's also less stressful.
This was good . I don’t hate my body but i know I’m not giving it my whole potential to be better so I’ve been working out and making healthier decisions on my own time. And not so diet obsessed
I am on a break from posting on social media it's too superficial now and I have been in the gym consistent for months ppl treat you very different once your start to lose like 20-30 pounds and they can see a difference now all of a sudden they wanna be your friend or everytime I lose weight it goes to my bottom so I that's even more attention or friends who are heavy start to disown you I done seen it all if you are on a healthy journey stick to it don't give up and Eff them ppl cuz haters gonna hate! You look good king don't let these bad body weirdos say otherwise 👏🏾
CW: EDs Weight loss culture is so weird. It's never "I want to exercise so I can be stronger, build stamina, gain flexibility, or take care of my mental health". It's always "I'm getting into the gym so my summer body can be right" or some other stuff like that. Weight fluctuates and that's okay. There isn't anything wrong with being fat. Period. Our society needs to put health over aesthetics bc the way we are fueling deadly mental health disorders by promoting fatphobia is ridiculous. Like gym bros are really having heart attacks from guzzling pre-workout and promoting their restrictive "diets" that are giving disordered eating.. I'm not even going to get started on steroids.. Honestly I'm glad I've curated an online space where I'm seeing a lot of fat folks celebrate their bodies, because I don't think I would've been able to thrive otherwise given my weight gain as an adult. Wishing all fat folks in the comments peace and joy because you deserve it and you don't owe the world weightloss.
Going to the gym when you don't feel the greatest isn't always about how you look but to make you feel better internally. I've gotten over a cold or something like that more quickly due to forcing myself to workout. I'm not all up in folks' faces though. A lot of folks shutdown when they don't feel well so it takes longer for them to feel better. Do what works for you.
I definitely find myself taking a lot of social media breaks because the obsession with gym bodies/flat stomachs/ losing weight is too much. I’m all for wanting to be healthy and live your best life but man healthy looks a lot of ways not just the typical social media desirable aesthetic. Side bar because I really felt you when you said people constantly commenting on your body. The very first “compliment” I get is… “ooh you look like you’re losing weight” that’s not a compliment. Or when I tell someone how much I weigh they always tell me I’m lying. Like nope this is what 280 look like on my body. I know your prejudices automatically make you think I should look a certain way but no.
Yep I hated being fat didn’t nothing good come from it for me…I move around easier my kneees don’t hurt and I’m not winded when walking 30feet . Now how other people live in their body had never interfered with how I sculpt mine to each his , her or they own
As an unhealthy "SLIM" " SKINNY" person, I love the insight of learning from THEE King of reads...knowledge is power. I would like to learn, even outside my own personal details, to love EVERYONE as they are in their journey. Thank you. 💚
I feel you, I just don’t like how your saying these people are mediocre or are bringing nothing. It does take work, knowledge, and determination to get that type of body. It’s like the behind the scenes work you put into growing your brand or the work a student puts in to get their PhD. Now how they act once they get that body or how they affect you, that ain’t got nothing to do with me. I just don’t think it’s right to devalue the healthy steps taken to achieve that body simply because we don’t like the attitudes of some when they achieve it.
I love your transparency You have always looked great to me.. I just lost 50 pounds at the end of the day.. it's about being healthy and weight doesn't have anything to do with that.. I know people with perfect bodies but are not healthy.. we are just conditioned as a society to think small is beautiful and that goes back to slavery.. but I love ur content and I think u look great❤❤❤
Oh my goodness, God bless you for real!! You’ve opened my mind on topics that need to be discussed. My 23 year old will talk about fat phobic this and fat phobic that and I am relearning a lot of things, especially from this channel .THANK YOU!!
I definitely notice the fat shaming, especially in the gay diaspora. Another thing I’ve observed is men who identify as tops or men that are mixed/lighter skin, don’t get ridiculed as much as the darker skin feminine men.
I feel like this video reminds me of all the content I’ve seen about pretty privilege on social media and TH-cam. It’s kind of depressing that it appears that people treat desirable people better, especially if people don’t treat you well. I kind of feel, especially in this age, self validation is very important. On social media we are told opinions in the form of fact and because of echo chambers they start to sound like facts. It makes me feel that we aren’t as open minded as we feel we are as a society as social media can create a herd mentality and a very black and white mentality rather than nuanced. I feel pretty privilege exists as well as gym body privilege but it’s also not entirely black and white and goes beyond appearance. As someone who is diagnosed autistic people also judge others for how they act without knowing the person. I think body language or posture is a huge but more nuanced part of being desirable that isn’t talked too much about . When you said there are no fat celebs that are mediocre. I strongly agree. Some of the best musicians I know are fat for example. I guess when you are desirable you don’t need talent to do the talking as much. But then there are some desirable people that are talented.
I appreciate you for content like this. I have a daughter that I love to the end of this earth. I want her to love herself where she is now and while she’s losing weight, I try to be very careful to not hurt her with congratulation comments regarding weight loss, or even talk about weight at all. At least I have this channel to get some insight and maybe I’ll purchase a few books regarding anti-fatness. Because I love her I will and I have to rewire my brain. I am a person who struggles with bulimia for 20 years. The 90s or society or our American culture has brainwashed me into always wanting to be thin never going over 150 pounds unless Im creating a life.. I constantly watch my weight due to the benefits and privileges that comes with it. Because I love my daughter God has given me an opportunity to relearn and rethink some things, but also acknowledging somethings we cannot change, which is society. But we can change our own, thinking to live free.
Sir, this was a good video. Weight is such a weird topic for people. Why do people care ? Why do people feel the need to point it out ? As soon as I got out of social media and did things for myself, I noticed a difference. I was happier AND lost weight.
To not wanna get more healthy bc you dont wanna seem like “wanna those”. . . Girl, priorities. Your mind sees losing weight as the same thing as bleaching your skin. & its not love. Its like youre scared of some sort of survivals guilt too. . .
This comment is the example. He isn’t interested in meeting other people’s standards and for a lot of people, they do it because they want to feel accepted.
@kingofreads I have watched your content for years now and it is because you are you! You are a handsome, sharp, intelligent, thinking man, and hilarious! Your growth and evolution speaks for itself Justin! And it's not too much, you've been necessary for these spaces just as the topics you ate so brave to discuss! Keep going ❤❤❤
always been thick, considered myself a bbw since i was a teen, embraced that im thicker than a snicker, and i freaking loved snickers lol. but then thickness became about small waist big ass and i was an apple shape.. until january 2023 (im 30 now)..got lipo and fat transfer to my hips to balance my frame.. people that ignored me a few months ago now want to be nice to me.. im getting numbers and asked out etc.. i went thru the opposite when i went natural in 2010, less compliments, less looks, more rude comments and questions.. any way liposuction and the like sometimes come with depression. i could not descrbe it then but i kind of mourned my old body and realized i still had to learn to love this one..i did not want to show my surgeon a pic of vwhat i wanted cause i didnt want to be disappointed but in the end i had to and i realized during the time i waited for my proceedure i became bonded with that body in the picture, if i didnt look like her i was back to depressed.. i dont look like the picture still and the change is very subtle, i am so much more happier now about my shape as it makes everything easier..but i lived my childhood till my 30s in an undesirable body.. it makes weight loss hard because deep down its really not for you.. unless theres like a health scare.. and dare i admit even still its still not motivating enough to get up and workout and cut back on the foods that got me through hard times..feels like wats the point
I agree. I currently struggle like HELL with weight loss. But I hate the “non scale victory… I no longer shop and lane Bryant” like what about the people who lost 100+ lbs and still shop at Lane Bryant
Subconsciously I was unaware that I looked at plus size ppl a certain way. I didn’t know. I wasn’t rude to plus size ppl at all, I’m not a mean person, but I would look and instantly think to myself not say out loud or make a mean face like, “wow that dress is really stretched” or those pants are really hiked up really high and I would have to check myself and say to myself “leave her/him alone. That’s there body and they put it the F on.” And I had to reprogram my mind to humanize plus size ppl, because I didn’t know that subconsciously society made me feel like plus size ppl were not ppl because they were fat. Thank you for having this conversation!
I’m sorry but I’m 5’ and I went from 180lbs to 135lbs in my senior year (1996), then down to the 120lbs and I never looked back… i’ve been treated better, look younger, move faster and have the physical agility of women half my age. It made childbirth and recovery way easier…also I’m one of the few people I know in their mid 40s that’s not on some type of maintenance medication. Let’s face facts you don’t see 400lb 70 year olds 🥴
You are absolutely right about folks with gym bodies critiquing their bodies constantly and also posting hella pictures of their body. There’s this guy who I went to college with and has a gym body: 6 pack, veins poppin out the arms, strong ass calves, etc. and he stay on FB talking bout how “oh this bod ain’t too bad, I’m still fat tho lol”…. LOL?!😤🤔it always feel insulting and like he’s trolling actually fat ppl and trying to make us feel bad about our bodies cuz I know he can’t possibly really think he’s fat. And ppl be in the comments praising his body too. I had to unfriend him
Wow how did I miss this video?? I’m struggling really bad right now accepting my plus sized body 😞glad I went back through your channel and found this one
See this why I don't ask , seek or need nobody's approval =ANYMORE. The length of time it took me to stop thinking, worrying and wondering what ppl think or thought of me sent me into years of self hate and hating my looks and body. I was 302 pounds and now at 185 pounds with more weight to lose I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE BEAUTIFUL!!!! At some point you just get tired. Tired of waiting and wanting acceptance for family members, friends and strangers. I SIMPLY GOT TIRED then I got free and I thank God.
Talk about how fit people make fun of big people in the gym, and that makes some big people not want to go. Or even at the park, they crack jokes at big people trying to jog or speed walk. Like, everyone has to start somewhere. Let people be.
King of Reads, Thank you for very much for sharing this with us. We love you❣! I understand and agree. People who said to me that I got "fat" were either larger than I am or the same size. My doctor told me to lose weight. When I lost it, I had to tell him as though he didn't notice. He saw the numbers in the medical record. He didn't smile about my weight reduction until I reduced it by 30 pounds. One of the times, that I brought it to his attention, he only asked me how I did it. He still did not smile about it. Yet, he was smiling in 2021 when he was telling me to lose the weight. In 2022, I reduced my weight by 45 pounds. Lab work -- perfect. I gained weight after losing my father in 2016, due to my comfort eating. I'm a Daddy's Girl. I plan to lose about 20 to 30 more pounds. I stopped doing Lives on Facebook. Eventually, I should feel comfortable enough to restart.
What a stupid thing to say that misses the point of the video. Lots of fat people are starving themselves and still don't lose weight. The reality is that some people are just naturally big and that's okay.
I'm sorry that you have to go through so much. You have to find a happy that works for you. I really don't care about the stupidity on social media. What bothers me is when I am treated differently in public, i.e., doctor's office, stores, restaurants, etc. I always am thinking, "Are you being rude/ignoring me because I'm fat or black or both?" I have lost before and saw that all of a sudden I was SO ACCEPTABLE! Now, I want to lose for my health, mental & physical and to get back into my clothes/shoes. At my age, I now don't gaf if people act funny. They get cursed out by this "ANGRY BLACK WOMAN" and I keep it moving.😅
Heyyyy Justin... I discovered your channel this past summer I was drawn to your locs and your humor. Then I realized you are very intelligent and well versed. I like your opinion on things which in my opinion is usually spot on!!! You are handsome as well!!! You are for people who like it raw!!! Everybody can't handle the truth. And that's their problem. I love you small medium or with extra sauce 🥰🥰
I was literally just thinking about this today and he posted this. Like I just started going back to the gym and there’s so many post on insta about gym post and overly health obsessed ppl and as someone with binge eating disorder it’s really triggering
I most definitely have body dysmorphia. I've been struggling with it since I was about 13 years old, constantly was body shamed by family members everywhere I went someone told me that I'd look a lot more attractive if I lost weight. Still trying my best to love myself but truly I hate what I see
This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m on a health and fitness journey and I’ve just decided to stop working towards weight loss. Having weight loss as a primary goal is ruining my relationship with food and makes going to the gym a chore when it’s supposed to be enjoyable. I have really big fitness goals such as running a 5k, 10k, and then a half marathon in the future. I also want to get into power lifting. And I want to try pole dancing and yoga. All of these goals will require me to be consistent and eat well and my body might change along the way. But weight loss is just not my primary goal anymore. At most, it will be an unintended consequence.
Shit I stopped using Facebook and Instagram recently as well. Im telling u now...Once I dropped those apps I've been more clearly focused on my life goals.
Brother King, I am listening to your story and Brother King it is not the fat, it is the memory of that first plus size kid in school that was so very mean and hateful to a awkward kid. I was at one time a very insecure, awkward child who at times did things to get attention just like most children only to have that one popular older child who was plus size make that awkward kid feel so horrible. Brother King when the awkward kid grows up they remember those experiences and then they reign hell on plus size people. I am not excusing anything, I am just sharing perspective.
I know I need to lose weight and I’m the biggest I’ve ever been. I’ll be *DAMNED* if I refuse to lose weight for fear of being FATPHOBIC?! Excuse me? There is “capital” in being healthy, the same way as there is “capital” in being desired/desirable..🥴
“Fit” does not equate to “Health” (wish more ppl understood that) but Desirability does equate to Value in the society we live in today (unfortunately). In my personal opinion, if everybody on Earth walked around w/ the same body type & body measurements, the same exact color clothing, etc. the world would be very Mundane. There are literally variations in EVERYTHING including US as Humans and I think there is a reason for that. HEALTHY FAT PEOPLE DO EXIST.
I do feel a lil chunk chunk and I wanna tone down but I wanna do it my own way and pace and it will be done...but when I'm comfortable about it. I do think health is important but dang let some folks be what they are.
I was always the black sheep in my group of friends. I'm attracted to heavy dark skinned guys, where my friends were into light skinned buff dudes. I tend to look inside of a person as opposed to the outside. My body dysmorphia shows up in my head. I've lost weight and it's visible. But when I look at myself I still see the fat girl. I know it's psychological, but that's what I see when I look at myself.
I don't understand the issue with people who are health conscious and don't want to gain weight. It's the issue that you don't get attention or that people you know who are active are obsessed with working out? What is it? This video is all over the place. You also can't shame those who work hard to get the body they desire. You talk about this a lot. You're diet is just as important as exercise. If you eat the wrong things all day you're not going to lose weight dear. You can walk, do exercises at home and not have to go to the gym. All I hear are excuses to stay overweight.
Jack’d is so depressing 😂 I know for fact I’m not ugly (well I’ve never been called ugly) but I have been called fat but I wear it well because I’m tall. But being a fat black tall fem bottom it is completely hard to date or just casually hook up with sb. I say Jack’d is depressing because I’ve uploaded pics and have my profile honestly completed no one talk a to me but if I have a blank profile no pics no info, guys are ready to engage.
I have family members that say things about women in relation to men like, “She’s big so maybe that’s why she hasn’t found a quality man” or if she has a man “Oh wow, she’s gotten big since I last saw her. She better try and lose weight” (usually implying that at her current size she got lucky to get a guy and better lose weight to keep him). The messaging I received as a kid is essentially if I’m larger then that’s undesirable.
Quick question for everyone. How do we complement weight loss or is it wrong to complement weight loss? How to encourage your loved ones without hurting them??
My body isn't where I currently want it to be, but I'm thankful that I'm still living with a sound body and mind. There's so many people people who are no longer living. We need to show people grace because mental illness is important. Bodies are different, and that should be celebrated. Healthy eating, and just moving your body should be encouraged from birth to death. Everything else is just living. That's my opinion.
When I lost weight by eating right and going to the gym… everyone assumed I was sick…I don’t like that. You want fat ppl to be skinny and when they do it, they had to cheat in life or be near death to get there?
Justin, it’s definitely hard not to care what people think about you. Your body, your choice. If going to the gym is what your body craves and enjoys and you start to lose weight, so what. It shouldn’t matter what others say (easier said than done). I’m not on social media, all my friends post their bodies and gym pics. Nobody needs to know where I am because the workouts are for me and me only. It’s about making me feel good and challenged, listening to sick beats and being in community with others (I do spin). I’ve hopped on the scale and my weight hasn’t changed and that’s okay. I have more muscle, and feel better.
I'm an older woman (almost 45). I was always slim until about age 38. Then the pounds started adding up. I'm probably about 60 pounds overweight. I have to admit I'm disgusted at how I allowed myself to gain this much weight. I will agree fat people are invisible to most of society. However, when people are drawn to someone who is fit it isn't just the physical aesthetics. I think its the confidence the fit person has that draws people in. People treat you how you feel about yourself.
As a fashion blogger I choose who I post more in the name of fashion not desirability just style wise like I know how it for me in grindr I felt desirable after weight loss and I never did it until I lost 100 lbs sometimes it hard and confusing bad for my mental if they love me or my body
I only had Facebook and deleted it! I don’t see how people have EVERY social media app… twitter, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, MySpace, etc… it’s too much! You’re literally creating a persona of yourself as a representation for who you are on each platform… it’s crazy! I don’t see how people even have time for each app!
Trying to bring fatpol in my friend's lives is an uphill battle 😔 Here on TH-cam the fat politic is mostly "I'm one of the good fat ppl" That's what happens usually
i have to disagree people who have strong muscle gains and physique still suffer from body dysmorphia and eating disorders. why do you think people take steroids?
Unfortunately, Justin, we are to indoctrinated, socially in it . Beautiful men and women with nice physiques Beautiful faces will always win they will always get the most opportunities. They will always have the most following. They will always get the carpet rolled out for them He’ll some don’t even have to work.
I deleted all social media apps 3/11/23 never felt better. I lost 50 pounds & instead of congratulations I got “ now you need a bbl” .. no tf I don’t. I’m happy & getting healthy, mental and physically! ❤
Edit: thanks for all the love! 🥰
Man that's fucked up
Keep up the great work!! ❤
Yes. It's never enough.
Congratulations!
WTF is wrong with people?
Justin I don’t hate my fat body. I just want to physically feel what my optimal and holistic self feels like.
I love this 💓
@@thegoddesscc9954 keep loving and shouting out ya self. Bless up
Yesss
The body dysmorphia is real.....and alot of people in the gym....are....suffering from it....amazing bodies still suffering in their heads. Super healthy....still picking at themselves for having a cookie. It's hard too because you can't separate btwn just working on you....and trying to prove your worth to others.
Mines is too
Very true!! I lost weight and i can be perceived as a gym body with the proper workout clothes but i also struggle with binge eating disorder. Losing weight and being desirable doesn’t mean a disorder disappears
That’s why a lot of people juice up. It’s never enough if you have body dysmorphia.
Thank you for this video. I recently lost almost 100lbs. I did it for health reasons. It continues to bother me how men who wouldn't give me the time of day are all in my DM's. I make it a point of not dating people who knew me when I was heavier.
From my experience, I can’t be fat or gain weight in peace. People always have remind me I’d be better going to the gym, my weight gain is too much and that I need to slim down. Why do we need to police bodies to this extent?
This came right on time … I’m trying to be consistent in the gym but I don’t want to be that person when I lose weight
I definitely relate to this somewhat as a skinny person with low muscle tone; it's one of the reasons I don't go to the gym like that! If my little ass feels insecure in there, I can only imagine how fat people feel! Plus, as much as love my body, I don't workout for aesthetic reasons, I do it for self defense!
I personally stopped sharing my fitness journey or gym selfies or any check in post on IG. I just find that i didn’t want the validation or any compliments or feedback for people who would disregard me any other time. People would ask me for tips and what i did to lose weight, then never talk to me again. I’m someone that loses 5 pounds and gains 5 pounds back. So I’m just gonna move like Meg the stallion and you and continue to treat it like a mental clarity session.
I took a social break for the first time in a long time a month ago. Honestly, tiktok, insta, and even twitter sometimes can just be really toxic and not good for our mental well-being.
The Y2K reboot is bringing back a lot of that old thinking we did around bodies. The inclusion of crop tops and low rise jeans have reminded us of the EDs that were popularized to get “the look”.
You are perfect. You are handsome, kind, smart, insightful, compassionate, courageous, eloquent, funny and lovable. I don't care what shell you're in, I'm just glad you're on this planet. We need more people like you. Hugs to you.
Everytime I see your face I’m reminded that I really like you man. You come across as a genuinely good person. Thanks for the video.
i've been up and down consistently in the gym since 2019. the pandemic of course threw me off but this year i'm going a little extra hard because it helps me focus on my sobriety. i'm doing 6 months no drinking for several reasons. either way, i hear you. i typically keep my journey private for this exact reason. to be honest, where ever i end up, i'm not rly trying to inspire anybody. also your crewneck is really cute.
Keep going queen ✨🤎
So recently i had to cut a friend of 17 yrs off for talking about me to her new guy friend calling me "big girl" instead of just referring to me by my name..That hurt me and i definitly let her know and cut ties with her now im even more conscious of my weight all over again! It sucks i hate it here sometimes like ive actually lost 10 pounds in 2 months but its not enough but im working through this...😢
You will make it. Just focus on you. Thank God for revealing the fake people in your life
I love this conversation! And you are absolutely right. This is why I have gone to the gym on my own terms and I refuse to look at the scale but more so how my clothes fit and how I feel
Weight has been a struggle for me my whole life. I struggled with the mental part of it worse because of others in my childhood and sadly in adulthood. Im making the change in a healthier lifestyle cause lord knows being big most medical personnel blames everything on that. I lost 50 pounds. I definitely dont want to be a size 0. I just want my peace from society and their hate
I love that you're speaking about this because it's a necessary conversation. From someone that has been thin, went to having excess body fat, and now being somewhat toned and muscular, I notice how shallow people tend to be. Sometimes it's without even noticing. Seeing the tone shift when your body changes to something that's considered more desirable is in fact telling.
We went from praising people who were fully jacked to now wanting men with "dad bods," so long as they still have muscle. Why can't we just celebrate everyone regardless of how they look? If you're a fat person (especially a fat black person) you're always boxed into the category of being the "auntie" kinda like you said. Being a queer person is even weirder, because fat is just considered not having washboard abs which is again very odd. Presently, I just want to workout to feel good and to improve my mental health, but it's sad to notice how you get treated when you have any form of desirable vs when you don't.
I had to take a social media break for the same reason. I'm pretty comfortable with my body, but it definitely had me second guessing myself bc of how OTHERS view larger bodies. I just want a world where we can just exist in our bodies without unwarranted critiques.
Great post. Not sure if there is an “answer” to this discussion. It’s such a conundrum. I’ve had to give up social media at times to keep from being depressed about my body. But I also find inspiration there. It’s a razor sharp edge.
I dislike very much being fat. It hurts. My body hurts and my health was bad. Currently, I'm losing weight and I feel a lot better.
I also have been in the gym myself. And there’s been plenty of times where I’ve felt invisible.However when I do get my body to a slimmer size, I want to uplift those who want to do the same, not make them feel LESS than HUMAN.
I wish more people would fall in love with being stronger, finding dicipline, adding years to their lives etc.. All things that fitness provides other than the physical changes. The social media fitness space uses before and after pics to grab ppls attention and prey off ppls insecurities and internalized anti-fatness instead of showcasing the other aspects.
I’ve been struggling bad with body dysmorphia and I found being off social media has helped me and now I’m focusing on my weightloss and getting healthier
I have a roommate from college that I follow on Facebook and she’s always posting pictures of herself in the gym. One post she was at the gym for damn near five hours. She thought this was healthy!!! She’s constantly posting pictures of her at the gym doing something to try to “improve”. It is sad. I spoke with someone who knows both of us if they stated that she’s always felt that she was “fat” even though society wouldn’t have called her fat at the time.
I was always been a fairly thin person until I begin taking medication. Now, I’m consider what they were called morbidly obese 🙄🙄🙄. Most times I’m OK with how I look but it’s when I can’t fit the clothes because they don’t make the clothes fit us right that makes me frustrated like a mofo!!!
I appreciate you, Justin, for being so vulnerable and transparent. I understand what you mean about not wanting to lose so much weight in the gym because you don’t want to make it seem like you hate being fat. It’s so messed up the way we have to think about these things in order to just exist in this damn world!
I don’t understand why not love yourself while you’re losing the weight?? But I understand society says hate, be disgusted by your fat now. When it should be love yourself at ALL stages.
Justin!!!! Thank You so much for talking about this subject. I’ve been overweight more of my life than skinny. So I’m used to it, but hate when family members/ friends act like they don’t know/remember that. I deal with bad knees, back and now post-covid health issues that genuinely make it impossible for me to go to anybody’s gym and do a “regular workout”. I have some things I can do, but nowhere like it was pre-covid or when back when I was 21yrs old. I’ve had to ask people in my circle to refrain from “playing Dietician” simply because they’re slim, never battled with weight issues or have recently lost weight. Great that what they were able to do worked for them, but may not work for everyone else. No excuses, just real life for some of us who would love to be able to do a regular workout, go jogging or just take a nice walk thru the park and can’t. Understanding, caring (not judging) and being there as a true friend is much more helpful than being cruel & critical…any day.❤️🙂❤
I started working for the post office last year and ended up losing ~60 lbs. And the difference in the treatment I received has been disgusting. I used to be invisible to folks but now I’m “beautiful” and folks want to talk to me. I was beautiful last summer. Anti-fatness is so insidious where folks think they’re complimenting me but it’s just a sign of their prejudice.
Same thing happened to me but the reaction was opposite. I worked at the post office after I had my son, so I still had a little pregnancy weight on me. I lost a lot of weight being on a walking route. And people told me I was getting too skinny. Saying things like “stop losing weight” 🙄 as if I was actually trying to.
to be honest I love my fat body. I just maintain my health by eating low carb and fasting and I have never felt better tbh
I knew as a teenager that I would have to be more because of what I did or didn't look like. I dont look like an Instagram model or a video vixen. I've always been on the heavy side so that disqualifies me from a lot of romantic interactions (unless, like you said, I'm doing labor). I took myself out of the dating pool and started discovering who I was.
It can be a lonely existence but it's also less stressful.
This was good . I don’t hate my body but i know I’m not giving it my whole potential to be better so I’ve been working out and making healthier decisions on my own time. And not so diet obsessed
I am on a break from posting on social media it's too superficial now and I have been in the gym consistent for months ppl treat you very different once your start to lose like 20-30 pounds and they can see a difference now all of a sudden they wanna be your friend or everytime I lose weight it goes to my bottom so I that's even more attention or friends who are heavy start to disown you I done seen it all if you are on a healthy journey stick to it don't give up and Eff them ppl cuz haters gonna hate! You look good king don't let these bad body weirdos say otherwise 👏🏾
CW: EDs
Weight loss culture is so weird. It's never "I want to exercise so I can be stronger, build stamina, gain flexibility, or take care of my mental health". It's always "I'm getting into the gym so my summer body can be right" or some other stuff like that. Weight fluctuates and that's okay. There isn't anything wrong with being fat. Period. Our society needs to put health over aesthetics bc the way we are fueling deadly mental health disorders by promoting fatphobia is ridiculous. Like gym bros are really having heart attacks from guzzling pre-workout and promoting their restrictive "diets" that are giving disordered eating.. I'm not even going to get started on steroids..
Honestly I'm glad I've curated an online space where I'm seeing a lot of fat folks celebrate their bodies, because I don't think I would've been able to thrive otherwise given my weight gain as an adult. Wishing all fat folks in the comments peace and joy because you deserve it and you don't owe the world weightloss.
Going to the gym when you don't feel the greatest isn't always about how you look but to make you feel better internally. I've gotten over a cold or something like that more quickly due to forcing myself to workout. I'm not all up in folks' faces though. A lot of folks shutdown when they don't feel well so it takes longer for them to feel better. Do what works for you.
I definitely find myself taking a lot of social media breaks because the obsession with gym bodies/flat stomachs/ losing weight is too much. I’m all for wanting to be healthy and live your best life but man healthy looks a lot of ways not just the typical social media desirable aesthetic.
Side bar because I really felt you when you said people constantly commenting on your body.
The very first “compliment” I get is… “ooh you look like you’re losing weight” that’s not a compliment.
Or when I tell someone how much I weigh they always tell me I’m lying. Like nope this is what 280 look like on my body. I know your prejudices automatically make you think I should look a certain way but no.
Yep I hated being fat didn’t nothing good come from it for me…I move around easier my kneees don’t hurt and I’m not winded when walking 30feet . Now how other people live in their body had never interfered with how I sculpt mine to each his , her or they own
As an unhealthy "SLIM" " SKINNY" person, I love the insight of learning from THEE King of reads...knowledge is power. I would like to learn, even outside my own personal details, to love EVERYONE as they are in their journey. Thank you. 💚
I feel you, I just don’t like how your saying these people are mediocre or are bringing nothing. It does take work, knowledge, and determination to get that type of body. It’s like the behind the scenes work you put into growing your brand or the work a student puts in to get their PhD. Now how they act once they get that body or how they affect you, that ain’t got nothing to do with me. I just don’t think it’s right to devalue the healthy steps taken to achieve that body simply because we don’t like the attitudes of some when they achieve it.
I love your transparency You have always looked great to me.. I just lost 50 pounds at the end of the day.. it's about being healthy and weight doesn't have anything to do with that.. I know people with perfect bodies but are not healthy.. we are just conditioned as a society to think small is beautiful and that goes back to slavery.. but I love ur content and I think u look great❤❤❤
This is me! Literally I’ve been working out so hard I can barely stand up the pressure of staying in shape has beat my mental health lifeless 😢
Oh my goodness, God bless you for real!! You’ve opened my mind on topics that need to be discussed. My 23 year old will talk about fat phobic this and fat phobic that and I am relearning a lot of things, especially from this channel .THANK YOU!!
I definitely notice the fat shaming, especially in the gay diaspora. Another thing I’ve observed is men who identify as tops or men that are mixed/lighter skin, don’t get ridiculed as much as the darker skin feminine men.
I feel like this video reminds me of all the content I’ve seen about pretty privilege on social media and TH-cam. It’s kind of depressing that it appears that people treat desirable people better, especially if people don’t treat you well.
I kind of feel, especially in this age, self validation is very important. On social media we are told opinions in the form of fact and because of echo chambers they start to sound like facts. It makes me feel that we aren’t as open minded as we feel we are as a society as social media can create a herd mentality and a very black and white mentality rather than nuanced.
I feel pretty privilege exists as well as gym body privilege but it’s also not entirely black and white and goes beyond appearance. As someone who is diagnosed autistic people also judge others for how they act without knowing the person. I think body language or posture is a huge but more nuanced part of being desirable that isn’t talked too much about .
When you said there are no fat celebs that are mediocre. I strongly agree. Some of the best musicians I know are fat for example. I guess when you are desirable you don’t need talent to do the talking as much. But then there are some desirable people that are talented.
I appreciate you for content like this. I have a daughter that I love to the end of this earth. I want her to love herself where she is now and while she’s losing weight, I try to be very careful to not hurt her with congratulation comments regarding weight loss, or even talk about weight at all. At least I have this channel to get some insight and maybe I’ll purchase a few books regarding anti-fatness. Because I love her I will and I have to rewire my brain. I am a person who struggles with bulimia for 20 years. The 90s or society or our American culture has brainwashed me into always wanting to be thin never going over 150 pounds unless Im creating a life.. I constantly watch my weight due to the benefits and privileges that comes with it. Because I love my daughter God has given me an opportunity to relearn and rethink some things, but also acknowledging somethings we cannot change, which is society. But we can change our own, thinking to live free.
Sir, this was a good video. Weight is such a weird topic for people. Why do people care ? Why do people feel the need to point it out ? As soon as I got out of social media and did things for myself, I noticed a difference. I was happier AND lost weight.
To not wanna get more healthy bc you dont wanna seem like “wanna those”. . .
Girl, priorities.
Your mind sees losing weight as the same thing as bleaching your skin. & its not love. Its like youre scared of some sort of survivals guilt too. . .
In other words im trying to see he sees being “fat” as the same oppression as being dark skin which prevents him from wanting to lose weight.
This comment is the example. He isn’t interested in meeting other people’s standards and for a lot of people, they do it because they want to feel accepted.
It’s crazy because I prefer my men bigger. I never knew big men and women go through this.
@kingofreads I have watched your content for years now and it is because you are you! You are a handsome, sharp, intelligent, thinking man, and hilarious! Your growth and evolution speaks for itself Justin! And it's not too much, you've been necessary for these spaces just as the topics you ate so brave to discuss! Keep going ❤❤❤
always been thick, considered myself a bbw since i was a teen, embraced that im thicker than a snicker, and i freaking loved snickers lol. but then thickness became about small waist big ass and i was an apple shape.. until january 2023 (im 30 now)..got lipo and fat transfer to my hips to balance my frame.. people that ignored me a few months ago now want to be nice to me.. im getting numbers and asked out etc.. i went thru the opposite when i went natural in 2010, less compliments, less looks, more rude comments and questions.. any way liposuction and the like sometimes come with depression. i could not descrbe it then but i kind of mourned my old body and realized i still had to learn to love this one..i did not want to show my surgeon a pic of vwhat i wanted cause i didnt want to be disappointed but in the end i had to and i realized during the time i waited for my proceedure i became bonded with that body in the picture, if i didnt look like her i was back to depressed.. i dont look like the picture still and the change is very subtle, i am so much more happier now about my shape as it makes everything easier..but i lived my childhood till my 30s in an undesirable body.. it makes weight loss hard because deep down its really not for you.. unless theres like a health scare.. and dare i admit even still its still not motivating enough to get up and workout and cut back on the foods that got me through hard times..feels like wats the point
I agree. I currently struggle like HELL with weight loss. But I hate the “non scale victory… I no longer shop and lane Bryant” like what about the people who lost 100+ lbs and still shop at Lane Bryant
I’m so glad he spoke on this 👌🏾👌🏾💯
Your emotional intelligence alone is super attractive fr✨😚 I live for your videos ❤️
Subconsciously I was unaware that I looked at plus size ppl a certain way. I didn’t know. I wasn’t rude to plus size ppl at all, I’m not a mean person, but I would look and instantly think to myself not say out loud or make a mean face like, “wow that dress is really stretched” or those pants are really hiked up really high and I would have to check myself and say to myself “leave her/him alone. That’s there body and they put it the F on.” And I had to reprogram my mind to humanize plus size ppl, because I didn’t know that subconsciously society made me feel like plus size ppl were not ppl because they were fat. Thank you for having this conversation!
That's crazy
I’m sorry but I’m 5’ and I went from 180lbs to 135lbs in my senior year (1996), then down to the 120lbs and I never looked back… i’ve been treated better, look younger, move faster and have the physical agility of women half my age. It made childbirth and recovery way easier…also I’m one of the few people I know in their mid 40s that’s not on some type of maintenance medication. Let’s face facts you don’t see 400lb 70 year olds 🥴
You are absolutely right about folks with gym bodies critiquing their bodies constantly and also posting hella pictures of their body. There’s this guy who I went to college with and has a gym body: 6 pack, veins poppin out the arms, strong ass calves, etc. and he stay on FB talking bout how “oh this bod ain’t too bad, I’m still fat tho lol”…. LOL?!😤🤔it always feel insulting and like he’s trolling actually fat ppl and trying to make us feel bad about our bodies cuz I know he can’t possibly really think he’s fat. And ppl be in the comments praising his body too. I had to unfriend him
Wow how did I miss this video?? I’m struggling really bad right now accepting my plus sized body 😞glad I went back through your channel and found this one
The only reason I'm gonna get on a diet and get in shape is gonna be do to my health. The hell with everyone else!
See this why I don't ask , seek or need nobody's approval =ANYMORE. The length of time it took me to stop thinking, worrying and wondering what ppl think or thought of me sent me into years of self hate and hating my looks and body. I was 302 pounds and now at 185 pounds with more weight to lose I HAVE NEVER FELT MORE BEAUTIFUL!!!! At some point you just get tired. Tired of waiting and wanting acceptance for family members, friends and strangers. I SIMPLY GOT TIRED then I got free and I thank God.
Talk about how fit people make fun of big people in the gym, and that makes some big people not want to go. Or even at the park, they crack jokes at big people trying to jog or speed walk. Like, everyone has to start somewhere. Let people be.
Ole' head kept the pace and held a melody! I'm impressed 😅👍🏽
King of Reads, Thank you for very much for sharing this with us. We love you❣! I understand and agree. People who said to me that I got "fat" were either larger than I am or the same size. My doctor told me to lose weight. When I lost it, I had to tell him as though he didn't notice. He saw the numbers in the medical record. He didn't smile about my weight reduction until I reduced it by 30 pounds. One of the times, that I brought it to his attention, he only asked me how I did it. He still did not smile about it. Yet, he was smiling in 2021 when he was telling me to lose the weight. In 2022, I reduced my weight by 45 pounds. Lab work -- perfect. I gained weight after losing my father in 2016, due to my comfort eating. I'm a Daddy's Girl. I plan to lose about 20 to 30 more pounds. I stopped doing Lives on Facebook. Eventually, I should feel comfortable enough to restart.
No one can make you feel a way about yourself that you don’t already feel! If you feel insecure about your weight you have the ability to change that.
What a stupid thing to say that misses the point of the video. Lots of fat people are starving themselves and still don't lose weight. The reality is that some people are just naturally big and that's okay.
I'm sorry that you have to go through so much. You have to find a happy that works for you. I really don't care about the stupidity on social media. What bothers me is when I am treated differently in public, i.e., doctor's office, stores, restaurants, etc. I always am thinking, "Are you being rude/ignoring me because I'm fat or black or both?" I have lost before and saw that all of a sudden I was SO ACCEPTABLE! Now, I want to lose for my health, mental & physical and to get back into my clothes/shoes. At my age, I now don't gaf if people act funny. They get cursed out by this "ANGRY BLACK WOMAN" and I keep it moving.😅
Heyyyy Justin... I discovered your channel this past summer I was drawn to your locs and your humor. Then I realized you are very intelligent and well versed. I like your opinion on things which in my opinion is usually spot on!!! You are handsome as well!!! You are for people who like it raw!!! Everybody can't handle the truth. And that's their problem. I love you small medium or with extra sauce 🥰🥰
I was literally just thinking about this today and he posted this. Like I just started going back to the gym and there’s so many post on insta about gym post and overly health obsessed ppl and as someone with binge eating disorder it’s really triggering
I most definitely have body dysmorphia. I've been struggling with it since I was about 13 years old, constantly was body shamed by family members everywhere I went someone told me that I'd look a lot more attractive if I lost weight. Still trying my best to love myself but truly I hate what I see
This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m on a health and fitness journey and I’ve just decided to stop working towards weight loss. Having weight loss as a primary goal is ruining my relationship with food and makes going to the gym a chore when it’s supposed to be enjoyable.
I have really big fitness goals such as running a 5k, 10k, and then a half marathon in the future. I also want to get into power lifting. And I want to try pole dancing and yoga. All of these goals will require me to be consistent and eat well and my body might change along the way. But weight loss is just not my primary goal anymore. At most, it will be an unintended consequence.
Shit I stopped using Facebook and Instagram recently as well. Im telling u now...Once I dropped those apps I've been more clearly focused on my life goals.
THIS VIDEO IS MM MM GOOD!!!!! I hope this sparks the hard but, very necessary conversations around this!
I know I need to lose weight. I’m going to do it to be healthier & feel good about myself, not for the gaze of others.
This is my journey, and I'm gonna always be proud of myself no matter what I look like❤
Brother King, I am listening to your story and Brother King it is not the fat, it is the memory of that first plus size kid in school that was so very mean and hateful to a awkward kid. I was at one time a very insecure, awkward child who at times did things to get attention just like most children only to have that one popular older child who was plus size make that awkward kid feel so horrible. Brother King when the awkward kid grows up they remember those experiences and then they reign hell on plus size people. I am not excusing anything, I am just sharing perspective.
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Plus with my mental health meds exercise enhances its effectiveness
I know I need to lose weight and I’m the biggest I’ve ever been. I’ll be *DAMNED* if I refuse to lose weight for fear of being FATPHOBIC?! Excuse me? There is “capital” in being healthy, the same way as there is “capital” in being desired/desirable..🥴
Very transparent and honest take.
“Fit” does not equate to “Health” (wish more ppl understood that) but Desirability does equate to Value in the society we live in today (unfortunately).
In my personal opinion, if everybody on Earth walked around w/ the same body type & body measurements, the same exact color clothing, etc. the world would be very Mundane.
There are literally variations in EVERYTHING including US as Humans and I think there is a reason for that.
HEALTHY FAT PEOPLE DO EXIST.
I do feel a lil chunk chunk and I wanna tone down but I wanna do it my own way and pace and it will be done...but when I'm comfortable about it. I do think health is important but dang let some folks be what they are.
I was always the black sheep in my group of friends. I'm attracted to heavy dark skinned guys, where my friends were into light skinned buff dudes. I tend to look inside of a person as opposed to the outside. My body dysmorphia shows up in my head. I've lost weight and it's visible. But when I look at myself I still see the fat girl. I know it's psychological, but that's what I see when I look at myself.
I don't understand the issue with people who are health conscious and don't want to gain weight. It's the issue that you don't get attention or that people you know who are active are obsessed with working out? What is it? This video is all over the place. You also can't shame those who work hard to get the body they desire. You talk about this a lot. You're diet is just as important as exercise. If you eat the wrong things all day you're not going to lose weight dear. You can walk, do exercises at home and not have to go to the gym. All I hear are excuses to stay overweight.
Jack’d is so depressing 😂 I know for fact I’m not ugly (well I’ve never been called ugly) but I have been called fat but I wear it well because I’m tall. But being a fat black tall fem bottom it is completely hard to date or just casually hook up with sb. I say Jack’d is depressing because I’ve uploaded pics and have my profile honestly completed no one talk a to me but if I have a blank profile no pics no info, guys are ready to engage.
I have family members that say things about women in relation to men like, “She’s big so maybe that’s why she hasn’t found a quality man” or if she has a man “Oh wow, she’s gotten big since I last saw her. She better try and lose weight” (usually implying that at her current size she got lucky to get a guy and better lose weight to keep him). The messaging I received as a kid is essentially if I’m larger then that’s undesirable.
Quick question for everyone. How do we complement weight loss or is it wrong to complement weight loss? How to encourage your loved ones without hurting them??
My body isn't where I currently want it to be, but I'm thankful that I'm still living with a sound body and mind. There's so many people people who are no longer living.
We need to show people grace because mental illness is important. Bodies are different, and that should be celebrated. Healthy eating, and just moving your body should be encouraged from birth to death. Everything else is just living.
That's my opinion.
Thankyou for this. 💛
When I lost weight by eating right and going to the gym… everyone assumed I was sick…I don’t like that. You want fat ppl to be skinny and when they do it, they had to cheat in life or be near death to get there?
Justin, it’s definitely hard not to care what people think about you. Your body, your choice. If going to the gym is what your body craves and enjoys and you start to lose weight, so what. It shouldn’t matter what others say (easier said than done). I’m not on social media, all my friends post their bodies and gym pics. Nobody needs to know where I am because the workouts are for me and me only. It’s about making me feel good and challenged, listening to sick beats and being in community with others (I do spin). I’ve hopped on the scale and my weight hasn’t changed and that’s okay. I have more muscle, and feel better.
I'm an older woman (almost 45). I was always slim until about age 38. Then the pounds started adding up. I'm probably about 60 pounds overweight. I have to admit I'm disgusted at how I allowed myself to gain this much weight. I will agree fat people are invisible to most of society. However, when people are drawn to someone who is fit it isn't just the physical aesthetics. I think its the confidence the fit person has that draws people in. People treat you how you feel about yourself.
As a fashion blogger I choose who I post more in the name of fashion not desirability just style wise like I know how it for me in grindr I felt desirable after weight loss and I never did it until I lost 100 lbs sometimes it hard and confusing bad for my mental if they love me or my body
I only had Facebook and deleted it! I don’t see how people have EVERY social media app… twitter, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, MySpace, etc… it’s too much! You’re literally creating a persona of yourself as a representation for who you are on each platform… it’s crazy! I don’t see how people even have time for each app!
Trying to bring fatpol in my friend's lives is an uphill battle 😔
Here on TH-cam the fat politic is mostly "I'm one of the good fat ppl"
That's what happens usually
i have to disagree people who have strong muscle gains and physique still suffer from body dysmorphia and eating disorders. why do you think people take steroids?
Can I just say I love your content?
Justin you have to start being honest
Unfortunately, Justin, we are to indoctrinated, socially in it . Beautiful men and women with nice physiques Beautiful faces will always win they will always get the most opportunities. They will always have the most following. They will always get the carpet rolled out for them He’ll some don’t even have to work.
That part!
Keep up the good work I love your content ❤️❤️
I saw that post! I thought: how sad. Smh.
JUSTIN I DON’T CARE IF YOU GAINED 20 POUNDS OVERNIGHT I YOU’RE STILL HANDSOME IN MY EYES!!!!! KEEP WEARING YOUR 👑
Girl you want a pitty party
sometimes if youve been fat all your life you get scared to watch yourself get so small
Body Dysmorphia is something you should probably read up on before making such careless statements.