I worked with a coach last year, when talking about my goals I told him I wanted to be my high school weight again. He said, "I want you to consider that you actually may not want that. Yes you may have put on some weight but not all of that is un necessary. In high school you were a child, you're a woman now. It is completely normal and healthy that your body has changed. Let's not think about getting back to that, let's think about what's the best for you now, as a woman." Completley changed my life, erased so much guilt and shame for me.
Wow. Hats off to that trainer. There are many trainers who would likely just hype you up for that goal in order to promote themselves as the person who would get you there, when in reality it’s not healthy or feasible.
Love this!! Wow. I am 5’10” and a quite fit and healthy 170-180 pounds. When I was in high school, I was an incredibly thin 130 pounds. I look like a toothpick and actually hated how thin I was. Over the next 10 years, though, I gained over 80 pounds, mostly due to emotional eating. I have found such a sweet spot for myself now, but sometimes I still feel guilty that I am 40 to 50 pounds heavier than my high school weight. I have to remind myself that it was not a weight that I was even happy to be out! I am feed girls who had curves and I felt just like a tall, bony toothpick. I love this trainer normalizing not making that a goal, because we were completely different people then and not even finished growing. Thank you so much for sharing that.
“You probably would unconsciously crave that overfed feeling cause you know the alternative is overt restriction.” I think this one sentence literally gave me the breakthrough “aha moment” that I’ve needed for a decade.. thank you Abbey.
yeah, same. Actually I did an experiment once and I was super mindful about eating what I WANT and not should... and I didn't overeat, didn't feel hungry, just ate and was happy. I've got no clue why I'm not doing it right now xd. I'm scared of letting go although I know that letting go would make me feel better xd
I'm surprised that Jaclyn doesn't hire a personal chef/dietitian/trainer to help her through her weight loss journey. Give her a schedule with delicious pre-made meals/snacks loaded up in her fridge. Make sure it's food that she finds tasty and fulfilling. Throw in some therapy and there you have it. Hopefully she's not just doing this for the clicks.
I agree 100%. Watching her videos definitely brought me back to how I once thought every single time I dieted. I’m happy she has lost 13 pounds, but I’m just hoping she can maintain that weight loss. I hope along the way she can get the right mindset and develop a healthier relationship with food and her body.
Yes! She looks like some type of Summer in seasonal color analysis. Light summer, true summer or soft summer. I’ve noticed light, cooler colors look beautiful on her.
My kids have, what seems to be, bottomless pits. I have found myself repeating Abbey Sharps “Hunger Crushing Combo” in my head while making my kids snacks. Now after giving them more well rounded meals and snacks they seems to be held over for more than a half hour. Thank you for constantly repeating this in your videos. It’s now imbedded in my brain for life. Which is helping me eat more healthy and giving me less time in the kitchen and more time enjoying motherhood.
I'd love to see you go through the whole series! Ever since I have been watching your channel, I find myself so much less obsessed with food, and enjoying my life SO MUCH more. Thank you for your insight and gentle nutrition guidance!
One of the best things I did for myself when I was recovering was getting rid of my scale, all my skinny clothes, and buying larger clothes that made me and my new muscular body feel awesome. I usually don’t watch these anymore because they used to trigger me. It isn’t bothering my like it used to. Progress in my recovery! I like your tips in this one. Have a lovely day!
I feel like I know exactly how Jaclyn feels since gaining 30lbs in the last year. But your channel and a sane approach has helped me lose and keep off 10lbs in the last month and half with sustainable changes and a guilt free mind. Finding healthy foods and physical activities I ENJOY has helped SO much.
‘do not wait to live your best life for when you are fitting back into your high school jeans’ I can see this becoming a mantra for me. it probably saved me from another restrict-binge cycle. I’ve gained some weight recently and as so many times before, I’m not living my life to the fullest because I don’t find myself skinny enough for it. that sentence saved me there, thank you Abby!
Ugh Im doing that! Im putting off getting married because Im not "skinny" enough...My husband loves the way I look I just feel like I need to look presentable even though we are just going to the courthouse by ourselves. We've been together for 7 years and it would be an absolute DREAM to get married. But yea, I feel like I dont look good enough. And when will I really? Im pregnant with my 4th baby and Im 41! I needed to hear this....what should I do?
Yes please!!! I was so glad to see this video pop up on my feed - I’ve been watching Jaclyn’s journey thinking to myself “I hope Abbey reviews this series” every single episode. I never really contact creators with suggestions for topics but I had been seriously considering it after several of her videos. Thank you for your honest, gentle and considerate discussion 💛
what i’ve learned recently, especially from your podcast with coach greg, is that the slower that body changes happen, the more sustainable and healthy they usually are! all these fads are 21 days, 30 days, 60 days, or 90 days, which makes sense for the algorithm but not for life. thanks for always giving sustainable and gentle advice!
I like attaching a timeline…yes, it’s a journey and life long commitment but things like “no alcohol for 30 days” or “15k steps every day for 30 days”. These mini goals make me feel accomplished. I am saying this as someone who lost 95 pounds 12 years ago and kept it off 💕
Making little goals for healthier habits is a LOT different than trying to "lose ___ pounds in ____ days". I definitely like making goals for my health! But not the way she did it.
There was someone I used to follow in IG who documented her weight loss journey (she was obese and wanted to get to a healthy size and develop healthy habits), and one thing she talked about often were NSVs, or Non-Scale Victories. Idk where she got it from or if she came up with it, but she loved to keep track of both the numbers and the NSVs to help keep her motivated to continue developing better lifestyle habits. Often times when she would get discouraged about the numbers or plateau, there would be a non-scale victory that she hadn't noticed before (doing more reps, mastering a new exercise, increasing weights, dropping a clothing size, having more energy, etc). I hope Jaclyn is able to switch her mindset and start recognizing that it's not always about the scale.
i saw one woman do a NSV that was her being able to cross her legs when sitting or feeling her chair get bigger around her! i think those are some of the greatest things about weight loss is when you feel physically smaller, not just the numbers going down on the scale!!!
My heart goes out to her. She comes off as do vulnerable and I applaud her for sharing her experience as I know so many people feel the same way she does. She’s super honest and upfront about her feelings. Although she uses a lot of diet jargon you can clearly tell it’s coming from such a sensitive place.
@@augustabracknell4534 you need to spend more time in the real world and less time being overly invested into online celebrities and what you believe you know just by what the web tells you. Lol so absurd sounding.
It took me a whole weightloss journey to realize health is not just about weight. I weigh the same as I did when I started college , but now I'm significantly healthier and feeling better.
The thing that kills me is that Jaclyn has the funds and resources to lose weight in a healthy way and keep off the weight yet instead to do it in a not so great way. Her videos are so up and down in this series. It stresses me out 🥴
It’s exactly why people like Oprah Winfrey couldn’t SUSTAIN weight loss….anyone can lose it but the magic is learning how to keep it off..Jaclyn is displaying classic behaviors of someone poised to gain every single pound back and more….THERAPY for the brain and the toxic relationship to food is what should be the core area to attack.
But they are real. She’s doing this the same way normal people who don’t have a the resources could do it! I appreciate it. It’s frustrating but I appreciate
TH-camrs tend to lose sight of their true intentions. I feel like Jaclyn set out wanting to make content for her channel. Realistically, two months just aren't enough for a transformation. And what transformation is worth it if it isn't sustainable? She should have focused on her lifestyle and gradually made small changes over the course of May be a year, with professional help. She could have literally collabed with a TH-cam dietician and personal trainer on this one and made great content.
When I first watched this episode from her series and checked the comments, I was so bummed to see people ripping her apart for her “unhealthy” English muffin breakfast after she had finally eaten something filling and satiating and needed. I’m so glad to hear you encourage those types of food choices for her and dispelling the guilt/shame/restriction culture. It’s why I started following you long ago- I need help remembering not to fall into the hype of diet culture and unhealthy habits. Oh, and I also love the ballet top!
This is the opinion/response I needed to hear. Jaclyn may be screening negative comments, but at a glance all her comments and feedback are positive, praising her discipline and dieting. And it’s sooo triggering as a life-long fat person, having been on diets since age 9. This diet is what everyone in my life encouraged me to do growing up. Eating few calories, all protein and veg, forcing yourself to workout when you’re feeling badly is the image of health, or at least it was my idea of being healthy all through my adolescence and young adulthood. It has only been recently, and thanks to voices like Abbey’s, that being smaller is no longer my “health” goal. This was a great reminder I’ve got my priorities straight now.
Have you ever listened to Maintenance Phase? Aubrey Gordon (along with Abbey) helped me radically shift my relationship with weight, food and exercise. Like at some point when I was listening to Maintenance Phase I realised I could just work out because I enjoy movement. And working out didn’t have to equate punishing myself. I had to stop watching Jaclyn videos because I found it triggering too. It reminded me so much of the toxic advice and shaming I received over gaining weight due to medication.
@@MrVevlet yes, yes yes. Aubrey is everything! I’m obsessed with that podcast. I only discovered it a couple months ago but I’ve listened to every episode.
Seeing someone struggle, saying I can't eat bread but I can eat cheese (when she is not gluten intolerant) just brings back horrible memories. Memories of a person who would be obsessed with food 24/7 because of all these banned foods I couldn't eat. How to live your life miserably when you literally have everything. Beyond me.
So admittedly a tough video to watch today with my old “ED voice” sneaking in some doubts right before that time of the month. I almost talked myself out of a frozen Kit-Kat after my burrito for lunch. My husband reminded me “If you want some chocolate, go for it. It’s not going to hurt you. You look beautiful.” I’m not always kind to myself, but I’m trying. If you watched Abbey long enough, know that’s it’s okay to honor your hunger.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! PLEASE DO MORE!!! I’ve been following along her whole journey just hoping that she would stumble across your videos, because she has no idea how much diet culture is influencing her 😭
The moment I stopped adding a time line to my health journey is the moment it finally stuck. I know everyone is different though and some are more motivated by small goals. I am glad you decided to review her video. Her health struggles are so relatable to a lot of people.
Personally, I think the younger you are the more you need smaller objectives to keep on track and celebrate victories. When you're in your 30's (like Abbey & I), you come to accept that you'll never been skinny like you were in your teens and early 20s, but you understand that looking good and feeling good (being healthy) are equally as important, and so you play the long game 😊
@@AbbeysKitchen yes, I would really appreciate a video about anti inflammatory diets. They're often recommended for my chronic pain condition but I can't find any real information about them and they seem so limiting.
I really appreciate your comments that some of her meals don't have enough food. As an overweight person who has an eating disorder, I often have the idea stuck in my head that I need to severely undereat to see any weight loss progress. Thank you Abbey ❤
She did say her labs showed high inflammation….so taking away grains isnt too far off from what could help. I have high inflammation and I’m gluten sugar and grain free to help reduce my pain.
She lost me at “no rice” 😬 I feel for her, I really do but it’s straight up painful watching her take the stereotypical Hollywoood diet route instead of just making small changes that are sustainable and don’t make her utterly miserable. Maybe she should have hired you!
Crazy how you predicted burn out. Her most recent video talks about burn out. Hope she is able to learn from your critiques. We are all human and make mistakes in life.
Jaclyn’s mindset is like so many people (myself included) - I’m glad she’s documenting real life stuff and also equally glad you are giving your view on it!! I’m over here taking notes 📝 😅
So excited for this video!!!!!! I’ve had an ED and ongoing issues with food so I love hearing your perspective on things and ESPECIALLY tips on how to adjust or tweak without killing yourself or making it all about weight loss etc.
It's pretty hard to get out of the fat loss mindset, especially when you have a goal of being relatively lean, but also love to eat junk food and still binge semi-frequently x.x and also dont like working out 🤯
Hi Abbey as a psychotherapist watching this hurts me bc she would benefit from having a dietitian and therapy and health collaborative team so that she can heal and grow in the journey. It’s all interconnected. Would love to see more along this series bc many people live like this in terms of scarcity and skewed belief systems.
This is the hardest one to watch in her series, for sure! She did say she’s no longer doing 60 days, she’s just trying to be healthier. I think this is how so many people start, from a point of frustration and thinking they need to go insane. Thanks for all the tips, would love if you keep up and do an update maybe on week 10 or something to compare it. Would be super helpful!
I’m currently seeing a dietitian for eating disorder recovery & to learn IE and I just love your videos!! This one is particularly helpful because I’m often on the binge/restrict pendulum a lot as well like Jaclyn.
I feel like i related to so many of jaclyn's struggles while going through my health journey, and even now at times. hearing your advice for her helps and encourages me so much, and i really wanna thank you for this video.
I feel like a great addition to her “journey” would be meeting with a dietician to learn how to make her meals more nutritious (without eating so little). And benefit to show her audience as well that she was under eating and how to fix it
I loved your comment about how our bodies change as we age, and that it’s normal. I think we often forget that and feel we need to have the bodies we had in our 20’s, and it’s just not realistic.
I’m with Abby. I don’t want the body I had in my teens. I’ve always had a rectangle body type and back then I was just arms and legs. Now, I’m a mom in my 30s and while I’ll never have that “thicc” body, at least I have more shape than I did.. Even more importantly, the life experience of getting older is invaluable. I would only go back in time if I could know then what I know now.
I was a pretty big teenager so I'm actually down to my high school weight. I was not expecting it at all. All I thought through my health journey was how it would be nice to be under 200 lbs. When I got to that point I hoped for 180. I'm absolutely shocked that I weigh 160lbs and have for a little over a year now. I am 5 lbs heavier than when I was doing weight lifting 5 days a week and eating a completely clean diet; no processed foods were allowed in the house after my grandma had gastric bypass surgery. If that's not proof that you can have your cake and eat it too (literally) than I don't know what is
So so so valid to recognize that changes in our bodies are often completley healthy and normal. I used to want to be my high school size and someone said to me once that's not reasonable, you were a child then, you're a woman now. It helped me let go of so much insecurity.
omg the fact that this video came out today and there’s a new episode of this series that came out today makes me feel like i’m being pampered by my fave influencers
When she said she wasn’t feeling full, i would like to know if it’s valid to wonder if that’s physically or in comparison to after binging. That oh wow I ate more than I should have and now I feel full was often a guilty full that was paired with anxiety. But actually eating the proper proportions and using the hunger crushing combo I sit there and look at the food and ask myself do I want more? If the answer is no then I’m full.
Ps: this is why I asked on Instagram about a matcha video because I feel like I don’t feel as hungry and I’m not feeling deprived after eating a “scheduled” 1300 calories a day (I don’t calorie count my snacks but I try to nibble on the things I enjoy)
Ugh this girl needs a lot of help. Obviously she is stressed out. Stress causes craving and hormone imbalance, it may actually the cause of weight gain , and to stress about losing weight is like adding oil to fire. She probably need to slow down… get some professional help. She didn’t gain these weight in 1 week , shouldn’t expect to lose it in a week. If she enjoyed the journey to reach where she is in terms of health, she should find an enjoyable and sustainable way to build a healthy lifestyle …I can tell that she is not content with herself, she gave other people so much power to judge her and at the same time she is judging herself…
everytime i have a bad food thought that spirals into a bad day as they tend to do i like to watch your videos to remind myself of what healthy, fueling and nutritious eatinglooks like & to be kind to my body :)) thank you for the content you put out and how much help you give to people like me 🤍
But also keep in mind no foods are bad, we shouldn’t categorize them as good and bad (what I’ve learned in ED therapy hahah). try using the word fun! You deserve fun foods too :)
@@michaelaf6580 yeah meaning thinking about BAD FOOD, thanks for the clarification 🤦🏻♀️ an unnecessary comment from yourself given my reply was positive and meant to be helpful. Shoo
When she said that she had gained weight after being on the diet for 2 days I said out loud to myself, “are you close to your period?” I gain around 5 lbs the week before my period every time. Just enough to make my pants feel a little snug.
That's what I was thinking. It also has a lot to do with what you ate the day before. If I always hold a lot of water weight 1-2 days after eating crappie foods
@@krystine.lolo6 That’s sad. I used to do that and it took a major toll emotionally. Haven’t weighed myself in years and it’s the best decision I’ve made for my mental health in a long time.
@@loreleiford700 yea. I think she is saying what she wants to do/feel but isn't being honest with herself that she's doing the opposite of that. She says she wants to make long term changes, but everything she's doing screams restriction. She uses "cheat meal" constantly in the series. If I had an issue with food I would be so triggered watching these.
Psychologist here. In terms of your comments about the 60 days being arbitrary - goals are more successful when a clear timeframe is set. Yes, she should continue to engage in healthy behaviors after that date, but setting an initial timeframe makes sense. It should be realistic though, and it sounds like what she wanted to achieve with that time was poorly defined. There is also good evidence to support that you need to do something for 90 days to make a habit, so she should perhaps try for that instead.
You would know that setting a goal in 90 days if she doesn't achieve it, she will feel defeated. So yes I think it is arbitrary and not necessary in this context
@@virgismar in psychology, you’re taught to create “smart” goals, which describe “Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-based goals”. So actually no, it is relevant in the current context.
I don’t think that’s relevant with weight loss since you are up against your body’s biology it’s not really in your control. You could eat the same way for 90 days then end up in a binge cycle because your body can no longer withstand the deficit. So Abbey’s advice to make small adjustments that you can more easily sustain makes more sense.
As someone who has fought obesity my entire life (thanks, genetics), I can 100% understand the "lack of mobility" sentiment. I can attest to the fact that once you gain a lot of weight rapidly, your body truly does panic - it cannot bear the weight you've put on it. HOWEVER - it's important to recognize that it isn't just the weight itself. You can be "overweight" or a bigger person, and still move fine and be in good cardiovascular shape if you work out. Weight =/= fitness.
I love the way you are kind about weight loss. I've been struggling with my weight for a while because I gained weigh since I started anorexy recovery and almost died from it. my parents have been commenting about my weight even though they forced me to recover because I was going to die. last month I was estressed out about sat and getting into my dream college and I told my parents I've been having a stress stomach ache for weeks and they said: at least you are going to lose weight
As someone who's been trying to lose weight and is results oriented, thanks for reminding me that weight loss is not a short term but a long term process, and to not rely too much on the scale and that it's okay if i don't feel like cooking and order anything that i crave. ♥
so happy you made this video!! Jaclyn has such a massive following and I feel like she's putting out harmful messages. As someone who has been on a weight loss journey for about a year, her videos have been making me want to rip out my hair!!! No one should feel like they need to cut out carbs completely, when you love them, or eat like a rabbit just to lose weight! I'm about to eat mini pizzas for dinner and ice cream as a desert, and still in a calorie deficit! I wish everyone knew how much easier is can really be.
She's about 6 or 7 videos in to this process and it's really shifted. These vlogs really are her journey. She shows weeks where she goes too hard on the diet, weeks where "falls off the wagon", and weeks where she strikes a balance. She's been very open on her channel about how the weight gain is from alcohol abuse and depression and how that excess weight just reminds her of one of her darkest times and how she really just wants to let that all go. Her whole series really is a journey of learning how to be healthy and strip away/unpack the diet culture that society pushes as healthy, but also learning how to love and take care yourself both mentally and physically. I actually really appreciate her series because it directly mirrors a lot of my own experiences and it's so helpful to see someone working through that process the same way I am, especially when so many people just put out the pretty, polished version of their journey which can be SUPER discouraging.
Yes, please do more of this series. I, myself, am working on my relationship with my body image and food and this is so helpful. My therapist is aware of how I feel too.
I am a big fan of Jaclyn and when I started watching her series, it made me incredibly sad. I started working with a trainer who taught me about macros / healing my relationship with food about a year ago, and eating MORE helped my bloodwork and made me feel awake, energized, etc. I hope she finds a professional and gets legitimate advice and action items.
Oh my god! I’m learning so much! I didn’t realize how much I also criticized myself for eating only 2 eggs for breakfast then beat myself up for feeling hungry before lunch! 😅 And you’re so right, why should I want my young 20 yr old body “now-now” when my late 30s yr old body is also awesome and serves me just as much! Thanks you for saying this!
I hope she comes across this video and takes notes. I am happy that she is finally trying to take control over something that she hasnt been happy with but after seeing her videos I cant help but think how she spiraling out of control.
Yes! I’ve been waiting for this! Please continue to do this series! I really hope Jaclyn sees this, takes it on board and shares the info with her audience!
She admitted in her latest vlog that she isn't seeing a therapist. However, she constantly talks about being addicted to food and also admits an issue with alcohol. She seems to need outside stimulants (food, alcohol and shopping) to feel better.
I‘ve been and still am suffering with disordered dieting and I’ve noticed my thoughts on certain foods/meals change for the better while watching you ! You‘re helping me and others a lot and i would absolutely love seeing you go through the whole series, simply because i feel like her dieting is similar to what society wants us to believe it should look like ..!
I'm in recovery from anorexia/bulimia and I love your videos, they have helped me soooooo much - they encourage me to eat properly and not to be "scared" of certain food groups and to look at food not just as fuel but for....shock horror......enjoyment too.
Her journey is relatable bc it is how a lot of ppl approach a healthy lifestyle. They under-eat , create good/bad food lists, attempt to workout, fail bc their energy is too low, beat themselves up then stop. I also think it’s important that people work with the correct professionals to learn what is best for their body. I’m glad you pointed out that she is not eating enough. She would go so much further working with a registered dietitian.
I love that you are telling her to eat more food. It’s scary how people make decisions without being fully informed. I am someone with kidney disease and my needs are different than a lot of peoples and a nutritionists is usually the only person that gets that.
I totally agree with not putting a timeline. I realize every time I put a timeline, when I fall off the wagon, I get so beaten down and spiral and feel like giving up until I set a new timeline and cycle repeats. But without a timeline, when I fail one day and had overeaten, I just continue to keep healthy the next day or even later that same day, as if nothing happened the day before. This keeps me motivated and its something I can see myself doing forever, some days, I fail but don't look at it as failure, but more of "I had a moment there", just brush it off and keep it moving.
Not gonna lie, all of the reacts videos have been so helpful to me (I know you have a ton of information, but these are just the most engaging to my brain and I absorb more info like this!) I'm currently doing a mix of tracking food intake and exercise, but I've a) bumped up my calories and b) am letting myself have things if I feel hungry regardless of what the numbers say. And because of a mix of nutrient tracking and the (very very bare bones) of some intuitive eating, I'm starting to be able to connect how I feel with whether I've gotten enough of something in a day. Like if I got enough calories but am still starving, it's probably because I got almost no protein. This is probably the most successful I've been at planned weight loss in a LONG time, because I'm still letting myself have everything I already had while learning to recognize hunger cues and satiety cues. And now I feel kind of ridiculous for all the times I tried to eat less than 1200 cals regularly because it was what I'm "supposed to do." I've lost around 4lbs since October 5th (so between 1-2 lb/week recommendation) and don't feel like I'm starving constantly, or deprived, etc. Thanks for all you do
I feel like what Jaclyn is demonstrating is something like the five stages of dieting that everyone seems to go through (and what is learned/adapted in each stage determines success). There's the over-restrict/punishment stage, the over-exercise stage, the fad diet stage, the learning balance stage, and the realization that it's not a diet but a lifestyle. Maybe I'm wrong, but I know I've gone through all those, and Jaclyn's beginning is awfully familiar....
I never will never understand smoothies as a habit to drink. Just can’t wrap my head around it as sustained tool. Older folks use blended food when they have problems swallowing or to supplement low calorie intake. Or when not eating at all.
I may have a smoothie once or twice a week as breakfast. Mine always have a base of protein powder, almond milk (lactose intolerant), a banana and flaxseed or wheat germ. I then throw in whatever fruits and veggies I feel like having in there. I enjoy them and I'm not a big breakfast eater so this works for me and my smaller appetite in the morning. I don't get hungry and by the time I do it's lunch time anyway. So for some people it can work as a breakfast meal
Thank you for the note about the blood panels! As someone who tries to engage in healthy behaviors, I'm much bigger than Jacqueline and my bloodwork is totally fine. Your comment about it helps fight weight stigma and I so appreciate that.
The bit about inflammation was super clarifying and helpful! Thank you. Never something I worry about but definitely something I've heard as a buzzword.
Thank you for making this video! I was watching one of the episodes earlier and I couldn’t help but FEEL hungry just watching the “meals” she was having. I’ve been in a caloric deficit and working out and losing weight, but I rarely let myself feel hungry on purpose. I’ve also made gradual changes mixing home cooked whole foods and fast food, because that’s been my diet for SO long and if I restrict it completely, I know I WILL binge on it. I don’t see her lasting with this small amount of food or varieties of meals for very long. I hope she begins adding more varieties and letting herself have more foods, or else she’ll bounce right back to her old habits and likely binge very quickly. I also am not sure why she’s weighing herself every day, I did that for a few days and quickly got discouraged because weight fluctuates SO much, especially for women!! She should be weighing every week, preferably every 2 weeks if weight loss in itself is her goal. I think therapy would be a great addition at this point in her weight loss journey as well. No hate, I think she’s beautiful either way & I hope she starts prioritizing how she feels versus looks/weight
i appreciate the knowledge you have & the way you aren't necessarily bashing or putting Jaclyn down, you are just analyzing the video and explaining how it compares to facts & truths about food and habits. glad i came across this, some things i needed to hear for my own journey as well.
A legitimate question- how do people who eat less than the minimum requirement of calories for their height/weight/activity level actually survive? My dietitian recently told me I need about 1400 calories minimum to breathe and pump blood and stuff, but it took me two months to go from eating roughly 600 a day to 1200 on average. How is my body still (kind of) functioning? *Like scientifically I mean, not existentially
Hi there! Hopefully, Abbey responds to this so you can get the best info. I'm not a dietician, I am studying public health, but as far as I know, the body can survive for a little while even when not receiving enough calories, but there is a cost; metabolic processes will slow down A LOT because you need the macronutrients and micronutrients in foods to perform cellular metabolic processes. In other words, your body has been able to function by basically slowing processes down that would have normally been occurring with more frequency and faster. Over time, tissues and organs become extremely damaged from both the primary and secondary effects of nutritional deficiency, and that does cause death unfortunately :( Glad to hear you found some support, and I wish you the best ❤❤❤
I'm also not an expert but from what my doctor told me: your body is probably using up all its stores of nutrients to keep you going, this includes all your muscles and even organs like your heart! your body does keep some stores pf stuff like vitamins so it burns through those for a while to try and keep going. Bit it also shuts down whatever processes it can to conserve energy. It can be really tough to increase the amount of food you are eating, you're doing great!
She did say she ate every hour and a half and even though there all light meals it doesn't sound like she was accounting everything that could add up in the course of a day .
The video we have all been waiting for.🙌 Thank you Abbey for reviewing the first episode of this series! I think I'm speaking for everyone when I say that we'd terribly appreciate it if you reacted to the whole series. It's so disturbing that Jaclyn is getting so much praise for being "so real and relatable", while it's so harmful for everyone watching. I'd say the internet needs your input on this series. I really wish Jaclyn would seek professional help for losing weight and feeling better.
U are so good at explaining this! I gained a lot of weight due to some health issues and i couldn’t get it off no matter how much u worked out. When I learned to look at food a totally different way, not a diet but a lifestyle, I got to my goal weight and have stayed there for over 2 years.
Thank you so much for talking about the whole tight clothing thing. It caused me to have a "light bulb moment" I've made some positive changes in the last year after a stroke. From those changes, I've gone down a couple of clothing sizes. I tried on some new to me clothing and it was actually one size too big, but I found myself wanting to stay in that size because I was worried that the next size down would be too clingy. I wasn't happy either way. Staying where I am would mean baggy clothes but the smaller size would feel clingy, but probably actually fit correctly. Having been morbidly obese for the last 48 years has really pounded into my brain that I have to hide behind loose clothes. I predict much contemplation in my future.
Abbey you have literally changed my life for the better I love your content sooo much. It inspires me to make TH-cam videos and I want to make one on my recovery journey with empathy and gentleness like your videos show. Thank you thank you for your content!!
i think Jaclyn's series is what most people feel like. You mentioned that Jaclyn's diet of just chicken isn't sustainable. True. But I struggle so much and just finding a food that I *should* lose weight on is a win. My brain doesn't turn off. I'm constantly aware that I'm overweight, that i am wanting food that isn't healthy, that people are looking at me while I eat a cookie and wonder why the fat girl isn't having a salad. The mental health aspect is very hard to balance with the physical aspect of dieting for many people.
Please please please do her whole series! Especially with the new video that came out… she believes that she isn’t doing ANYTHING wrong, it’s so sad. She had a breakdown in the video and I would just love how you react to it, abbey.
I fluctuate so much day to day without any regard for my body fat. Alcohol, salt, sleep, everything affects me. I looked up water retention issues online and they mostly just said to go for walks after eating. But yeah I don't use use scale.
I’ve watched Jaclyn since I was in high school. And have been watching you in my recovery this past year to education myself. This is an exciting video for me!! I love it
I worked with a coach last year, when talking about my goals I told him I wanted to be my high school weight again. He said, "I want you to consider that you actually may not want that. Yes you may have put on some weight but not all of that is un necessary. In high school you were a child, you're a woman now. It is completely normal and healthy that your body has changed. Let's not think about getting back to that, let's think about what's the best for you now, as a woman." Completley changed my life, erased so much guilt and shame for me.
Wow. Hats off to that trainer. There are many trainers who would likely just hype you up for that goal in order to promote themselves as the person who would get you there, when in reality it’s not healthy or feasible.
Love this!! Wow. I am 5’10” and a quite fit and healthy 170-180 pounds. When I was in high school, I was an incredibly thin 130 pounds. I look like a toothpick and actually hated how thin I was. Over the next 10 years, though, I gained over 80 pounds, mostly due to emotional eating. I have found such a sweet spot for myself now, but sometimes I still feel guilty that I am 40 to 50 pounds heavier than my high school weight. I have to remind myself that it was not a weight that I was even happy to be out! I am feed girls who had curves and I felt just like a tall, bony toothpick. I love this trainer normalizing not making that a goal, because we were completely different people then and not even finished growing. Thank you so much for sharing that.
He sounds really respectful to women. Honestly just reading this gave me a bit of an emotional reaction. It's refreshing.
Wow! Great advice! I needed to hear that today!
The hack for this is to have been a chunky monkey in hs so now I’m lik wow so fit
“You probably would unconsciously crave that overfed feeling cause you know the alternative is overt restriction.” I think this one sentence literally gave me the breakthrough “aha moment” that I’ve needed for a decade.. thank you Abbey.
Thanks for your comment :)
yeah, same. Actually I did an experiment once and I was super mindful about eating what I WANT and not should... and I didn't overeat, didn't feel hungry, just ate and was happy. I've got no clue why I'm not doing it right now xd. I'm scared of letting go although I know that letting go would make me feel better xd
I'm surprised that Jaclyn doesn't hire a personal chef/dietitian/trainer to help her through her weight loss journey. Give her a schedule with delicious pre-made meals/snacks loaded up in her fridge. Make sure it's food that she finds tasty and fulfilling. Throw in some therapy and there you have it. Hopefully she's not just doing this for the clicks.
It’s has alot to do with control…
For sure. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Her boyfriend has a cooking channel. She has the resources. That isn't the problem
@@treasureeilyn But he’s not a nutritionist.
@@BbGun-lw5vi I never claimed he was.
I honestly feel like what’s depicted in her video is the reality of dieting for most people.. it’s tough. I know I struggle similarly.
Agreed! I’ve gone through similar cycles of this myself. That’s why I love Abbey so much! She’s really re-shaped and opened my eyes to it!
It’s definitely possible. I hope you are doing alright ❤️
I agree 100%. Watching her videos definitely brought me back to how I once thought every single time I dieted. I’m happy she has lost 13 pounds, but I’m just hoping she can maintain that weight loss. I hope along the way she can get the right mindset and develop a healthier relationship with food and her body.
@@AbbeysKitchen I think the bad stuff should be gradually fade out, once a month during PMS I allow myself to let go...but only once a month
That's sad, i don't understand why people do this.
Abbey your shirt is gorgeous! That color is so flattering on you.
I love this color on her!
Thank you!
I agree
Yes! She looks like some type of Summer in seasonal color analysis. Light summer, true summer or soft summer. I’ve noticed light, cooler colors look beautiful on her.
@@AbbeysKitchen but where is it from!!?! (great content as usual)
I really love the ‘all black’ background. As I’ve got ADHD this plain yet stunning backdrop helped me focus on Abby’s message…❤️
I'm so glad you enjoy it! ❤
I agree it's a good aesthetic
I also have adhd, I was looking at her mug the whole time 😅 and the comments of course
@@vampnico not me scrolling through the comments rn because of my adhd 😳
My kids have, what seems to be, bottomless pits. I have found myself repeating Abbey Sharps “Hunger Crushing Combo” in my head while making my kids snacks. Now after giving them more well rounded meals and snacks they seems to be held over for more than a half hour. Thank you for constantly repeating this in your videos. It’s now imbedded in my brain for life. Which is helping me eat more healthy and giving me less time in the kitchen and more time enjoying motherhood.
Also remember small kids have small tummies. So they aren't able to eat as much at one time.
I'd love to see you go through the whole series! Ever since I have been watching your channel, I find myself so much less obsessed with food, and enjoying my life SO MUCH more. Thank you for your insight and gentle nutrition guidance!
I will put this on my list to do! So glad my videos have been helpful for you 😊
I love this for you! ♡
One of the best things I did for myself when I was recovering was getting rid of my scale, all my skinny clothes, and buying larger clothes that made me and my new muscular body feel awesome. I usually don’t watch these anymore because they used to trigger me. It isn’t bothering my like it used to. Progress in my recovery! I like your tips in this one. Have a lovely day!
Thank you for sharing what works for you!
I feel like I know exactly how Jaclyn feels since gaining 30lbs in the last year. But your channel and a sane approach has helped me lose and keep off 10lbs in the last month and half with sustainable changes and a guilt free mind. Finding healthy foods and physical activities I ENJOY has helped SO much.
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you!
‘do not wait to live your best life for when you are fitting back into your high school jeans’
I can see this becoming a mantra for me. it probably saved me from another restrict-binge cycle. I’ve gained some weight recently and as so many times before, I’m not living my life to the fullest because I don’t find myself skinny enough for it. that sentence saved me there, thank you Abby!
I'm so glad that was helpful for you!
Ugh Im doing that! Im putting off getting married because Im not "skinny" enough...My husband loves the way I look I just feel like I need to look presentable even though we are just going to the courthouse by ourselves. We've been together for 7 years and it would be an absolute DREAM to get married. But yea, I feel like I dont look good enough. And when will I really? Im pregnant with my 4th baby and Im 41! I needed to hear this....what should I do?
Can 10000% relate to this!
Please do more of her series!
On my list to make more videos about this series!
I agree - I will definitely be waiting for these reviews 🥰
Yes please!!! I was so glad to see this video pop up on my feed - I’ve been watching Jaclyn’s journey thinking to myself “I hope Abbey reviews this series” every single episode. I never really contact creators with suggestions for topics but I had been seriously considering it after several of her videos. Thank you for your honest, gentle and considerate discussion 💛
Yes please!!
@@last4367 how so? Ive seen every episode and she continues to push diet culture BS. She isnt doing this in a sustainable way.
The contrast between her clips and your peaceful ones 😭😂
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what i’ve learned recently, especially from your podcast with coach greg, is that the slower that body changes happen, the more sustainable and healthy they usually are! all these fads are 21 days, 30 days, 60 days, or 90 days, which makes sense for the algorithm but not for life. thanks for always giving sustainable and gentle advice!
For sure! So glad it's helpful
I like attaching a timeline…yes, it’s a journey and life long commitment but things like “no alcohol for 30 days” or “15k steps every day for 30 days”. These mini goals make me feel accomplished.
I am saying this as someone who lost 95 pounds 12 years ago and kept it off 💕
Glad that's helpful for you!
Making little goals for healthier habits is a LOT different than trying to "lose ___ pounds in ____ days". I definitely like making goals for my health! But not the way she did it.
@@tatersprecious5827 oh, she didn’t state a number, Weight-wise. Did YOU watch a different video??? 🤔
There was someone I used to follow in IG who documented her weight loss journey (she was obese and wanted to get to a healthy size and develop healthy habits), and one thing she talked about often were NSVs, or Non-Scale Victories. Idk where she got it from or if she came up with it, but she loved to keep track of both the numbers and the NSVs to help keep her motivated to continue developing better lifestyle habits. Often times when she would get discouraged about the numbers or plateau, there would be a non-scale victory that she hadn't noticed before (doing more reps, mastering a new exercise, increasing weights, dropping a clothing size, having more energy, etc). I hope Jaclyn is able to switch her mindset and start recognizing that it's not always about the scale.
I love that idea!!! I'm going to start using NSVs :D Thank you!
April Lauren talks about non-scale victories all the time
Interesting, thank you for sharing!
I gotta remember that, thanks
i saw one woman do a NSV that was her being able to cross her legs when sitting or feeling her chair get bigger around her! i think those are some of the greatest things about weight loss is when you feel physically smaller, not just the numbers going down on the scale!!!
My heart goes out to her. She comes off as do vulnerable and I applaud her for sharing her experience as I know so many people feel the same way she does. She’s super honest and upfront about her feelings. Although she uses a lot of diet jargon you can clearly tell it’s coming from such a sensitive place.
She's not honest. She's a compulsive liar and scammer, and she's GREAT at convincing people that she's genuine.
For sure. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
@@augustabracknell4534 when people on the internet think they know other people on the internet to this degree 🚩🚩🚩🚩
@@augustabracknell4534 you need to spend more time in the real world and less time being overly invested into online celebrities and what you believe you know just by what the web tells you. Lol so absurd sounding.
@@wits692 You're projecting, honey.
It took me a whole weightloss journey to realize health is not just about weight. I weigh the same as I did when I started college , but now I'm significantly healthier and feeling better.
Absolutely. Glad you’re feeling better!
The thing that kills me is that Jaclyn has the funds and resources to lose weight in a healthy way and keep off the weight yet instead to do it in a not so great way. Her videos are so up and down in this series. It stresses me out 🥴
I'm sorry if they're triggering for you!
It’s exactly why people like Oprah Winfrey couldn’t SUSTAIN weight loss….anyone can lose it but the magic is learning how to keep it off..Jaclyn is displaying classic behaviors of someone poised to gain every single pound back and more….THERAPY for the brain and the toxic relationship to food is what should be the core area to attack.
But they are real. She’s doing this the same way normal people who don’t have a the resources could do it! I appreciate it. It’s frustrating but I appreciate
@@fordfam4536 It doesn’t matter the resources because wouldn’t Oprah Winfrey have maintained weight loss if it was JUST resources?
@@AbbeysKitchen why would someone else’s weigh loss trigger her though? Some people get stressed/triggered so easily. Everyone needs to chill out 😂
This is a classic example of someone following all the right rules the wrong way. It is painful to watch her spiral and it’s so unnecessary.
I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Right! Like the treadmill punishment. Girl, get fresh air, walk around the neighborhood and trees!
@@TheYazmanian I know!! I thought the same thing.
TH-camrs tend to lose sight of their true intentions. I feel like Jaclyn set out wanting to make content for her channel. Realistically, two months just aren't enough for a transformation. And what transformation is worth it if it isn't sustainable? She should have focused on her lifestyle and gradually made small changes over the course of May be a year, with professional help. She could have literally collabed with a TH-cam dietician and personal trainer on this one and made great content.
@@aoutsky 💯. By doing this she harms the ‘healthy/intuitive method’ because everyone will say ‘see these types of diets don’t work.’
Omg that top is giving Cinderella vibes. You look fantastic.
Thank you!
I was thinking Elsa vibes 😃
right!! the cut and color really suits her so well
When I first watched this episode from her series and checked the comments, I was so bummed to see people ripping her apart for her “unhealthy” English muffin breakfast after she had finally eaten something filling and satiating and needed. I’m so glad to hear you encourage those types of food choices for her and dispelling the guilt/shame/restriction culture. It’s why I started following you long ago- I need help remembering not to fall into the hype of diet culture and unhealthy habits.
Oh, and I also love the ballet top!
Oh wow, that is very upsetting. And thank you!
This is the opinion/response I needed to hear. Jaclyn may be screening negative comments, but at a glance all her comments and feedback are positive, praising her discipline and dieting. And it’s sooo triggering as a life-long fat person, having been on diets since age 9. This diet is what everyone in my life encouraged me to do growing up. Eating few calories, all protein and veg, forcing yourself to workout when you’re feeling badly is the image of health, or at least it was my idea of being healthy all through my adolescence and young adulthood. It has only been recently, and thanks to voices like Abbey’s, that being smaller is no longer my “health” goal. This was a great reminder I’ve got my priorities straight now.
I'm so sorry if this video was triggering for you. I'm glad you find the content on my channel helpful ❤
@@AbbeysKitchen to be clear, YOUR video wasn’t triggering 😂. I meant Jaclyn’s viewer’s comments were triggering. Thanks for all your work!
Have you ever listened to Maintenance Phase? Aubrey Gordon (along with Abbey) helped me radically shift my relationship with weight, food and exercise. Like at some point when I was listening to Maintenance Phase I realised I could just work out because I enjoy movement. And working out didn’t have to equate punishing myself.
I had to stop watching Jaclyn videos because I found it triggering too. It reminded me so much of the toxic advice and shaming I received over gaining weight due to medication.
@@MrVevlet yes, yes yes. Aubrey is everything! I’m obsessed with that podcast. I only discovered it a couple months ago but I’ve listened to every episode.
@@MrVevlet thank you for sharing. I’m really glad to hear this is becoming the mindset for other people too now ❤️
The Hunger-crushing Combo has been such a game-changer for me!
I’m so glad!
Same! Now when i go for a bag of pretzels i hear abby… make this a HCC!
What is this HCC?
Seeing someone struggle, saying I can't eat bread but I can eat cheese (when she is not gluten intolerant) just brings back horrible memories. Memories of a person who would be obsessed with food 24/7 because of all these banned foods I couldn't eat. How to live your life miserably when you literally have everything. Beyond me.
I understand. I'm sorry if this was triggering for you
So admittedly a tough video to watch today with my old “ED voice” sneaking in some doubts right before that time of the month. I almost talked myself out of a frozen Kit-Kat after my burrito for lunch. My husband reminded me “If you want some chocolate, go for it. It’s not going to hurt you. You look beautiful.” I’m not always kind to myself, but I’m trying. If you watched Abbey long enough, know that’s it’s okay to honor your hunger.
I love your husband - my husband is similar on both sides. He supports me making healthy choices - including the chocolate. Bc balance is healthy ❤️
Absolutely. I’m sorry if this was triggering for you and I’m glad you ate the chocolate ❤️
I hope you enjoyed your frozen KitKat! I thought I was the only one that liked them like that!
you are beautiful!
@@beth4928 My dad and I have been eating them like that since I was little.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! PLEASE DO MORE!!! I’ve been following along her whole journey just hoping that she would stumble across your videos, because she has no idea how much diet culture is influencing her 😭
On my list to make more videos about this series!
The moment I stopped adding a time line to my health journey is the moment it finally stuck. I know everyone is different though and some are more motivated by small goals. I am glad you decided to review her video. Her health struggles are so relatable to a lot of people.
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing!
Personally, I think the younger you are the more you need smaller objectives to keep on track and celebrate victories. When you're in your 30's (like Abbey & I), you come to accept that you'll never been skinny like you were in your teens and early 20s, but you understand that looking good and feeling good (being healthy) are equally as important, and so you play the long game 😊
Can you do a whole video on “inflammation,?” There’s a lot of myths to dispel there.
On my list to do this!
This would be such a great video!
@@AbbeysKitchen yes, I would really appreciate a video about anti inflammatory diets. They're often recommended for my chronic pain condition but I can't find any real information about them and they seem so limiting.
Agreed! I would love to see Abbey take down some inflammation misinformation! :D
@@AbbeysKitchen and "gut health". I feel like this is all I hear
I really appreciate your comments that some of her meals don't have enough food. As an overweight person who has an eating disorder, I often have the idea stuck in my head that I need to severely undereat to see any weight loss progress. Thank you Abbey ❤
Absolutely. I’m so glad that was helpful ❤️
She did say her labs showed high inflammation….so taking away grains isnt too far off from what could help. I have high inflammation and I’m gluten sugar and grain free to help reduce my pain.
She lost me at “no rice” 😬 I feel for her, I really do but it’s straight up painful watching her take the stereotypical Hollywoood diet route instead of just making small changes that are sustainable and don’t make her utterly miserable. Maybe she should have hired you!
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Crazy how you predicted burn out. Her most recent video talks about burn out. Hope she is able to learn from your critiques. We are all human and make mistakes in life.
I hope she is doing alright ❤️
Jaclyn’s mindset is like so many people (myself included) - I’m glad she’s documenting real life stuff and also equally glad you are giving your view on it!! I’m over here taking notes 📝 😅
I hope the review was helpful!
So excited for this video!!!!!! I’ve had an ED and ongoing issues with food so I love hearing your perspective on things and ESPECIALLY tips on how to adjust or tweak without killing yourself or making it all about weight loss etc.
I'm so glad my videos are helpful for you!
It's pretty hard to get out of the fat loss mindset, especially when you have a goal of being relatively lean, but also love to eat junk food and still binge semi-frequently x.x and also dont like working out 🤯
Hi Abbey as a psychotherapist watching this hurts me bc she would benefit from having a dietitian and therapy and health collaborative team so that she can heal and grow in the journey. It’s all interconnected. Would love to see more along this series bc many people live like this in terms of scarcity and skewed belief systems.
This is the hardest one to watch in her series, for sure! She did say she’s no longer doing 60 days, she’s just trying to be healthier. I think this is how so many people start, from a point of frustration and thinking they need to go insane. Thanks for all the tips, would love if you keep up and do an update maybe on week 10 or something to compare it. Would be super helpful!
On my list to make more videos about this series!
Thank you. Her videos BROKE MY HEART for her and all the young people watching.
I’m currently seeing a dietitian for eating disorder recovery & to learn IE and I just love your videos!! This one is particularly helpful because I’m often on the binge/restrict pendulum a lot as well like Jaclyn.
That’s great, I hope that will be helpful for you! ❤️
I appreciate how responsible you are with accurate information and expectations Abby, I’m glad i came across your channel
I feel like i related to so many of jaclyn's struggles while going through my health journey, and even now at times. hearing your advice for her helps and encourages me so much, and i really wanna thank you for this video.
So glad this video is helpful for you ❤️
*me watching this video while on a 20 minute treadmill walk* :))
That's great!
I feel like a great addition to her “journey” would be meeting with a dietician to learn how to make her meals more nutritious (without eating so little). And benefit to show her audience as well that she was under eating and how to fix it
"Don't wait to live your best life until you fit back into your skinny clothes". Wow did I need to hear that 🙌
I loved your comment about how our bodies change as we age, and that it’s normal. I think we often forget that and feel we need to have the bodies we had in our 20’s, and it’s just not realistic.
Totally. I'm glad that part was helpful
Definitely helpful. I’ve had 3 kids. That teenage body is NEVER coming back lol.
I’m with Abby. I don’t want the body I had in my teens. I’ve always had a rectangle body type and back then I was just arms and legs. Now, I’m a mom in my 30s and while I’ll never have that “thicc” body, at least I have more shape than I did.. Even more importantly, the life experience of getting older is invaluable. I would only go back in time if I could know then what I know now.
I was a pretty big teenager so I'm actually down to my high school weight. I was not expecting it at all. All I thought through my health journey was how it would be nice to be under 200 lbs. When I got to that point I hoped for 180. I'm absolutely shocked that I weigh 160lbs and have for a little over a year now. I am 5 lbs heavier than when I was doing weight lifting 5 days a week and eating a completely clean diet; no processed foods were allowed in the house after my grandma had gastric bypass surgery. If that's not proof that you can have your cake and eat it too (literally) than I don't know what is
So so so valid to recognize that changes in our bodies are often completley healthy and normal. I used to want to be my high school size and someone said to me once that's not reasonable, you were a child then, you're a woman now. It helped me let go of so much insecurity.
omg the fact that this video came out today and there’s a new episode of this series that came out today makes me feel like i’m being pampered by my fave influencers
I hope this review is helpful!
When she said she wasn’t feeling full, i would like to know if it’s valid to wonder if that’s physically or in comparison to after binging. That oh wow I ate more than I should have and now I feel full was often a guilty full that was paired with anxiety. But actually eating the proper proportions and using the hunger crushing combo I sit there and look at the food and ask myself do I want more? If the answer is no then I’m full.
Ps: this is why I asked on Instagram about a matcha video because I feel like I don’t feel as hungry and I’m not feeling deprived after eating a “scheduled” 1300 calories a day (I don’t calorie count my snacks but I try to nibble on the things I enjoy)
So true!! I struggled with this when I first started paying attention to my hunger cues.
Possibly!
Ugh this girl needs a lot of help. Obviously she is stressed out. Stress causes craving and hormone imbalance, it may actually the cause of weight gain , and to stress about losing weight is like adding oil to fire. She probably need to slow down… get some professional help. She didn’t gain these weight in 1 week , shouldn’t expect to lose it in a week. If she enjoyed the journey to reach where she is in terms of health, she should find an enjoyable and sustainable way to build a healthy lifestyle …I can tell that she is not content with herself, she gave other people so much power to judge her and at the same time she is judging herself…
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she need to get through this
everytime i have a bad food thought that spirals into a bad day as they tend to do i like to watch your videos to remind myself of what healthy, fueling and nutritious eatinglooks like & to be kind to my
body :)) thank you for the content you put out and how much help you give to people like me 🤍
I’m so glad my videos are helpful for you ❤️
But also keep in mind no foods are bad, we shouldn’t categorize them as good and bad (what I’ve learned in ED therapy hahah). try using the word fun! You deserve fun foods too :)
@@shainasterrett she said bad food THOUGHT.
@@michaelaf6580 yeah meaning thinking about BAD FOOD, thanks for the clarification 🤦🏻♀️ an unnecessary comment from yourself given my reply was positive and meant to be helpful. Shoo
When she said that she had gained weight after being on the diet for 2 days I said out loud to myself, “are you close to your period?” I gain around 5 lbs the week before my period every time. Just enough to make my pants feel a little snug.
Every time I think I’m gaining weight I’m due for my period lol
She weighs herself constantly during this series even though she said she wasn't going to do that
That's what I was thinking. It also has a lot to do with what you ate the day before. If I always hold a lot of water weight 1-2 days after eating crappie foods
@@krystine.lolo6 That’s sad. I used to do that and it took a major toll emotionally. Haven’t weighed myself in years and it’s the best decision I’ve made for my mental health in a long time.
@@loreleiford700 yea. I think she is saying what she wants to do/feel but isn't being honest with herself that she's doing the opposite of that. She says she wants to make long term changes, but everything she's doing screams restriction. She uses "cheat meal" constantly in the series. If I had an issue with food I would be so triggered watching these.
The language that was spoken here is so possitive and non fatphobic! Thank you Abbey!
😊❤️
I agree!
Psychologist here. In terms of your comments about the 60 days being arbitrary - goals are more successful when a clear timeframe is set. Yes, she should continue to engage in healthy behaviors after that date, but setting an initial timeframe makes sense. It should be realistic though, and it sounds like what she wanted to achieve with that time was poorly defined.
There is also good evidence to support that you need to do something for 90 days to make a habit, so she should perhaps try for that instead.
Thank you for the information!
You would know that setting a goal in 90 days if she doesn't achieve it, she will feel defeated. So yes I think it is arbitrary and not necessary in this context
@@virgismar in psychology, you’re taught to create “smart” goals, which describe “Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-based goals”. So actually no, it is relevant in the current context.
@@apriilae well said totally agree
I don’t think that’s relevant with weight loss since you are up against your body’s biology it’s not really in your control. You could eat the same way for 90 days then end up in a binge cycle because your body can no longer withstand the deficit. So Abbey’s advice to make small adjustments that you can more easily sustain makes more sense.
As someone who has fought obesity my entire life (thanks, genetics), I can 100% understand the "lack of mobility" sentiment. I can attest to the fact that once you gain a lot of weight rapidly, your body truly does panic - it cannot bear the weight you've put on it. HOWEVER - it's important to recognize that it isn't just the weight itself. You can be "overweight" or a bigger person, and still move fine and be in good cardiovascular shape if you work out.
Weight =/= fitness.
I love the way you are kind about weight loss. I've been struggling with my weight for a while because I gained weigh since I started anorexy recovery and almost died from it. my parents have been commenting about my weight even though they forced me to recover because I was going to die. last month I was estressed out about sat and getting into my dream college and I told my parents I've been having a stress stomach ache for weeks and they said: at least you are going to lose weight
What I don’t understand she has all this money why doesn’t she hire a dietitian and a trainer.?
As someone who's been trying to lose weight and is results oriented, thanks for reminding me that weight loss is not a short term but a long term process, and to not rely too much on the scale and that it's okay if i don't feel like cooking and order anything that i crave. ♥
So glad the video was helpful for you ❤️
Watching her videos make me realize how normal it is to have a hard time changing habits and how much this lifestyle change starts in our head.
They’re very relatable to where a lot of us started but then ended up on abbys channel, maybe we can get Jac to watch her too (:
THANK YOU for being so supportive and rational with your advice. You are the healthy best friend, and voice of reason, that everyone needs!
Thank you so much ❤️
so happy you made this video!! Jaclyn has such a massive following and I feel like she's putting out harmful messages. As someone who has been on a weight loss journey for about a year, her videos have been making me want to rip out my hair!!! No one should feel like they need to cut out carbs completely, when you love them, or eat like a rabbit just to lose weight! I'm about to eat mini pizzas for dinner and ice cream as a desert, and still in a calorie deficit! I wish everyone knew how much easier is can really be.
Totally! Glad that's working for you
She's about 6 or 7 videos in to this process and it's really shifted. These vlogs really are her journey. She shows weeks where she goes too hard on the diet, weeks where "falls off the wagon", and weeks where she strikes a balance. She's been very open on her channel about how the weight gain is from alcohol abuse and depression and how that excess weight just reminds her of one of her darkest times and how she really just wants to let that all go. Her whole series really is a journey of learning how to be healthy and strip away/unpack the diet culture that society pushes as healthy, but also learning how to love and take care yourself both mentally and physically. I actually really appreciate her series because it directly mirrors a lot of my own experiences and it's so helpful to see someone working through that process the same way I am, especially when so many people just put out the pretty, polished version of their journey which can be SUPER discouraging.
Yes, please do more of this series. I, myself, am working on my relationship with my body image and food and this is so helpful. My therapist is aware of how I feel too.
I'm so glad this review was helpful for you!
That feeling, when you view Abby as a wisd mother figure and then find out she's actually younger than you 🙈
😊❤
I am a big fan of Jaclyn and when I started watching her series, it made me incredibly sad. I started working with a trainer who taught me about macros / healing my relationship with food about a year ago, and eating MORE helped my bloodwork and made me feel awake, energized, etc. I hope she finds a professional and gets legitimate advice and action items.
Abbey, I love you so much. Your mantra is in my head when I’m feeling bad, it has replaced a lot of the bad thoughts and I’m getting so much better
What if she sees this and you two are able to collab on a meal-plan for her??!?! That would be amazing.
I bet if she sees this she will think it's negative and block abbey haha
That would be great!
Oh my god! I’m learning so much! I didn’t realize how much I also criticized myself for eating only 2 eggs for breakfast then beat myself up for feeling hungry before lunch! 😅
And you’re so right, why should I want my young 20 yr old body “now-now” when my late 30s yr old body is also awesome and serves me just as much! Thanks you for saying this!
Totally! So glad that was helpful
I hope she comes across this video and takes notes. I am happy that she is finally trying to take control over something that she hasnt been happy with but after seeing her videos I cant help but think how she spiraling out of control.
I hope she is doing alright ❤️
Yes! I’ve been waiting for this!
Please continue to do this series! I really hope Jaclyn sees this, takes it on board and shares the info with her audience!
On my list to make more videos about this series!
She admitted in her latest vlog that she isn't seeing a therapist. However, she constantly talks about being addicted to food and also admits an issue with alcohol. She seems to need outside stimulants (food, alcohol and shopping) to feel better.
Haha same
Thank you for the information, I'll have a look at that
Every single thing that she said in this video, not only hit home AND make sense. It had me RUN to that subscribe button. I’m happy to here🤍
I talked about the HCC to my doctor today, and how I'm trying to incorporate it into each meal. My A1C is coming down and I'm slowly losing weight!
Wow! I'm so glad that's working for you 😊👍
I‘ve been and still am suffering with disordered dieting and I’ve noticed my thoughts on certain foods/meals change for the better while watching you ! You‘re helping me and others a lot and i would absolutely love seeing you go through the whole series, simply because i feel like her dieting is similar to what society wants us to believe it should look like ..!
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you!
I'm in recovery from anorexia/bulimia and I love your videos, they have helped me soooooo much - they encourage me to eat properly and not to be "scared" of certain food groups and to look at food not just as fuel but for....shock horror......enjoyment too.
I am so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
Her journey is relatable bc it is how a lot of ppl approach a healthy lifestyle. They under-eat , create good/bad food lists, attempt to workout, fail bc their energy is too low, beat themselves up then stop. I also think it’s important that people work with the correct professionals to learn what is best for their body. I’m glad you pointed out that she is not eating enough. She would go so much further working with a registered dietitian.
For sure. I hope she is able to find the help she needs
I love that you are telling her to eat more food. It’s scary how people make decisions without being fully informed. I am someone with kidney disease and my needs are different than a lot of peoples and a nutritionists is usually the only person that gets that.
I totally agree with not putting a timeline. I realize every time I put a timeline, when I fall off the wagon, I get so beaten down and spiral and feel like giving up until I set a new timeline and cycle repeats. But without a timeline, when I fail one day and had overeaten, I just continue to keep healthy the next day or even later that same day, as if nothing happened the day before. This keeps me motivated and its something I can see myself doing forever, some days, I fail but don't look at it as failure, but more of "I had a moment there", just brush it off and keep it moving.
I totally understand!
Not gonna lie, all of the reacts videos have been so helpful to me (I know you have a ton of information, but these are just the most engaging to my brain and I absorb more info like this!) I'm currently doing a mix of tracking food intake and exercise, but I've a) bumped up my calories and b) am letting myself have things if I feel hungry regardless of what the numbers say. And because of a mix of nutrient tracking and the (very very bare bones) of some intuitive eating, I'm starting to be able to connect how I feel with whether I've gotten enough of something in a day. Like if I got enough calories but am still starving, it's probably because I got almost no protein.
This is probably the most successful I've been at planned weight loss in a LONG time, because I'm still letting myself have everything I already had while learning to recognize hunger cues and satiety cues. And now I feel kind of ridiculous for all the times I tried to eat less than 1200 cals regularly because it was what I'm "supposed to do."
I've lost around 4lbs since October 5th (so between 1-2 lb/week recommendation) and don't feel like I'm starving constantly, or deprived, etc. Thanks for all you do
That's great! Thank you for sharing what works for you 😊
I feel like what Jaclyn is demonstrating is something like the five stages of dieting that everyone seems to go through (and what is learned/adapted in each stage determines success). There's the over-restrict/punishment stage, the over-exercise stage, the fad diet stage, the learning balance stage, and the realization that it's not a diet but a lifestyle. Maybe I'm wrong, but I know I've gone through all those, and Jaclyn's beginning is awfully familiar....
For sure
I never will never understand smoothies as a habit to drink. Just can’t wrap my head around it as sustained tool. Older folks use blended food when they have problems swallowing or to supplement low calorie intake. Or when not eating at all.
Whatever works best for each person!
I may have a smoothie once or twice a week as breakfast. Mine always have a base of protein powder, almond milk (lactose intolerant), a banana and flaxseed or wheat germ. I then throw in whatever fruits and veggies I feel like having in there. I enjoy them and I'm not a big breakfast eater so this works for me and my smaller appetite in the morning. I don't get hungry and by the time I do it's lunch time anyway. So for some people it can work as a breakfast meal
I'm so glad I recovered. I thank God for recognizing this toxic and tiring cycle. It's a never ending loop honestly...
Thank you for the note about the blood panels! As someone who tries to engage in healthy behaviors, I'm much bigger than Jacqueline and my bloodwork is totally fine. Your comment about it helps fight weight stigma and I so appreciate that.
The bit about inflammation was super clarifying and helpful! Thank you. Never something I worry about but definitely something I've heard as a buzzword.
Thank you for making this video! I was watching one of the episodes earlier and I couldn’t help but FEEL hungry just watching the “meals” she was having. I’ve been in a caloric deficit and working out and losing weight, but I rarely let myself feel hungry on purpose. I’ve also made gradual changes mixing home cooked whole foods and fast food, because that’s been my diet for SO long and if I restrict it completely, I know I WILL binge on it. I don’t see her lasting with this small amount of food or varieties of meals for very long. I hope she begins adding more varieties and letting herself have more foods, or else she’ll bounce right back to her old habits and likely binge very quickly. I also am not sure why she’s weighing herself every day, I did that for a few days and quickly got discouraged because weight fluctuates SO much, especially for women!! She should be weighing every week, preferably every 2 weeks if weight loss in itself is her goal. I think therapy would be a great addition at this point in her weight loss journey as well. No hate, I think she’s beautiful either way & I hope she starts prioritizing how she feels versus looks/weight
i appreciate the knowledge you have & the way you aren't necessarily bashing or putting Jaclyn down, you are just analyzing the video and explaining how it compares to facts & truths about food and habits. glad i came across this, some things i needed to hear for my own journey as well.
A legitimate question- how do people who eat less than the minimum requirement of calories for their height/weight/activity level actually survive?
My dietitian recently told me I need about 1400 calories minimum to breathe and pump blood and stuff, but it took me two months to go from eating roughly 600 a day to 1200 on average. How is my body still (kind of) functioning?
*Like scientifically I mean, not existentially
Hi there! Hopefully, Abbey responds to this so you can get the best info. I'm not a dietician, I am studying public health, but as far as I know, the body can survive for a little while even when not receiving enough calories, but there is a cost; metabolic processes will slow down A LOT because you need the macronutrients and micronutrients in foods to perform cellular metabolic processes. In other words, your body has been able to function by basically slowing processes down that would have normally been occurring with more frequency and faster. Over time, tissues and organs become extremely damaged from both the primary and secondary effects of nutritional deficiency, and that does cause death unfortunately :(
Glad to hear you found some support, and I wish you the best ❤❤❤
I'm also not an expert but from what my doctor told me: your body is probably using up all its stores of nutrients to keep you going, this includes all your muscles and even organs like your heart! your body does keep some stores pf stuff like vitamins so it burns through those for a while to try and keep going. Bit it also shuts down whatever processes it can to conserve energy. It can be really tough to increase the amount of food you are eating, you're doing great!
Abbey I screamed. I have been waiting for this!!!
I hope it was helpful!
She did say she ate every hour and a half and even though there all light meals it doesn't sound like she was accounting everything that could add up in the course of a day .
PREACH! this video was so understandable and factual! amazing as always Abbey!
The video we have all been waiting for.🙌
Thank you Abbey for reviewing the first episode of this series! I think I'm speaking for everyone when I say that we'd terribly appreciate it if you reacted to the whole series. It's so disturbing that Jaclyn is getting so much praise for being "so real and relatable", while it's so harmful for everyone watching. I'd say the internet needs your input on this series.
I really wish Jaclyn would seek professional help for losing weight and feeling better.
I'm glad it's helpful. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
U are so good at explaining this! I gained a lot of weight due to some health issues and i couldn’t get it off no matter how much u worked out. When I learned to look at food a totally different way, not a diet but a lifestyle, I got to my goal weight and have stayed there for over 2 years.
Thank you so much for talking about the whole tight clothing thing. It caused me to have a "light bulb moment" I've made some positive changes in the last year after a stroke. From those changes, I've gone down a couple of clothing sizes. I tried on some new to me clothing and it was actually one size too big, but I found myself wanting to stay in that size because I was worried that the next size down would be too clingy. I wasn't happy either way. Staying where I am would mean baggy clothes but the smaller size would feel clingy, but probably actually fit correctly. Having been morbidly obese for the last 48 years has really pounded into my brain that I have to hide behind loose clothes. I predict much contemplation in my future.
That color looks great on you! You are glowing
Abbey you have literally changed my life for the better I love your content sooo much. It inspires me to make TH-cam videos and I want to make one on my recovery journey with empathy and gentleness like your videos show. Thank you thank you for your content!!
I'm so glad it's helpful for you! ❤
I hope Jaclyn sees this. You are such a help!
i think Jaclyn's series is what most people feel like. You mentioned that Jaclyn's diet of just chicken isn't sustainable. True. But I struggle so much and just finding a food that I *should* lose weight on is a win. My brain doesn't turn off. I'm constantly aware that I'm overweight, that i am wanting food that isn't healthy, that people are looking at me while I eat a cookie and wonder why the fat girl isn't having a salad. The mental health aspect is very hard to balance with the physical aspect of dieting for many people.
These videos have really become a source of comfort for me while I'm on my health/weight loss journey
I'm so glad ❤
Please please please do her whole series! Especially with the new video that came out… she believes that she isn’t doing ANYTHING wrong, it’s so sad. She had a breakdown in the video and I would just love how you react to it, abbey.
On my list to keep making videos about this series!
I fluctuate so much day to day without any regard for my body fat. Alcohol, salt, sleep, everything affects me. I looked up water retention issues online and they mostly just said to go for walks after eating. But yeah I don't use use scale.
Poor girl I feel for her. I hope she finds inner peace and help
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
I’ve watched Jaclyn since I was in high school. And have been watching you in my recovery this past year to education myself. This is an exciting video for me!! I love it
I'm so glad my videos have been helpful for you!