I would LOVE to see Jaclyn do a series where she works with a dietician to see what progress she makes with that kind of support and knowledge behind her. You've had an immeasurable impact on my relationship with food simply from watching these videos; I can only imagine how much healthier and happier Jaclyn would be working one-on-one with a professional.
@@AbbeysKitchen I underwent gastric bypass and have lost over 100 pounds but didn't have any real nutritional education along the way. Learning about HCCs has been so helpful (as well as your reminders that no foods are inherently bad). Thank you!!
@@KaraChapman I agree with your comments so much! I had the sleeve 3 years ago and I had a dietician as well but even they made it very strict even when I was 1 year + post op. I've still maintained my weight using abbys tips as well as incorporating more excersize.
I had five slices of Pizza Hut pan it was my treat I have takeout once a month. I didn’t even feel guilty since watching abbey I’ve learned to have a better relationship with food. The pizza fitted in my calorie allowance for the day.
I am a therapist. I absolutely believe everyone, including therapists can benefit from therapy. It isn't something that should be viewed as a weakness or sign of being "broken".
I find it to be a red flag if a therapist wouldn't get therapy. My ex was one of these people. My daughter is 26. Adults her age seeking therapy seem to prefer a therapist who is in therapy. Sorry so short and clipped.
I never found a human therapist useful for myself and most of the ones I know aren't stable. I find that manifesting happiness and good clean living has been my best therapy. Also 4 legged friends are the greatest therapist.
@@IvySnowFillyVideos that's absolutely fair, whatever works for you! I suppose I would question what it means to be stable, as we are all human and going through the rollercoaster of life. No therapist worth their salt would claim to be 100% healthy and winning at life, but of course there's a balance. I totally agree with some of the best therapy being pets! My 2 cats are a huge support for me.
@@VamLoveAndKisses The short answer: sadly quite a few of therapist I know/knew abused drug & alcohol. IMO that causes a rather unstable or altered state of mind w/a trickle down effect to those around them. Its not only therapists 👆 😢
I bet Therapy is going to help her a lot with her weight loss because as you said - ITS NOT ABOUT THE FOOD! My disordered eating was/is a symptom of bigger struggles, I really hope she is able to changer her inner dialogue and show herself some love ❤️
What lots of people tend to forget is that weight loss is just as much a mental thing as it is a physical thing. It's really hard to be physically healthy when your mindset isn't in the right place.
I don't think many people forget that weight loss has a mental dimension. I mean, if a lot of people tended to forget that weight loss was as much of a mental thing as a physical thing, we'd see a lot fewer references to willpower. Ask pretty much any fat person for verification.
Love how Abbey prompts us all to be kind to ourselves. A struggle for many of us. We're more comfortable taking care of others. Meanwhile, we feel deprived afterwards.
Self control IS the ultimate form of self care (in the context of obesity). Obesity is the most powerful predictor of poor health, and is completely prevented by exercising self control for a prolonged time. My body may feel I am being kind to it by overeating / making poor food choices in the short term, but the the satisfaction and self respect I gain from exercising self control outweighs all the benefits of any amount of cheat meals disguised as 'self care'.
@@stefanstillwell4854 Preach. I’m so sick and tired of people ignoring the issues they’re dealing with and marketing it as “self care” I do agree we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves and practice some forms of self appreciation, but to me, if I’m struggling with something, I take a deep breath, scale it back, and review what it is I might be doing wrong so I can fix it and work on doing better. I think beating yourself up is harmful, but ignoring your issues and doing harmful things is not “self care” it’s just harming yourself.
@@derekward3512 Exactly! of course we should care for ourselves and appreciate our good qualities, but not at the expense of our health. I quit smoking very recently, i felt awful for days but having the perseverance to go through that discomfort has me feeling 10x better, I'd have felt much more comfortable in that time if I had a smoke, but i'd still be in the cycle of addiction effecting people like Jacyln, Self care often requires discomfort, rather than bowing to cravings in the guise of self care
What is baffling to me is that Jaclyn is in a place financially where she could afford to work with a dietician and a personal trainer. And even if she’s not interested in that approach, there are so many wonderful online resources (like your channel!) that could help her establish a lifestyle where she could truly thrive. There are so many trainers who make exercise fun and accessible FOR FREE, as well. I’ve followed her for years, and I’ve noticed that she treats any kind of weight loss journey like a chore or a punishment, and it’s just not necessary to do that. That outlook makes me really sad. I understand that for anyone who is new to wellness, it can be extremely daunting, and it’s easy to fall into unhealthy patterns. However, in 2022, we are offered so many ways to fall in love with truly respecting and nourishing our bodies. I genuinely believe that Jaclyn has a lot of people in her life who subscribe to the idea of crash dieting and making the scale your “best friend” (YIKES), and that these people have passed this mindset onto her. I hope that she can find her way out of this vicious cycle and achieve a healthy, sustainable lifestyle.
I've been wondering the exact same thing - WHY! If you're gonna share your "fitness journey" at least explain why you're sitting there suffering instead of asking a professional for help! GAH - not even a chef!?
What helps my “I’ve already messed up might as well leap from the wagon” mentality is the thought that if one of your tires gets slashed you don’t slash the rest. So when you eat a less than stellar meal the day or week isn’t ruined, just pick back up.
My brain is so weird! So I cant watch Jaclyns videos because they'll trigger my EDs, but I really enjoy watching your videos. I think it's because when Jaclyn is doing the toxic things, you're calling it out, so my brain doesn't get a chance to desire to do what she's doing. I hope that makes sense, but regardless of the reason, I'm glad my brain likes your videos so I can keep watching🤣💝💝
For some reason when I first started my weight loss I was ALWAYS hungry, like Jaclyn is. But I was really over eating, maybe it’s because I wasn’t eating enough nutrients. but now that I make sure I have proteins and vegetables and carbs in my diet I can be in a calorie deficit without feeling like I’m constantly “starving”. I hope she gets a nutritionist to help her with her meals.
so true. once i made protein a priority in my diet, it actually made me realize i was not that far from a deficit, i just had to be more conscious of portion sizes (serving sizes of creamers and sauces for example) and i didn’t even feel like i was on a diet. i never felt hungry or that i needed a snack throughout the day.
I feel like it’s not that you feel starving but that you just constantly crave having something in your mouth. Trigger warning ⚠️ I used to eat way too much because of a tough situation at school where my friend said she would get abused if I didn’t and learned to think of food as nauseating but always needing it in my mouth. When the summer started and I got away from there I started eating normally and now still have those cravings but I feel satiated and even if I sleep 2 hours now I now can stop myself from physically needing to have a snack (when I absolutely didn’t need it). It’s hard but it’s possible to be healthy and happy. I believe in all of you!
The biggest thing for me was actually re learning hunger cues. I actually forgot what it feels like when you are actually full and when you are actually hungry. As opposed to having a bad relationship with food where all you think about is your next meal and you are food obsessed so you always feel hungry and over eat. I understand deeply what she’s going through. She doesn’t have to do it alone though, there is nothing wrong with asking for help. And I hope she does.
“Health isn’t about what you’re eating. It’s about what you’re thinking and saying…” Our mind plays a huge part in this too. And we shouldn’t associate ourselves with numbers, the scale, calories or labels either. That would drive me crazy. We need to focus more on how we FEEL. Listen to our bodies more. ❤️💯
I love that you're revewing this series. I, myself, stepped on the scale over the holidays and was destroyed by the number. I'm not even overweight, I was just at a number I'm not used to. Scales are such a menace when you are in a bad mindset. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Ugh, I have so much sympathy for Jacqueline. I like how you discussed focusing on mental health and taking a break from the dieting. It feels like so many people don't realize that there are many more aspects to health than weight.
The sad thing is she didn't gain weight from mac and cheese. She ate the same diet for years, but then had a traumatic breakup and (in her words) proceeded to drink a lot. IMO the trauma probably caused her hormones to go off-kilter. I would love to see her go to a good DO or functional doctor and get her thyroid optimised and her (likely) insulin resistance down. Diets just don't work and the one she is on definitely won't!
@@cortneyhahn4554 I respectfully disagree. Because trauma impacts the HPA axis, it can affect our hormones, especially adrenaline, cortisol, and oxytocin. Trauma makes us more reactive to stressors, and more likely to increase the stress hormone cortisol.
I have been watching this series very closely and this is the BEST review of all in my opinion. You really touched on so many subjects and had a lot of educational info. I really hope that she gets in touch with you to help guide her through all of this. Thanks Abby!
As a sewist and historian something I think it is really important to note is that having weight as a measurement you knew about yourself is super new. Having a bathroom scale is a trend significantly less than 100 years old. Previously it was things like body measurements taken for clothes making or just how your clothes fit which will take more than a few pounds weight shift to know.
I cannot believe that she doesn't have someone that can teach her how to eat, a nutritionist with a good plan for the future, with all her resources it's so weird that her team won't even mention the word nutricionist and instead they are letting her do this all by herself knowing that losing weight for the majority of people is really difficult
no one purposefully puts themselves in this place mentally or physically. just because she can afford a dietician and nutritionist doesn't mean she knows that she needs one. a lot of people try to lose weight on their own and do the same thing Jaclyn is doing. she went through something traumatic that changed her whole life and no one knows anything about it because we are not in her life. we see what she wants us to see. I feel like anyone watching this would be able to see that she does very much need help but obviously she is not seeing it that way. I don't know about you but I have been big my whole life, however I also went through a time where I gained a lot of weight really fast and have been where Jaclyn is. Gaining it and trying to lose it no matter how good you feel about yourself messes you up. a lot. I promise you that no one would be putting themselves through this to feel so awful on purpose.
@@chiaradgwhite it came from a empathetic angel I have been struggling with my weight all my life ,so I feel her pain .it’s just hard and there’s no manual. May we find joy and happiness in every aspect of our life ❤️
@@mifnp8887 looks like it but I don't think she's doing it on purpose, it's hard to believe that her team won't mention something like a nutritionist or a good diet instead of just doing it herself
When people have the “all I can think about is food” mentality from severe restricting…it’s from DIETING. It is so so bad. It will get harder and harder as she trains her body and mind to always be thinking about food.
Her journey gives me so much anxiety. I hope she eventually decides to work with a nutritionist, her thinking around food makes me so sad. I’m glad you’re making this content to help those who are struggling to have comfort in hearing your validation and redirection in our relationship with food. ♥️ thank you Abbey! ♥️☺️🥰
Thank you for ALWAYS keeping it real and explaining your rational. I gained over 50 lbs on both of my pregnancies and came back each time 6 lbs lighter. I also struggle with Hashimoto’s thyroidism but have kept the weight off through weigh training and understanding nutrition- NEVER “diet” or restriction. I see food as helping or not. But I still indulge a bit but balance it out. LOVE your channel 🤗💗‼️‼️‼️
When I removed weight loss as a goal in my fitness journey and focused on overall health, I started to really enjoy working out. I explored new sports and found some new passions and talents - and now I can't imagine my life not revolving around fitness in some way, shape or form. It took me a few years longer to realise that the same was true for my diet but I got there in the end. Once weight loss was removed as a goal, I was better able to focus on health and nourishment which meant I was way more excited to explore new foods and find new favourites...I hadn't just been restricting calories, I had been restricting my experiences. I am forever grateful for Abbey - she has 100% reinforced this change in outlook and I feel so much more free. Incidentally, though not the most important thing to me anymore, my weight is also way, way more stable since having these realisations
the first time i actually lost weight and kept it off is when i stopped restricting. i ate in a deficit and went on a 3 mile walk everyday. (a SAFE deficit) i ate what i wanted and i noticed that what i wanted actually started to change once i got out of the mentality that there were things i couldn’t eat.
I'm doing that now! 15lbs down (20 more to go) and it's been a breeze. Some days it's a 100 cal deficit some days it's an 800 cal deficit and I feel full at the end of the day not like before where a simple intentional 200-500 calorie deficit would cause me to become food focused and feel like I was starving.
How do you know how much is a safe deficit? I don't want to eat too little, I definitely restricted too much in the past and messed up my metabolism :(
@@jesstilley3545 my mom is a nutritionist so she helped me . I know that you should be able to ask your doctor and that they can figure it out for you. I personally started from 100 cals down to 300 and now I’m at like 200 down from my starting point. Good luck!
You nailed it for me by saying find time to SIT DOWN for a meal or a snack... I mean sitting down (i.e. attention to food, attention to eating, to the moment of mindful eating) is key! It's subtle, but so so important.
I feel so good after watching this video. I’m on a weight loss journey myself, exercising 6 days a week, eating protein, veggies, fruit… for a while I went to the scale every other day and found myself restricting from eating carbs and sweets, as I wasn’t losing weight, but sometimes even gaining. Now I’m not going to the scale until it’s the end of the month AND I’m back to eating carbs, snacks and whatever I feel like eating. I’m actually seeing results in how my clothes fit, how I’m sleeping better, and having so much energy. I really don’t care anymore if I’m losing weight as long as I’m feeling how I’ve been feeling lately :)
I feel so sorry for Jaclyn. I used to LOVE her channel, but I do think her whole demeanor has changed since she became so famous. I also think she's over shared a lot of her private life. Which probably would have helped her not to be sucked into so much drama and criticism. As for this diet series....😶😶 I would think some people find it quite triggering. I do hope she gets proper help.
I have zero appetite. I'm 38 and have always struggled with this. It's really difficult. I'm 5'7" and only 125. I can't force myself to eat if I'm not hungry so after all these years I've been wondering if I should ask my Dr for a medicine that my parents put me on when I was a young child to give me an appetite. It's some kind of antihistamine.
@@crashlikewaves There are alot worse problems people have, so I manage. The worst part is people other than family thinking I have an ED, but it's not that all. I've heard good things about the medication so if it gives me an appetite I'll be quite happy.
When I told myself I could eat whatever I want, whenever, things changed. It’s that “scarcity” mentality that messes things up. Now I naturally eat less most of the time. Also, I addressed my health issues related to weight loss (thyroid disorder/insulin resistance), and literally a lifelong struggle with weight became much less of a struggle.
@@Ameelz I began seeing a great endocrinologist who addressed both those issues, and began taking 1500-2000mg of Metformin with meals. There are also natural supplements I've taken in the past that have helped a bit (like "blood sugar" type supplements containing cinnamon, chromium, etc.), but it's really the Metformin that does the trick.
I started counseling to help fix my negative self esteem, and help my body dysmorphia. She had me stop using my fitness pal and weighing myself. It’s helped so much in my health journey. I really hope therapy helps her, and I know it helps and it’s worth it. I’m nowhere near in the clear, I still have some binge eating issues, it’s been awhile since my last binge, but I know I’ve improved. Working on the mind helps work on the body.
Also a salad I like to make based off your hunger crushing combo- 50/50 salad mix with pumpkin seeds, crushed walnuts, crumbled feta cheese, grilled chicken with salt pepper and garlic powder, grilled sweet potato or butternut squash, and lots of balsamic vinegar dressing.😋 🤤
i have also noticed that in Jaclyns videos she restricts herself on the “bad foods” when i don’t think restricting yourself on what you are eating. its all about moderation as youve said. like if you want a hamburger okay, great then eat the hamburger. and have it with a salad.
My heart hurts so much for her, it’s hard to watch someone being so hard on themselves for completely natural human behaviors. I hope she can get to a better place mentally ♥️
Whenever I make a meal, I have Abbey's voice in my head, telling me that it is a HCC. Yesterday she was like, "I love the fact that there are no polarizing foods in this meal, we've got carbs from the pasta and bread, protein from the chickpeas, fried egg and mussels, fat from the cashew butter, ghee and parmesan, and fiber from the tomatoes in the sauce and veg on the side". She also said, "this girl knows how to build a meal and I'm salvating by just looking at this plate"
I wish I could show this video to my 25 year old self and that more doctors were like you...my head and heart hurts for Jaclyn and others like her who are going through the same thing.
For me, restaurant pizza is TOO GOOD causing a binge of it even though I don’t have binge tendencies normally. I find I have to avoid hyper palatable foods to avoid excessive overindulgence.
@@beth8775 I used to be 320 lbs and now an athletic 190 lbs, so I think I probably used to have BED, but I’ve been able to figure out how to manage my overeating and BED tendencies.
Abbey, thank you so much for this!! I do the same thing, I just wish that I wouldn’t overthink food and just have a normal relationship with food like everyone else! I’m so glad other people think the same.
I hope she gets the help she needs. Unlike many of us, she actually has the resources to pay for professional help. I hope she see this video and is encouraged to do so.
Your channel and your HCC has helped me SO MUCH! I used to think like Jaclyn and instead of eating the things I enjoyed but in smaller portions and making sure I ate enough veggies and protein and everything, I would over indulge and over eat and feel like I failed. It’s all about balance and your channel really helped me develop a healthy relationship with food. Thank you🤍
that study about eating more when out stress levels are high has helped me so much since i read it. i recently moved house and was getting take away for dinner every night, thought id “fallen off the wagon” but i had to remind myself that the kitchen wasn’t properly clean, the pots weren’t unpacked and i didnt have all my cooking supplies. now that i have everything done i’m cooking again every night like i used to :)
wow, Abbey, I just need to tell you that you taught me sooo so much and that you were a huge part in normalising my eating patterns and by easing my (not diagnosted) eating disorder. I now know so much more about food, about psychological aspects regarding food etc etc. thank you so so much ♥ love from Germany
Also, a lady bodybuilder I know who had lost like 300 lbs, she told me when you're cutting but stay hungry all the time, that's your body telling you to refeed. She actually did what she needed by giving in and eating what she wants and refeeding. I think my friend said to refeed for a week.
I used to be just like Jaclyn- thankfully I've made great progress recovering from my ed and don't outright fear food and hate myself for eating it. Took me a long time to get here, and am looking forward to continue making progress!
the Internet is full of so many nutritionists and dietitians weighing in, and its so refreshing and motivating to watch your videos and to be up front about the root of issues when it comes to eating and health habits, and to have empathy for those you're reviewing. This is why I keep coming back to your channel!
For me, eating healthy and appropriate portions has come down to realizing I overeat when I’m emotional and experiencing stress. Realizing I’m using the food to cope, I have had a lot easier of a time working to get better habits and in the mean time not using food as a crutch. I’m eating healthier and honestly am so full when I used to be ravenous all the time… all because I’m eating those hunger crushing combos!! It feels so good to be satisfied, full and developing better emotional coping mechanisms.
I'm so glad you're covering her series because the sad reality is, so many of us can relate to what Jaclyn is going through because we have the same struggles. Its so easy to recognize these disordered behavoirs in Jaclyn and yet I find myself engaged in similar behavior but defending why its fine.
I relate with Jaclyn too much. My *question* is: How come that I can go all day without eating, but when I eat then I get hungry and could eat the pantry. How come?
Because you’ve been starving all day. You may need to consider an intuitive eating approach that supports snacking even when your appetite is low to help prevent the voracious hunger and binges. It will also help fuel your body and may modify your appetite.
I totally resonate with what you said in this video! I am still on my own journey but definitely working towards intuitive eating and not assigning any "good" or "bad" values to any one food or ingredient. Not to go on a tangent but this is the problem with some "diet" / weight loss type apps like Noom or Lifesum -- they claim to use "psychology" when in reality all they do is try to make you feel guilty for eating "bad" foods and rewarded for eating "good/healthy" foods. I do feel bad for Jaclyn and I truly hope she gets help and feels better soon.
I also hope she is able to find the help she needs to feel better. I have a video reviewing noom if you’re interested: m.th-cam.com/video/IoDNA_qLsxk/w-d-xo.html
I believe it's mental. Something in her life sends her body in a survival mode. I studied psychosomatics and learned that human body in fact has basic reactions, which didn't change with evolution, let's call them instincts. Primal body function is to save itself, to stay alive, fear sends body signal - I need to save myself. This outlook gave me so much understanding on how human body and mind works.
Thank you Abbey for your compassion and spread of knowledge. I am finally at a point of coming to terms with my ED, gradually I am making small changes to my way of thinking, putting aside the good vs bad mentality and growing my relationship with food (An awesome relationship). I read the book your recommended: Intuitive eating (the 4th version) and I am reading your book (Mindful glow Cookbook). These two books have been extremely helpful during this journey and are contributing to a better balance of me as a whole. Finally after 40 years (i'm 47) I am putting myself first, loving the body I have and most of all honoring it by listening and trusting that my body is a smart machine that will send me the signals I need. This year I am giving back to my body and recognizing all the good it did for me, loving food and honoring my hunger cues, moving for the joy of it and not from a place of fear etc... Your channel is a BIG part of my healing journey....thank you! I sincerely hope Jaclyn finds peace, it is priceless.
When feeling overwhelmed and stressed I meditate for 10-20 minutes, I remind myself of everything I have and that I am good enough, I used to punish myself by starving it was awful, I had to train myself to remove food from these kinds of emotions, I really hope that jaclyn can get the help she needs, it's so sad to watch because I get it I really do as I'm sure many of you do aswell xxx
@@AbbeysKitchen I love watching your videos they just make me feel so confident and comfortable with myself thankyou xxx
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When I'm as stressed out as she is in the end of this video I pop up a 1-2 hour yoga vídeo on TH-cam and just completely go for it. Freeing my mind of what's stressing me and giving my body something instead. It's my way of copping with stress. Breathing. Listening to my body. Actually drop all the issue outside. Everyone should try to find their soothing way.
Like jaclyn, i used to have heavy binge/restrict cycles. The biggest help has been having friends who got me into going to the gym. I used to be really scared of all the machines and the people in the gym but having someone there was really great. Theyve also helped me completely change my mindset around food. I got from feeing completely guilty after eating because i wanted to lose weight, to feeling good about eating because i need to fuel my muscles in order to grow them and get stronger. Its amazing how just one person can be so impactful. Im extremely grateful for them helping me feel comfortable in a gym alone and with friends.
You're just amazing, these videos help me so much in realising what I have been doing wrong all these years and the importance of making peace with food and myself. Thank you so much ❤
I have always thought I needed to lose weight, regardless of my health, it was always about the number on the scale. On paper, I am a healthy weight and live a pretty healthy lifestyle- but it wasn't enough. My "goal" would put me in the underweight category. Your videos and reviews of diets that I have tried/thought about trying has shown me how unhealthy my goals were. I always thought 1200 calories was the normal amount of calories I should eat as a grown adult who is fairly active and I counted those 1200 calories religiously for years. I always thought fat and carbs would make me obese and cause me to have heart problems, and I was guilty about normal food things (e.g. putting cheese in a salad). I am working on my relationship with my body, mind, and food... your videos help so much. Thank you, Abbey!
I was so nervous to watch this series at first but I love your takes, your empathy, and your compassion for the cyclical disordered eating that Jaclyn is experiencing that so many of us struggle with as well. Love love love your content💖💖
Abby you are doing God’s work!!! Whenever I feel myself slipping into an unhealthy restrictive mindset I just watch one of your videos and am snapped back to reality. Also, your hair looks AMAZING in this video!!!
Yeah, when I started tracking my cycle and my "symptoms" every day of my period. I found a pattern. It was like I became a bottomless dumpster for food. I never felt satisfied until i was stuffed about 3 or 4 days before my period. And then I'd experience like a crash in energy that felt like hibernation for lack of a better word. AND THEN it was a miracle because I realized my body was amazing and it was setting me up for not being able to do anything for myself day 1 and 2 of my period. So cool! AND THEN I found so much grace for myself when I looked back and my yo-yo dieting. Because I would experience this pattern without consciously knowing what was happening. So I would berate myself or belittle myself because I didn't have enough will power. But you can't will your body into compliance. You can only understand your body and plan for better ways to deal with it's natural cycles!!
I definitely agree that the scheduling times to eat thing helps when your appetite is off. As a teacher (even in non pandemic times, but esp now), I often get so busy and adrenaline running that I’m not hungry at lunch. But having a bell literally ring for a morning break & for lunch, I make myself heat up food and sit down and at least try to eat. Most of the time, once I smell the food and calm down a bit, I can feel the hunger. Even if I’m not, I’m still glad I ate since it gives me energy to get through the afternoon. Win win. It’s also a daily reminder, the eating, to take care of yourself. Not always easy to feel the want to do it, but when it becomes a habit, the care is automatic. It sounds small, but instituting this habit/rule/routine this school is a huge reason why I’m doing a lot better this year than last.
Thanks for bringing up your cycle! Because before my period I am ravenous and need a lot more food to be full and satisfied. But during my period I am honestly not super invested in food and not super hungry. I just want to tell Jaclyn that she doesn’t need to lose weight to be worthy or beautiful. Listening to your body and what it needs, working with it and not against it will always make you feel better.
A couple of years ago I had a very severe depression, and I basically remember not feeling hungry for like two months. I lived at home, so my parents provided good food for me, but I really had to force myself to eat. I still have that ingrained in me, so all of my meals are very scheduled, and this really gives me some mental space, because I don’t have to constantly think about eating
i appreciate this bc i apply it to myself. i’m glad jaclyn posts her journey and shared the challenge struggles and tips and i appreciate you reviewing it and giving your tips and advice as well! i wish y’all could collab together or come together for a video or Q&A moment
I aspire to be a dietitian like yourself! All your answers integrate what I am learning in lecture and you genuinely care for the individual. Thank you so much!
As person who has struggles with ED my whole life (i'm 55 now) I know how Jaclyn feels and I can see and hear myself in every video that you have commented on . Have you actually reached out to Jaclyn? I think a collaboration with her would not only help her but could also reach many of her followers that are also struggling.
I’ve dropped 2 sizes in clothing from Aus 12 to 8. ON THE SCALE I’ve only lost 3KG. Scale can kiss my size 8 booty. Took me months but it was so easy at some stage I didn’t realise I was on the journey but just living my life, learning, going to work. Some days I ate normal, extra, extra extra or barely but I ate when I was hungry and invested in protein cookies/bars for busy days or snacking. Wanna say thank u, even tho I didn’t remember all the information from your videos I just remembered if I want to eat it I can, I deserve to be nice to myself bc most times unintentionally I’m not nice at all, so when I get the chance I’ll take it-this way has been the easiest way I’ve lost weight… took my time though bc I have my whole life + I’m lazy + why not and I’m here now ✨
I had so many of these same thoughts while watching the series. I think that MANY people can resonate with the feelings and struggles that Jaclyn expresses in her videos. I am so glad she is reaching out for help and I hope she shares some of the advice from her therapist with her followers or that her followers make their way here to hear a gentle balanced encouraging view. 🖤
We have got to get out of this mindset that weight is going to fly off our bodies at insane rates when we try to lose weight in a healthy way. I'm doing a calorie deficit, with no foods or food groups off limits. I am losing an average of 1 lb per week. I've lost every single week since I started in early December. I've eaten greasy fast food burgers, full calorie desserts, and of course tons of really nutritious food as well. You don't have to live in this horrible cycle to lose weight.
Hi Abbey, I have an eating disorder and I'm also overweight now. I've been trying to reframe my mind through watching your videos. I've been allowing myself to eat at not so much of a caloric deficit as before that would make me binge. Recently I've been out due to the booster covid vaccine, so the question came to mind: how much differently should I eat if I were to be inactive due to covid for a week or two? How should I change my eating habits to not gain weight? I was wondering if you could make a video on that, I would appreciate it so much! Thank you for your content! Stay healthy!
At this point I want to commend Jaclyn for sharing her struggles (I actually don't follow her, but through you Abbey). She is helping others see the futility of dieting, the added frustrations that come with trying to restrict. I do hope that therapy helps her find peace with herself, helps her learn to be kind to herself and to realize that food and subsequent weight gain was never the real cause of her anxiety and insecurities. Food was always a coping mechanism. And yeah.. I know we can eat ourselves into sickness, but still I think it's not the worst coping strategy when you compare food to alcohol or drugs. Of course I am not suggesting people "opt" for emotional eating or overindulgence or punishing selves with food or deprivation. Definitely not. But just as a thought about taking it a bit easier on self. I am also noticing that Jaclyn's partner is a very kind and loving guy. He supports her in everything... almost like showing her, hey girl, I am with you feast or famine. I love you no matter what's on your plate. He is not telling her what to do or not do and that's gold. I mean, maybe I missed something there (because again, I am not watching actual videos by Jaclyn).
I definitely get how a dietician and psychologist or perhaps additionally a psychiatrist/sleep specialist could be important in a healthcare team; I am a little surprised that I don't hear about small teams of clinicians working together regularly all in one clinic for their patients, though. It might aid in communication and teamwork, I think.
the scale has only gone down 1 pound for me sometimes but body composition is so much more important than weight. it took me so long to realize this. as someone who struggled with a terrible binge/fast cycle type of eating disorder slow and steady weight loss is so much better than weighing yourself everyday or multiple times a day. body composition is so much more important than your weight.
This girl is so pretty and my heart breaks for her. I see my younger self in her and I didn't have society and pressures of social media. Greg Doucette changed my mindset 2 yrs ago and I've managed to stop stressing over my weight. I wish her the best ♥️ dieting is not easy or wed all have our dream bodies. X
I feel this so much! Haha I always feel like I'm losing weight and making good choices and then I go to a doctors appointment where they force you to weigh yourself and then feel immediately crappy and I anger/sad eat. 🙃
I’m a dietitian also and I think when it comes to weight loss people focus too much on the number of calories they are consuming + the scale so they end up going for really low calorie foods that are low in fat because they are scared of eating high-calorie foods thinking it will make them gain. In reality the # of calories someone is eating isn’t the whole picture. Our hormones account for a lot regarding how we lose weight or gain weight and the foods we eat impact our hormones. I wish she would reach out to a dietitian.
I think it's important to remember in Jaclyn's case how much shame comes attached to food struggles, and how often people don't want to admit that they don't have "enough willpower" to do it themselves. She definitely does have the money and resources to get help but may just be so focused on proving to herself and others that she's "strong enough" to do it herself. Also turning around to a professional and the fear that they'll confirm all your worst thoughts about yourself is so challenging to overcome! I really feel for her
Ok so I need help. I really relate to Jacclyn's mindset & journey. Your videos have been incredibly helpful. I feel like therapy would be very beneficial but I cannot afford it. Like even the "cheap therapy" & discounts, I just don't have money to spend right now. Any tips would be greatly appreciated :) thank you for making these videos abbey!
Thank you for doing this series! When I started watching jaclyn’s series, I related to everything she said and did and thought she had great tips and ideas. And now that you’re doing this react, it’s helping me identify my own personal issues with food and my relationship with food.
I’ve lost count the number of ‘last suppers’ I’ve had. The most recent last supper lasted 6 months and has totally destroyed my health - mental and physical. It’s gonna take a long time to undo this one…
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I would LOVE to see Jaclyn do a series where she works with a dietician to see what progress she makes with that kind of support and knowledge behind her. You've had an immeasurable impact on my relationship with food simply from watching these videos; I can only imagine how much healthier and happier Jaclyn would be working one-on-one with a professional.
That’s a great idea! Thank you so much for sharing. So glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
@@AbbeysKitchen I underwent gastric bypass and have lost over 100 pounds but didn't have any real nutritional education along the way. Learning about HCCs has been so helpful (as well as your reminders that no foods are inherently bad). Thank you!!
This is the best idea 💡🙌
@@KaraChapman I agree with your comments so much! I had the sleeve 3 years ago and I had a dietician as well but even they made it very strict even when I was 1 year + post op. I've still maintained my weight using abbys tips as well as incorporating more excersize.
@@AbbeysKitchen you should try to do a collab!
- Jaclyn feeling like a failure over eating 2 slices of pizza
- me feeling like a success for adding strawberries to my breakfast of leftover pizza 👀
Love that!
I had five slices of Pizza Hut pan it was my treat I have takeout once a month. I didn’t even feel guilty since watching abbey I’ve learned to have a better relationship with food. The pizza fitted in my calorie allowance for the day.
Does anyone else ever hear abby's voice, when preparing a meal, saying: ok so we've got some healthy fats, some fiber...
Love that! ❤️
Yes 😂😂
Yup!
„Lets bump up the protein“
Bump up that satiety factor *always*
I am a therapist. I absolutely believe everyone, including therapists can benefit from therapy. It isn't something that should be viewed as a weakness or sign of being "broken".
Absolutely!
I find it to be a red flag if a therapist wouldn't get therapy. My ex was one of these people. My daughter is 26. Adults her age seeking therapy seem to prefer a therapist who is in therapy.
Sorry so short and clipped.
I never found a human therapist useful for myself and most of the ones I know aren't stable.
I find that manifesting happiness and good clean living has been my best therapy. Also 4 legged friends are the greatest therapist.
@@IvySnowFillyVideos that's absolutely fair, whatever works for you! I suppose I would question what it means to be stable, as we are all human and going through the rollercoaster of life. No therapist worth their salt would claim to be 100% healthy and winning at life, but of course there's a balance.
I totally agree with some of the best therapy being pets! My 2 cats are a huge support for me.
@@VamLoveAndKisses The short answer:
sadly quite a few of therapist I know/knew abused drug & alcohol. IMO that causes a rather unstable or altered state of mind w/a trickle down effect to those around them.
Its not only therapists 👆
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I bet Therapy is going to help her a lot with her weight loss because as you said - ITS NOT ABOUT THE FOOD!
My disordered eating was/is a symptom of bigger struggles, I really hope she is able to changer her inner dialogue and show herself some love ❤️
For sure ❤️
SAME.. literally my weight and binging is directly linked to a particular heartache. Finally facing it.
What lots of people tend to forget is that weight loss is just as much a mental thing as it is a physical thing. It's really hard to be physically healthy when your mindset isn't in the right place.
True
For sure
I lost 20kg last year and it was 90% mental.
Truly
I don't think many people forget that weight loss has a mental dimension. I mean, if a lot of people tended to forget that weight loss was as much of a mental thing as a physical thing, we'd see a lot fewer references to willpower. Ask pretty much any fat person for verification.
It’s so sad to see how she creates her own personal hell and feels like this is her only option :(
I understand it can be difficult to watch
“Prioritize self care over self control”. So great, Abbey!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you! ❤️
Love how Abbey prompts us all to be kind to ourselves. A struggle for many of us. We're more comfortable taking care of others. Meanwhile, we feel deprived afterwards.
Self control IS the ultimate form of self care (in the context of obesity). Obesity is the most powerful predictor of poor health, and is completely prevented by exercising self control for a prolonged time. My body may feel I am being kind to it by overeating / making poor food choices in the short term, but the the satisfaction and self respect I gain from exercising self control outweighs all the benefits of any amount of cheat meals disguised as 'self care'.
@@stefanstillwell4854 Preach. I’m so sick and tired of people ignoring the issues they’re dealing with and marketing it as “self care” I do agree we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves and practice some forms of self appreciation, but to me, if I’m struggling with something, I take a deep breath, scale it back, and review what it is I might be doing wrong so I can fix it and work on doing better. I think beating yourself up is harmful, but ignoring your issues and doing harmful things is not “self care” it’s just harming yourself.
@@derekward3512 Exactly! of course we should care for ourselves and appreciate our good qualities, but not at the expense of our health. I quit smoking very recently, i felt awful for days but having the perseverance to go through that discomfort has me feeling 10x better, I'd have felt much more comfortable in that time if I had a smoke, but i'd still be in the cycle of addiction effecting people like Jacyln, Self care often requires discomfort, rather than bowing to cravings in the guise of self care
What is baffling to me is that Jaclyn is in a place financially where she could afford to work with a dietician and a personal trainer. And even if she’s not interested in that approach, there are so many wonderful online resources (like your channel!) that could help her establish a lifestyle where she could truly thrive. There are so many trainers who make exercise fun and accessible FOR FREE, as well. I’ve followed her for years, and I’ve noticed that she treats any kind of weight loss journey like a chore or a punishment, and it’s just not necessary to do that. That outlook makes me really sad. I understand that for anyone who is new to wellness, it can be extremely daunting, and it’s easy to fall into unhealthy patterns. However, in 2022, we are offered so many ways to fall in love with truly respecting and nourishing our bodies. I genuinely believe that Jaclyn has a lot of people in her life who subscribe to the idea of crash dieting and making the scale your “best friend” (YIKES), and that these people have passed this mindset onto her. I hope that she can find her way out of this vicious cycle and achieve a healthy, sustainable lifestyle.
For sure, thank you for sharing. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
I've been wondering the exact same thing - WHY! If you're gonna share your "fitness journey" at least explain why you're sitting there suffering instead of asking a professional for help! GAH - not even a chef!?
What helps my “I’ve already messed up might as well leap from the wagon” mentality is the thought that if one of your tires gets slashed you don’t slash the rest. So when you eat a less than stellar meal the day or week isn’t ruined, just pick back up.
Thank you for sharing this!
This is so so helpful to me, thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I really appreciate this & I will definitely keep mental note of this on my own journey.
My brain is so weird! So I cant watch Jaclyns videos because they'll trigger my EDs, but I really enjoy watching your videos. I think it's because when Jaclyn is doing the toxic things, you're calling it out, so my brain doesn't get a chance to desire to do what she's doing. I hope that makes sense, but regardless of the reason, I'm glad my brain likes your videos so I can keep watching🤣💝💝
Same! Jaclyns videos validate my ED while Abbeys say “you see this? That’s a no no” but in a gentle way.
@@raquelelias7965 I totally understand 💝💝💝
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I’m glad you find the reviews to be helpful!
Same
For some reason when I first started my weight loss I was ALWAYS hungry, like Jaclyn is. But I was really over eating, maybe it’s because I wasn’t eating enough nutrients. but now that I make sure I have proteins and vegetables and carbs in my diet I can be in a calorie deficit without feeling like I’m constantly “starving”. I hope she gets a nutritionist to help her with her meals.
I also hope she is able to find the help she needs to feel better!
Facts. There's a lot of ways to add "volume" to your meals without necessarily adding a lot of calories
so true. once i made protein a priority in my diet, it actually made me realize i was not that far from a deficit, i just had to be more conscious of portion sizes (serving sizes of creamers and sauces for example) and i didn’t even feel like i was on a diet. i never felt hungry or that i needed a snack throughout the day.
I feel like it’s not that you feel starving but that you just constantly crave having something in your mouth. Trigger warning ⚠️ I used to eat way too much because of a tough situation at school where my friend said she would get abused if I didn’t and learned to think of food as nauseating but always needing it in my mouth. When the summer started and I got away from there I started eating normally and now still have those cravings but I feel satiated and even if I sleep 2 hours now I now can stop myself from physically needing to have a snack (when I absolutely didn’t need it). It’s hard but it’s possible to be healthy and happy. I believe in all of you!
The biggest thing for me was actually re learning hunger cues. I actually forgot what it feels like when you are actually full and when you are actually hungry. As opposed to having a bad relationship with food where all you think about is your next meal and you are food obsessed so you always feel hungry and over eat. I understand deeply what she’s going through. She doesn’t have to do it alone though, there is nothing wrong with asking for help. And I hope she does.
Absolutely. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
“Health isn’t about what you’re eating. It’s about what you’re thinking and saying…” Our mind plays a huge part in this too. And we shouldn’t associate ourselves with numbers, the scale, calories or labels either. That would drive me crazy. We need to focus more on how we FEEL. Listen to our bodies more. ❤️💯
Absolutely ❤️
Amen
“It’s never just about the food.” Soooo true. So true.
Yup!
I love that you're revewing this series. I, myself, stepped on the scale over the holidays and was destroyed by the number. I'm not even overweight, I was just at a number I'm not used to. Scales are such a menace when you are in a bad mindset. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Totally. So glad you’re finding the reviews helpful
Ugh, I have so much sympathy for Jacqueline.
I like how you discussed focusing on mental health and taking a break from the dieting. It feels like so many people don't realize that there are many more aspects to health than weight.
For sure! So glad that was helpful
The sad thing is she didn't gain weight from mac and cheese. She ate the same diet for years, but then had a traumatic breakup and (in her words) proceeded to drink a lot. IMO the trauma probably caused her hormones to go off-kilter. I would love to see her go to a good DO or functional doctor and get her thyroid optimised and her (likely) insulin resistance down. Diets just don't work and the one she is on definitely won't!
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
She was in a caloric surplus, doesn’t matter what she ate
Breakups don’t cause hormones to go “off kilter”
@@cortneyhahn4554 I respectfully disagree. Because trauma impacts the HPA axis, it can affect our hormones, especially adrenaline, cortisol, and oxytocin. Trauma makes us more reactive to stressors, and more likely to increase the stress hormone cortisol.
I have been watching this series very closely and this is the BEST review of all in my opinion. You really touched on so many subjects and had a lot of educational info. I really hope that she gets in touch with you to help guide her through all of this. Thanks Abby!
Thank you so much! So glad you found the review helpful 😊
As a sewist and historian something I think it is really important to note is that having weight as a measurement you knew about yourself is super new. Having a bathroom scale is a trend significantly less than 100 years old. Previously it was things like body measurements taken for clothes making or just how your clothes fit which will take more than a few pounds weight shift to know.
I cannot believe that she doesn't have someone that can teach her how to eat, a nutritionist with a good plan for the future, with all her resources it's so weird that her team won't even mention the word nutricionist and instead they are letting her do this all by herself knowing that losing weight for the majority of people is really difficult
It’s beginning to look like this
no one purposefully puts themselves in this place mentally or physically. just because she can afford a dietician and nutritionist doesn't mean she knows that she needs one. a lot of people try to lose weight on their own and do the same thing Jaclyn is doing. she went through something traumatic that changed her whole life and no one knows anything about it because we are not in her life. we see what she wants us to see. I feel like anyone watching this would be able to see that she does very much need help but obviously she is not seeing it that way. I don't know about you but I have been big my whole life, however I also went through a time where I gained a lot of weight really fast and have been where Jaclyn is. Gaining it and trying to lose it no matter how good you feel about yourself messes you up. a lot. I promise you that no one would be putting themselves through this to feel so awful on purpose.
@@chiaradgwhite it came from a empathetic angel I have been struggling with my weight all my life ,so I feel her pain .it’s just hard and there’s no manual.
May we find joy and happiness in every aspect of our life ❤️
You believe Jaclyn is purposely sabotaging herself?!
@@mifnp8887 looks like it but I don't think she's doing it on purpose, it's hard to believe that her team won't mention something like a nutritionist or a good diet instead of just doing it herself
When people have the “all I can think about is food” mentality from severe restricting…it’s from DIETING. It is so so bad. It will get harder and harder as she trains her body and mind to always be thinking about food.
For sure. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs to feel better
Her journey gives me so much anxiety. I hope she eventually decides to work with a nutritionist, her thinking around food makes me so sad. I’m glad you’re making this content to help those who are struggling to have comfort in hearing your validation and redirection in our relationship with food. ♥️ thank you Abbey! ♥️☺️🥰
I hope so too. Thank you! ❤️
I thought I was the only one feeling anxious.
Thank you for ALWAYS keeping it real and explaining your rational. I gained over 50 lbs on both of my pregnancies and came back each time 6 lbs lighter. I also struggle with Hashimoto’s thyroidism but have kept the weight off through weigh training and understanding nutrition- NEVER “diet” or restriction. I see food as helping or not. But I still indulge a bit but balance it out.
LOVE your channel 🤗💗‼️‼️‼️
Thank you for sharing! So glad you enjoy the videos 😊
When I removed weight loss as a goal in my fitness journey and focused on overall health, I started to really enjoy working out. I explored new sports and found some new passions and talents - and now I can't imagine my life not revolving around fitness in some way, shape or form.
It took me a few years longer to realise that the same was true for my diet but I got there in the end. Once weight loss was removed as a goal, I was better able to focus on health and nourishment which meant I was way more excited to explore new foods and find new favourites...I hadn't just been restricting calories, I had been restricting my experiences.
I am forever grateful for Abbey - she has 100% reinforced this change in outlook and I feel so much more free. Incidentally, though not the most important thing to me anymore, my weight is also way, way more stable since having these realisations
Thank you for sharing your experience with this! So glad my videos have been helpful for you 😊
What I'm doing right now focusing on strength and fitness goals rather than losing weight and it's working well so far 💪
the first time i actually lost weight and kept it off is when i stopped restricting. i ate in a deficit and went on a 3 mile walk everyday. (a SAFE deficit) i ate what i wanted and i noticed that what i wanted actually started to change once i got out of the mentality that there were things i couldn’t eat.
Thank you for sharing what worked for you!
I'm doing that now! 15lbs down (20 more to go) and it's been a breeze. Some days it's a 100 cal deficit some days it's an 800 cal deficit and I feel full at the end of the day not like before where a simple intentional 200-500 calorie deficit would cause me to become food focused and feel like I was starving.
How do you know how much is a safe deficit? I don't want to eat too little, I definitely restricted too much in the past and messed up my metabolism :(
@@jesstilley3545 Maybe try starting small like a 10% deficit and then going up by 5% until you find a good point for you? trail and error style
@@jesstilley3545 my mom is a nutritionist so she helped me . I know that you should be able to ask your doctor and that they can figure it out for you. I personally started from 100 cals down to 300 and now I’m at like 200 down from my starting point. Good luck!
You nailed it for me by saying find time to SIT DOWN for a meal or a snack... I mean sitting down (i.e. attention to food, attention to eating, to the moment of mindful eating) is key! It's subtle, but so so important.
For sure!
I feel so good after watching this video. I’m on a weight loss journey myself, exercising 6 days a week, eating protein, veggies, fruit… for a while I went to the scale every other day and found myself restricting from eating carbs and sweets, as I wasn’t losing weight, but sometimes even gaining.
Now I’m not going to the scale until it’s the end of the month AND I’m back to eating carbs, snacks and whatever I feel like eating. I’m actually seeing results in how my clothes fit, how I’m sleeping better, and having so much energy. I really don’t care anymore if I’m losing weight as long as I’m feeling how I’ve been feeling lately :)
Thank you for sharing your experience with this!
I feel so sorry for Jaclyn. I used to LOVE her channel, but I do think her whole demeanor has changed since she became so famous. I also think she's over shared a lot of her private life. Which probably would have helped her not to be sucked into so much drama and criticism.
As for this diet series....😶😶 I would think some people find it quite triggering. I do hope she gets proper help.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs as well
I'm consistently shocked all the people you review don't end up reaching out to you and working with you!
Either way, I hope that Jaclyn is able to find the help she needs!
Right?? It’d probably be free for both, good content for both, good publicity to gain followers from each other, and actually beneficial for Jaclyn!
Appetite changes make so much sense when you have just a little knowledge about hormones! Learning about 30 day hormonal cycle changed my life...
Absolutely!
I have zero appetite. I'm 38 and have always struggled with this. It's really difficult. I'm 5'7" and only 125. I can't force myself to eat if I'm not hungry so after all these years I've been wondering if I should ask my Dr for a medicine that my parents put me on when I was a young child to give me an appetite. It's some kind of antihistamine.
@@solsticequeen oh wow that sounds really hard
@@crashlikewaves There are alot worse problems people have, so I manage.
The worst part is people other than family thinking I have an ED, but it's not that all. I've heard good things about the medication so if it gives me an appetite I'll be quite happy.
This is what I'm struggling with right now. Were there any particular books that helped you?
When I told myself I could eat whatever I want, whenever, things changed. It’s that “scarcity” mentality that messes things up. Now I naturally eat less most of the time. Also, I addressed my health issues related to weight loss (thyroid disorder/insulin resistance), and literally a lifelong struggle with weight became much less of a struggle.
How did you address insulin resistance?
Thank you for sharing your experience with this!
Dark stole your comment
@@Ameelz I began seeing a great endocrinologist who addressed both those issues, and began taking 1500-2000mg of Metformin with meals. There are also natural supplements I've taken in the past that have helped a bit (like "blood sugar" type supplements containing cinnamon, chromium, etc.), but it's really the Metformin that does the trick.
@@lleah2839 Haha.. well I'm flattered. :P Who knew I was that eloquent. 🤪
I started counseling to help fix my negative self esteem, and help my body dysmorphia. She had me stop using my fitness pal and weighing myself. It’s helped so much in my health journey. I really hope therapy helps her, and I know it helps and it’s worth it. I’m nowhere near in the clear, I still have some binge eating issues, it’s been awhile since my last binge, but I know I’ve improved. Working on the mind helps work on the body.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Also a salad I like to make based off your hunger crushing combo- 50/50 salad mix with pumpkin seeds, crushed walnuts, crumbled feta cheese, grilled chicken with salt pepper and garlic powder, grilled sweet potato or butternut squash, and lots of balsamic vinegar dressing.😋 🤤
That sounds amazing!
Sounds delicious!!!
i have also noticed that in Jaclyns videos she restricts herself on the “bad foods” when i don’t think restricting yourself on what you are eating. its all about moderation as youve said. like if you want a hamburger okay, great then eat the hamburger. and have it with a salad.
My heart hurts so much for her, it’s hard to watch someone being so hard on themselves for completely natural human behaviors. I hope she can get to a better place mentally ♥️
I understand. I hope so as well ❤️
Whenever I make a meal, I have Abbey's voice in my head, telling me that it is a HCC. Yesterday she was like, "I love the fact that there are no polarizing foods in this meal, we've got carbs from the pasta and bread, protein from the chickpeas, fried egg and mussels, fat from the cashew butter, ghee and parmesan, and fiber from the tomatoes in the sauce and veg on the side". She also said, "this girl knows how to build a meal and I'm salvating by just looking at this plate"
I love that, thank you for sharing! ❤️
I wish I could show this video to my 25 year old self and that more doctors were like you...my head and heart hurts for Jaclyn and others like her who are going through the same thing.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
For me, restaurant pizza is TOO GOOD causing a binge of it even though I don’t have binge tendencies normally. I find I have to avoid hyper palatable foods to avoid excessive overindulgence.
How do you binge on ONE pizza? 😆 I wouldn't call it binging when you have a bit more of a food you really like, it's called enjoyment 😉
@@wa6184 when you’re 3000 calories deep on a 16 inch pizza and you’re in physical pain from quantity
@@blakethingstad5052 Have you looked up Binge Eating Disorder? It sounds like you may want to look into that.
@@beth8775 I used to be 320 lbs and now an athletic 190 lbs, so I think I probably used to have BED, but I’ve been able to figure out how to manage my overeating and BED tendencies.
You have common sense and such compassion. I am enjoying your channel.
Thank you!
I feel so sad for her because I know exactly what she is feeling and unfortunately, how much damage she's doing to her body....
I know 🙁 I hope she is able to find the help she needs
Abbey, thank you so much for this!! I do the same thing, I just wish that I wouldn’t overthink food and just have a normal relationship with food like everyone else! I’m so glad other people think the same.
I completely understand!
I hope she gets the help she needs. Unlike many of us, she actually has the resources to pay for professional help. I hope she see this video and is encouraged to do so.
I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs
Your channel and your HCC has helped me SO MUCH! I used to think like Jaclyn and instead of eating the things I enjoyed but in smaller portions and making sure I ate enough veggies and protein and everything, I would over indulge and over eat and feel like I failed. It’s all about balance and your channel really helped me develop a healthy relationship with food. Thank you🤍
I’m so glad my channel has been helpful for you! Thank you for sharing ❤️
that study about eating more when out stress levels are high has helped me so much since i read it. i recently moved house and was getting take away for dinner every night, thought id “fallen off the wagon” but i had to remind myself that the kitchen wasn’t properly clean, the pots weren’t unpacked and i didnt have all my cooking supplies. now that i have everything done i’m cooking again every night like i used to :)
wow, Abbey, I just need to tell you that you taught me sooo so much and that you were a huge part in normalising my eating patterns and by easing my (not diagnosted) eating disorder. I now know so much more about food, about psychological aspects regarding food etc etc. thank you so so much ♥ love from Germany
Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
Also, a lady bodybuilder I know who had lost like 300 lbs, she told me when you're cutting but stay hungry all the time, that's your body telling you to refeed. She actually did what she needed by giving in and eating what she wants and refeeding. I think my friend said to refeed for a week.
Interesting!
I used to be just like Jaclyn- thankfully I've made great progress recovering from my ed and don't outright fear food and hate myself for eating it. Took me a long time to get here, and am looking forward to continue making progress!
the Internet is full of so many nutritionists and dietitians weighing in, and its so refreshing and motivating to watch your videos and to be up front about the root of issues when it comes to eating and health habits, and to have empathy for those you're reviewing. This is why I keep coming back to your channel!
I’m so glad my videos are helpful for you, thank you!
For me, eating healthy and appropriate portions has come down to realizing I overeat when I’m emotional and experiencing stress. Realizing I’m using the food to cope, I have had a lot easier of a time working to get better habits and in the mean time not using food as a crutch. I’m eating healthier and honestly am so full when I used to be ravenous all the time… all because I’m eating those hunger crushing combos!! It feels so good to be satisfied, full and developing better emotional coping mechanisms.
That's great, thank you for sharing!
I'm so glad you're covering her series because the sad reality is, so many of us can relate to what Jaclyn is going through because we have the same struggles. Its so easy to recognize these disordered behavoirs in Jaclyn and yet I find myself engaged in similar behavior but defending why its fine.
For sure. I’m so glad you are finding the reviews helpful
I relate with Jaclyn too much. My *question* is: How come that I can go all day without eating, but when I eat then I get hungry and could eat the pantry. How come?
Because you’ve been starving all day. You may need to consider an intuitive eating approach that supports snacking even when your appetite is low to help prevent the voracious hunger and binges. It will also help fuel your body and may modify your appetite.
I totally resonate with what you said in this video! I am still on my own journey but definitely working towards intuitive eating and not assigning any "good" or "bad" values to any one food or ingredient. Not to go on a tangent but this is the problem with some "diet" / weight loss type apps like Noom or Lifesum -- they claim to use "psychology" when in reality all they do is try to make you feel guilty for eating "bad" foods and rewarded for eating "good/healthy" foods. I do feel bad for Jaclyn and I truly hope she gets help and feels better soon.
I also hope she is able to find the help she needs to feel better. I have a video reviewing noom if you’re interested: m.th-cam.com/video/IoDNA_qLsxk/w-d-xo.html
I believe it's mental. Something in her life sends her body in a survival mode. I studied psychosomatics and learned that human body in fact has basic reactions, which didn't change with evolution, let's call them instincts. Primal body function is to save itself, to stay alive, fear sends body signal - I need to save myself. This outlook gave me so much understanding on how human body and mind works.
I love your videos Abbey! Also I hope Jaclyn sees this and gets some peace of mind during this rough patch of her journey.💖
I hope so too ❤️
Thank you Abbey for your compassion and spread of knowledge. I am finally at a point of coming to terms with my ED, gradually I am making small changes to my way of thinking, putting aside the good vs bad mentality and growing my relationship with food (An awesome relationship). I read the book your recommended: Intuitive eating (the 4th version) and I am reading your book (Mindful glow Cookbook). These two books have been extremely helpful during this journey and are contributing to a better balance of me as a whole. Finally after 40 years (i'm 47) I am putting myself first, loving the body I have and most of all honoring it by listening and trusting that my body is a smart machine that will send me the signals I need. This year I am giving back to my body and recognizing all the good it did for me, loving food and honoring my hunger cues, moving for the joy of it and not from a place of fear etc... Your channel is a BIG part of my healing journey....thank you! I sincerely hope Jaclyn finds peace, it is priceless.
Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad my channel and the resources I’ve shared have been helpful for you ❤️
When feeling overwhelmed and stressed I meditate for 10-20 minutes, I remind myself of everything I have and that I am good enough, I used to punish myself by starving it was awful, I had to train myself to remove food from these kinds of emotions, I really hope that jaclyn can get the help she needs, it's so sad to watch because I get it I really do as I'm sure many of you do aswell xxx
Thank you for sharing your experience with this!
@@AbbeysKitchen I love watching your videos they just make me feel so confident and comfortable with myself thankyou xxx
When I'm as stressed out as she is in the end of this video I pop up a 1-2 hour yoga vídeo on TH-cam and just completely go for it. Freeing my mind of what's stressing me and giving my body something instead. It's my way of copping with stress. Breathing. Listening to my body. Actually drop all the issue outside.
Everyone should try to find their soothing way.
Like jaclyn, i used to have heavy binge/restrict cycles. The biggest help has been having friends who got me into going to the gym. I used to be really scared of all the machines and the people in the gym but having someone there was really great. Theyve also helped me completely change my mindset around food. I got from feeing completely guilty after eating because i wanted to lose weight, to feeling good about eating because i need to fuel my muscles in order to grow them and get stronger. Its amazing how just one person can be so impactful. Im extremely grateful for them helping me feel comfortable in a gym alone and with friends.
For sure. Thank you for sharing
You're just amazing, these videos help me so much in realising what I have been doing wrong all these years and the importance of making peace with food and myself. Thank you so much ❤
I’m so glad these videos are helpful for you, thank you for sharing! ❤️
I have always thought I needed to lose weight, regardless of my health, it was always about the number on the scale. On paper, I am a healthy weight and live a pretty healthy lifestyle- but it wasn't enough. My "goal" would put me in the underweight category. Your videos and reviews of diets that I have tried/thought about trying has shown me how unhealthy my goals were. I always thought 1200 calories was the normal amount of calories I should eat as a grown adult who is fairly active and I counted those 1200 calories religiously for years. I always thought fat and carbs would make me obese and cause me to have heart problems, and I was guilty about normal food things (e.g. putting cheese in a salad). I am working on my relationship with my body, mind, and food... your videos help so much. Thank you, Abbey!
So feel it!
Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you and that you’re doing better now ❤️
I was so nervous to watch this series at first but I love your takes, your empathy, and your compassion for the cyclical disordered eating that Jaclyn is experiencing that so many of us struggle with as well. Love love love your content💖💖
Thank you so much! ❤️
Abby you are doing God’s work!!! Whenever I feel myself slipping into an unhealthy restrictive mindset I just watch one of your videos and am snapped back to reality. Also, your hair looks AMAZING in this video!!!
Ooo yes I'm so excited. Love hearing from you.
I hope you found the video helpful!
I just want to hug her. I have been there so glad she is seeing someone. You are strong and more than the number in the scale. Hugs to all
Absolutely ❤️
Yeah, when I started tracking my cycle and my "symptoms" every day of my period. I found a pattern. It was like I became a bottomless dumpster for food. I never felt satisfied until i was stuffed about 3 or 4 days before my period. And then I'd experience like a crash in energy that felt like hibernation for lack of a better word. AND THEN it was a miracle because I realized my body was amazing and it was setting me up for not being able to do anything for myself day 1 and 2 of my period. So cool! AND THEN I found so much grace for myself when I looked back and my yo-yo dieting. Because I would experience this pattern without consciously knowing what was happening. So I would berate myself or belittle myself because I didn't have enough will power. But you can't will your body into compliance. You can only understand your body and plan for better ways to deal with it's natural cycles!!
thank you abbey for everything you do on youtube
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I appreciate these videos so much. As a postpartum mother who suffered with horrible ppdepression this is helping me so much with food choices
I’m so glad these videos are helpful for you!
I definitely agree that the scheduling times to eat thing helps when your appetite is off. As a teacher (even in non pandemic times, but esp now), I often get so busy and adrenaline running that I’m not hungry at lunch. But having a bell literally ring for a morning break & for lunch, I make myself heat up food and sit down and at least try to eat. Most of the time, once I smell the food and calm down a bit, I can feel the hunger. Even if I’m not, I’m still glad I ate since it gives me energy to get through the afternoon. Win win. It’s also a daily reminder, the eating, to take care of yourself. Not always easy to feel the want to do it, but when it becomes a habit, the care is automatic. It sounds small, but instituting this habit/rule/routine this school is a huge reason why I’m doing a lot better this year than last.
Thank you Abbey, you are helping me a lot ❤️
Thanks for bringing up your cycle! Because before my period I am ravenous and need a lot more food to be full and satisfied. But during my period I am honestly not super invested in food and not super hungry. I just want to tell Jaclyn that she doesn’t need to lose weight to be worthy or beautiful. Listening to your body and what it needs, working with it and not against it will always make you feel better.
A couple of years ago I had a very severe depression, and I basically remember not feeling hungry for like two months. I lived at home, so my parents provided good food for me, but I really had to force myself to eat. I still have that ingrained in me, so all of my meals are very scheduled, and this really gives me some mental space, because I don’t have to constantly think about eating
Great video. Insightful and well spoken
i appreciate this bc i apply it to myself. i’m glad jaclyn posts her journey and shared the challenge struggles and tips and i appreciate you reviewing it and giving your tips and advice as well! i wish y’all could collab together or come together for a video or Q&A moment
I aspire to be a dietitian like yourself! All your answers integrate what I am learning in lecture and you genuinely care for the individual. Thank you so much!
So glad my videos are helpful for you! ❤️
LOVE THIS CHANNEL.. I LEARN SO MUCH AND IT'S VERY INFORMATIONAL.. THANKS FOR SHARING ABBEY....
BLESSINGS TO YOU
So glad my videos are helpful for you!
As person who has struggles with ED my whole life (i'm 55 now) I know how Jaclyn feels and I can see and hear myself in every video that you have commented on . Have you actually reached out to Jaclyn? I think a collaboration with her would not only help her but could also reach many of her followers that are also struggling.
Whenever she talks about eating I think of you. So I’m glad you did this video
Finally, I know how to wear these headbands. Thanks, Abbey!
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I’ve dropped 2 sizes in clothing from Aus 12 to 8. ON THE SCALE I’ve only lost 3KG. Scale can kiss my size 8 booty. Took me months but it was so easy at some stage I didn’t realise I was on the journey but just living my life, learning, going to work. Some days I ate normal, extra, extra extra or barely but I ate when I was hungry and invested in protein cookies/bars for busy days or snacking. Wanna say thank u, even tho I didn’t remember all the information from your videos I just remembered if I want to eat it I can, I deserve to be nice to myself bc most times unintentionally I’m not nice at all, so when I get the chance I’ll take it-this way has been the easiest way I’ve lost weight… took my time though bc I have my whole life + I’m lazy + why not and I’m here now ✨
I had so many of these same thoughts while watching the series. I think that MANY people can resonate with the feelings and struggles that Jaclyn expresses in her videos. I am so glad she is reaching out for help and I hope she shares some of the advice from her therapist with her followers or that her followers make their way here to hear a gentle balanced encouraging view. 🖤
For sure. I definitely hope she's able to find the help she needs
I’m learning a lot from you abbey . Thank you for the great content
So glad my videos are helpful for you!
We have got to get out of this mindset that weight is going to fly off our bodies at insane rates when we try to lose weight in a healthy way. I'm doing a calorie deficit, with no foods or food groups off limits. I am losing an average of 1 lb per week. I've lost every single week since I started in early December. I've eaten greasy fast food burgers, full calorie desserts, and of course tons of really nutritious food as well. You don't have to live in this horrible cycle to lose weight.
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing
Abby!!! thank you!!! thank you for your wise words in the jungle of commercial bullcrap! greatings from Prague, Czech Republic😘
Hi Abbey, I have an eating disorder and I'm also overweight now. I've been trying to reframe my mind through watching your videos. I've been allowing myself to eat at not so much of a caloric deficit as before that would make me binge. Recently I've been out due to the booster covid vaccine, so the question came to mind: how much differently should I eat if I were to be inactive due to covid for a week or two? How should I change my eating habits to not gain weight? I was wondering if you could make a video on that, I would appreciate it so much! Thank you for your content! Stay healthy!
I can put this topic on my list to discuss in a video!
At this point I want to commend Jaclyn for sharing her struggles (I actually don't follow her, but through you Abbey). She is helping others see the futility of dieting, the added frustrations that come with trying to restrict. I do hope that therapy helps her find peace with herself, helps her learn to be kind to herself and to realize that food and subsequent weight gain was never the real cause of her anxiety and insecurities. Food was always a coping mechanism. And yeah.. I know we can eat ourselves into sickness, but still I think it's not the worst coping strategy when you compare food to alcohol or drugs. Of course I am not suggesting people "opt" for emotional eating or overindulgence or punishing selves with food or deprivation. Definitely not. But just as a thought about taking it a bit easier on self.
I am also noticing that Jaclyn's partner is a very kind and loving guy. He supports her in everything... almost like showing her, hey girl, I am with you feast or famine. I love you no matter what's on your plate. He is not telling her what to do or not do and that's gold. I mean, maybe I missed something there (because again, I am not watching actual videos by Jaclyn).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I definitely get how a dietician and psychologist or perhaps additionally a psychiatrist/sleep specialist could be important in a healthcare team; I am a little surprised that I don't hear about small teams of clinicians working together regularly all in one clinic for their patients, though. It might aid in communication and teamwork, I think.
For sure!
the scale has only gone down 1 pound for me sometimes but body composition is so much more important than weight. it took me so long to realize this. as someone who struggled with a terrible binge/fast cycle type of eating disorder slow and steady weight loss is so much better than weighing yourself everyday or multiple times a day. body composition is so much more important than your weight.
For sure. Thank you for sharing
I've never clicked so fast on a video, I've really been enjoying this series
So glad you’re enjoying it!
Some of the BEST advice I have heard on this channel so far. All is good but Great job handling this one!!!! 🙏🏼
Thank you!
This girl is so pretty and my heart breaks for her. I see my younger self in her and I didn't have society and pressures of social media. Greg Doucette changed my mindset 2 yrs ago and I've managed to stop stressing over my weight. I wish her the best ♥️ dieting is not easy or wed all have our dream bodies. X
I wish her the best as well!
I feel this so much! Haha I always feel like I'm losing weight and making good choices and then I go to a doctors appointment where they force you to weigh yourself and then feel immediately crappy and I anger/sad eat. 🙃
The way you say ‘vibes’ is fantastic
Thanks! 😂
I’m a dietitian also and I think when it comes to weight loss people focus too much on the number of calories they are consuming + the scale so they end up going for really low calorie foods that are low in fat because they are scared of eating high-calorie foods thinking it will make them gain. In reality the # of calories someone is eating isn’t the whole picture. Our hormones account for a lot regarding how we lose weight or gain weight and the foods we eat impact our hormones. I wish she would reach out to a dietitian.
For sure
Wow, this video spoke to me so much. Thanks for your commentary!
So glad it was helpful!
I think it's important to remember in Jaclyn's case how much shame comes attached to food struggles, and how often people don't want to admit that they don't have "enough willpower" to do it themselves. She definitely does have the money and resources to get help but may just be so focused on proving to herself and others that she's "strong enough" to do it herself. Also turning around to a professional and the fear that they'll confirm all your worst thoughts about yourself is so challenging to overcome! I really feel for her
It is very challenging to overcome. I definitely hope she is able to find the help she needs to feel better
I feel so bad for her and I relate so much. Honestly watching gets me close to tears.
Ok so I need help. I really relate to Jacclyn's mindset & journey. Your videos have been incredibly helpful. I feel like therapy would be very beneficial but I cannot afford it. Like even the "cheap therapy" & discounts, I just don't have money to spend right now. Any tips would be greatly appreciated :) thank you for making these videos abbey!
Thank you for doing this series! When I started watching jaclyn’s series, I related to everything she said and did and thought she had great tips and ideas. And now that you’re doing this react, it’s helping me identify my own personal issues with food and my relationship with food.
I’m glad you’re finding the reviews helpful! Thank you for sharing
I’ve lost count the number of ‘last suppers’ I’ve had. The most recent last supper lasted 6 months and has totally destroyed my health - mental and physical. It’s gonna take a long time to undo this one…
I’m sorry for your experience. I hope you’re doing alright ❤️