I was told at Christmas Day he wasn’t ready , next thing he took his ex to a family Christmas party , yes his toxic ex ( his words) and they all posed with matching pyjamas. Words can’t describe the pain I’m feeling .
Unfortunately I was in an on and off relationship for 8 years with a narcissist. In between that time I met the love of my life. I was still tied to the destructive psychological and emotional dynamic of the narcissist - he kept luring me back to him and through this my relationship with the love of my life was destroyed. I am and have been devastated from this for years now. I feel it destroyed a very important part of my life and I lost the potential for a future of love and happiness with another man. I no longer speak to the narcissist and am trying to learn how to forgive myself and not repeat those same mistakes. Unfortunately what was lost cannot be retrieved. However I am now doing the work I should have done years ago and trying to uncover what kept luring me into a relationship dynamic with a narcissist.
I was in a relationship with a nice, kind guy and saw a future with him. Then his ex calls out of the blue and wanted to work things out again. He fell for it completely. She cheated on him the first time and cheated again the second time. I actually saw her out with other men when they were dating. It was very sad because I really liked him.
I cannot see how an abusive partner and I don't use the word narcissist as it is used too often could lure you away from from the love of your life. You destroyed your own relationship and now you want someone to blame. In life you reap what you sow.
@@manilanoakes3966 perhaps you didn't read this part - "am trying to learn how to forgive myself and not repeat those same mistakes. Unfortunately what was lost cannot be retrieved. However I am now doing the work I should have done years ago and trying to uncover what kept luring me into a relationship dynamic with a narcissist." Why do you feel the need to have a hurtful comment like that?
@@camaymak3795 Maybe Manila has been in the receiving end of a partner lost to a lure. The point remains that It’s immaturity, fantasy and gross desire that allows narcissists to capture and re-capture. Their vortex of destruction goes well beyond their co-dependent, children for instance. And a handful of elite bully conniving narcissists have global power of destruction. Good you are awake. Best wishes.
I saw my ex with their ex, they didn't have contact for 5-6 months, but when I saw them together I was angry with her, because she told me things about him, things she did to her for her to leave him. I told her that none of them has changed, that he will hurt her again. I might be right at some point it will happen. But I cannot do anything anymore. I'd rather stay single until I'll feel ready for the next one, rather than being with someone to just forget about them... It's better to stay alone and fix yourself, rather than dating and having sex, dates with other people. To me that's the worst thing someone can do...
Your comment at the 5:37 mark summed up what I’m ruminating about. I didn’t get my chance, that’s all that is for me but I go down the rabbit hole and think it was me and I wasn’t good enough for him…so silly of me. I’m so glad I came across this video. Thank you.
Great video. You are exactly correct when saying - "love does not make sense.". That is exactly a true statement. In my relationship experience, I have found that we are all trying to achieve something. Maybe it's love, or acceptance, or to end the loneliness. Most of the time we don't even understand what we are doing in a relationship unless we have evolved to know exactly what we want. individuals that go back to their exes are often trying to work out something they don't even understand. So don't be too hard on those people when they themselves don't understand what they are doing. Wonderful content and I thank you for your service Susan! 👍
Great video, thanks for sharing Susan. I'm still recovering and healing from my ex leaving me 3 months ago for his abusive, controlling, manipulative ex (who is also the Mother of his two children) Throughout our relationship his ex, used his children as pawns, purely as a method to control him, she stopped all contact and threatened him with parenting orders and family court proceedings, she even tarnished his good name as a little athletes coach, causing him to loose his coaching job he had for 10 years...all because he chose to date me and he was finally happy. My ex suffered from depression and anxiety in not being able to see his children or coach anymore and this put a huge strain on our relationship. After a trip to his birth country to "get away from her" and meet his entire family. Upon, our return home. I was abruptly dumped as he secretly ended the lease to his apartment where we were living together, moved out and he went back to her. I was blindsided and so was the rest of his family who adored me and were beyond happy that he had finally broke free, from his abusive, domineering and controlling ex. I have no idea why he would choose to go back to her especially, after numerous affairs she had with his two best friends and the constant belittling, berating and emotional abuse he suffered throughout their 10 year relationship. But I know now, he did me a favour, as I deserve better than the lies and deceit of someone who didn't have the decency to tell me or his family that he chose to take his ex back again.
Wow this sounds similar to my situation. His ex-wife even stabbed him twice and shot the family dog. True story!!! And he went back when our relationship started to fail.
You are so correct! U need to let ppl do what they need to do. So when they move on they wont have any regrets. They will know that they gave it all to make it work. Most of the time it wont! U cant want someone back just because they moved on. Big mistake! So sad that ppl are in these relationships! They are miserable. So sad if they have kids. Teaching your kids to be in unhappy relationships!
You only know what he tells you. Chances are, she's not abusive but calling him out on his BS and making her the bad guy allows him to not face his own short comings. If she was that terrible, he probably wouldn't even have given her a second chance. And now he's pulling the same thing again which is why she is "abusive". You only know half the truth, if that, especially with someone who is obviously shady. You dodged a bullet.
you prolly dont give a damn but does anyone know a way to log back into an Instagram account? I was stupid forgot the login password. I would love any tricks you can give me!
Time for me to say something profound. While I don't have this exact issue (I have a friend who likes me but we haven't dated...but she is wrestling with feelings for an ex...) the one thing that I am burning into my brain now is that love does NOT make sense, as you said. I am always thinking things logically, and when things don't make sense, I get frustrated. I paused the video at 2:15 just so I can repeat what you said out loud, and once and for all - give up on the notion that love (or anything else that is out of my control) has to always "make sense". From this day forward the only love that will make sense and be logical is that which I have for myself. Furthermore, I will never again let people and their 'goofiness' get under my skin. If the other person is happy - good for them. I will continue to make myself happy, and live my life. This video was the first thing I saw today on the computer and it has absolutely given me a brand spanking new energy for LIFE! (One other thing...when I paused the video, the freeze-frame of you with your facial expression is spot-on to how I felt about love being so illogical! :D )
It almost happened to me. 3 months into rship wth me he wanted to go back to his abusive ex. Dint make sense to me. He told me he is attracted to negativity. Later i understood he was a narc and the abusive ex was...evn better .....a Borderline.....so the BPD made him invest more and that was the revenge he kept seeking from her...well dint work out betwn them and he continued wth me ...an empth for another 2 months only to cheat on me with a new supply. As she rightly said, stop making sense out of it. If its not logical its definitely a disorder. But poor love bonds are hard to break away from even when u see red flags clearly.
I was the empath in a relationship with a narcissist. So very destructive. If you only wasted 5 months of your life on that then feel blessed to have learned your lesson so as to spot them in the future and walk away.
@Nomadic Soul sorry you have to go through that. Just be glad you’re out.. you did not waste more of your precious time on this narcissist. Let it a lesson learned.
My ex girlfriend and I remained friends, after we broke up. She went for this guy that was the exact opposite of what she said she wanted (because he was apparently hunk-a-licious, she craved sex, she is deathly frightened of being alone, and she was in love with the story of his arbitrary background). BUT WORSE: He didn't even extend basic human courtesies towards her, was clearly manipulating her, and showing little interest in a relationship (which she wanted). And she let him get away with it, made a shocking amount of unbelievable excuses for him, and then rewarded him with patients and sex. I lost an immense amount of respect for her. Plus, seeing the "favoritism" or "divergence" in how she treated the two of us disgusted me -- by that, I mean, how "we" were together, vs her and her new guy. No way would she have let me get away with half the shit she let this near-stranger get away with. I was going out of my mind -- due to MASSIVE confusion and seeing someone I cared about letting themselves be treated like that. But, in hindsight, I guess it all adds up. Somehow she got him to "boyfriend" status, but I'm dubious of the whole thing. Not sure how the same person can go from a manipulative douchebag to suddenly being reformed and respectable.
@Darcy M. Royce She broke up with me because she wants 6 dogs and is unwilling to compromise. Also because I voted for the "wrong president" in 2016. And then I bought a new car that she looked down upon. And I "made too much money" which disgusted her. She lives and thinks in terms of "silos" and puts everyone and everything a boxes that she judges as "good" or "bad" -- it's a very limited form of thinking. I was exceptionally good TO her, and very good FOR her -- extremely giving of myself mentally, emotionally, and physically. I definitely opened her up. But I was probably TOO good, and perhaps a bit of a pushover, myself -- I put up with a lot of crap because I could see she had a lot of limitations. Most of the relationship, most of the time, was about HER. She recently said she looked at me more as a therapist than a former boyfriend. Admittedly, she felt more like a daughter to me -- I think due to her lack of emotional development and incorrigible ways. I always took the stance of being in "partnership" with her though, always looked out for her best interest -- and she still values our friendship and my input, and she trusts me 100%. But now that only the friendship remains, I've had to ask her to step-up her friend-game recently -- can't be just about her. But she honestly is incapable of much giving. She doesn't get it -- I feel like I'm trying to ask for something that she genuinely can't give. But I need a more equitable relationship -- so I've communicated this to her and we'll see what happens.
@Darcy M. Royce Not sure what is ambiguous: She required 6 dogs, she judged me for making too much money, she judged me for "voting wrong", and she judged me for buying the "wrong brand" of car. These were deal-breakers for her. Seriously. I know most of it sounds childish, counter-intuitive, and absurd, but I'm not exaggerating. These are the things that separated us, in her mind. I accepted her for who she is, and I accepted her limitations -- she never accepted me. I know I was good FOR her because she told me so, many times, and thanked me many times, even after we broke up -- she said I helped her a lot. Yeah, I hope she's happy with her new guy -- but they are both in the honeymoon phase and she is on her best behavior. I doubt he has any idea what he's in store for. But, if it works, then that's super awesome for the both of them -- I'd like to see her happy, of course.
@Darcy M. Royce Thanks for the well-written responses and thoughtful effort put into your replies, Darcy. Much thanks, and good luck out there, yourself!! = )
I honestly don't see how anyone goes back to an abusive person but since I would rather be a lone BEAST its just what I think and prefer to be alone then to give my time to someone like that. Even if it means being alone for the rest of my life. May not make sense but you always make sense when we need it Susan. Like that sunny sunshine over you, pour your sweetness over me!! Oh Sugar, Oh Honey Honey!! You got me wanting you...to talk more with that sexy voice. Make my life so sweet. Bet you do that for everyone cause they appreciate you so much.
There could be two dynamics going on in this. His ex could be a narcissist and like you mentioned, she seen him happy with another and seeing if she can break it apart. Or he could be the narcissist and he lied about her being abusive and took her back in a way to hurt and triangulate his recent relationship. It's what narcissist/psychopaths do for supply and filling their own needs. Either way it's dysfunctional and the one being hurt should go no contact and work on self so she doesn't end up being hurt by him again. That's just my take after being thru this stuff. To me there's an underlying dysfunctional element in that scenario. Good video. I watch your vids to help see what's healthy and how to discern. They're very helpful.
Duane Outdoors -well said. I believe she should go no contact as well. After he has had enough abuse, he is going to circle back around, to this person and expect her to start where they left off.
Darcy M. Royce -agreed! I was involved with a Narc once-that’s all that I needed to be educated on the subject. I look back at it with this thought...At least now, know what I do not want. And how to identify the behaviors associated with this disorder.
2 years and this happened to me. Best friend for 10+ years together for 2 and I’m left to pick up the pieces. I’m over it I don’t want a relationship or friendship from her now. I just need to heal from everything.
Why does the person you were dating for month end the relationship with you just to return to their ex? If they did this once will they do it again? Is there any chance that they will leave their ex and return to the previous partner, (the partner that they left to go back to their ex)? Help!!!
Hey, we were talking for three months and we were really having a great time but we got abusive so I ended the relationship and now I'm regretting it. She said it's over and she's moving on. Could you give me some advice??
He went back to his ex wife.. he is posting pictures of him and his children but not of her?!!no sign of her anywhere on social media but they are back together.. why is he not showing her??
It's a shame idk for sure if my ex is back with him but I know she texts him still And she tells me oh we are friends I don't believe it he's no good she will learn eventually I'm on no contact for a week now she hasn't texted me or anything?
in 7 years i did one mistake in my life i bite her face she don't know what she want family make her crazy and she left me. i accept the break out do you think she can back if there not contact
I broke up with a girl in January and i loved her . I took her for granted and 1-2weeks after breakup i admited for the break up . And now we talk like just good friends ... sometimes more than friends ....but she don't trust me anymore.... she sometimes ignore me .... when she's with others ... what should i do ?.. ... After every 1-2weeks now we fight ...then suddenly everything becomes cool ...and then fight ...Help me...
for me i met this guy back in 2019 i didn't know he had other guys then later come to find out he was involved with this guy before meeting me anyways that summer 2019 he choose him i went on with my life towards the end he comes back into my life we spend time with each other for a week he got into trouble cause he crashed my ride went to jail then later on before 2020 happen he went back to his ex told me he choose him said i can like it or not. from there until now about two weeks ago he calls me again tells me he took a break from his ex we spent a whole week together whatever then later on that same week a saturday he tells me he's going with his ex idk what else to say im preety sure i was his rebound like omg. From there right before he went with his ex about two weeks ago he wanted me to take him and his ex back to his parents house and I said no not going thru that again like what happen he just said okay he went back and now idk the week i spent with him was hard to adjust he wasn't with me i mean its only a week but that monday after that i was crying whatever. I'm just gonna move on and forget about them too.
I was told at Christmas Day he wasn’t ready , next thing he took his ex to a family Christmas party , yes his toxic ex ( his words) and they all posed with matching pyjamas. Words can’t describe the pain I’m feeling .
I see this happen a lot, some people like being treated like shit.
Unfortunately I was in an on and off relationship for 8 years with a narcissist. In between that time I met the love of my life. I was still tied to the destructive psychological and emotional dynamic of the narcissist - he kept luring me back to him and through this my relationship with the love of my life was destroyed. I am and have been devastated from this for years now. I feel it destroyed a very important part of my life and I lost the potential for a future of love and happiness with another man. I no longer speak to the narcissist and am trying to learn how to forgive myself and not repeat those same mistakes. Unfortunately what was lost cannot be retrieved. However I am now doing the work I should have done years ago and trying to uncover what kept luring me into a relationship dynamic with a narcissist.
I was in a relationship with a nice, kind guy and saw a future with him. Then his ex calls out of the blue and wanted to work things out again. He fell for it completely. She cheated on him the first time and cheated again the second time. I actually saw her out with other men when they were dating. It was very sad because I really liked him.
I cannot see how an abusive partner and I don't use the word narcissist as it is used too often could lure you away from from the love of your life. You destroyed your own relationship and now you want someone to blame. In life you reap what you sow.
@@manilanoakes3966 perhaps you didn't read this part - "am trying to learn how to forgive myself and not repeat those same mistakes. Unfortunately what was lost cannot be retrieved. However I am now doing the work I should have done years ago and trying to uncover what kept luring me into a relationship dynamic with a narcissist." Why do you feel the need to have a hurtful comment like that?
@@camaymak3795 Maybe Manila has been in the receiving end of a partner lost to a lure.
The point remains that It’s immaturity, fantasy and gross desire that allows narcissists to capture and re-capture. Their vortex of destruction goes well beyond their co-dependent, children for instance. And a handful of elite bully conniving narcissists have global power of destruction.
Good you are awake. Best wishes.
What made you go back to that ex back then? How would you word it?
I saw my ex with their ex, they didn't have contact for 5-6 months, but when I saw them together I was angry with her, because she told me things about him, things she did to her for her to leave him. I told her that none of them has changed, that he will hurt her again. I might be right at some point it will happen. But I cannot do anything anymore. I'd rather stay single until I'll feel ready for the next one, rather than being with someone to just forget about them...
It's better to stay alone and fix yourself, rather than dating and having sex, dates with other people. To me that's the worst thing someone can do...
Your comment at the 5:37 mark summed up what I’m ruminating about. I didn’t get my chance, that’s all that is for me but I go down the rabbit hole and think it was me and I wasn’t good enough for him…so silly of me. I’m so glad I came across this video. Thank you.
Great video. You are exactly correct when saying - "love does not make sense.". That is exactly a true statement. In my relationship experience, I have found that we are all trying to achieve something. Maybe it's love, or acceptance, or to end the loneliness. Most of the time we don't even understand what we are doing in a relationship unless we have evolved to know exactly what we want. individuals that go back to their exes are often trying to work out something they don't even understand. So don't be too hard on those people when they themselves don't understand what they are doing. Wonderful content and I thank you for your service Susan! 👍
Great video, thanks for sharing Susan. I'm still recovering and healing from my ex leaving me 3 months ago for his abusive, controlling, manipulative ex (who is also the Mother of his two children) Throughout our relationship his ex, used his children as pawns, purely as a method to control him, she stopped all contact and threatened him with parenting orders and family court proceedings, she even tarnished his good name as a little athletes coach, causing him to loose his coaching job he had for 10 years...all because he chose to date me and he was finally happy. My ex suffered from depression and anxiety in not being able to see his children or coach anymore and this put a huge strain on our relationship. After a trip to his birth country to "get away from her" and meet his entire family. Upon, our return home. I was abruptly dumped as he secretly ended the lease to his apartment where we were living together, moved out and he went back to her. I was blindsided and so was the rest of his family who adored me and were beyond happy that he had finally broke free, from his abusive, domineering and controlling ex. I have no idea why he would choose to go back to her especially, after numerous affairs she had with his two best friends and the constant belittling, berating and emotional abuse he suffered throughout their 10 year relationship. But I know now, he did me a favour, as I deserve better than the lies and deceit of someone who didn't have the decency to tell me or his family that he chose to take his ex back again.
Wow this sounds similar to my situation. His ex-wife even stabbed him twice and shot the family dog. True story!!! And he went back when our relationship started to fail.
You are so correct! U need to let ppl do what they need to do. So when they move on they wont have any regrets. They will know that they gave it all to make it work. Most of the time it wont! U cant want someone back just because they moved on. Big mistake! So sad that ppl are in these relationships! They are miserable. So sad if they have kids. Teaching your kids to be in unhappy relationships!
You only know what he tells you. Chances are, she's not abusive but calling him out on his BS and making her the bad guy allows him to not face his own short comings. If she was that terrible, he probably wouldn't even have given her a second chance. And now he's pulling the same thing again which is why she is "abusive". You only know half the truth, if that, especially with someone who is obviously shady. You dodged a bullet.
Needed to read that tonight thank you
you prolly dont give a damn but does anyone know a way to log back into an Instagram account?
I was stupid forgot the login password. I would love any tricks you can give me!
That's what I'm starting to realize in my case it's probably her ass that's the fjcin problem ....shit I'm outs I don't want drama
I just want to say i admire how geniuine and charismatic you are i wish i could explain things im passionate about so well as you
This answered some insightful missing pieces. Thank you, Susan.
Time for me to say something profound. While I don't have this exact issue (I have a friend who likes me but we haven't dated...but she is wrestling with feelings for an ex...) the one thing that I am burning into my brain now is that love does NOT make sense, as you said. I am always thinking things logically, and when things don't make sense, I get frustrated. I paused the video at 2:15 just so I can repeat what you said out loud, and once and for all - give up on the notion that love (or anything else that is out of my control) has to always "make sense". From this day forward the only love that will make sense and be logical is that which I have for myself. Furthermore, I will never again let people and their 'goofiness' get under my skin. If the other person is happy - good for them. I will continue to make myself happy, and live my life. This video was the first thing I saw today on the computer and it has absolutely given me a brand spanking new energy for LIFE! (One other thing...when I paused the video, the freeze-frame of you with your facial expression is spot-on to how I felt about love being so illogical! :D )
Your a mother , you just make my day, and you answer my questions
It almost happened to me. 3 months into rship wth me he wanted to go back to his abusive ex. Dint make sense to me. He told me he is attracted to negativity. Later i understood he was a narc and the abusive ex was...evn better .....a Borderline.....so the BPD made him invest more and that was the revenge he kept seeking from her...well dint work out betwn them and he continued wth me ...an empth for another 2 months only to cheat on me with a new supply.
As she rightly said, stop making sense out of it. If its not logical its definitely a disorder. But poor love bonds are hard to break away from even when u see red flags clearly.
Sorry you had to go through that dogshit excuse of a relationship.
I was the empath in a relationship with a narcissist. So very destructive. If you only wasted 5 months of your life on that then feel blessed to have learned your lesson so as to spot them in the future and walk away.
@Nomadic Soul sorry you have to go through that. Just be glad you’re out.. you did not waste more of your precious time on this narcissist. Let it a lesson learned.
:( :( :( :( hate that!!
This is one of your best Susan.
Hey, thank you!!
Thank you. This is illogical. Period.
My ex girlfriend and I remained friends, after we broke up. She went for this guy that was the exact opposite of what she said she wanted (because he was apparently hunk-a-licious, she craved sex, she is deathly frightened of being alone, and she was in love with the story of his arbitrary background). BUT WORSE: He didn't even extend basic human courtesies towards her, was clearly manipulating her, and showing little interest in a relationship (which she wanted). And she let him get away with it, made a shocking amount of unbelievable excuses for him, and then rewarded him with patients and sex. I lost an immense amount of respect for her. Plus, seeing the "favoritism" or "divergence" in how she treated the two of us disgusted me -- by that, I mean, how "we" were together, vs her and her new guy. No way would she have let me get away with half the shit she let this near-stranger get away with. I was going out of my mind -- due to MASSIVE confusion and seeing someone I cared about letting themselves be treated like that. But, in hindsight, I guess it all adds up. Somehow she got him to "boyfriend" status, but I'm dubious of the whole thing. Not sure how the same person can go from a manipulative douchebag to suddenly being reformed and respectable.
@Darcy M. Royce The story and judgements she created about his background became his identity, rather than who he actually was.
@Darcy M. Royce She broke up with me because she wants 6 dogs and is unwilling to compromise. Also because I voted for the "wrong president" in 2016. And then I bought a new car that she looked down upon. And I "made too much money" which disgusted her. She lives and thinks in terms of "silos" and puts everyone and everything a boxes that she judges as "good" or "bad" -- it's a very limited form of thinking. I was exceptionally good TO her, and very good FOR her -- extremely giving of myself mentally, emotionally, and physically. I definitely opened her up. But I was probably TOO good, and perhaps a bit of a pushover, myself -- I put up with a lot of crap because I could see she had a lot of limitations. Most of the relationship, most of the time, was about HER. She recently said she looked at me more as a therapist than a former boyfriend. Admittedly, she felt more like a daughter to me -- I think due to her lack of emotional development and incorrigible ways. I always took the stance of being in "partnership" with her though, always looked out for her best interest -- and she still values our friendship and my input, and she trusts me 100%. But now that only the friendship remains, I've had to ask her to step-up her friend-game recently -- can't be just about her. But she honestly is incapable of much giving. She doesn't get it -- I feel like I'm trying to ask for something that she genuinely can't give. But I need a more equitable relationship -- so I've communicated this to her and we'll see what happens.
@Darcy M. Royce Not sure what is ambiguous: She required 6 dogs, she judged me for making too much money, she judged me for "voting wrong", and she judged me for buying the "wrong brand" of car. These were deal-breakers for her. Seriously. I know most of it sounds childish, counter-intuitive, and absurd, but I'm not exaggerating. These are the things that separated us, in her mind. I accepted her for who she is, and I accepted her limitations -- she never accepted me.
I know I was good FOR her because she told me so, many times, and thanked me many times, even after we broke up -- she said I helped her a lot. Yeah, I hope she's happy with her new guy -- but they are both in the honeymoon phase and she is on her best behavior. I doubt he has any idea what he's in store for. But, if it works, then that's super awesome for the both of them -- I'd like to see her happy, of course.
@Darcy M. Royce Thanks for the well-written responses and thoughtful effort put into your replies, Darcy. Much thanks, and good luck out there, yourself!! = )
@@ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow Update? Sounded terribly toxic
I honestly don't see how anyone goes back to an abusive person but since I would rather be a lone BEAST its just what I think and prefer to be alone then to give my time to someone like that. Even if it means being alone for the rest of my life. May not make sense but you always make sense when we need it Susan. Like that sunny sunshine over you, pour your sweetness over me!! Oh Sugar, Oh Honey Honey!! You got me wanting you...to talk more with that sexy voice. Make my life so sweet. Bet you do that for everyone cause they appreciate you so much.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
You are really really really smart
She is brilliant
There could be two dynamics going on in this. His ex could be a narcissist and like you mentioned, she seen him happy with another and seeing if she can break it apart. Or he could be the narcissist and he lied about her being abusive and took her back in a way to hurt and triangulate his recent relationship. It's what narcissist/psychopaths do for supply and filling their own needs. Either way it's dysfunctional and the one being hurt should go no contact and work on self so she doesn't end up being hurt by him again. That's just my take after being thru this stuff. To me there's an underlying dysfunctional element in that scenario. Good video. I watch your vids to help see what's healthy and how to discern. They're very helpful.
Duane Outdoors -well said. I believe she should go no contact as well.
After he has had enough abuse, he is going to circle back around, to this person and expect her to start where they left off.
@@angelramos9259 thanks. I agree. The whole dynamic has nothing to do with love.
@Darcy M. Royce well said and very true.
Darcy M. Royce -agreed! I was involved with a Narc once-that’s all that I needed to be educated on the subject.
I look back at it with this thought...At least now, know what I do not want. And how to identify the behaviors associated with this disorder.
Duane outdoors Totally agree 100 per cent with you.
2 years and this happened to me. Best friend for 10+ years together for 2 and I’m left to pick up the pieces. I’m over it I don’t want a relationship or friendship from her now. I just need to heal from everything.
😪 thank you Susan. sigh. I pray for the best for her.
100 percent spot in ❤💯 just went through this.
Your content and videos and presentation are just awesome! Thank you
Hi Rocky. Thanks!
I needed this so much tonight. Just subscribed. Thank you so much
Yes he took his X back abandoned our relationship then came back then went back to her🤥
Thank you you are professional and to great help !!!
it's all messed up..do you think our grandparents had this much trouble?😳
No.
Thank you! this was so helpful!!!
This just happened to me. Some people WANT to be victims
Thank you for this video. 🙂
Maybe he reengaged her. Maybe she was there the whole time on hold
Why does the person you were dating for month end the relationship with you just to return to their ex? If they did this once will they do it again? Is there any chance that they will leave their ex and return to the previous partner, (the partner that they left to go back to their ex)? Help!!!
I’m in the same boat , did they come back? Doubt it let me know your answer
@@robog7396 I'm in same situation just three days ago she went back to abusive ex husband never said goodbye 💔
I dated and proposed to her she said yes and a week later left me for her ex
That's just freaking vicious.
thanks Susan for your videos keep them on
Glad you like these Marwa
Are you sure she was abusive?
Please do a video on how get out of a codependent relationship or how to heal from codependency?
This really helped me . I just experienced this .
That was well said!
Hey, we were talking for three months and we were really having a great time but we got abusive so I ended the relationship and now I'm regretting it. She said it's over and she's moving on. Could you give me some advice??
Comfort
He went back to his ex wife.. he is posting pictures of him and his children but not of her?!!no sign of her anywhere on social media but they are back together.. why is he not showing her??
Omg!! Everything is correct this is what happened. The same story.
It's a shame idk for sure if my ex is back with him but I know she texts him still
And she tells me oh we are friends I don't believe it he's no good she will learn eventually I'm on no contact for a week now she hasn't texted me or anything?
in 7 years i did one mistake in my life i bite her face she don't know what she want family make her crazy and she left me. i accept the break out do you think she can back if there not contact
Hmm...There seem to be several underlying issues. Love is illogical, but does it have to be?
Why because it feels like abuser real person that only loves you.
What's is the category of the abuse? Is it physical/mental? Abuse due to harassment (mental) often takes longer to heal.
I loved him want to care for him
I broke up with a girl in January and i loved her . I took her for granted and 1-2weeks after breakup i admited for the break up . And now we talk like just good friends ... sometimes more than friends ....but she don't trust me anymore.... she sometimes ignore me .... when she's with others ... what should i do ?..
... After every 1-2weeks now we fight ...then suddenly everything becomes cool
...and then fight ...Help me...
Leave her alone
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I can guarantee you that I’m the toxic ex 😂
for me i met this guy back in 2019 i didn't know he had other guys then later come to find out he was involved with this guy before meeting me anyways that summer 2019 he choose him i went on with my life towards the end he comes back into my life we spend time with each other for a week he got into trouble cause he crashed my ride went to jail then later on before 2020 happen he went back to his ex told me he choose him said i can like it or not. from there until now about two weeks ago he calls me again tells me he took a break from his ex we spent a whole week together whatever then later on that same week a saturday he tells me he's going with his ex idk what else to say im preety sure i was his rebound like omg. From there right before he went with his ex about two weeks ago he wanted me to take him and his ex back to his parents house and I said no not going thru that again like what happen he just said okay he went back and now idk the week i spent with him was hard to adjust he wasn't with me i mean its only a week but that monday after that i was crying whatever. I'm just gonna move on and forget about them too.
Stupid is what stupid does
Sorry but you can not change people like that. You just have to walk away for good
Personalism we don't have with ex. Say abusive. Divine Nature Creature Comfort but not questioned. Still have Drivers License. Goodbye Casa Nova.
Ok. Have a Nice day too.
Women. These creatures don't think that far, do they?
Because she likes him more. Simple. Move one.
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lighting makes your face orange. other videos were better.