It was an excellent explanation. ❤️ I suddenly remember my adolescent period having to think and act this way and I think this still exists in us even if we are already old that is why people still struggle with self-consciousness a lot and worry about what others think. I guess the elders who give advice about “don’t think much of what others think of you” have surpassed this stage and look back realizing that what was in their head was wrong.
So simple and enjoyable too watch, making learning fun is a bonus. I admit that I am quite egocentric my self, although I'm 19, most of the time I am just so wrapped up in my own thoughts and feelings, what problems I have, my own happiness, my health ect, hopefully this will dissipate as I get older as it makes me unhappy
I'm 24 and I'm learning how to get out of that egocentric mind. It's true about presents too. I kinda can't tell what others need. I want to buy them things _I_ like. wth wrong with me??
That conclusion was too vague and unconvincing for me. It sounds more like a simplistic hypothesis rather than something that is proven to be true. A theory which I don't believe is even close to the truth. This all sounds like arrogant adults belittling children's insecurities, fears/phobias, social anxieties, struggles, perspective, and feelings from a stance as equally ignorant as the child's. It doesn't matter to you and you don't think it should matter to them; which manifests in your tone and words in a way that appears uncompassionate, apathetic, unconcerned, and ignorant. Children who say that cliche, "You don't understand me" actually mean "You haven't done anything yet to show me you understand." Children don't always say what they mean anymore than adults. From what I have learned, children are less likely to say what they truly think/believe/feel. Out of doubt, mistrust, fear, anxiety, and despair. I don't think adults like you realize that children have a stronger sense of self-preservation and reaction to perceived danger. The "illusions of invulnerability" is not anything more than one personality type of children; which doesn't necessarily go away with age. People demonize boys more than girls for their illusions of invulnerability, never taking any time to learn, listen, and understand why they are more commonly curious, thrill seekers, adventurers, daredevils, explorers, and risk takers. It doesn't sound like you or whoever came up with this knows why some children are attracted to danger; just that you are aware they are. I feel attribution and motivation are being overlooked here due to assumptions and preconceptions. It sounds to me like this is just criticizing self-centerness, self-righteousness, self-consciousness in children which you would be lying if you said the majority adolescents completely lose with the forming of identity and maturity and becoming the self-proclaimed morally superior adult. The illusions of invulnerability bit doesn't convince me you understand it from anything more than an outside perspective. I think that's the case for most of this, mainly in so much as children and adolescents are not usually raised and taught how to be highly articulate and able to disclose their thoughts, feelings, emotions, ideas, beliefs, and perspectives in the fullest way possible. You can't tell me you'll find this behavior in children and adolescents with a higher reading level. It's not about maturity or identity; it's about how developed their speaking skills are because someone with more words and concepts in their arsenal is going to think and speak drastically different than someone with the same level of maturity and life experience as them but not the same ability to speak their mind. It's not that they are simple-minded; most of these children's vocabulary is too simple to convey the complexities of their mind. That is the adult's fault and failure more than the child's. I see how many parents and adults in children's lives are being hands off and largely neglecting to cultivate their social and speaking skills. Some children wouldn't dread conversations with certain people, public speaking/presentations/speeches, and reading out loud if those weren't underdeveloped areas of their life. I know parent's have been significantly lacking in that area of children's development and I am able to draw the connection between that what I can clearly see in this video as children who don't yet know how to express themselves or think critically. Both of which can be rooted in their vocabulary. You can't think thoughts which require words you don't know yet. Specific words which describe specific circumstances, thoughts, feels, and beliefs. Most of them simply do not have enough words in their vocabulary to express what they truly think, know to be true, and feel. Not to mention are willing to be transparent. I've talked about them not being able to be transparent but they are also able to be unwilling. I think too many folks assume because of children's basic vocabulary and surface level openness they are being entirely honest when they speak. Parents especially think this. That children don't have poker faces or masks. I've long since noticed adults and parents underestimate children's ability to hide their motivations, intentions, thoughts, knowledge, and ignorance. TLDR: Achieving an "identity" and maturing are answers that don't feed the bulldog for me. I believe once they have expanded their vocabulary their thoughts expand. This isn't age-specific so it might happen in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. Life experience is useless if you don't have the correct words to establish your thoughts and process the experience. That's why I don't believe these mindsets leave with "identity" or at a certain age. That and I live in reality. Clearly adults acts this way as well.
Being highly sensitive to the perceptions of others presumably wouldn’t lead to elevated anxiety in the presence of confident agency, and all anxieties are fundamentally egocentric (so regressed to the maturity level of survival needs). Children don’t spontaneously and autonomously spawn any initial anxieties (obsessions) out of the clear blue, but for sure the behavioral/environmental priming of a first one establishes the cognitive proclivity to acquire and even manufacture more. I would argue that an egocentric preoccupation with what others think is actually highly INSENSITIVE to objective reality and in an adult would prompt some reflexive (if not compulsive) “bad habit” (such as fueling self-reinforcing narcissistic irrationality). Even if debilitatingly imploded into a schizoid perspective such irrationality is fundamentally unsound unsustainable vanity - - which is not to insult you, only to make the point that one’s own concerns being this informed by the potential perception of strangers is a distracting impediment to sensitivity for others….so a commonly self-serving misapprehension of being highly sensitive bordering on narcissistic delusionality. It’s possible for valid regard to be neither persecutory nor adoring as well as for it to not exist - - as an example note how badly the fools most commonly imagining “microaggressions” from strangers who didn’t even notice them mistakenly believe they are owed the notice of strangers (projective displacement of their own passive-aggression). I didn’t intend to make a social commentary but perhaps it’s useful to illustrate how fabricated misperceptions (utter falsehoods) such as “microaggressions” and this most common one about high sensitivity become legitimized. (Presuming objectivity) agreement or disagreement that the only thing more narcissistic (scapegoating) than racism has been the “microaggression” response is just a function of how long one’s been around to watch it unfold for obvious reasons
It was an excellent explanation. ❤️ I suddenly remember my adolescent period having to think and act this way and I think this still exists in us even if we are already old that is why people still struggle with self-consciousness a lot and worry about what others think. I guess the elders who give advice about “don’t think much of what others think of you” have surpassed this stage and look back realizing that what was in their head was wrong.
So simple and enjoyable too watch, making learning fun is a bonus.
I admit that I am quite egocentric my self, although I'm 19, most of the time I am just so wrapped up in my own thoughts and feelings, what problems I have, my own happiness, my health ect, hopefully this will dissipate as I get older as it makes me unhappy
Thank you for this. You did a wonderful job.
Beautiful explanatory video
So informative and interesting!Good job!
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Perfect explanations🙌🏽
I'm 24 and I'm learning how to get out of that egocentric mind.
It's true about presents too. I kinda can't tell what others need. I want to buy them things _I_ like.
wth wrong with me??
Thank you so much
Excellent! Thank you! :)
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That conclusion was too vague and unconvincing for me. It sounds more like a simplistic hypothesis rather than something that is proven to be true. A theory which I don't believe is even close to the truth.
This all sounds like arrogant adults belittling children's insecurities, fears/phobias, social anxieties, struggles, perspective, and feelings from a stance as equally ignorant as the child's. It doesn't matter to you and you don't think it should matter to them; which manifests in your tone and words in a way that appears uncompassionate, apathetic, unconcerned, and ignorant. Children who say that cliche, "You don't understand me" actually mean "You haven't done anything yet to show me you understand." Children don't always say what they mean anymore than adults. From what I have learned, children are less likely to say what they truly think/believe/feel. Out of doubt, mistrust, fear, anxiety, and despair. I don't think adults like you realize that children have a stronger sense of self-preservation and reaction to perceived danger.
The "illusions of invulnerability" is not anything more than one personality type of children; which doesn't necessarily go away with age. People demonize boys more than girls for their illusions of invulnerability, never taking any time to learn, listen, and understand why they are more commonly curious, thrill seekers, adventurers, daredevils, explorers, and risk takers. It doesn't sound like you or whoever came up with this knows why some children are attracted to danger; just that you are aware they are. I feel attribution and motivation are being overlooked here due to assumptions and preconceptions.
It sounds to me like this is just criticizing self-centerness, self-righteousness, self-consciousness in children which you would be lying if you said the majority adolescents completely lose with the forming of identity and maturity and becoming the self-proclaimed morally superior adult. The illusions of invulnerability bit doesn't convince me you understand it from anything more than an outside perspective.
I think that's the case for most of this, mainly in so much as children and adolescents are not usually raised and taught how to be highly articulate and able to disclose their thoughts, feelings, emotions, ideas, beliefs, and perspectives in the fullest way possible. You can't tell me you'll find this behavior in children and adolescents with a higher reading level. It's not about maturity or identity; it's about how developed their speaking skills are because someone with more words and concepts in their arsenal is going to think and speak drastically different than someone with the same level of maturity and life experience as them but not the same ability to speak their mind.
It's not that they are simple-minded; most of these children's vocabulary is too simple to convey the complexities of their mind. That is the adult's fault and failure more than the child's. I see how many parents and adults in children's lives are being hands off and largely neglecting to cultivate their social and speaking skills. Some children wouldn't dread conversations with certain people, public speaking/presentations/speeches, and reading out loud if those weren't underdeveloped areas of their life. I know parent's have been significantly lacking in that area of children's development and I am able to draw the connection between that what I can clearly see in this video as children who don't yet know how to express themselves or think critically. Both of which can be rooted in their vocabulary. You can't think thoughts which require words you don't know yet. Specific words which describe specific circumstances, thoughts, feels, and beliefs.
Most of them simply do not have enough words in their vocabulary to express what they truly think, know to be true, and feel. Not to mention are willing to be transparent. I've talked about them not being able to be transparent but they are also able to be unwilling.
I think too many folks assume because of children's basic vocabulary and surface level openness they are being entirely honest when they speak. Parents especially think this. That children don't have poker faces or masks. I've long since noticed adults and parents underestimate children's ability to hide their motivations, intentions, thoughts, knowledge, and ignorance.
TLDR: Achieving an "identity" and maturing are answers that don't feed the bulldog for me. I believe once they have expanded their vocabulary their thoughts expand. This isn't age-specific so it might happen in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. Life experience is useless if you don't have the correct words to establish your thoughts and process the experience. That's why I don't believe these mindsets leave with "identity" or at a certain age. That and I live in reality. Clearly adults acts this way as well.
Oem. Are highly sensitive people prone to this?
Probably. I'm 30 and still deal with the imaginary audience 😂😭
Being highly sensitive to the perceptions of others presumably wouldn’t lead to elevated anxiety in the presence of confident agency, and all anxieties are fundamentally egocentric (so regressed to the maturity level of survival needs). Children don’t spontaneously and autonomously spawn any initial anxieties (obsessions) out of the clear blue, but for sure the behavioral/environmental priming of a first one establishes the cognitive proclivity to acquire and even manufacture more.
I would argue that an egocentric preoccupation with what others think is actually highly INSENSITIVE to objective reality and in an adult would prompt some reflexive (if not compulsive) “bad habit” (such as fueling self-reinforcing narcissistic irrationality). Even if debilitatingly imploded into a schizoid perspective such irrationality is fundamentally unsound unsustainable vanity - - which is not to insult you, only to make the point that one’s own concerns being this informed by the potential perception of strangers is a distracting impediment to sensitivity for others….so a commonly self-serving misapprehension of being highly sensitive bordering on narcissistic delusionality.
It’s possible for valid regard to be neither persecutory nor adoring as well as for it to not exist - - as an example note how badly the fools most commonly imagining “microaggressions” from strangers who didn’t even notice them mistakenly believe they are owed the notice of strangers (projective displacement of their own passive-aggression). I didn’t intend to make a social commentary but perhaps it’s useful to illustrate how fabricated misperceptions (utter falsehoods) such as “microaggressions” and this most common one about high sensitivity become legitimized. (Presuming objectivity) agreement or disagreement that the only thing more narcissistic (scapegoating) than racism has been the “microaggression” response is just a function of how long one’s been around to watch it unfold for obvious reasons