When to attach and when to let go? | by Ajahn Brahm | 17 March 2015
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- Ajahn Brahm receives a letter from a Zen practitioner in Japan asking whether there is too much emphasis in Buddhism on "letting go" and not enough on "getting attached" by doing good in the world. Here's AB's response on when to attach and when to let go.
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I love listening to this guy. He helps me calm down and stop freaking about about stupid stuff and just live my damn life already.
Me too
Listening daily to Ajahn Brahm prevents me from killing myself. 🙏🙏🙏
You're going to have to repeat the same crappy life if you do. Keep that in mind. Ride it out. I've had those thoughts too
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@@eipnvn3976 operative word - thoughts, Sankharas, psychological, fear, yes!
Me as well
@@eipnvn3976 The same, or probaly worse
why does it feel so good when you fart,poo or pee?
it's becouse you let go of what you cling on to
that's a good one
Anuk Fernando you get rid of waste. You don,t cling on to that! You want to get rid!!
Sometimes you just can't cut loose in polite society so sometimes you have to hang on. But better to stink up the bathroom next to the living room than to soil yourself😏
...all psychology these days is Buddhism.' That is just how I found these talks. :)
I listen to Ajahn Brahm every night now... he helps he fall asleep. I've been dealing with extreme heartache and restlessness... He helps me so much to sooth the turmoil in my heart.
Ananta Ra That is nice to hear, I wish you all the best.
Me too. Lots of heartache. Just listening to Ajahn Brahm helps so much.
Such beautiful replies, such a beautiful part of youtube. Healing is the purpose of life so much of the time🙏 and it is a good purpose when it is needed.♡ so give this time
So here's a joke for Ajahn to try on his audience. There's three rings associated with marriage:
Firstly - the engagement ring
Secondly - the wedding ring
Thirdly - the suffering.
***** Another.. What do u call a deaf giant? Anything u want he can't hear u....lol
Ha ha ha !!!
Excellent...Buddhism main message seems to be detachment. "What is the dust which obscures the mirror? It is attachment to the world, avarice, envy, love of luxury and comfort, haughtiness and self-desire; this is the dust which prevents reflection of the rays of the Sun of Reality in the mirror." ~ Abdu'l-Baha, Baha'i Faith, The Promulgation of Universal Peace
A joke for Ajahn Brahm -- A buddhist monk goes and gets a vegatarian burger at the local sandwich shop. He asks for everything on it, gets his burger, and hands the man behind the counter a 20 dollar bill. The monk waits for a bit then asks the man for his change... The man behind the counter says "change comes from within".
I always enjoy these talks, sadly I have grown attached to them. This talk had some great insite and I agree with comments below, come to the US more often not just the west coast.
Jeff Cauthon Ahahahahaha, great one mate :D
Jeff Cauthon Oh...but the monk shouldn't touch money... :D
Jeff, Touching money/gold is a sin (the tenth sin), but the joke was funny.
:)
haha good one mate !
Jeff Cauthon 😱🤪😝🤣😂🤣🤣
This reminds me of a saying I have read years ago and that I don't recall the origins of: "Give me the strength to change the things I can change, the endurance to accept the things I can't, and the wisdom to tell both these things apart." I think this captures what wisdom is about. Being able to tell what is appropriate and then act accordingly. Thank you for making these talks publicly available. I learn a lot from this channel.
This is portions of the most famous prayer of people dealing with alcoholism, Also covers many other issues in life.
Ref AB's comments on the importance of the "tea break".
When I first came to Australia (from the USA) in 1979, I was based with the CSIRO in Canberra. Morning and afternoon communal tea breaks were not only the norm, they were pretty-much MANDATORY for all staff. I couldn't believe it!
But within a few weeks, I realised that more quality cross- and inter-disciplinary science happened during those tea breaks than ever happen in the laboratories.
Just wonderful.... He always delivers so called "serious, complicated philosophies"... So easily, smoothly... This is "wisdom"... Comes with a lot of pure laughter ❤
Dumb joke: what did the Dalai Lama say to the hotdog vendor? Make me one with everything!
I randomly found one of Ajahn Brahm's videos last week, and since then, I have been watching more and more of his videos. He really helps me calm my anxious mind.
Greetings from Mexico. I love your talks. They have helped me a lot. God bless you Abraham.
I beg your pardon, if my comment offends somebody. I am aware my comment shows my Cristian backgroud and culture. But that doesn´t mean I cannot express gratitude to somebody´s talk. nor even I think wishing someone to be blessed my cause any discontentment. If that is the case. I apologize myself. Thank you.
kroline7306 No worries Kroline 7306. Buddhists are very accepting of everyone and every religious background. I'm sure your blessings will be appreciated. It's about intentions. If you have good intention behind your thoughts, words or deeds, then it's all good :)
Thank you Darwen Masterson, as matter of fact, I was thinking about Ajahn Brahm´s great sense of humor and he could even be laguhting at my post. jajaja
And greeting Leon bushnell, yes, tamales are delicious.
kroline7306 You don't need to convert to buddhism to learn buddhism. Please read Dhammapada verses 001 and so on because those verses are very good and can strengthen our love for others and decrease our attachments on our belongings. www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/ and Kalama Sutta to avoid blind faith www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/kalama1.htm
I,m from srilanka
I like to see him.
Miss , How to see?
Can i request that you guys do a talk on how to stop being lazy.. i really think It'll help a lot of people, especially me seriously :D
Great topic suggestion
Krystal Kan read some books on motivation, self discipline, etc. and apply the principles in your daily life for at least 3 months, then it will become a habit.
Krystal Kan
lazyness is a source of wisdom, and invention !
many, many invention where motivated by lazyness, f.e. the Computer, the guy who build the first computer, Konrad Zuse, a German, came up with the idea, because he was too lazy to do the calculations in his head, with a pen and paper.
observe your thoughts when you feel you are lazy. many times its not lazyness but you might be overwhelmed by what you think you have to do.
analyse the stuff you think you have to do,...is it REALLY nessecary ?
Many times you will come to the Point where you find : its just NOT worth it.
These Days there a zillion things to Do, that just DONT make sense.
Many Times Lazyness is an answer to this, cause running after more money, fame or what ever just dosent make sense if you REALLY give it some thought.
Achieving stuff is great, but also dangerous, because it rises your sense of EGO. whatch those super succsessfull People, many of them ar super ignorant, disrespectfull people.
Lazy People normally dont beat others, or kill others ( if they ARE REALLY LAZY ) cause its just too much of a Deal of Energy.
Its those willpower driven people, who turn into Beasts, normally when they DONT get what they REALLY want.
Lazyness is also the MAJOR Goal for MANY PEOPLE; they say if i make a Million Dollar, i DONT have to work any more,..so then they finally can hang around and be lazy.
Cars, Trains, Machines,...they where invented to make Life EASYIER,...
Best
Krystal Kan he did do a talk on this topic. somewhere on youtube. search it up
Icke Er Great Post :)
In Mexican Culture it's called a Siesta, businesses close for 2-3 hours for everyone to take a break, and then business resumes after the break. I do not really know how much it is still practiced but, that sounds like what he is speaking of when it is time to rest--- REST.
The wisest human being in the universe!!!
Ajahn brahm, I listen to ur talks frequently and you are a great source of comfort and wisdom to me. Keep up your wonderful work in helping so many people across the globe. Please consider holding a meditation retreat in the US :).
SS sedep
SS qaewqqqqaaawAaaaaaaaaafde
I'd like to get some advice on how to be mindful while eating and not appear anti-social. We will see how it goes on Monday. I'll be in Paris for the first time with a couple people I don't know well and I am going to want to tune everyone out. Lol Wish me luck.
Ajahn Brahm.always guanteed to make you luagh,love this Guru.
Well ''Iniffable''.Meaning ''Too Deep/Great to explain''.
Why does that not suprise me lol...That is just Ajahn Brahm humour hahaha
Always relevant. Always a reminder and a reality check for self, the internal.
Ajahn Brahm. Thanks for teaching, I hope ur getting plenty of you time to balance all that giving.
A man asked his wife to be buried with his entire fortune (over a $5mil), when he died she did just as he said.
When her friend asked if she had done what he asked, she said "of course! I am a faithful wife."
She was then asked how she would support her family if she buried him with his fortune. She said "if he ever cashes that check I left in his coffin, I may be in trouble. Until then, I will be just fine."
Thanks for the belly laugh!!! 😆
I found the comment about sleep funny, it's 4am and I am having trouble sleeping at the moment. Thank you for the meditations.
Can you talk about narcissistic people and how to deal with them.???
If you have to be around them you must stand up for yourself and do whatever has to be done to stop them whatever the consequence other wise they will kill you eventually.
Ajahn Sujato also speaks on this. It is SO hard. They will destroy you if you stay.
He has a talk entitles “dealing with difficult people” which has some valuable suggestions.
thank you ajahn brahm! thank you for sharing your wisdom! you are a real gem. Thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaank yOOUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!
Dear ajahn brahm. i am always relax and peaceful each time after listening all of your teaching. thank you ajahn brahm . sadhu sadhu sadhu....
The best takeaway from this dharma talk for me (@47.10):
The difference between involvement and commitment in a relationships is like bacon and eggs. With bacon and eggs, the chicken is involved and the pig is committed.
Cant express how much i enjoy his talk. He is so wise.He absolutely calms my mind . He is also hilarious at the same time which brings a smile to my face and makes me happy everytime. Grateful to him for his great work and sharing his wisdom with us . Love this channel.
Hello- thank you for posting these talks. I love the humor and the lessons... a bright spot in my day all the way over here in the U.S.
Never never learned from my past. Past is past. Only know what occurs and always learn from my present.
Well said. Thank you.
I just love these talks you put a smile on my face thank you
i don't think Jon Kabat Zinn would tell you to scrap the shit of your shoe. his work/writings have helped many people with mental illness. i don't know what he does with is money.... but his work is impt.
Have you done a video on children dealing with families, especially parents who aren't there for us, and how to deal with letting go of those people who are judgmental, and not supportive when we need it, when they are family? I'm really struggling with this right now. Thanks
Parent: I raised you, get a life. Me: Hello? Aunt Cristine?
Wow, a talk i missed! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Love this talk. Thank you!
"There is a time to get attached and the time to let go. Wisdom is to know the difference" :)
"Past is in-IF-able" !!
"Don't learn from the past. Learn from PRESENT" (!)
I’m not sure I agree with the don’t learn from the past part of it. For example what if you acted through violence to something in the past. Can’t you then learn from that past not to do something like that again, and act in a morally correct way instead?
Buddha gives much better advice regarding things that were done in the past in mn61 in advice to Rahula.
Buddha gives much better advice regarding apropriate times in an4.146
Buddha gives much better advices regarding living laymans life in dn31.
You always remind me of what I seem to forget ....Hope to meet you during my travels , one day ...ONE
Best ever talk for me! Heartfelt thanks Ajahn Brahm 🙏❤
The zen version of "give whatever you've got" has a different punchline: "And when you're eating breakfast and reading the newspaper, just eat breakfast and read the newspaper."
阿姜，你什麽時候來香港或深圳，要跟我說啊
Personal these days are highly dispensable. Companies don't care how much experience you have or how much work you do, you are just a number and really replaceable sadly.
Does AJahn Brahm take questions from folks like me who listen to him online?
thank you for getting back to me with information so soon. in kindness
Here's a secret: Listen to him long enough you can answer your own question. Let that small inner voice grow from within
Listen to him long enough and you will be able to answer your own questions
I want to let go I really do but physically I'm not in a position to be able to, I know my circumstances need to change but every day is a fight to both maintain and improve them
There is litterally too many things to do and only me to do it forever trying to catch up and I am scared I will die young
What do I do :(
Hey!! I do not plan anything and this dear man agrees with me. How about that?
You have the right way 😉
Going to Perth 2017, hope to see you!
Great talk Ajahn Brahm
I am not a Buddhist but I find Mr Bett's books and talks very helpful.This is a great talk.
You don't need to be a buddhist to call Ajahn Brahm by the name he has chosen, specially if you like his works 🙏
17:57 "They become rich, the richest man in the cemetery"
That goes hard 🔥 like a diss track to corporate greed
Ohh ajahn brahm... you are so awesome :) (also goes to the Buddhists society)
Dear Ajan
I always listen to your talks, it helps me immensely.
May you attain the supreme bliss of Nirvana
BUT
I have a problem, my daughter is unable to deal with her 18 month old child who is very clingy, eating issues and not sleeping very well. She thinks the child has Autism and she cannot deal with it and she wants to Kill herself, I just don't know how to help, I advised her to seek professional help but not done. I send all your talks but she says she has no time to listen
I just don't know how to help. Please help me.
Please forward this to Ajan Abraham🙏
The slipper metaphor, one of the best and easy to make a habit, Left slipper past, right slipper future, Thank you
謝謝阿姜，感恩，慈悲！
20:35 I'll then definitely keep my tea breaks habits
25:00 No overtime led to better focusing, zero turnover, increase of productivity
can i become a nun in your monetary? i really wish i can do that.. but i dont have PR to aues. :(
love your talk
I have been listening to these talks for quiet sometime now and they never made sense more than they do now... to me!
very meaningful and realistic talks. sadhu sadhu sadhu
Thank you Ajahn, enjoyed this talk.
Thank you for these videos!
why do you need to do that last thing / prayer they did at the end?
Or what does it mean -.-'
Shameless the way he asks for donations, love it! ( really should donate). I wish I lived there. I would clean dishes and sweep just to absorb good vibes
I wonder if him n the monks look at these comments and have a good chuckle while they're relaxing.
This is beautiful.
Great Ajahn Bhram , saddhu saddhu saddhu
Thanks
Yes! Meditating before bedtime sure helped me to fall asleep while meditation enhances one's sense of awareness. Thank you Ajahn.
Outstanding
❤️❤️❤️ 🙏🙏🙏 ❤️❤️❤️
I love shredding too!
You are my idals
Sadhu Sadhu Saaadhuuu ❤
Knowing the time..
Past is in-IF-able. 🥰
Sadhu sadhu sadhu.
Saadhu
❤
What is he chanting in the end? can anyone give me text plus transalation . thanks
I really respect Buddha who reach enlightenment, I really respect Dhamma and I really respect noble monk. (I might not translate it beautifully but it's around that)
Chanting in the end has the name "Ratanattaya Vandana - Salutation to the Triple Gem "is to pay respect to 1.Buddha 2.Dhamma 3. Buddist monks who make Dhamma goes on and on. You can search on youtube for detail.
The joke I heard was the lawyer wanted the money burying with him so the wife buried him with a cheque ;)
Dali llama
Lots of hugs to Ajahn Brahm 🤗🤗🤗🤗
No, you cannot delete your past, if it were that easy there wouldn't be so much suffering in the world. Sorry Ajahn Brahm. I love you dearly but that isn't something anyone can do .... that easily.
I love you Ajahn Brahm
Wish I could press a button and "delete the past".
สาธุสาธุสาธุค่ะท่าน.
❤️❤️❤️🏴🙏🙏🙏
You are so right
No need la
Why does his voice sound likes his mouth is filled with pudding?
6:22
10:32
Ok I appreciate this man but let's be realistic here. This monk is living in a monastery as a monk. He is not out in the real world dealing with real life. I too enjoy his teachings but take it with a pinch of salt. In my experience not makes plans has led to disaster. I am 42 now and very keen to meet someone and have a baby. Has I been more focused 20 years ago I would not be do vulnerable now. In fact I have been vulnerable most of my life because nobody told me the facts of life . Ladies out there please listen to me. Men do not need to worry about making babies like we do have the same worries like we so please don't drift for years like I did. Nothing wrong with making plans but don't be ridget about it maybe is what he should say . If you don't have focus you will wake up 50 and be depressed cos you didn't stop to think what you want in life and make sacrifices to get them.
excuse me, but exactly what is the point you are trying to make?
Singlehood is the greatest GIFT in life. Treasure it🥰
@@singaporevirtualtours1101 OMG Well said. Sadhu sadhu sadhu
I totally agree Betty and am really glad you said this. I love Ajahn Brahm I do and his talks have given me great peace and respite from the stresses of modern life but...they dont make them go away and while we are living in this world they can't it is impossible.
I'm (only) 33 and I'm stressed to the max all day nearly every day because of my situation financially, geographically, socially and because of my past and every time I put in effort to improve it I get so exhausted because everything is working against me I just end up bed bound from burn out and am beginning to get really scared of what my future holds because there is less and less options as time goes on and i get tireder
We do need to keep a stable view of reality otherwise it will come back to bite us :(
If i were to just let go of everything as much as i seriously would love to and i WOULD I have no clothes to keep me warm, have to rely on everyone around me to survive and would starve or become malnourished, I already am on the brink of it and it's the opposite of living
I hope you are okay anyhow, i like that commenters post under these videos they've given me a sense of feeling less alone
All the best to you
I’m not sure I agree with him on not learning from the past. For example if you cheated on you’re partner surely you can learn from that in future relationships so you don’t do it again. Another example could be that you are cooking and you add too much of an ingredient. From knowing that, the next time you cook the same recipe again you will have learned from your mistake, not to add as much this time.
Hope that makes sense
Many lolz!!! +1
What is the Buddhist stance on electronic cigarettes?
As it is virtually harmless, is it still a defilement?
All things considered it is a luxury, but so is a car...
Oliver revilO If I remember correctly, a lot of Thai monks smoke (or at least used to). I'm not entirely sure that smoking (electronic cigarette or otherwise) is a "big deal" even if the attachment to it does come from a defiled mind-state just as much as the attachment to the flavor of one's food.
David Hickerson Interesting reply!!!
+1 Dave!
Oliver revilO Buddhists can smoke, it is allowed because it does not distort their consciousness or disrupt self-awareness, unlike alcohol. They do not recommend it, but do not prohibit it.