Japan's Stalking Crisis | 101 East
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- It is a fear that haunts the lives of too many Japanese women; a silent epidemic with consequences that can be fatal: Japan is suffering a wave of violent male stalkers.
And some victims are speaking out. Reports of stalking have increased ten-fold in the past decade, with more than 21,000 reported cases last year. But experts warn that this could be just the tip of the iceberg.
Rates of stalking are growing faster in Japan than in any other nation. When a stalker murdered a woman in 2011, Japan's anti-stalking law was toughened. But the killings continue.
'Hiro' began stalking his wife when she fled their home and his violent, controlling ways. He tells 101 East that he planned to kill his wife in divorce court because he believed it would be better for her to die than to be with another man.
Like Hiro, Japan's stalkers are often jilted lovers seeking revenge on former partners who they feel have wronged them or tried to leave them.
It is not easy to find victims and perpetrators willing to talk about stalking. But through support groups, we enter a world that remains hidden in the shadows of Japanese society, often at a shocking cost.
We speak to stalking victims who detail the terrifying experience of being continually threatened and harassed. We also hear from the brother of a woman who was killed by her stalker. He wants to draw attention to the dangers of stalking and says tougher laws are needed to protect women.
Therapists working with both victims and perpetrators say that much of the crisis is rooted in Japanese society. They say many Japanese men believe that they "own" women. They also claim that the police often fail to act to stop violent attacks.
Japan's leading criminal psychologist on stalking is calling for therapy to be made compulsory for any stalker with a criminal conviction.
101 East travels to Japan to explore the fear stalking numerous women across the country, and to hear from the men behind this insidious crime.
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Not even 2 minutes in and I'm already angry to hear the guy talking about his ex-spouse like something he, literally, owned.
shut it feminist
@@khav11 oh no, you angry baby? What a pity..
@@NynNahh A percentage of men are just boys that can shave; they have not grown up yet.
@@NynNahh if only u would be this open with Ur opinions i
In peoples face
Be quiet and behave girly
Yeah it was scary to hear thd possessiveness BUT great and encouraging to hear he's seeking counseling and therapy.
Any man who thinks he is entitled to feel that he owns a woman is precisely the sort of guy who DESERVES TO BE ALONE for rest of his life!
So what if he is? Everyone is entitled to get laid. It’s an unwritten law. Women can blame themselves for chasing the top 10-20% of guys.
@@rafidi1692 No one is..... really... Most young men are simply too uninteresting und ugly to even consider them to become sexual partners. If I would be a girl I seriously would opting to be a lesbian, since the "10-20%" might be hot but boring as well and... Oh! obnioxious and superficial too... No.... thanks.... thankfully I belong to the 10% of men :P
Many japanese men are alone
All of your comment reply people make me uncomfortable. Are they intentionally white knighting, nice guy, and INCELs? I guess 123fort is just annoying.
Lol every ethnic man especially bashes his sisters and tries to control them even in the west... its the culture
" was absolutely unforgivable that's something I owned would run away from me " ...boy you've never owned a cat, have you?
Ah, that is funny.
My cat owns me and she stalks me everywhere
@@kingo_friver 🤣🤣🤣nice one... Did the cat try killing u with a car??
@@ealvia5887 You're absolutely right. I hate those delusional people who consider a cat as a property they can own like their wife or a girlfriend.
"My wife was the property I owned" was the stalker Hiro's utterance. I hope this guy won't have any relationship with a cat.
@@ealvia5887 Ok preacher. So you can preach to Hiro The Stalker against owning a human, not to a comment here. I wonder you actually watched the video. fyi 1:20
When another person is your property, that is called slavery.
men pay child support and alimony, to someone who is no longer part of their life, and government makes sure that they do, slavery enough...
They have a mental disorder, and the stalkers see the person as an object making it easier for them to justify what they are doing.
As a woman u don't understand most things in life
U r not supposed to
@Ruby Maverick: King Of The Hunt
You can divorce a marriage. You also entered that willingly.
You can quit an employment, you also entered that willingly.
You do not enter slavery willingly. You cannot part without a fight, without risking your life.
Idiot.
@David Sanchez Slavery 'is' that serious, but these stalkers 'are' on par with slave-owner mentality.
This is not just stalking, this is domestic violence !!!
It seems more like domestic violence, yeah - in the case of relationship breakups. I can fully understand why these men would do such things (to their ex's) it's something that should be worked out and talked over by both parties. Stalking a random girl on the street is a no no.
Japanese men have mommy issues 👶Their whole system is built to protect men & oppress woman
it's both stalking AND domestic violence, that's even worse!
Shirley Chen and a mental health problem. Some of those guys can’t handle a simple break up.
+ᚢᛁᚫᛁᚾᚷ
Pure bullshit on your part, In Japan women have as much right as men do you idiot, its not the 1920s anymore in Japan. Time has moved on, but you seem to be stuck in the past.
Me and my friend were stalked when we were in high school. This was in Japan and it started in her family's bakery. We were 17 only and it was terrifying. We were both stalked since then for 4 months and the police did nothing. My friend had to move after high school because of the trauma, I ended up staying but I am paranoid like crazy. I don't believe we deserve to be living this way in constant fear.
@@qurere386 Thank you, I will. I hope you do too. Maybe it's my paranoid self but dont always trust any guy to walk you, of course there are always good ones but there are also cases in which they are creeps too. So always be careful and stay safe!
@@solkiyoko227 hi thr
Why don't move to Canadá or América?
Well Canada is better
@@octaviosaint2531 bold of you to assume people can just leave for another country easily
When the bad guy has more rights than citizen,
Presumption of innocence protects us all.
@@qqqcalls this is in Japan,, and even in the States harassment of women is weak and cowardly,, I believe of rule of law,, but I will say one don't ever break the law in Japan,,lol you learn how to speak Japanese, your family has to feed you... You don't have to get the chance to go home ..
@@tedgarrett9437 Until someone is found guilty of a crime, the government has no right to sanction their behavior. False accusations are common.
@@qqqcalls Not as common as you think. Taking the amount of lets say, false rape allegations, are only 3%. Because many women are afraid to actually go out and report a crime. Most accusations are true, and believed to be over 90%. Very few actually lie about allegations. However, I do believe in innocence until proven guilty.
@@J3nnyp4nny From what I have seen the 3% number you mention is disputed. Also, it only reflects false rape accusations and not relationship related crimes (like stalking, harassment, etc). I think all criminal allegations should be taken seriously and pursued with the evidence that exists.
When I lived in Oklahoma many years ago I saw a guy smacking his gf around and yelling at her in a Walmart parking lot so I walked over and intervened. The amount of cowardice these types of men have is truly stunning.
But the dumb hag you defended stayed with him tho!
@@MissTia777 Or maybe she didn't. Do you know them personally? Sounds a little sus. Either way, the reason a good number of them cannot leave is because they are trapped. Emotionally, psychologically, physically. It's a complex and ugly topic that clearly surpasses your intellect.
@@77bearpeerless77 You have no intellect except being a victim! Epic Fail waste! Next time you defend your abuser the body bag will welcome you! It's well deserved!
@@MissTia777 Nice victim blaming. I can tell you have an outstanding warrant just by how you talk. And you wanna know what's well deserved? You getting it in prison. There is no justification for abusers. I despise them. No one should be a victim of domestic violence. You evidently think otherwise. One last thing. Fact -- I'm not a victim and I'm not you. (Evil) That makes me better than you. 🤙🏼
@@MissTia777 lmao lmao, so dumb. Can’t understand basic human decency
The Police are not incompetent they are just protecting their fellow stalkers.
o my God! i was thinking the same! they probably dont do anything because they think is something right
They bow down to Yakuza
Japanese police are incompetent. They don't bother investigating a crime, they try to force a confession out of people. Al Jazeera done a video on this something like two months ago.
Winter Wonder
They got long prison sentences from what I read.
Adyprima Nigraha A couple of years before they were released. Still messed up.
All these stalkers are delusional; most may actually be mentally impaired. To have those thoughts, to believe a human being is your personal possession, is unbelievable. How narcissistic do you have to be to claim entitlement over another human being?
Real-life yanderes ;O
They are not mentally ill, they are a product of society. They learn these behaviors from their parents...who learned them from their parents...and so forth.
scarletfluerr@I'm not sure about that. It's easier to blame the culture for everything After all, the huge vast majority of japanese males don't stalk and they all had japanese fathers and grandfathers to learn cultural behaviour from.
I think we have to go further and analyze whether or not this is about matters of character, lack of limits due to poor education from parents, personality disorders and mental illness.
These stalkers display an antisocial personality disorder though..
scarletfluerr It's a little selfish to put all the blame on society, hm? To say they aren't mentally ill and are just "a product of society" assumes no responsibility for the individual. Society is a key player, but it isn't the only factor. In this case, why aren't all Japanese men stalking and murdering women, I mean you know, if it's just a part of their society?
Having lived in Japan for 8 years in the 1980's-90's I found most Japanese men to be extremely emotionally immature... MOst men I knew got married for someone to replace their mothers as their care givers.... Also, misogyny plays a large role as well....
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Its there culture.. Showing emotions for males, is a sign of weakness. They don't know how to handle there emotions.
I agree. I was super popular when I lived in Japan and Korea (cause white girl), and my fellow foreign friends called me crazy for being so "picky" and not wanting to further date those "handsome boys" there. Most Japanese men in particular (all in their 20s) I met there were emotionally immature, just as you said. I felt like talking to 14yrs olds. There was nothing they could give me or enrich my life with by hanging out with them, and nothing that made me feel like they were fellow adults. It felt like I was their kindergarden nanny. The only thing missing was a napkin. Cause they already had their pretty flower boy baby faces.
@@NoctLightCloud and American boys are deep and intellectual. You can discuss with them astrophysics.
@@PoisonelleMisty4311 American?🤣 Lol no. A big no. Are you assuming I am American?;)
Women: "He is stalking me !"
Police: "But the man said it was just business problem : D"
I know right.🙄🙄🙄🙄
😂😂😂😂😂
The situation is terrible, but it 'is' funny the way they put it.
he broke stuff an injured workers smh bad business practice bro
SASANQUA - not funny.
meanwhile in the west
I was so blown away by that.
That "Hiro" guy, the one who says he's 80% 'cured', still has the wrong mindset. He says he'll be cured when his wife says he's cured. Is his goal to get back with her? What if she still says no? His goal should be to not want to stalk his wife anymore, not to get her approval.
funny how he will be graduating :/
That's what I was thinking...he's still not managed to fix that corrupt and toxic mindset.
The only true way to end it is most likely just leave the country entirely.
Lee Lemon exactly op missed that they already got back together once after the stalking and she left once she started to feel unsafe. It seems like they're still working things out for better or for worse
At least he’s quite considerate of her feelings. It’s a big step honestly
To be honest, when I went to the police about my stalker they did absolutely nothing even though I had threatening texts that he was going to kill me and set my house on fire. In their own words they asked ' But has he actually ever done anything to you? ' .. and because my answer was no they took no further action. This was in the UK.. Police handling of these type of crimes is a global issue unfortunately :(
Anne Frank well the police didn’t help you because you were well hidden already.... Anne Frank
@@DecipherDiz What a moronic comment. Someone has too much time on their hands
Like prostitution... A NYPD officer basically said, you have to be caught in the act for them to make an arrest... Caught in the act? They don't have time to stalk the stalker!!! Good luck. You are on your own... Take Charge! And Pray...
they wanted "proof", meaning the killing and your house in fire....In case it happen again you need a lawyer; do they know the existence of crime prevention?
I had the same
I feel so bad for the brother and the friend the stalked woman called. Imagine your friend calling saying "help me" and then she's dead 😥
Japanese society seems to have some quite major problems.
Martina Vaslovik First world problems.
No place is perfect. At the end of the day we are individuals no matter what society is like
Being born in Japan, and knowing friends who’ve been stalked, it’s worst than people think 😰
Come to the USA sometime. We are all kinds of f*cked up!
@@nicholasmarcinkowski3016 that’s terrible.
So in Japan it's ok to attack someone if it's a business matter..?
Helen E ikr!! U can trespass if it's a bussiness matter, too?! 🤔 unreal.
curly sue
They need to change so laws..
Helen E anything is allowed in Japan if it's business related
Anna Miller
Even killing someone?
Helen E Yup. A Japanese guy killed and ate a French student, and instead of jail time, gained celebrity status. He said he'd be happy to do it again.
I wonder what would happen if you had two stalkers. Would they work together or duel to the death?
+memphis3106 I think ultimately they'd have to duel. All of them express sole ownership of these women. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT!!!
+memphis3106 You should write a book about this
+memphis3106 I don't think they'd fight - these men are cowards and that's why they prey on helpless victims...
+Luckeee Legz555 i know one thing. they are not sharing anything. they probably will frame each other for murder or something
+Luckeee Legz555 True, but when women realize (as they are finally beginning to) that they do not need to be "helpless victims" and begin to start fighting for their rights of protection from police by working together to change laws, and start fighting against this epidemic, it will slow down drastically. There are several different factors that all combined are helping this disturbing trend to continue and increase, but by fighting for new laws, women's rights, changing the stigma of counseling and mental health, fighting for government backing on these issues, I believe that slowly things will begin to change. But the change must first begin with the people. In this case, it must begin with women, like the Miss International woman, and men who support them, like the man who lost his sister. They can make Japan change. It will take time, but it always starts with the people. In every country, in every culture.
pretty sure the same guys would turn around and go "why did she leave me? I'm such a nice guy". Getting nice guy vibes from these dudes.
😂😂😂They’re such nice guys!!!
Incel vibes
My thoughts, excatly!...Like do you guys have a clue...yet...why they left???!
The word "stalking" sounds terrifying. As a woman, I feel vulnerable when there's no law to protect us.
@Nostradamus of course that's included human being but women, elders and kids are more vulnerable comparing to men.
Hi thr
Shut up you dont even live in japan
@@g0blinfractal472 although stalking is higher in Japan it’s still a worldwide problem, next time you decide to comment have an open mind set.
I wonder if stalking a stalker is effective in some cases. some guy stalked my friend for two years in h.s. and I stalked him, with an angry face everywhere he went to show him how creepy he was, lol. I guess it worked, cuz he transferred and we haven't heard from him since, but most ppl aren't so lucky to get rid of their stalkers. :(
Sometimes you have to turn the hunter into the hunted. I'm not in Japan but that is what I have done in the United States. I just get tired of it and very angry.
+westerley_joy nice!
That's Interesting actually.
mt. shyna I have always wondered that too. I would stalk them back. Break into their house. Sleep in their bed. I would drove them crazy. Lol.😂
wow you are an amazing friend
If the cops gave the stalkers as hard a time as they give some foreigners in Japan, I am sure stalking numbers would fall by half.
Preach!
It’s sad =[
What are you babbling on about whitey?
@@bazle64 lol n I'm a whitey!
Dalena 🤮
My heart goes out to the man who’s sister was killed, I completely understand feelings of guilt but he has to know it wasn’t he’s duty to deal with the stalker it was the duty of the police! If he would have taken things into his own hands he would have probably been the one to get in trouble with the stalker being free to continue with he’s horrid plans. More needs to be done for both the victims and the stalkers, mental health help is crucial for both parties.
If that happened to my sister my mental health would be destroyed. I don't think I could ever recover
Good comment
If that was my sister I would go samurai on him! I would put him on a wheel chair
@@octaviosaint2531 That’s it just handicap him 🧐
@@scottfree4913Sometimes death is too good of a punishment. Crippling someone can be a worser fate.
it reminds me of honor killings in some ways. the family kills you or disowns you because you, the daughter, are the property of the family, and if you do not listen accordingly, you are murdered. why do people hate women so much?
People can be easily possessed by dangerous ideology like that, especially when everyone around you also shares that ideology.
@@rafidi1692 Seek help for your insanity.
@@Wetesk53 It's not insanity, it's culture. Respect that.
@@rafidi1692 Nobody is going to respect an idiot.
@@thetruth830 You are racist.
I'm a Japanese man and was stalked by a woman in Tokyo. Such a problem is not so taken seriously because by nature, women tend to be less violent. They usually don't end up killing their obsession. But if both men and women can be stalkers, what is the underlying problem?
Parents do not give enough affection when their children are small. They are not really affectionate people and I guess you can see that if you visit Japan. They never hug or even touch their children here. The worst of all, they never tell their children (or anyone actually) that they love them. Japanese children grow up doubting if their parents are really their parents, because they lack the affection they need or entitled to. I thought so, too. And when I asked around, it seemed that that is a universal doubt that all Japanese people have. It was shocking when this became a classroom discussion and every single student shared the same thoughts!
So when they finally are in a relationship, they tend to be extremely possessive. It doesn't mean that they'd be stalkers after they break up but they all seem to have problems. It's crazy to see your partner acting completely different in private across any culture. But I bet that that is even more different in Japan. Why? People are taught to not harm or disturb anything in nature and it's partially comes from Buddhist teaching. So in general, people act extremely polite in public in Japan. But that means they pretend to be someone else who is ideal to the society. They are really tired to act to be someone else (especially in modern society with all the pressures) so when they are with their partners, it's finally time to act like him or herself. In other societies, you can ask anybody what you need. But in Japan, they don't. In fact, they refuse to ask for a help or even express their feelings. Instead, they turn to their partners and ask them all their needs... But don't forget, he or she is the ONLY PERSON they ask the favor for! So when their needs or demands are not answered, they get really offensive. "You are mine and why can't you give me that?" That's what they ask. Why is this possible? It goes back to the problem of the parents not giving enough affection.
Here, people do not know or understand what love is. Parents don't teach them what love is. They don't even act like they love their children so what normally is "given" and "felt" during the childhood is not present there. So the children grow up without knowing love and end up being really "thirsty" for love. That is why they become too possessive and obsessive.
Just imagine children asking their parents to give them affection, and not receiving it properly. And when they are adult, they ask their partners the same but with the adult attitude and demands. It's worse than kids.
I guess any society has its problems but modern Japan is having numbers of major problems. That's what happens when a traditional society adapts foreign ideas, system or/and "modernize" itself too rapidly. That is not a real evolution of a society. I hope people talk more (that is the most difficult part here) and confront the problems as unified power.
I don't know if I explained the underlying problem here but perhaps you have a better idea why there are so many stalkers here.
Insightful. Do you think this problem is related to Honne/Tatemae split in Japan ? Maybe a stalker is a person who has issue to make boundaries between Honne and Tatemae.
mmnooo thank u so much for the explanation ! Take care.
That is a good analyze. Thank you
wow, thanks for the interesting opinion
The whole society needs to change
This poor man and his very unfortunate sister. You really can't blame Japanese women for being reluctant to marry. I'd be wary too.
these chauvinist beliefs that they should be able to own women may be why japan has a growing problem with young men holed up at home fantasizing rather than having real realationships with real women.
as the video showed, re-educating the men is urgent if japan is to survive, let alone thrive in any meaningful way.
The brother should have rounded up the other men in the family.. and stalked the stalker...
@Tidder T Japan is a very conservative society. Socially, for women, it's almost like the 1960s over there. Women are expected to stay home and be caretakers. It's why they prefer marrying Americans. They're allowed a life outside the home. Also, Japan has vending machines full of used little girls' panties, sooooo....
Tidder T the stalker is just the symbols, there’s a problem in the whole culture
The world isn't that big anymore, marry a foreigner.
In India you don't even need to breakup, if you reject a stranger that's it, the next day he will chase you with an acid bottle.
That could be a good script for a horror movie . Title : “ the acid man “
I think I'll be vengeful enough (if still alive) to find him & lay waste to his & his kin's hope of a family.
North India*
And I laughed reading this comment. Becoz it's so true.. Aah we are doomed!!
@@rach4505 Saw a similar news in south of India.
I am the CEO of a private investigation firm in Japan.
Stalking is an issue that cuts both ways and is a frustrating issue for those of us in the PI industry. These stalkers are likely to hire us without telling their true intentions. We also struggle to determine if the customer is a stalker because the identity of repeating stalkers are always protected in Japan. The obsessive human rights protection policy in Japan may be the source of a problem in this matter. Additionally, many stalker victims are young females who are not rich enough to hire PIs. So they can’t get the protection they need.
When it comes to parental child abduction matters, Japanese mothers often make fake Domestic Violence accusations against the fathers to simply justify themselves and separate their children from the father. In such cases, females take advantage of the social issues on their benefit.
In short, stalker issues are complicated, a hazard to the Private Investigations industry in Japan.
Goro Koyama
CEO, Japan PI Inc.
Well you have answer to that - America wants Black and White - Asian Religion Dominates - Japan - govt wants these PROBLEM to remain there - every RULE has PROS and CONS
Truly it cuts both ways and I have to say that I have had my share of experiences since I was in High School, in the job place and as an adult. Obsession is a human thing. Not just male or female.
any male that wants a female located or followed must have his name registered to the police for such a request; and a police record must be initiated before any such location case is taken on.. if the person hiring the PI has any police record; the hiring fee is forfeited and a report from the PI to the police must be done to show the police a pattern of stalking; the client shd b jailed for attempting the PI locating service.
Balancing the rights of the accused and the accuser.
@Shelley Fitch the stalkers identity should be front page news and they shd b publicly shamed and driven out of town.
why do some men think that women are their possessions?
I'm sure your question was rhetorical, but I think it's because women have been considered the property of men since the dawn of civilization. First a girl is the property of her father, then he marries her off and she becomes the property of her husband, and in old age she becomes the property of her son. It wasn't until the late 19th century that this view started to change. We're trying to undo over 5000 years of a tradition in a few generations. The ideology is harder to break in heavily male dominated societies in the east, not just Japan. I hope we can see a change in our lifetime.
Aydin X I hope so. But it is actually happening to some women I know. That is why women are afraid to marry.
Emma Maryam That's really sad to hear =\. But that tells me that those men are not right for your friends. They should be with someone who treats them like a person, rather than a possession. When you fall in love, you aren't afraid of anything, so the fact that they have that fear is upsetting. I hope it's not the same case for you!
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!! I don't know if I'm laughing out of guilt or because you are pointing towards me. Haha. Anyways, from the very start you have explained it well. And it cleared my thoughts somehow. Thanks ;)
Haha, I swear I wasn't calling you out, rather just wishing the best for you :). It's okay and perfectly normal to have doubt about marriage, it's a big step, but it's definitely not ok to be wondering whether or not you will be treated like a person. Depending on where you live though, it might be hard to find a man who doesn't see you property, so I wouldn't blame you if you were in that situation. I'm glad to help!
PS: Don't reply to Payhole Everdouche, you can tell by his name that he's just a troll trying to get you angry. Sad lonely men like him only feel happy when people pay attention to them. So they say things to make people angry and pay attention to them. Just ignore him.
It's actually pretty impressive that there are men who seek out therapy on their own.
Juil people*
That's great! At least they realize their behavior is problematic!
Miki Minach it’s not that, I think it is more that it is so hard to see what you are doing is wrong, not because they are men at all.
Then they shouldn't use the term men in their comment because they are belittling them. If I said it's great people are discovering their heritage it's different than if I say Blacks are getting in touch with their roots
Juil He's not really a rehabilitated christian. he just wants his wife back and he'll do anything, he's a possessive liar
I went to Japan with my family a year ago. And I notice one guy who kept on following us. He looks really young maybe around 18-19 years old. I noticed him following us in Universal Studio. It’s about 4-5 hours that he kept on tailing us. I din’t even told my mom and my older brother about it. What really scared me is when I entered the gents toilet he also entered and while I was washing my hands his just starting I avoid looking at him because I don’t even know how to speak Japanese.. so Japan is number one now when it comes to case of stalking. What I’m trying to say is this don’t just happen to girls..
I'm in awe of the therapist who tries to help the japanese women in the only way she knows. Such a wonderful and brave woman, meeting these dangerous men to convince them to leave them alone.
She shows that women should stand up for each other, each one in her own way and with her own truth. We're not all politicians but small people can make the difference too
I agree
She Also Proves the lack of comunication and care from society to those stalkers, as they can be stoped with words and hearing them.
I grew up in Japan. I was 13 years old when I moved to where I am now.
One major reason for my move was a fellow class mate who made my life very hard to live.
He would stare at me during class through a reflection in the ceiling, show up to my fathers work and ask for me, and take part in many other stalker-like behaviour. When I asked my teachers for help, they just made light of the situation.
I had not heard or thought about him in over 7years, until two week ago; when he tried to add me on Facebook.
Stalking is a big problem in Japan. The authorities normalize stalking, and there are not enough support systems for victims.
i bet u accepted him
Raymond Flores you trash
Raymond Flores that’s messed up man, making a joke of literally people getting murdered over this. One day you will lose a loved one, don’t get upset when people make fun of your situation. You won’t have a right to get mad.
If he shows up in Ferrari you will open your legs for him nd hug him while having his tool inside .
@@Okay60380 ☺Wow a ferrari!
*I had to play body guard to my twin sister for nearly 3 years after she FINALLY left her abusive husband. It sucked and was exhausting but she was finally able to move on with her life, got remarried and had two more children. We’ve just sent her youngest to college!*
oftern a beating from a bigger bully soles the problem.
When the sloppy seconds?
Newton It can go either way. It can make them stop or enrage them and make them more dangerous.
@@chandlerrose4545 When somebody needs someone to protect them then they already got to a stage where things are dangerous.
for Christ's Sake I didn’t claim otherwise.
im sorry, why does the stalker ask that we respect his privacy and hide his identity when he had no respect for the privacy of his ex and daughter, thinking he's entitled to own them or else he might as well kill them if they weren't his property???
As sickening as it is; the reason why the media respects the privacy of stalkers by having their names withheld is to keep the family members and friends of the stalkers from being targeted for vigilante retribution.
I had a really good image of Japan thinking it's one of the safest and smartest countries where even little kids are independent enough to travel alone. I didn't expect this from Japan.
East Asian countries under report all crime for the sake of social harmony, just like Arab and Turkic countries do not report honor killings.
Japan is safe...not for women though.
@@delilah28100 same crime rates happen in the us which is stalking which is not just japan
@@delilah28100 it happens to dudes too, and if you get convicted at all you will be mentally abused by the cops for days on end. You will be forced to confess to your crime and then you will be put in jail.
Same of Korea. But koreaboos will have to get there to realize that the public image is far from reality.
i was once stalked and attacked while living in tokyo. the police did nothing
Jesus that sounds harrowing, especially being a westerner. How did you get out of that situation?
I moved apartments immediately and left a few days later. I was on contract, so the timing worked out, and my employer was very understanding. Its hard to follow up having moved back though
It really sucks that you had to do all that because of a stalker. But thankfully you were able to swiftly remove yourself from the situation, you made a really wise decision. Imagining what could have went down is scary!
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Moonman Why's that? You remind me of a girl by the way.
"the stalker would not have HAD to kill." lmao what. You don't HAVE to kill people, you choose to. Stop deflecting and take responsibility, criminal
The story of Junko Furuta came to mind when I watched this.
this was a shame for Japanese police and I think her parents could have done more about it
the sentences the murderers got were a joke
it was one of the most horrible crime against a human in my understanding, and it went almost un notice and these inhuman monsters got away with it( f--- the yazuka)....what a shame even for the whole world!
I didn't know anything about this case so I googled it. 😳 What exactly is wrong with the Japanese Criminal Code that these sick f**ks didn't get the death penalty? Those 4 men & the rest of the estimated 100 men that raped her are beyond redemption & should have been given the death penalty. Truly, there is no justice. For anyone.
It is absolutely disgusting how lenient the Japanese legal system is towards juveniles. What these monsters did to poor Junko Furuta is appalling and the perpetrators are quite honestly beyond any type of rehabilitation.
Women will never win this
They either report it to the police, get their claims dismissed and eventually get killed by their stalker.
OR
If she harms her stalker due to self defense or even worst kills him, she's immediately thrown to jail.
So then whatafuck!!?
Sadly, even though there are quite stringent stalking laws on the books now in the US, the police are still reluctant to act until the stalker does something to his victim.
Second amendment, dude.
The natural way of things is for individuals to defend themselves. Not call another person and wait for them to come do something.
@Hippity Hoppity rather be judged by 12 than carried by 4
@Hippity Hoppity Wanting to defend yourself is living in La La land?
We have to kill and get away with it. As in, deny you ever saw him / met him. No connection.
Now I understand why Japanese women refuse to marry. I have heard how difficult women have it in such a male biased culture.
Some Japanese men are extremely handsome; Western women find them delectable.
The only thing they find delectable is their wallet, just like any other man.
Maybe for a mind that is as pitiful as yours.
Bronze Gremlin they find money attractive (delectable). Not difficult to understand.
Refuse Resist you don't understand the nuances of english. you must be a non native speaker
I live in Japan. I had this problem with my ex, one of my ex managers, who started calling me at night saying weird things down the phone, and even a guy i went on a date once with...
Lord Wind *weird
I have never been stalked, but I used to receive obscene phone calls from strange men who got their jollies that way. I found the perfect solution: silence. Don''t speak, don't threaten, don''t cry, don''t blow a whistle into the phhone, don't hang up. Just sit there and wait. It's so funny to hear them run down into uncertainty, then "hello? hello" and finally hang up. The same man never called again. That method works for unwanted commercial solicitors too. They get tired hearing themselves talk and hang up.
I’m not surprised at all about this. Suppressed human emotions will always find a way to break out.
i used to love japan as a kid like so much, one day i learned the age of consent there is 13 later i learned about lolis and its just going downhill and downhill and downhill..
SAME. Good food, cool language, Pervy behavior is accepted, pedophelia/lolis, uhh, sexism, um... high number of suicides, hm, cops suck, justice system is crooked, the yakuza, domestic abuse.... yeahhhhh
Sadly true. Every country has its issues. America has guns, Japan has this etc etc.
Then you learn about WW2. atrocious!
Jesus. All countries have perverted subcultures with repulsive behavior and horrible history. Japan has its flaws but please don’t judge an entire nation and assume it’s unpleasant. Regular people here who are the majority are very polite and friendly. Come to Japan then you might change your mind.
Zenith agreed there’s rape and pedophile culture everywhere
So Perfect Blue was more reflective on real life than I actually thought....
I loved perfect blue and saw it as a cross section or microcosm of what life can be like in Japan cheers.
Yeah this doku made me realise that aswell. Several anime and manga seem to tackel this thematic
Ah now i know why this video show in my recommendation, i just seen perfect blue trailer in youtube recently
Perfect blue was really something
it is so upsetting that the police is not taking these stalking cases seriously enough that people are dying while others who are stalked have to resort to paying for their protection...isn't that what a police force is for, to keep citizens safe? What is a poor woman who is being stalked to do, just wait for her stalker to kill her? Shame.
Police in the USA actually have no responsibility to protect you thats a myth, the police' main responsibility is to protect government assets. Think about it like this, You get stabbed and a cop shows up, he doesnt try to save your life he runs after the assailant. I understand we dont want these people on the streets, but shouldnt the first responsibility be to save your life?
I was on the metro in DC and saw a japanese girl being harassed. As I got on the train car I saw that this girl was already crying.
The man would not stop. So I approached the seat and forced him away saying as I pushed him away.... Konichiwa tomodachi!
Genki Desuka? I gave her my elbow and I of course sat on the outside to keep the man away.
The man lost spirit and went away. then we unlocked arms
wow nice dream you had simp
What a lie you Whimp! Now you realize that was just a dream as well!!
@@bigfootswatching9986 Nope really happened. I'm a very big guy and have learned at time of my growth spurt that most people do not mess with big guys so I used that to my advantage. I am sure you wear size 4 shoe anyway.
@@inachu Dream on ......Keep believing it and I'm sure you will believe in your dreams. Lmao....I"m a size 9, unlike your size 5 !!
@@bigfootswatching9986 I am 6'4" tall.
may we raise confident daughters and responsible sons.
Ironic how in manga/anime the majority of yanderes are female yet IRL it's opposite. 🐸☕️
Manga and animes are fake and non realistic.
Yeah.. That's why they put their dreams and fantasies into anime.. :D School girls, yanderes, submissive defenceless girls, list goes on.. Lol Those stalkers need a 2D waifu.. :D
Rebecca Johnson they draw their fantasies, a happier ending and women always being the bigger role
bob burger IK
bob burger that's where it becomes even more ironic, because so many foreigners want to go to japan BECAUSE they believe anime and manga are somehow true to life.
The "Hiro" of this story is a stalker, lol
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Lol! I see what ya did there....
Stalking as well as assaulting women on the trains is such a huge problem in Japan. I wonder what's going to happen to affect real and perminent change.
I experienced stalking on a small and temporary scale but it was terrifying. He stayed in the same block. We met while waiting for the lift and he offered to carry my box, i let him carry it thinking maybe he just being nice. Then he put it on the floor in the lift. Im like wuuut?? I had to pick it up again. Later he found my number and sent me a picture of my car and himself to me over the course of a few days. I literally ran back to my unit after reaching home because i was scared id see him again. Luckily i was friends with the head guard of the condo and told him about it. He knew the guy and threatened him that he will call the police if he doesnt stop. Later on the stalker moved out of the condo.
Thats just awful. You should never have to fear something like this. This is evil. You should be treated with respect and dignity. The same way Christ teaches us to treat our wife. Many people misunderstand biblical teaching but fact is the husband is to lay his life down for his wife. He is to love her the same way Jesus Christ loved His church and sacrificed His life for her. I am very happy to see you are no longer living in fear. God bless you from America.
Was he fat and ugly?
@@bigfootswatching9986 aren’t they all!?..
They've all got a real "If I can't have her, nobody can" type of mentality, don't they?
no, it is like if i cannot have her, then i am going to call bill cosby to do the job
Because it's extremely hard to Date in Japan. It's really expensive to live and you have long hours which makes relationships hard. So losing a relationship is like losing a job and pension. When people lose their long term jobs the go postal. It's the same thing. Only in other countries it's easier to start over. There it really would feel like your life is over. I'm not justifying it. I'm just explaining why it would be worse.
@@whiskerbiscuit6674 Well I dont think so - its just how person Thinks - I had been to Japan they are very good people - I disagree - what you say applies to whole world - All men are same - bit differences are there
And also, "if I'm living miserably, then you're coming down with me as well"
True love is a powerful emotion.
These men seem emotionally stunted.
they might be mentally unstable
@@Will-tc7kz might? you're too kind . they've lost their mind
Along with his height
EMPOWERED WOMEN, EMPOWER WOMEN. Speak up. Come together. Take action.
OMG. DO NOT MEET WITH HIM. DO NOT GIVE HIM ENERGY. GO INTO HIDING. MOVE. GET A DOG. GET PROTECTION. I HATE MEN
I lived in Japan for two years, I loved it there would love to return someday, but the one thing I didnt like was the "for the good of the group" mentality. It seems most of Japan's social ills stem from that.
That's literally why the west has (until recently) been so successful, because we value the individual over the group
@@joesheridan9451 meh both ideologies have their ups and their downs.
Oscar A Exactly, it shouldn’t be extreme but somewhat in the middle of those two mentalities
Giulia B Thats Europe !
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I have had stalker problems also.. but I never turned to police nor authorities. My step-father is a cop and most of my family is retired military. I was raised to be fiercely independent and dealt with a lot of abuse growing up after my parents divorced and my mother started dating another man. Because of this & my desire to break out of my own chains of fear and doubt, I began studying self-defense and even used my anger at being betrayed & hurt by those I had loved most to fuel my fighting instinct. Now, stalkers and violence no longer have any power over me. In fact, many violent men and bullies avoid me. What I have learned is that being afraid of them gives them power over you. In learning self-defense, cultivating a fighting spirit, & now studying Wing Chun Kung Fu.. I have managed to cultivate a warrior's spirit within me that seems to mitigate the same terrifying scenerios I once ran & hid from. I feel that if more women were to cultivate within them a warrior's spirit and learn to defend themselves, such over-bearing men would have less power over them. I am not stating this to say we should meet violence with more violence.. but if one's life is on the line I feel it is better to know how to fight and defend oneself than to simply depend on others to protect you. I am sorry to hear that this is becoming an increasing problem in Japan and it pains me to know that many people have died as a result of this.. I truly hope that an answer can be found. Empower the victims. Rehabilitate the perpetrators. No one is below anyone else.. We are all equals. It is wrong to believe that one "owns" another.. and I am certain that there are male victims of stalking as well- I wish I had the power to solve all the world's problems.... but alas... I only know what works for me. 😢
I am of the same mindset. All women should be able to defend themselves, full stop.
The whole society needs to change in order for this to stop. I saw a video on how they victim blame women if they are molested. Another on how no one stops obvious "chikan" (men who try to molest and sexually harassed girls on trains) who pray on girls on trains. The society needs to learn to respect women including the women who don't seem to know their worth. They have a long way to go.
Abusive and corrupt people of all stripes will ALWAYS try to turn the blame around onto the victim.
This comment shows just how entitled you are in believing that your society is morally superior to that of ours just because some things don't align. Not only are you arrogant enough to simply resort to a straw man argument and base your beliefs off of a few videos, you go ahead and willfully say "they have a long way to go". Have you not seen all the actions the government in Japan is taking to fight against this way of thinking? Have you not seen the lengths community leaders in Japan are going to just to promote the status of women in Japan? Not to mention all the changes big companies are making to their employment processes so that more women can have options in life. The new generations are bringing in a fresh mentality and are eager to change this way of thinking, yet you dismiss our efforts and stand on a moral high ground that clearly has no real basis. Shame on you.
@Happy
Let's hear some facts from you. Show me anything in their constitution, standard education program (as designed by the Ministry of Education), or company laws that show how "their whole system is built to protect men and oppress woman". Give me documents or links to them. I can promise you that you will find none. The problem with the Japanese society is not its system, but the patriarchal culture. Fortunately, it's changing. Your failure to see past what is posted on TH-cam seriously disgusts me. Racist.
Not likely, a top official there said seeing two men kiss is more distressing than a woman being molested on a train. That's the society we're dealing with.
@@ShammehoOohoOo Exactly and well said Samuel. I'd choose to live with these issues over mass shootings from the US any day. I've been in Japan 19 years, talked to many people, met many people and still haven't come across anyone with this issue or guys with mommy issues. It happens...just like any other country. There are stalkers everywhere in the world and I'd wager there are just as many or more in the US.
So sad. Especially since the media makes us believe that Japan has a low crime rate..
FS Japan does have a low crime rate even with all the unofficial reports it's still deemed as one of the safest countries in the world even with the large amount of people that live there especially compared to other countries
FS
From what gets reported it is relatively low. But compared to other countries it is safer. I would still be cautious. Every country has their problem. No country is 100% safe.
The crime rate is low but the guilty verdict is high (if you get accused of anything you're screwed). It's out of fear rather than feeling safe.
Yes, sadly those stats are deceiving. For instance women rarely report sexual assaults. Most of them time, just like in the US, the detectives would be men. The victims would have to be willing to identify the suspect and describe the crime in detail to a man shortly after the incident which can be very difficult for the victim.
Low crime rate but 1 of 3 women experience domestic abuse? I don’t consider that anywhere near safe. Maybe if you were a man?
The fact that that man isn't even in jail 😵
My personal opinion is that stalking is like rape... it’s about power and control. Stalkers are cowards.
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Definitively not like rape, but Indeed psycological violent. And one step before rape ir murder.
I had a few stalker in my life time. I mostly show them no fear and told them straight out I'm not interested. Usually they try to get my attention but I mostly ignored them or told them I'm busy. I show them no fears and just mostly ignored them. No emotions, no aggression. Just straight out ignored them until they are bored. I walked pass them, and go on with my daily life and they get bored and the move on.
What I notice stalker harass you if you are angry or scared. They feed off of your emotion and fears. They want your attention they want to control you in someway. If you go into hiding and get scared they control you.
Even a couple of time some stranger was stalking me in a store I circled around just to make sure if he was following me. He was so I turned around and stare him straight into his eyes and and ran away.
These predator feed on fears. And if they know you are scared they will stalk you.
CrimsonEclipse wtf 3 !?? You live in india or what ? 😨
Yes stalkers are cowards.
You ar wise I like your strategy
After watching this and the show Obsession: My Dark Desires Ive learned three things...
1) The Police are useless
2) No one ever believes the victim
3) the identity or feelings of the Stalker are always protected.
SMH 🙄
1) Having no laws against or ways to prevent stalking or any crime, doesnt mean that the police or the system its useless. (In Japan I think its illegal to have a taser or mace with you.)
3) The identity of a perpetrator is protected because people might look into the family, relatives or friends of that person and retaliate in a vigilante manner. Also, to protect people with the same name, in asian countries is quite normal.
Your 2nd point, I just dont get it. "Believe", is such a strong word when it comes to judge a situation that could change a party's life. Just to put an example, insurance fraud is a pretty common thing in asia. According to your point, every person that claims that they are the victim of an accident or they demand benefits because they were negatively affected by something at work or while being in a hospital; ALL these claims/victims should be 'rewarded' with justice,money or the accused get years of jail for something they didnt do? Do you see how counterproductive that statement is?
Tezca Franco I understand what you are saying regarding insurance but what evidence do you recommend getting to be believed. If ladies are turning in voice messages, emails, witnesses, photos, etc, what are they missing?
Yeah nobody believes the victim until they're dead or injured. Then they're like "Oh no if only we could have helped her! We should have done more!" Then the next victim comes along and they're like "Okay but he just cares about you tho."
I dont know how you missed the most important part: Women are treated as second class citizens.
@@Evettecord why dont women ask questions before getting into relationship ? - why do women make wrong choices - than they divorce - I agree most of the MAN are WRONG - but what the MAN who really LOVED but is betrayed ??? so Man who are betrayed - have these choices - Man should Forget - Man should forgive - Man should find some other partner - but some STALK - thats wrong
My heart bleeds for Hiroyuki whose sister was murdered I feel so bad for him , you can see the pain in his eyes
The documentary points fingers at the police, the lack of counselors/therapists, or the lack of public awareness but please don't let that distract you from the real problem. Although I think those things can help, it is not the source of the problem. This occurs on a deeper socio-cultural level whereby men feel they are 'entitled to own women'. If boys were taught that from a young age, they will grow up looking at women as pure objects. Men need to be more egalitarian, and women need to be more assertive.
I know this is very unusual, but I was stalked too, not by a man, but by my own family. It was terrifying and infuriating. You just don't know what they are capable of doing by posing as your family to the public. But my family truly believed that they 'owned' me, and that's a longheld mentality within the Asian culture.
Until we start reforming ourselves and show better examples to our youth, this problem won't go away.
Your culture sounds terrible in this aspect. I am sorry.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. And men feeling entitled to women is such a widespread international issue and I 100% agree we need to be more assertive.
You probably did something
@@lassejrgen3196 And you're probably a stalker.
Be Strong... Pray... Only God can change the heart...
sexual health and consent education issue? teach them from young (jr high~high school and college/university) it's wrong and there will be less, most likely.
Shimakaze Tennyo and also teach ways for people to be safe like when they're out clubbing like always watch ur drinks. And what behaviors to watch out for and like what to do if u think ur being followed or in a dangerous situation
+Jenis Darling Women don't need even more people telling them how it's their fault if they're attacked, genius. Consent education is proven to lower sexual assault in areas where it's implemented. Guys don't want to be treated like animals then they need to take responsibility for their own actions.
i wouldn't say it doesn't matter, cause it does, and so does defending yourself... both matter to bring down the amount/percentage of people who feel entitled to some one else and can't be cordial after rejection... of course there will still be a few but if the gov and police are on board to actually punish ppl doing it and schools enforced that the behaviour is bad and will get you a record and jail time i think more would opt not to do it. while knowing/ seeing behaviours will help you report it like some of the stories the police didn't help after the men were reported. after that what else is there to do?
...on a side note (i feel) their idol culture doesn't help, as well, where the same kind of mentality seems to be perpetuated (with fans).
Okay so we should just ignore the murders happening cause its a first world country, go back to the r/incels pls
This isn't a women-only course though, it teaches women and men to avoid abuse and to avoid being abusers and its the most correct way, so instead of ruining the name of feminism find somewhere else to hide Nothing is here
"1/3 of Japanese women are victims of domestic violence." I had no idea the situation is so bad! Japanese people always look so calm and restricted and polite, but inside the walls it is different then.
That seems in line with the nature of humanity/society. The citizens of lawless societies tend to incur a lot of abuse, but so do those of societies with tons of restrictions or unwritten social rules (fundamentalist religious societies and/or cults, eg)
@@metadownhour3045 true many catholics are democrats and in america have the highest crime rates
SuperEohippus Japanese men will, for the most part, fear messing with foreign women because we know our rights and will stand our ground whereas Japanese women are not really vocal, from what I have witnessed so far.
Raymond Flores Check you facts. Catholics that are republican and those who are democrat are almost evenly split which is around 50% democratic and 49% republican.
They just act like that so they will give you a good impression, but what they really think inside of their heads is way different.
Hiro has stalked his ex, got back with her, fought her, separated again, found god, received therapy and then tried to fix his relationship again all while wearing the same shirt..
I'm astonished by how brave that counsellor is meeting and talking with stalkers having been stalked herself. I was stalked by my first ex, and I definitely wouldn't want to be in the same room as a known stalker again. Hats off to her for doing what the police are too patriarchal to do!
The people who decide to hire bodyguards/ investigative people like the Police Old Boys are really wise. It's sad that common civilians now need extra protection, too.
+Liuhuayue well women in europe do not feel that police helps them anymore too... and there is no such agency sadly.
Hi4069 I will give you a goal to make you stronger, hammer a nail on a piece of wood with only using your hand pal.
I saw it on TH-cam crazy but funny stuff
This reminds me a few years back, I read about a woman reporting that she was stalked and in the process a police officer sniffed her underwear in her home while taking a statement.
What?!?? Seriously?!?
Do you not love it when rich celebrities claim that, "There is NO crime in Japan." ?
These stalkers are cowards ! “I cannot get over my heart break so I killed two people “ . Crazy mindsets .
japan has a communication problem, they teach the kid to get good grades and get a good job but not how to socialize and communicate and that is one of the problem. and the kids live what they learn !
Same in America.. look at all the dysfunctional families
not in Japan but east Asia in general
I think Japanese girls are raised to be nice, sweet, and polite. Never wanting to hurt someone's feelings....which makes them easy targets for these psychopaths
They stalk foreign women also. I've heard horror stories.
This happens because masculinity is pushed further and further into the shadows, which inevitably produces a dangerous kind of masculinity, and strength being projected in the wrong context (for both men and women) instead of having a strong mental and emotional capacity that is built on good morals and self-control, coupled up with the effects of modern technology where people lose social skills continuously drastically, as entertainment/social media keeps providing more and more forms of unnatural beauty and unnatural sexual fantasies.
Yea they can be easily manipulated bcs of their naive personalities but that isn't the true reason. It's simply because some men cannot tolerate rejection. A strong and outspoken women can also be stalked and killed.
@Tidder T as an american who travels nope
@Tidder T yommoma
When someone stalks you, don't just make a police report and expect the police to protect you 24/7. You'll need to be a stalker yourself. Yes, stalk the police. Keep bugging them. See him near your home, call and report. See him at work, train station, restaurant, anywhere, call and report it. Coz everytime you report, they'll hv to respond
Thank you for making this documentary
This is so incredibly sad. It's depressing to see women so vulnerable and oppressed as second-class objects, when they are just as capable and respectable as any person. Hopefully Japan will succeed in providing more security and peace of mind for these women and girls, and teach boys that females are not possessions! One can see the trauma and sadness this mentality brings.
Little Talks This documentary is a bit misleading. I live in Tokyo and Japan overall is very safe for women. At night I see women and even school girls cycling around on their own. Japan is a very safe country for women, especially in comparison to western nations. They do have other gender issues - it is still a male chauvinistic society. Japanese men generally prefer submissive women. It is one reason why white men are very popular with Japanese women - we are from places where confident women (and female empowerment) is far more prevalent.
Little Talks It's the same in the west.
Little Talks teach boys? Are you serious? I think most boys already know that.
Thank god i'm a lesbian. I feel sorry for you straight girls
Carol Silveira domestic abuse in lesbian relationships is on average higher than it is in heterosexual couples.
Like seriously my friends and family, even my boss actually blame me! Saying stuff like oh well you shouldn't have put that on the Internet. Well how was I supposed to know that I was going to get a stocker whenever I posted that!?? Or they told me well you should just get off the Internet for a while.... Our world is nothing but technology and the Internet! Everything revolves around the Internet! So to tell me to get off the Internet is ridiculous. On top of that it's been over a year, am I suppose to stay off the Internet until this is over??? Who's to say that it will ever end? So somehow it's my fault, even though I have done nothing wrong. Even though this person is constantly harassing me, somehow it's my fault.
Sakura Senpai Are you okay?
Sakura Senpai where do you live?
It's not your fault. Nobody is entitled to your attention, time, or love.
I haven't been on social media since 2013 and I'm still alive
Lonely Elk TH-cam is a social Media :)
This is very very insightful. Thank you for this.
I still don't get why so many ppl are in love with Japan and get totally fanatical when it goes to criticizing Japan. What's wrong with u guys?
Huh???
Mister Popoff ....I know right? I still believe we let Japan off easy after Pearl Harbor....in my not-so-humble opinion, we should've wiped that country clean and colonized it....
LiberalsAreWorthless Well the US granted political immunity for Japanese war crimes (Unit 731).
I love Japan but it's not free of its own problems.
A female acquaintance used to say "If a man loves you, he will be jealous" I think that's an early red flag. No One is property of their couple, parent or relative.
being jealous doesnt make your partner into your property. but how you act in expressing your jealousy does.
so you want your man does not love you? so wth you call him your man then? 😂
jealousy is insecurity and if u need to get ur man jealous dont ask why he cheats
A bit of jealousy is okay, too much that it threatens your freedom is not.
Definitely red flag. Somebody who is secure in a relationship/themselves and is mentally stable should not be jealous. Could turn out to be a narcissistic control freak. Of course if your partner is overtly flirting with somebody else, that's entirely different.
Sounds like there need to be places that teach on emotional self control. Maybe it should be part of the criteria. What makes someone think that threats will make someone love you? It's sick.
They don't want love, they want control. How about they teach men that women are people.
Siobhan, yeah lets teach them not to rape while we are at it. I think men know women are people.
Its japan social conformity is necessary. They are emotionally repressed and the shame of a divorce is pretty bad. In the west its bad as well but its seen as things that “just happen” in just japan things dont “just happen” someone forgot they were a cog by showing people like ur spouse can go off on their own
People are not born evil; they are made
Theyre not looking for love, thats your mistake.
Honestly, I used to stalk my wife. Sure enough she did cheat and she was so mad at me, why I did not stop her cheating...also at the same time complained about stalking.
I finally listen to stop stalking at her and now she is my ex-wife because I divorce her.
It's good you recognized your behavior. Hopefully for the better!
@@jenniferbell2829 Recognizing behavior it's not enough!
It's all start from something that triggered those Japanese man and also Andy.
What is for the better?
It has to be for both side Husband and wife!
Both of them has to understand what their sign up for once they got married. Playing around with other man and twisting word just to save their own right is not for the better 😜 if you understand what that means.
Anyway people have choice to do Better life with better action to start with without triggered their spouse is better thought to keep their marriage.
Both have to work together for the better! 🙂
@@adolphweber9005 very true
I was recognizing him for realizing what he was doing was wrong and stopping
@@jenniferbell2829 In my personal opinion, nobody's wrong. For man or woman who chose freedom over marriage, then this stalking and jealousy become their biggest enemies, because marriage become number 20 or something over their own self love.
If Andy did not stalk his wife, their marriage become fake and full of game that run by his wife freedom...she better live by herself or marriage other man who also love freedom, cheating or switching partner. There are many man like that, but....based on Andy's story, I don't think she can handle her jealousy if Andy did seeking other woman 😅.
I am glad my wife stalk and jealous at me for I knew that she love me very much. She found out her ex-husband sleeping with other man stalking and took their pictures from distance 😊 otherwise she'll be screwed over and over.
She love me and my 3 kids and keeping us in check, always have good food at home, clean house, good education for my three kids and everything. She deserve better man like me.
So, I am not agree and disagree about what Andy's did and also Japanese man.
It is amazing how human have power of choice, "But" sadly...many people abuse it for their own sake without thinking about other feeling.
I can see why many Japanese man find peace living with Doll woman. 😊
Thanks for sharing
Hiro is still a stalker. He still hangs on to the hope that his wife will return. He will never stop if he continues obsessing over her.
not really a stalker if he doesn't go after her
If he is not actively going after her then he's not a stalker, but there is nothing wrong with him hoping that one day they could get back together as long as he does not act on it
"Some *thing* I *owned* "
Made me spit out my water. This ownership thing with our species is just no.
thing l, yes
@Trip Gil both are horrible imo. You shouldn't own other human beings that's weird and abusing them especially.
@@lalboimanlun1230 have you met most women though?
@Trip Gil I said my opinion. I'm not telling you to do anything I'm not your mother. If you choose to do that I really don't care.
@Trip Gil ok hombre.
Nobody:
Japan: "oh boy, here i go being creepy again"
Despite being one of the most advanced nations on Earth, Japanese culture is very patriarchal...
@All About Power they are advanced, it cant be denied
The Akiko woman is brilliant. What a beautiful, smart, strong & kind person 💕
You smarter than her believe in your self
Yeah much respect for all the women in this video, it’s really inspiring how they’re working to fix the problem
I don't think that Hiro guy is near to graduate. He still thinks his wife is going to have him back, he's calm because of that. What if she's still afraid and say no? He'd get mad again ...
mte
Japan has never stepped out of the feudal era.
Is stalking part of Japan's feudal era?
Lord Privateer 16:41 yup
Totally right. Same goes with feudal justice system remaining in Japan.
USA did not ask them to change their rules at all after WWII hence the situation.
Very troubling!😢
I don't understand why some men think that women are their possessions and not humans. I have never viewed another person as something to own or control. Could someone explain what leads to this belief? Women are just people too just like guys, we're not that different...
Lilja Grönrus being a man myself I understand why men are possesive.Its our ego. And mostly because we hate to see our girl being with other guy. Even if that guy is her own friend. We also viewed girls/women as a people just like us. It is just that sometimes I think, without a sense of 'owning' that woman we wouldnt even mind being cuckolded. And we (possessive men) also hate being cheated on. Some of us would rather killed the woman we loved so much than seeing her being with someone else.
MyBikeKnowsNoSpeedLimit s THEN men need to put their ego down because women live to live not to be a property
MyBikeKnowsNoSpeedLimit s Do you personally see that mindset as acceptable? Could women live freely as people not property? Is there a deeper issue in mens psychy such as low/excessive self-esteem? Childhood issues? Poor education in self control or respect bewteen genders? Do you as a man see this as something to be fixed? What would you think if this abuse happened to you by both male and female? Would you dislike this happening to your loved ones? Does this action matter more if it happens to you or yours?
MyBikeKnowsNoSpeedLimit s Thank you for your honest point of view by the way.
Most women detest being cheated on, too. It's about dishonesty, not ownership. I sure wouldn't like it if my boyfriend slept with another woman but I sure don't feel a sense of ownership over him. So no, you don't 'need' a sense of ownership over another human being in order to appreciate and value the covenant of a monogamous relationship. If what you say is true and there are loads of men out there like that, then what women need is a much better set of lessons in how to avoid these men like the plague. Because you cannot simultaneously love someone and feel ownership over them.
Stalking is a global problem.
otty True
of course, but it's really prominent in Japan
I know it's a problem everywhere, but it looks like the problem has become an epidemic in Japan.
black girls dont have to worry about stalkers tho
Moonman are you a black girl?
Yukumi, you're a freaking badass! *Goes to police, goes to court and says f all of you, goes to press. *
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Jesus most people are alright 😅
Most people are fine dude relax
Hiro's wife left him because he always wears the same shirt.
true
Calvin 😂
So you choose to make fun of the seriousness of this?? That's not ok..it would be different if God forbid one of your female family members were stalked and killed. Let's hope that never happens.
I've been stalked and assaulted - no one helped, so I had to unleash my fear and and learn to toughen up. The last time I was stalked, I walked right across the street directly towards him - I was mad and mean, and he never bothered me again. I helped a friend the same way - she was so innocent and didn't even know how much danger her young daughter was in - I literally came in between them and scared him away. Problem gone.
Sounds like stalkers share bully characteristics. Fighting back is a must.
Mam I salute you - I respect you - I am with you - Great - you dont need any MEDALs or Cerificate if you did that - you are Great - May God Bless you with Strength
Yeah its like their power is that the victim they are stalking is afraid of him that fuels his stalking, until the end he/she does his move. They are real cowards mostly, but the power knowing that his victims are afraid of him is the key to break the trend in "Most" cases.
Bring peppers spray or take an ants with you keep a colonies of ants if any stalkers approaching throw to him see what happened that my father told us what to do
No,its not. Be careful
To the Japanese police, as long as they can convict the stalker after he assaults or kills, they can keep that high conviction rate, the conviction rate is all that matters
It's mostly written off as an accident or natural causes.
has it gotten better in 6 years?