Should Women Wait To Have Sex? | Don't Have Sex Easy! | Be A Prude
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- Don't Have Sex Tonight, Missy!
How valuable are you? How valuable is sex? Would you be as willing to let a stranger access your bank account (if they were handsome, rich, clean, willing) as your body?
Maybe it's time to re-think our values and #beaprude
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Let me put it this way. When I was a younger man I was 6'2" 200lbs of strapping Alaskan crab fisherman with a fat wallet and a very nice truck. I had no problem getting with woman to sleep with me. I never married any of those easy women.
The woman I married when I was 27, made me wait almost a year.
She was a virtuous woman with morals and made a great mother to my children.
We are still married. 🤠
@Michael Dinneweth He didn't put his body count, but that being said, for men that's fine. I realize that's a double standard, but life is full of those and men get to have them too. It is what it is. Besides men are wired to literally have tons of children and spread our genes, and we'll always jump at the opportunity if the chick is hot enough. Men's value is based on what we can do for others to support them financially, women's value is based on chastity and fertility.
A woman making you wait doesn't mean anything. They are sneaky. My thing is if a woman is not a virgin the whole wait thing is a scam. Luckily you found good in this situation.
Exactly! Every male wants to drive Every Vehicle but when it comes down to Buying, WE want 1 with ZERO miles on it. I've told teenagers at Church this and their parents Freak out but By Me being the Pastor 89% actually think about what I've said and Ultimately say I WISH someone would have Told me the Truth when I was a Teenager.
@@louisnash4363 W h o r e s stay running from the truth. They also ignore the fact that in the bible it says (I'm paraphrasing but it's in there but I forgot where) that a good wife will be with a man even if he has nothing financially or something like that.
Honor and respect to "They that go down to the sea in ships, and occupy their business in great waters;"
As a married father of 3 (2 girls) I love your content. This is great for young woman. Thanks for spreading great info across the board.
*women
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I am trying to send the same message to my daughter who has been in about a dozen relationships, but it always ends up in just sex. I keep telling her to screen the men better and test their commitment to her by telling them to wait. She doesn't listen to me and ends up heart broken. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.
@@cdsersd2d she'll learn eventually, there are just things we really have to experience for ourselves. I get that you want to help and protect her, I wish I had parents who would think about advising me like this
@@imwatching2960 - Thanks for the encouragement!
Well said in terms of "stack bad decisions on top of each other, until it's hard to know where it started." As a therapist I can affirm that.
Sorry Ms. Moleski. If a father wasn't in someones life, it is more likely it was moms decision, than dads.
Right on Some Guy!
@Youb Cbr some women look for a bad boy to straightening him up for god knows what reason, and when shit floats they start to treat every men like they are all bad... Even they own sons in some cases... "You are just like your father" and who's fault is that?
Do you know how babies are conceived right?
@Dalmaen did you come to these conclusions on your own?
@@princesspoppy6983 you do know that women initiate 80% of divorces right?
It's sad that good advice like this is typically ignored.
Lots of dudes trying to think for women. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
It is sad that men like us watch those videos to educate ourselves, but girls don't watch them, although it is a guideline and advice for girls. I really don't understand that they still don't want to act this way and ignore such useful advice when the consequences of easy s** and giving it up easy should be clear until now. :) They don't give a damn in their younger years and when they finally want to settle down, they wonder why no decent or high value man wants to marry such a promiscous girl, or they just try to hide their past behaviour and lie about the body count since they know no man would accept her. :)
@Youb Cbr if you look a woman in the eye and it shakes you up a bit. She’s been through things you don’t need to worry about and are out of your power to handle. Amen to that G
“The eyes never lie Chico”
@James Baker Yes, they wonder why good guys don't commit after they wasted their best years with partying, being "free and independent", wh**ing around and ride the CC with bad boys douchebags, who only used her for quick s**. I don't understand why women can't think longterm and logically. They can see enough women who did those mistakes in their past and still they insist to do the same mistakes too and later in life, they wonder why their behaviour have consequences and they can't find a good man. Maybe it is because no decent man who is looking for a serious relationship and a wife wants a used up woman, who lost her best years and gave s** away to random men, and then as loving and caring boyfriend, you get the same thing, that others got for free...oh wait, all those bad boys got her best years, and you get a 30 year old single mother with a body count of 20... Sounds like a good deal for me!
@@Kampfhamster1992 I watch female videos just to hear what they're going to say and know there isn't going to be anything beneficial. None of their videos are beneficial to men. You are going to find females on channels talking about gold digging and entrapment and where high earning men gather.
ALL MEN, want a woman with a good past. ALL WOMAN, want a man with a good future.
I disagree. Some men know a lost cause when they see one.
@Latisha Queen I DON'T want to be with someone who's had a lot of Partners. Better to just avoid the opposite sex at this point.
@Latisha Queen many women do not want a man who have been with multiple women
That's not a good definition of "experience "
A man who is experienced in life in general is desirable by a lot of women, but sexual experience isn't exactly the priority
@Latisha Queen I agree with some of what you're saying, it's a tricky balancing act knowing when it's too many partners for a man. If you think about it , how is he really going to learn if the position of every woman he's been with is the same; that he's supposed to already know how to please a woman.
@Latisha Queen a grown one, at that
Women have literally been brainwashed by society that it's "sexy" to have slept with many men and have a high body count! It's actually not the case at all! Any high value man with any common sense is looking for the opposite and can spot the difference! Also giving it up easy to a man shows him how easy and low value they actually are! Loving your videos Jen! 🙌🏻
I don't think they're told, let alone believe, that it's "sexy" to sleep with lots of men. They're simply told, and believe, that, if men can sleep around -- which most men don't and only a small percentage at the top do -- , then women should be able to as well -- despite the fact that men and women value different things in their partners. Women don't find men that sleep around a lot as less attractive -- in fact, some find them more attractive -- but men find women less attractive when they sleep around a lot. These women think it's "hypocritical", despite it being reality, and act like it's not and just shame men for wanting what they want in order to get them to want what women want them to want.
Agreed!
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Actually men expect their wives to have the ability to keep it in their pants. A loose woman before marriage is going to stay loose after it. If a girl is a virgin at marraige, that shows the girl has good self control. I know its difficult to abstain but that is what men value in women. So please practice more self control around men. I am a man and i am telling you how men think. They may enjoy a loose women but they will cuss her the moment they get out of the room and will never want to make a family with her.
Now sex has an ultimate purpose it is meant to create a family. Men control that decision. Amd i will personally choose a virgin girl over a loose girl any days thats how men are
So let me ask, if I could, what things do you think could help change this? Faith seems to be the healthiest to me, but of course pop culture denigrates that as well. Do you see anything else pushing against this growing trend?
Careful out there gents , overheard a woman I was dating explaining to her friend that the reason she didn’t immediately invite her for a 3way was that she really liked me and didn’t want to scare me off. They will try to act less promiscuous if they think your a keeper.
@velveteyes79 😆🤣
I would've. And then I would've dumped her for making me wait because she liked me.
The hypocrisy...the dishonesty...you get what you give, right?
Good advice to the teenagers who still have relatively low numbers. However, for the women who been jumping around from bed to bed for 15 to 20 years and lost count of the number of men they were with, nothing is no more insulting to a man who is a potential lifelong suitor than a woman who now is aging and all done with her fun with the bad boys and now "wants to settle with a good man". If she is asking a man to give her more than any other guy has given her before, then she better be giving him more than she ever has gave before.
Any number they give you, multiply it by 3.
This.
Even Jesus forgave the prostitute...but she literally had to barge into someone else's home and then begged Him for forgiveness, while washing His feet.
Gotta come correct, even if you're claiming to have been born again. The spirit can forgive, but the body WILL NOT forget.
@@JeffCaplan313 yup, I’m in my 40s now. I see a woman my age who lived that lifestyle, probably smoking, drinking, a couple bratty kids in tow, overweight and broke. I’m not mad at them, they made some poor choices and are now paying for it. That certainly does not obligate me to play captain save a _____
@@JeffCaplan313 Luke 14:26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple." - Jesus
Luke 12:51 "Do you suppose that I came to give peace on earth? I tell you, not at all, but rather division." - Jesus
Jesus was a sick individual.
@@DR--- 💯 He was the sickest. 🤘 ❤️
Are you someone who believes they can heal a sick woman or sick world? Do you believe you can "heal" yourself, if you came out of a sick world?
How did He do it? Or how did He claim to do it? With respect to just how sick the world can be, while showing it the love it desires, nonetheless. Did 'G-d' set him apart or did He set himself apart, a bit like Humpty Dumpty? 🤪 ✌️
You’re battling Hollywood/social media/the education system/big media with this one. Sadly, I think it’s a losing battle. Standards are basically gone.
to be fair, the education system doesnt tell you or guide you toward being a whore, but media and hollywood do
She's not battleing anything. Abstinence has been the status quo for decades. Especially in the 90s. It's just now people are starting to think for themselves.
@@BOZ_11 The media and hollywood dont do that either. That's why most movie relationships are 1 guy and 1 women falling in love. Not them hooking up.
@@BOZ_11 Let's tweak that a bit; the education system omits any and all responsibility for guiding you down the straight and narrow under the cancerous guise of leftist relativism.
@@paulbradford6475 i dont think the education system gives dating or relationship advice. dunno what school you went to
Thank you so much for putting this type of content out there! I was never taught why modesty and abstinence was important and I made a lot of bad decisions in my early 20’s. Casual sex was always championed in my friend group from college and I think it’s sad that it’s become the norm in our culture. It’s sad that women welcome it.
"A key that opens any lock is invaluable" (charisma, sex appeal, power)
"A lock that opens for any key is valueless" (weak, feckless, vulnerable)
It's that simple. Men SHOULD have to "work for it". Women should demand they do so. Why?
Men earning something makes it FAR more valuable to them. Do you want to be valued by a man?
Then make him earn it. Be unbreakable, unlockable and invaluable. Why do men want this from a woman? Because the woman will be responsible for a man's most PRECIOUS possessions. Our heart and our children and (eventually) our trust.
A weak lock will not HOLD and therefore has no value.
Nice comment. And the reason it's all so important?
Sexual energy is EVERYTHING!!!!
Well its not that working more for it makes it more valuable. Women have an intrinsic value and so do men. A virgin woman no matter what you say is far more valuable in the eyes of men than a woman who has been with other men.
Men define whats valuable in woman and women define whats valauable in men and men value women who have slept with no man other than them.
In a world where men and women both compete for best partners it is foolish for a woman to lower her value in comparison to other women just for a few minutes of fun.
@@naveedinamullah6850 Maybe it is so in the cultural environment you live in, but I think virginity is overrated. I'd prefer a woman had some (proper) relationships before, so she knows what's good and what's even better. I want a woman to want me because she prefers what I offer and not because she doesn't know anything else.
Excellent!!! When something comes too easily, it tends to be valued less.
The issue both men and women have today is that all media espouses the virtue
of being promiscuous. Unfortunately, when sex becomes too easy, it
looses it's value. For both men and women to wait till they meet someone
who is actually interested in a lasting relationship is smart. It also
eliminates the issues of both single parenthood and abortion.
Any moron can have sex. It takes a smart quality person to say 'no'
until they meet the right person who will take on the
responsibility of the consequences of sex (meaning the possibility of
a pregnancy.)
Some of us are born lucky in that we just can not do the
one night fling thing. But all too many are not so.
@@poetsrear I guess, but I find that it is better to grow together with
your partner. If I wanted experience in a woman, I'd pay a professional.
Most of the fun in a marriage is experimenting and learning
from each other from being a novice to having her
in 6" Pleaser stilettos swinging around a pole.
There is so much more to any relationship then just sex.
And this grows increasingly important as you get older. Believe me, you
do not maintain that libido forever. There has to be more then just
good sex. Men and Women learn quickly what each other's needs,
likes and dislikes are. In a good relationship, they learn how to
please each other over time.
Sound advice. Young women naturally understood this for eons. But then came birth control and abortion and the game changed forever. I don't see a reversal in the foreseeable future.
I agree with Jen, but no women didn’t understand this. They were controlled. They were looked at as less than than a man who did the same.
All women know this they make the choice to be rebellious. Even the first women was rebellious and didn't even slept with their husbands first.
It is absolutely men who benefit from telling women how strong and independent they are if they sleep around. Because that increases that man's chances of that woman or another woman sleeping with him.
Specifically, it's low quality men who benefit. And being involved with low quality men makes a woman less appealing to higher quality men.
@@michaelblacktree Not really, because of hypergamy. Women generally chase the same top 20% of guys, so this just gives the top guys more cat.
well said 👍
@Dalmaen We can only control the actions of one person, and even that is in question LOL
How a woman presents herself such as the way she acts, dresses, or who she associates with, etc. can really set the stage as to how people see her and the kind of guys she'll attract. If you're looking for a respectable guy it's probably wise to be a respectable woman.
"How a woman presents herself such as the way she acts, dresses, or who she associates with, ect. can really set the stage as to how people see her and the kind of guys she'll attract" --> Many girls don't understand that. As example, I know girls who expose almost their whole body in instagram, pose in bikinis and show their as* directly into the camera for the picture and still wonder why she only attract fuc*boys and players who only want s** from them, and no decent man for relationship. I mean how can they be so delusional, it is like they willingly pose naked in front of a man and complain that they don't look in her eyes in the first moment. :/
@@Kampfhamster1992 really?? 😂
Respectable men are boring and respectable women are rare
@@tylerrolandmorris what that even means?
Works both ways. Do you shut down your guy friends who are always talking about scoring with chicks?
My wife is a wedding planner in L.A. and believe it or not, there are people out there that still value chastity. She's married several couples, who both the male and female were virgins, saving themselves for marriage. Now before ya'll say "losers", the men who do this tend to be highly goal and career driven. One couple, guy was only 26, making over 250k a year, owned his own home, drove nice cars, and a rather good looking guy. The girl was smoking hot, but highly valued herself in every way.
High body count for either malr.or females is a bad sign. Todays western culture promotes promescuity and the resulg is a whole range of problems in society.
@Latisha Queen Not every person out there is guided by primal instincts and bodily urges. Culture, traditions and religion play a role in a persons self value. Believe it or not, there are men women who don't feel they are in a race to give themselves to evey person for whom they have an urge.
Yeah, I know, seems odd in western culture. But I know of such people and they are not the prudes our culture stereotypes them to be.
With choice comes consequence. Don't expect quality men to waste their resources on women with a body count north of Fallujah.
So what you like George is a woman that hasn't had a lot of experience so she won't be able to tell how terrible a lover you are thus not hurting your feelings or damaging your ego. I'm guessing you also think that a woman who you find attractive will necessarily be good at sex because of said attraction.
@@shamrockbaby Methinks you're projecting. One of the great things about being intimate is finding out what really turns the other person on. I doubt you have much experience with that.
@@georgeblair3894
You're right! I've been married for 22 years and have learned nothing about intimacy! I think you would fit right in in the Handmaids Tale
@@shamrockbaby Keep projecting
No sex before marriage.
Good job Mary I am proud of you! I hope others tell you that as well.
@@travis6694 Thank you, Travis! I appreciate you taking the time to tell me that.
I think you are correct and that is best.
Lots of conservailtive dads here patting you on the head like a good boy. smh nothing but group think.
Exactly Mary. Women create a hormone called oxytocin during and after sex. It's what bonds them to a man on a deeper level. A man that is lucky enough to earn a woman who chooses him to be her first after their marriage is embarking on a gift that can't be measured. That bond will stay strong throughout the marriage keeping them emotionally and physically strong. This hormone will diminish with multiple partners and by the time the woman is married it's hardly there and the sexual and emotional bond quickly disappears and thus the relationship suffers. This is why we see now that it's easier and easier for women to act like men and just walk away after sex. After so many partners this production of oxytocin is created less and less. This isn't so with waiting until you're married. Stay true to yourself and wait.
Virgin or not, marriage doesn't favor Men
A golden cage is still a cage
I’ve been preaching this for the same reasons. Great to hear it from you, keep up the good work!
An old expression ...
'Secure the relationship before you secure the bedroom'
Sage Advice! Too bad mothers and "teachers" weren't so brutally honest.
Jen, I'm glad I have you to answer my burning questions. Coming from a strict Indian family, I have never been provided a space to talk about this
First off, I want to say how absolutely stunning you are. Second off, I wish a video like this would go viral. Great advice and it's unfortunate how modern women are sold this lie that they should act like men and be like men and there are no consequences afterwards. Sexual empowerment and separating responsibility from intimacy were/are probably the biggest detriments for women.
Protect your purity. Don't put yourself in a position where you can get pregnant. Wait to be with someone who loves you, who commits to you, wants to have a family with you, and someone you'll have a future with.
Thank you. Sending to my daughter. Maybe she'll listen to you.
Collab coming soon. On THIS topic.
A man who meets a woman who makes him wait now does not know if she has put him in the Friend Zone. He knows that a man who takes a woman out on more than 3 amazing dates without physical interaction could be someone she is simply exploiting---meanwhile she is having relations with the bad boy who doesn't care about her. So it is not enough for the woman to abstain: she has to make it clear that she is not using the man.
@@jonathanfarley2023 men are in a double bind now.
George - this would be a great opportunity to talk about the parallel (dopamine) response from casual sex with the dopamine response from watching porn.
They are much the same: the participants become slaves to their own hormones pursuing sex like the porn addict does and what eventually happens.
@@oxigenarian9763 slaves to pleasure is still slavery
@@jonathanfarley2023 ...": she has to make it clear that she is not using the man."
Hello Jonathan,
Would you agree that everyone would be wise to do their best to gauge what the other person has as their goals?
By your comment I think you may agree. I think it is our responsibility to look after ourselves and attempt to discern the truth for ourselves, regardless of gender/identification.
I also think you have made a salient point regarding the "Friend Zone", and I believe it applies to everyone.
Thank you for this, Jennifer. My daughter needs to hear it.
I think you are 100% correct and that message is not the one people hear.
You are smarter than the rest.
Just for the record, I was in a long term relationship with a red head, until she passed in 2010.
@Dalmaen Thank you for sharing. I am sorry to hear that. Yes, I was out walking around, and saw her, and I knew she was the one. It took a few more days of bumping into her until we met. But after a year I finally told her my feelings for her, then she got into a punch up with another woman over me. She lost the fight, but she got me!
Probably the most important and under spoken advice for young women...especially these days.. my mom made my dad wait for 5 years! And he finally married her the 5th year 🥰
I loved the jewelry metaphor. I agree that female sexuality is a subtractive process, but if sexually engaged with her true and loving man, then it is an enhancement. The jewels get polished ;)
Men and women need to hear this and more about this! Thank u.
I have noticed that as soon as sex happens, all learning tends to stop. That’s why I feel it’s important to be conscious of this and wait for the rush of hormones to diminish before making any big decisions.
And that's why role of both parents in every teenage child's life is important. Because once parents pays no heed to their teenagers, teenagers does horrible things that might impact them in future
Jennifer bringing some order to a world of chaos!
Hmmmm this is definitely exactly why I’m single. I’ve never met a woman who didn’t have a high count and it absolutely made me not interested. And to top it all off they thought I was stupid or too picky. It’s so awful that promiscuity is acceptable these days. Thanks for the video and your thoughts, hopefully it is a appreciated!
I agree prostitutes have a high count as well whats the difference between the two then.
As a man you are totally right. There are girls you have fun with and girls you marry. It's not nice but that's the way it is. Keep your legs crossed and your value goes up!
Very good analogy. Good Luck, Rick
To all the girls out there remember: You can become like everyone else, within 15 minutes. Being the special one today, means not being the one that gives it away. Keep that gift for the one that genuinely commits to you. No one else deserves it, especially not the one that spews things like: "If you don't, you don't love me."
Good job, Jennifer.
Ms. Moleski your videos are a much needed breath of fresh air.... I enjoy listening to your mind work and your mind is working very well...
Take care, be safe out there... bravo !
I was thinking about something similar the other day. The idea that every relationship you have that doesn’t empower you, build you up, or embolden you will simply degrade you. It weakens you internally and potentially damages you. If you’re someone who constantly finds themselves in failed relationships and cheap sexual encounters then you’re slowly chipping away at yourself on the inside.
I love that you did this topic. It's a bit awkward here and there. But I cannot imagine how I could do much better. I'm thrilled that you have the nerve to suggest, in the current culture, that old fashioned values still have merit and value. It's even better that you give reasons which are practical and logical. That being said, I do not agree that a man's self worth goes up with each conquest. That's a smokescreen. Each one is a distraction, to hide the emptiness inside, an emptiness that grows with each one.
Absolutely correct again Jennifer, you are amazing "don't let people handle you unless they deserve it", set high standards for yourself and stick to them, don't give yourself away to losers, you're better than that and worth it
I think you are a truly funny person! And i think funniness is a sign for great wisdom. Thank you for you videos! :)
I think you're frank and great and I needed to hear this.
Your the best Jennifer! I only have respect for you and your loving family.
Warren Buffet said: If you re not willing to own a stock for 10 years, don t even think about owning it for 10 minutes.. for women the same advice is valid if you substitute the word stock with man.
So nice to see someone who applies common sense to life, so rare these days. Thanks for the video
Thank you for telling the truth, it's refreshing
I really needed a woman who I can trust to say this. I appreciate the Red Pill TH-camrs but sometimes their advice can be a bit harsh. Not that it’s wrong! Just... I just need another woman who I can look up to and who can give me solid red pill advice. If that makes sense. So thank you.
This isnt red pill advice. It's status quo advice. Red Pill literally means outside of norms and the status quo. This is abstinence only advice like in the 90s. This is literally blue pill, status quo advice.
@@rubenjr4908 If that's what you want to believe then sure. But I've been a diligent follower and listening of the Red Pill. Listening to men like Rollo, Rich Cooper, Aaron Clarey, Coach Greg Adams, and 33 Secrets. I'm not naive to the Red Pill. But my definition of it is most likely different from yours, and that's okay to have a difference of opinion.
@@cherry6609 If they are your definition, then it's not red pill. It's conservatism. Red pill is about exposing the double standards within the female psychology amd within the gender roles. Conservatism is about "no sex before marriage" and enforcing gender roles. It's conservative family values. Not Red Pill, by definition they are opposites.
@@rubenjr4908 Listen, again we have different definitions. You’re not right and I’m not right. I believe conservative ideology morphs with red pill thinking. And red pill is not one specific ideology. You need to broaden your definitions. But I really don’t want to go back and forth on this.
@@cherry6609 I respect that you don't dismiss either options. If it makes sense for you, then that's all that matter. Hope it brings you success.
Jennifer: Uncanny how close you are as to how I describe this to fellow Christians.
I tell men if they want to experience what it is like to be a young attractive woman; carry around a fistful of gold coins and occasionally toss one off to people who please you. (You will be the life at parties, fawning people will make you feel intelligent -popular etc. but it is false - just greed for your gold. “Once your youth (gold coins) are gone - see how those people treat you.”)
So, a woman's youth, beauty, virginity- is indeed a gift of “gold coins” from God! But what she needs to understand I that it is not her gift, it is God's gift to her husband!
When she marries she captures her husbands trust and heart with her virginity as she presents her gold, in effect saying, “here I kept this safe for you.”
(I am describing my marriage.)
If she spent her youth trading her gold coins for exciting trips, dates, restaurants - well-- that was his (and His) money she was spending! Yuck.
(PS I understand a woman thinking she was in love once? and making a mistake.)
Jewelry analogy was Gold🙂
Thank you for putting this into words. I'm grown and married but I wish I heard this when I was younger.
I completely agree with you. I as a Male, had quite a few ( screwed up) relationships with quite a few women. I am 6'5" , black, well educated and from a very fortunate background. To some people, I had qualities that in a vain messed up world meant that I could catch some equally vain high maintenance women. However, over time I realised that such vanity was not what I wanted. The emotional baggage and distrust of having to deal with their past one day turned me away from that idea. I imagine that to them , I could not have been much better as a partner.
I never saw myself that way. I detested having to try to be intimate with one who had a long history of men. I decided to marry a virgin. I was so lucky. I met a very pretty girl and courted for many years in a Christian way. We have been married for 15 years and have been able to overcome the worldly challenges and I would say that the fact that she has COMPLETELY given herself to me, physically and emotionally and mentally has been as a result of her lack of history ; it has also meant that I have had to be a very loving, patient and strong understanding man for her as she is completely dependent upon me . And the more I have been that man for her , the more she gives of herself to me completely.
Some women still do look at me but honestly my wife is so beautiful because of how she has kept herself from the world. In our bedroom, we have 5 tall standing IKEA wardrobes. In order to make sure that she always appears at her best, her clothes occupy 4 of them . She has completely sacrificed herself for me and the least I can do is to do the best to bring out her beauty, physically, emotionally and mentally. Wow ... I am lucky ... her flesh really is my flesh. I completely agree with you.
Courting sounds like a chore to me. Good you got what you wanted out of all that.
Funiest thing is I'm guessing the only people in your audience listening and knodding their heads, are guys. Haha
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The proof is that there aren't even enough women watching her videos to thumb down your comment.
I’m a female watching her content. I agree with her 100%. I’m raising a young daughter and will teach her to cherish herself. But this world is so sad, so much meaningless sex on tv and all the social media. Girls think they all need to get followers and be models. It’s so depressing.
So true
@Latisha Queen 3 , the guy I lost my virginity to I was with 9 years. After was a very short lived bf, then I met my now husband.
@@wernerranchlife8677 well done you sound like a pretty clued up gal who won't just run off with another guy when the wind changes direction wish there were more women like that,unfortunately with all these apps and social platforms cheating/having a side guy/backup plan/affair emotional or physical is just too easy these days!
Marriage offers the man nothing but a possibly a bit of stability because of the vows but for most women they can get half his stuff and possible the kids if things turn south.for me stability just isn't enough anymore to incentives me to marry with so much promiscuity in the world.
A woman will want excitement,attention, affection, be wanted,cared for, left alone.unfortunately we don't know which one at which time and if we get it wrong that would be another reason she may up and find it else where because we just "don't get it" lol like were telepathic or something lol.all the best with your new guy tho.
As a hunter, this advice will make my hunt ultra-difficult... Good! Your prudence will make me better in all aspects of life.
An incredible and healthy video, that will undoubtedly save many lives. I've been happily married for 31 years with two adult children. (SON and DAUGHTER) in their thirties. The wife and I have been Empty-Nesters for 16 years, and my Daughter is finally getting married, lol We raised both children in this manner. Thanks so much.
This idea is something I will be teaching my daughters. They are a gift and sooo precious to me as a Dad. I want them to realize the gift they are so they can respect themselves enough to wait for their husband.
Thanks for your message. It is so heartwarming to see that there are still parents left that teach their daughters such values and to save themselves, their body and minds for the right man and future husband. But also that there are still women who try to do that by themselves. You should be proud of your attitude and keep a bit of hope that there are still good girls left out there. :)
You should, my dad paid me every year to stay a virgn😂😂😂😂 and I'm in my 30's. He died recently, and guess what? He left a fund for me with my uncle that said "until she gets married". My dad did not play when it came to his daughters. 😂😂😂 he forced us to hangout with him and took us everywhere. Up until he died he took us all shopping and had something sneaky to say about our outfits. 😂😂😂.Everything I learnt about men was from my dad. We keep our legs closed in our family!😂. Shout out to all the amazing Fathers. I'm missing mine.
@@munix9351 That's awesome! Thank you for sharing!
@@theeaglesend3963 my pleasure. Dads are the greatest gift to daughters. We can be a bit dramatic and spend all of your money😂😂🤭 but we are loyal and always want to make our Fathers proud. Just be patient with us. 🌼🌼
I had a discussion with a coworker of mine when I worked in a bar. As a busboy I was given many opportunities by women to "get it on", I never got to that point because it felt wrong to me (never went further than making out). My friend the bartender however lived down the street and only said no if he didn't like the girl. One night he asked me why I didn't in the form of " Don't you want to be good in bed when you do get a girlfriend?" I answered that I'd discover it with her, because if I did get to that point it'd be because I genuienly liked her and felt like giving myself to her. He didn't understand.
Your advice is absolutely on the mark .
You are a wise woman. I appreciate your efforts to save marriages and help people find real joy! Well done!!
I wanna hear the story of Jennifer not having sex until she got married and how she found a man that would wait for her.
Plot twist she’s never been married
@@princesspoppy6983 Plot twist: I think she has been married twice.
@@jonathanfarley2023 That’s why I don’t take this chick and what she has to say seriously at all
It’s possible because that’s what my parents did, for half a decade to be exact.
Awesome content! Totally agree with your view. Our Country would be a much better place if girls took your advice.
So amazing that a woman of you caliber figured it out! AWESOME
As a man, I can tell you that Jennifer is right. I'm sure there are men who will say, "I'll drop her if she doesn't give up immediately." However, for the right woman I would wait for at least 6 months and likely a full year as long as I know she isn't playing games and she is exactly who she says she is. Those men who would drop the right woman for not having sex immediately...those are RED FLAG men anyway. If he doesn't think you're worth waiting 6 months, he doesn't see your value, or he isn't serious about you to begin with, or lacks patience. In either case, it's a huge red flag. As a man, I know that we men have needs. And 6 months is tough, but for the right woman, most QUALITY men would wait....if they are serious about you.
You look very beautiful, Jennifer!
Ok, you wanna wait? Cool. However, do you still expect men to pay to get to know you? If so, that's not a great deal and the man gets sunken costs in terms of time and money if it doesn't work out. And women waste plenty of male time and attention in their 20s and 30s in today's age (and I mean all of them...religious or secular women, it doesn't matter). I'm not saying that this is necessarily a bad message to send to young women but every other thing they are told today is to "wait"....wait on marriage and don't get married too early, wait on serious relationships and do school/travel/self-discovery before you do that...wait, wait, wait. This would be great advice if the median age of marriage for women was in their early 20s but I'm not sure this resonates in our culture.
If you can find a woman who wants to spend quality time talking and doing cheap things then that’s a woman who wants to get to know you as well. They are hard to find but you can do it man. Don’t become bitter towards woman but know that there are good one out there with value.
@@travis6694 who pays for the cheap things? You missed my main point and are caught up in the cost of a date which I didn't mention. I don't care if each date is 10 dollars, who is expected to foot the bill?
@@steezli you mention some really good stuff. Sorry to brush over it all. It’s very complex indeed like you mention about today’s culture. But if the woman decides to wait then that shows the man value and if the man is willing to wait maybe it shows his value too.
@@travis6694 there's a point where waiting is silly for both genders, i.e 30+ years old. If you're a guy and you're a healthy guy, you know how much a sex drive can be distracting so it makes no sense to just tell young people to wait without any other expectation. You tell both to marry and marry young. Both sides gain that way. The man isn't spending his 20s chasing, pumping and dumping, and getting distracted by women, and the woman isn't spending her 20s on the carousel and getting free stuff from guys she's not interested in. Getting married young gets rid of this nonsense in our culture where you can meet a 40+ year old divorce from online dating feels entitled to get free dates from strangers. She could've been doing that since age 15 or 16 so she's had almost 30 years of courtship by men and nothing to show for it. Think of all of the time and money wasted. That's where we are today, especially with college-educated women.
The better advice for young men today is not to get married at all ..once you get married she owns you if she want to play it that way ,getting married for a guys is singing all of ur rights as a guy over to the girls whims
Excellent lecture Mrs Moleski.
I found more laten inspiration onto The Genuine class-of-firmament to be the jewel kept in Shared Value, than the ire of loosing a perpetual attraction upon resentments -due from a fine "two piece" Relationship... Once built on sexy ground, Never too early to recognize, of course the health of our "most usual skin/divorce-graph...
~you've done it again, and my brain, though not as Polished as a mistress of the night, gave what I payed attend for, Jennifer...
Good looks, I'm grateful 🧘♂️🤜🤛🧘♀️
You are giving some good advice.... I hope that the ladies will take heed, bur many will not. I enjoyed your video.... Keep up the good work
It seems like it's a race to cheapen ourselves.
I will save this for my daughter.
This is an awesome look. Totally different flava. I like it.
Every daughter should hear this content. Thank you for making this video!
I love Polish women, married one, Moleski is a Polish name, just saying...
Wonderful advice. (Please start a dating app for these type of women and men.) :)
Self worth, is a commodity that is too easily overlooked.
That was pretty damn good, thanks.
Good topic
Unfortunately this advice just isn’t practical nowadays and probably won’t create the desired outcome. I like the advice. I just don’t see it having an impact without a very broad reach
We’ve learned a few things over the years
1). Women like sex too
2) birth control and abortion give women a lot more freedom from risk when it comes to sex
3) society as a whole doesn’t shame sex anymore
4) women are impulsive
Given that women are impulsive, and they like sex, and society doesn’t frown on it, and they’re much more protected from the consequences nowadays..... it is very unlikely for a woman to wait. VERY unlikely. They don’t have any major incentive to wait
If a woman really likes a man.... she typically doesn’t make him wait at all.
If I encountered a woman that wanted to make me wait 90 days.....Given what I have come to expect of female behavior, I’d just assume she didn’t like me all that much, and I’m not going to get serious with someone that I don’t feel really has a passion for me. Sad. But that’s just how it is and I’m not sure we can ever go back unless there was a MAJOR campaign to reverse the trend. A handful of random women trying this out will likely just get passed over by any guy who has enough going on to have options
Every guy feels like this. Every single. guy.
lol. I just got done basically posting the same thing.
Agree 100%.
I've watched quite a few of your videos and this one really hit me. As a single dad of two, I have had many conversations with my 18 year old daughter about building a healthy relationship with her boyfriend, who is a couple years older and treats her with respect! In my experiences as a divorced guy in his early 40's, the dating prospects are horrible. I hate to say it but the women my age are so damaged that I've lost all hope in finding a quality partner. They've been through so many men that I find it a complete turnoff. Truly disheartening. I hope that future generations will see the damage that has befallen society and turn things around. Thank you for your videos and I hope that they're reaching younger viewers and making them think.
a round of applause to you lady 🤗🤭!!! I'm saving this for my daughter
The difference between a human and a dog is that a dog wants to have sex right away, but a human wants to wait a few weeks to get to know the other person better. These days it seems the young people have all turned into dogs. Nothing but mindless stupid dogs.
They don't even care if it might be their own brother or sister
Preach!
1! Is the winner!! Let's push that.. 💪🏽
Good shit Jen!
I like this woman.
I taught my daughters to wait for the right man. I for one would never marry a woman that puts out at the drop of a hat. Turn to God and read His word.
I agree. If she gives it up at the drop of a hat, she'll do the same for some other guy.
@@michaelblacktree same for men
Watched again. Agree more so than before.
Thank you for saying this
The thing is, promiscuity is not respected in women but it is in men (or has been traditionally). I'm not a fan of hedonism but there is a double standard which women are trying to rectify by promoting the idea that women being promiscuous is empowering. Instead, we should be telling men that sleeping around is scummy. Then everybody wins.
The thing is for a guy to have lots of women he's a liar,has game, money or status. It's a lot harder for (average) guys to have women than the opposite.
Wait is that a christian value ? You wanna say monogamy ?
I'll add that it's normal for a man to try to put is semen everywhere and to a woman to not give her body to anybody. The ratio benefice/cost is not the same. Plus the fact that it is men who compete to give their genes. Women only chose the best they can have with their beauty. Every men will have sex with any women just to reproduce, because not all men reproduce. Not every women will have sex with every men.
When man compete just to be able to reproduce, women compete to have the charming prince, the WINNER ! lol (That's actually a good thing when it's not perverted like today)
Sleeping around isnt scummy. It's an evolutionary advantage used to promote genetic varience. Sleeping with scummy people, that's an issue Im behind.
@the missile skud Sexual market value. smh one of those guys.
@the missile skud whatever helps you sleep at night.
I've seen a dozen videos like this; someone who is more socially conservative advocating for women to be chaste and don't fall into the trap of promiscuity. The thing these videos (typically) have in common is the dissenters who argue promiscuity is legit and OK, typically have very little to argue with. As a matter of fact you will get dismissive arguments about being a misogynist, you're jealous, etc. Ben Shapiro's sister posted a video telling women to stop hooking up and almost all the comments from dissenters just criticized the way she looks -- not one comment with a coherent argument in favor of promiscuity.
So on the subject of what it means to be a loser, I would say one mark is if you have very strong beliefs but you cannot comprehend why you believe that way or bring a logical argument to the table. Sluts are losers.
More women need to see this. I’m not a father but I’m an uncle I’m definitely show this to my nieces.
To bad I can only give you one like for this video.
Yes yes yesssssss amazing way of exploration.
"Do you want a new clap every night?"
Interesting way to put that, since that is a good way to get the clap.
That’s a long winded way to simply say, “keep your legs closed.” And there’s nothing wrong with simply saying, “wait until you’re married.”
Period.
Thank you for this.
This is EPIC.. great video
Im a guy in. My late fifties most of the women I have to choose from already have a body count
And kids to show it
Two kids with the same dad is cool but kids with different daddies....shows a high body count
It sucks getting old ...not all but most of the women are fat and or damaged. Or both !!!
Jen you’re gorgeous by the way 😍
Or in my case, as a 56 year old, the babes I went to High School with are now Grandmas 😱
@@visaman What do you expect when someone in their 50's? LOL
Most man at that age are just as 'damaged' and fat.
Not only that but unless you live in a big city there aren't many women that are actually single.
@@ewoman3584 No, the men are *not* as damaged and men's looks matter less to women. The women still get what they want (men's money). But men don't get what we want (an attractive woman).
I’ve never met a single person who was happy or joyful about having constant sex and being addicted to it. Like you wonder why it doesn’t make you happy? Because it’s not natural one bit to do it. It’s not by design. It affects your brain in a very extreme way. Your emotions, your attachments, being able to connect deeply with someone all gets messed up in a big way.
Excellent Video I'd Love to have you Speak at my Church because it would be Fantastic to hear what I've been saying for 35 years come from a Different perspective. Thank You for Getting and Being with the Plan GOD put in Place.
I have a high body count, and I didn't even intend it to be. A guy who has learned where to do what and how will tempt you beyond what you think you can handle just being romantic. "Give it time, I want it to be special" works when pushing off and walking away- done flirty, it will drive him madly for you. That delayed gratification makes it oh so worth the wait.