I LOVE Ken Reid. Not only does he have fantastic information and tons on attachment theory, but he is also a friend. He has always been in right order with me and always supportive of my work. So he is certainly a colleague I endorse.
Susan is so kind and thoughtful. She always has such spot-on commentary, especially for us men who follow her on You Tube. Thank you Jonathon for having her on your show. We have missed her the last few months!
Hi Richard!! Nice to see you here. I adore my buddy Jonathon. He is truly the only colleague who has ever assisted me in anyway… You hear me talking about how he was the one who told me my SEO sucked. And he was right. And it was costing me views. Jonathon is a good guy with good intentions. And in a world of marketers, who have come into this niche to cash out on people's misery and despair, Jonathon is a bright light a a coach who cares.
@@SusanWinterI really enjoy watching your videos and your advice have been very helpful. Question: Why did you think it’s ‘shaky’ about the situation where a guy was hesitant to commit and making you wait and auditioning?
@@BeppinSeattle It's a power move. And controlling. Real love and commitment happens much more organically. And the resistance to commit and put another through their paces is attempt to try to gain power over them, psychologically as well as emotionally.
I have learned alot from the both of you...."Can't say the wrong thing to the right person" and "Let the broken cookie fall off the conveyor belt"...see, I listen to you two. I like Susan so much I pull my semi-truck over for her live shows....Sending big bear hugs to the both of you.
I have to tell the truth. And I know it's funny, but it's true. I wish I could be Modern. I wish I could isolate the playful act to be just that. But in truth, I have no desire to be with a partner unless I truly feel them on a deeper level. Then, all the explosive chemistry comes alive.
@@SusanWinter the wasp comment punctuated by uh uh uh had me in stitches really explains all my bad experiences trying to get love from a bunch of unavailable losers .. priceless advice ❤️❤️❤️
I’m inclined to agree! I say the same thing when this is being discussed. I did a live “hot seat” about someone I reunited with but never slept with… good thing being he was full of excuses. As you said- didn’t want to commit, had excuses about everything- why would I do anything with him? While I’m no Angel, it takes a lot for me to allow these guys do whatever… plus, we need more than one encounter… the first time is usually a bit clumsy 🫣🤭😂 I was cracking up too because it’s true! My first question now is “what are your intentions regarding a connection?” And I picture Jonathan with his rifle lol 😂 great talk!
Sarafara!! I really miss my LiveShow. But what I haven't announced publicly that I've had a series of operations that have kept me away from filming as much as I want and the LiveShow. I think you probably read the newsletter? If not welcome and I'm so happy to see you here. Thanks for your support.
Loved listening to Susan. She shared such good information. I’m all for a spiritual marriage with an agreement put in place for commitment but I think there needs to be some form of penalty or loss if one person breaks the contract. It can’t be only about each other’s expectations in the relationship. Obviously the legal one with the government bears too much loss and that’s why many people nowadays shy away from it. But if there is no consequence to defaulting an agreement then what does it matter if we write one up or not. It doesn’t hold much weight. Great discussion Jonathon! I always enjoy tuning in to your videos. 🙌
Hi ginam, and thank you. I believe I also cut him off... what you do when you're excited and want to share. I really appreciate your joining the LiveShow and/or watching this replay.
Susan Winter is one of the best relationships coaches I have personally hired that spoke to the high level, self-aware and independent woman I am. She is money well spent even if you are paying for what you already know. Her guidance has never steered me wrong and now I am dating men at my level, at my emotional availability and at my independence. She is brilliant at what she does. Jonathan please share although I have her number and will do so.
Hi Jonathan & Susan Winter! This was a great segment. Sorry I missed it. Im having a busy work season at the moment & have had some hard situations at home & work as another client is terminally ill. But, Im picking up a new case & studying for a certification in my field. Also, my boys are home for the summer too. But, just checking in to say I love your flow with one another & Susan's style resonates with me as well. As for me, Im still hurting from my recent break up from the Sarg and she helped me understand (as you did too) that waiting was ok, when i reunited with him because he was a man of value. Living in 2 different states, despite not being too far, provided just enough of a barrier between us despite any efforts or suggestions I made or how attracted we are to eachother. Of course the good thing is, I still kept my sovereignty lol. 🤭 😂 Thank you both for helping us here & me to sort these things out. Because yes, people don't think about the financial nor the value of loyalty and integrity people bring in at our age. Unless you're born into it, we didn't have the financial situations we did when we were younger...and quite honestly, i dont want midlife crisis guy who drives a Lamborghini with a new woman in the passenger seat every other day... I'll take Mr. SUV guy whose going to bring me to the park or the beach with the dog & the kids & throw frisbees, then make smores with wine at the firepit in our outdoor theater until we all pass out...I say my love language is BBQ 😅 -of course everything else will be 💥💥💥 but we just need to sort it out first. I think if you can laugh together and enjoy eachother and have that easy flow, the rest will come...don't you think? Thank you both, I feel a little better now & I'm sure many others here do too ❤🥰😘
@@JonathonAslay thanks for responding & in case you're wondering lol this is "Mystical Tarot aka Lola" I guess it depends if I use my phone or tablet my account shows differently. Miss you- 🤗
@@SherriFlemming thanks- I've been so broken up because on top of the loss of the relationship, a few of my Clients passed & as noted, lost another account because one more became ill, poor family...My heart hurts from all of this & besides mourning, my business is headed down the tubes as I deal with a very toxic ex. Having the kids home isn't helping much but I'm trying to get them out to camp or anything that I can find... So, I needed to take a step back and just breathe... like the song says... So, yes, if you encounter someone who isn't matching your own energy and are in a different place emotionally than you, why entertain that? Thanks for your support- hugs 🥰
Jonathan: If you don’t know if you want to commit to a person because you don’t know her well yet, do you become exclusively with her while you get to know her being possibly intimate, or you date others? What I find some men do is continue to see others, meaning open relationship while they find a best match.
Lynda... You're a doll. And you are absolutely correct. I haven't been posting many videos and I had to stop the LiveShow for a bit of time. I've had back surgery and unfortunately it was not effective so I've been utilizing my time to edify my health. And I hope to return with more videos. I thank you so much for your support, and for your thoughtful words. And yes, maybe I am a teenager.!!!
Not all older men are established. Some are intent on "marrying up".or having relationships with women who earn more and have more assets. Not all relationships are financially equal.
Among other things, I want to meet someone who isn't obsessed, in awe of, or a sucker for appearances and personas--but rather, the person wants depth, and when there's a true connection, it's only then that the person is attracted to the girlfriend/partner. I don't know if I'm wishful thinking. But that's how I am, so there's got to be another like that somewhere.
I love seeing Susan on the channel Jonathan, I’ve followed her for years , she’s got an amazing way of getting to the point to the aha moments . The snapshot video of hers is what made me have the aha moment . Six years ago. You guys together .. love all the ideas .
Personal question.In relation to different cultures or countries, would you consider a relationship with a women either from England, Canada, Australia or New Zealand if they were planning to relocate?
Opposite opinions; JA thinks it’s “raining good men” Susan says it’s slim pickins - very few good available men out there. And in typical form, Jonathon interrupts and doesn’t let the other person finish. 🙄
Follow Susan Winter at www.youtube.com/@SusanWinter
Adore you, Jonathon!!!
He doesn't want to commit because he's not that into you also.
It can also be fears. Common with FA's and DA's. They can sabotage relationships. Patterns of behavior.
@@SherriFlemming agreed, I think like in my case, after about 6 months he said the L word & scared himself away smh 🤦♀️
Agreed. In many cases, it is what it is.
@@lorrainec3673 The emotional responsibility and commitment was too much for him. Ken Reid has great podcasts on avoidant attachment.
I LOVE Ken Reid. Not only does he have fantastic information and tons on attachment theory, but he is also a friend. He has always been in right order with me and always supportive of my work. So he is certainly a colleague I endorse.
Susan is so kind and thoughtful. She always has such spot-on commentary, especially for us men who follow her on You Tube. Thank you Jonathon for having her on your show. We have missed her the last few months!
Hi Richard!! Nice to see you here. I adore my buddy Jonathon. He is truly the only colleague who has ever assisted me in anyway… You hear me talking about how he was the one who told me my SEO sucked. And he was right. And it was costing me views. Jonathon is a good guy with good intentions. And in a world of marketers, who have come into this niche to cash out on people's misery and despair, Jonathon is a bright light a a coach who cares.
@@SusanWinterI really enjoy watching your videos and your advice have been very helpful. Question: Why did you think it’s ‘shaky’ about the situation where a guy was hesitant to commit and making you wait and auditioning?
@@BeppinSeattle It's a power move. And controlling. Real love and commitment happens much more organically. And the resistance to commit and put another through their paces is attempt to try to gain power over them, psychologically as well as emotionally.
Well said, Susan. 💯
He doesn't want to be responsible for your feedback on his poor behaviour. That hit me hard
It's such an astute comment! Thank you Susan.
Men know exactly what they're doing.
Thank you Joan, I think that's the counterpoint here.
Every second is 100 %
Limited pool out here
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Yes. The pickings are slim for aligned men.
Yes
@@JonathonAslay do you ever sleep?
Spiritual marriage: right on. I follow a pastor who won't do government (marriage license) marriages.
I’m with you on this! Spiritual marriage is the way to go!
I agree.That's the one that counts
I’m glad Jonathon you invited susan winters!
She's great
Susan Winter was great. I’ll def follow her channel.
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annie, thank you. I really appreciate your comment
@@JonathonAslay Thank you, Jonathon for having me
She's great!
It gives me hope that someone of your caliber is steering away from the pretty young things to date in your age range!!! 💜
Thank you 😊
Yes, it's impressive Jonathon. You're high caliber wanting someone mature within your age range.
True … I am with one who was terribly hurt; now I am paying the price of him not doing the healing work.
I have learned alot from the both of you...."Can't say the wrong thing to the right person" and "Let the broken cookie fall off the conveyor belt"...see, I listen to you two. I like Susan so much I pull my semi-truck over for her live shows....Sending big bear hugs to the both of you.
Exactly
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OMG Susan’s comment, without loven I’ll be bad in bed 😂
I have to tell the truth. And I know it's funny, but it's true. I wish I could be Modern. I wish I could isolate the playful act to be just that. But in truth, I have no desire to be with a partner unless I truly feel them on a deeper level. Then, all the explosive chemistry comes alive.
@@SusanWinter the wasp comment punctuated by uh uh uh had me in stitches really explains all my bad experiences trying to get love from a bunch of unavailable losers .. priceless advice ❤️❤️❤️
I’m inclined to agree! I say the same thing when this is being discussed. I did a live “hot seat” about someone I reunited with but never slept with… good thing being he was full of excuses. As you said- didn’t want to commit, had excuses about everything- why would I do anything with him? While I’m no Angel, it takes a lot for me to allow these guys do whatever… plus, we need more than one encounter… the first time is usually a bit clumsy 🫣🤭😂 I was cracking up too because it’s true! My first question now is “what are your intentions regarding a connection?” And I picture Jonathan with his rifle lol 😂 great talk!
I can relate to the WASP comment. 👍
@@lorrainec3673 You dodged a bullet, Lorraine.
Your podcast was great. Thanks for sharing.
Came from Susan’s channel! Love her and her advice!
Sarafara!! I really miss my LiveShow. But what I haven't announced publicly that I've had a series of operations that have kept me away from filming as much as I want and the LiveShow. I think you probably read the newsletter? If not welcome and I'm so happy to see you here. Thanks for your support.
I said it before she did 😂😂😅
Thank you Jonathon & Susan! I appreciate the honest answer to my question. That really helped 💚
Our pleasure!
That's fantastic. Thanks for the question.
Loved listening to Susan. She shared such good information.
I’m all for a spiritual marriage with an agreement put in place for commitment but I think there needs to be some form of penalty or loss if one person breaks the contract. It can’t be only about each other’s expectations in the relationship. Obviously the legal one with the government bears too much loss and that’s why many people nowadays shy away from it. But if there is no consequence to defaulting an agreement then what does it matter if we write one up or not. It doesn’t hold much weight.
Great discussion Jonathon! I always enjoy tuning in to your videos. 🙌
Thank you for joining us. I really appreciate your commentary. And I feel so honored to be on Jonathon's channel with him.
For God sakes Jonathon let Susan speak !!!!!!! Omg
Typical interruptions in every interaction on this channel. So rude
Love Susan Winter!!! Thank you for having her. You cut her off a few times. Jonathon please work on that.
Hi ginam, and thank you. I believe I also cut him off... what you do when you're excited and want to share. I really appreciate your joining the LiveShow and/or watching this replay.
Susan Winter is one of the best relationships coaches I have personally hired that spoke to the high level, self-aware and independent woman I am. She is money well spent even if you are paying for what you already know. Her guidance has never steered me wrong and now I am dating men at my level, at my emotional availability and at my independence. She is brilliant at what she does. Jonathan please share although I have her number and will do so.
❤❤❤thank you Barbara!!!!!!❤❤
I agree... she's brilliant
Fear of responsibility maybe ?
Hi Jonathan & Susan Winter! This was a great segment. Sorry I missed it. Im having a busy work season at the moment & have had some hard situations at home & work as another client is terminally ill. But, Im picking up a new case & studying for a certification in my field. Also, my boys are home for the summer too. But, just checking in to say I love your flow with one another & Susan's style resonates with me as well. As for me, Im still hurting from my recent break up from the Sarg and she helped me understand (as you did too) that waiting was ok, when i reunited with him because he was a man of value. Living in 2 different states, despite not being too far, provided just enough of a barrier between us despite any efforts or suggestions I made or how attracted we are to eachother. Of course the good thing is, I still kept my sovereignty lol. 🤭 😂
Thank you both for helping us here & me to sort these things out. Because yes, people don't think about the financial nor the value of loyalty and integrity people bring in at our age. Unless you're born into it, we didn't have the financial situations we did when we were younger...and quite honestly, i dont want midlife crisis guy who drives a Lamborghini with a new woman in the passenger seat every other day... I'll take Mr. SUV guy whose going to bring me to the park or the beach with the dog & the kids & throw frisbees, then make smores with wine at the firepit in our outdoor theater until we all pass out...I say my love language is BBQ 😅 -of course everything else will be 💥💥💥 but we just need to sort it out first. I think if you can laugh together and enjoy eachother and have that easy flow, the rest will come...don't you think?
Thank you both, I feel a little better now & I'm sure many others here do too ❤🥰😘
Some great points Lorraine.
She's great...
@@JonathonAslay thanks for responding & in case you're wondering lol this is "Mystical Tarot aka Lola" I guess it depends if I use my phone or tablet my account shows differently. Miss you- 🤗
@@SherriFlemming thanks- I've been so broken up because on top of the loss of the relationship, a few of my Clients passed & as noted, lost another account because one more became ill, poor family...My heart hurts from all of this & besides mourning, my business is headed down the tubes as I deal with a very toxic ex. Having the kids home isn't helping much but I'm trying to get them out to camp or anything that I can find... So, I needed to take a step back and just breathe... like the song says... So, yes, if you encounter someone who isn't matching your own energy and are in a different place emotionally than you, why entertain that? Thanks for your support- hugs 🥰
@@lorrainec3673 You're welcome Lorraine. Hugs.
You and Susan should do a bumpy video together. You guys are great together.
Bumpy?
Jonathan: If you don’t know if you want to commit to a person because you don’t know her well yet, do you become exclusively with her while you get to know her being possibly intimate, or you date others? What I find some men do is continue to see others, meaning open relationship while they find a best match.
Yes, juggling on rotation. You may not be aware, you're part of a harem.
And there are definitely men with the polyamorous and non monogamy lifestyle.
@@SherriFlemming That is disgusting. I hate men like that.
Yup she said it!
Yeeeeey Susan❤...smart lady🧠
Thank you so much for your kind words. And again, Jonathon, thank you for allowing me this time with you.
I love Susan! Hadn't seen her in a while. She is such a teenager!😂
I know, right...
Lynda... You're a doll. And you are absolutely correct. I haven't been posting many videos and I had to stop the LiveShow for a bit of time. I've had back surgery and unfortunately it was not effective so I've been utilizing my time to edify my health. And I hope to return with more videos. I thank you so much for your support, and for your thoughtful words. And yes, maybe I am a teenager.!!!
We have couples contracts for common law in Canada. Equivalent to a preniptual agreement.
Big hugs 🤗❤️
Younger women go for older men because the older guy has money.
Not all older men are established.
Some are intent on "marrying up".or having relationships with women who earn more and have more assets.
Not all relationships are financially equal.
Among other things, I want to meet someone who isn't obsessed, in awe of, or a sucker for appearances and personas--but rather, the person wants depth, and when there's a true connection, it's only then that the person is attracted to the girlfriend/partner. I don't know if I'm wishful thinking. But that's how I am, so there's got to be another like that somewhere.
I love seeing Susan on the channel Jonathan, I’ve followed her for years , she’s got an amazing way of getting to the point to the aha moments . The snapshot video of hers is what made me have the aha moment . Six years ago. You guys together .. love all the ideas .
They're a great team!
I hear you Coach Amy. Substance and depth over mere superficiality.
Choose with purpose.
For ED, take Maca and thai ginseng, plus L-Lysine.
Yes Susan, the pool is small!
agreed... And that makes it tough when you have standards!
It sure does, Susan.
Manipulators dislike standards, boundaries and a backbone.
Personal question.In relation to different cultures or countries, would you consider a relationship with a women either from England, Canada, Australia or New Zealand if they were planning to relocate?
If she's here when we meet and she already had plans to move, I would consider it. I most likely wouldn't meet her until she's living here though.
How do u trigger childhood wounds in a male?Feedback please.❤
By accident
Opposite opinions; JA thinks it’s “raining good men”
Susan says it’s slim pickins - very few good available men out there.
And in typical form, Jonathon interrupts and doesn’t let the other person finish. 🙄
Indeed
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