I truly wonder why Emily didn't call off the wedding immediately after Ross said, " I take thee Rachel". That would've saved him from getting divorced again.
Pure shock. I've watched this show many times and always knew that point was when the marriage was screwed beyond repair, and I still don't know how I would have reacted in her situation.
Well maybe she tried Ross’s place first and since he didn’t pick up there and since he’s at Monica’s most of the time, it only makes sense to call Monica’s place.
@@tnvol2011 if she called Ross' place and found out that Rachel was there then it would be completely understandable that she be upset but she called Monica's place which is also Rachel's. People can really be unreasonable when hurting and frustrated I guess.
@@Anonymous-zq4yy yeah especially when that person screws up BIG TIME and is given two separate chances and still screws up each time. So whether she called Ross at his place or Monica’s, it wouldn’t have mattered as along as Rachel wasn’t around.
Fun Fact: Emily's actress (Helen Baxendale) was supposed to have more time and story with Ross on the show, but she got pregnant and that's why the last scene we saw her she was in a bed and made sense to why the writers made the Ross and Emily storyline turn a full 180 so quickly.
I was literally thinking that her face looked a little more plump in this clip, and that they didn’t show her body, just focused on her face. Thanks for confirming! 👶🏻
I mean, Emily. . .you called Monica's apartment. You know that Rachel is Monica's roommate. Is it REALLY that big a shock that she happens to be in her own apartment?
@@pacm9744 No haha how could she know that Rachel would even be home? That's where the blame, once again, falls on Ross because Ross knew better and should have acted accordingly. If I were to say the wrong name at my wedding and my future wife forgives me TWICE!, then I pretty much owe her for life haha
@@sidhant95640 Of course not. Im sure Emily would be ok with Ross going to Monica's, as long as Rachel wasn't there and as long as she could trust Ross to do the right thing to save his marriage and relationship with Emily. Rachel lost her chance with Ross when Emily said yes to Ross's proposal and when Rachel refused to go to the wedding.
A more realistic and fair condition from Emily would be Ross can't be ALONE with Rachel. That would be easy to do and is very understandable. But its ridiculous to either 1. Say Ross can't go to Monica's because Rachel is there or 2. Say Rachel can't be in her own apartment
The point Emily was making was more about Ross cutting Rachel out of his life completely. Doesnt matter where she lives or what she does. And alotta ppl side with ross in the show but how many ppl would want their partners ex to still be in their life especially after finding out their partner still has a thing for them lmao
@@sharkisland5931 You're missing the point. Ross wasn't spending time with Rachel. He was having dinner with his sister at his sisters apartment. Rachel lives there too. Its ridiculous to say Ross either can't ever go to his sisters place or Rachel has to hide in her room if Ross is visiting Monica.
Emily was a complete stranger. Why did Ross marry a complete stranger in the first, second, and third place when he was in love with Rachel and had been for over 10 years?
He was very mature here (at least, for his standards). 1) He felt bad for Rachel and decided she shouldn't be punished for his mistake. 2) He could have let Emily get away with that "better when I know where you at all the time" mentality, and try to cope with it once she came back. But he realized it would grow into bigger problems, so he put a stop to it before it was too late.
@@kbanghart well if you are using that against ross then you should also keep this same in mind that it was rachel "also"who couldn't keep her feelings out of all that so it's not just his fault 💁♀️
Emily's decision to go on with the wedding even after the " Take thee Rachel" fiasco led to this...she's not at fault for not trusting Ross here, but her trust was gone at the wedding and their marriage had gone down the drain that day itself.
@@anikamodani72 stfu what's up with people like you. She was invited to the wedding. She never said ross how she felt. Everything was ross and Emily's fault.
@@aayushisingh2090 Technically it's all their fault. And the reason Rachel said she wouldn't go was because, as she put it, it would make things complicated between them. But she did go... and she made things complicated. Nonetheless, when it comes to love you can't really blame people. Ross was trying to get over Rachel and he thought he could with Emily, but in the end he still would always love Rachel. Rachel told Ross many times for him to get over her, and yet she couldn't get over him. And Emily was in love with Ross, a man who already loved somebody else. Ross tried to convince Emily to make the marriage work out, which is the right call in any other case. But with them, it was just not something they could work out. Their marriage was not something that could be worked out considering that they never should've gotten married in the first place. But Ross was blinded by the illusion that he could love somebody else, and Emily was blinded by her own ego leading her to believe that she could make the marriage work by forcing Ross to change his entire life and by controlling him. For Ross it would've been devastating if Emily didn't agree to resolving their marriage. But she shouldn't have accepted. And eventually Ross would've gotten over her because... he never could love her as much as he wanted to.... I apologize for this small rant, but yeah. Love is complicated.
@@kailey1114 She is not 100% in the right that is Ross’s friend and that is a childhood friend to Monica. Emily was controlling and I’m glad she’s gone
@@kbanghart She has a right to be angry, of course she does. Anyone would be but it is definitely unreasonable for Emily to ask for Ross to never see Rachel again. Of course she wouldn’t want them alone together but Rachel is part of Ross’ friendship group that he sees daily. She lives with his sister who he always visits and she lives across the hall from 2 of his best friends. It would be impossible for him to never see her. Also her asking this of him wasn’t just impacting him, it was making life difficult for Joey, Monica (her sister in law), Chandler and Phoebe. Also Rachel but I doubt she’d care about that. Also it isn’t the not wanting him to be with Rachel that shows her to be controlling it’s more of her asking Ross to uproot his entire life and wanting to know where he would be all the time. Ross definitely messed up but Emily was definitely showing controlling behaviour and in the end Ross probably would’ve been miserable.
I don't know why but i didn't find it too good, i find it overrated and also himym, those are good no doubt, but not that good like everyone says, in my opinion, everyone else opinion can be different from mine, that's not a problem
Listen I’m not blaming emily for not liking Rachel and I could understand her saying they shouldn’t hang out one on one. But Rachel lives with Ross’s sister. He quite literally can’t just kick her out of her own apartment because she doesn’t like them seeing each other. That’s his sister and it’s unfair for her to expect him to not see Rachel sometimes when that’s the situation
It's not just this that is problematic. Ross admitted that he has been isolating himself from his friends. It makes me wonder if Emily got angry and vile with Ross when he wanted to be with his family. Once a person starts isolating you from your friends and family, that is the time you get out. If the roles were reversed and Ross was a woman married to a man who made that phone call, would you say you understand where they were coming from?
Don't forget that Ross had been in love with Rachel since he was a teenager. He never stopped loving Rachel. He barely knew Emily. This was badly written from beginning to end. If men are as fickle as Ross was, there would be no successful marriages in the world.
theres a lott of people are blaming or judging hele baxandale and those people are idiots or cowards in real live by the scrpit from the yetti episode cant be perfect at any way
Ross messed up his marriage by marrying Emily too fast. He was still not over Rachel obviously so it is not Emily's fault to mistrust him. He always makes decisions in a haste that includes sleeping around immediately after "breaking up" with Rachel. His current life is a consequence of his bad decisions unfortunately. Oh god I need help, this is just a TV show but I am so invested. LOL
Colort I agree with you, it's one thing to say Rachel did this and that, but Ross was the one who kissed Rachel before breaking up with Julie, and Bonnie and Ross was the one who said Rachel at the wedding. He also got drunk in frof Charlie.
@@rasputin774 my point exactly .ross and emily was just a time extender in my mind.in the ross was with rachel so it proves emily and ross was not supposed work at all.
We all love the 6 of them together but let’s be honest that in real life we all understand Emily. Ross and Rachel are in this definite on-off toxic relationship that no new partner of either of them will feel comfortable knowing they are still that close.
The "Emily arc" was a waste of time , it only served to keep Ross and Rachel apart for more time ( like a lot of characters on the show ) , at least made Ross get funnier as the series progressed
When I first watched this as a teenager I thought Emily was straight up crazy. Now, in my early 30s I understand where she's coming from. Ross is really putting her in a very difficult position by continuing to see Rachel behind her back. Also, turns out she wasn't paranoid because they actually did end up together.
Correct. Yet she decided to continue the wedding despite the whole “Take thee Rachel” fiasco. So really she should’ve ended it there. Would’ve solved a lot of problems, and possibly a divorce.
@@ramiroaguirre3411 she was on the spot and couldn't make that decision so quickly in the midst of emotions like that. Nobody makes great choices That emotionally and she had no time to reflect yet, just panic lol
He wasn't seeing Rachel. They were lifelong friends and she was his sister's best friend. Plus, that was a codependent friend group so all would be affected by it. Emily was being a controlling jackass....after going thru that sham of a wedding. No matter how people try to justify it, who gets married after THAT fuckup? Her and Ross should never have made it to marriage in the first place. No sizzle there.
One thing I really love about this scene is Rachel isn't all "oh I'm so sorry it's totally my fault" cause it damn well isn't! I love her confidence and that the series made sure to clear that it isn't the other girl's fault that the marriage fell apart
@@OHCAM5 she can't control his feelings for her. It would've been her fault if she'd told him she still loved him before the wedding but she did the right thing and kept her mouth shut. He said her name anyway. That's not on her
@@swarada994 Again it kind of is. She told him she wouldn't go and went for literally crash the wedding. He was stupid for saying her name but that wouldn't have happened if she didn't show up literally minutes before the wedding.
It's crazy how people are still bashing Emily as if Ross didn't push their relationship too fast and tell her to give up her whole life in London to live with him. Her wanting Rachel gone wasn't unreasonable; he set up that precedent
all the mess was made by Ross. He is a big mess himself. If I was Emily I would not have agreed to be in a serious with Ross from the beginning. So it was Emily's mistake too. She chose to be in that situation even though she knew about Ross and Rachel's history. There are many good men out there, not Ross is the only man on this earth. Jesus women!
@@maithuybui8350 Ross? All the characters were a mess they just kept fooling around and causing problems like kids I mean yes its funny but in real life nobody would behave like that even in the 90s
Am I the only one who feels so bad for Emily? Imagine hearing your husband saying another woman's name at your own wedding, I would feel shattered. Emily has all the right to be upset at Ross, plus they are married and Emily has the right to be closer with Ross more than he is with Rachel.
She brought this on to herself. The moment Ross said Rachel’s name, she should’ve realized his true feelings. She married him knowing he loved Rachel. I see this as a way of tying someone to a relationship.
Emily was indeed the victim up to the moment she started treating Ross like her Marionette. She should've left him the moment he said the wrong name. But she stayed around to "work on the relationship" robbed him of his stability, his apartment, his job, and almost his friends and family just to feel secure. When that plan didn't work she just left. And he was at the lowest point of his life after that. While I understand that her anger and hurt are valid, she wasn't fair nor reasonable and that made her guilty too.
"You obviously can't keep away from her" Emily summarized ten years in one sentence without even living in the same continent. She was too intelligent and mature to notice the whole story. Ross wasn't ready for a marriage at all, neither knew himself enough. His destiny was always Rachel, and when they both were ready, they finally became a solid couple. Emily had no need to play the rol of "collateral damage" during the process and she just knew it.
I could understand Emily's feelings when she asked Ross not to see Rachel, I mean that is understandable after he said "Rachel" his ex-girlfriend's name at the wedding and trying to catch their honeymoon flight with the same girl. Until She went totally CRAZY and asked him to sell all his furniture and move to a new place that is very far from his work
Oh yes because asking your partner to move from one country to another so you could live together and start married life in the same place is totally crazy but controlling who he can and can't see it not? Emily has no right to keep Ross and Rachel apart, this only reflects on her lack of trust, without trust the marriage is over anyway. Although we are alluding to fictional characters all women should take note here, we can't and should not control the actions of a man, if he truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will always do what is right by you. If he doesn't, then leave him, have some dignity and find yourself someone who truly loves you not pretending to get over there Ex like Ross was. Ultimately the heart wants what the heart wants, your feelings will always catch up with you so Ross would have ended up leaving Emily for Rachel anyway.
@@hya958 (...)if he truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will always do what is right by you.(...) like say for example say your name at the altar and not some exes name?
@@rksworld4405 Exactly, he said Rachel's name at the altar because obviously he was still in love with her. I don't think Ross actually wanted to get married, he was just doing it to spite Rachel or to get over her... which clearly didn't work.
If the relationship had ended up the momment Ross said Rachel at the wedding ,then it would had been his fault, but she went with it and even considered taking him back, so, is not like she didn't know what she was getting into
Betrayal does this. It turns ppl insecure. Prob loved ross so much if she could just get rid of rachel than it be happy ending.. but ross couldnt let go.
She wanted to she even called him back but it was too late Ross and Rachel really loved each other too much for that they simply had to be together there was nothing she could do
Yes, if one cannot trust their partner, there's no use being in a relationship and you dont have to quit your life for a spouse, a spouse that wants that is crazy and not worth it
People don’t like Emily but I don’t think she was in the wrong entirely. I don’t know how you can expect anyone to not have issues with trust when they’ve said their ex girlfriend’s name during your wedding vows. Yes, she can’t expect to have complete control over Ross at all times but you can’t blame her for wanting to after that, it’s only natural and I just felt bad for Emily when I first watched it rather than villainising her.
Well I guess you and I are the only people with a good conscience amongst all the friends fan base And the fact that NO ONE is blaming that Selfish b*tch Rachel for anything is WILD
The fact that she has trust issues with someone she just married is more of a sign to walk away. Taking away the source of the mistrust does not build trust back.
Then she should've said that from the start. She put Ross through so many obstacles just for her to gain a false sense of power in the relationship, only to say in the eleventh hour "I'll feel better when I'm there, so I can know where you are all the time." Ma'am, please! If that's what she truly wanted, she would've been there weeks earlier. No! She ran off. Hid away. Dodged his phone calls. Refused his gifts. Emily should've just ended the relationship.
@@Ryan-pg1tw If you watch the entire show there is a lot of "disrespectful" moment and they even make a joke of the accent. Yet still they got a lot of fans from England. So if you find that disrespectful that's not my problem.
This is the kind of situation that has no fair solution besides a break-up/divorce, because no matter which way you turn it, someone is going to feel unhappy or uncomfortable. If the trust is gone, Emily will never feel comfortable in her marriage knowing that her husband is still hanging out with his ex-girlfriend (love of his life) and Ross will never be happy tossing Rachel out of his life. Neither one is wrong. It's just that both their needs are completely at odds and neither one should have to sacrifice their peace of mind, that's not what a healthy marriage is built on.
So I don’t blame Emily for being pissed at Ross (she was humiliated in front of all of her loved ones at her own wedding, why wouldn’t she be mad) and I thought she was in the right for awhile. However, when she started the whole “isolate him from his friend” emotional abuse thing, she lost all of my respect. He made a dumb mistake, not to mention the fact that Rachel should not have been punished like this.
I get that it’s just tv show and while I do agree that Emily could have called off the wedding and shouldn’t have went overboard and trusted Ross, if I was in her situation, I’m not gonna lie, I would feel a little bit weird about Rachel. She is his ex, he said her name at the altar, he hangs out with her everyday, he even tried to go on their honeymoon with Rachel right when Emily was gonna forgive Ross and go with him. Emily liked Rachel at first. I can understand why Emily felt the way she did. If I was Ross, I wouldn’t have stopped seeing Rachel but for the time being, maybe try limiting my time with Rachel (I don’t see why he couldn’t just not hang out with her alone and with the group of friends and her instead) and explained everything to Emily. Then again, Ross and Emily did rush into their marriage. Idk. These are just my personal opinions.
@@MariaRincon22 agreed. They were together for like two episodes and suddenly they got married, that marriage was a disaster waiting to happen. I do get your point, though
Honestly, I didn't blame her for wanting him to end his friendship with Rachel. I don't know too many people who would be cool with their SO being best friends with someone they've slept with multiple times & had a strong history with. That would make anyone uncomfortable.
I think people are forgetting that ross attempted to go on his honeymoon with rachel too😂 it was many things that led emily to being this crazy and its sad because she was in love with him and just kept trying desperately but soon realized at the end of the day that she would always feel insecure about rachel. I totally get it
For me, it's not Rachel's fault. She went there to confess to Ross that she still loves him and apparently stop the wedding. However, after seeing how happy Ross was, she just congratulated him instead. It was Ross who said the wrong name, meaning the woman in front of him is not the woman in his mind that he would take as a wedded wife. Or it could be a slip of tongue too. But either way, Emily won't act that way if Ross make that mistake.
I'm a girl and I didn't like Emily either - she was just there to keep Ross and Rachel apart more, it's obvious, and in the end, Ross said ''Rachel'' at the altar, because that was his subconscious - he always loved Rachel and she was always on his mind, it was stronger than him.
He said Rachel because she showed up out of nowhere right before the ceremony. True he still had feelings for her but they wouldn't have come up if she wasn't there.
Agreed. I’m also a girl and I didn’t like her arc. The only reason for it was to keep Ross and Rachel (obviously endgame) apart. She had every right to be upset but the second she started demanding that he cut Rachel out of his life entirely, I lost every ounce of respect for her. The episodes post-wedding were when she showed her true colors (emotional abuse).
The show went on for 10 seasons, They couldn't pair them together so fast. They needed drama and space for storylines. None of it was really a waste like so many people say. Space is needed.
I never liked that Emily character, she could not trust Ross even just hanging out with his friends and she is jealous of Rachel, I'm glad that relationship ended, I've always loved Ross and Rachel together
I was so happy when Ross first started going out with Emily. Thought we'd finally see him move on and continue to have a healthy friendly relationship with Rachel. The sudden change in Emily & Ross mixing up names or even Rachel getting hung up about the wedding made no sense at the time.
Helen Baxendale's acting with her body, her tone and inflection were PERFECT when she says, "I'll feel better when I know where you are all the time." It tells me she felt very insecure and vulnerable in the situation and was being controlling out of fear and less about being a "punishing" controlling person.
I can see where she’s coming from. I mean it’s humiliating and heartbreaking when your partner still loves their ex that they still regularly hang out with from time to time. He said Rachel’s name at the altar. Sure I hated that Rachel decided to go despite saying she won’t to tell Ross he love her, but she did the right thing and kept her mouth shut when she saw how happy he was. He might have been caught off guard with her there but to me he wouldn’t have said her name if he didn’t still have any lingering feelings for her. That was more on him than her. She’s extremely insecure. Just like Ross was when he was with Rachel the first time and all jealous because he was still insecure from his marriage with Carol. But… she was being unreasonable. Rachel lives in his sister’s apartment. Rachel is best friends with his friends. I can understand “don’t be ALONE with Rachel. But it would be near impossible never seeing Rachel again unless he either cuts out his sister and all his friends or his friends and sister cut out Rachel. Neither of which they’re willing to do. Side note: a lot of these Ross fiascos to me are results of poor decision making. Sleeping with someone less than 24 hrs after breaking up not breaking up with Rachel, kissing Rachel impulsively before breaking up with Julie and Bonnie, marrying Emily soooo soon…
So I'm the only one that felt bad for Rachel when she got up to leave? I would have felt sooo bad if I wasn't welcome to hang out with my friends in my own apartment and his girlfriend says that on speaker to the rest of my friends. Joey's face when she gets up too is like come on now...😭😭😭.
@@sreelakshmiramadas2392 even if she didnt go he still would've said her name. Rachel never told ross that she still loved him before the wedding, it was ross' fault not rachels. she got an invitation to go to the wedding anyway
@@jyotiradityasatpathy3546 twice, and explain how it was because he was flustered from seeing her there? He didn’t even look at her before saying her name. Whether she went or not he still would’ve said her name. She didn’t ruin the wedding, she never forced him to say her name, he did it all by himself. The lengths you Ross fans go to to defend him is actually astonishing
Emily & Ross had a sweet relationship. It's too bad they couldn't just recast the role. Rachel & Ross had a strong history & slept together "298 times" lol....I think most people would feel a bit uncomfortable with that friendship & kind of history, so I didn't blame Emily.
The bigger point is that Ross was always in love with Rachel and had been since he was a teenager. Emily never stood a chance. The writers were always cruel to write these storylines when there was no vision of Ross with anyone other than Rachel.
@@Beth-ve7ob From what I understand, Ross and Emily were supposed to be long term or at least last another season. The actress, Helen Baxendale, became pregnant and didn't want to stay in America and she wasn't treated that well by the fans. I do wonder what the writers had planned for Ross/Emily had she stayed.....? Would they have kept them together or would they have eventually split them up to appease R&R fans. I loved Schwimmer/Aniston's chemistry, but I hated the writing for R&R. It was so frustrating.
Ross got funnier after he and Rachel broke up. To me he was hella boring in the first two seasons. I did like him in season 3 but after he and Rachel broke up. He became fun and when Emily came around he was funnier. I loved the Emily episodes. She was cool in the beginning but then they made her bitchy I was like nope. Bye bye lol
My analysis is before he dated Rachel he was actually much more preserved (probably still upset about splitting up with Carol) and more calculating. Yes it made him boring too. After dating Rachel (and after breaking up with her as well) he was much more adventurous and expressive with himself, even going so far as to having a “rage problem”. He was even more fun and took more risks, but unfortunately for him it also got him into a lot of unlucky situations (i.e. stuck in his leather pants, getting a failed tan, etc). But of course this meant more entertainment for the audience!
@@subratanandy2142 Understandable if you get upset if somebody says the wrong name at a wedding yes. Understandable to demand a whole friend group stop seeing a core member of their group just so rachel and Ross dont bump into each other? Not understandable. She is pretty much pushing not just for ross, but all of them to not hang with Rachel if they still want to see Ross and vice versa which is unreasonable. You either forgive somebody for a slip up and move on, or you dont and break up. You dont make weird demands that are unfair to a group of people. Monica Chandler Joey and Phoeby also got dragged into her drama this way. If Ross and rachel want to remain friends, they should be able to do so as well. I will never support any women, or man for that matter, demaning their lovers dont see certain people alone even if they are an ex. You either trust your partner, or you dont. If you trust your partner, you would trust them with anyone. If you dont, dont be in a relationship with them. Simple enough. And if you trust them, and they do end up cheating on you, that just means they are not right for you anyway. It does NOT mean you should be stricter next time. If they cant be faithfull to you by choice, they are not somebody you should be involved with. If you lose them, you lose them. That can be horrible, but better in the long term. But dont try to control them, ever. Thats just misery for everyone involved.
@@lunalove9395 thats not the reason why they wrote her off the show. The reason why they wrote her off the show cuz she didn't want to raise her kid in the states. She wanted to stay back in London. It had nothing to do with the pregnancy. They would have worked it out with her hiding behind couches and holding stuff like Lisa kudrow did in the show before they had her character pregnant as well. It was cuz Helen didn't want to do the show in the states cuz of her new baby. Too bad I liked Emily. She was cool character.
Emily is not wrong here though. It's Ross's fault. Imagine the humiliation she felt when ross said Rachel's name at her wedding!! It's her way of punishing ross, it's overdone but we can't expect anyone to be sane after what happened.
And do you all remember what she did later? Calling Ross on the eve of her second marriage and asking him whether they broke up too soon. Yep, I feel sorry for her. Lol
Then she shouldn't have said she had forgiven him when she didn't. All she did was give Ross more false hope just to tear it away after he did all that for her. By the end they were both in the wrong. I would've respected Emily 10x more if she had stuck to her guns like she planned. What she did here is controlling and abusive, what Ross did was humiliating and cruel. At least what Ross did was a mistake, Emily was purposely being awful. Ross is a much better person between the two... Emily was trying to isolate him and he was so desperate for a successful marriage he refused to see it, that is where his fault lies. She was being completely unreasonable and psychotic. I can't believe people still stick up for her after all this time, It genuinely makes me question the character of those who do. On what planet, real or fictional, would that behavior be okay? Her requests are asinine.... especially when she asks him to abandon his son in order to move to London just so he wouldn't be able to see Rachel anymore. Yet somehow, "Emily isn't wrong here though." 🙄🙄🙄
@@bahma810 Ahh yes. "Let me call my ex, the one who took months to get over me, and get him and his feelings all confused again because I don't have the balls to back out of a marriage I'm unsure about so I'll make him do it for me!" Poor thing...
Helen Baxendale was the reason I named one of my four cats Emily. I loved her appearance on the screen, her elegant British accent, her amazing face... Of course, the character of Emily was a "not so fan to be with" person, but my cat is adorable.
I get where Emily is coming from but those were some ridiculous rules. Happy that Ross stood his ground. Also Emily is calling Rachel’s apartment… of course she’ll be there.
2:19 Similarly, Rachel asked for Ross's trust for Mark and he didn't give it to her. This incident should have made him realise how wrongly he behaved with Rachel
Emily was right though...Ross could never cut ties with Rachel...instead he could cut ties with his other girlfriends if they don't approve rachel as his friend...Ross actually loved Rachel only...that's the only reason he wanted to hang out with rachel no matter what..even if as friends
Lol for anyone who's been married or in a serious relationship, rachel sucks as a person but ross is just plain unfaithful. When it came to choose either, he chose Rachel's feelings first before his to-be wife
Anyone in a serious relationship or marriage would not have stayed with someone who literally said their ex who they know they had a chaotic breakup with’s name at their wedding. Emily was just taking her anger at Ross and being embarrassed on Rachel and Ross tbh. She should’ve left him after the wedding and at the bare minimum made him work out his feelings for Rachel and then maybe revisit things.
@Paolo Shyti we gotta admit, Rachel and Ross were getting into stuff as a knee jerk reaction to breaking up. Their break up was never really flushed out.
Dang, ya'll. How would you feel if your partner said their ex's name instead of yours at YOUR wedding in front of all your friends & family? Couple that with Rachel's awkward and obviously sad reaction to learning that Ross & Emily were engaged. Emily saw that, too, and knew Rachel still had feelings for Ross. Now imagine that your partner and that same ex hung out with each other practically every day. To my recollection, Emily was never jealous or insecure until she had reasons to be - and trying to trust someone who you don't trust is awful. I feel for her, truly, and I respect her for being able to say "No" when Ross asked her if she could trust him. Hopefully she found someone else whose hung-up exes weren't still in their lives.
If my imaginary husband wants to hang out with his ex (whom he still has feelings for) every single day , and his family and friends encourage it , I would be enraged and may be file for divorce. This type of fiasco is unacceptable in real life. It's the best to part ways as much peacefully as possible .
@@subratanandy2142 It's not that simple when the group is so close like they are. To stop seeing Rachel would be to stop seeing his sister and best friend. He isn't hanging out with Rachel he is at his sister's apartment she is just there. But after what Ross did it's pretty reasonable for Emily to act like that
After he said rachel’s name I would’ve walked off. No do overs none of that. She did this to herself. She literally embarrassed herself even more by still going through with the wedding
When Emily said she wants to know where Ross is all the time that’s a dead giveaway a relationship won’t work in the long run she needs to trust Ross and if she can’t well guess it’s not right
I understand where Emily is coming from but still she was way too controlling over Ross. Ross’s loyalty too his friends was incredible in this episode.
the amount of people in these comments justifying Emily's controlling behavior is scary. she didn't just ban this man from from ever seeing his childhood friend, which is bad enough-- she made him get rid of all his furniture and belongings. Insane. I don't blame her I sympathize with her, she was humiliated. I'm happy she realized at the end this was about trust issues and not necessarily about Rachel.
Deep down I feel like when Ross saw Rachel something inside made him realize he still loved her and that he was gonna make a mistake he said her name because he imagine it was Rachel not Emily
If your husband-to-be said another woman’s name during his vows and you saw him about to take that same woman on your honeymoon trip, you’d be upset too. Yet, Emily lost a lot of sympathy when she made all those unreasonable demands to Ross. Rachel was one thing, but she was separating him from all his friends, his family.
I love how the MINUTE someone is hurt in their group, they ALL IMMEDIATELY drop whatever they're doing and hug them through it.
They're friends.
@@nostalgic90s54 not every group of friends show this type of support
@@kimson305 most don’t :(
That’s what is called friendship
that's the whole point of the show "Someone to face the day with Make it through all the rest with"
I truly wonder why Emily didn't call off the wedding immediately after Ross said, " I take thee Rachel". That would've saved him from getting divorced again.
Pure shock. I've watched this show many times and always knew that point was when the marriage was screwed beyond repair, and I still don't know how I would have reacted in her situation.
She was shocked, didn’t know how to react. She didn’t want to bother the people there. That’s why just right after the wedding she flew away
Oh yea hell no I would've seriously walked off if that happened
Not to mention, the actress Helen Baxendale playing Emily was already pregnant with her first child at the time 😃
Becuz she was in love with ross and had little bit of hope for the future even after that
I understand where Emily is coming from but how can she be upset that Rachel is in her OWN apartment? Ridiculous.
Well maybe she tried Ross’s place first and since he didn’t pick up there and since he’s at Monica’s most of the time, it only makes sense to call Monica’s place.
@@tnvol2011 if she called Ross' place and found out that Rachel was there then it would be completely understandable that she be upset but she called Monica's place which is also Rachel's. People can really be unreasonable when hurting and frustrated I guess.
@@Anonymous-zq4yy yeah especially when that person screws up BIG TIME and is given two separate chances and still screws up each time. So whether she called Ross at his place or Monica’s, it wouldn’t have mattered as along as Rachel wasn’t around.
It's coz the writers wanted to end her character arc.
I guess she didnt know it was Rachel's apartment as well Rachel never told her that
Fun Fact: Emily's actress (Helen Baxendale) was supposed to have more time and story with Ross on the show, but she got pregnant and that's why the last scene we saw her she was in a bed and made sense to why the writers made the Ross and Emily storyline turn a full 180 so quickly.
Nothing against the actress but I saw enough of Emily.
Yeah I'm glad they didn't drag that storyline out any longer
I was literally thinking that her face looked a little more plump in this clip, and that they didn’t show her body, just focused on her face. Thanks for confirming! 👶🏻
Thank god
What an annoying char
I said the same thing and nobody believed me. You write it and mad people like your comment. The fuck kind of shit is this.
I mean, Emily. . .you called Monica's apartment. You know that Rachel is Monica's roommate. Is it REALLY that big a shock that she happens to be in her own apartment?
Being in her own apt is one thing but being in the same ROOM as Ross is another different situation.
@@tnvol2011 i mean what did she spect that she would be in her room while her friends hang out in the living room it makes no sense
@@pacm9744 No haha how could she know that Rachel would even be home? That's where the blame, once again, falls on Ross because Ross knew better and should have acted accordingly. If I were to say the wrong name at my wedding and my future wife forgives me TWICE!, then I pretty much owe her for life haha
Yah but he was with his sister's house. She cannot expect him to never go there
@@sidhant95640 Of course not. Im sure Emily would be ok with Ross going to Monica's, as long as Rachel wasn't there and as long as she could trust Ross to do the right thing to save his marriage and relationship with Emily. Rachel lost her chance with Ross when Emily said yes to Ross's proposal and when Rachel refused to go to the wedding.
Oh, yeah, the-there she is lol.
Haha 😂
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A more realistic and fair condition from Emily would be Ross can't be ALONE with Rachel. That would be easy to do and is very understandable. But its ridiculous to either 1. Say Ross can't go to Monica's because Rachel is there or 2. Say Rachel can't be in her own apartment
The point Emily was making was more about Ross cutting Rachel out of his life completely. Doesnt matter where she lives or what she does. And alotta ppl side with ross in the show but how many ppl would want their partners ex to still be in their life especially after finding out their partner still has a thing for them lmao
@@sharkisland5931 You're missing the point. Ross wasn't spending time with Rachel. He was having dinner with his sister at his sisters apartment. Rachel lives there too. Its ridiculous to say Ross either can't ever go to his sisters place or Rachel has to hide in her room if Ross is visiting Monica.
No actually she wanted Ross to send Rachel away and she even tried to go away as u can see
Whenever ross comes
@@hsd287 cause she LIVES with monica she can't leave her apartment
I love how Joey instantly realize that Rachel is not comfortable hearing Emily's call and comfort her immediately
Joey is best friend when it comes to comforting someone emotionally.other friends did materialistic favours to him
Emily was a complete stranger. Why did Ross marry a complete stranger in the first, second, and third place when he was in love with Rachel and had been for over 10 years?
@@Beth-ve7ob everyone is a stranger at some point, just depends how the connection and sparks fly and which you feel more inclined to pursue
As man. Lol. Love Joey
I like how Ross stood his ground
He was very mature here (at least, for his standards).
1) He felt bad for Rachel and decided she shouldn't be punished for his mistake.
2) He could have let Emily get away with that "better when I know where you at all the time" mentality, and try to cope with it once she came back. But he realized it would grow into bigger problems, so he put a stop to it before it was too late.
He did but the fault was his anyways
@@hsd287 if rachel hadnt come to london to say that, she would have never messed his head. it was partly her fault too!!
@@abhishekbharadwaj2867 LOL how is it her fault? All she did was come to the wedding. It was Ross who couldn't keep his feelings out of it ha
@@kbanghart well if you are using that against ross then you should also keep this same in mind that it was rachel "also"who couldn't keep her feelings out of all that so it's not just his fault 💁♀️
Emily's decision to go on with the wedding even after the " Take thee Rachel" fiasco led to this...she's not at fault for not trusting Ross here, but her trust was gone at the wedding and their marriage had gone down the drain that day itself.
yes that made no sense why would she still marry him after that
But asking him to cut a friend out of his life is ridiculous. It's not Rachel's fault. She shouldn't have gone through with the marriage.
@@jackiehansen2421 I mean she did technically go to his wedding to ruin it n tell him that she loved him. Also Rachel has always been really selfish.
@@anikamodani72 stfu what's up with people like you. She was invited to the wedding. She never said ross how she felt. Everything was ross and Emily's fault.
@@aayushisingh2090 Technically it's all their fault. And the reason Rachel said she wouldn't go was because, as she put it, it would make things complicated between them. But she did go... and she made things complicated. Nonetheless, when it comes to love you can't really blame people. Ross was trying to get over Rachel and he thought he could with Emily, but in the end he still would always love Rachel. Rachel told Ross many times for him to get over her, and yet she couldn't get over him. And Emily was in love with Ross, a man who already loved somebody else. Ross tried to convince Emily to make the marriage work out, which is the right call in any other case. But with them, it was just not something they could work out. Their marriage was not something that could be worked out considering that they never should've gotten married in the first place. But Ross was blinded by the illusion that he could love somebody else, and Emily was blinded by her own ego leading her to believe that she could make the marriage work by forcing Ross to change his entire life and by controlling him. For Ross it would've been devastating if Emily didn't agree to resolving their marriage. But she shouldn't have accepted. And eventually Ross would've gotten over her because... he never could love her as much as he wanted to....
I apologize for this small rant, but yeah. Love is complicated.
As likeable as they all are, imagine being humiliated at your wedding, like Emily was.
yep, she was 100% in the right for wanting ross to never see rachel again. he said her name at their wedding for gods sake ..
@@kailey1114 She is not 100% in the right that is Ross’s friend and that is a childhood friend to Monica. Emily was controlling and I’m glad she’s gone
@@Bibblesupremacy1992 bruh it was her WEDDING. LOL of course she has a right to be angry.
@@kbanghart She has a right to be angry, of course she does. Anyone would be but it is definitely unreasonable for Emily to ask for Ross to never see Rachel again. Of course she wouldn’t want them alone together but Rachel is part of Ross’ friendship group that he sees daily. She lives with his sister who he always visits and she lives across the hall from 2 of his best friends. It would be impossible for him to never see her. Also her asking this of him wasn’t just impacting him, it was making life difficult for Joey, Monica (her sister in law), Chandler and Phoebe. Also Rachel but I doubt she’d care about that.
Also it isn’t the not wanting him to be with Rachel that shows her to be controlling it’s more of her asking Ross to uproot his entire life and wanting to know where he would be all the time.
Ross definitely messed up but Emily was definitely showing controlling behaviour and in the end Ross probably would’ve been miserable.
@@izzyIND29 agreed 💯
Friends is like a sitcom that will be there for you, like a real friend !
Well they DO say it in the song
@@antoinechahwane7686 and TH-cam has continued to let us have it LOL
It's not like a sitcom..it is a sitcom
I don't know why but i didn't find it too good, i find it overrated and also himym, those are good no doubt, but not that good like everyone says, in my opinion, everyone else opinion can be different from mine, that's not a problem
Friends are not like this in real life my dude!
i love when joey says “i think everything’s going ok”
Actually, everything did go okay in spite of the people who wrote this.
Listen I’m not blaming emily for not liking Rachel and I could understand her saying they shouldn’t hang out one on one. But Rachel lives with Ross’s sister. He quite literally can’t just kick her out of her own apartment because she doesn’t like them seeing each other. That’s his sister and it’s unfair for her to expect him to not see Rachel sometimes when that’s the situation
It's not just this that is problematic. Ross admitted that he has been isolating himself from his friends. It makes me wonder if Emily got angry and vile with Ross when he wanted to be with his family. Once a person starts isolating you from your friends and family, that is the time you get out. If the roles were reversed and Ross was a woman married to a man who made that phone call, would you say you understand where they were coming from?
I think Emily just wanted an excuse to end the relationship.
Don't forget that Ross had been in love with Rachel since he was a teenager. He never stopped loving Rachel. He barely knew Emily. This was badly written from beginning to end. If men are as fickle as Ross was, there would be no successful marriages in the world.
theres a lott of people are blaming or judging hele baxandale and those people
are idiots or cowards in real live by the scrpit from the yetti episode cant be perfect at any way
"Ross knows better by now" - saying that to him would be enough to break up in my opinion.
I think the wrong name at the altar should've done it to be fair 😂
@@jasoncharles-nelson4132 touche
I like how in the reunion, both David and Jennifer agreed that their characters would be married to each other :)
@@kbanghart I love how they also both agreed that they were on a break!
@@jasoncharles-nelson4132 To be fair, even Rachel said that they were on a break. The conflict is what are the rules of a break.
am i the only one who thought ross’s hair was great in this season
I DID TOO
yup you’re the only one
It really was.
Yes he was so handsome with this hair😍
I agree.... I got heart eyes for Ross
Joey smiling and frowning when Ross turned around was way too funny 💀
Hilarious
Yeah shit had me dying 😭 it was so random but fit joeys character so well
😂
For someone who is going through a rough break-up, this scene, the shivering, the 'that's it' hits real close to home!
My wife and I went through a separation, same here I feel that
@@kbanghart please take care, just don't lose hope. And trust that the time would be better soon!
@@samarthkumar1287 thank you! Yes we reconciled and next year will be our 25th year of marriage.
@@kbanghart so happy for you :)
I love how Chandler says "Oh yeah, there she is!" XD Chandler is the best!
Ross messed up his marriage by marrying Emily too fast. He was still not over Rachel obviously so it is not Emily's fault to mistrust him. He always makes decisions in a haste that includes sleeping around immediately after "breaking up" with Rachel. His current life is a consequence of his bad decisions unfortunately.
Oh god I need help, this is just a TV show but I am so invested. LOL
The best comment I have read. He proposes to her within months of meeting her.
Invested? As you should be lol
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I agree with you, it's one thing to say Rachel did this and that, but Ross was the one who kissed Rachel before breaking up with Julie, and Bonnie and Ross was the one who said Rachel at the wedding. He also got drunk in frof Charlie.
@@rasputin774 Haha. Makes it even worse. Thanks 😊
@@rasputin774 my point exactly .ross and emily was just a time extender in my mind.in the ross was with rachel so it proves emily and ross was not supposed work at all.
We all love the 6 of them together but let’s be honest that in real life we all understand Emily. Ross and Rachel are in this definite on-off toxic relationship that no new partner of either of them will feel comfortable knowing they are still that close.
This is such a Great Rachel and Ross moment. It shows that Rachel was willing to do anything to make Ross happy and Ross diddnt want to lose Rachel😭😭
If so.. He shouldn’t have brought Emily to this mess
The "Emily arc" was a waste of time , it only served to keep Ross and Rachel apart for more time ( like a lot of characters on the show ) , at least made Ross get funnier as the series progressed
It's meant to be funny not a coherent storyline what would you have proposed they done instead?
it wasn't waste of time, it led to Ross' second divorce. many iconic jokes were based on his failed marriages
They obviously done wrong you met her a week ago don't know anything about her and still gonna marry her this makes no sense
@@italianodblaugrana3842 Honestly they shoulda stay together since 2nd season and create funny and drama moments as a couple
@@qarcon3247 nah that would of been boring some of the best episodes involve the men and women who ross and rachel date while they're apart
I love how they all gathered around Ross to comfort him, they really all are true friends
They were more than friends; they were family.
When I first watched this as a teenager I thought Emily was straight up crazy. Now, in my early 30s I understand where she's coming from. Ross is really putting her in a very difficult position by continuing to see Rachel behind her back. Also, turns out she wasn't paranoid because they actually did end up together.
Correct. Yet she decided to continue the wedding despite the whole “Take thee Rachel” fiasco. So really she should’ve ended it there. Would’ve solved a lot of problems, and possibly a divorce.
@@ramiroaguirre3411 she was on the spot and couldn't make that decision so quickly in the midst of emotions like that. Nobody makes great choices That emotionally and she had no time to reflect yet, just panic lol
He wasn't seeing Rachel. They were lifelong friends and she was his sister's best friend. Plus, that was a codependent friend group so all would be affected by it. Emily was being a controlling jackass....after going thru that sham of a wedding. No matter how people try to justify it, who gets married after THAT fuckup? Her and Ross should never have made it to marriage in the first place. No sizzle there.
I must be overly tired but Ross turning around to see Joey smiling then frowning then smiling is killing me right now lmao
Is the best part 😂😂😂😂😂😂
"Ugly naked guy" should have been in the reunion
Ive seen u comment in another one of these vids
Lol
I KNOW!!
Why? He was never even in the show.
@@Eleanor-Freya it was a joke
One thing I really love about this scene is Rachel isn't all "oh I'm so sorry it's totally my fault" cause it damn well isn't! I love her confidence and that the series made sure to clear that it isn't the other girl's fault that the marriage fell apart
Well it kind of is. He never would have said her name if she didn't show up right before the wedding.
@@OHCAM5 she can't control his feelings for her. It would've been her fault if she'd told him she still loved him before the wedding but she did the right thing and kept her mouth shut. He said her name anyway. That's not on her
@@swarada994 Again it kind of is. She told him she wouldn't go and went for literally crash the wedding. He was stupid for saying her name but that wouldn't have happened if she didn't show up literally minutes before the wedding.
@@OHCAM5 who's to say it wouldn't have? He had unresolved feelings for her regardless of whether she was there or not
@@OHCAM5 he said Rachel's name because of himself, because of his feelings for Rachel. Not because of anybody else.
It's crazy how people are still bashing Emily as if Ross didn't push their relationship too fast and tell her to give up her whole life in London to live with him. Her wanting Rachel gone wasn't unreasonable; he set up that precedent
Really like the fact that Joey was with him helping him out with the others. That is what friends is all about a great storyline
I hated how they wrote the whole Emily storyline, it was such a mess. All the characters involved deserved better.
Emily and ross supposed to happen but she got pregnate, so creator has to change it and broke them up
all the mess was made by Ross. He is a big mess himself. If I was Emily I would not have agreed to be in a serious with Ross from the beginning. So it was Emily's mistake too. She chose to be in that situation even though she knew about Ross and Rachel's history. There are many good men out there, not Ross is the only man on this earth. Jesus women!
@@dhavalp22 yes exactly
@@maithuybui8350 Ross? All the characters were a mess they just kept fooling around and causing problems like kids I mean yes its funny but in real life nobody would behave like that even in the 90s
@@hsd287 hahaha, actually my ex acted like that. He kept fooling around with his female coworkers and female friends
Am I the only one who feels so bad for Emily? Imagine hearing your husband saying another woman's name at your own wedding, I would feel shattered. Emily has all the right to be upset at Ross, plus they are married and Emily has the right to be closer with Ross more than he is with Rachel.
She brought this on to herself. The moment Ross said Rachel’s name, she should’ve realized his true feelings. She married him knowing he loved Rachel. I see this as a way of tying someone to a relationship.
Emily was indeed the victim up to the moment she started treating Ross like her Marionette.
She should've left him the moment he said the wrong name. But she stayed around to "work on the relationship" robbed him of his stability, his apartment, his job, and almost his friends and family just to feel secure. When that plan didn't work she just left. And he was at the lowest point of his life after that.
While I understand that her anger and hurt are valid, she wasn't fair nor reasonable and that made her guilty too.
@@btsarmyzona8541 she was willing to give the marriage a try, Ross promised her he would fix the marriage but broke it quickly
"You obviously can't keep away from her" Emily summarized ten years in one sentence without even living in the same continent. She was too intelligent and mature to notice the whole story. Ross wasn't ready for a marriage at all, neither knew himself enough. His destiny was always Rachel, and when they both were ready, they finally became a solid couple. Emily had no need to play the rol of "collateral damage" during the process and she just knew it.
@@merykhan97 agreed!!
I could understand Emily's feelings when she asked Ross not to see Rachel, I mean that is understandable after he said "Rachel" his ex-girlfriend's name at the wedding and trying to catch their honeymoon flight with the same girl. Until She went totally CRAZY and asked him to sell all his furniture and move to a new place that is very far from his work
Oh yes because asking your partner to move from one country to another so you could live together and start married life in the same place is totally crazy but controlling who he can and can't see it not? Emily has no right to keep Ross and Rachel apart, this only reflects on her lack of trust, without trust the marriage is over anyway. Although we are alluding to fictional characters all women should take note here, we can't and should not control the actions of a man, if he truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will always do what is right by you. If he doesn't, then leave him, have some dignity and find yourself someone who truly loves you not pretending to get over there Ex like Ross was. Ultimately the heart wants what the heart wants, your feelings will always catch up with you so Ross would have ended up leaving Emily for Rachel anyway.
@@hya958 (...)if he truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will always do what is right by you.(...) like say for example say your name at the altar and not some exes name?
@@rksworld4405 Exactly, he said Rachel's name at the altar because obviously he was still in love with her. I don't think Ross actually wanted to get married, he was just doing it to spite Rachel or to get over her... which clearly didn't work.
@@hya958 i actualy was refering to emily. the fact that u thought it was aboutrachel says everything
@@rksworld4405 Ross didn't do what was right by Emily because he simply didn't love her enough. I don't know what point you're trying to make here...
LOL the smiling and frowning part gets me everytime!
Ikr Joey is so funny omg 😆🤣😂
David ( Ross ) was hot during this season , especially with this long hair
@Vivienne Perez I would say he have a perfect body among the three as well.
I'll forever associate long haired Ross with the infamous sandwich meltdown
@@jasoncharles-nelson4132 psycho Ross is the best Ross
If the relationship had ended up the momment Ross said Rachel at the wedding ,then it would had been his fault, but she went with it and even considered taking him back, so, is not like she didn't know what she was getting into
As if love and life are math problems fitting only certain equations 😅
I don’t understand why Emily would want to stay married with Ross if she just absolutely cannot trust him. It’s like she wants to rule him.
Betrayal does this. It turns ppl insecure. Prob loved ross so much if she could just get rid of rachel than it be happy ending.. but ross couldnt let go.
She wanted to she even called him back but it was too late Ross and Rachel really loved each other too much for that they simply had to be together there was nothing she could do
She didn't want to stay married but Ross kept begging her
I know, that's ridiculous.
Yes, if one cannot trust their partner, there's no use being in a relationship and you dont have to quit your life for a spouse, a spouse that wants that is crazy and not worth it
People don’t like Emily but I don’t think she was in the wrong entirely. I don’t know how you can expect anyone to not have issues with trust when they’ve said their ex girlfriend’s name during your wedding vows. Yes, she can’t expect to have complete control over Ross at all times but you can’t blame her for wanting to after that, it’s only natural and I just felt bad for Emily when I first watched it rather than villainising her.
Well I guess you and I are the only people with a good conscience amongst all the friends fan base
And the fact that NO ONE is blaming that Selfish b*tch Rachel for anything is WILD
The fact that she has trust issues with someone she just married is more of a sign to walk away. Taking away the source of the mistrust does not build trust back.
I love Ross and when they all hug him at the end ❤️
Me too because Phoebe, Joey, Monica, Rachel, and Chandler will be there for Ross.
Ugly Naked Guy: Back at it
Matt: Could not Care Less!
Who is Matt?
03:18+03:19+03:20+03:21+03:22+03:24
Matt okays joey how is he not caring ?
Realistically, Emily has a point. She realised that Ross has a soft corner for Rachael. He loves her. Emily is totally right.
Then she should've said that from the start. She put Ross through so many obstacles just for her to gain a false sense of power in the relationship, only to say in the eleventh hour "I'll feel better when I'm there, so I can know where you are all the time." Ma'am, please! If that's what she truly wanted, she would've been there weeks earlier. No! She ran off. Hid away. Dodged his phone calls. Refused his gifts. Emily should've just ended the relationship.
That’s a controlling psycho, good riddance!
Joey in @0:39 that looks at Rachel and touch her arm 🥺
"How could you dou this tou mei, I tot I'd made my feelings abot rachel perfectlei cleirrr"
You spelt "pefeckly cleeya" wrong ...
maybe you should express yourself more respectful
@@ikoyDaPnoy Hahahahah my bad.
@@Ryan-pg1tw If you watch the entire show there is a lot of "disrespectful" moment and they even make a joke of the accent. Yet still they got a lot of fans from England. So if you find that disrespectful that's not my problem.
@@Ryan-pg1tw he's not disrespecting he's just pointing out her accent and how differently she pronounces it as compared to the Americans
2:47 this scene😂😂❤
So funny 😂
Anyone else realize Joey sitting on the green ottoman, where Monica didn’t like it
This is the kind of situation that has no fair solution besides a break-up/divorce, because no matter which way you turn it, someone is going to feel unhappy or uncomfortable. If the trust is gone, Emily will never feel comfortable in her marriage knowing that her husband is still hanging out with his ex-girlfriend (love of his life) and Ross will never be happy tossing Rachel out of his life. Neither one is wrong. It's just that both their needs are completely at odds and neither one should have to sacrifice their peace of mind, that's not what a healthy marriage is built on.
You’ll never know why this comment has so many likes...
Exactly, it's ridiculous, hahaha.
It’s technically Monica’s apartment.
@@Conmon115 true
@@Conmon115 but Rachel lived there.
She knew Ross was going to be one of two places. Home or Monica's. Some of this dialog was silly.
So I don’t blame Emily for being pissed at Ross (she was humiliated in front of all of her loved ones at her own wedding, why wouldn’t she be mad) and I thought she was in the right for awhile. However, when she started the whole “isolate him from his friend” emotional abuse thing, she lost all of my respect. He made a dumb mistake, not to mention the fact that Rachel should not have been punished like this.
CHILL
I get that it’s just tv show and while I do agree that Emily could have called off the wedding and shouldn’t have went overboard and trusted Ross, if I was in her situation, I’m not gonna lie, I would feel a little bit weird about Rachel. She is his ex, he said her name at the altar, he hangs out with her everyday, he even tried to go on their honeymoon with Rachel right when Emily was gonna forgive Ross and go with him. Emily liked Rachel at first. I can understand why Emily felt the way she did. If I was Ross, I wouldn’t have stopped seeing Rachel but for the time being, maybe try limiting my time with Rachel (I don’t see why he couldn’t just not hang out with her alone and with the group of friends and her instead) and explained everything to Emily. Then again, Ross and Emily did rush into their marriage. Idk. These are just my personal opinions.
@@MariaRincon22 agreed. They were together for like two episodes and suddenly they got married, that marriage was a disaster waiting to happen. I do get your point, though
Honestly, I didn't blame her for wanting him to end his friendship with Rachel. I don't know too many people who would be cool with their SO being best friends with someone they've slept with multiple times & had a strong history with. That would make anyone uncomfortable.
It's not emotional abuse. It's called having healthy boundaries. Honestly you people sound like those that treat others like doormats.
I think people are forgetting that ross attempted to go on his honeymoon with rachel too😂 it was many things that led emily to being this crazy and its sad because she was in love with him and just kept trying desperately but soon realized at the end of the day that she would always feel insecure about rachel. I totally get it
1:25 Chandler always being funny to break awkward moments
For me, it's not Rachel's fault. She went there to confess to Ross that she still loves him and apparently stop the wedding. However, after seeing how happy Ross was, she just congratulated him instead. It was Ross who said the wrong name, meaning the woman in front of him is not the woman in his mind that he would take as a wedded wife. Or it could be a slip of tongue too. But either way, Emily won't act that way if Ross make that mistake.
It's not her fault but she's still a terrible person for trying though and the point is at the end she got what she wanted anyway!
I'm a girl and I didn't like Emily either - she was just there to keep Ross and Rachel apart more, it's obvious, and in the end, Ross said ''Rachel'' at the altar, because that was his subconscious - he always loved Rachel and she was always on his mind, it was stronger than him.
He said Rachel because she showed up out of nowhere right before the ceremony. True he still had feelings for her but they wouldn't have come up if she wasn't there.
Agreed. I’m also a girl and I didn’t like her arc. The only reason for it was to keep Ross and Rachel (obviously endgame) apart. She had every right to be upset but the second she started demanding that he cut Rachel out of his life entirely, I lost every ounce of respect for her. The episodes post-wedding were when she showed her true colors (emotional abuse).
@@OHCAM5 then it would have been better if she called off the wedding than have a husband who still has feelings for his ex.
The show went on for 10 seasons, They couldn't pair them together so fast. They needed drama and space for storylines. None of it was really a waste like so many people say. Space is needed.
I never liked that Emily character, she could not trust Ross even just hanging out with his friends and she is jealous of Rachel, I'm glad that relationship ended, I've always loved Ross and Rachel together
Poor Ross I liked Emily but her insecurity and Ross relationship with Rachel was too much it's great that this way they were both happier ❤👍🏻
I was so happy when Ross first started going out with Emily. Thought we'd finally see him move on and continue to have a healthy friendly relationship with Rachel. The sudden change in Emily & Ross mixing up names or even Rachel getting hung up about the wedding made no sense at the time.
They had to write the Emily actress out of the show, so they cooked up that story! It wasn't supposed to be like this.
@@GorgeousWDattitude I know, but it didn't have to be this way. I think bringing back the Rachel-Ross dynamic was a mistake.
@@Smd3580 unpopular opinion but I agree.
If Ross never married Emily, then Chandler and Monica would have never ended up together 😍
@@MariaRincon22 they could have gotten Chandler and Monica a different way.
"i have to know where you are all the time"
that is a MAJOR red flag
One of the biggest
Helen Baxendale's acting with her body, her tone and inflection were PERFECT when she says, "I'll feel better when I know where you are all the time." It tells me she felt very insecure and vulnerable in the situation and was being controlling out of fear and less about being a "punishing" controlling person.
Omg I love them when I watch them I feel like there my actual friends
I love how Joey immediately put his hand on Rachel’s arm to comfort her.
I can see where she’s coming from. I mean it’s humiliating and heartbreaking when your partner still loves their ex that they still regularly hang out with from time to time. He said Rachel’s name at the altar.
Sure I hated that Rachel decided to go despite saying she won’t to tell Ross he love her, but she did the right thing and kept her mouth shut when she saw how happy he was.
He might have been caught off guard with her there but to me he wouldn’t have said her name if he didn’t still have any lingering feelings for her. That was more on him than her.
She’s extremely insecure. Just like Ross was when he was with Rachel the first time and all jealous because he was still insecure from his marriage with Carol.
But… she was being unreasonable. Rachel lives in his sister’s apartment. Rachel is best friends with his friends.
I can understand “don’t be ALONE with Rachel. But it would be near impossible never seeing Rachel again unless he either cuts out his sister and all his friends or his friends and sister cut out Rachel. Neither of which they’re willing to do.
Side note: a lot of these Ross fiascos to me are results of poor decision making. Sleeping with someone less than 24 hrs after breaking up not breaking up with Rachel, kissing Rachel impulsively before breaking up with Julie and Bonnie, marrying Emily soooo soon…
Aw man now that I'm older I realize Emily called and asked "who am I talking to" solely because she needed to know if Rachel was there. Yeesh.
I love the dailogue "You can help me get my furniture back from gunther".
Ross: My marriage is over
Everyone: another one?
So I'm the only one that felt bad for Rachel when she got up to leave? I would have felt sooo bad if I wasn't welcome to hang out with my friends in my own apartment and his girlfriend says that on speaker to the rest of my friends. Joey's face when she gets up too is like come on now...😭😭😭.
Yes and thats why it's her fault completely... Why the hell did she go to London to ruin his wedding
yeah the fact that it was her own apt made it so much sadder
@@sreelakshmiramadas2392 even if she didnt go he still would've said her name. Rachel never told ross that she still loved him before the wedding, it was ross' fault not rachels. she got an invitation to go to the wedding anyway
@@simpysompywomb5470 no, Ross said her name because he got flustered by seeing her there. Have you even watched the show?
@@jyotiradityasatpathy3546 twice, and explain how it was because he was flustered from seeing her there? He didn’t even look at her before saying her name. Whether she went or not he still would’ve said her name. She didn’t ruin the wedding, she never forced him to say her name, he did it all by himself. The lengths you Ross fans go to to defend him is actually astonishing
1:27 "Ross, take me off the speakerphone
Hi"
The way ross said "hi" was hilarious
A wise man once said , " You got married too fast." Plain and simple.
Emily & Ross had a sweet relationship. It's too bad they couldn't just recast the role. Rachel & Ross had a strong history & slept together "298 times" lol....I think most people would feel a bit uncomfortable with that friendship & kind of history, so I didn't blame Emily.
The bigger point is that Ross was always in love with Rachel and had been since he was a teenager. Emily never stood a chance. The writers were always cruel to write these storylines when there was no vision of Ross with anyone other than Rachel.
@@Beth-ve7ob From what I understand, Ross and Emily were supposed to be long term or at least last another season. The actress, Helen Baxendale, became pregnant and didn't want to stay in America and she wasn't treated that well by the fans. I do wonder what the writers had planned for Ross/Emily had she stayed.....? Would they have kept them together or would they have eventually split them up to appease R&R fans. I loved Schwimmer/Aniston's chemistry, but I hated the writing for R&R. It was so frustrating.
2:55 Joey being a mess to break tension
Idk why but Joey smiling and frowning through the window at Ross makes me die laughing every time.
Ross got funnier after he and Rachel broke up. To me he was hella boring in the first two seasons. I did like him in season 3 but after he and Rachel broke up. He became fun and when Emily came around he was funnier. I loved the Emily episodes. She was cool in the beginning but then they made her bitchy I was like nope. Bye bye lol
My analysis is before he dated Rachel he was actually much more preserved (probably still upset about splitting up with Carol) and more calculating. Yes it made him boring too. After dating Rachel (and after breaking up with her as well) he was much more adventurous and expressive with himself, even going so far as to having a “rage problem”. He was even more fun and took more risks, but unfortunately for him it also got him into a lot of unlucky situations (i.e. stuck in his leather pants, getting a failed tan, etc). But of course this meant more entertainment for the audience!
A woman will be bitchy if she goes through Ross-Rachel situation . Perfectly understandable
@@subratanandy2142 Understandable if you get upset if somebody says the wrong name at a wedding yes. Understandable to demand a whole friend group stop seeing a core member of their group just so rachel and Ross dont bump into each other? Not understandable. She is pretty much pushing not just for ross, but all of them to not hang with Rachel if they still want to see Ross and vice versa which is unreasonable. You either forgive somebody for a slip up and move on, or you dont and break up. You dont make weird demands that are unfair to a group of people. Monica Chandler Joey and Phoeby also got dragged into her drama this way. If Ross and rachel want to remain friends, they should be able to do so as well. I will never support any women, or man for that matter, demaning their lovers dont see certain people alone even if they are an ex. You either trust your partner, or you dont. If you trust your partner, you would trust them with anyone. If you dont, dont be in a relationship with them. Simple enough. And if you trust them, and they do end up cheating on you, that just means they are not right for you anyway. It does NOT mean you should be stricter next time. If they cant be faithfull to you by choice, they are not somebody you should be involved with. If you lose them, you lose them. That can be horrible, but better in the long term. But dont try to control them, ever. Thats just misery for everyone involved.
I think they would've kept Emily around longer and not made her so bitchy, if the actress hadn't found out she was pregnant.
@@lunalove9395 thats not the reason why they wrote her off the show. The reason why they wrote her off the show cuz she didn't want to raise her kid in the states. She wanted to stay back in London. It had nothing to do with the pregnancy. They would have worked it out with her hiding behind couches and holding stuff like Lisa kudrow did in the show before they had her character pregnant as well. It was cuz Helen didn't want to do the show in the states cuz of her new baby. Too bad I liked Emily. She was cool character.
Ross is such a good person when he said Rachel is hea ❤❤❤❤❤❤ very heart touching
He's also a 🤡 who can't make up his mind 😭
Emily is not wrong here though. It's Ross's fault. Imagine the humiliation she felt when ross said Rachel's name at her wedding!! It's her way of punishing ross, it's overdone but we can't expect anyone to be sane after what happened.
She is partly to blame. Should have stopped the wedding.
@@janinealderete2633 that's the right thing to do, yes. But i think she was too shaken from what happened and couldn't think straight.
And do you all remember what she did later? Calling Ross on the eve of her second marriage and asking him whether they broke up too soon.
Yep, I feel sorry for her. Lol
Then she shouldn't have said she had forgiven him when she didn't. All she did was give Ross more false hope just to tear it away after he did all that for her. By the end they were both in the wrong. I would've respected Emily 10x more if she had stuck to her guns like she planned. What she did here is controlling and abusive, what Ross did was humiliating and cruel. At least what Ross did was a mistake, Emily was purposely being awful.
Ross is a much better person between the two... Emily was trying to isolate him and he was so desperate for a successful marriage he refused to see it, that is where his fault lies. She was being completely unreasonable and psychotic. I can't believe people still stick up for her after all this time, It genuinely makes me question the character of those who do. On what planet, real or fictional, would that behavior be okay? Her requests are asinine.... especially when she asks him to abandon his son in order to move to London just so he wouldn't be able to see Rachel anymore. Yet somehow, "Emily isn't wrong here though." 🙄🙄🙄
@@bahma810 Ahh yes.
"Let me call my ex, the one who took months to get over me, and get him and his feelings all confused again because I don't have the balls to back out of a marriage I'm unsure about so I'll make him do it for me!"
Poor thing...
Helen Baxendale was the reason I named one of my four cats Emily. I loved her appearance on the screen, her elegant British accent, her amazing face...
Of course, the character of Emily was a "not so fan to be with" person, but my cat is adorable.
I absolutely couldn't STANT her on the show. So glad they didn't drag it on. She just didn't fit.
Loved her in "Cold Feet."
One look from Rachel = Emily
He won't trade rachel for you 😉
I get where Emily is coming from but those were some ridiculous rules. Happy that Ross stood his ground.
Also Emily is calling Rachel’s apartment… of course she’ll be there.
Chandler made this show - He's the best.
i want friends like them...i just want ....something real and true....😢💙
If Joey did those faces as I was waking up in the morning, I wouldn’t be frightened lol
💫Emily's accent💫
Am i the only one who thinks that it was so funny when joey was waiting for ross to turn around while smiling 😂😂😂
2:19 Similarly, Rachel asked for Ross's trust for Mark and he didn't give it to her. This incident should have made him realise how wrongly he behaved with Rachel
Emily was right though...Ross could never cut ties with Rachel...instead he could cut ties with his other girlfriends if they don't approve rachel as his friend...Ross actually loved Rachel only...that's the only reason he wanted to hang out with rachel no matter what..even if as friends
omg!! look at Matthew and Courteney in the first seconds :))) i’m melting
Friends would be so much different with cell phones lol
Love how ross firmly says rachel is here..
Lol for anyone who's been married or in a serious relationship, rachel sucks as a person but ross is just plain unfaithful. When it came to choose either, he chose Rachel's feelings first before his to-be wife
He was being honest
It’s a show and it was in the script. Calm down
Anyone in a serious relationship or marriage would not have stayed with someone who literally said their ex who they know they had a chaotic breakup with’s name at their wedding. Emily was just taking her anger at Ross and being embarrassed on Rachel and Ross tbh. She should’ve left him after the wedding and at the bare minimum made him work out his feelings for Rachel and then maybe revisit things.
I get where she came from, but it's still shitty of Emily to put him in that position
@Paolo Shyti we gotta admit, Rachel and Ross were getting into stuff as a knee jerk reaction to breaking up. Their break up was never really flushed out.
I mean, she has a point. But the wanting to know where he was at all times is too much.
Dang, ya'll. How would you feel if your partner said their ex's name instead of yours at YOUR wedding in front of all your friends & family? Couple that with Rachel's awkward and obviously sad reaction to learning that Ross & Emily were engaged. Emily saw that, too, and knew Rachel still had feelings for Ross. Now imagine that your partner and that same ex hung out with each other practically every day. To my recollection, Emily was never jealous or insecure until she had reasons to be - and trying to trust someone who you don't trust is awful. I feel for her, truly, and I respect her for being able to say "No" when Ross asked her if she could trust him. Hopefully she found someone else whose hung-up exes weren't still in their lives.
She put herself through that though. She never should have married him after he said Rachel's name
If my imaginary husband wants to hang out with his ex (whom he still has feelings for) every single day , and his family and friends encourage it , I would be enraged and may be file for divorce. This type of fiasco is unacceptable in real life. It's the best to part ways as much peacefully as possible .
@@subratanandy2142 It's not that simple when the group is so close like they are. To stop seeing Rachel would be to stop seeing his sister and best friend. He isn't hanging out with Rachel he is at his sister's apartment she is just there. But after what Ross did it's pretty reasonable for Emily to act like that
After he said rachel’s name I would’ve walked off. No do overs none of that. She did this to herself. She literally embarrassed herself even more by still going through with the wedding
@@arianajean4499 this!!!
2:00 WELL thank you internet and smartphones for fkn that up
When Emily said she wants to know where Ross is all the time that’s a dead giveaway a relationship won’t work in the long run she needs to trust Ross and if she can’t well guess it’s not right
Don’t forget Emily was with Colin when she hooked up for two weeks with Ross why is she acting so holier than thou?
3:16 It's nice to have friends like this
Emily is not wrong for feeling frustrated that Rachel is there and not trusting Ross....he'd have cheated on her anyways
I understand where Emily is coming from but still she was way too controlling over Ross. Ross’s loyalty too his friends was incredible in this episode.
the amount of people in these comments justifying Emily's controlling behavior is scary. she didn't just ban this man from from ever seeing his childhood friend, which is bad enough-- she made him get rid of all his furniture and belongings. Insane. I don't blame her I sympathize with her, she was humiliated. I'm happy she realized at the end this was about trust issues and not necessarily about Rachel.
Deep down I feel like when Ross saw Rachel something inside made him realize he still loved her and that he was gonna make a mistake he said her name because he imagine it was Rachel not Emily
Why couldn't Ross tell Emily it is Rachel's apartment? OK moot - or shall I say moo - point. 😆 🤣
If your husband-to-be said another woman’s name during his vows and you saw him about to take that same woman on your honeymoon trip, you’d be upset too.
Yet, Emily lost a lot of sympathy when she made all those unreasonable demands to Ross. Rachel was one thing, but she was separating him from all his friends, his family.
This never gets old!
Rachel: "Ross, is there anything I can do?"
Me: "No, Rachel! You have done enough!"
but Rachel wasn't to blame here, she didn't force Ross to say her name at the alter did she.
Joey expressions made my day 😁😁
I just watched this for the joey bit with the faces 😂 its my favourite bit in the whole 10 series