Thank you so much. I’m dealing with anxiety when working and in life in general, and that I always feel the need to prove myself and show that capable. This video helped a lot and gave me strength💕 I feel so much calmer!
So much of my habits and things i do every day is for me to get better. Ive become obsessed with being better and improved. I still chase after people. I still look for their opinion. I still try to be perfect. Its so hard to admit when im wrong. The majority of my day and my life is wrapped around proving myself. I got so many bad habits to undo.
I've always had this want to prove myself to everyone. That I'm good, I know what I'm doing and that I am very competent. It's very tiring. I'm very very tired. And I think my hardworks aren't getting me anything. I'm still a nobody.
Hey Henri I just recently had an experience where I tried to prove myself. It started off with this girl I was interested in telling me that I can come off as judgmental. Being the very self-conscious person I am I take offense to that. The reason I take offense is because I've dealt with many people who made me feel bad about myself, including my dad and grandpa. I was always on the defensive with them. So anyways with this girl I would try to prove myself right in front of her. I would say look Im not judgmental I have lots of friends and people I talk to. I know notice that this came off as if I were rubbing it in her face and showing her that she was wrong. A week later she lost interest and we came to a mutual decision to go separate ways. There was no hard feelings but I did realize I owed her an apology and I'm actually thankful that I discovered this insecurity of mine. I no longer need to prove myself, I just need to be myself.
Very insightful, Taylor. Thanks for sharing that. Another benefit of not trying to prove yourself is that you save so much energy. It's exhausting trying to convince people :)
Easter you can be yourself, do what you normally do and don’t impress others! Play some music, drink some beer and watch TV! Don’t worry what others are saying about you!
its not always my thoughts one time i lost a job to someone else in an interview its not just what i think of myself and how i judge me but how others judge me
Do you constantly try to prove that you're good enough? Do you work too hard, think too much? Do you force yourself to 'work on yourself'? Then you may want to watch this.
What if I tried for too long to prove to the point I forgot myself and who I am. So now I don’t know what I even like, I don’t feel drawn to anything or feel in general... Any advice
Easy (easier said than done, I know) You must go back to find your way forward. Bring out your inner kid. The one who used to laugh and sing and dance! Bring out your curious, playful side! Watch videos on child development and see how alive kids are. How they live in the moment. How they explore how thier bodies interact with the world. Also realize we are a product of our environment. Our culture. Are you a Chinese woman living in China? A man born in Russia but raised in America? We all have identities that help shape our lives and interests. How many different cultures can you enjoy, understand and relate to?
I lived in a big city and have had many experiences in varied aspects of life. I am 29 and now I live in a small town and find when interacting with people and sharing experiences they either don't believe me or think I am trying to impress them. I tried watering down my experiences that just made me depressed. I feel I need to elevate the people I am surrounded by and leave the small town mentality. Any tips?
NME10E from my perspective you don't have to impress anyone in other for him or her likes you. just be yourself and love yoursef the right folks will notice you're worthy ok...... don't be had on yourself
That is an interesting question. You could perhaps start with exploring why you're doing that. Keep asking why, and write out any and all explanations that pop up. Then write out the pro's and con's of doing what you do. That might be a good start. Explore and see what you find :)
Never stop being better! Don't let this get you down. We can always improve. Why are Grandparents typically better than they were as parents? This is a terrible message.
4:08 "Your thoughts do not hold power over you" What a sentence man I love it
It’s weird but I want to prove myself to my own self
thank you
Great video I need this right now, thank you! You seem like such a kind guy
Thank you so much. I’m dealing with anxiety when working and in life in general, and that I always feel the need to prove myself and show that capable. This video helped a lot and gave me strength💕 I feel so much calmer!
Just took a look at your videos read the title of each of them felt like u were tracing my life man, feel good to know I wasn’t crazy
So much of my habits and things i do every day is for me to get better. Ive become obsessed with being better and improved. I still chase after people. I still look for their opinion. I still try to be perfect. Its so hard to admit when im wrong. The majority of my day and my life is wrapped around proving myself. I got so many bad habits to undo.
Truly love the messages in this video, thank you for sharing your thoughts
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I've always had this want to prove myself to everyone. That I'm good, I know what I'm doing and that I am very competent. It's very tiring. I'm very very tired. And I think my hardworks aren't getting me anything. I'm still a nobody.
Today this happened with me and my heart shattered in hundred pieces.. Your every word is true and strong.. Thanks so much
Glad to hear you enjoyed the video. Keep rocking :)
Hey Henri I just recently had an experience where I tried to prove myself. It started off with this girl I was interested in telling me that I can come off as judgmental. Being the very self-conscious person I am I take offense to that. The reason I take offense is because I've dealt with many people who made me feel bad about myself, including my dad and grandpa. I was always on the defensive with them. So anyways with this girl I would try to prove myself right in front of her. I would say look Im not judgmental I have lots of friends and people I talk to. I know notice that this came off as if I were rubbing it in her face and showing her that she was wrong. A week later she lost interest and we came to a mutual decision to go separate ways. There was no hard feelings but I did realize I owed her an apology and I'm actually thankful that I discovered this insecurity of mine. I no longer need to prove myself, I just need to be myself.
Very insightful, Taylor. Thanks for sharing that. Another benefit of not trying to prove yourself is that you save so much energy. It's exhausting trying to convince people :)
Yes another benefit Henri! I really like your philosophical approaches to life, well thought out.
Easter you can be yourself, do what you normally do and don’t impress others! Play some music, drink some beer and watch TV! Don’t worry what others are saying about you!
its not always my thoughts one time i lost a job to someone else in an interview its not just what i think of myself and how i judge me but how others judge me
This is truly wisdom. Hope you remain peaceful and enjoy what you do. Have a great life and keep sharing your experiences.💕💕
2018 i still Like this video and your advice... Thank you
Do you constantly try to prove that you're good enough? Do you work too hard, think too much?
Do you force yourself to 'work on yourself'? Then you may want to watch this.
Such an important message delivered in a very zen way! Thanks!
*There's nothing to prove.*
Awesome man ... I really feel this statement.
Me tooo ... Awesome ...
Thanks for this message.
What if I tried for too long to prove to the point I forgot myself and who I am. So now I don’t know what I even like, I don’t feel drawn to anything or feel in general... Any advice
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Remember everything you did to prove yourself? Reflect on that and create a larger piece. And that will be your magnum opus
Easy (easier said than done, I know) You must go back to find your way forward. Bring out your inner kid. The one who used to laugh and sing and dance! Bring out your curious, playful side! Watch videos on child development and see how alive kids are. How they live in the moment. How they explore how thier bodies interact with the world.
Also realize we are a product of our environment. Our culture. Are you a Chinese woman living in China? A man born in Russia but raised in America? We all have identities that help shape our lives and interests. How many different cultures can you enjoy, understand and relate to?
This helped me a lot thanks bro
Amazing!
You are so right!!
Thank you for uploading. I think this is something I can work with. Sometimes the answer is so simple. :)
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Thank you :)
Uplifting and added your vid to my playlist
Best wishes
to be frank with you I love you. accent your an amazing brother I wish you well and many more for the rest of your life
Thanks :)
Enlightening! :-) thank you Henri.
I just subscribed to your channel and have found your videos very helpful. Thank you!
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Henri, You showed me the path..Thanks for making things even more clear. In which city you live in? I from Joensuu. :)
I lived in a big city and have had many experiences in varied aspects of life. I am 29 and now I live in a small town and find when interacting with people and sharing experiences they either don't believe me or think I am trying to impress them. I tried watering down my experiences that just made me depressed. I feel I need to elevate the people I am surrounded by and leave the small town mentality. Any tips?
NME10E from my perspective you don't have to impress anyone in other for him or her likes you. just be yourself and love yoursef the right folks will notice you're worthy ok...... don't be had on yourself
Yes i fuckin liked this video and thank u so much
How do you get rid of that need to brag associated with proving yourself and accomplishing things?
That is an interesting question. You could perhaps start with exploring why you're doing that. Keep asking why, and write out any and all explanations that pop up. Then write out the pro's and con's of doing what you do. That might be a good start. Explore and see what you find :)
Henri Junttila, thank you so much!
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I guess I don't feel the need to prove myself.
Never stop being better! Don't let this get you down. We can always improve. Why are Grandparents typically better than they were as parents? This is a terrible message.