I started thanking myself as Im doing something I wanted to procrastinate and it keeps me a little more motivated. And when it’s done I thank myself again and let myself enjoy few seconds of accomplishment. I think people who have their shit together do this subconsciously, the rest of us need conscious effort because nobody praised us growing up for working hard.
Renewing is easier than reapplying..... Two days waiting to take out garbage does stink more.... Thank you for the simple analogy..... Brings clear perspective to me
I procrastinate all the time in replying to messages... For some reason I just get SO overwhelmed, i just feel like crying... Then i let it to later... But that's true the price only gets higher... I've lost many people because of that... And i just feel worse every time i do it. Some people kinda "accepted" it (but i see our relationship getting more strangered anyway) but i cannot accept it and when i do accept it, it feels like what I'm doing is wrong... So i immediately stop accepting, and just hate myself. I never understood why i do that, i do understand a little (low self-esteem and intense fear of rejection, also "i need to wait a little because otherwise i will just be bothering them", "if i talk right now that I'm feeling overwhelmed, i will just be too dry and people will hate me, with reason! So i should wait until I'm better" so i wait and in no time I'm in my endless loop of "i suck, i suck, i suck, I'm ghosting them, now too much time has passed and they're pissed"), but why i keep doing it and why my mind just panic in a horrible way when i try to do it... I never understood this part... And idk how to stop being like that.
Procrastination is a curse and a blessing, you really gotta utilize it and procrastinate when needed. Sometimes the best decisions are not made right in this moment, but rather maybe tomorrow if you have actually thought about it and maybe had a few things happen to you on the way that pushed you into the right direction.
That’s not procrastination, then. If you’re spending a day actually thinking about it, you’re not procrastinating, you’re just doing more work before making the decision. Procrastinating would be completely ignoring it as if it didn’t exist or need to be done at all until later. On the other hand, if all you’re doing is thinking about thinking about it, then you’re procrastinating because you’re not thinking about it, because that’s work. You’re just wasting time and pretending that thinking about thinking about it is work - which it _is_ an expenditure of time and effort, however, it isn’t _accomplishing_ anything, so then that is procrastination, which is what a lot of procrastinators actually do. I’ve been there. I’ve spent way too many hours thinking about thinking about something so that I feel like I’m not procrastinating, but I am procrastinating when I’m doing that, because actually thinking about it is work and takes mental and psychological effort and consumes valuable resources that procrastinating by thinking about thinking about it doesn’t.
@@babybirdhome Yeah sorry but I'm not reading all of that. If you disagree, good for you, but I'm not gonna discuss what I worked on the past 15 years with my psychiatrist or nit pick on things I said in a different way with some random dude on youtube who ofcourse thinks he knows it better than everyone else and than every medical professional, like usual. Yap if you wann yap but don't yap about others peoples problems telling them you know it better because they accidentaly missused 2 words in their sentence.
@@babybirdhome It kinda blends together. Procrastinating, indecisiveness, dwelling. Just not having enough info or time enough to make a decision, but asking yourself, when is my decision good enough to act on, whether I should, verses the time and effort I've already sunk not acting yet. Sometimes you're better off just trying things to see what works best, but you don't always have that option either. If there's no urgency, I often fail to act, bc I'd rather have the time to make up my mind, and think things through. When pressed, you just have to do what you think is best in that moment.
@@dankline9162 Ay I appreciate the explanation, was really lacking the words for this plus I was kinda pissed. But yeah, your explanation is pretty spot on, procrastinating doesn't necessarily mean that you just suddenly stop thinking, that's more of a ADHD symptom. Psychology in general doesn't really have boundaries like that as certain aspects, symptoms, feelings and behaviours start to blend all together at some point. Procrastinating itself for example can be just a symptom of 20 other possible things that happened in your life that could've caused that
Waiting can be very expensive. I put off paying a traffic ticket. My license was suspended, and now I need to pay a cost to reinstate it and for the ticket. Also, now I'm riddled with shame for losing my license, so I'll have to battle those negative emotions to go pay up. I'm frequently reminding myself of how embarrassed I will be if I get caught driving without a license. It's not actually helping, but I'll put on my big girl panties and go pay today.
It’s not good that I procrastinate, but that’s how my brain manages to get things done well. I’ve put in the work to do things the “proper way” on many occasions. It all ends poorly. The issue is that this runs contrary to the way most others work. I do a lot of things including art as a hobby. I used to do commissions with a loose schedule. This ended in the project being drawn out indefinitely. Now I ask for a strict deadline from clients. Not only do I produce a superior product, but it’s done quickly. Idk why this is the case, but I’m sure others experience similar situations. Though don’t get it twisted, there are still many situations where procrastination absolutely screws me. It’s a part of my ADHD and I can see the pros and cons.
To me this sounds like the opposite point you seem to be making. If I didn’t misunderstand, you seem to be pointing towards procrastination helping you. While to me the act of setting deadlines helps you procrastinate less. Which in turn is showing you superior results. Doesn’t this point to procrastination making things harder? And in turn not procrastinating making things easier? This seems to all be in support of everything Dr. K said in this clip.
@@Deathraze1 ideally I wouldn’t procrastinate. It’s just something that I’ve dealt with for my entire life, so in turn I’ve basically forced strict deadlines. Artificial ones don’t really work, so they have to be real deadlines otherwise I am paralyzed. Not a good thing, that’s just how I’ve had to counter or prevent the bad effects of procrastination in my professional life.
Yeah, and all the brain cycles wasted on thinking of you should do it now or later. If you do it sooner, you save the time thinking about it. Which some things are super stressful to think about.
Absolutely true! Avoidance only make things worse. Do the little things daily and have a routine to start your day will set the tone for a successful day or a bad day.
This 100% true. I have been there done that and have learned the hard way. So I did change my way no matter how hard it was. Some times when you are going through the daily grinds of work life can get exhausting and we try to put things off. Never again will I do that.
Great content, but the delivery adds a lot of emotion/intensity. Probably explains why it's doing well in shorts. We all recognise ourselves in the message, but actually improving and using this insight is a whole other thing.
Same is true for hard conversations...after a while, one person is done and the other is still standing there with their mouth open and nothing being said
I mostly agree, but then there's been things that went way quicker and easier than expected, because I had more time to prepare and waited for the right moment!
I was supposed to finish my MA in psychology about 1.5 years ago, but am still unable to finish my Thesis. There were many delays that weren't my fault at all, but there was also a lot of procastination. Only now I understand this message and know how true it is. Wish I knew before.
you can do it bro, put some music and don't think about it, just think about the music while doing it, even if you only manage to unpack half a box is still a progress!
I feel for you. Like faucez99 mentioned, play some music and focus on one box at a time. Your approach can also depend on your organization style. Do you categorize items by the room or by their purpose? You can prioritize boxes based on which is more important or which is easier. I'm not sure of your progress since it's been awhile, but best of luck either way. A little bit goes a long ways.
It will always be much worse and far more work. Perfect examples for me are dishes, laundry, trash, paperwork (notes, mail, scheduling, and so on), and so on. Just do it; future you will thank you for taking that amount of work off of their back so that they can use their time for more fulfilling things (play is as important as work- in order to refresh) after completing the small amount of work they had to put in the next day. Chronic burn out, depression, being unmotivated, just being tired, procrastination, and distractions are all common problems for myself, but it's still ideal to take little steps towards completing tasks so that it's not so overwhelming later when you need to catch up. "A little bit is better than nothing", has been a helpful motto when I don't have the energy for upkeeping the various daily tasks. Most of the time, motivation kicks in for me after seeing results which will cause me to want to keep going to see the complete end result. Sometimes you do need to rest; my point is that it's also important to not make things harder on yourself later. If distractions play any role in the procrastination, you could try waiting until after a task is done to experience after as a limited or timed treat/ reward. Timed tasks can also help, such as the Pomodoro method. I hope that helps someone, cuz it's been a tiring, long-time struggle and I just thought I'd share on the topic based on experience.
But when the cost increases so does the feeling of reward or accomplishment when I do it, and so does the excuse if l fail. Example: in college I left almost all of my studying until finals week. I did very well. I told myself “I’m pretty smart, did great, let’s celebrate.” Plus there was an increased rush when the deadline got nearer. I was able to focus, got in a zone and a flow that was highly enjoyable. In grad school I did the same. Did well but far less well. One class I did pretty poorly in, though. But I had an excuse - I wasn’t dumb, I just didn’t study enough. Years later I have to consciously avoid that practice. But it’s still a natural inclination. @BrotherShaw has a comment below that’s fantastic. Give your future self a reason to thank you, not be pissed off at you.
I struggle with mental inertia. If I procrastinate, things pile up and it sucks. If I try to fix stuff up, I feel compelled to work until it is done... which occasionally means I forget to eat or rest for hours on end.
True and also true, sometimes if I don't do things immediately but decide to procrastinate, many times it got solved with a better solution 😂 doesn't work with postponing taxes but with decisions or doing renovations on my house
The key is to develop self awareness. So many want the quick fix easy way out (that's another part of the problem BTW). You must be aware of yourself to do things differently in the moment.
It never gets easier to do something later. And it never costs more to do it right the first time. Two things that everyone needs to learn in life to avoid even more pain and struggle and suffering than is necessary. Unless you get down to the Zen level, in which case, it is always exactly the amount of pain and struggle and suffering that is necessary. But you get to choose what is necessary by the choices you make.
I just get the easy stuff as soon as I can. The more things gets done, the less to worry about. The hard stuff, I try to do it in manageable pieces. Some tasks are exhausting to do, but worrying about getting it done or not all day is as exhausting and I just rather not think about it and just do it.
Keep in mind that this is not true for all problems tho. A lot of things don't escalate if you don't do them immediately. With those types of problems, they're often not even problems to begin with, and you're sometimes better off to ignore them on purpose. If something is only a mild inconvenience, and doing nothing about it doesn't make it worse, chances are you will eventually get used to that inconvenience and you successfully procrastinated the problem away. And by having one less problem, you will have more energy to focus on the actual problems. So learn how to evaluate problems better, discard the unnecessary ones and you will have a much better time dealing with the actual ones.
YEP like ignore sadness from being single because there are approximately 360 MILLION psychopaths alive RIGHT NOW and you will likely live longer if you DON'T start a relationship with any of them.
If i notice i must organize a christmas dinner for work at 1st november, I dont want to and know its stressfull to find a date and a restaurant with vegan options and all that its surely a thing i would want to procrastinate on. Every day I wait with the planning is another day nearer to christmas, in which other corporations planned and took places in restaurants which are now outbooked and are no longer an option for me, which makes it harder every day i wait!
We try to tell ourselves these lies but do any of us actually believe them? I KNOW it’s a lie as I’m not doing what I’m supposed to & by the end of the day I’ve exhausted myself even more than if I had just done what was needed. The guilt fed my distractions & my distractions fed my guilt…& all the while I’m audibly cursing myself out, scaring my family, dog & self 😅🫠
It might not be a miscalculation, it could be just another shortcut, the paradox of taking the road of least suffering... That is until you run out of "time".
So here’s my question that I hope he has an answer for. I already know this, but I sometimes STILL procrastinate…. And I hate it but I’m struggling to change. What is my solution? Am I broken?
I procrastinate for lots of reason. Lack of details is big one. I need to know. I also have X spoons in day and sometime I just don't have the spoons to do it when I planned. A little annoying because something unexpected took the spoons I allocated to doing something. But if it's special interest no cost and I never procrastinate with that.
Procrastination also causes so much stress and anxiety. It's always worse went you put things off oh and here's some stress sprinkled on top of everything.
Not always true though, buying something from supermarket for example, if you procrastinate, you will eventually find more things to buy tomorrow and save time by only going once instead of twice.
Yes more motivation to complete a task that is now harder. For me the fact I recognize the task is getting harder is what increases my motivation. So if I could just recognize that today instead of tomorrow.
For me, it's not increasing the motivation. It's just the things if I have to do, I just do and If I can't, I do tomorow. I am never proscinating, just chilling today and do tomorrow tasks, for tomorrow problems 🤣 I just don't think about it today, when there is tomorrow to do so. For example, I have to do dishes, forget about it, there is always a tomorrow, if I can't do them today. 🤣 But... I actually do those things, because it's the day when I do already something and then when I chill, I just chill if I remember something that I forgot to do so,I ain't even doing it.
Watching this while procrastinating
Go to work! You can do it!
SAME
Yep. I'm turning off the shorts right now and putting my phone in the other room
get outa my head getouta my head
Same 🥲🥲
Every lie adds debt to the truth. Sooner or later that debt has to repaid.
No. The debt does not need to be paid.
@@frankkennedy6388 Ah yes, the Jeff Bezos strat
@@frankkennedy6388Found the Soviet
Not great, not terrible.
True 💯
"Do it now. Future you will thank you for it. Don't piss him off." is what I tell myself these days.
That’s excellent!
Don’t forget to thank your past self for everything they’ve done for you 🙏🏽
Future me’s a selfish jerk. Has never done anything for past or present me.
Added to this is the aversion and guilt accumulated through a day of procrastination. Mentally it is a greater effort.
Exactly.
This guy is life changing
I started thanking myself as Im doing something I wanted to procrastinate and it keeps me a little more motivated. And when it’s done I thank myself again and let myself enjoy few seconds of accomplishment. I think people who have their shit together do this subconsciously, the rest of us need conscious effort because nobody praised us growing up for working hard.
Renewing is easier than reapplying..... Two days waiting to take out garbage does stink more.... Thank you for the simple analogy..... Brings clear perspective to me
I feel called out.
Thanks Dr K, I needed that
@@nickfenn 😂😂
Same lol
Immediately started doing pushups halfway through the video. Thank you for this wisdom
I procrastinate all the time in replying to messages... For some reason I just get SO overwhelmed, i just feel like crying... Then i let it to later... But that's true the price only gets higher...
I've lost many people because of that... And i just feel worse every time i do it.
Some people kinda "accepted" it (but i see our relationship getting more strangered anyway) but i cannot accept it and when i do accept it, it feels like what I'm doing is wrong... So i immediately stop accepting, and just hate myself.
I never understood why i do that, i do understand a little (low self-esteem and intense fear of rejection, also "i need to wait a little because otherwise i will just be bothering them", "if i talk right now that I'm feeling overwhelmed, i will just be too dry and people will hate me, with reason! So i should wait until I'm better" so i wait and in no time I'm in my endless loop of "i suck, i suck, i suck, I'm ghosting them, now too much time has passed and they're pissed"), but why i keep doing it and why my mind just panic in a horrible way when i try to do it... I never understood this part... And idk how to stop being like that.
gratitude is great feedback for getting tasks complete
Thank you for this. Im literally doing something now i should have done yesterday and now theres more cortisol and anxiety
And tomorrow there will be way less Cortisol and anxiety because you did it today congratulations.
Procrastination is a curse and a blessing, you really gotta utilize it and procrastinate when needed. Sometimes the best decisions are not made right in this moment, but rather maybe tomorrow if you have actually thought about it and maybe had a few things happen to you on the way that pushed you into the right direction.
That’s not procrastination, then. If you’re spending a day actually thinking about it, you’re not procrastinating, you’re just doing more work before making the decision. Procrastinating would be completely ignoring it as if it didn’t exist or need to be done at all until later.
On the other hand, if all you’re doing is thinking about thinking about it, then you’re procrastinating because you’re not thinking about it, because that’s work. You’re just wasting time and pretending that thinking about thinking about it is work - which it _is_ an expenditure of time and effort, however, it isn’t _accomplishing_ anything, so then that is procrastination, which is what a lot of procrastinators actually do. I’ve been there. I’ve spent way too many hours thinking about thinking about something so that I feel like I’m not procrastinating, but I am procrastinating when I’m doing that, because actually thinking about it is work and takes mental and psychological effort and consumes valuable resources that procrastinating by thinking about thinking about it doesn’t.
@@babybirdhome Yeah sorry but I'm not reading all of that. If you disagree, good for you, but I'm not gonna discuss what I worked on the past 15 years with my psychiatrist or nit pick on things I said in a different way with some random dude on youtube who ofcourse thinks he knows it better than everyone else and than every medical professional, like usual. Yap if you wann yap but don't yap about others peoples problems telling them you know it better because they accidentaly missused 2 words in their sentence.
@@babybirdhome
It kinda blends together. Procrastinating, indecisiveness, dwelling. Just not having enough info or time enough to make a decision, but asking yourself, when is my decision good enough to act on, whether I should, verses the time and effort I've already sunk not acting yet. Sometimes you're better off just trying things to see what works best, but you don't always have that option either. If there's no urgency, I often fail to act, bc I'd rather have the time to make up my mind, and think things through. When pressed, you just have to do what you think is best in that moment.
@@dankline9162 Ay I appreciate the explanation, was really lacking the words for this plus I was kinda pissed.
But yeah, your explanation is pretty spot on, procrastinating doesn't necessarily mean that you just suddenly stop thinking, that's more of a ADHD symptom. Psychology in general doesn't really have boundaries like that as certain aspects, symptoms, feelings and behaviours start to blend all together at some point. Procrastinating itself for example can be just a symptom of 20 other possible things that happened in your life that could've caused that
Procrastination by definition is putting off something you know is good for you
Waiting can be very expensive. I put off paying a traffic ticket. My license was suspended, and now I need to pay a cost to reinstate it and for the ticket. Also, now I'm riddled with shame for losing my license, so I'll have to battle those negative emotions to go pay up.
I'm frequently reminding myself of how embarrassed I will be if I get caught driving without a license. It's not actually helping, but I'll put on my big girl panties and go pay today.
My brain knows the cost of waiting to do something, however often I don’t have the capability. It is like acopia.
It’s not good that I procrastinate, but that’s how my brain manages to get things done well. I’ve put in the work to do things the “proper way” on many occasions. It all ends poorly. The issue is that this runs contrary to the way most others work. I do a lot of things including art as a hobby. I used to do commissions with a loose schedule. This ended in the project being drawn out indefinitely. Now I ask for a strict deadline from clients. Not only do I produce a superior product, but it’s done quickly. Idk why this is the case, but I’m sure others experience similar situations. Though don’t get it twisted, there are still many situations where procrastination absolutely screws me. It’s a part of my ADHD and I can see the pros and cons.
To me this sounds like the opposite point you seem to be making. If I didn’t misunderstand, you seem to be pointing towards procrastination helping you. While to me the act of setting deadlines helps you procrastinate less. Which in turn is showing you superior results. Doesn’t this point to procrastination making things harder? And in turn not procrastinating making things easier? This seems to all be in support of everything Dr. K said in this clip.
@@Deathraze1 ideally I wouldn’t procrastinate. It’s just something that I’ve dealt with for my entire life, so in turn I’ve basically forced strict deadlines. Artificial ones don’t really work, so they have to be real deadlines otherwise I am paralyzed. Not a good thing, that’s just how I’ve had to counter or prevent the bad effects of procrastination in my professional life.
@@bigman7856in your original comment you need to include more of a conceptual break between the first two sentences and the rest then?
@@qqnqqpart probably. I wasn’t ever a strong writer.
Real deadlines are always way more powerful than fake deadlines.
I have been procrastinating about talking to this girl, wish me luck tomorrow imma try to do it
How did it go?
Did it work out bro
Soooo true!! I appreciate your directness- no sugar coating!
Yeah, and all the brain cycles wasted on thinking of you should do it now or later. If you do it sooner, you save the time thinking about it. Which some things are super stressful to think about.
Wow 🤯 Dr. K you are the best. Thank you! Your content is so helpful.
A righteous sermon right here!
Absolutely true! Avoidance only make things worse. Do the little things daily and have a routine to start your day will set the tone for a successful day or a bad day.
This psychiatrist is helping me.
I don’t have access to consult a psychiatrist or psychologist atm.
Thank you doctor.
Rose
Australia
Watching this and going back to procrastination
Really needed to hear this one today
This 100% true. I have been there done that and have learned the hard way. So I did change my way no matter how hard it was. Some times when you are going through the daily grinds of work life can get exhausting and we try to put things off. Never again will I do that.
Thank you so much for this
I'm trying to apply the recommendations from the full video. Hope that I can slowly get better
Great content, but the delivery adds a lot of emotion/intensity. Probably explains why it's doing well in shorts. We all recognise ourselves in the message, but actually improving and using this insight is a whole other thing.
Very true. Tomorrow might never come or it will come days later and you've piled up the work or lost the opportunity.
I really need to memorize this and have it stick. Ive been procrastinating things my entire life in all aspects of my life.
Same is true for hard conversations...after a while, one person is done and the other is still standing there with their mouth open and nothing being said
I mostly agree, but then there's been things that went way quicker and easier than expected, because I had more time to prepare and waited for the right moment!
I was supposed to finish my MA in psychology about 1.5 years ago, but am still unable to finish my Thesis. There were many delays that weren't my fault at all, but there was also a lot of procastination. Only now I understand this message and know how true it is. Wish I knew before.
Watching this when I finally finished my homework ❤
I still have boxes to unpack from a move 4 months ago. I hate looking at them.
you can do it bro, put some music and don't think about it, just think about the music while doing it, even if you only manage to unpack half a box is still a progress!
I feel for you. Like faucez99 mentioned, play some music and focus on one box at a time. Your approach can also depend on your organization style. Do you categorize items by the room or by their purpose? You can prioritize boxes based on which is more important or which is easier. I'm not sure of your progress since it's been awhile, but best of luck either way. A little bit goes a long ways.
It will always be much worse and far more work. Perfect examples for me are dishes, laundry, trash, paperwork (notes, mail, scheduling, and so on), and so on. Just do it; future you will thank you for taking that amount of work off of their back so that they can use their time for more fulfilling things (play is as important as work- in order to refresh) after completing the small amount of work they had to put in the next day. Chronic burn out, depression, being unmotivated, just being tired, procrastination, and distractions are all common problems for myself, but it's still ideal to take little steps towards completing tasks so that it's not so overwhelming later when you need to catch up. "A little bit is better than nothing", has been a helpful motto when I don't have the energy for upkeeping the various daily tasks. Most of the time, motivation kicks in for me after seeing results which will cause me to want to keep going to see the complete end result. Sometimes you do need to rest; my point is that it's also important to not make things harder on yourself later. If distractions play any role in the procrastination, you could try waiting until after a task is done to experience after as a limited or timed treat/ reward. Timed tasks can also help, such as the Pomodoro method. I hope that helps someone, cuz it's been a tiring, long-time struggle and I just thought I'd share on the topic based on experience.
Yes, "my mind", my spirit
Thank You 🙏 endless blessings to you and your family, but above all an abundance of Health
But when the cost increases so does the feeling of reward or accomplishment when I do it, and so does the excuse if l fail.
Example: in college I left almost all of my studying until finals week. I did very well. I told myself “I’m pretty smart, did great, let’s celebrate.”
Plus there was an increased rush when the deadline got nearer. I was able to focus, got in a zone and a flow that was highly enjoyable.
In grad school I did the same. Did well but far less well. One class I did pretty poorly in, though. But I had an excuse - I wasn’t dumb, I just didn’t study enough.
Years later I have to consciously avoid that practice. But it’s still a natural inclination.
@BrotherShaw has a comment below that’s fantastic. Give your future self a reason to thank you, not be pissed off at you.
I struggle with mental inertia. If I procrastinate, things pile up and it sucks. If I try to fix stuff up, I feel compelled to work until it is done... which occasionally means I forget to eat or rest for hours on end.
Spot on with "and you know it". 👉
I love dr K very helpful Man
True and also true, sometimes if I don't do things immediately but decide to procrastinate, many times it got solved with a better solution 😂 doesn't work with postponing taxes but with decisions or doing renovations on my house
The key is to develop self awareness.
So many want the quick fix easy way out (that's another part of the problem BTW).
You must be aware of yourself to do things differently in the moment.
i am currently procrastinating. but i will work now!
expected this short to be about: "you also lose whatever you would've done instead tomorrow"
Love it❤ and that just makes sense as things decay over time and get worse.
I needed to hear this today, thank you.
It never gets easier to do something later. And it never costs more to do it right the first time. Two things that everyone needs to learn in life to avoid even more pain and struggle and suffering than is necessary.
Unless you get down to the Zen level, in which case, it is always exactly the amount of pain and struggle and suffering that is necessary. But you get to choose what is necessary by the choices you make.
I love you dr K.,., helps me alot knowing my own self
This is a powerful way to change your mindset
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
OH MY GOD, THIS IS SO HELPFUL!!!
Thanks for putting it like this! Getting off my ass and off yt and going to do what I have to now!
Love this! I am going to have to listen to this every day!😂
I just get the easy stuff as soon as I can. The more things gets done, the less to worry about. The hard stuff, I try to do it in manageable pieces. Some tasks are exhausting to do, but worrying about getting it done or not all day is as exhausting and I just rather not think about it and just do it.
It makes sense I needed to here that thank you
Keep in mind that this is not true for all problems tho. A lot of things don't escalate if you don't do them immediately. With those types of problems, they're often not even problems to begin with, and you're sometimes better off to ignore them on purpose.
If something is only a mild inconvenience, and doing nothing about it doesn't make it worse, chances are you will eventually get used to that inconvenience and you successfully procrastinated the problem away. And by having one less problem, you will have more energy to focus on the actual problems.
So learn how to evaluate problems better, discard the unnecessary ones and you will have a much better time dealing with the actual ones.
YEP like ignore sadness from being single because there are approximately 360 MILLION psychopaths alive RIGHT NOW and you will likely live longer if you DON'T start a relationship with any of them.
@@sharknadofartquake2449 well, that's one way to look at it i guess :D
If i notice i must organize a christmas dinner for work at 1st november, I dont want to and know its stressfull to find a date and a restaurant with vegan options and all that its surely a thing i would want to procrastinate on.
Every day I wait with the planning is another day nearer to christmas, in which other corporations planned and took places in restaurants which are now outbooked and are no longer an option for me, which makes it harder every day i wait!
Often times that’s not the case.
That’s why I procrastinate.
Most of my problems disappear if I don’t think about them.
Damn!! You are brilliant
Thanks for the reminder
Oh man, thank you for your work! ❤
I need this.
nothing like a good kick in the butt to get going.
Thank you for reminding me that
This is largely true for tasks which must be done. It is less true for tasks which may not need to be done because of changing requirements...
As Sensei Wu said “Do not put off until tomorrow, what can be done today”
I left this in my notifications for three days before I watched it 😂
thanks for the reminder, Imma get back to writing my thesis that is due friday
funny thing I had the notification to this short for 2 days and i kept saying ill watch it later every time lmao very on brand
I was proud of myself today simply because I folded my laundry the moment I put it on my bed instead of leaving it there for days at a time. Small w
We try to tell ourselves these lies but do any of us actually believe them? I KNOW it’s a lie as I’m not doing what I’m supposed to & by the end of the day I’ve exhausted myself even more than if I had just done what was needed. The guilt fed my distractions & my distractions fed my guilt…& all the while I’m audibly cursing myself out, scaring my family, dog & self 😅🫠
Yeah its very much relatable to my study backlogs. I thought to complete it tomorrow but it gets worse day by day.
Alright, alright, ffs. I was just about to take out the trash. It's like he's watching me 😂
It might not be a miscalculation, it could be just another shortcut, the paradox of taking the road of least suffering... That is until you run out of "time".
spot on
I put off doing things because i have other things to do or i get too exhausted to do it. Life never have things to run out to do
When you procrastinate, you also spend energy thinking about the task and feeling guilty about procrastinating
Sitting here looking at the giant basket of laundry in the corner then this comes on.. Never felt so personally called out.
So here’s my question that I hope he has an answer for. I already know this, but I sometimes STILL procrastinate…. And I hate it but I’m struggling to change. What is my solution? Am I broken?
W advice, i'll do my homework tomorrow
I procrastinate for lots of reason. Lack of details is big one. I need to know. I also have X spoons in day and sometime I just don't have the spoons to do it when I planned. A little annoying because something unexpected took the spoons I allocated to doing something. But if it's special interest no cost and I never procrastinate with that.
" Procrastination is my sin.
It brings me endless sorrow.
I really must stop doing it.
In fact, I'll start tomorrow!'
- Anonymous
Procrastination also causes so much stress and anxiety. It's always worse went you put things off oh and here's some stress sprinkled on top of everything.
I paused this video in the middle, sent the client proposal to my dream brand that I was procrastinating, came back to finish watching this
Not always true though, buying something from supermarket for example, if you procrastinate, you will eventually find more things to buy tomorrow and save time by only going once instead of twice.
Saving this video to watch later
If you always say you'll do it tomorrow you will one day have nothing but empty yesterdays
Ong 😮 so true!!!! ❤
Nah, tomorow I will have more motivation to do so 😂
Hopefully
Yes more motivation to complete a task that is now harder. For me the fact I recognize the task is getting harder is what increases my motivation.
So if I could just recognize that today instead of tomorrow.
@@ecospider5 This is not what I meant 😂
@@mrliberox sure!!! 🤣
For me, it's not increasing the motivation. It's just the things if I have to do, I just do and If I can't, I do tomorow. I am never proscinating, just chilling today and do tomorrow tasks, for tomorrow problems 🤣 I just don't think about it today, when there is tomorrow to do so.
For example, I have to do dishes, forget about it, there is always a tomorrow, if I can't do them today. 🤣
But... I actually do those things, because it's the day when I do already something and then when I chill, I just chill if I remember something that I forgot to do so,I ain't even doing it.
It's just me?? 🤣
Can you do a video on self help addiction
People tell me I procrastinate, but do you know what I tell them? "Just wait!"
Doing it tomorrow means today gets wasted, doing today= productive both today and tomorrow
Yeah, life *is* about being productive. It's the point of existence, right?
Excellent
Exactly.
Procrastination is exhausting! I put off cutting the grass. Have you any idea how many times I cut it in my mind? Exhausting!
The problem is you stress about it every moment you wait, so theres a hidden stress price.
I actually go to do it and then click the back button. I figured out i had an aversion and wondered if i even wanted to do it to begin with.
Im going to watch this later.
Changing your car's engine oil is far less expensive than replacing your engine entirely.
"The cost increases every moment you wait."
Gonna tattoo that to the inside of my eyelids brb.
The amount of money I have paid in "late" fees!!!!! Overdue fees! Thank you!🎉
Sooner is cheaper.
You delay, you pay.