That's a whole quote facts 💯 I walked away from a long term relationship Shera has helped me through this journey to reach in places where I didn't know I had strength and for that I thank her 💓
you'll going to be single for a long time, when you trying to prove me wrong, might be when you about 79 still waiting for an average joe to even look your way. seriously trying to tell you not to listen to this crazy sheba7 or whatever her name is. I'm a man, if you want a man, you ask from a man not a woman. Stop listening to this half witted women. I mean you won't go to a carpenter for surgery would you, but a surgeon, learn from a man to get a man
@@kennyopel I would rather be single than with a man starting buzz on a woman's channel 🙄 why do you care if I am going to be single or not? Mind your own life
A guy wasted my 4-5 years by just promises. I recently broke up with him at the age of 23. He still is requesting to wait for another 2-3 years and assuring that he will start earning soon and provide me with everything I ever wanted. But now am done. Thanks to u Shera!
Some of this is hard to hear during the level up period. Do not EVER allow yourself to feel shame or guilt. If you misstep just says oopps ok, and MOVE ON! Keep going girls don’t let mistakes trip you up, you are learning!
Us women have to stop fearing that we're losing the "one" if we set our standard and stick to it. Avoid men that will waste your time by sticking to what you want and know and feel is right. Never settle or accept less than u set for yourself. You can't miss the man for you so set the standard and be quick to say NEXT!
Yes indeed! I am the "one" for myself. The idea of soulmates is so toxic to me - forget those lusty feelings, get a man who is loving and financially stable. If he's not both, BYE
@@greyahmarie0905 YES well put! My soul is complete and between me and a higher being. My soul is not half without a man. If a man wants to join my life, I might let him, but he has to prove himself first.
My best friend is a guy and he ALWAYS tells me “Danielle, why are you listening to that guy’s Words? Words mean nothing. Only actions.” Women we are communicators so we take the words too serious but we need to understand men are Visual communicators/observers. They will Show you, if they mean it. 👍🏽
Free food at your home. So i bet He sleep with other women around so he have all He need. Your emotional Support and Energie etc.and Sex from other women.u bet He pay no money to no women!!!
I’ve experienced alll types of men, the best friend, the brother, the lover, the cheater, the liar, the spoiled rich, the wannabe, the romantic, and even the rap*st, know that no matter what, you still have yourself.. you’ll be okay, and no matter what please protect your body. Never kiss him, never have sex with them, never let them touch you, become untouchable and never ever be easy and accessible and always have a strong attitude and speak from your heart, stand in your truth, never allow anyone to disrespect you, do not lower what you believe you deserve because it is out there somewhere for you and god has written everything for you. Don’t try to please anyone, only please the creator (God). God will guide you and give you everything that you deserve and never stop seeking the best life for yourself and your parents would’ve want that. Call out a man loud and clearly when they’ve wronged you. Treat them accordingly and keep them in their place.
@@kennyopel I was married when I first started listening to Shera. Around two years later my husband passed away. Listening to Shera helped me realize he wasn't the best husband anyways. I was the breadwinner. For some reason love blinded me so where I never realized that he was using me. From Shera, I learned to focus on self development instead of trying to help a man. I am not married again, but I do have a boyfriend that had done more for me in the just year then my late husband did in the 10 years we were married. The point I'm making is that a husband is not necessarily the best thing in the world.
@@The-Oneness11 being lonely and miserable is also suicide. Especially when a spouse accepts an outside opinion that degrades their spouse not knowing that relationship works differently all across the board. Please stay single
I started changing towards my male friends and being more of a feminist. All of them told me, “this isn’t you.” It’s because they’re used to me being too nice in general. But ppl can change for the better. Men hate when you start leveling up, it makes them feel inferior.
Oooo sure does. But once you change the energy flow and say No to that type of energy ~ it’s amazing ☺️😊. Empty your cup to fill it up with better nourishment
@@biform13 even real men start caring. Real men don't need to slide into a ladies channel to listen to this because real men already know how to treat and keep a woman, period! Only dusties come here because they don't have anything else to do.
Ikr... when I saw the scene of them at the dance I was like 'oh my, so this the nightclub now'?, disgusting how low the social standards are for men to court women these days... smh
I learned the hard way. I felt sorry for my ex (who is also a narcissist) at the time. He came from a family that did not spend a lot on gifts etc. When I met him, they did not even wrap a present. To each his own, but I wanted to show him he was worth it and also how to be generous. Thinking he would learn and do the same. I gave him many expensive gifts and even paid to take him places. That same year--I bought him tickets to see three plays with us and paid to take him away. I literally received a pair of sox and a mini perfume spray (like a travel size) of the perfume I asked for. I learned an important lesson. I felt humiliated and definitely not appreciated. I didn't stay much longer after that. NEVER AGAIN is what I say.
That is so true, do not invest in their problems it just sucks your time attention and energy and that is time and energy that you should be directing to you and your own life.
Exactly, once my man was complaining about a guy from work and making my evening bad by this, I told him this is unacceptable, it is not my matter and I have my own problems. Since then I have never heard him moaning about anything.
I was dating a X-military man all he did was drink like a fish and when we fell out he would gossip to his family and friends. It was disgusting ladies stay away from men like this.
Some women just want to say they have a man. Don't get why women in their 50s and 60s having a boyfriend...like seriously a long term boyfriend??? Either he is taking care of you and wants to Marry you or he is just waisting your time ladies don't do it. Value yourself. Most definitely, do not stay with a man that let's you reach in your own pocket if he can't afford you totally forget it bc it only gets worse.
If u over fifty u should not be dating the same person for years your really wasting because most likely he’s wasting your time ..life is too short for this foolishness
So y'all would rather die single than have a partner to spend the rest of your life with that's not everyone's experience getting married isn't what everyone wants or cares about
@@godsgirl7201 I rather be single than be used ...it does not make sense to live with a man long term and not be married because if he gets sick or dies the next of kin meaning his family makes all the decisions and legally and health purposes..I am an RN and I used to see this in the hospital all the time . Do not be a man for years and he has not married you. The girl friend gets mad becuase the family keeping him on life support or whatever treatment and the family can bar you from coming to the hospital to see your boyfriend,,yall can waste yall time dating these men long term ..you will be left with nothing any money in the bank account without your name attached the family can claim it in probate and you will be left with nothing the girlfriend ntitle holds no weight on any legal paperwork..Do not recommend being a girlfriend long term more than 2+ years hes just not interested and hoping for something better.
its so insane how i watch your videos and realize my worst relationship i did every single red flag possible thinking it never mattered omgggggggggggggggg
i had a guy whos family won the lottery and he got a mansion and gave me a tour and was telling me where i could put my makeup and everything like he had a plan for us to be together and that never happend. LOL true girl. sprinkle sprinkle.
My ex says I’m high maintenance, OK no problem you can go ahead and get a girl who only wants a wash and set from the Dominican’s for $25 ✌🏾my wigs are 700$ ✌🏾
@@ShawniRad Your comment don’t make any sense because he is my ex and I wear wigs all the time that means he like wigs he just doesn’t want to pay for it
Cut you off when speaking, and they are selfish with their time,, damn! I can't believe it has taken me another heartache to realize how true this is!!💯 and yeap in friendships too!
Building is what you do together at 20. I'm 37, I have already built my own, so if a man my age is asking me to help build....why didn't he build during his single phase? These men act like they still need potty training 😂😂😂
Honestly, real men don't like it when women spend money on them. They prefer respect or something you can't buy that shows you care, like giving them a massage, cook them their favorite food/meal etc.
Tried this with a guy whose house I clean, basically just told him bout how my scooter stopped working. He said he'll fix it and get me a new one. We go shopping next weekend >:)
😢 I've been treating men the why I want to be treated and you're right SheRaSeven doing that makes them think they're the prize. Men and women aren't the same so I can't continue to treat men the way I'd treat myself unless I want to be all by myself. Men need to feel they've found the prize they stay for the hunt and when the hunt is over so are their affections.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated by a man 💯🙌🏽👌🏽 I learned this the hard way to unfortunately I thought I was being fair & I still ended up being the 1 paying for everything smdh
omg soooo true. I had to find out the hard way. now, its no way. Been thur it and now see the signs. and I will NEVER EVER EVER let a man waste my time .
Yesss,these dusties commenting saying oh she is selling bs but she’s only giving us females the game that she been through,basically as a warning and get her advice is actually changing females life’s so you know this true
@@anareid1222 update, I guess I watched this video just in time. He got me a hotel and I told him I would like to stay alone and he started acting differently. A time waster, he also is used to getting what he wants.
@@Askadrie you recently met him right? If so, that's too soon. My suggestion is carry yourself as a virtuous lady with serious boundaries from day one, while being soft and fun..... But nah, your body. If he feels entitled to it, delete him. Remember to multi-date, lie and seduce. You'll be good!
Ross, has great gifts f men. You, never spend more than $25. I bought a bf a pair of like new inline skates at a Salvation Army f $2.50 so he could take me on a huge skate tour. He, had to get separate rooms f us because I told him I need my rest so I am able to skate f 10 miles. The trip was in Denver Colorado, it was beautiful. He, took me to a play and after I staged getting sick.lol. Next, day plain trip home. He, wanted to hook up as soon as we got back. I left him at the car. I told him I have jet lag, love y long time thanks f the trip.
Ì always make it clear I'm never looking to hook up so it pisses me tf of f when men think they can do all this then that somehow means you owe them like Boi fxkc you lol I'm not that easy
I’m tired of dusties on dating apps. They don’t know how to have a conversation. They say hello and wait for your response then ask what you do for a living and have children. I try to change the subject cause it shouldn’t matter what I do for a living. I told the guy I’m busy and am at a birthday party, talk to you later. Then he asked again lool. I told him that I’m not available for an interrogation. He didn’t understand. I said I’m disappointed that a man at your age is so interested in what I do for a living. I can support myself just fine but if I’m going to get married a man should have the means to support me, if he can’t then he doesn’t deserve to have a woman in his life. I told him I don’t have children by the way and I have many good attributes and talents to share with a man who deserves to have me. He then said , “Good luck to you”. I said no good luck to you, I’m doing just fine thank you.
@@wisegoddess8224 I usually do but I decided to do him a favor and teach him a lesson 🤣 Someone needs to teach men how to start a conversation. They’re the ones who need to prove themselves to us.
@@dulcetx79 Agreed. I have to break this habit myself. I tried it the other day this guy demanded money for food and i kept moving and ignored him this time. I really got to stop helping them it is subconscious they want our help when it's convenient to them.
Sometimes these guys need to be told this. I usually say, do you need financial help or something? They get pissed. Usually if he asks about my job as the first question he's cut off.
If I'm going into a relationship I expect to get married within a year / 1.5 years. After that, if I get no ring, I be gone 😂 Boy you're not in my plans lmfao
The problem we have is- we think we can raise a man. No, thats what his parents should have done, cuz that man will just waste your time. It’s like beating a dead horse. Move on
The benefit to online dating is that you can cultivate the feeling of being wanted by having so many men online trying to message you. I was on a dating application last year and men where hitting on me in public left and right I didn't even hardly go on dates with the men I met online. Once I deleted my online dating app, men stopped approaching me in public. I think I just stopped being in the energy of feeling wanted. It was mental.
That's not good. Cause the type of men on dating sites are in general very low quality and also online dating in general is toxic from the start. I read a book called the Offline Dating Method because I was so sick of the freaks online and wanted to learn tricks to interact with men on my own area without seeing desperate, and i actually learned some very useful tips and was well on my way to attracting men on my daily routine, until an ex date pocket dialed me and we are now a couple haha so i am off the streets like god bless lol. I also recommend the book "Why Men Love Bitches".
@@helenarichard I read that book. Did you read what I commented. I didn't actually go on many dates with the men online. I just used it to cultivate the feeling of being desired, which lead to men in real life hitting on me more.
All, I know is that i had to revisit the definition of Nice and Kind 😂😂😂 i was wayyyyyyyyyy too nice! Not tooting my horn and im not ugly...ive been doing this all the way wrong. Level up season is in FULL EFFECT!
- Start off strong ("friends") - Don't really ask about you - Quick in and out - Straight out asking about your job - They try to get you to their house quick
I had one today wanted to do coffee and then mentioned could come by his place. When I stated I don't do that with men I just meet and he goes on about he is celibate until married and baptized, just so strange. I blocked him lol.
Since, you showed your mother in the live with CK. I think a lot of trolls have shut it down. Gained you even more respect in the communities you’re dedicated to helping. Thank You so much!
@@itsBenzie it was her 1st video collaboration with Pink Pink. I’m not text savvy but or else I’d definitely link it for you but it was about 3-4 weeks ago. She’s only done 2 collaborations with CK/Pink Pill I hope you find it.
@@basicinfo2022 I’m not into online dating, but my cousin actually got married and she met her boyfriend online and now they have kids. Sometimes guys might marry you if you are vibrant but then again, she’s also young enough to have kids.
Me seeing a question about the man who doesn’t take care of his child in 2023 when I had a similar situation that led to baby mama smashing my car in 2021. 😭 trying to solve problems that aren’t yours!
Gifts, f men under $50: Game stop gift card, Ross cloths, wallets, tools under $50, and clearance items. Warning: lets meetup were y have to drive or wost pick him up run, no house or pool dates at the house hookup hello. Beach dates, cheap dates that get too hot too soon. No, house dates because one becomes a free maid or baby sitter. And, when things do not go his way he says get out of my house, after y help pay bills. I seen it happen w ladies I have came across in my travels. Don't, go to the house till y have y drivers lisence name on it or better yet y name on the house.
This is my first time on your channel and i really enjoying this topic. I am separated from a bad marriage and I just started dating but, I'm struggling because it has been five years since I dated. I needed to know how to go about dating. Thank God I found you lol.. thank you so much for your knowledge I truly appreciate everything you said
The woman that kept asking for emotional dominance like what why do you want that that's very masculine why do you want to be dominating in anyway in a relationship smh.
omg that happened to me too girl, in 3 weeks i dated this peruvian guy and met his mom and by week 4 he broke up with me... and now he just calls me everyday when hes done work but never wants to meet up.
Hi Shera , I understand what u r saying, but I was married to a 6 figure man and he treated me like dirt, I was a stay home Mommy who took care of his kids , I don’t have any kids , constantly put me down saying everything was his and I didn’t have nothing, so now I’m in nursing school to get my nursing degree, so don’t u think if they have and I don’t , they will look down on u,
Do you run the household, he gives you $......make a secret stash! EVERY time he says something outta timing, grumbles, negative comments, side eye, looks like he about to be an A-hole......BOOM! $100 EVERY week. Make your anger expensive.
Shera talks about this all the time - just because a dude has money doesn't mean he is worthy. Being a provider is a basic standard but not the only criteria!
@Shawny Love He will probably get a bigger tax break if you file with him. Don't share your financial information with any man. That's none of their business, unless they want to know how much you need.
hey shera i’m a huge fan of yours and i’m so glad we share the same love for michael jackson my dad used to know michael jackson i’m glad i started watching u ❤️
I never regretted letting go, but I regretted staying many times
That's a whole quote facts 💯 I walked away from a long term relationship Shera has helped me through this journey to reach in places where I didn't know I had strength and for that I thank her 💓
Those flags are red for a reason baby! 🚩🚩🚩
@@SweetUareDesi thank you honey 🍯🤗🥰🤗
you'll going to be single for a long time, when you trying to prove me wrong, might be when you about 79 still waiting for an average joe to even look your way. seriously trying to tell you not to listen to this crazy sheba7 or whatever her name is. I'm a man, if you want a man, you ask from a man not a woman. Stop listening to this half witted women. I mean you won't go to a carpenter for surgery would you, but a surgeon, learn from a man to get a man
@@kennyopel I would rather be single than with a man starting buzz on a woman's channel 🙄 why do you care if I am going to be single or not? Mind your own life
“ high standards keeps you from low quality experiences “
Yes mam 💋
That part
💫💫💫💫Well said.
Absolutely!! So tru
Wise Goddess low quality experiences that could traumatize you, and damage you mentally and physically. Or possibly even completely destroy your life.
Remember ladies: A Promise Is A Comfort For A Fool! Stop believing what a man says he'll do for you and only believe his actions.
This!!!👆👆 👍
A guy wasted my 4-5 years by just promises. I recently broke up with him at the age of 23. He still is requesting to wait for another 2-3 years and assuring that he will start earning soon and provide me with everything I ever wanted. But now am done. Thanks to u Shera!
@@amanatj4564 he still hasn't a job?😩
@@babyc.3015 I don't know. M no more in his contact. But as far as I know he still doesn't have a well paying job atleast.
Agree
Some of this is hard to hear during the level up period. Do not EVER allow yourself to feel shame or guilt. If you misstep just says oopps ok, and MOVE ON! Keep going girls don’t let mistakes trip you up, you are learning!
needed to see this.!!!
@@monicasyoutubechannel3225 🤗🤗
Thank you 😊🙏
Okay!!! Every video I get so mad at myself so much time wasted smh glad I know better now
I forgive myself. Once you know better you will do better.
Us women have to stop fearing that we're losing the "one" if we set our standard and stick to it. Avoid men that will waste your time by sticking to what you want and know and feel is right. Never settle or accept less than u set for yourself. You can't miss the man for you so set the standard and be quick to say NEXT!
Yes indeed! I am the "one" for myself. The idea of soulmates is so toxic to me - forget those lusty feelings, get a man who is loving and financially stable. If he's not both, BYE
@@kathyalex778 exactly I no longer belive in soul mates . I mate my own soul , the man is just the bonus !
@@greyahmarie0905 YES well put! My soul is complete and between me and a higher being. My soul is not half without a man. If a man wants to join my life, I might let him, but he has to prove himself first.
@@kathyalex778 period sis!
At the end of the day you just need one person, so you better choose the best option possible
My best friend is a guy and he ALWAYS tells me “Danielle, why are you listening to that guy’s Words? Words mean nothing. Only actions.” Women we are communicators so we take the words too serious but we need to understand men are Visual communicators/observers.
They will Show you, if they mean it. 👍🏽
"Well that sounds lovely, darling. Very romantic. But you know... I can't board a flight with a promise..." *sips wine 🍷😒
Exactly!
Talk is very cheap and men know what women want to hear.
Free food at your home. So i bet He sleep with other women around so he have all He need. Your emotional Support and Energie etc.and Sex from other women.u bet He pay no money to no women!!!
One of the smartest things I’ve ever read 😮
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them”
I started doing that. I felt a weird vibe, and i waited second time and that was it.. bye no text no nothing
True
Dont go back in the past its in the bible
Sometimes people act funny when partners wants try new things
No shit…. What else will you do not beleive them you’re pathetic lol
I don’t give out money
I’ve experienced alll types of men, the best friend, the brother, the lover, the cheater, the liar, the spoiled rich, the wannabe, the romantic, and even the rap*st, know that no matter what, you still have yourself.. you’ll be okay, and no matter what please protect your body. Never kiss him, never have sex with them, never let them touch you, become untouchable and never ever be easy and accessible and always have a strong attitude and speak from your heart, stand in your truth, never allow anyone to disrespect you, do not lower what you believe you deserve because it is out there somewhere for you and god has written everything for you. Don’t try to please anyone, only please the creator (God). God will guide you and give you everything that you deserve and never stop seeking the best life for yourself and your parents would’ve want that. Call out a man loud and clearly when they’ve wronged you. Treat them accordingly and keep them in their place.
the TRUTHHH!!!🎯🎯
Amen
Amen sister ❤❤❤❤❤
i have to listen to shera once a week to keep my mind right. thanks boo
I have to listen to her everyday, her advices are true gold hhhh
Same here
And how's your marriage listening to this lady brainwash you, or are you even still married?
@@kennyopel I was married when I first started listening to Shera. Around two years later my husband passed away. Listening to Shera helped me realize he wasn't the best husband anyways. I was the breadwinner. For some reason love blinded me so where I never realized that he was using me. From Shera, I learned to focus on self development instead of trying to help a man. I am not married again, but I do have a boyfriend that had done more for me in the just year then my late husband did in the 10 years we were married. The point I'm making is that a husband is not necessarily the best thing in the world.
@@The-Oneness11 being lonely and miserable is also suicide. Especially when a spouse accepts an outside opinion that degrades their spouse not knowing that relationship works differently all across the board. Please stay single
I started changing towards my male friends and being more of a feminist. All of them told me, “this isn’t you.” It’s because they’re used to me being too nice in general. But ppl can change for the better. Men hate when you start leveling up, it makes them feel inferior.
You’ve changed for the better, love 🤍
uu
😂 lol
Males are so used to privileges that equality feels like oppression to them
Oooo sure does. But once you change the energy flow and say No to that type of energy ~ it’s amazing ☺️😊.
Empty your cup to fill it up with better nourishment
When you stop caring, they start caring~ 😇✨ 👏
No. REAL men start walking. Only simps, that you really hate, chase you.
@@biform13 even real men start caring. Real men don't need to slide into a ladies channel to listen to this because real men already know how to treat and keep a woman, period! Only dusties come here because they don't have anything else to do.
@@mimid.8346 all these men in comments are dusties, cuz they should not have time coming here. Hahah
@@biform13 if you are real men, what are you doing on ladies channel? 😅
Period
Never call a man. If he is truly interested in you he will call you.
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💯🔥
For real
Facts
My block list is sooooo long now that I’ve learned this concept lol
Lol sameee
@@babyc.3015 Come on girl let me just waste about 13 yrs of your time. I promise it will be terrible. I’ll only be a dusty broke bum for 12 yrs.
Mine too😂
The saying is- A promise is a comfort to a fool.
I just learned that.
Yes & shera did a video on that
@@sm-yj7nu really? Dang! Shera got a whole library. I would ask the title of the vid but that's probably the title.
@@wisegoddess8224 I think so it was a while ago
😂😂”I don’t give men money “ 😂😂
I KNOW THAT’S RIGHT!
Watch Bridgeton... look at how they courted and treated the women... and how classy the women are towards the men
Ikr... when I saw the scene of them at the dance I was like 'oh my, so this the nightclub now'?, disgusting how low the social standards are for men to court women these days... smh
@@wisegoddess8224 I didn’t even notice that.. but u are so right.
Courted??? They was straight fucking. What season you watching???
@@SunnnySkies 🤣
@@wisegoddess8224 feminism..I made a post about this on quora
Two things you don't waste time on 1) Things that don't matter 2) People who think you don't matter because a year from, you'll wish you started now.
3 years later I'm here wondering what the fu*k I've been doing
I learned the hard way. I felt sorry for my ex (who is also a narcissist) at the time. He came from a family that did not spend a lot on gifts etc. When I met him, they did not even wrap a present. To each his own, but I wanted to show him he was worth it and also how to be generous. Thinking he would learn and do the same. I gave him many expensive gifts and even paid to take him places. That same year--I bought him tickets to see three plays with us and paid to take him away. I literally received a pair of sox and a mini perfume spray (like a travel size) of the perfume I asked for. I learned an important lesson. I felt humiliated and definitely not appreciated. I didn't stay much longer after that. NEVER AGAIN is what I say.
Its ok...forgive yourself.
Paying for a man?!? Girl, that's your first mistake. You never do that, unless you're rich and trying to get something
That was role reversal. You were playing the masculine role.
I did the same. Lesson has been learned.🙃
Forgive yourself
“WHEN YOU STOP CARING, THEY START” SheraSeven ❤
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉shhhhhureee
Bingo
That is so true, do not invest in their problems it just sucks your time attention and energy and that is time and energy that you should be directing to you and your own life.
Exactly, once my man was complaining about a guy from work and making my evening bad by this, I told him this is unacceptable, it is not my matter and I have my own problems. Since then I have never heard him moaning about anything.
spend your money on your mom instead..she deserves nice things
True
and cats... lots and lots of cats.
Facts
👌👌
Never give a man money like receiving money should offend him. Lol
I can't give nothing to a man nothing
Right I barely want to give rides. Even if he gives me gas money. Ugh I just can’t!
I can't even drive to their house. No.
I was dating a X-military man all he did was drink like a fish and when we fell out he would gossip to his family and friends. It was disgusting ladies stay away from men like this.
YYESSS !
I hate Gossip to "Friends ' talkative men !
Yuck!
I know that feeling because I had to cut off a x military vet
I have never met a military man or woman that was above lower middle class status. People that went to military colleges are not the same thing.
@@ThingsILikke most military men are broke.
Gossip yuck 🤮
you don't have to let go if you were never too attached in the first place!!! keep it movin ladies
Some women just want to say they have a man. Don't get why women in their 50s and 60s having a boyfriend...like seriously a long term boyfriend???
Either he is taking care of you and wants to Marry you or he is just waisting your time ladies don't do it. Value yourself. Most definitely, do not stay with a man that let's you reach in your own pocket if he can't afford you totally forget it bc it only gets worse.
If u over fifty u should not be dating the same person for years your really wasting because most likely he’s wasting your time ..life is too short for this foolishness
So y'all would rather die single than have a partner to spend the rest of your life with that's not everyone's experience getting married isn't what everyone wants or cares about
It dont matter if you have a "marriage paper" or not. Marriage or not, you shld not have to reach in yo pocket and pay for yoself
@@godsgirl7201 I rather be single than be used ...it does not make sense to live with a man long term and not be married because if he gets sick or dies the next of kin meaning his family makes all the decisions and legally and health purposes..I am an RN and I used to see this in the hospital all the time . Do not be a man for years and he has not married you. The girl friend gets mad becuase the family keeping him on life support or whatever treatment and the family can bar you from coming to the hospital to see your boyfriend,,yall can waste yall time dating these men long term ..you will be left with nothing any money in the bank account without your name attached the family can claim it in probate and you will be left with nothing the girlfriend ntitle holds no weight on any legal paperwork..Do not recommend being a girlfriend long term more than 2+ years hes just not interested and hoping for something better.
@@godsgirl7201 your so right. I have no desire to get married again.
its so insane how i watch your videos and realize my worst relationship i did every single red flag possible thinking it never mattered omgggggggggggggggg
i had a guy whos family won the lottery and he got a mansion and gave me a tour and was telling me where i could put my makeup and everything like he had a plan for us to be together and that never happend. LOL true girl. sprinkle sprinkle.
Selling you a dream.
That future faking stuff hurts.
Future faking
Legion 😂
Talk is cheap.
Women now days have to stop being so desperate for relationships🤷🏽♀️
And attention fr
Yess less pickmeishas ❤
A promise is a comfort to a fool.
There is blessings in saying good bye and letting go...🙌🏽👏🏽
My ex says I’m high maintenance, OK no problem you can go ahead and get a girl who only wants a wash and set from the Dominican’s for $25 ✌🏾my wigs are 700$ ✌🏾
Yess 😂😂
Sprinkle Sprinkle 😍🤩😍🤩😊☺️☺️😊
lol . Men don't like wigs though, especially if they can tell if it's a wig.
@@ShawniRad do man really know what they like,,,,who they say they like Makeup
@@ShawniRad Your comment don’t make any sense because he is my ex and I wear wigs all the time that means he like wigs he just doesn’t want to pay for it
SHERA YOU ARE A WHOLE UNIVERSITY 🤣
"A promise is a comfort to a fool"
@39:13 the saying is.... “a promise is a comfort to a fool”!!!
" don't get in no jacuzzi , that just makes you a floozy . " thank you for your wisdom
😂😂😂
“Don’t get in that jacuzzi it just makes you a floozy”… facts 😂
Cut you off when speaking, and they are selfish with their time,, damn! I can't believe it has taken me another heartache to realize how true this is!!💯 and yeap in friendships too!
Building is what you do together at 20. I'm 37, I have already built my own, so if a man my age is asking me to help build....why didn't he build during his single phase? These men act like they still need potty training 😂😂😂
8:13 If a man asks me what I do for a living, I’m going to say, “existing.” Then walk away
Honestly, real men don't like it when women spend money on them. They prefer respect or something you can't buy that shows you care, like giving them a massage, cook them their favorite food/meal etc.
Yup, this is correct!Dated a masculine provider who was a pharmacist who admitted to this!
Write that down ✍️
ugh preach
Tried this with a guy whose house I clean, basically just told him bout how my scooter stopped working. He said he'll fix it and get me a new one. We go shopping next weekend >:)
😢 I've been treating men the why I want to be treated and you're right SheRaSeven doing that makes them think they're the prize. Men and women aren't the same so I can't continue to treat men the way I'd treat myself unless I want to be all by myself. Men need to feel they've found the prize they stay for the hunt and when the hunt is over so are their affections.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated by a man 💯🙌🏽👌🏽 I learned this the hard way to unfortunately I thought I was being fair & I still ended up being the 1 paying for everything smdh
omg soooo true. I had to find out the hard way. now, its no way. Been thur it and now see the signs. and I will NEVER EVER EVER let a man waste my time .
Yesss,these dusties commenting saying oh she is selling bs but she’s only giving us females the game that she been through,basically as a warning and get her advice is actually changing females life’s so you know this true
If he is on a dating site and doesn't want to go on dates.......
Scam
Wow! This is exactly what happened to me. Right out the gate asking me about my job, and what I made
I hope it was the end
What did you tell him in return?
Lol whether I save money lol
“A promise is a comfort to a fool”
A balloon from the dollar tree! Yes I love that!
Finally met a wealthy man but I feel being too honest will make me fumble it
It will. Congrats and good luck!
@@anareid1222 update, I guess I watched this video just in time. He got me a hotel and I told him I would like to stay alone and he started acting differently. A time waster, he also is used to getting what he wants.
@@Askadrie you recently met him right? If so, that's too soon. My suggestion is carry yourself as a virtuous lady with serious boundaries from day one, while being soft and fun..... But nah, your body. If he feels entitled to it, delete him. Remember to multi-date, lie and seduce. You'll be good!
@@anareid1222 you’re absolutely right. I’m keeping in mind you finish how you start and I have to carry myself like a lady. It was our first date.
@@Askadrie and it's such a valuable lesson!
I'm not a nurse nor a purse!!
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All hail SheRa. No muggle can stand the truth. But you are 100% accurate. Empress vibes. Play the game to win. Or get played. Period.
“Muggle” 😹😹😹 I love it
Period
You are so clever , you devil woman ❤️ I especially liked the part where you said -Meet him the last day of his trip .!! You are a genious .
Ross, has great gifts f men. You, never spend more than $25. I bought a bf a pair of like new inline skates at a Salvation Army f $2.50 so he could take me on a huge skate tour. He, had to get separate rooms f us because I told him I need my rest so I am able to skate f 10 miles. The trip was in Denver Colorado, it was beautiful. He, took me to a play and after I staged getting sick.lol. Next, day plain trip home. He, wanted to hook up as soon as we got back. I left him at the car. I told him I have jet lag, love y long time thanks f the trip.
This was nice to hear 😆💕
This was a trip 😂😂😂
Ì always make it clear I'm never looking to hook up so it pisses me tf of f when men think they can do all this then that somehow means you owe them like Boi fxkc you lol I'm not that easy
Well done girl 🎉
I’m tired of dusties on dating apps. They don’t know how to have a conversation. They say hello and wait for your response then ask what you do for a living and have children. I try to change the subject cause it shouldn’t matter what I do for a living. I told the guy I’m busy and am at a birthday party, talk to you later. Then he asked again lool. I told him that I’m not available for an interrogation. He didn’t understand. I said I’m disappointed that a man at your age is so interested in what I do for a living. I can support myself just fine but if I’m going to get married a man should have the means to support me, if he can’t then he doesn’t deserve to have a woman in his life.
I told him I don’t have children by the way and I have many good attributes and talents to share with a man who deserves to have me.
He then said , “Good luck to you”.
I said no good luck to you, I’m doing just fine thank you.
You're better than me, cuz I would've blocked him the second he asked me anything about my finances or kids or anything like that. Boom!
@@wisegoddess8224 I usually do but I decided to do him a favor and teach him a lesson 🤣
Someone needs to teach men how to start a conversation. They’re the ones who need to prove themselves to us.
@@dulcetx79 Agreed. I have to break this habit myself. I tried it the other day this guy demanded money for food and i kept moving and ignored him this time.
I really got to stop helping them it is subconscious they want our help when it's convenient to them.
Princess Anna where did this happen? The guy demanding money for food.
Sometimes these guys need to be told this. I usually say, do you need financial help or something? They get pissed. Usually if he asks about my job as the first question he's cut off.
If I'm going into a relationship I expect to get married within a year / 1.5 years. After that, if I get no ring, I be gone 😂 Boy you're not in my plans lmfao
You stop dating when you get married. You dont stop dating when he calls you a gf. Thats for children
A promise is comfort to a fool!
The problem we have is- we think we can raise a man. No, thats what his parents should have done, cuz that man will just waste your time. It’s like beating a dead horse. Move on
The benefit to online dating is that you can cultivate the feeling of being wanted by having so many men online trying to message you. I was on a dating application last year and men where hitting on me in public left and right I didn't even hardly go on dates with the men I met online. Once I deleted my online dating app, men stopped approaching me in public. I think I just stopped being in the energy of feeling wanted. It was mental.
That's not good. Cause the type of men on dating sites are in general very low quality and also online dating in general is toxic from the start. I read a book called the Offline Dating Method because I was so sick of the freaks online and wanted to learn tricks to interact with men on my own area without seeing desperate, and i actually learned some very useful tips and was well on my way to attracting men on my daily routine, until an ex date pocket dialed me and we are now a couple haha so i am off the streets like god bless lol. I also recommend the book "Why Men Love Bitches".
@@helenarichard I read that book. Did you read what I commented. I didn't actually go on many dates with the men online. I just used it to cultivate the feeling of being desired, which lead to men in real life hitting on me more.
@@The-Oneness11 your comment is very interesting. Showing that our energy/mental state does really effect our reality.
Inspired me to use online dating just for that like you shared. I currently don't get approached often and if do not what am wanting.
👸unfortunately they only want u for s-ex. but u 💰💰💰💰deserve so much more😌!
All, I know is that i had to revisit the definition of Nice and Kind 😂😂😂 i was wayyyyyyyyyy too nice! Not tooting my horn and im not ugly...ive been doing this all the way wrong. Level up season is in FULL EFFECT!
😂😂😂 Shera is so on point, especially about dating “ghosts” from the dead
I tell them I only deal with arrangements.
I’m not gonna waste my time n get used too! I’m 50. And a 9!
Facts I went from cute young men to, old men and the difference in treatment is next level❤❤❤😂
When Shera literally explained ‘Ghosting’ phenomena 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I bow down goddess you the QUEEN 👸🏼 👑 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My 22 yr old daughter sent me your channel! I’m taking your advice & it’s helping even at my age!
This the one Shera!!! Keep it coming. All gas no brakes! We need the truth.
This video is a literally A GEM 💛
I needed this reminder
"TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NO MAN!"
- Start off strong ("friends")
- Don't really ask about you
- Quick in and out
- Straight out asking about your job
- They try to get you to their house quick
I had one today wanted to do coffee and then mentioned could come by his place. When I stated I don't do that with men I just meet and he goes on about he is celibate until married and baptized, just so strange. I blocked him lol.
Why was he so interested in my job? It’s giving me the biggest ick
Hé wanted to bê in my house very quick and asked what time i worker só hé knew what time he’s alone 😮
Or they keep asking to come to your home
She's a has wonderful advice! Wish I had known this when I was a younger woman
lol balloons from the dollar tree says, idgaf im the prize
I was cracking the hell up
I knew I was special when I’ve been curving dudes since the 6th grade.
I know that’s right sprinkle sprinkle
Pay attention to your own life and get yo money! ✨
Since, you showed your mother in the live with CK. I think a lot of trolls have shut it down. Gained you even more respect in the communities you’re dedicated to helping. Thank You so much!
Which video is that? Can you link it here please??? 🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@itsBenzie it was her 1st video collaboration with Pink Pink. I’m not text savvy but or else I’d definitely link it for you but it was about 3-4 weeks ago. She’s only done 2 collaborations with CK/Pink Pill I hope you find it.
Girl I got him a candle from Ross and he loved it ❤
I don't do online dating, I think it is f__king disgusting!
There are many married couples who met on dating apps, it's about having good filters to weed out dustys and standards.
@@basicinfo2022 I’m not into online dating, but my cousin actually got married and she met her boyfriend online and now they have kids. Sometimes guys might marry you if you are vibrant but then again, she’s also young enough to have kids.
A promise is only comfort for a fool
Just when I thought you had covered every subject, you address additional critical help! Thank you so much!!!!
I started rolling when Shera said “if I haven’t talked to someone since Dec 10th … they dead” 🤣🤣
The only way you get controlled is if you do what they tell you to.
If on a dating app they try to play 20 questions, it's a waste of time
Listen to SheRa about folks online wasting your time. Huge time suck!
Dusty be in person too. they always will be around to solicit.
Me seeing a question about the man who doesn’t take care of his child in 2023 when I had a similar situation that led to baby mama smashing my car in 2021. 😭 trying to solve problems that aren’t yours!
Gifts, f men under $50: Game stop gift card, Ross cloths, wallets, tools under $50, and clearance items.
Warning: lets meetup were y have to drive or wost pick him up run, no house or pool dates at the house hookup hello. Beach dates, cheap dates that get too hot too soon.
No, house dates because one becomes a free maid or baby sitter. And, when things do not go his way he says get out of my house, after y help pay bills. I seen it happen w ladies I have came across in my travels. Don't, go to the house till y have y drivers lisence name on it or better yet y name on the house.
20 minutes in and you dropping gems.
Really a good conversation is a lot a waste of time with people mans . Well some man
The worst is when you wanted to let go but wanted to be nice and let someone stay way too long !!!
Learned this the hard wayyyyy this my biggest issue fr 😭😭😭
These go for "friends" too ladies.....
❤ So grateful for Shera's wisdom
I turned on all my notifications and didn't get one for this live 😒. Just recently started my level up journey.
You're gonna love it. Keep moving forward
@@jasmineetienne1767 I just love how the women on this channel support 1 another.
@@wisegoddess8224 ❤❤❤❤❤
@@jasmineetienne1767 thank you!
I just loveeeeee this Goddess! You always give us Amazing advice and I praise the Universe for You!
This is my first time on your channel and i really enjoying this topic. I am separated from a bad marriage and I just started dating but, I'm struggling because it has been five years since I dated. I needed to know how to go about dating. Thank God I found you lol.. thank you so much for your knowledge I truly appreciate everything you said
Auntie Shera is a trip you speaks facts! I appreciate the knowledge you give us ladies❤️
LMAOOO “if I haven’t talked to someone since December 10th, they dead” 😂😂😂
She is SO RIGHTTTT
The woman that kept asking for emotional dominance like what why do you want that that's very masculine why do you want to be dominating in anyway in a relationship smh.
I'm pretty sure that was a troll.
omg that happened to me too girl, in 3 weeks i dated this peruvian guy and met his mom and by week 4 he broke up with me... and now he just calls me everyday when hes done work but never wants to meet up.
Tell him you want him to take you out or you will stop answering his calls
@clauaome25 Update. We broke up and now I have been dating a Chilean guy for a year. We are planning to get married.
Hi Shera , I understand what u r saying, but I was married to a 6 figure man and he treated me like dirt, I was a stay home Mommy who took care of his kids , I don’t have any kids , constantly put me down saying everything was his and I didn’t have nothing, so now I’m in nursing school to get my nursing degree, so don’t u think if they have and I don’t , they will look down on u,
Not always sis. Good luck on your journey. Keep watching Sheraseven. It's a school of learning.
There are jerks with money and broke
Do you run the household, he gives you $......make a secret stash! EVERY time he says something outta timing, grumbles, negative comments, side eye, looks like he about to be an A-hole......BOOM! $100 EVERY week. Make your anger expensive.
Shera talks about this all the time - just because a dude has money doesn't mean he is worthy. Being a provider is a basic standard but not the only criteria!
@Shawny Love He will probably get a bigger tax break if you file with him. Don't share your financial information with any man. That's none of their business, unless they want to know how much you need.
hey shera i’m a huge fan of yours and i’m so glad we share the same love for michael jackson my dad used to know michael jackson i’m glad i started watching u ❤️