Paul is great. I highly recommend him. I just recently had my first session, but it has started a profound process in how my mind is working and definitely helping the anxiety I have been suffering with around driving for many years. I am so grateful to have hope finally to be relieved of this nightmare.
I want to drive everywhere like normal people, but my fear anxiety doesn't let me. I just stay local withing my comfort zone. I feel like if I get on the dual carriageways I will do something stupid or get lost on a roundabout and not know what to do or go back home. Hate drivers that drive so close behind, an lose concentration altogether. I drive alone because I don't feel experienced enough to have a friend an risk an accident and hurt them.
You’re not alone ❤️ I’ve struggled never driven until this week I started driving lessons is a step by step in learning believe me I wasn’t nervous as the instructor is very calm plus my m practicing in a neighborhood street area so we shall see .
I don’t worry about the process of driving itself. I had an anxiety attack when I got stuck in a jam in a normally free flowing dual carriageway, I felt trapped and extremely claustrophobic, this was about 10yrs ago. I was a bit hungover and always did get a bit of ‘Hangsiety’. Anyway, I didn’t happen again until recently. I feel, current negative events in my life put me into a poor mental state which led to the attack. It got really bad where I couldn’t even drive more than a few hundred yards without the feeling of panic. I’m a lot better now though as my driving is stuck to the same routes which I’ve got used to. If I’ve got to do anything new or go off route it feels me with fear and worry. I could drive anywhere, anytime with not a single thought or worry about it. I just want to be who I used to be….
I am afraid of heights. That's the worse part of being on the Freeway (Motorway) for me. Especially, Turn about. I've been enjoying your videos. Thank you.
Wow - I was ill on a plane about 20 years ago since then I’ve had a fear of flying but I never thought that the two weren’t connected - really helps thanks
I have a fear of crashing. I can drive but I'm bad about avoiding driving. Then on top of that, I just lost my brother, sister in law, and 9m old neice in a tragic car accident on March 28th, 2021 by the other driver driving on the wrong side of the road chasing her ex. When she came around the curve, she struck my brother and his family. Nobody survied. Now, I'm even more terrified of driving and other drivers.
I think my fear is that if I have an accident everyone will be like "see, we knew you can't be trusted to do something properly." As a child my parents didn't let me explore and make my own mistakes and when I was doing something my Dad would often take over without letting me learn it myself. Could this be an issue? I'm trying to work on it as if that's the issue. My first instructor told me he was certain I'd have an accident in my life. My new and current instructor is so lovely and is trying really hard to give me confidence in myself, I haven't explicitly told him I don't trust my own abilities but I think he's perceptive enough to have picked it up.
That could be the issue but just thinking of it like that won't fix anything. You have to go much deeper into it and there will be other things attached to it, which also need clearing otherwise you'll only get a superficial result that won't last. You always have to fix the problem yourself but it's virtually impossible to do it all alone because you won't see what people on the outside of your problem will see. That's why you're stuck in it!
@@1stdrive Thanks for your reply. After I commented I found your video about conscious and subconscious with the example: fear of driving = football sticker book, and I realised the issue is probably much more abstract than I first realised. Honestly, I think whatever it is, it is affecting other aspects of my life too. The human brain is so weird 🤷♀️
This is a really good explanation of the problem and the best I've seen so far in breaking down the root causes. I LOL'ed at the brick wall comment hahaha. Thanks for the video
I'm annoyed by other reckless drivers on the road, especially high ways. I use speed limit 70 and keep middle lane, but all other ones do not abide by the speed limit. Stronger penalties are needed to save other law biding drivers.
I just passed and have been beeped at etc for being a bit slow or in the wrong lane and I find it worse than before I learned to drive. So many aggressive drivers out there
Recently had 2 dreams about driving. I am always conscious that people are judging me. It was highlighted in my dream.. I feel like I do not know what I am doing yet have had no accidents. I think it may be something to do with how I was treated when I struggled with things I was learning at home or school.
That's common, in fact I was working with someone this morning on just that! It's nothing to do with driving, the fear or being judged and rejected can be what's causing it all.
Mate I am 41 I was the opposite learning full of beans. Now I am on my own I am like what if I get stuck. My friends have said I am fine. Are you in Brum?
I’m 42 never driven I have 4 kids no one understands the mental struggle of having so much doubts fear in driving. Finally I’ve taken the courage to practice my driving Tuesday was my first lesson and today will be my 3rd good thing the instructor is a woman and she’s very patient . I hope I can continue this driving journey. I truly understand your situation ❤️
I don't think I had driving anxiety until I began having constant nightmares about losing control of the car and just panicking. Maybe that caused it? idk-
Nightmares are your mind showing you things in metaphors, just as it does in pleasant dreams. It's not that the nightmares caused the problem, they are the problem! Your mind can show you things visually when you sleep but it gives you an anxious feeling when you drive because you're not in the right state to visualise. The nightmares and driving anxiety are the same thing presented in a different way.
@@1stdrive only if he has a accurate memory about his history and past traumas. If he doesnt theres a good chance he will just keep spinning his wheels, pun intended, trying to figure out what the past problem is
This isn't about memory. When you ask people what their problem is they often spew out the same out story they've told everyone a hundred times before. That's all conscious nonsense, nothing more than a story their conscious mind has made because humans have a natural desire to want to solve problems. It's got us a long way and allowed for many achievements but it also holds us back when we apply the problem-solving part of us to unconscious processes. I've had sessions as a client where I have "remembered" things without even knowing what they are. That's now how it works.
Contact me at www.1stdrive.com/how-to-overcome-driving-anxiety/. I no longer use one of the sites I mention in this video so I blurred it out.
Paul is great. I highly recommend him. I just recently had my first session, but it has started a profound process in how my mind is working and definitely helping the anxiety I have been suffering with around driving for many years. I am so grateful to have hope finally to be relieved of this nightmare.
I feel like I’m passing out and shaking
I want to drive everywhere like normal people, but my fear anxiety doesn't let me. I just stay local withing my comfort zone. I feel like if I get on the dual carriageways I will do something stupid or get lost on a roundabout and not know what to do or go back home. Hate drivers that drive so close behind, an lose concentration altogether. I drive alone because I don't feel experienced enough to have a friend an risk an accident and hurt them.
You can carry a problem around with you for as long as you choose to. You can also put it down and carry on without it whenever you choose to.
@@1stdrive When you say put it down, do you mean just do it an get on with it, or quit driving?
You’re not alone ❤️ I’ve struggled never driven until this week I started driving lessons is a step by step in learning believe me I wasn’t nervous as the instructor is very calm plus my m practicing in a neighborhood street area so we shall see .
I don’t worry about the process of driving itself.
I had an anxiety attack when I got stuck in a jam in a normally free flowing dual carriageway, I felt trapped and extremely claustrophobic, this was about 10yrs ago. I was a bit hungover and always did get a bit of ‘Hangsiety’. Anyway, I didn’t happen again until recently. I feel, current negative events in my life put me into a poor mental state which led to the attack. It got really bad where I couldn’t even drive more than a few hundred yards without the feeling of panic. I’m a lot better now though as my driving is stuck to the same routes which I’ve got used to. If I’ve got to do anything new or go off route it feels me with fear and worry. I could drive anywhere, anytime with not a single thought or worry about it. I just want to be who I used to be….
I am afraid of heights. That's the worse part of being on the Freeway (Motorway) for me. Especially, Turn about. I've been enjoying your videos. Thank you.
Wow - I was ill on a plane about 20 years ago since then I’ve had a fear of flying but I never thought that the two weren’t connected - really helps thanks
I have a fear of crashing. I can drive but I'm bad about avoiding driving. Then on top of that, I just lost my brother, sister in law, and 9m old neice in a tragic car accident on March 28th, 2021 by the other driver driving on the wrong side of the road chasing her ex. When she came around the curve, she struck my brother and his family. Nobody survied. Now, I'm even more terrified of driving and other drivers.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Be happy at least you drive I don’t drive . You have courage ❤️
Wow i’m so sorry to hear about this
I think my fear is that if I have an accident everyone will be like "see, we knew you can't be trusted to do something properly." As a child my parents didn't let me explore and make my own mistakes and when I was doing something my Dad would often take over without letting me learn it myself. Could this be an issue? I'm trying to work on it as if that's the issue. My first instructor told me he was certain I'd have an accident in my life. My new and current instructor is so lovely and is trying really hard to give me confidence in myself, I haven't explicitly told him I don't trust my own abilities but I think he's perceptive enough to have picked it up.
I'm seriously considering getting a session with you if I can't fix this myself.
That could be the issue but just thinking of it like that won't fix anything. You have to go much deeper into it and there will be other things attached to it, which also need clearing otherwise you'll only get a superficial result that won't last. You always have to fix the problem yourself but it's virtually impossible to do it all alone because you won't see what people on the outside of your problem will see. That's why you're stuck in it!
@@1stdrive Thanks for your reply. After I commented I found your video about conscious and subconscious with the example: fear of driving = football sticker book, and I realised the issue is probably much more abstract than I first realised. Honestly, I think whatever it is, it is affecting other aspects of my life too. The human brain is so weird 🤷♀️
This is a really good explanation of the problem and the best I've seen so far in breaking down the root causes. I LOL'ed at the brick wall comment hahaha. Thanks for the video
Thanks, looks like I'll be making more like this if we're all inside for another couple of months.
I'm annoyed by other reckless drivers on the road, especially high ways. I use speed limit 70 and keep middle lane, but all other ones do not abide by the speed limit. Stronger penalties are needed to save other law biding drivers.
I just passed and have been beeped at etc for being a bit slow or in the wrong lane and I find it worse than before I learned to drive. So many aggressive drivers out there
Recently had 2 dreams about driving. I am always conscious that people are judging me. It was highlighted in my dream.. I feel like I do not know what I am doing yet have had no accidents. I think it may be something to do with how I was treated when I struggled with things I was learning at home or school.
That's common, in fact I was working with someone this morning on just that! It's nothing to do with driving, the fear or being judged and rejected can be what's causing it all.
Its been so bad i still don't have my full licence and im nearly 40 , i know i have to drive but just cant get fully there ,i get a mind block
Mate I am 41 I was the opposite learning full of beans. Now I am on my own I am like what if I get stuck. My friends have said I am fine. Are you in Brum?
I could reccomend my old driving instructor if I had not had her I would not have passed.
I’m 42 never driven I have 4 kids no one understands the mental struggle of having so much doubts fear in driving. Finally I’ve taken the courage to practice my driving Tuesday was my first lesson and today will be my 3rd good thing the instructor is a woman and she’s very patient . I hope I can continue this driving journey. I truly understand your situation ❤️
I don't think I had driving anxiety until I began having constant nightmares about losing control of the car and just panicking. Maybe that caused it? idk-
Nightmares are your mind showing you things in metaphors, just as it does in pleasant dreams. It's not that the nightmares caused the problem, they are the problem! Your mind can show you things visually when you sleep but it gives you an anxious feeling when you drive because you're not in the right state to visualise. The nightmares and driving anxiety are the same thing presented in a different way.
Do you do online hypnotherapy
I only do it online.
My dream finally came true i am no longer scared
What changed?
Where are u based? I could do with a one to one session
You honestly think you get rid of my problem within an hour or couple of hours?
I can't but you can.
@@1stdrive only if he has a accurate memory about his history and past traumas. If he doesnt theres a good chance he will just keep spinning his wheels, pun intended, trying to figure out what the past problem is
This isn't about memory. When you ask people what their problem is they often spew out the same out story they've told everyone a hundred times before. That's all conscious nonsense, nothing more than a story their conscious mind has made because humans have a natural desire to want to solve problems. It's got us a long way and allowed for many achievements but it also holds us back when we apply the problem-solving part of us to unconscious processes. I've had sessions as a client where I have "remembered" things without even knowing what they are. That's now how it works.
I need your help how can I contact u