I think we people who are unsure or “child free by choice 😂” are not selfish. Balki vo log selfish hai jo bacha kar rahe hai because jo auntian muje har baar phn p bas yahi baat poochti hain khushkhabri kab de rahi ho now i have started asking them ki bacha kyu chaiye jab muje koi iska answer dega and i will be agree with that mei ussi din decision bna lungi. And let me tell you on rishtedaaro k pass kya jvab “budappe me kon sambhalega” isn’t that thought selfish. Fir vahi bache jab apni zindgi bnane bahar jana chahte hai toh gharo me kalesh ho jate hai kyoki bacha toh budhape me sambhalne k liye paida kia tha na. Lekin vo toh chla gya apni life bnane. I think they are selfish jo bacha kr rahe hai. And i am still unsure ki I really want to have a baby or not.
I’m 43 and happily married for 17 years and happily child free by choice … both hubby and I didn’t want to bring our flesh and blood in this burning world …
I don't want kids but then my bf wants kids, atleast 1 & he thinks eventually my mind will change & I'll stop thinking like this.. He always takes this thing lightly.. I have always clearly said & discussed with him but he just doesn't get it & we broke up because of this.. & I think I'll never get marry to anybody ever because I don't want kids.😔 I want a partner just like me😊
@@jeetdave6830 well there are hundreds of reasons to why I don't want to have babies.. Plz don't judge I love babies but I just don't want my own baby 1st reason is childhood trauma.. My father used to abuse my mother & Me. he also used to beat my mom infront of his 2 children.. Me & my small brother.. We were very small that time.. But their fights & seeing my father beat my mother for literally the smallest things she didn't even do anything wrong never I repeat never.. Still he use to beat her & abuse us.. It destroyed me.. I had father but never experienced father's love... That's the first reason Why I decided to not have kids.. Another one is I can't even take my responsibility.. How can i take a baby's responsibility... It's a full time job .. & babies are expensive I am still struggling & depressed.. I don't wanna ruin my baby's life & I can't have a baby just bcoz everyone is having baby.. That's my choice if I want to take anyone's responsibilities or not.. Other reasons are definitely mentioned in the video..
The truth i reached is "The one (and only) guaranteed way to prevent all evil befalling children in this world and also beyond(if hell is real) is not to bring them into this world to begin with☮".
Now I understand inke sare reels faaltu k kharcho k kyu hote h..jb bache nhi kroge to yehi sb kroge..plus agr itna hi akele rhen ka shok tha to kutta kyu paal liya
I think, to each his own! None of the choices are right or wrong. It’s what is right for you. One man’s meat can be other man’s poison. It’s as simple as that..
I've one baby girl..now people are asking for another baby..they won't stop at one..then a boy theory will come.. bohot selfish motives hai society kee Child free couple can book 5 star retirement house.. can save accordingly
I want to be chidfree by choice but feeling scared if something happen to one of them then we will be alone. Please suggest me how to be happy with choice
Dude do not depend your entire reason to be on this planet onto someone else. Expectations are like stone bring thrown up in the air and when they land on your head you say why are they hitting me. Alone is okay. You are complete❤ you do not neer anyone else for happiness. And companionship can come in many ways, like spending quality time often with parents, siblings, a best honest genuine friend, nieces and nephews, cousins. Kudos to Nitti and him that they are child free in today’s declining world! Plus they live among Indian relatives, and this is coming from an Indian d-i-l with a child❤
Mera bhi haal kuch Raman jaisa hai but I was sure I can do it. Isliye when I was ready o manifested my baby. I have 2 daughters now and I am all in for them.
Glad you guys are having such discussion and putting out for others as well.. But somehow I feel Neeti miss being a mom. 🌺 I totally get it that you are fine with it but still kuch adhurapan sa lag raha hai sunke. Wishing you love only! 💛
I agree with neeti. Its all in raman's head. Jo bhi raman mind me bana rakha ek socha. Raman ne jo bhi bola rahe woh sirf justification de rahe. Duniya kar passion k sath kid grow kar rahe hai.
doesnt sound like an equal decision, mostly his. And its a clear pattern in his selfish decision making - getting Laila, quitting job without a plan, going to goa for 2 months, buying expensive things for himself, drinking excessively, etc. etc. God help you girl, you couldv'e done better.
Hi both of you aap dono ka ye podcast dekh ker yahi lagta hai ki Raman darr main ji rahe hai bachhe ke future ko leker or Niti ne jo bola log ye kerte hai , samaj aisa kerta hai ..... toh samaj hamesha hum hi banata hai, toh banao aisa samaj jaha kids ko apne tarike se nurturing kere or na ki iss samaj ko blame kere kyuki hum se hi samaj Banta hai .... toddo saare old pattern or new tarike se bacche ko grow kero main aap dono ki baaton se agree nai hun... Kyuki yaha pr ek darr main jee raha hai or ek samaj ke old pattern ki baatein ker raha hai bus.... we create our own reality Niti ko to kids chaiye but vo Raman ki vajah se chup hai or samaj ko blame ker rahi hai toh niti Raman bhi toh samaj ka hi hissa hai ?
Childfree and happier couples from Australia ❣️🇦🇺
I think we people who are unsure or “child free by choice 😂” are not selfish. Balki vo log selfish hai jo bacha kar rahe hai because jo auntian muje har baar phn p bas yahi baat poochti hain khushkhabri kab de rahi ho now i have started asking them ki bacha kyu chaiye jab muje koi iska answer dega and i will be agree with that mei ussi din decision bna lungi. And let me tell you on rishtedaaro k pass kya jvab “budappe me kon sambhalega” isn’t that thought selfish. Fir vahi bache jab apni zindgi bnane bahar jana chahte hai toh gharo me kalesh ho jate hai kyoki bacha toh budhape me sambhalne k liye paida kia tha na. Lekin vo toh chla gya apni life bnane. I think they are selfish jo bacha kr rahe hai.
And i am still unsure ki I really want to have a baby or not.
That’s why we also decided to be Childfree😊🇦🇺❣️
Having children is always selfish you can't have a child for child sake you are having children because you want children.
I’m 43 and happily married for 17 years and happily child free by choice … both hubby and I didn’t want to bring our flesh and blood in this burning world …
Im glad i came across your channel.... even i have opted for the same but it really becomes difficult to make others understand about this concept.
I wish child free couples cud have a community and a safe place to express themselves. Thank you for this podcast!
You are so welcome!❤️
We do have
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I don't want kids but then my bf wants kids, atleast 1
& he thinks eventually my mind will change & I'll stop thinking like this.. He always takes this thing lightly.. I have always clearly said & discussed with him but he just doesn't get it & we broke up because of this..
& I think I'll never get marry to anybody ever because I don't want kids.😔 I want a partner just like me😊
But can you explain, what is reason behind your thinking of not having child
@@jeetdave6830
bcoz I "don't want to.."
@@Kritiical reason?
@@jeetdave6830 well there are hundreds of reasons to why I don't want to have babies..
Plz don't judge I love babies but I just don't want my own baby
1st reason is childhood trauma.. My father used to abuse my mother & Me. he also used to beat my mom infront of his 2 children.. Me & my small brother.. We were very small that time.. But their fights & seeing my father beat my mother for literally the smallest things she didn't even do anything wrong never I repeat never.. Still he use to beat her & abuse us.. It destroyed me.. I had father but never experienced father's love... That's the first reason Why I decided to not have kids.. Another one is I can't even take my responsibility.. How can i take a baby's responsibility... It's a full time job .. & babies are expensive I am still struggling & depressed.. I don't wanna ruin my baby's life & I can't have a baby just bcoz everyone is having baby.. That's my choice if I want to take anyone's responsibilities or not.. Other reasons are definitely mentioned in the video..
@@jeetdave6830
"Just bcoz you can, doesn't mean you should !! "
Wonderful conversation ❤
The truth i reached is "The one (and only) guaranteed way to prevent all evil befalling children in this world and also beyond(if hell is real) is not to bring them into this world to begin with☮".
Get used to this question life long everyone will ask...just dont get offended...with a choice certain thinks questions are inevitable....
You guys are too good. I like both of your nature. And your thinking.
Sab apke dimag ka khel hai it will work how you feed it.
Now I understand inke sare reels faaltu k kharcho k kyu hote h..jb bache nhi kroge to yehi sb kroge..plus agr itna hi akele rhen ka shok tha to kutta kyu paal liya
how do you guys gather energy for gym guys?...im just not able to gym so tips would help
I think, to each his own! None of the choices are right or wrong. It’s what is right for you. One man’s meat can be other man’s poison. It’s as simple as that..
I've one baby girl..now people are asking for another baby..they won't stop at one..then a boy theory will come.. bohot selfish motives hai society kee
Child free couple can book 5 star retirement house.. can save accordingly
Yes india me ese logo ki must need h or aap apne bare me jarur bataiy
Thanks lm childfree but not by choice and i don't want child i m happy to see happy indian childfree cupel
I want to be chidfree by choice but feeling scared if something happen to one of them then we will be alone. Please suggest me how to be happy with choice
More podcast to follow ✌️
Dude do not depend your entire reason to be on this planet onto someone else. Expectations are like stone bring thrown up in the air and when they land on your head you say why are they hitting me. Alone is okay. You are complete❤ you do not neer anyone else for happiness. And companionship can come in many ways, like spending quality time often with parents, siblings, a best honest genuine friend, nieces and nephews, cousins. Kudos to Nitti and him that they are child free in today’s declining world! Plus they live among Indian relatives, and this is coming from an Indian d-i-l with a child❤
Make friends. Don't think you can firce your kids to love you. Have them only if you want them. Old age home mai 95% logo ke bacche the.
Mera bhi haal kuch Raman jaisa hai but I was sure I can do it. Isliye when I was ready o manifested my baby. I have 2 daughters now and I am all in for them.
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So true couple ❤
Glad you guys are having such discussion and putting out for others as well.. But somehow I feel Neeti miss being a mom. 🌺 I totally get it that you are fine with it but still kuch adhurapan sa lag raha hai sunke.
Wishing you love only! 💛
Yeha mutual decision nahi. She only adjust in this situation
Trueee ..
I agree with neeti. Its all in raman's head. Jo bhi raman mind me bana rakha ek socha. Raman ne jo bhi bola rahe woh sirf justification de rahe. Duniya kar passion k sath kid grow kar rahe hai.
41:33 you are 💯💯💯💯💯💯
Childfree is the best way of life..
At old age we need companion also. What to do then?
Adopt children there are millions children need for a family in adoption care centre
doesnt sound like an equal decision, mostly his. And its a clear pattern in his selfish decision making - getting Laila, quitting job without a plan, going to goa for 2 months, buying expensive things for himself, drinking excessively, etc. etc. God help you girl, you couldv'e done better.
Just 1 question. Do u have a kid?
Ab karne ka koi fayad nahi. Yes neeti ne bahut bada sacrifice kiya.
Hi both of you aap dono ka ye podcast dekh ker yahi lagta hai ki Raman darr main ji rahe hai bachhe ke future ko leker or Niti ne jo bola log ye kerte hai , samaj aisa kerta hai ..... toh samaj hamesha hum hi banata hai, toh banao aisa samaj jaha kids ko apne tarike se nurturing kere or na ki iss samaj ko blame kere kyuki hum se hi samaj Banta hai .... toddo saare old pattern or new tarike se bacche ko grow kero main aap dono ki baaton se agree nai hun... Kyuki yaha pr ek darr main jee raha hai or ek samaj ke old pattern ki baatein ker raha hai bus.... we create our own reality Niti ko to kids chaiye but vo Raman ki vajah se chup hai or samaj ko blame ker rahi hai toh niti Raman bhi toh samaj ka hi hissa hai ?
childfree groups ke koi social media links bhejo
Good neeti. Apko bolna chahiye need kid. Yeha sab jo bola rahe only safai de rahe ho. Bar bar bola k only apne shant kar rahe.
Sach m 40 + ho ap mujhe yakin nhi hora 🫨🫨🫨
Phirse ????