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Aur un logo ka kya jinko bol diya baccha kar lo ham dekh lenge...aur baad mei poora muhh pher lete hai...aise logo ka kya kare ..bhare pade hai aise log middle class mei..jo janbhoojhkar dukhi karte hai apne baccho ko.😢
Great respect for following atleast two types of people 1) Happily parents- They are enjoying parenthood, and they make this world better by raising kids in healthy and prosperous ecosystem. In such an ambience, kids when grow up become invalauble assest for not just their parents but also society and country. 2) Happily DINK: It takes consistent courage and great self-awareness to sustain this decision. If they are able to explore purpose of life for themselves and society then they themselves are great assests for everyone.
Dink can't be happy because happiness is not based on lofe stage being Dink or parents. It depends on how much tough challenges you take head on and grow through life
same here parents cannot be happy if they choose to became parents for under society pressure,fake promises ,as catlyst to force own dreams on children ,etc(rather than really enjoying responsiblites) It depends on how much tough challenges you take head and how much really satisfied with your life i asked question:-what did you achieved with your life having children ,marriage ?? they were like 😶 so really i respect happiliy parents and happiliy dinks @@subnan5126
@@changingtangents happiness is anyway too much over rated term, basically contentment and how easily you adjust back to balance post any sad or even over joyous event is required in life. If both these sets can do that great.
Telling from personal experience, me and wife both r working corporate jobs with over 10years experience. We have 1 daughter. Extremely hard to maintain a balance between demanding jobs and caring for our daughter. Our work requires long working hours, we have to leave child in daycare due to which she often falls sick and we have to take days off on sudden notice to take care of her. Nobody in the office understands our situation instead bosses taunt about sudden leave notices. Her parents are too old to take care of our daughter and my parents are not interested as they have their own agendas. So mentally it takes a toll on us. Having a child is definitely fulfilling because she means the world to us but it is a lot of hardwork for working couples in todays day and age.
I think the main concern with this situation is the 'Job culture', It's sad to see how people lack empathy nowadays. I see you're happy with having a daughter, and all that matters. May you have the strength to handle her responsibilities, she'll definitely acknowledge your contribution. She is going to be a good girl.
ye sab pehle se ho raha hai...pehle se janke v bs khud ke swarth ke liye bachhe paida krte ho...mana bht hardwork krke sambhal rahe ho..acchi baat hai...but abhi wo bacha parents ke saath rehke achha bura sikh ke bada hona chahiye but wo abhi kya banega wo dusre ke haath me hai...ese me baad ne bachhe ko taqleef hoga...bacha na paida krke daya kro insano pr....abhi common si baat hai wo bachha v 22-25 year tak padhega job dhundega phir jese tum kr krre wese din raat kaam karega...usse v shaanti nhi milega
I was facing same finally i have left my job for my daughter, but inside i feel so sad for my career.. these same pple - my inlaws taunts me seating at home doing nothing.. one of you have leave means woman only have to leave job my salary was lesser than him.. he had responsibility of his family and ours - now i have became full time housemaid, they removed the helper also because i m at home
I and my partner are DINKs. We are very happy with our lives. We don't want kids. I have seen my aunts who are childfree and happy at 70. I have seen my uncles struggle to settle their kids and continue to spend heavily on them in his 60s. I have seen neighbors living and dying alone because kids are staying abroad and can only afford to visit 1ce a year. Kids are not a guarantee of happiness and company at old age. It is personal and very situational. Also we don't want kids because we simply don't want them. We want a low responsibility, more time & disposable income life. We simply don't care what happens to the world after we die, it is not our responsibility to worry about the world 50 yrs from today. We want a good life & then just exit this world.
Very well said, I used to think like you and now I have a kid. I had him at the age of 42. I can’t say I was happier before or happier now. Its just a different experience.
This is the sort of selfish thinking that is responsible for drop in the vigor of many societies around the world. If seeking self-satisfaction is the sole motive of your existence, then you would be relegated to a dusty shelf as a book that didn't get published.
Mai 24 sal ka hu Or mai bhut thak gya hu ghar walo ke hisab se reh reh ke . Aaj tak mene apne hisab se apne liye kuch nhi kiya. Or isliye mai sochta hu ki agar mene bacche kr liya to fir mai apne liye kab jiunga. Mera vese hi man nhi karta jine ka to mai kese kisi or ko paida kr lu Jaha mai khud safe feel nhi krta waha kisi or ko paida krke kese dhakel du Mai nhi sochta desh ka kya hoga environment accha hoga nhi hoga Mera plan ban chuka h ki mai bacche nhi karunga. Mere jeevan ka mere liye ye pehla decision h nhi to mere ghar me to mere hisab se aajtak kuch nhi hua or vo umeed krte h ki unke hisab se reh kr ke mai safal ho jau. Unko kabhi bolo na ki mujhe aisa nhi vaisa jam rha h kisi chiz ke liye to unke tane shuru ho jate h ki karlo apne hisab se hamse mt puchna dobra wagera wagera. Sidhi baat h maa baap ko acche se rakh ke apni jindgi aaram se jiunga dekh jayega akhri me jo hoga
It takes a village to grow a child. Nowadays no one to support the middleclass parents to take care of kids till they are 8-10 yrs old. Everything is expensive and jobs get a priority since middle class will get pushed to lower class if both are not working.
Brother, a child is yours as your family. Why will anybody go out of their way to help you? They also have their own kids to deal with. Isnt it a bit presumptuous to assume that everyone should help you because you have a kid? Its kind to help, but if youre asking consideration for kindness, is that not delusional? Of course there will be some help, but in the first place one should never even think of reaching to such levels that they'd need help right?
@@NortoonGerume-oq4ch We should build support systems like that. We dont hear much about those kinda families but they certainly do exist. All im saying is that we should keep our expectations very low. Im not justifying selfish behaviour. What if someone asks you for help? How far will you go? Id like you to deeply ask that question and answer to yourself, not to me. If you have a certain level upto which you can, you should also not expect help for you beyond that. Even if you have a level id say one shouldnt expect, because it is like that - Just because you helped someone doesnt mean you should expect anything, because if you are expecting that isnt helping in the first place. Not from that person, or from anyone else. Im saying please have faith and hope in your own self and your spouse. People wont come just because I need someone too, unfortunate as that may be its also not incorrect right? Denying struggle is stupid, but am i wrong here?
Then who asked middle class to break joint family? 😂 Middle class cut the root of the tree on which they were raised properly. Our ancestors were smart on life skills than our generations.
Very well said… I had a son and I was sure that’s enough.. but during Covid we had some realizations and we had a daughter… now we as parents can’t imagine our life without these kiddos… we are also working parents by the way and enjoy our life at its fullest without any regrets… I am also a believer of YOLO..
@@shivislifestyle9858 Very good decision, happiness is at times beyond money & status or how many cars & house one has. If middle class stop comparison with others then their life will be easy.
Awesome lecture. You cultivate your kid as a role model to protect and conserve mother nature. That will be your best contribution. Very well said Sir. ❤
Babies are not toys. Having a child should be a conscious decision. Society ya kisi or k pressure me ake bacche nahi karne chahiye. So many kids suffer from neglect and other abuse from their parents and later develop personality disorders due to CPTSD. If parents can provide their child with love, care, time, emotional and financial support then only they should consider having one.
Absolutely right.. Babies are not entertainment source ,it's a very big responsibility and to bring a soul in this world which is full of competition challenges and a child goes through many difficulties of education jobs issue financial issues then why to bring them here rather help people who are already born in your family and society
Absolutely true desh ko badhane ke liye bachhe kar lo ...Middle class ko bachane ke liye bache kar lo is the most funny thinking ever. You are right there are ppl who give trauma to their children and making things worse for them.
Your analysis and reasoning is very right and very much relevant for today. The present child- bearing generation needs to think about this more maturely and also with less selfishness
The networth of parents should be atleast 100 cr so that parents and children every one can enjoy and chill in life. The world belongs to rich. Middleclass people should not have kids.
@@RahulYadav-nk6wp I use same books which is school going kids use,I send my kids to tution or dance classes or karate when ever they feel like for interaction with other kids
How old are your kids now? How do you cope with the excess of energy which they have. How do they perceive their situation in comparison to other kids? Are you from India only and which city? Replies will be much appreciated.
Middle class Itna suppressed feel karta hai ki they hardly focus on pleasure and relaxation The only thing a middle class practices is people pleasing and paying taxes and trying to be a good beta beti No one paying attention to their personal emotional physiological psychological needs
@@venkatreddy4553 people should focus on making money , Uncle ji must be rich , First people shd make money and then philosophy - even srk says the same
Middle class is themselves responsible for that out of their greed & arrogance. They themselves damaged joint family structure for their petty selfishness. 😂 Now they are crying over the sociatal & life pressure. 😂
@@iamnoob7593 SRK is not life coach. If all stop watching movies SRK won't be rich anymore, previous generations given births & their money was used by those children's to make SRK what he is. 😂😂 too much greed at times is dangerous. 😂
I have 3 children who are the blessings of my life..fact though is that my career was highly compromised..however I am happy that I have learnt so many more ways to generate revenues and now I am back in the workforce part time and flexi..best outcome 👍
Was working for coforge, left job bcs my son was having health issues. Spend good 6 months with him, now got a job post 22 interviews. Proud of my decision ❤
I am a millenial and honestly this decisions to have kids is very very hard for all of us. Why? The reason is inflation, rising costs of everything and please don't tell me that Modiji sab thik kar denge. I have to struggle for jobs like anything, even though Ive a degree and certifications. Today's reality is that companies aren’t even willling to pay. Even if you have 3-5 years of experience, they will try their best to make you work for peanuts. Setting up your own business or solopreneurship isn't easy either. So, when you don't have a good financial footing, you can't think of having kids. Because at the end of the day you want to provide good things to them as well as you too want to live comfortably.
I agree with you. Educated pll like us want to give the child the best of everything. This silly man is saying that these are our 'nakhres' bcz maids do not have these nakhres. All these problems are bcz of population and DINKS like us are stepping in to curb this. Instead of spreading awareness for good, this uncle is saying all BS.
@@indiantravelsome Giving best facilities doesn't mean ur child will be special. 😂 Then how daily wage earners in construction work having 3 kids ? It's all in ur mindset.
@@surojeetchatterji9966 that's exactly my point ! A daily wage earner's kid will be a labourer only in most cases bcz of chronic lack of the facilities He/she has 3 kids only to make them earn money for the family! Thats what lack of education does to you Plus, its not a guarantee that if i give my child the best of everything, he will be special.. but he will be better than those kids bcz of the environment he will get.The child would know the difference between good and bad
@@indiantravelsome that's a bogus theory, I studied in govt school & when I joined work I was smarter & efficient than many of ur so called private big school & convent school studied workers. 🤣 one of my cousin brothers student whos father mother were doctor & engineer studied in govt school ranked 135 in IIT then went to MIT. 😄 its all about what u have within, not what u have as facilities. That little advantage of facilities can be overcome easily by a bright student from poor background, who's father could be an auto driver or labour or farmer. There is no fix status as such. Nature gives talent not society. Many ppls luck doesn't shine but that doesn't mean their future generation will not come all guns blazing with luck behind them as well.
Most females marry and have children primarily to secure the relationship. I am part of Generation Z, and almost all of my friends simply want to live without marriage and without the responsibilities of raising children. If someone claims that children bring happiness, that is really great nonsense; money can provide 99.99% of the happiness one needs.
Being a millennial, n child free let me tell you one thing. We human r not meant to be happy all the time so no metter if we get married or stay single,hv kids or be childfree our life is never going to be perfect. Yes moments of peace n happiness will surely b here n there in every kind of life.
I wanna have kids to pass on my genes man (and no I'm not becoming a sperm doner, I mean I could qualify but where's the fun in that, I want to raise the kid myself), all this stuff about happiness and securing a relationship is horse doodoo, never really thought of it this way. Raising a kid is gonna be a major pain in the ass but I'm ready to take up that responsibility. I'll be the coolest dad in the block 😎
Disagreed with u... I m a working professional hving decent amount of money... earlier I was like why m doing job who I am earning for coz saving 100% of salary but used to feel alone... Now after having a kid expenditure has increased but don't hv time to think shitty thoughts... Mind is always occupied...so m very much happy now...now u see how money was buying 99.99% happiness for me...u r completely wrong here...if money could buy happiness then Ambani adani and actors would have been childless
Bacche na krne me galat bhi to kuch nhi h. Bacche ki responsibility bht badi chiz agr vo koi ni lena chahta ya pasand nhi h to accha h vo na kre bacche. Dusre ki tarah toxic parents banne se accha h na kre bacche, jab tak Khushi khushi nhi krna chahte.
@@Lolobebo51 thank u. ji bilkul apne parents ko dekh k itna to samj aa gya ki bacche paida krna jaruri ni h use pyar dena bhi jaruri h vrna uski bjese bht trauma jelna padta h to kisi ko paida kr k itni buri zindgi de usse acha na bacche paida kre.
Very well said… I had a son and I was sure that’s enough.. but during Covid we had some realizations and we had a daughter… now we as parents can’t imagine our life without these kiddos… we are also working parents by the way and enjoy our life at its fullest without any regrets… I am also a believer of YOLO..
Naukri karke burnout ho jaate hai..phir bache ko bhi bade hokar naukri ke dhakke khao., quality life nahi hai. Pehle itni competition nahi hoti hai ,ab har jagah struggle aur fight karna hai.
Rich to karenge na... they have ample monetary resources t manage and keep nurses and maids etc etc. Their parents dont hv to babysit or they dont hv to quit jobs t take care... and their lifestayle isnt affected so they hv... middle class is really struggling... in jobs which r almost like slavery. So they dont jv time or energy fr kids and if they cnt keep their responsibility and take care properly then its better not to.. nobdy shud do it badly as it affects d child...
@@venkatreddy4553uncle is not creepy, he clearly mentioned what is being said in the above comment ie It is not the rich class that is not having kids but the middle class that is struggling to live a decent life and manage their family with the job. You first have to listen to uncle very carefully before calling such names brother. He is speaking based on a lot of consultations given to families
I got married late. Gave birth to baby after first year of marriage. Would love to have another baby but don't want to go through the pain of giving birth again. Entire nine months of pregnancy were so crucial, gained weight which i have not been able to loose so far, the surgery and then recovery was so painful, had no strength for 6 months post surgery. I want another baby and a sibling for my baby, but don't want to go through the same horrific experience of giving birth.😅😅😅
Maybe that was your first time so you felt like that, You know now how the process is for second time. Maybe little lesser problematic. PS- I am a male who is unmarried I have no experience of anything just spoke what came to my mind.
I too felt the same...I had terrible first birth...lot of pain even though normal delivery and couldn't sit for 2 months...lost a lot of blood...every time I thought of another baby I would get anxious thinking of how I will manage pregnancy again..but second pregancy was easy but baby is monster 😂
@@MohitYadav-th7fz tum bhote happy with job and settle in married life lag rahe ho...y don't u share ur real life experience...other thn just opening ur mouth.
I worry about losing my job and feeding my child..and I am a worman. I dont want this pressure.. I fear more about losing my health actually. Because i have ZERO inheritence as a girl child from my parents and greedy brother's wife.
As an unsuccessful offspring of my parents, I always end up enduring daily taunts of my parents that bcoz of me nd my sister our parents didn't had a successful married life. Would not want to give the same torture to my next offspring, hence it's advisable to be childfree.
Bache waise bhi old age mein support nahi karte toh kyu kare? Biwi ghar ka kaam nahi karti toh shaadi kyu kare? Shaadi ke baad husband ko sirf insult karti hai wife. I'm divorced at 38.
Why you wanted to marry ? Did you ask this question to yourself before marriage? And To your ex spouse? Why she wants to marry ? Was it lust ? Was it Indian tradition? Was it FoMO as all friends and colleagues were getting married?
@@carrad123456 Marriage foundation should be sheer love and nothing else. If my expecting of her doing household work is wrong then her expecting me to keep giving ₹30, 000 each month is also wrong❌
Very open discussion. Central point is that no approach is good or bad but each choice have end consequences. Parents shall support their children to reasonable extent in which ever way they can.
Career oriented womens and mens and their greed are the main reason. Nothing to do with cost, I have seen labors and maids living happily with their kids even if they earn less money.
Time is changing and we have to change with time. No kids is the demand of this time. Else after having kids.. Viscious cycle starts.. Kids - respinsibility - education - metro city - then having own house - then liabilities - emi - stress and ultimately heart attack. Be child free is the best thing in today's time.. We would never regret this decision ever. No kid No owing any house in metro - stay on rent. No liabilities No stress After this..even u r not bound to hear to your bosses if u dont have liabilities. Be stress free , be relax.. And keep ur parents happy by not asking time to open their tijori..
Insan ka pareshan hone ka karan one of the reason he ki vo apni life emotional dependency badata he , pehele family then wife then kids , inme kisko kuch ho jaye to he/she both will suffer. My Sister having a kid who is suffering from mental disorder , bohot tuff ho gai dono parents life personally , socially , financially. Also i have a friend who lost his 1.5 month sons recently, hum soch bhi nai saktee unka hal kya hoga ,its better to be childesse parents , Aap dono milkte financially stable ho jao , then work for social causes : )
If couple facing infertility issues, there is no limit to how much money will go into treatment. Not all parents will support financially for infertility treatment and will leave it on couples destiny. And if couple succeeds in making a baby, nobody comes to support new mom and baby. Everything is managed by the couple only. At the end if it couple is financially, emotionally, mentally, physically exhausted...and its a fact of not one but many couples. Baby is the only reason that keeps everything for them going good...❤Things could become better if parents support their children but they will not do i guess. Also school fees for normal nursery school is around 70k to 1.50L yearly in Mumbai and Navi Mumbai.
My wife got pregnant without any planning... I wanted to abort bcz I was not ready... However I had that baby bcz my mother said that she would take care of the kid .. But when baby was delivered, she was not interested in keeping the baby at all... So my wife had to forget her career aspiration and became housewife just to handle the baby which we didn't want to have initially 😢
@@siddhu9211duniya ko barbaad krne ke liye apna yogdan dene ke liye bht bht dhanyabad...jabardasti paida hua hai thik se bada nhi krpaoge tum log...or upar se apne maa ko dete bache ko palne ke liye...dusre ke bharose paida kr rahe...khud me samarthya na ho to mt kro...jimmedari khud ka hota hai usse dusro pe thopte nhi...ye napunsakta kehte hai...ese bht se parents aj kal krke murkhta kr rahe hai
@@MrSatadal He is petty beniya uncle, he is talking from an angle of his beniya & oligarchs who will loose business due to less demand in future. 😂 our educated middle class ancestors did a big mistake by trying to be lavish consumers coming to cities making a small house instead of maintaining their farm land in village. 😂
Ask factors from Youth who have actually taken this decision. They want to live life, enjoy life rather than spend whole life on kids.....rest all is periphery.
1 baby kiya hai but dusra ni kar payenge sir , baccha hone ke baad ka jo time tha na helpless feel hota tha , mummy jab tak thi 15 days , c section ke 15 days me kaam shuru kiya tha , bahut takleef jheli thi , ab firse himmat ni hoti
Parenting, in particular, requires mental and physical readiness. Parents must be prepared to sacrifice sleep, manage their emotions effectively, and address their children's mistakes with care. Furthermore, raising children involves considerable financial commitments, including education, nutrition, healthcare, and extracurricular activities. Challenges are magnified for children with mental health issues, neurological disorders, disabilities, or chronic illnesses, necessitating more significant time, financial resources, emotional resilience, and advocacy against bullying and societal judgment from their parents. Decisions regarding marriage and parenthood remain personal. Individuals must consider their readiness and willingness to take on the responsibilities that come with these life choices, including the number of children they wish to have or whether to pursue options like adoption or IVF, especially in cases of fertility challenges. These personal decisions are not just pivotal to the individuals involved but have broader implications for society as a whole. By ensuring that future generations are brought up in nurturing, financially stable, and emotionally prepared environments, we lay the groundwork for a more prosperous, well-educated, and healthy society. Ultimately, such thoughtful considerations and choices contribute significantly to the welfare and progress of India.
Most of the time couple prefer love marriage and they become nuclear as girls don't get mental and physical support from in laws...she has to stabilize her relationship at every level either financially or socially. Bearing a child needs holistic approach and today's family is there to give only critics rather than emotional support
You clearly lack awareness about the toxic marriage households in India. Many child in their childhood often wished their parents would get divorced 🤷♀️
Uncle, that small time sacrifice you're mentioning lasts for 18 years. Its easy for a 'man' like you to tell raising kids is not that hard, when in reality its the mother who puts 4 times more effort in raising the child. It's a choice and women should always decide it and talk about it rather than a man 🤷♀️ Men don't educate themselves with the things like post partum depression, health issues in women after birth. People who haven't found their life's purpose see purpose in birthing a child 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
My parents started travelling from 1996 when I was 2 years old...... So if you feel that travelling gets stopped after having kids then I would say that myth is debunked...... Fun fact I have travelled almost entire India and have been to foreign countries as well....with my parents..... We too like others come from a middle class background
Population ko influence krne k liye I think bachhe paida krne k zarurat nhi h .. if a smart woman doesnt want to have a kid , she can still influence other kids by giving education on emotional intelligence or becoming a coach to serve for the society.
Then no Chusalmaans should get married but they are repairing punctures and getting married not just once but thrice or maybe more and producing 10-15 kids and yet they are thriving and not afraid of commitments towards their cause and propagation. Are you telling me you can't grow from your present situation and learn from them on how to thrive in times of peace and war ?
@@subnan5126 Marriage happens between 2 ppls & 2 family. Chusalmans as a community doesn't marry based on economic background like Hindu petty beniya society. They r more united than u think. Have u seen a rich marwari marrying his daughter to an educated Middle class marwari or other Hindu boys looking at family background & character of the boy ? But a rich chusalman beniya will do that. That's the difference between Hindus & chusalman society where economy balance out without being exploited.
Three main problems which were not earlier for having kids - School expenses, Doctor expenses and lack of feeling of security in this growing criminal world. ( Third point is still not good enough I know since it is collective responsibility but top 2 are a real concern )
Also, You need to spend a lot of time with your kids. If they don't get good upbringing then There's much more chance that the child will become a toxic one and you'll be labelled as toxic parent. This is coming from a Boy who grew up with a Narcissist Father and Supporting & Loving Mother.
@@shaangaming350 I agree this issue is only with Middle class, they can't go to govt hospitals and send their children to govt schools. And the problem is associated with only Indian Middle Class, if you are married and middle class then you will understand I tried to say or else you won't get it until you are married
@OBITO-518 bhai iit ias ki baat hi nahi ho rahi... Middle class pe jo earning and balancing ka pressure hai uski baat hai.. Not everyone can send their children to govt schools. And I am not against having kids, I am just pointing out the issues of the Middle class
Itna incomplete feel ho raha h to adopt kar lo yaar. Ese b neglected bacche h is samaj me jinhe hum apne values, cultures sikha sakte h, jo otherwise bhatke hue h.
People and society tend to force and creating an impression bearing kids is a done and dusted thing. Ek bar karlo aur bas. But no. It is a life long commitment, nahi toh property nahi chod jaonge, toh bacche man hian kosege aapko k ma baap ne kuch diya hi nagi. Make yourself financially and emotionaly strong and then go for kids.
Job security nehi hai aaj kal. Bahut tension hota hain .. Upar school fees bahut expensive hain.. govt ko kuch karna hain employment Aur school fees Kaise basics pe
Before my daughter's birth I was also not very fond of kids ....but after her birth it's like enormous source of happiness and I want to live long and healthy life for her....something like got purpose of life....now I have to do double hardwork...but all my tiredness will disappear as I see her smiling face....really kids are God's gift to us...this is my experience.
Same experience. Before my child was born I was not fond of kids. I had a child to keep my husband and parents happy. But the day she was born changed my life forever. She is the best thing that could have happened and all other Experiences pale in comparison. I wish I could have two more kids but for some reasons it is not possible.
Guruji main to chhote distance cycle se travel karta hoon and have an ev, but i support having 2 kids. Pehle main bhi baaki logon ki tarah sochtaa tha, lekin now i follow Elon Musk.
I'm 28, my partner suggests that we can sponsor many kids' education but I'm not going to do that, I will adopt two children and homeschool them because life is more than education. You need a family, one's emotional needs are of utmost importance to me. A home is the child's first school. I hope to adopt two children so that they adopt two children when they feel ready and we can all be family to children who don't have any.
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I find society around me so toxic, materialistic and money oriented. I don't find any positivity. Quality of life is determined by basic necessities like water, food, air. All of them are polluted and adulterated. Another thing influencing quality of life is education system, I myself not satisfied with education system, because it is just information feeding, making you capable to earn. But doesn't help to cultivate as strong personality, maturity and individuality. When the society itself is so toxic that your own family feels jealous about you earning more money. This toxicity is influencing the mindsets, which is again effecting quality of life. Going for a kid should be because you want to give a better quality of life, not because you want to see kinds as extension of your individuality or just being parent biologicaly.
Sense of fulfillment comes because of involvement. Not because of kids, in previous generations there were not many options of involvement apart from parenting. That is why they refer to parenting or having kids is the only way of finding fulfillment. But that is not the only way or ultimate truth about fulfillment.
Main reasons cud be financial condition, physical condition,privacy,freedom,baccha kaisa hoga kaisa niklega, carefree attitude towards Life,bachhe ho gaye fir life me restrictions AA jayenge etc ho sakle hai in many couples.
I don’t want kid because of toxic environment, In-laws are too dominating , I always felt my life got over after my marriage, if I have to handle kid also it better to leave this world .
Uncle ji it’s not just about global warming .. we live in AI world ppl r in virtual reality more than real world and if u have seen wall E movie u will know wat future generation will be like .. I definitely don’t want my kids to live that life do u???
Sir i might be wrong but in my opinion the root cause of all evil in any society is unfair and inequal distribution of resources , greed,being ego driven rather than being level headed , denying right to good and respectable life , education etc. Previously despite of women being serving the families were not treated in a respectable and fair manner if not all mostly, this has led to women becoming independent and rightly so. Now to set up families a lot of support from partner, corporates in case of working women, in-laws or own extended family is required which is missing as everyone is self centric and egoistic. Similarly in lower class were never treated in a good way for all the service they did to rich Higher class their right to education good life was denied , now they have fought their way up and rightly so. Parivartan Sankar ka niyam hai and when rather than good sense and humility ego and destructive habits prevail that segment is bound to go down at some point in time. As u rightly said if middle class doesn't get their act right which doesn't seem to be the case they will perish like any other species lol. Also rather than doing jan kalyan if one is able to do self kalyan and do their best in whatever way thet can even if it is as small as doing their job properly is more than enough . So let people be and do what best suits to their situation, everyone doesnt have the luxury of support system to bring up kids and that is fine. And there are ppl who are able to bring up 2 kids with or without support as well. Each to his own and ppl should take a responsibility which they can do justice to happily . And even if not it is just fine folks., world is actually not coming to an end we are not dinosaurs who are at the verge of extinction. Just my humble opinion.
@@JAY-gy1vg not only wealth even if family doesn't have lots of money but keep each other's well being in family equal to ones ownself , is progressive and sensible they will have unity and peace which ultimately leads to wealth. But people are busy fighting their own selfish interests keeping above family which leads to disintegration of families. And no one has ever achieved happiness and fulfillment alone. Having healthy and happy relationship is number one predictor of happiness in long term.Scandavian countries are best example of social and gender equality living in alignment with nature hence Higher on happiness Index.Though they might have other issues but relatively are better off.Yes u r right role of government also comes into this.
@@aastha6930 Very true. लडकियों को दोयम दर्जे पर रखते आए, आज उन्होंने अपनी पहचान, अस्मिता खुद से बना ली, कष्ट करके और त्याग करके तो किसी को उनका स्वाभिमान पचता नही। अपने आस पास वालों का support na मिले तो औरत दूसरे के खानदान के लिए क्यों बच्चा पैदा करने और पलने का कष्ट करे। अब मातृसत्तात्मक व्यवस्था आए तो स्त्रियों ही को दुबारा खुद से खुद के लिए बच्चे करने का मन करेगा, और जिससे स्त्री को देश को फायदा होगा। Patriarchy का क्या फायदा हुआ? कुछ नहीं। सिवाय इसके की पुरुष सत्ता बहुत लंपट, चरित्रहीन और हिंसक हो गए।
@@aastha6930 It happened bcs middle class destroyed their own joint family structure. So the affluent took the advantage of that from 2000s era. Now fixing this problem is very hard.
@@surojeetchatterji9966 Sir one man's loss is other man's gain. Also this in my opinion is a layered matter. Any system is designed considering the needs of people in those times and should work in a way so as to benefit in everyone in some way or other. Nothing is status quo and things should be challenged in order to bring positive changes with changing times. In previous structure mostly women were required to sacrifice and adjust to much larger extent , anything that is forced can never yield great results in the first place. In those times there was no other option but to adjust. Now times have changed with more opportunities women have started speaking about their needs and desires as well. In these times if both gender respect it other and try to make adjustments keeping individual happiness as well as family's larger good in mind the balance can be achieved. Moreover women are the ones who hold the family together if women are not happy it will percolate to next generation in some way or the other and that is what has exactly happened. I know many families where in women are empowered, working ,married and balancing work and family as well, even if they choose not to work and "choose" here being an important word and not forced to take care of families they are respected .Just that they have empowering supportive men and not controlling insecure men in families. Role of both genders in respective manner is important in keeping the families together.
arre sir purane jamane ke logo ki or samaj ki halat bahut karab hai. kr lete hai bina soche or fir 50 deg temprature me bhi kaam kr rahe hai road pr, 10-15 saal me trip pr nhi gaye, bank balance nhi hai, mental peace nhi hai, fees ka pressue, ghar wale, biwi, bache,rent,tax, emi, medical, fees me he maar jata hai insaan. also there is too much suffering in life and too less happiness. or ammer tho Nikhil kammath bhi hai, vo nhi kr rha, ye bollywood walo ko serious mat lo. or jisne kr liye vo kabhi nhi bolega ki jalat kr liye, vo kudko santusti kese dega fir.
@@siddhu9211 bhai og comment padhke dekh Usne bola bacche payda na ho to problem hogi Sala jo bacche payda honge woh khayenge kya? Maa baap ko nehi kosenge agar unhe job nehi mili to? Ki kiyu payda kiya mujhe? Yehi bola maine
Couples who have lived their dreams, who don't have any expectations, who have gone beyond all dreams, wishes n negative emotions like anger, hate, jealous etc have to give birth. Rest of all couples have to opt for childfree by choice. Others have to enjoy life
Minimal alcohol no refined sugar , sweets, choclate etc no minimal fast food.... regular cold showers , regular weight training, pranayam and lastly once a week full day fasting. Fertility levels will be high at 50 also.
I think what should be addressed is that its every couples decision whether they want to go through that pain or not and it should be respected. Instead of saying its a fulfilment. Its not. Having a child is a burden. And its so frustrating that by the time you raise one either you die or waiting to die. So when you will you feel the fulfilment sir? And why another human being should be the reason for your fulfilment in life? Thats the most pathetic wsy of living. If you are not fulfilled in yourself, you can never have a positive parenting. Highly disappointing on the comment.
Congratulations for being blessed with so much intelligence sir I appreciate what you say especially that elders should be just Actually everybody should do justice But Noone does righteous things That's the cause of all perils If there is chaos, definitely someone is being unjust full of bad niyat There can't be chaos otherwise
Its all because of difficulty in getting first jobs, (I agree aspirations are also very high) and rising cost of acquiring assets be it a house or other things. Old people easily got Govt jobs with barely doing 10th grade! and Govt quarters and what not
sahi kaha bro , there is not a single selfless reason to have kids ... sala usse bhe yaha coperate slavery karne uppar se bulla rahe hai , why the hell should one even have to go throught all this suffering better to pull that plug and let this be the last generation , konsa price mill raha hai for keeping the genration running or konsa end goal hai, IN short nothing matters at all.
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Please make a video on home schooling, pros and cons. Thanks
Yes school walo par to bada operation sting type ka banao guruji... Bahot hi jyada ho gayi hai inlogo ki dadagiri..banaiye app..
Aur un logo ka kya jinko bol diya baccha kar lo ham dekh lenge...aur baad mei poora muhh pher lete hai...aise logo ka kya kare ..bhare pade hai aise log middle class mei..jo janbhoojhkar dukhi karte hai apne baccho ko.😢
I thought u were wise but after watching this video I got the truth.
Please study deeply kuch bhi mat hgo😂
Great respect for following atleast two types of people
1) Happily parents- They are enjoying parenthood, and they make this world better by raising kids in healthy and prosperous ecosystem. In such an ambience, kids when grow up become invalauble assest for not just their parents but also society and country.
2) Happily DINK: It takes consistent courage and great self-awareness to sustain this decision. If they are able to explore purpose of life for themselves and society then they themselves are great assests for everyone.
Nice thought 😊
Dink can't be happy because happiness is not based on lofe stage being Dink or parents. It depends on how much tough challenges you take head on and grow through life
same here parents cannot be happy if they choose to became parents for under society pressure,fake promises ,as catlyst to force own dreams on children ,etc(rather than really enjoying responsiblites)
It depends on how much tough challenges you take head and how much really satisfied with your life
i asked question:-what did you achieved with your life having children ,marriage ??
they were like 😶
so really i respect happiliy parents and happiliy dinks
@@subnan5126
@@changingtangents happiness is anyway too much over rated term, basically contentment and how easily you adjust back to balance post any sad or even over joyous event is required in life.
If both these sets can do that great.
@@subnan5126 Keep your opinion to yourself. You contradict your own statement at the end of same.
Telling from personal experience, me and wife both r working corporate jobs with over 10years experience. We have 1 daughter. Extremely hard to maintain a balance between demanding jobs and caring for our daughter. Our work requires long working hours, we have to leave child in daycare due to which she often falls sick and we have to take days off on sudden notice to take care of her. Nobody in the office understands our situation instead bosses taunt about sudden leave notices. Her parents are too old to take care of our daughter and my parents are not interested as they have their own agendas. So mentally it takes a toll on us. Having a child is definitely fulfilling because she means the world to us but it is a lot of hardwork for working couples in todays day and age.
I think the main concern with this situation is the 'Job culture', It's sad to see how people lack empathy nowadays.
I see you're happy with having a daughter, and all that matters. May you have the strength to handle her responsibilities, she'll definitely acknowledge your contribution.
She is going to be a good girl.
ye sab pehle se ho raha hai...pehle se janke v bs khud ke swarth ke liye bachhe paida krte ho...mana bht hardwork krke sambhal rahe ho..acchi baat hai...but abhi wo bacha parents ke saath rehke achha bura sikh ke bada hona chahiye but wo abhi kya banega wo dusre ke haath me hai...ese me baad ne bachhe ko taqleef hoga...bacha na paida krke daya kro insano pr....abhi common si baat hai wo bachha v 22-25 year tak padhega job dhundega phir jese tum kr krre wese din raat kaam karega...usse v shaanti nhi milega
One of you must leave the job and become the Homemaker for better growth of your only child.
Just stay content with one salary.
@@Manik_4315its disgusting after a level to be a witness to such culture.
I was facing same finally i have left my job for my daughter, but inside i feel so sad for my career.. these same pple - my inlaws taunts me seating at home doing nothing..
one of you have leave means woman only have to leave job my salary was lesser than him.. he had responsibility of his family and ours - now i have became full time housemaid, they removed the helper also because i m at home
I and my partner are DINKs. We are very happy with our lives. We don't want kids. I have seen my aunts who are childfree and happy at 70. I have seen my uncles struggle to settle their kids and continue to spend heavily on them in his 60s. I have seen neighbors living and dying alone because kids are staying abroad and can only afford to visit 1ce a year. Kids are not a guarantee of happiness and company at old age. It is personal and very situational. Also we don't want kids because we simply don't want them. We want a low responsibility, more time & disposable income life. We simply don't care what happens to the world after we die, it is not our responsibility to worry about the world 50 yrs from today. We want a good life & then just exit this world.
Exactly how I think.
Very well said, I used to think like you and now I have a kid. I had him at the age of 42. I can’t say I was happier before or happier now. Its just a different experience.
Extremely clear thought process 👍
This is the sort of selfish thinking that is responsible for drop in the vigor of many societies around the world. If seeking self-satisfaction is the sole motive of your existence, then you would be relegated to a dusty shelf as a book that didn't get published.
very well said , we dinks can also form group , and form a comunity sort of , to help each other.
Mai 24 sal ka hu
Or mai bhut thak gya hu ghar walo ke hisab se reh reh ke .
Aaj tak mene apne hisab se apne liye kuch nhi kiya. Or isliye mai sochta hu ki agar mene bacche kr liya to fir mai apne liye kab jiunga.
Mera vese hi man nhi karta jine ka to mai kese kisi or ko paida kr lu
Jaha mai khud safe feel nhi krta waha kisi or ko paida krke kese dhakel du
Mai nhi sochta desh ka kya hoga environment accha hoga nhi hoga
Mera plan ban chuka h ki mai bacche nhi karunga.
Mere jeevan ka mere liye ye pehla decision h nhi to mere ghar me to mere hisab se aajtak kuch nhi hua or vo umeed krte h ki unke hisab se reh kr ke mai safal ho jau.
Unko kabhi bolo na ki mujhe aisa nhi vaisa jam rha h kisi chiz ke liye to unke tane shuru ho jate h ki karlo apne hisab se hamse mt puchna dobra wagera wagera.
Sidhi baat h maa baap ko acche se rakh ke apni jindgi aaram se jiunga dekh jayega akhri me jo hoga
It takes a village to grow a child. Nowadays no one to support the middleclass parents to take care of kids till they are 8-10 yrs old. Everything is expensive and jobs get a priority since middle class will get pushed to lower class if both are not working.
Truth.. and raising kids are toughest
Brother, a child is yours as your family. Why will anybody go out of their way to help you? They also have their own kids to deal with.
Isnt it a bit presumptuous to assume that everyone should help you because you have a kid? Its kind to help, but if youre asking consideration for kindness, is that not delusional?
Of course there will be some help, but in the first place one should never even think of reaching to such levels that they'd need help right?
@@NortoonGerume-oq4ch We should build support systems like that. We dont hear much about those kinda families but they certainly do exist.
All im saying is that we should keep our expectations very low. Im not justifying selfish behaviour. What if someone asks you for help? How far will you go? Id like you to deeply ask that question and answer to yourself, not to me. If you have a certain level upto which you can, you should also not expect help for you beyond that. Even if you have a level id say one shouldnt expect, because it is like that - Just because you helped someone doesnt mean you should expect anything, because if you are expecting that isnt helping in the first place. Not from that person, or from anyone else.
Im saying please have faith and hope in your own self and your spouse. People wont come just because I need someone too, unfortunate as that may be its also not incorrect right?
Denying struggle is stupid, but am i wrong here?
Then who asked middle class to break joint family? 😂 Middle class cut the root of the tree on which they were raised properly. Our ancestors were smart on life skills than our generations.
Sir once the kid is born, i cannot imagine life without that little one, there is no pre kid life , that kid is everything
Very well said… I had a son and I was sure that’s enough.. but during Covid we had some realizations and we had a daughter… now we as parents can’t imagine our life without these kiddos… we are also working parents by the way and enjoy our life at its fullest without any regrets… I am also a believer of YOLO..
@@shivislifestyle9858 Very good decision, happiness is at times beyond money & status or how many cars & house one has. If middle class stop comparison with others then their life will be easy.
Awesome lecture. You cultivate your kid as a role model to protect and conserve mother nature. That will be your best contribution. Very well said Sir. ❤
This is not practical however. Any additional kid will do more harm to environment than good. No matter what he does.
Babies are not toys. Having a child should be a conscious decision. Society ya kisi or k pressure me ake bacche nahi karne chahiye.
So many kids suffer from neglect and other abuse from their parents and later develop personality disorders due to CPTSD.
If parents can provide their child with love, care, time, emotional and financial support then only they should consider having one.
Absolutely right..
Babies are not entertainment source ,it's a very big responsibility and to bring a soul in this world which is full of competition challenges and a child goes through many difficulties of education jobs issue financial issues then why to bring them here rather help people who are already born in your family and society
Absolutely true desh ko badhane ke liye bachhe kar lo ...Middle class ko bachane ke liye bache kar lo is the most funny thinking ever. You are right there are ppl who give trauma to their children and making things worse for them.
बच्चे भगवान की देन है। हिंदू भी और मुसलमान भी सभी सभी यही कहते हैं।
Your analysis and reasoning is very right and very much relevant for today. The present child- bearing generation needs to think about this more maturely and also with less selfishness
Haha
Some people can be happy in themselves , they don’t require kids for that. Their choice not to reproduce is good thing.
Ye sab se khoobsurat baat Hai sir apki "Satisfaction" being human hum natural process se guzrey mother/father ban kar... ❤️❤️❤️...
The networth of parents should be atleast 100 cr so that parents and children every one can enjoy and chill in life. The world belongs to rich. Middleclass people should not have kids.
Home schooling is the best thing, I'm doing it with my 2 kid's they're better than normal school going kids
Even actor kumud mishraji is also doing the same he just revealed
kudos to you
What resources are you using...
@@RahulYadav-nk6wp I use same books which is school going kids use,I send my kids to tution or dance classes or karate when ever they feel like for interaction with other kids
How old are your kids now?
How do you cope with the excess of energy which they have.
How do they perceive their situation in comparison to other kids?
Are you from India only and which city?
Replies will be much appreciated.
Middle class Itna suppressed feel karta hai ki they hardly focus on pleasure and relaxation
The only thing a middle class practices is people pleasing and paying taxes and trying to be a good beta beti
No one paying attention to their personal emotional physiological psychological needs
Well said .. uncle ji must be from Bollywood khandaan so he’s rich and won’t understand this 😅if he was middle class he would know😊
@@venkatreddy4553 people should focus on making money , Uncle ji must be rich , First people shd make money and then philosophy - even srk says the same
Middle class is themselves responsible for that out of their greed & arrogance. They themselves damaged joint family structure for their petty selfishness. 😂 Now they are crying over the sociatal & life pressure. 😂
@@iamnoob7593 SRK is not life coach. If all stop watching movies SRK won't be rich anymore, previous generations given births & their money was used by those children's to make SRK what he is. 😂😂 too much greed at times is dangerous. 😂
Human beings are not machine to work for the Rich and breed workers for the Rich
Sir, honestly speaking !! Ek hi Jindagi miltee hai, achhe se jee kar jana chahiye, Jindagi lambi nahi achhi honi chahiye.
I have 3 children who are the blessings of my life..fact though is that my career was highly compromised..however I am happy that I have learnt so many more ways to generate revenues and now I am back in the workforce part time and flexi..best outcome 👍
Was working for coforge, left job bcs my son was having health issues. Spend good 6 months with him, now got a job post 22 interviews. Proud of my decision ❤
I am a millenial and honestly this decisions to have kids is very very hard for all of us. Why? The reason is inflation, rising costs of everything and please don't tell me that Modiji sab thik kar denge. I have to struggle for jobs like anything, even though Ive a degree and certifications. Today's reality is that companies aren’t even willling to pay. Even if you have 3-5 years of experience, they will try their best to make you work for peanuts. Setting up your own business or solopreneurship isn't easy either. So, when you don't have a good financial footing, you can't think of having kids. Because at the end of the day you want to provide good things to them as well as you too want to live comfortably.
I agree with you. Educated pll like us want to give the child the best of everything. This silly man is saying that these are our 'nakhres' bcz maids do not have these nakhres.
All these problems are bcz of population and DINKS like us are stepping in to curb this. Instead of spreading awareness for good, this uncle is saying all BS.
bhai, modiji sab thik kar denge.
lol.
@@indiantravelsome Giving best facilities doesn't mean ur child will be special. 😂 Then how daily wage earners in construction work having 3 kids ? It's all in ur mindset.
@@surojeetchatterji9966 that's exactly my point ! A daily wage earner's kid will be a labourer only in most cases bcz of chronic lack of the facilities
He/she has 3 kids only to make them earn money for the family! Thats what lack of education does to you
Plus, its not a guarantee that if i give my child the best of everything, he will be special.. but he will be better than those kids bcz of the environment he will get.The child would know the difference between good and bad
@@indiantravelsome that's a bogus theory, I studied in govt school & when I joined work I was smarter & efficient than many of ur so called private big school & convent school studied workers. 🤣 one of my cousin brothers student whos father mother were doctor & engineer studied in govt school ranked 135 in IIT then went to MIT. 😄 its all about what u have within, not what u have as facilities. That little advantage of facilities can be overcome easily by a bright student from poor background, who's father could be an auto driver or labour or farmer. There is no fix status as such. Nature gives talent not society. Many ppls luck doesn't shine but that doesn't mean their future generation will not come all guns blazing with luck behind them as well.
Most females marry and have children primarily to secure the relationship. I am part of Generation Z, and almost all of my friends simply want to live without marriage and without the responsibilities of raising children. If someone claims that children bring happiness, that is really great nonsense; money can provide 99.99% of the happiness one needs.
Exactly
Oh didi 😂
Being a millennial, n child free let me tell you one thing. We human r not meant to be happy all the time so no metter if we get married or stay single,hv kids or be childfree our life is never going to be perfect. Yes moments of peace n happiness will surely b here n there in every kind of life.
I wanna have kids to pass on my genes man (and no I'm not becoming a sperm doner, I mean I could qualify but where's the fun in that, I want to raise the kid myself), all this stuff about happiness and securing a relationship is horse doodoo, never really thought of it this way. Raising a kid is gonna be a major pain in the ass but I'm ready to take up that responsibility. I'll be the coolest dad in the block 😎
Disagreed with u... I m a working professional hving decent amount of money... earlier I was like why m doing job who I am earning for coz saving 100% of salary but used to feel alone... Now after having a kid expenditure has increased but don't hv time to think shitty thoughts... Mind is always occupied...so m very much happy now...now u see how money was buying 99.99% happiness for me...u r completely wrong here...if money could buy happiness then Ambani adani and actors would have been childless
Clarity for youth? By a boomer??.. this gon be fun 🤩
Bacche na krne me galat bhi to kuch nhi h. Bacche ki responsibility bht badi chiz agr vo koi ni lena chahta ya pasand nhi h to accha h vo na kre bacche. Dusre ki tarah toxic parents banne se accha h na kre bacche, jab tak Khushi khushi nhi krna chahte.
Bilkul shi baat kahi ji aapne
Aaj kal ke youth ko pata h bache paida krna aur dhang se palna dono me zameen asmaan ka farq hota h
@@Lolobebo51 thank u. ji bilkul apne parents ko dekh k itna to samj aa gya ki bacche paida krna jaruri ni h use pyar dena bhi jaruri h vrna uski bjese bht trauma jelna padta h to kisi ko paida kr k itni buri zindgi de usse acha na bacche paida kre.
Pitra rin bhi to chukana hai, for more information google it, reference Mahabharata
Yahi cheez tumhare maa baap ko bhi karna tha 😂
Sahi bat hai achha parvaris de sake tabhi Bachcha paida kare
Very well said… I had a son and I was sure that’s enough.. but during Covid we had some realizations and we had a daughter… now we as parents can’t imagine our life without these kiddos… we are also working parents by the way and enjoy our life at its fullest without any regrets… I am also a believer of YOLO..
What's YOLO?😅
@@jatingupta3688 it’s You only live once --> YOLO 🫠
Naukri karke burnout ho jaate hai..phir bache ko bhi bade hokar naukri ke dhakke khao., quality life nahi hai. Pehle itni competition nahi hoti hai ,ab har jagah struggle aur fight karna hai.
Aur AI bhi job replace kar raha h 😢
@@giftcards9111this point of your was epic sir
Child =Sex tax ..Tax to dena hi hai🎉
Humlog koi environment se concern nhi hai bus humlog already overworked and underpaid hai jo aapke generation waalon ne face nhi Kiya hai
Right..
Rich to karenge na... they have ample monetary resources t manage and keep nurses and maids etc etc. Their parents dont hv to babysit or they dont hv to quit jobs t take care... and their lifestayle isnt affected so they hv... middle class is really struggling... in jobs which r almost like slavery. So they dont jv time or energy fr kids and if they cnt keep their responsibility and take care properly then its better not to.. nobdy shud do it badly as it affects d child...
U r right ignore this uncle who seems creepy
True
@@venkatreddy4553 this uncle & ur perspective both r wrong. Harmony is inbetween.
@@venkatreddy4553uncle is not creepy, he clearly mentioned what is being said in the above comment ie It is not the rich class that is not having kids but the middle class that is struggling to live a decent life and manage their family with the job.
You first have to listen to uncle very carefully before calling such names brother. He is speaking based on a lot of consultations given to families
I got married late. Gave birth to baby after first year of marriage. Would love to have another baby but don't want to go through the pain of giving birth again. Entire nine months of pregnancy were so crucial, gained weight which i have not been able to loose so far, the surgery and then recovery was so painful, had no strength for 6 months post surgery.
I want another baby and a sibling for my baby, but don't want to go through the same horrific experience of giving birth.😅😅😅
😂😂
Maybe that was your first time so you felt like that, You know now how the process is for second time. Maybe little lesser problematic. PS- I am a male who is unmarried I have no experience of anything just spoke what came to my mind.
You can adopt another child.
@@athensmajnoo3661 Honestly, I will not have motherly love for adopted child.
I too felt the same...I had terrible first birth...lot of pain even though normal delivery and couldn't sit for 2 months...lost a lot of blood...every time I thought of another baby I would get anxious thinking of how I will manage pregnancy again..but second pregancy was easy but baby is monster 😂
Yeh bat maine 5 saal phele boli thi ....
I don't want child and marriage ......people use to stare me....
People still stare at me mate😂
Yahi cheez tumhare maa baap Ko bhi karna chahiye thi 😂
@@MohitYadav-th7fzAbe tumko kya dikkat hai ....tum kro bacche na.
@@MohitYadav-th7fz Aur tu whi hai jo bachhe paida karenge aur bolenge ki Mera beta Engineering ya MBBS hi karega. Dusra koi option nhi 😂😂😂
@@MohitYadav-th7fz tum bhote happy with job and settle in married life lag rahe ho...y don't u share ur real life experience...other thn just opening ur mouth.
I worry about losing my job and feeding my child..and I am a worman. I dont want this pressure.. I fear more about losing my health actually. Because i have ZERO inheritence as a girl child from my parents and greedy brother's wife.
😢 truth
may you have strength in life.
Women vs women😅
@@RahulKumar-dy4gr Rather Men vs Men. Genocides, massacres, wars, loot, dacoity, murders, Trafickking, rapes is not Men vs Men?
@@RahulKumar-dy4grit's more like males vs males everywhere 😂
As an unsuccessful offspring of my parents, I always end up enduring daily taunts of my parents that bcoz of me nd my sister our parents didn't had a successful married life. Would not want to give the same torture to my next offspring, hence it's advisable to be childfree.
Itni mature baat bol gaye aap, shayad mujhe ye clarity mere parents se milti. Thank you for this great content
Bache waise bhi old age mein support nahi karte toh kyu kare?
Biwi ghar ka kaam nahi karti toh shaadi kyu kare? Shaadi ke baad husband ko sirf insult karti hai wife.
I'm divorced at 38.
Why you wanted to marry ? Did you ask this question to yourself before marriage? And To your ex spouse? Why she wants to marry ?
Was it lust ? Was it Indian tradition? Was it FoMO as all friends and colleagues were getting married?
@@carrad123456 Marriage foundation should be sheer love and nothing else. If my expecting of her doing household work is wrong then her expecting me to keep giving ₹30, 000 each month is also wrong❌
Husbands have zero rights .He has to give free salary to eife
Very open discussion. Central point is that no approach is good or bad but each choice have end consequences. Parents shall support their children to reasonable extent in which ever way they can.
The high cost of education and low salaries in India are the main reasons behind rise of DINKS
Homeschooling me konsi High cost
@@tejasvi18joshiAgain the woman has to drop her full-time job & sit with a kid?
Career oriented womens and mens and their greed are the main reason. Nothing to do with cost, I have seen labors and maids living happily with their kids even if they earn less money.
True well said .it's hard .
Bakwas ..gareeb log fir bhi bache kar rhe hai.. tumhe pata nhi kaha oxford me padha k Ambani banana hai 😅
Guruji sidhe dil ki baat karte hai.
Joh actual mamla hota hai under se.
Time is changing and we have to change with time.
No kids is the demand of this time. Else after having kids.. Viscious cycle starts.. Kids - respinsibility - education - metro city - then having own house - then liabilities - emi - stress and ultimately heart attack.
Be child free is the best thing in today's time.. We would never regret this decision ever.
No kid
No owing any house in metro - stay on rent.
No liabilities
No stress
After this..even u r not bound to hear to your bosses if u dont have liabilities. Be stress free , be relax.. And keep ur parents happy by not asking time to open their tijori..
Itni smjhdar or itni bdhia baat krte hai sir aap,, society needs you
Insan ka pareshan hone ka karan one of the reason he ki vo apni life emotional dependency badata he , pehele family then wife then kids , inme kisko kuch ho jaye to he/she both will suffer. My Sister having a kid who is suffering from mental disorder , bohot tuff ho gai dono parents life personally , socially , financially. Also i have a friend who lost his 1.5 month sons recently, hum soch bhi nai saktee unka hal kya hoga ,its better to be childesse parents , Aap dono milkte financially stable ho jao , then work for social causes : )
If couple facing infertility issues, there is no limit to how much money will go into treatment. Not all parents will support financially for infertility treatment and will leave it on couples destiny. And if couple succeeds in making a baby, nobody comes to support new mom and baby. Everything is managed by the couple only. At the end if it couple is financially, emotionally, mentally, physically exhausted...and its a fact of not one but many couples. Baby is the only reason that keeps everything for them going good...❤Things could become better if parents support their children but they will not do i guess.
Also school fees for normal nursery school is around 70k to 1.50L yearly in Mumbai and Navi Mumbai.
My wife got pregnant without any planning... I wanted to abort bcz I was not ready... However I had that baby bcz my mother said that she would take care of the kid ..
But when baby was delivered, she was not interested in keeping the baby at all...
So my wife had to forget her career aspiration and became housewife just to handle the baby which we didn't want to have initially 😢
@@siddhu9211 that's why govt tells to use condoms 😒
Aab bhugto
@@random_person_on_internet I agree
@@siddhu9211duniya ko barbaad krne ke liye apna yogdan dene ke liye bht bht dhanyabad...jabardasti paida hua hai thik se bada nhi krpaoge tum log...or upar se apne maa ko dete bache ko palne ke liye...dusre ke bharose paida kr rahe...khud me samarthya na ho to mt kro...jimmedari khud ka hota hai usse dusro pe thopte nhi...ye napunsakta kehte hai...ese bht se parents aj kal krke murkhta kr rahe hai
@@siddhu9211 -so you should get it in writing from the parents all the new parents like a propert contract agreement
This old uncle doesnt understand youth's mentality. He is talking like most of parents in indian households.
True
Because they are realizing the older people were mindless fools
Spot on
आप बहुत बड़ी समाज सेवा कर रहे हैं ,
People may not understand this right now
Babaji Antinatalism subject to be discussed without biases!
he is biased towards happiness.
Understanding antinatalism is beyond his thinking capabilities
@@FactsCountdown because his thinking is like khap panchayat pradhan
@@MrSatadal He is petty beniya uncle, he is talking from an angle of his beniya & oligarchs who will loose business due to less demand in future. 😂 our educated middle class ancestors did a big mistake by trying to be lavish consumers coming to cities making a small house instead of maintaining their farm land in village. 😂
Ask factors from Youth who have actually taken this decision.
They want to live life, enjoy life rather than spend whole life on kids.....rest all is periphery.
1 baby kiya hai but dusra ni kar payenge sir , baccha hone ke baad ka jo time tha na helpless feel hota tha , mummy jab tak thi 15 days , c section ke 15 days me kaam shuru kiya tha , bahut takleef jheli thi , ab firse himmat ni hoti
Parenting, in particular, requires mental and physical readiness. Parents must be prepared to sacrifice sleep, manage their emotions effectively, and address their children's mistakes with care. Furthermore, raising children involves considerable financial commitments, including education, nutrition, healthcare, and extracurricular activities. Challenges are magnified for children with mental health issues, neurological disorders, disabilities, or chronic illnesses, necessitating more significant time, financial resources, emotional resilience, and advocacy against bullying and societal judgment from their parents.
Decisions regarding marriage and parenthood remain personal. Individuals must consider their readiness and willingness to take on the responsibilities that come with these life choices, including the number of children they wish to have or whether to pursue options like adoption or IVF, especially in cases of fertility challenges.
These personal decisions are not just pivotal to the individuals involved but have broader implications for society as a whole. By ensuring that future generations are brought up in nurturing, financially stable, and emotionally prepared environments, we lay the groundwork for a more prosperous, well-educated, and healthy society. Ultimately, such thoughtful considerations and choices contribute significantly to the welfare and progress of India.
Most of the time couple prefer love marriage and they become nuclear as girls don't get mental and physical support from in laws...she has to stabilize her relationship at every level either financially or socially. Bearing a child needs holistic approach and today's family is there to give only critics rather than emotional support
You clearly lack awareness about the toxic marriage households in India. Many child in their childhood often wished their parents would get divorced 🤷♀️
True
Uncle, that small time sacrifice you're mentioning lasts for 18 years. Its easy for a 'man' like you to tell raising kids is not that hard, when in reality its the mother who puts 4 times more effort in raising the child. It's a choice and women should always decide it and talk about it rather than a man 🤷♀️
Men don't educate themselves with the things like post partum depression, health issues in women after birth.
People who haven't found their life's purpose see purpose in birthing a child 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
Hmm, you do make sense😊
This makes sense. Especially the last line.
And that makes india of 150 cr population 😅
@@Honeysingh20239thats because women dnt still get to make their own choice in their personal life they live on pressure
@@Honeysingh20239 mostly because of lack of contraception, and every male in the house wanting to try again for a "boy".
Bachho ki quantity se jyada quality par jor dena chahiye desh ko, ek hi sher poore jungle par raaj kar leta h sir ji.
Sir you have a talent complex topic ko easily bta sakte, thank you.
My parents started travelling from 1996 when I was 2 years old...... So if you feel that travelling gets stopped after having kids then I would say that myth is debunked...... Fun fact I have travelled almost entire India and have been to foreign countries as well....with my parents..... We too like others come from a middle class background
Kudos to your parents 👏
❤ sir, you thought are very clear about society.Keep it regularly, thanks.
Population ko influence krne k liye I think bachhe paida krne k zarurat nhi h .. if a smart woman doesnt want to have a kid , she can still influence other kids by giving education on emotional intelligence or becoming a coach to serve for the society.
LOVE THIS VIDEO!!! 😂❤😊🎉 wooohoo celebrating
I am so poor living on a 25k salary i cant even think about marriage
Me too
Toh mat kar naa
what job do you do bro?
Then no Chusalmaans should get married but they are repairing punctures and getting married not just once but thrice or maybe more and producing 10-15 kids and yet they are thriving and not afraid of commitments towards their cause and propagation. Are you telling me you can't grow from your present situation and learn from them on how to thrive in times of peace and war ?
@@subnan5126 Marriage happens between 2 ppls & 2 family. Chusalmans as a community doesn't marry based on economic background like Hindu petty beniya society. They r more united than u think. Have u seen a rich marwari marrying his daughter to an educated Middle class marwari or other Hindu boys looking at family background & character of the boy ? But a rich chusalman beniya will do that. That's the difference between Hindus & chusalman society where economy balance out without being exploited.
Mohak Mangal ne shayad aapka video dekh liya isliye video ka title rich se middle class kar diya 😂
Three main problems which were not earlier for having kids - School expenses, Doctor expenses and lack of feeling of security in this growing criminal world. ( Third point is still not good enough I know since it is collective responsibility but top 2 are a real concern )
Also, You need to spend a lot of time with your kids. If they don't get good upbringing then There's much more chance that the child will become a toxic one and you'll be labelled as toxic parent. This is coming from a Boy who grew up with a Narcissist Father and Supporting & Loving Mother.
@@shaangaming350 I agree this issue is only with Middle class, they can't go to govt hospitals and send their children to govt schools. And the problem is associated with only Indian Middle Class, if you are married and middle class then you will understand I tried to say or else you won't get it until you are married
@OBITO-518 bhai iit ias ki baat hi nahi ho rahi... Middle class pe jo earning and balancing ka pressure hai uski baat hai.. Not everyone can send their children to govt schools. And I am not against having kids, I am just pointing out the issues of the Middle class
@@freezingmoon5415 apka point sahi hai. badi zimmedari ka kam hai jo isko zimmedari smjta hai uske liye
@@shaangaming350 What about the pressure upon children?? First school, second Tuition.
mind blowing analysis the way you explained the issue factoring the psychological aspects of modern men and women is too good....
Itna incomplete feel ho raha h to adopt kar lo yaar. Ese b neglected bacche h is samaj me jinhe hum apne values, cultures sikha sakte h, jo otherwise bhatke hue h.
People and society tend to force and creating an impression bearing kids is a done and dusted thing. Ek bar karlo aur bas. But no. It is a life long commitment, nahi toh property nahi chod jaonge, toh bacche man hian kosege aapko k ma baap ne kuch diya hi nagi. Make yourself financially and emotionaly strong and then go for kids.
Job security nehi hai aaj kal. Bahut tension hota hain .. Upar school fees bahut expensive hain.. govt ko kuch karna hain employment Aur school fees Kaise basics pe
One can raise up kid who is capable of making this world a better place to stay and be a blessing to the earth.
Before my daughter's birth I was also not very fond of kids ....but after her birth it's like enormous source of happiness and I want to live long and healthy life for her....something like got purpose of life....now I have to do double hardwork...but all my tiredness will disappear as I see her smiling face....really kids are God's gift to us...this is my experience.
Do you do private job or government job??
Same experience. Before my child was born I was not fond of kids. I had a child to keep my husband and parents happy. But the day she was born changed my life forever. She is the best thing that could have happened and all other Experiences pale in comparison. I wish I could have two more kids but for some reasons it is not possible.
@@freezingmoon5415job doesn't matter either private or Government....one could find out way to raise children if strong desire is there.
@@freezingmoon5415 good question.
True...very correct explanation...everything u said is totally true and correct.
Guruji main to chhote distance cycle se travel karta hoon and have an ev, but i support having 2 kids. Pehle main bhi baaki logon ki tarah sochtaa tha, lekin now i follow Elon Musk.
Please talk about if we should adopt or not. Pros and cons of adoption
Adoption we tried, there is already huge waitlist . Then we Tried ourselves.
one n same thing. better to sponsor/mentor/help in education/housing/food/clothes with money 10 poor kids with/without parents than adopting one
I'm 28, my partner suggests that we can sponsor many kids' education but I'm not going to do that, I will adopt two children and homeschool them because life is more than education. You need a family, one's emotional needs are of utmost importance to me. A home is the child's first school. I hope to adopt two children so that they adopt two children when they feel ready and we can all be family to children who don't have any.
Leonardo di caprio Titanic actor and many more actors hasn't married and don't want child
Salman Khan
Because they have brains 🧠 😂
Great ,video, Actually good schools are charging exorbitant fees ,and it's a pressure point for upper middle working class,,
Make a video on army,who should join,role of army,pros and cons,what are the things that civilian should learn from defence forces, what's your take , make a clarity video on this topic. Iss video Me achha clarity diya hai Aapne . You are no. 1 clarity giver in India.
Awesome lecture gave so much clarity
I find society around me so toxic, materialistic and money oriented. I don't find any positivity. Quality of life is determined by basic necessities like water, food, air. All of them are polluted and adulterated. Another thing influencing quality of life is education system, I myself not satisfied with education system, because it is just information feeding, making you capable to earn. But doesn't help to cultivate as strong personality, maturity and individuality. When the society itself is so toxic that your own family feels jealous about you earning more money. This toxicity is influencing the mindsets, which is again effecting quality of life. Going for a kid should be because you want to give a better quality of life, not because you want to see kinds as extension of your individuality or just being parent biologicaly.
Sense of fulfillment comes because of involvement. Not because of kids, in previous generations there were not many options of involvement apart from parenting. That is why they refer to parenting or having kids is the only way of finding fulfillment. But that is not the only way or ultimate truth about fulfillment.
Thanks sir you are really educating Indians 😢😢😢
Main reasons cud be financial condition, physical condition,privacy,freedom,baccha kaisa hoga kaisa niklega, carefree attitude towards Life,bachhe ho gaye fir life me restrictions AA jayenge etc ho sakle hai in many couples.
Bacche karne chhaiye. But yes the couples should be mentally ready.
Ordinary Life mai yehi ek activity hain joh extraordinary hain. 😌
I don’t want kid because of toxic environment,
In-laws are too dominating ,
I always felt my life got over after my marriage, if I have to handle kid also it better to leave this world .
This was fantastic! ❤🎉😍
Uncle ji it’s not just about global warming .. we live in AI world ppl r in virtual reality more than real world and if u have seen wall E movie u will know wat future generation will be like .. I definitely don’t want my kids to live that life do u???
जो करना है करो
शांत रहो
सुकून से😊
Thank you sir for bringing this topic
Zabardastttttt Mazzaaaaa Aa Gayaaaaa🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Sir i might be wrong but in my opinion the root cause of all evil in any society is unfair and inequal distribution of resources , greed,being ego driven rather than being level headed , denying right to good and respectable life , education etc. Previously despite of women being serving the families were not treated in a respectable and fair manner if not all mostly, this has led to women becoming independent and rightly so. Now to set up families a lot of support from partner, corporates in case of working women, in-laws or own extended family is required which is missing as everyone is self centric and egoistic.
Similarly in lower class were never treated in a good way for all the service they did to rich Higher class their right to education good life was denied , now they have fought their way up and rightly so. Parivartan Sankar ka niyam hai and when rather than good sense and humility ego and destructive habits prevail that segment is bound to go down at some point in time. As u rightly said if middle class doesn't get their act right which doesn't seem to be the case they will perish like any other species lol. Also rather than doing jan kalyan if one is able to do self kalyan and do their best in whatever way thet can even if it is as small as doing their job properly is more than enough . So let people be and do what best suits to their situation, everyone doesnt have the luxury of support system to bring up kids and that is fine. And there are ppl who are able to bring up 2 kids with or without support as well. Each to his own and ppl should take a responsibility which they can do justice to happily . And even if not it is just fine folks., world is actually not coming to an end we are not dinosaurs who are at the verge of extinction. Just my humble opinion.
You are kind of right,amiro ne hadh se jyada wealth hold kar rakhi hai aur government bhi complacent hai isme
@@JAY-gy1vg not only wealth even if family doesn't have lots of money but keep each other's well being in family equal to ones ownself , is progressive and sensible they will have unity and peace which ultimately leads to wealth. But people are busy fighting their own selfish interests keeping above family which leads to disintegration of families. And no one has ever achieved happiness and fulfillment alone. Having healthy and happy relationship is number one predictor of happiness in long term.Scandavian countries are best example of social and gender equality living in alignment with nature hence Higher on happiness Index.Though they might have other issues but relatively are better off.Yes u r right role of government also comes into this.
@@aastha6930 Very true.
लडकियों को दोयम दर्जे पर रखते आए, आज उन्होंने अपनी पहचान, अस्मिता खुद से बना ली, कष्ट करके और त्याग करके तो किसी को उनका स्वाभिमान पचता नही। अपने आस पास वालों का support na मिले तो औरत दूसरे के खानदान के लिए क्यों बच्चा पैदा करने और पलने का कष्ट करे।
अब मातृसत्तात्मक व्यवस्था आए तो स्त्रियों ही को दुबारा खुद से खुद के लिए बच्चे करने का मन करेगा, और जिससे स्त्री को देश को फायदा होगा।
Patriarchy का क्या फायदा हुआ? कुछ नहीं। सिवाय इसके की पुरुष सत्ता बहुत लंपट, चरित्रहीन और हिंसक हो गए।
@@aastha6930 It happened bcs middle class destroyed their own joint family structure. So the affluent took the advantage of that from 2000s era. Now fixing this problem is very hard.
@@surojeetchatterji9966 Sir one man's loss is other man's gain. Also this in my opinion is a layered matter. Any system is designed considering the needs of people in those times and should work in a way so as to benefit in everyone in some way or other. Nothing is status quo and things should be challenged in order to bring positive changes with changing times. In previous structure mostly women were required to sacrifice and adjust to much larger extent , anything that is forced can never yield great results in the first place. In those times there was no other option but to adjust. Now times have changed with more opportunities women have started speaking about their needs and desires as well. In these times if both gender respect it other and try to make adjustments keeping individual happiness as well as family's larger good in mind the balance can be achieved. Moreover women are the ones who hold the family together if women are not happy it will percolate to next generation in some way or the other and that is what has exactly happened. I know many families where in women are empowered, working ,married and balancing work and family as well, even if they choose not to work and "choose" here being an important word and not forced to take care of families they are respected .Just that they have empowering supportive men and not controlling insecure men in families. Role of both genders in respective manner is important in keeping the families together.
I know people will still say opposite but i can say all is so well presented
Dil se thank you sir
Your concept is very clear
arre sir purane jamane ke logo ki or samaj ki halat bahut karab hai. kr lete hai bina soche or fir 50 deg temprature me bhi kaam kr rahe hai road pr, 10-15 saal me trip pr nhi gaye, bank balance nhi hai, mental peace nhi hai, fees ka pressue, ghar wale, biwi, bache,rent,tax, emi, medical, fees me he maar jata hai insaan.
also there is too much suffering in life and too less happiness.
or ammer tho Nikhil kammath bhi hai, vo nhi kr rha, ye bollywood walo ko serious mat lo.
or jisne kr liye vo kabhi nhi bolega ki jalat kr liye, vo kudko santusti kese dega fir.
Very well said, drop in fertility is the biggest challenge globally . Far greater than climate change.
It is good sign actually for earth
Even bigger than AI and suspected job loss?😂
Lol
Apni knowledge badhaiye
@@random_person_on_internet bhai insaan zinda hi nahi bachega (due to lack of oxygen, water, food etc) jo job bacha k kya kroge...
@@siddhu9211 bhai og comment padhke dekh
Usne bola bacche payda na ho to problem hogi
Sala jo bacche payda honge woh khayenge kya?
Maa baap ko nehi kosenge agar unhe job nehi mili to?
Ki kiyu payda kiya mujhe?
Yehi bola maine
@shuv4583 ur comment shows how much knowledge u have about climate change. :)
Couples who have lived their dreams, who don't have any expectations, who have gone beyond all dreams, wishes n negative emotions like anger, hate, jealous etc have to give birth. Rest of all couples have to opt for childfree by choice. Others have to enjoy life
Minimal alcohol no refined sugar , sweets, choclate etc no minimal fast food.... regular cold showers , regular weight training, pranayam and lastly once a week full day fasting.
Fertility levels will be high at 50 also.
I think what should be addressed is that its every couples decision whether they want to go through that pain or not and it should be respected. Instead of saying its a fulfilment. Its not. Having a child is a burden. And its so frustrating that by the time you raise one either you die or waiting to die. So when you will you feel the fulfilment sir? And why another human being should be the reason for your fulfilment in life? Thats the most pathetic wsy of living. If you are not fulfilled in yourself, you can never have a positive parenting. Highly disappointing on the comment.
I completely agree!
Childfree and DINK lifestyle is the way forward 👏
Nice topic sir !
Congratulations for being blessed with so much intelligence sir
I appreciate what you say especially that elders should be just
Actually everybody should do justice
But Noone does righteous things
That's the cause of all perils
If there is chaos, definitely someone is being unjust full of bad niyat
There can't be chaos otherwise
Please give clarity on how to kids should manage or behave once parents re-marry after demise of spouse connect it with cultural beliefs
EXCELLENT !!!!!
Rich esiliye karte he kyoki ek bachhe k liye 4 nurse rakhte he to bachha sambhalne me kya hi dikhat hogi
Sahi bat
बच्चों को सिक्षित ही करना है तो इस्कुल ही खोल लिया जाय खुद के स्वार्थ को पालने के आवश्यक्ता के स्थान पर सामाजिक विकास भी होगा ।
Do you think mumbai need another life. I don't want my child to suffer in mumbai. This place is nowadays like hell.
You can't change Mumbai but can change where you will live..
Good video !! Got some clarity
Its all because of difficulty in getting first jobs, (I agree aspirations are also very high) and rising cost of acquiring assets be it a house or other things.
Old people easily got Govt jobs with barely doing 10th grade! and Govt quarters and what not
That video talks about middle family not rich families… Mohak mangal’s video…😇… though I got n agree with your points
Whenever i ask someone why do they want to have kids? I always get a shameless reply stating: budhaape me hume sambhaalne ke liye 😂😂😂
sahi kaha bro , there is not a single selfless reason to have kids ... sala usse bhe yaha coperate slavery karne uppar se bulla rahe hai , why the hell should one even have to go throught all this suffering better to pull that plug and let this be the last generation , konsa price mill raha hai for keeping the genration running or konsa end goal hai, IN short nothing matters at all.
Bilkul sahi
Breeders are the most selfish people