The Value in Being Vulnerable -- On Taking Risks and Growing
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- The first video that I have recorded in more than 8 months!! I hope it proves useful to people!!
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You always seem to be so intuitive with your TH-cam community, because everytime you post anything its just what I need at that time. You are so appreciated here! Never stop doing what you are doing
Me to
When he was checking the camera, my dumb ass was like "oh dang, did he forget to press record?" despite the fact that I am actively watching the video.
Haha, you're just like me!
Being vulnerable on the internet is a whole nother level!
It's hard to be vulnerable when people have hurt you after opening up to be real
Vulnerability is a strength
Vulnerability is giving someone power over you to see how they respond, but it’s only a good idea when you’re not actually giving them total power over you.
The whole thing of establishing safety and independence from your situation seems essential. You’re only safe to be vulnerable if you have enough ways to escape someone if they abuse that vulnerability.
Maybe the context is a little different... It's not so much about giving someone power over you, but about self-expression in general and about the context of grieving childhood trauma. For example, to me it makes total sense in context of my trauma of being neglected. I just found that part of myself that's wounded and is the only part of me that's alive at the same time... Without it the rest of my personality is completely frozen and dead, filled with endless defense mechanisms that don't make me myself, but make me something else, some kind of robot. So I focus on my part that's vulnerable and alive, try to never forget it and I identify with it. Although I understand for some other people it might be different.
This resonates.
Well done. Echoes of Brene Brown's call for vulnerability.
Flexibility and vulnerability are great values.
Thank you for sharing.
I’ve felt a lot of regret over being super vulnerable and open/honest with people (and especially online). It made me retreat a bit, and I definitely can’t do it the same way I used to. But, this video is making me think maybe it was a strength all along
Yes!
Daniel please don’t stop making videos!! Your courage and vulnerability, your willingness to show that you haven’t gotten everything figured out yet despite having put so much effort into your healing makes you a true role model to me and I’m sure many others. If only we could all admit to each other how much we’re all just stumbling along with life, trying our best, the world would be a much kinder place
This is the classic Daniel energy that drew me to this channel in the first place. Thank you for this gift of vulnerability modeling. I appreciate you! 💛
Thanks!
An excerpt taken from “Coach Carter” (a basketball movie, strangely enough), that had a profound impact on me as a kid and seems to me to reflect a lot of what you’ve presented in this video:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Totally resonates Daniel. Those who are unable to be vulnerable see those who are as easy prey, prey to be exploited especially by narcissists.
Your videos are important. Please don’t stop
I am so sorry if my comment on your dr pig vids contributed to any of your trepidation about sitting down and recording!! This is why it does no good to just fire off some snarky comment, you never know what someone is going through, and worse, I absolutely relate to what you’re saying about the vulnerability of putting yourself online. I just started doing some podcasting work and it’s completely never-wracking just recording my own voice & putting it out there, so I can only imagine being in front of a camera! Sincere apologies again if my thoughtlessness caused you any hurt, I really value your work!
No worries!!! Sending warm greetings to you! Daniel
beautiful words : )
Thanks!
Breaking from my entire family has been deeply painful and yet empowering process. Thoughout my grief, anger, sadness and indifference I have been so grateful for you sharing your experiences and wisdom. During the times I felt misunderstood listening to you speak was sometimes the only thing that helped me me feel less alone. With deepest appreciation, thank you Daniel for your vulnerability!
You already have been vulnerable many times in your video and it’s just so inspiring. Thank you 🙏🏼
All your traits and habits that have made you feel inferior all your life this guy has the ability to make you feel proud of those same traits.. incredible
“Throughout human history, as our species has faced the frightening, terrorizing fact that we do not know who we are, or where we are going in this ocean of chaos, it has been the authorities, the political, the religious, the educational authorities who attempted to comfort us by giving us order, rules, regulations, informing, forming in our minds their view of reality.
To think for yourself you must question authority and learn how to put yourself in a state of vulnerable, open-mindedness; chaotic, confused, vulnerability to inform yourself.”
-Timothy Leary
Hi, Daniel: Thank you, once again, for a beautiful video where you talk about your journey to overcome trauma and on becoming a whole person once again. I'm sorry to hear about those who leave negative responses to your videos. Over the years attending 12 step program meetings, I began to notice how it was those individuals who were in denial, to some degree or other, who were adverse to hearing my talk about the painful feelings I was dealing with. Especially in A.A., people would actually cross-talk and say to me, "Just don't drink, and go to a meeting." One day I got so fed up I finally said, "Well that's what I'm doing, horse's ass (I used another expression), I'm not drinking and I'm at a meeting." Their insistence was in "talking about the disease." So, I left. I want to live in the solution. And hearing you talk about your process inspires me to "live in the solution" which for me is my relationship with my Higher Power, journaling, art work, working on changing how I take care of my physical health as well, and other things I feel inspired by Higher Power.
The final comment I'd like to make is how important your topic of vulnerability is, given the John Wayne stoicism that has pervaded the American culture for far too long. So if a man is vulnerable, and even cries he's called all sorts of names. But, if he goes into a bar, gets drunk and beats the daylights out of another man, then that makes him a real man? Or better yet, if he grabs a firearm and acts out his anger/rage, then that's "your man's man" right? To me your videos are one of many Signs from Higher Power Inspiring and Encouraging me to continue in my journey. I survived living through my Hellish childhood with a narcissist, I hear you loud and clear.
Glad u are recording again. I really appreciate your videos and have learned a lot. I give you so much credit for doing these videos...not everyone has the courage.
There is always something precious coming after a period of hibernation... A little gem like this one.
On another note, a crab without exoskeleton! A small detail Jordan Peterson may need to learn when he uses the analogy of lobsters...
I learn from every video that you make. You will never know how much you have helped me at this point in my life. Thank you so much for your courage.
You're welcome!
We have to bust our asses to go through grieving and achieve a state of "happiness" or actualization that will be the carrot that leads people towards this. Like Stefan Molyneux pointed out, people will want to do this level of work if they see that it WORKS. Vulnerability is that larval state that leads to growing a newer, more real and far more stable exoskeleton that can turn people into titans for virtue in the world. But we have to get into a place in our lives where being emotionally vulnerable doesn't make us physically vulnerable.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again,
I can’t begin to tell you how much I appreciate what you’ve been doing.
So, and in case anyone else hasn’t said it often enough:
Thank you, Daniel. ✨
I immensely appreciate every video you’ve put out, thank you for continuing this effort. Your content is legitimately helpful in an honest way which is difficult to find.
Thanks!!! I'm making some new videos right now!
Thankyou Daniel.
Thank you. 🙏🏻
Life is boring without any vulnerability (of course we can also be discerning with how much and with whom we share) and also friendships, connections need this to be meaningful…. Mayda del Valle (def jam poet) “…if you can’t share your truest self with people then life is just kind of boring and dry and ordinary..”
I like the perspective of vulnerability as intrapersonal- with oneself too- this is something to really think about and can lead to more growth, self love and confidence
Cheers to living outside the box ~ where life really flows with all its splendor!
glad your back Daniel, thanks 🙏
You're welcome Bart!
Toxic masculinity is what is really at the core of why people frequently do not allow themselves to be vulnerable. Because patriarchy is the basis of this society, it is open season on those who are perceived to be weak. Ask me how I know this to be true... As a young person, I always seemed to be the sight of those looking to put me down to feel better about themselves, young and old, alike. So, I learned to hate myself because I was vulnerable, because I was not able to defend myself as a "man" (even though I was a child). Luckily for me, I learned as an adult that vulnerability is not the trait of a victim, but the trait that makes everyone human, and our DNA bares witness. Thank you, Daniel, for sharing your journey with us!
Profound. ❤ It's empowering to drop the exoskeleton.
Nice to see you again Daniel!
Hi Daniel, your videos resonate so strongly that it's kind of hard to accept that I'll have to stop just watching them and go and do the hard work needed every day. Thank you for creating the spark to heal 🙏✨
Here for the wisdom.
All I could think about the who video was "Mugged? Daniel was mugged?!?". I am glad he is okay from what it seems from the video.
bravo. a nice "singing" voice. welcome home.
I find you to be a very genuine person and I appreciate all your videos.. Thank you so much 💙
Thank you❤️
When we get hurt one too many times= over n over , we build a wall. An imperméable wall. That doesn't make us evil, or narc.
Yes Brother.👍
I feel lucky to have found your videos. It's good that you're you.
Thanks for sharing ☺
About the criticism, I'm starting to realize how oftenly people criticize actually because of envy / jealousy, competition (to show that I am better and how much I "know") and lack of insight.
I don't agree with all people do, but I recognize their right to think and act their own way.
Te best for you Daniel
I was telling someone about your videos and they wanted me to describe what you are like,and I said well he’s like a mister Rogers for broken grownups. You always seem to say something that sparks a new idea in me. I look forward to the next video.
I love this video Daniel, it resonates with me so deeply. You are a gift. Thank you for sharing.
Taking risks (that are directed by the authentic you) is the path to growth...and healing.
Valuable concept. Great teaching dear Danny. Most ppl refuse to be vulnerable, so how can they ever open up? There’s no way of self analysis possible.
How do you notice your vulnerabilities and how could you change that anyways?
@@caracre I have some ideas, but I’d go to the master (Daniel, himself) for questions like these. The video was very explicit.
Exactly! It’s hard to have a real conversation with those people
Very helpful, thank you Daniel. Great video!
Thankyou for making this video!! it did help me 😘
Glad to hear 😀
I am a fan!
Thank you so much, Daniel! I'm glad that Dr. Pig has left and that you are back. In Europe, only the far, far right likens people to animals (foreigners as cockroaches, criminals as lice, gay people as this, that or the other animal) and so I couldn't watch your Dr. Pig videos.
I'm so glad that you are back, thank you! 🙏
Vulnerability and genuine transparency are completely necessary for the process of quality self-exploration and self-examination that leads to the healing of emotional pain, the resolving of underlying issues and problems, and authentic life change and transformation to take place in our lives.
The tough exterior is our defense mechanisms and coping strategies, such as living in denial of emotional pain and unresolved conflicts, issues, and problems, for the purpose of protecting ourselves from experiencing more hurt and pain.
Until we enter into the process of vulnerability and genuine transparency in a healthy therapeutic relationship, everything that remains in our psyche - mentally and emotionally, consciously and unconsciously - will continue to govern our entire existence in relation to ourselves and other people.
When we learn how to engage in this process of being completely real with ourselves and becoming vulnerable and genuinely transparent we will begin the process of becoming totally healthy, whole, balanced, functional, and complete in our entire being and our lives.
Glad you are back, you are an inspiration for healing and growth thank you Daniel ❤️
Glad to see u Daniel
From where I'm at now it's somewhat safe. I'm not vulnerable. Being vulnerable leaves me open to attack from others. It does not matter who it is they pick up on it. I'm afraid of being devoured. Yet having the protector rule my life leaves me hating myself and hating everyone around me. That's when I become suicidal and wish I was never born. Any suggestions Daniel how to heal? There is alot of unresolved issues from childhood. I need some input🙂🦌
Sending hugs..
Learn communication skills, ASSERTIVENES and HOW TO SET, COMMUNICATE AND ENFORCE BOUNDARIES..these are the core answers you are looking for
Question, what do you mean by somewhat safe?
Learning coping skills for when you are triggered to better manage your mental health is irreplaceable. Research different coping skills for your specific triggers.
Sending love ❤ and supoort you.
@@pod9363 in between. Existing.
@@stefaniamirri1112 Thank you
i really appreciate this video thank you!
Thank you so much. I was just wondering when would you start recording again and here we go.
yes !!! you´re back thanks a lot Daniel you can't imagine how much you help us
You're intuitive and very powerful with your vulnerability and please keep it up. The masses of this globe are with you don't worry about the clusters of the trolls. They're always going to be there taking space and oxygen.
Thank you for showing your vulnerability, we learn so much from you!
Thank you for coming back! 🙏 I‘m grateful for your videos and they mean a lot to me.
Welcome back Daniel. Glad to see you
I liked your video first 😃
Great to have you back, Daniel.
I am revisiting your channel and finding it really helpful. My word to describe: Authentic. Thank you!
Daniel, I really enjoy seeing your personal growth as time progress, brave honest self exploration in a context of psychology. Critical discussion, examination about current state of client therapy and such (as well as everything else in our life) are absolutely nessesary. Your videos supposed my self growth through therapy at beyond.
Your videos had helped me o lot! Hugs from Brazil.
Welcome back. Hope you're feeling better.
thanks for being my inspiration and someone i can look up to!!
Daniel, I totally loved this video thank you very much!!!!
Definitely helpful for others! Thank you so much, Daniel!
damn i needed to hear this today. beautifully said thank you for all your work
Love this! And resonate with it so much! Thanks for sharing!
I think it's wise what you are doing. I have videos that are going to be two years old by the time I finally post them online or more. I would love to see a tutorial on the production value for Dr. Pig. Two videos a week is perfect for video blogging and one a week if it's a music video, comedy skit, or anything that requires way more editing than a video blog.
As always..♡
Hi. I'm a fan girl. 💗🌹. U are like home. I don't find any real time family people. No one likes me . So I listen to TH-cam channels I like. And have my own cost family
Can I ask what you think about the Brene Brown who also talks about the central importance of vulnerability?
I just hate this CRT culture stuff on social work talking about how ‘black people can’t be vulnerable because X Y Z!!!!’. So annoying! There were a bunch of threads on twitter today about this exactly.
🤗💓
That’s because 99.9 percent of people are in denial and selfish. They want to hear what they want to hear and most of them live in a false reality. It’s really depressing. I just left a toxic job and had an interview today for another one. I need to work more on my vulnerability I don’t get why some people just say whatever they want yet I feel like I’m an actor in a play with a monologue I need to follow. 😞 if I’m around those I feel comfortable around I have no problem being myself but sometimes even those I feel comfortable around I want to hide away from…was harassed at work so of course I’m going to go back into my shell and not want to even be around people. I didn’t even want to do this interview today. 🤷♀️
The videos I record are some rants about cultural and societal things that annoyed me and I never understood.
How did you heal ulcerative
I dont know if Daniel will see this but does anybody know if EMDR therapy works?
I have talked to some people who felt it helped them. Others not. And some people have told me stories of feeling overwhelmed by it and harmed as a result.
@@dmackler58 thank you for your reply! I read about some people feeling like that but i thought it was like grieving maybe?
@@MituPitu1 Or maybe too much grieving too fast... Maybe that's what overwhelmed the system. I have known people who ended up put in a psychiatric hospital because too too much overwhelm from EMDR that was perhaps done carelessly or recklessly...
@@dmackler58 but if someone is aware of their trauma and is already in some stage of grieving it then i guess it can be useful, and maybe those are the people that have seen pozitive results
@@MituPitu1 Yes, maybe so. And certainly if people are more stable to begin with it helps too.
Boundaries; you can’t be an inexperienced, fucking child 👦 anymore.
So many people, don’t have relevance when they criticize you 👀 and/or praise you. And that’s great, because no one desires to have a codependent attachment to a separate human being.
All criticism and praise should come from one self ( essentially) and I’d like to set a ‘trend’ where people go out of their way to make it apparent that another person’s criticism and praise, doesn’t mean shit 💩 but thanks 🙏
Heh 😏 when you shed your exoskeleton, I have this instinctive urge to protect you and I need to check my own possessiveness 👀 😩😘
Stay secure 💝
It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia | Neglecting Retribution
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^ Charlie attempts to carry the corpse of his dad, up a hill, but he ends up healing ❤️🩹 his abandonment trauma, by being objectively honest, about who the abuse, injustice and cruelty, **always** belong to.