Daniel you helped me more than any therapist in 30 yrs. I read Alice Miller 5 yrs ago. It led me to you. I read all your essays and took your guidance. My daughter who is 38 was my witness. It made our relationship second to none. I'm blessed with a daughter who is compassionate and non judgemental. I was more intelligent than any therapist I ever had. I continue to journal, watch your videos and find my truth. My life is good. Thank you for everything you give to trauma survivors and helping us to become trauma thrivers.
Daniel, u describe here my deepest wound and longing. Im almost 40 and never found this persin despite having lived across 3 continents. People are incredibly shallow, judgmental and too closed hearted. The social masks and personas they wear in public are thick amd inpenetrable. They dont want to bear their truth and dont want to see yours. They love and uphold lies and delusions. I have suffered everyday of my life the reality of being surrounded by liars, and I braved the endless assults that came as a result of my honesty in hopes of embodying what I want to see in the world. Hpnestly my loneliness sometimes becomes unbearable. The suprrficiality feels like an ocean Im drowning in. You are one soul with the same longing as I.
I totally can empathise what you're saying here, i mean it's the same for me and many others too. Though you may feel alone being in this conundrum physically, be rest assure that you do have millions of "friends" in spiritual realm, around the world. There is no doubt, based on so many videos i have been watching on youtube, the experts, thinkers, philosophers, scientists, spiritual teachers, etc. all of them are kinda saying this one thing and it is being said like constantly and consistently across the board- the world is going to the direction of madness, destructions, destabilizations, etc. Therefore, all the deceptions, tyranny, manipulations, all these "fake" people (i dislike to call them fake, but you know where i am coming from), etc. should not surprise us at all. It does make sense so very perfectly. We acknowledge it, there is no denial of it, it is inevitable that it is what it is, so now we have to move on to think how to survive in this climate we are in. That's the most critical part that make all the differences. I need to keep telling myself, don't worry about anything. Anything! World is going mad, i don't care. What i care is, i don't want to become crazy and hopeless and shit. I've got to survive, help will come in many ways but if it isn't, the worst case scenario will for sure turns out to be the best case outcome for me which is death, an end to our longly awaited goodbye to this mad mad world. There is no more suffering for me. When i sad or grief or mourn, simple suffering, it was me just waiting to die, but what a waste of time to just wait to die. That sucks. That bores the hell of me. I'd rather get up and do something, anything will do, it will be perfect life. Get up and do something. Anything.
I am a live caricature artist and love making meaningful conversations with whoever sits down for me. I sometimes convince myself that I am meant to be there for the people I'm drawing and give them a unique experience by allowing them to share without judgement and in turn I like to think it helps me capture their likeness better. I had a man from Europe tell me that his visit to this America was at first without reason, yet after speaking to me, he said he had found why he had traveled. We both cried within 20 minutes or so into our conversation as I drew him. It was a unique experience that I feel that not many artist who do what I do bother to entertain. I feel great giving people a legitimate human experience. Thanks for sharing Daniel
In that statement lies the answer. Our world is going Cold to one another. We are on the Brink of disaster within the realm of our accepted Behaviors. When we allow ourselves to be Completely Honest... With those around us. With Ourself. The act of it, displays vulnerability. And for most people, experiencing someone's else's weak moments evokes sympathy, empathy, and perhaps compassion. It tugs on your heartstrings a bit. This IS the point that We can BE PRESENT with our emotions. To FEEL Love for another human being, without needing to attach anything negative to the experience. WE ARE THE ANSWER. There is great power in humbleness.
It’s hard for me I know that I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable with some peoples secrets they’ve told me but I’ve dated a few predators so now I live my life fear based. I wish I could stop doing this
I LOVE YOU DANIEL MACKLER!!! JUST WENT NO CONTACT WITH YM PARENTS AND I FEEL AMAZINGGGG. #`1 psychologist on childhood trauma! Thank you GOD i stumbled upon your videos!!!!
I opened up to my sister a few days ago about how I feel my parents don’t care about me. I’d held it in for years. Felt great to get it off my chest , even though she defended them 😆
That is so cool of you,is youre sister the golden child? Do you have love for yourself? You seem like a good person and if they are not able to give love like they should,it is not something about you.it is a shortcoming and brokenness in them.you do not really need to be divined by that, detach and grow and develop every good quallity that is inside yourself.selfreliance will give you peace and strenght.THere will be loving people along the way.Be good to yourself and overcome toxic persons,even if they are family,you can not change them,but you can change the way you perceive them and yourself. Just a part of life, but not all of youre life! STAY SAFE AND BLESS YOU!🐕🐶🐕🐶
Daniel the modern day version of this experience is sharing anonymously in the comment section, many people talk about their traumas and experiences online and everyone bonds with each other briefly, see we are not alone, learn from each other experiences, and move on wirh great release and relief. I did it the other day and felt better.
Beautiful !!! I love the idea to open up to someone and feel that the other is REALLY listening. Sympathy and compassion are keys to that. Thank you, Daniel for this video!👍
I was with a group of really close friends and I went into some radical honesty. And we never hungout together or even spoke again. I felt better but ... 🤷♂️ I never did that again. However, once was enough. Confession/radical honesty is definitely healing. I wouldn't be surprised if that's why the Catholic Church has survived so long. Just... Yeah, do it with STRANGERS!
Sooooo true! I agree 100%. Truth Truth Truth. I love Truth. It requires courage and love...and it gives courage and love and wisdom... Thanks Daniel 🙂.
I really resonate with how you're aware of the trauma you paid forward. Thank you for including that always. It really is important and a critical aspect of honesty and truth telling.
I think back to what you said about people not being able to understand what they've done before they've understood what happened to them. This has to be the crux to being able to fully heal. Because the bad things that people do are like... what... .000001% of the things that have happened in their life? Even that's generous. Like tiny hair-thin blips on a massive timeline of their lives, and all people wanna focus on is the blips without fully digging into what set the stage for that stuff. Like seriously think for a sec. Let's say a guy kicked his dog in a fit of anger when he was 17. That moment lasted maybe at worst 10 seconds lets say. Ok. That 10 seconds doesn't just come out of nowhere. There had to be days, weeks, fucking YEARS of stuff that eroded their empathy away, messed with their head, ground down their soul to the point where something like that was even an option in their mind.
I am an Atheist and met a missionary on a conncting flight. I was very distressed due to ending my visit with mother a week early (cha-ching $100.00) it was worth it. He comforted me, and I accepted it. No gods involved, just person-to-person kindness.
People tell others secrets because they get uncomfortable and live out of fear. I was in a real toxic relationship in my 20’s and it really messed me up and now I live my life fear based unfortunately so I understand why psychiatrists and counselors do this.
The value of being able to share and share openly. It’s so true!! I would never have thought that this was the salve my soul needed to curb my anxiety-avoidant issues and all the acting out behaviors that came with it. Unfortunately, this place of sharing and being able to share openly was not at all a privilege I had growing up. My parents (especially my mom) were highly anxious and judgmental with a preconceived sense of who I should be. My dad would give the facade of listening he would listen to respond, instead of to understand. I’d say it’s not only being able to say our piece but to be in a place where it can be received, accepted and honored is also just as important (especially when we’re young). Therapy has since given me the voice to now be able to say my piece to others regardless of whether they can accept it or not.
I use a voice recorder as an impartial witness of the truth if I have no one to confide in (which is always the case unfortunately). It can take a lot off your mind so you don't have to go fumbling through your memories and feelings. On the down side it's become just another device I would feel lost without.
In a few days my recording device is coming, with the same intention you already use that. It will be like a complement of writing in my journal Good luck!
@@atiger4716 - All the recordings are time stamped so that will no doubt work out nicely for you. I'm looking into some voice transcription software which will be huge advantage. Good luck to you also !
@@anitat9727 - Unfortunately I haven’t been able to find anything, so I write my own scripts. The first crucial step is to have a program to name, mark up and organize your files properly, so you can do a search on them after. I’m thinking maybe I should create a website to show others what I do. I don’t know of anything that does exactly what I need. If you come across anything in your attempts, I’d like to hear about it. Thanks
But you know they will not listen, right? The hope tgey will keeps you still caught in the trap? They cant listen to you or they wouod stop functionning cause their reality will collapse, sp sure they will always deny ours! Up to us to stop dealing with them, leaving them to their delusions.. Relapses are part of the healing, but dont go all way back Daniel! You are a great Soul! Huge hugs
Exactly! Sometimes we ask why can't so and so just admit thus and such. Well, you hit the nail on the head. If they open, even a little, "their reality will collapse" and they know that on the unconscious level.
Its funny how you said about paying the therapists to listen and to be a human being. Its why Ive always felt agaisnt therapy , not because it wont help, certaintly can if you do find an attuned therpist, but its still mad that have to PAY for what should just be a given between humans. Connection. Its basically like paying someone to love you.
Thanks for sharing. I found that sometimes when I take people thru BlaBlaCar (app for payed lift on the road), I can have pretty good conversations. I dont see that much people hitchhiking today. Sadly.
I noticed a general decline in all professional fields I have seen from the advent of cell-phones, as the cell towers were built to cover all in 1997, Sweden being radiated with very much stronger border values than other countries. They became much more nervous, weak, picky, manipulative,deceitful, lazy, superficial, stressed, irritable, unprofessional, - all of which are side effects of microwave radiation. Yes, Daniel, the cell phonies do "listen" and save all our talks and activities, and so do computers. Edward Snowdon shows how to remove them. Also the much increased stress by all the radiation makes people less inclined to talk with each other, compared to before. The new generations are a different species, lacking the foundation of family traditions taht grounded, calmed, structured us in some ways, helped us keep together and had some calming effects. Woe those who don't replace tít with something equivalent or better now. We know that the human being needs spirituality, transcendence, a Higher power.
If all you want to do is talk it out you can also voice record your own words or you can use a web cam with no intention of posting it you're talking so it can come out and you can review it later incase you were disassociating so you can review and see what maybe this pain talking or that.
My last boyfriend bought Alexa- and then I couldn’t enjoy being with him anymore. Somehow I had the feeling that somebody is constantly listening... 😕/ I hope really that we can stop this KI- agenda of the globalists. Don’t want to become a cyborg 😤/ 💚bye
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Jung said that an alternative to therapy is radical honesty.
Smart man.
I like the idea of radical honesty with yourself. Being radically honest with others can be dangerous.
What book does he talk about that
@@pod9363 Riiiight! I believe that is to which Jung is referring
@@pod9363 very.
Comparing the depth of conversations with strangers vs with family and friends reveals the truth about "close relationships".
Good point!
Wow true
Great point. Way to go man.
Daniel you helped me more than any therapist in 30 yrs. I read Alice Miller 5 yrs ago. It led me to you. I read all your essays and took your guidance. My daughter who is 38 was my witness. It made our relationship second to none. I'm blessed with a daughter who is compassionate and non judgemental. I was more intelligent than any therapist I ever had. I continue to journal, watch your videos and find my truth. My life is good. Thank you for everything you give to trauma survivors and helping us to become trauma thrivers.
I’m so happy for you. That’s amazing
Daniel, u describe here my deepest wound and longing. Im almost 40 and never found this persin despite having lived across 3 continents. People are incredibly shallow, judgmental and too closed hearted. The social masks and personas they wear in public are thick amd inpenetrable. They dont want to bear their truth and dont want to see yours. They love and uphold lies and delusions. I have suffered everyday of my life the reality of being surrounded by liars, and I braved the endless assults that came as a result of my honesty in hopes of embodying what I want to see in the world. Hpnestly my loneliness sometimes becomes unbearable. The suprrficiality feels like an ocean Im drowning in.
You are one soul with the same longing as I.
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I totally can empathise what you're saying here, i mean it's the same for me and many others too. Though you may feel alone being in this conundrum physically, be rest assure that you do have millions of "friends" in spiritual realm, around the world.
There is no doubt, based on so many videos i have been watching on youtube, the experts, thinkers, philosophers, scientists, spiritual teachers, etc. all of them are kinda saying this one thing and it is being said like constantly and consistently across the board- the world is going to the direction of madness, destructions, destabilizations, etc. Therefore, all the deceptions, tyranny, manipulations, all these "fake" people (i dislike to call them fake, but you know where i am coming from), etc. should not surprise us at all. It does make sense so very perfectly. We acknowledge it, there is no denial of it, it is inevitable that it is what it is, so now we have to move on to think how to survive in this climate we are in. That's the most critical part that make all the differences. I need to keep telling myself, don't worry about anything. Anything! World is going mad, i don't care. What i care is, i don't want to become crazy and hopeless and shit. I've got to survive, help will come in many ways but if it isn't, the worst case scenario will for sure turns out to be the best case outcome for me which is death, an end to our longly awaited goodbye to this mad mad world. There is no more suffering for me. When i sad or grief or mourn, simple suffering, it was me just waiting to die, but what a waste of time to just wait to die. That sucks. That bores the hell of me. I'd rather get up and do something, anything will do, it will be perfect life. Get up and do something. Anything.
I am a live caricature artist and love making meaningful conversations with whoever sits down for me.
I sometimes convince myself that I am meant to be there for the people I'm drawing and give them a unique experience by allowing them to share without judgement and in turn I like to think it helps me capture their likeness better.
I had a man from Europe tell me that his visit to this America was at first without reason, yet after speaking to me, he said he had found why he had traveled. We both cried within 20 minutes or so into our conversation as I drew him. It was a unique experience that I feel that not many artist who do what I do bother to entertain. I feel great giving people a legitimate human experience. Thanks for sharing Daniel
"Vargas Art Therapy"
Radical honesty makes people extremely uncomfortable.
In that statement lies the answer.
Our world is going Cold to one another.
We are on the Brink of disaster within the realm of our accepted Behaviors.
When we allow ourselves to be Completely Honest...
With those around us.
With Ourself.
The act of it, displays vulnerability.
And for most people, experiencing someone's else's weak moments evokes sympathy, empathy, and perhaps compassion.
It tugs on your heartstrings a bit.
This IS the point that We can BE PRESENT with our emotions.
To FEEL Love for another human being, without needing to attach anything negative to the experience.
WE ARE THE ANSWER.
There is great power in humbleness.
Honestly, it makes me uncomfortable, but that is to be expected.
It’s hard for me I know that I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable with some peoples secrets they’ve told me but I’ve dated a few predators so now I live my life fear based. I wish I could stop doing this
I LOVE YOU DANIEL MACKLER!!! JUST WENT NO CONTACT WITH YM PARENTS AND I FEEL AMAZINGGGG. #`1 psychologist on childhood trauma! Thank you GOD i stumbled upon your videos!!!!
Yay!! Good for you!!
@@feralfraulein thank you :)
I opened up to my sister a few days ago about how I feel my parents don’t care about me. I’d held it in for years. Felt great to get it off my chest , even though she defended them 😆
lmao
That is so cool of you,is youre sister the golden child? Do you have love for yourself? You seem like a good person and if they are not able to give love like they should,it is not something about you.it is a shortcoming and brokenness in them.you do not really need to be divined by that, detach and grow and develop every good quallity that is inside yourself.selfreliance will give you peace and strenght.THere will be loving people along the way.Be good to yourself and overcome toxic persons,even if they are family,you can not change them,but you can change the way you perceive them and yourself. Just a part of life, but not all of youre life! STAY SAFE AND BLESS YOU!🐕🐶🐕🐶
Yikes, I’m sorry. My sister is the same way.
Having a brother is hard. I couldn't imagine having brother problems with someone that's a woman.
Daniel, you are such a kind hearted unique Soul. Thank you for being you.
Daniel the modern day version of this experience is sharing anonymously in the comment section, many people talk about their traumas and experiences online and everyone bonds with each other briefly, see we are not alone, learn from each other experiences, and move on wirh great release and relief. I did it the other day and felt better.
Greetings!
Beautiful !!! I love the idea to open up to someone and feel that the other is REALLY listening. Sympathy and compassion are keys to that. Thank you, Daniel for this video!👍
That was a very rare experience at the confession. What a momentous experience!
I can’t tell you how much you have helped me. Thanks for sharing this beautiful perspective!
I was with a group of really close friends and I went into some radical honesty. And we never hungout together or even spoke again. I felt better but ... 🤷♂️ I never did that again. However, once was enough. Confession/radical honesty is definitely healing. I wouldn't be surprised if that's why the Catholic Church has survived so long. Just... Yeah, do it with STRANGERS!
Sooooo true! I agree 100%. Truth Truth Truth. I love Truth. It requires courage and love...and it gives courage and love and wisdom... Thanks Daniel 🙂.
I love having conversations on planes.
Me too!
I really resonate with how you're aware of the trauma you paid forward. Thank you for including that always. It really is important and a critical aspect of honesty and truth telling.
I'm so glad you shared this, what a wonderful example of being human with someone.
I think back to what you said about people not being able to understand what they've done before they've understood what happened to them.
This has to be the crux to being able to fully heal. Because the bad things that people do are like... what... .000001% of the things that have happened in their life? Even that's generous. Like tiny hair-thin blips on a massive timeline of their lives, and all people wanna focus on is the blips without fully digging into what set the stage for that stuff.
Like seriously think for a sec. Let's say a guy kicked his dog in a fit of anger when he was 17. That moment lasted maybe at worst 10 seconds lets say. Ok. That 10 seconds doesn't just come out of nowhere. There had to be days, weeks, fucking YEARS of stuff that eroded their empathy away, messed with their head, ground down their soul to the point where something like that was even an option in their mind.
Bless your heart. Yes. It's rare and so necessary.
I am an Atheist and met a missionary on a conncting flight. I was very distressed due to ending my visit with mother a week early (cha-ching $100.00) it was worth it. He comforted me, and I accepted it. No gods involved, just person-to-person kindness.
People always tell me I’m too honest. I don’t even know what that means?
It means that you are showing your true self. In my opinion most individuals hide behind a social mask and don't show their true self.
Good morning everyone at Daniel's channel :) (it's 7am here)
It's 10:14 here in northern Wyoming right now. What's your location?
@@russellm7530 Greece 🇬🇷
Alright Alexandros, have a great day. I'm gonna go to bed now.
@@russellm7530 :) good night.. 💪💪😴😴
good evening from Oahu, HI
Did you ever experience a client opening up completely to you? How did that make you feel? Was it hard not to judge them afterwards?
Daniel you're such an amazing storyteller 👍
People tell others secrets because they get uncomfortable and live out of fear. I was in a real toxic relationship in my 20’s and it really messed me up and now I live my life fear based unfortunately so I understand why psychiatrists and counselors do this.
How do I deal with my unhealthy attachments?
Maybe we need to live like Buddhist monks, when they sending an email they always send it "without attachment" 😉🙏🏻
The value of being able to share and share openly. It’s so true!! I would never have thought that this was the salve my soul needed to curb my anxiety-avoidant issues and all the acting out behaviors that came with it.
Unfortunately, this place of sharing and being able to share openly was not at all a privilege I had growing up. My parents (especially my mom) were highly anxious and judgmental with a preconceived sense of who I should be. My dad would give the facade of listening he would listen to respond, instead of to understand.
I’d say it’s not only being able to say our piece but to be in a place where it can be received, accepted and honored is also just as important (especially when we’re young). Therapy has since given me the voice to now be able to say my piece to others regardless of whether they can accept it or not.
How liberating! This was my favorite video by far that you’ve made….💕
I use a voice recorder as an impartial witness of the truth if I have no one to confide in (which is always the case unfortunately). It can take a lot off your mind so you don't have to go fumbling through your memories and feelings. On the down side it's become just another device I would feel lost without.
In a few days my recording device is coming, with the same intention you already use that.
It will be like a complement of writing in my journal
Good luck!
@@atiger4716 - All the recordings are time stamped so that will no doubt work out nicely for you. I'm looking into some voice transcription software which will be huge advantage. Good luck to you also !
@@michaelcook3168 Find any good software? I'm planning on doing the same
@@anitat9727 - Unfortunately I haven’t been able to find anything, so I write my own scripts. The first crucial step is to have a program to name, mark up and organize your files properly, so you can do a search on them after. I’m thinking maybe I should create a website to show others what I do. I don’t know of anything that does exactly what I need. If you come across anything in your attempts, I’d like to hear about it. Thanks
@@michaelcook3168 I'm truly interested in what you do and if you could share it on some kind of blog it would be useful to me.
I woke up to this and it was so needed, thank you. YES I wish I could so bad, it would help me soooo much .....
thanks Daniel
Such a nice talk 🦜
But you know they will not listen, right? The hope tgey will keeps you still caught in the trap? They cant listen to you or they wouod stop functionning cause their reality will collapse, sp sure they will always deny ours! Up to us to stop dealing with them, leaving them to their delusions..
Relapses are part of the healing, but dont go all way back Daniel! You are a great Soul! Huge hugs
Exactly! Sometimes we ask why can't so and so just admit thus and such. Well, you hit the nail on the head. If they open, even a little, "their reality will collapse" and they know that on the unconscious level.
This was interesting and goes to show you how what can happen when you are open. Thanku Daniel.
Daniel, just I want to said thank you very much, amigo.
Con afecto, desde España
Beautiful story
Its funny how you said about paying the therapists to listen and to be a human being. Its why Ive always felt agaisnt therapy , not because it wont help, certaintly can if you do find an attuned therpist, but its still mad that have to PAY for what should just be a given between humans. Connection. Its basically like paying someone to love you.
So sweet
What a beautiful experience :)
you can share your truth here!
A Catholic priest Daniel? I wouldn't go there if I were you...take it from someone who knows.
Great! One other way is doing a 4th & 5th step with a trusted program friend😄
Thanks for sharing.
I found that sometimes when I take people thru BlaBlaCar (app for payed lift on the road), I can have pretty good conversations. I dont see that much people hitchhiking today. Sadly.
I noticed a general decline in all professional fields I have seen from the advent of cell-phones, as the cell towers were built to cover all in 1997, Sweden being radiated with very much stronger border values than other countries. They became much more nervous, weak, picky, manipulative,deceitful, lazy, superficial, stressed, irritable, unprofessional, - all of which are side effects of microwave radiation.
Yes, Daniel, the cell phonies do "listen" and save all our talks and activities, and so do computers. Edward Snowdon shows how to remove them.
Also the much increased stress by all the radiation makes people less inclined to talk with each other, compared to before. The new generations are a different species, lacking the foundation of family traditions taht grounded, calmed, structured us in some ways, helped us keep together and had some calming effects. Woe those who don't replace tít with something equivalent or better now. We know that the human being needs spirituality, transcendence, a Higher power.
❤
If all you want to do is talk it out you can also voice record your own words or you can use a web cam with no intention of posting it you're talking so it can come out and you can review it later incase you were disassociating so you can review and see what maybe this pain talking or that.
❤️❤️❤️
I’m hoping that I can be that person one day.
Do you think all of life’s problems is the inability to be alone? Since problems come from other people?
My last boyfriend bought Alexa- and then I couldn’t enjoy being with him anymore. Somehow I had the feeling that somebody is constantly listening... 😕/ I hope really that we can stop this KI- agenda of the globalists. Don’t want to become a cyborg 😤/ 💚bye
get rid of the smart phone you'll get that magic and dimension back
Technology really killed a lot of humanity’s ability to connect..