All I can say is that your mother would be so extremely proud of who you are. Providing healing and inspiration to those have been severely broken. Thank you so very much.
Without a doubt, it was very hard to admit to myself during the initial process the blatant truth in the realization that yes, I had ignored the red flags and that I possessed next to zero boundaries. Nearly worst of all, I had to admit to myself that I had been just cocky and arrogant enough to believe that our Us, "Love," togetherness, was the cure for the trauma, wounds, and darkness that were already well established within her when she first arrived at my door. I invited that vampire across the threshold, I was complicit in my own suffering. I desperately tried to love the wounded thief that nearly sabotaged my very spirit into complete destruction. I'm grateful to have survived, grateful in the process of learning how to thrive again, much wiser.
Before you ever trust another person in your life, makes sure you trust your own instinct, self & gut FIRST! Never ignore what you sense on your inside. EVER!!! 😊🙏🏻🌴
It started with two narcissist's for parents, that's where it all began. I know God has preserved me, I trust He will give me intervention and understanding of Spiritual Warfare,for real.This site has helped greatly Andrew. Thank You.🕊🙏🕊 Love sees survivors through to share with who are searching knowledge of the cycles of the narcissist's. The Gift of Healing for me is two years, all the narcs in my family have passed away. I am 75 yrs.young and just seeing the miracles of light and healings. BLESSINGS TO YOU.
I wanted to share a revelation I had yesterday and maybe it’ll help someone else. This has been extremely difficult I have cried at least once a day since Sept 21st - not exaggerating! I think I might not cry today. Yesterday I did a Brain Spotting with my long term Therapist. My spiritual awakening was this: Not only did he not love me because he is incapable of love BUT I did not love him. Let me explain, when you are in an abuse cycle you can’t love you are stuck in desperation trying to love and be loved in return. Not to mention I didn’t even know who he was. This really hurt me to accept but it is true. I keep telling myself this over and over. “You can’t love and be abused at the same time” I hope this resonates with someone. Andrew, can you do a video on this topic?
FORGIVING myself was THE SINGLE most difficult part! Getting pass the initial shock & DISBELIEF that it actually happened was the first step! So CRUCIAL! Another great message Andrew! Appreciate your consistency with producing content too! ☮️💖😁 #soulsistershelley
Yes, this is exactly what I’m doing right now. I am getting to the core of my pain from my childhood to address all the skeletons in my closet. My father was essentially a monster in our family and we all walked on egg shells growing up. My mother was a victim of domestic violence and my siblings and I carried the guilt as children for her pain. Thus as an adult I suffered from codependency issues and was always very hard on myself. I never knew how to love myself but now I do. My battle for healing has become so much more than just from the narcissistic relationship. I am working on myself as a person inside out. Andrew, I often thank you in my comments but I sincerely want you to know that you, your channel and the wonderful community you have created are my biggest support system and I’m so grateful. 🙏
Since I have been gray rocking and slowly moving out of this “friendship” (although seems mutual as I am not getting texts and Hoover’s), part of me questions if all this is in my head. I am a codependent empath. I am learning about that too. Watching these videos daily has been helping me feel sane so I don’t fall backwards... thank you for your commitment to help us in recovery. God bless you. I can’t talk to anyone about this. It is so complex. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Bless you, Andrew for sharing. I lost my father at age 5,and my mother age 12. An empty nester and a widow. The narc had no right to try to destroy me. Prayers for all survivors
I’m sorry for your loss.. my deepest condolences..god bless you and I hope your doing well ..it’s hard but your strong god is looking out for you🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Beautifully said…. I was with a narcissist for so long because that’s what I thought I deserved. I came from a dysfunctional family and was never given self-esteem from my mother. I always felt less than everyone else. When I went away to college, I blossomed. I was happy, carefree, had lots of friends, always laughing, had confidence like I could do anything…. then I met the narcissist that would take all that away because I still had unresolved issues from my childhood. I became codependent and my purpose was to save my ex and make excuses for everything he did. I no longer had an identity and he slowly chipped away at my self-esteem. I was once again the broken girl I used to be. I was isolated and the relationship was all about making him happy. Recently he’s been trying to lure me back in. It’s hard but I’m watching these videos to help me stay strong. Your video helped. Thank you .🙏🏼🦋💫
NOW You Can Take THAT TIME Given To A Narc To Your Own SELF/ MIND. In A WAY They Teach You To Leave And LOVE On Your SELF. Forgiving SELF 🥰 For What Didn't Know After Allowing Others To Disrespect Your Feeling.
Thank you for sharing your story Shannon, this was my story too almost word for word. I yearn to be the girl I was before I met him. But perhaps I was meant to go through this pain to become a better version of her. Take care.
Wow Andrew 😎 thank you for rising💪 from the pain of your personal journey to being a positive healing light and energy to us all suffering from the evil of narsasim. Your precious Mother would be very proud of what you are doing.💃 Stay forever blessed strong stoiec and find greater joy peace and love 😎☮️🌈❤️😍🌊🌅🌎🤩
Non linear is EXACTLY how it is. You can be chugging along improving every month and a random hover or set back can destroy you. It’s so scary healing from trauma.
I get you Andrew ! My beautiful and loving mother died when I was 12 on April Fools day - of all days. My dad was a narcissist - it was such a shock he had a heart attack several months later. He learned to take care of 3 teen and pre-teen kids. He became Mr. Mom and learned how to respect and honor her after death. We as kids were in disbelief- we would call for her in the middle of the night in hope she would return. It has been rough but we learned early on how dedicate and short our life is on this planet and how important it is to show love for one another 💔❤
I appreciate so much what you're saying about honoring your feelings. I was taught that my feelings didn't matter. I'm angry about how I was treated and I'm ashamed that I allowed it. I name and acknowledge these feelings now when I have them. It is a great relief and very validating. Note: I'm also sure to be kind to myself as I work through these feelings, because it's not my fault that I was abused. Take care everyone here! 😊❤ Thank you Andrew.
My name is Andrew, I have an Uncle Tom, and my mother’s energy and passion for life died when i was a young boy due to several heart attacks and depression. You’ve been a blessing over these past few days youtube has been presenting me your videos. Thank you for all the effort you exert for the good of other people, it’ll be appreciated forever and ever.
One thing I appreciate so much about your videos is that you post daily. Sometimes more than that. And your videos not only help people learn and heal but they are inspiring and uplifting. There are so many times the narcs treated me like garbage. Devalued, belittled, ignored, mocked. These daily doses of affirmation have helped me so much. Thank you and please keep 'em coming!
It can a long time but when you get to the point when you ‘see’ they are repugnant and can simply accept that they are simply disgusting then you set yourself free. You no longer want to change them, be near them. You accept they are repugnant. And then you retreat, rebuild and give your space to self love
Wow Andrew! I’m crying, I totally feel your pain! I lost my mom at 15 too! It was tough, I went on a path of self destruction! Only God pulled me off that path! Thank you for caring so much and bearing your soul! God Bless You and everyone watching!😪
Yes!!!! Once we know who that narcissist really was, we now have to figure ourselves out and who we are and our mistakes and how to change to respect our own boundaries we desire. Listening to my gut a lot more now. Not giving into other peoples will over mine.
We should never be too hard on ourselves , that was what THEY did ! The trauma bond is a very complicated thing that can even take years to break ! Believe me it's worth the wait , when it breaks ,..and it does , trust me ,...it's the most empowering thing in the world 😉💪❤️
One of the hardest things to overcome post narcissistic abuse was the feeling of being dirty and playing in such a cesspool and didn't realize it. Removing that toxic feel takes time because they infected your whole essence of being.
What has really helped me; he ghosted me and the kids, woohoo!!! We've moved to another state, started over- completely, all new everything, my son, which was a Jr. has decided to change his name, my daughter also, we have created our own great memories and I just went back to college to finish my BSN, which was my goal before I got with exnarc. I am also more involved with my family, and healthy relationships, investing in myself, and buying gourmet coffee, eating healthier and getting closer to God. Life is good! I feel the only hold up in my healing journey is that the divorce still hasn't been finalized, waiting almost 2 years.
In the same deal Laura. Been over two years, waiting for the Legalities to be done. Still pondering the name change, there is that part of me that wants a complete severing (including ditching the last name) but that somehow feels regressive to me (it also makes me feel separate from my children, who bear his last name). As they are adults now that is a bit less important now but still something I think about. Trying to settle it in my mind what will bring me the most peace.
TH-cam is where I got to know about narcissism. Learning about narcissism is how i found out that I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Dr.Ramini’s videos helped a lot to know about what I was dealing with. I was with a covert narcissist for 12 years and he literally made my life a rollercoaster; living hell. I am now out of the relationship. It has only been a month and half. I did loose myself and at this point I don’t know how long or if I ever will be able to find myself. But thank you so much for these videos. They do give me some assurance and some hope.
The narcissist made me feel like I didn't want to live any more, he put me down so much that I didn't care anymore about my self. But as I been getting help for my self , I'm starting to feel better, doing small things for my self
3 months out and it’s been a tough day. You know, one of those tortuous, will this pain ever go away kind of days? So I tuned in hoping to find comfort, and this video was exactly what I needed. Andrew, this is such a sincere, heartfelt message. Such wise words spoken with passion and understanding. I’m realising that since my beloved grandmother died unexpectedly I have had a problem with abandonment and I also hadn’t realised that I was giving myself such a hard time. Thank you SO much, you are a truly beautiful human. Your mum would be very proud of you indeed 🙏
Thank you. I came across your channel today and I recognized this a long time ago but it’s so hard to get better when you became so destroyed that you lost everything and are a stuck , unemployed, mentally unstable person now. Some days I feel who I was returning and I’m ready to work as hard as I have to for as long as I have to to get free and days like today, you wake up and it feels like it will never happen and it’s hopeless because you don’t have the energy for any fight at all anymore. But I have to . I have children there . I can’t quit and I know God is with me and helping me but it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through. Trying to heal when you cannot financially leave what’s destroying you . Praying every day for us all. Thanks again for putting these videos out here .
Hi Andrew, this is just excellent. I am truly honored for the messages, that you sent❤️ I am a codependant. Though it has taken me 3 years to heal from 15 years of a narc marriage and 8 years as co-parenting, I am thankful to my new life, the one I have now❤️ It’s now me, who I am - with everything! Not much fear. Very much joy and love. I had to learn to re-create myself. It’s been hard. But worth any minute❤️🙏🏻
Me too I was giving had guardianship and financial payee over my mother from 18-25. Diagnosed with stage 4 cancer at 3 while in full time college. All of that and I beat both so I thought I was a steel door nothing could hurt me than I met him. Never argued never fought once then that day happened! They are con artists. The fool people day in and day out. Just leave. I finally did once I figured it out. Everyone should be schooled on this mental illness, a lot of people do not know what this is. Even educated people do not know unless they were taught or met one.
Thank you Andrew for all you give. I have viewed many narc healing channels but your manner and kindness are what drew me here. Your content is so honest and helpful on this journey of healing. Your language on all levels resonates with my heart. Genuine thanks.
Thank you!!! ❤️😥🙏 The tears flow faster as I listen to these words. There is so much truth to what you are saying that it is both uplifting and crushing me at the same time. 🌺🌺🌺🥀🥀🥀 I'm grateful for the healing. The road ahead may be painful but it cannot be worse than the living hell of giving your all to someone and having your light diminished by the darkness of their soul. I have others in my circle that I so desperately want to be the light for. The tragedy of it all is this kind of situation can just create cycles in families. By the grace of God there is hope. I see hope in you. I see this sincerity, it is so refreshing and reassuring. Thank you for sharing your story.❤️☮️
Namaste. I learned Ubuntu. I am because you are. For us we must break the cycle. Find the light within. Unite the light with breath. Re animate. Find the joy of living. Breathe the breathe of light of life. Thank you. Your sincerity is opening up a badly damaged soul.
It really gives me hope that others have gone through this same experience I've had. I thought I was the only one. Thank you Andrew for letting me know I'm not alone.
Great advice Andrew. The only thing that worked for me was strictly no contact. Locking down and even deleting social media. Over time the more I ignored him he gave up and moved on from me. It wasn't easy but it worked.
When I finally left him, I changed my phone number, got off of Social Media, and moved. He had no friends, so no Flying Monkeys. TIME is the answer. I'm nearly 11 years out. Take it from me, NEVER TAKE A NARC BACK, AND NO CONTACT..it works!👍👍
Thank you!! I just found your channel and I can't stop listening to your content. I made an exit plan and escaped the narc I was with not to long ago. I'm so excited for my future- since getting into a more positive environment, really big exciting things have been happening in my life. Even 'tho I've been dealing with narcissists most of my life, I now realize i matter too and it feels so good!
How to end being a people pleaser: (1)Understand you were lured into the narcissistic relationship. (2) Know that the narcissist was, and still is, a master manipulator and none of it was your fault this happenened to you. (3) Out of disgust and anger at the narc (not yourself)... go no contact immediately. You are now on your path to healing. Emotional healing like you have never known before. ALWAYS do whatever it takes to HONOR YOUR DECISION and stay deeply connected with those who have the knowledge. ❤With Love to all- Ron.
You have such a beautiful soul, Andrew. Honesty, Sincerity and Truth. This video and the community’s comments helped tremendously today. Thank you very much. I’m about 1 1/2 months into no contact. Anxious to get my health, energy and healing behind me…and I know it won’t happen overnight. Trying chin up and move forward…some days easier than others. My prayer and wish for all is, for optimum health and happiness “exceedingly, abundantly beyond what we could ask or think.” ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️💞🌎🌷🦋
Andrew you provided so much knowledge for people who did not understand. How I handle this too is to understand emotion are up and down never steady so just stay with it. If you resist it will persist. I will not get angry at the narcissist but rather have compassion for their suffering - non attachment compassion. If I get angry , I will be like them. I will remain empathetic We have to remember that thoughts create the emotion , emotion create the action. Emotion influence your thoughts. Best to do is focus on your growth. If the thoughts or feeling come up , recognize and acknowledge and ask what message you are giving me. One other , the pain is the desire to rescue. The shadow of that is your young self is wounded and need the attention. Stay by your side
Well said, personally what I was subconciously looking for was a connection to God and to be able to fully love and accept myself. It's very dangerous attempting to have another person fill these roles, and never works. That's how I set myself up to be manipulated with the lack of sense of self and reliance on the wrong things. Like fitting a square peg into a round hole. It's beautiful to be able to trust myself again within. 🔥 This time even stronger
I’m stuck 15 years in. Just realized ONLY 4 years ago what I was dealing with. A malignant narcissist! The worst. I had no idea. Im so glad that I realized it’s never been me that’s the problem like he brainwashed me to believe. He’s the problem all along! He ruined me completely. I’m so glad I found you! There’s nothing more I want in life is to disappear on him and never look back. Like you say on this video, it’s a process. After so many years I basically have to deprogram my brain. He literally brain damaged me from so much narc abuse. So I’m undoing a lot of trauma. God bless you for working on your past trauma and becoming healthy and gif helping people with your knowledge now. I really need the encouragement and education to get the stretch to leave and never ever go back. EVER! ♥️🙏🏼
Thank you!, thank you!, thank you!, for sharing the truth! “The truth will set you free”, & for the encouragement! “ Encourage one another daily”👍. Peace, strength, healing & love to you, Brother🙏✝️🕊💖🌺
We create the new heritage from our forefathers. Tackling and neutralizing the effects of toxicity from narcissism in this lifetime IS the definitive campfire story. This should in time make cause as a family ritual. It's generally referred to as better upbringing, nothing like a domineering pursuit. 🙏
Great topic! One of the most difficult challenges on the healing path is the lack of understanding from the people in your life. It has been a very lonely, isolated time. My best friends actually told me to “suck it up and get over it.” That is when I realized they have no clue and never will. So I cut them off and began seeking outside help and found this community. Very sorry for what you went through during the loss of your mom, Andrew. ❤️
Thank you. I am trying. Meditation has kept me alive. He interrupted my meditation every day for 6 years. It’s destabilized my sanity. He knew. Pray. More attorney fees are coming. Too bad.
Brilliant , Andrew ! I think they actually do us a strange unintentional service , because the person I am now is SO much stronger , wiser and more aware version of me ! During their attempts to either impress me , or make me feel inferior , they inadvertently introduced me to so many things I might never have experienced ! Unknown to them I was able to learn and cherry pick , despite all the toxic negativity , and many of these things helped me to become the person I am today ! Rather than falling for the future lovebombing of another narcissist I think we should all learn to genuinely lovebomb ourselves , without any sense of guilt or shame , that was always THEIR BAG , after all 😉💪🙏🙏❤️
Brilliant! Love bombing ourselves! Never thought of it that way but you might be on to something! Just the other day I told myself that I was going to start treating myself the way I desire a person who is interested in me to treat me. I won’t sit and wait for it, I will become that person FOR myself. It is learning to LOVE yourself, being KIND to yourself, enjoying who you are as a person. If you are an empath, it is so natural to tune in deeply to those around you, but that causes you to neglect your own need(s) because you are hyper focused on “healing” others ~ I know that is what was “wrong” with me. Empaths cannot help it, it’s what we do and how we respond. Now, we have to be much more intentional with regards to others and way more lenient in engaging ourselves and our instinct and emotional states. Be aware of when you are feeling bullied or cheated or just creepy about a person. That is your good instinct raising that red flag. Take the time and LISTEN to what your soul is sensing and stop allowing others to manipulate. That is how they get you to STOP loving yourself. Try it sometime! Instead of being afraid of going out alone, take yourself out on a delicious date! ENJOY being with a wonderful person, yourself, for the evening or day. Turn the adoration inward (not in a narc way) but just as an act of self love and acceptance. Go out and enjoy the things YOU like to do and experience for once and feel JOY that you can experience that with no judgement or harassment.
Thank you for these videos, I have watched now many of them and you’re the best teacher for me out here on TH-cam. You’re so clear and spot on. Thank you 🙏
Hi Andrew, thank you for another great video. I'm being patient with myself and really enjoy my time alone. I'm not even looking for anything new. It's been more than ten months of wonderful freedom!
I had a spiritual awakening as a result of my experience with the Narcissist. The stars are visible at night bc they stand out in the darkness . My soul became visible and I became aware of its value bc it stood out against the barrenness of a Narcissist.
I felt like a wounded animal. Doing damage control with friends & family, dealing with a financial mess, forgiving myself for getting mixed up with the A hole. It takes time. There will be good days & bad days. Moving on is a process.
Andrew thank you so much for your words of hope and inspiration for us all who have gone through this painful process with a narcissist. I am very careful of who I listen to and I want you to know that I felt tears coming when you speak because it is sooooo true!! I want to get over this pain and suffering. I have given so much all my life , NEVER EVER THINKING ABOUT MYSELF. I WANT TO MOVE FORWARD. I WANT THE LIGHT INSIDE ME TO SHINE BRIGHTLY. I pray daily to Father God to guide me and lead to my highest good with a humble and sincere heart. Thank you for your words of wisdom, hope and inspiration. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤
No one understands me even after describe the PNT nobody believes me, its very frustrating. This also makes you get to setbacks(dont do it dont explain what you d lived through). Society disdains mental illness and dissorders very easily and thats why this abuse is very Extended. Be safe you need it to get better and move forward. Cheers evryone.
I loved this. It is so hard to not beat yourself up for being so stupid all those years. Even though I think I'm finally at a place where I need to be and not be thinking of myself as stupid for loving someone like my ex. There are days. That's when it helps to hear someone say I'm not stupid, I was a loving person in a hopeless situation you can't do anything but lose in. YT helps You help Thank you
That was beautiful Andrew. Thank You for being so transparent, humble, and vulnerable. Your mission is helping us to do the same. May God bless you and keep you always.
Thank you Andrew as this is perfect timing 😅. I have been watching videos about narcissism daily for almost 2 yrs since COVID. I AM TRULY dedicated to healing and want to never ruminate as I no longer feel I have to have christ-like closure with narcs who discarded me ☺🙌🏾🙏🏿
I needed this today! I am having a bad day thinking about him and things he has done. It’s keeping me miserable. Going on 7 months apart. I don’t want to think about or feel bad about that part of my life anymore. Ten years down the drain. I just want to feel joy again
First of all, Andrew, I know your mom is so proud of you. Losing a parent at such a young age would be so difficult, I'm sorry that happened. I know she's proud of her son and all you do. This is one of your best videos, IMHO. I read once (forgot where) but they said to help you find the core of your wounds, ask yourself *what hurts you the most when you don't get it?* (Something to that effect anyway) When I did that, I could see my area of lack, or need. And I could see several different times in my life, including when I was with my narcissist ex, why I did what I did...or, what I was really looking for and why, but didn't realize it at the time. So that is something I'm trying to work on and heal within me. Therapists arent in my budget right now, so I read lots of books, and listen to lots of TH-cam videos, and I'm getting it worked out, but it does take time. But I just wanted to share that question above, because it helped me to pinpoint a deep need of mine since very young childhood days, and if that can help others, then that's great. This is a great video to save in the topic of healing to watch over again later. Everyone have a good evening!
Thank you for your videos! They have helped validate a lot of my feelings. One big one was being so mad at myself for being in another abusive relationship. I thought I was healed 😪 from the fact that I once again was in a horrible place in my life. I kept telling myself that it had to be me because I knew about abusive patterns but the covert narcissist is so sneaky and underhanded that the whole 27 year relationship was confusing 😕 almost from day one. Andrew I appreciate 🙏 being reminded that these horrible people look for light in their darkness then try to destroy it.I am on my path and will overcome these challenges with the help of God and videos like yours to teach me the way to walk toward healing.
Thank you...working all these edges...the light is coming through...allowing the healing....making time and committing to myself....grateful for the opportunity..grateful for the wisdom Andrew...Namaste
I have been 2years in January no contact, once I found utube I watched 6 videos a day every day. I have learned so much, my life is so much better thanks to people like you. I have come along way, but have a ways to go yet, because I was with him 28 years, and believe me they do slot of damage., But I work at it every day and will the rest of my life. Now I watch 2to4 videos a day. It works if you want to get well. Please keep up the good work. God bless you.❤️
Thank You so much Andrew for doing this video for me. I do understand that it’s gonna take time. My Relationship was almost 4 years. I’m watching all your videos, educating myself, cuz I don’t wanna go through this again.
B4 the accident I was making 130k per year and now here I am. I’m smart, I’ll figure it out after all this 100%! I know myself well enough to do just that. They destroy a lot. If you know your with one and are still with them, RUN!!!!!!! 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ and don’t LOOK BACK!
I hope you have a real sense of how much you are helping this community to heal. It is a noble task. Deep appreciation here for the beautiful message in this video.
I've been no contact with my parents for 7 years and narcissistic people I worked with for 4 years. The inner strength change is very different because when I speak to people I don't get the same anxiety reaction that I would have years ago. It's sort of a reaction I would get due to feeling that I may get attacked or I'm saying the wrong thing and need to apologize. I had to tell myself I don't have to apologize for everything I say to people. That's the type of trauma I had to heal from and it did take many years of being no contact. I'm thankful to feel more comfortable around strangers and to realize not everyone is going to club me over the head for talking.
Thank you so much Andrew. I was you and am still not there yet. This video was one of the best rhat you have done yet. You are one of God's many Angels sent to heal others. Don't stop doing this. It is one of your gifts that you have been Blessed with and you are Bleassing me and those listening withthat gift. 😇💞
All I can say is that your mother would be so extremely proud of who you are. Providing healing and inspiration to those have been severely broken. Thank you so very much.
I appreciate your kindness 1984musicmam.. thank you sincerely 💯🙏❤️💯😊
Definitely!
His mother raised a lovely son!
agreed wholeheartedly
Without a doubt, it was very hard to admit to myself during the initial process the blatant truth in the realization that yes, I had ignored the red flags and that I possessed next to zero boundaries. Nearly worst of all, I had to admit to myself that I had been just cocky and arrogant enough to believe that our Us, "Love," togetherness, was the cure for the trauma, wounds, and darkness that were already well established within her when she first arrived at my door. I invited that vampire across the threshold, I was complicit in my own suffering. I desperately tried to love the wounded thief that nearly sabotaged my very spirit into complete destruction. I'm grateful to have survived, grateful in the process of learning how to thrive again, much wiser.
Before you ever trust another person in your life, makes sure you trust your own instinct, self & gut FIRST! Never ignore what you sense on your inside. EVER!!! 😊🙏🏻🌴
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Folks PLEASE love yourself and get away from that demon. Be brave you GOT this!!!!!!
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It started with two narcissist's for parents, that's where it all began. I know God has preserved me, I trust He will give me intervention and understanding of Spiritual Warfare,for real.This site has helped greatly Andrew. Thank You.🕊🙏🕊 Love sees survivors through to share with who are searching knowledge of the cycles of the narcissist's. The Gift of Healing for me is two years, all the narcs in my family have passed away. I am 75 yrs.young and just seeing the miracles of light and healings.
BLESSINGS TO YOU.
I wanted to share a revelation I had yesterday and maybe it’ll help someone else. This has been extremely difficult I have cried at least once a day since Sept 21st - not exaggerating! I think I might not cry today. Yesterday I did a Brain Spotting with my long term Therapist. My spiritual awakening was this: Not only did he not love me because he is incapable of love BUT I did not love him. Let me explain, when you are in an abuse cycle you can’t love you are stuck in desperation trying to love and be loved in return. Not to mention I didn’t even know who he was. This really hurt me to accept but it is true. I keep telling myself this over and over. “You can’t love and be abused at the same time”
I hope this resonates with someone.
Andrew, can you do a video on this topic?
I appreciate your honesty and sharing.. this is new to me.. I can research this topic..💯🙏🙌
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This was my marriage. So much pain, how can you feel love when they keep you on eggshells, fearful and worried and empty?
I agree!!
Wow . That's profound
FORGIVING myself was THE SINGLE most difficult part! Getting pass the initial shock & DISBELIEF that it actually happened was the first step! So CRUCIAL! Another great message Andrew! Appreciate your consistency with producing content too! ☮️💖😁 #soulsistershelley
Beautiful message 💯🙌😊🙏
Your mom must be looking down with such pride & love for you, Andrew... knowing how many lives you've touched here! 😇💗🌹
Thank you Wishpool.. sincerely 💯🙌😊❤️🙏
We are "beautifully & wonderfully made"!
Yes, this is exactly what I’m doing right now. I am getting to the core of my pain from my childhood to address all the skeletons in my closet. My father was essentially a monster in our family and we all walked on egg shells growing up. My mother was a victim of domestic violence and my siblings and I carried the guilt as children for her pain. Thus as an adult I suffered from codependency issues and was always very hard on myself. I never knew how to love myself but now I do. My battle for healing has become so much more than just from the narcissistic relationship. I am working on myself as a person inside out.
Andrew, I often thank you in my comments but I sincerely want you to know that you, your channel and the wonderful community you have created are my biggest support system and I’m so grateful. 🙏
I appreciate your kindness and honesty Kristine.. thank you for sharing this beautiful message 😊☀️🙌💯
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@@kimgordon3695 Thank you, Kim. :)
Since I have been gray rocking and slowly moving out of this “friendship” (although seems mutual as I am not getting texts and Hoover’s), part of me questions if all this is in my head. I am a codependent empath. I am learning about that too. Watching these videos daily has been helping me feel sane so I don’t fall backwards... thank you for your commitment to help us in recovery. God bless you. I can’t talk to anyone about this. It is so complex. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Welcome Teri.. maintain your boundaries and continue to become educated 💯🙌🙏
Teri, talk to us! He probably won’t come near because he knows you know! Start hobbies, stay strong!
Trust your gut!!
me too
Hi Teri 🤗 and love coming your way ❤️
Bless you, Andrew for sharing. I lost my father at age 5,and my mother age 12. An empty nester and a widow. The narc had no right to try to destroy me. Prayers for all survivors
Sending you prayers and hugs Val.. 💯🙌🙏💯🙌.. thank you for sharing this.. 💯🙌🙌
@D Frazier this is true. I have changed my narrative to "try" to destroy me.
Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ coming your way Val. I’m so grateful to be on this journey with everyone here. 😁🖖
@@alimccreery755 thank you and Happiest of New Years! 🙂
I’m sorry for your loss.. my deepest condolences..god bless you and I hope your doing well ..it’s hard but your strong god is looking out for you🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Beautifully said…. I was with a narcissist for so long because that’s what I thought I deserved. I came from a dysfunctional family and was never given self-esteem from my mother. I always felt less than everyone else. When I went away to college, I blossomed. I was happy, carefree, had lots of friends, always laughing, had confidence like I could do anything…. then I met the narcissist that would take all that away because I still had unresolved issues from my childhood. I became codependent and my purpose was to save my ex and make excuses for everything he did. I no longer had an identity and he slowly chipped away at my self-esteem. I was once again the broken girl I used to be. I was isolated and the relationship was all about making him happy. Recently he’s been trying to lure me back in. It’s hard but I’m watching these videos to help me stay strong. Your video helped. Thank you .🙏🏼🦋💫
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Shannon.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯🙌🙏🙌
NOW You Can Take THAT TIME Given To A Narc To Your Own SELF/ MIND. In A WAY They Teach You To Leave And LOVE On Your SELF. Forgiving SELF 🥰 For What Didn't Know After Allowing Others To Disrespect Your Feeling.
Thank you for sharing your story Shannon, this was my story too almost word for word. I yearn to be the girl I was before I met him. But perhaps I was meant to go through this pain to become a better version of her. Take care.
Sorry for your loss, Andrew. You're a shining light in this world. 🙏🏼🌟💙
Thank you Pink Diamond 💯🙌🙏
Wow Andrew 😎 thank you for rising💪 from the pain of your personal journey to being a positive healing light and energy to us all suffering from the evil of narsasim. Your precious Mother would be very proud of what you are doing.💃 Stay forever blessed strong stoiec and find greater joy peace and love 😎☮️🌈❤️😍🌊🌅🌎🤩
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Non linear is EXACTLY how it is. You can be chugging along improving every month and a random hover or set back can destroy you. It’s so scary healing from trauma.
Understand completely George 💯💯🙌🙌
I get you Andrew ! My beautiful and loving mother died when I was 12 on April Fools day - of all days. My dad was a narcissist - it was such a shock he had a heart attack several months later. He learned to take care of 3 teen and pre-teen kids. He became Mr. Mom and learned how to respect and honor her after death.
We as kids were in disbelief- we would call for her in the middle of the night in hope she would return. It has been rough but we learned early on how dedicate and short our life is on this planet and how important it is to show love for one another 💔❤
I’m no longer feeling alone….thank you for taking the time to care and share with others.
Welcome always 🙌🙏💯💪😊
I appreciate so much what you're saying about honoring your feelings. I was taught that my feelings didn't matter. I'm angry about how I was treated and I'm ashamed that I allowed it. I name and acknowledge these feelings now when I have them. It is a great relief and very validating. Note: I'm also sure to be kind to myself as I work through these feelings, because it's not my fault that I was abused.
Take care everyone here! 😊❤
Thank you Andrew.
My name is Andrew, I have an Uncle Tom, and my mother’s energy and passion for life died when i was a young boy due to several heart attacks and depression. You’ve been a blessing over these past few days youtube has been presenting me your videos. Thank you for all the effort you exert for the good of other people, it’ll be appreciated forever and ever.
I read the comments while listening...it soothes me
One thing I appreciate so much about your videos is that you post daily. Sometimes more than that. And your videos not only help people learn and heal but they are inspiring and uplifting. There are so many times the narcs treated me like garbage. Devalued, belittled, ignored, mocked. These daily doses of affirmation have helped me so much. Thank you and please keep 'em coming!
Welcome Anita always 💯🙏🙌☀️
Thank you for sharing your personal struggles, Andrew. We are all healers, and that's why the narcs love trying to take our light. ✌😃⭐💞
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It can a long time but when you get to the point when you ‘see’ they are repugnant and can simply accept that they are simply disgusting then you set yourself free. You no longer want to change them, be near them. You accept they are repugnant. And then you retreat, rebuild and give your space to self love
Education is empowerment.. thank you N G..💪😉💯🙌
Wow Andrew! I’m crying, I totally feel your pain! I lost my mom at 15 too! It was tough, I went on a path of self destruction! Only God pulled me off that path! Thank you for caring so much and bearing your soul! God Bless You and everyone watching!😪
Thank you Epiphany.. sending prayers and positive energy 💯❤️🙏🙌💯
You too hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ coming your way 😁🖖
Yes!!!! Once we know who that narcissist really was, we now have to figure ourselves out and who we are and our mistakes and how to change to respect our own boundaries we desire. Listening to my gut a lot more now. Not giving into other peoples will over mine.
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We should never be too hard on ourselves , that was what THEY did ! The trauma bond is a very complicated thing that can even take years to break ! Believe me it's worth the wait , when it breaks ,..and it does , trust me ,...it's the most empowering thing in the world 😉💪❤️
Beautiful message of inspiration and empowerment 💯🙌🙏💪💪
i trust you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i wanna break the trauma bond!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had massive inter childhood trauma to deal with getting to the bottom and realizing I was reliving my trauma over and over.
💗💃 Finding out what your wounds are can be a very liberating experience.
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One of the hardest things to overcome post narcissistic abuse was the feeling of being dirty and playing in such a cesspool and didn't realize it. Removing that toxic feel takes time because they infected your whole essence of being.
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What has really helped me; he ghosted me and the kids, woohoo!!! We've moved to another state, started over- completely, all new everything, my son, which was a Jr. has decided to change his name, my daughter also, we have created our own great memories and I just went back to college to finish my BSN, which was my goal before I got with exnarc. I am also more involved with my family, and healthy relationships, investing in myself, and buying gourmet coffee, eating healthier and getting closer to God. Life is good! I feel the only hold up in my healing journey is that the divorce still hasn't been finalized, waiting almost 2 years.
Wow Laura this is great.. you are amazing and so blessed.. thank you for sharing this 😊💯🙏☀️💪🙌
In the same deal Laura. Been over two years, waiting for the Legalities to be done. Still pondering the name change, there is that part of me that wants a complete severing (including ditching the last name) but that somehow feels regressive to me (it also makes me feel separate from my children, who bear his last name). As they are adults now that is a bit less important now but still something I think about. Trying to settle it in my mind what will bring me the most peace.
TH-cam is where I got to know about narcissism. Learning about narcissism is how i found out that I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Dr.Ramini’s videos helped a lot to know about what I was dealing with.
I was with a covert narcissist for 12 years and he literally made my life a rollercoaster; living hell. I am now out of the relationship. It has only been a month and half. I did loose myself and at this point I don’t know how long or if I ever will be able to find myself. But thank you so much for these videos. They do give me some assurance and some hope.
Sending prayers and positive energy to you.. continue on the path 💯🙌🙏😊
Get your identity back because the world needs you! At the moment there's a YOU sized gap, fill it! ❤️🙏✝️🙌
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The narcissist made me feel like I didn't want to live any more, he put me down so much that I didn't care anymore about my self. But as I been getting help for my self , I'm starting to feel better, doing small things for my self
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3 months out and it’s been a tough day. You know, one of those tortuous, will this pain ever go away kind of days? So I tuned in hoping to find comfort, and this video was exactly what I needed. Andrew, this is such a sincere, heartfelt message. Such wise words spoken with passion and understanding. I’m realising that since my beloved grandmother died unexpectedly I have had a problem with abandonment and I also hadn’t realised that I was giving myself such a hard time. Thank you SO much, you are a truly beautiful human. Your mum would be very proud of you indeed 🙏
True!!! 😊 been doing it and still doing it! Thankful 😊🙏
We are shining stars 🌟⭐🌠💫🌃✨🌌
Absolutely 😊🙏🙌
Thank you. I came across your channel today and I recognized this a long time ago but it’s so hard to get better when you became so destroyed that you lost everything and are a stuck , unemployed, mentally unstable person now. Some days I feel who I was returning and I’m ready to work as hard as I have to for as long as I have to to get free and days like today, you wake up and it feels like it will never happen and it’s hopeless because you don’t have the energy for any fight at all anymore. But I have to . I have children there . I can’t quit and I know God is with me and helping me but it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through. Trying to heal when you cannot financially leave what’s destroying you . Praying every day for us all. Thanks again for putting these videos out here .
Welcome to the community Amanda.. thank you for sharing this message.. continue to move forward everyday.. you are doing great 💯🙏🙌💯
I'm praying for you 🙏 🌷🌷🌷
Hi Andrew, this is just excellent. I am truly honored for the messages, that you sent❤️
I am a codependant. Though it has taken me 3 years to heal from 15 years of a narc marriage and 8 years as co-parenting, I am thankful to my new life, the one I have now❤️
It’s now me, who I am - with everything!
Not much fear.
Very much joy and love.
I had to learn to re-create myself. It’s been hard. But worth any minute❤️🙏🏻
Welcome Lone.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏🙌
Me too I was giving had guardianship and financial payee over my mother from 18-25. Diagnosed with stage 4 cancer at 3 while in full time college. All of that and I beat both so I thought I was a steel door nothing could hurt me than I met him. Never argued never fought once then that day happened! They are con artists. The fool people day in and day out. Just leave. I finally did once I figured it out. Everyone should be schooled on this mental illness, a lot of people do not know what this is. Even educated people do not know unless they were taught or met one.
I appreciate your honesty and sharing this Emma..😉💯🙏
Lost my Mum young too, at 18. I think that affects us and makes us vulnerable 😢 it was her birthday yesterday ❤
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Thank you Andrew for all you give. I have viewed many narc healing channels but your manner and kindness are what drew me here. Your content is so honest and helpful on this journey of healing. Your language on all levels resonates with my heart. Genuine thanks.
Thank God for your wisdom. We are all on a separate path, journey ... of different losses and grief. But, we are united in it too. Great video!
Thank you 🙏
Thank you!!! ❤️😥🙏 The tears flow faster as I listen to these words. There is so much truth to what you are saying that it is both uplifting and crushing me at the same time. 🌺🌺🌺🥀🥀🥀 I'm grateful for the healing. The road ahead may be painful but it cannot be worse than the living hell of giving your all to someone and having your light diminished by the darkness of their soul. I have others in my circle that I so desperately want to be the light for. The tragedy of it all is this kind of situation can just create cycles in families. By the grace of God there is hope. I see hope in you. I see this sincerity, it is so refreshing and reassuring. Thank you for sharing your story.❤️☮️
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Nancy.. you are amazing and loved.. sending prayers and positive energy 💯🙌🙏❤️
Namaste. I learned Ubuntu. I am because you are. For us we must break the cycle. Find the light within. Unite the light with breath. Re animate. Find the joy of living. Breathe the breathe of light of life. Thank you. Your sincerity is opening up a badly damaged soul.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
Thank you. Beautiful…your mom’s working through you❤️
I appreciate this Lorraine.. I am honored to hear this beautiful message ❤️💯🙌🙏
It really gives me hope that others have gone through this same experience I've had. I thought I was the only one. Thank you Andrew for letting me know I'm not alone.
Welcome 🙏
Thanks, Andrew! Knowledge is key! I had to learn about the NARCISSISTIC BEAST!!!
Absolutely LaTashala..🙌💯🙏💯
I knew I was on my way back when my sister said a t a family gathering “I have my brother back”! It literally brought tears to my eyes.
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Getting back to our identities! Yes!!! 🤗
Absolutely correct Rhonda 💯🙌🙏
Great advice Andrew. The only thing that worked for me was strictly no contact. Locking down and even deleting social media. Over time the more I ignored him he gave up and moved on from me. It wasn't easy but it worked.
Beautiful insight thank you R W.. 💯🙌🙏💪
I’m very encouraged to know that as time passes, no contact will eventually work. Thanks for this comment.
@@EP61 thank you 😊 🙏
When I finally left him, I changed my phone number, got off of Social Media, and moved. He had no friends, so no Flying Monkeys. TIME is the answer. I'm nearly 11 years out. Take it from me, NEVER TAKE A NARC BACK, AND NO CONTACT..it works!👍👍
Thank you!! I just found your channel and I can't stop listening to your content. I made an exit plan and escaped the narc I was with not to long ago. I'm so excited for my future- since getting into a more positive environment, really big exciting things have been happening in my life. Even 'tho I've been dealing with narcissists most of my life, I now realize i matter too and it feels so good!
Welcome Joanna.. I appreciate your kindness and being here in the community 💯🙌🙏💯
How to end being a people pleaser: (1)Understand you were lured into the narcissistic relationship.
(2) Know that the narcissist was, and still is, a master manipulator and none of it was your fault this happenened to you. (3) Out of disgust and anger at the narc (not yourself)... go no contact immediately. You are now on your path to healing. Emotional healing like you have never known before.
ALWAYS do whatever it takes to HONOR YOUR DECISION and stay deeply connected with those who have the knowledge.
❤With Love to all- Ron.
You have such a beautiful soul, Andrew. Honesty, Sincerity and Truth.
This video and the community’s comments helped tremendously today.
Thank you very much.
I’m about 1 1/2 months into no contact. Anxious to get my health, energy and healing behind me…and I know it won’t happen overnight. Trying chin up and move forward…some days easier than others. My prayer and wish for all is, for optimum health and happiness “exceedingly, abundantly beyond what we could ask or think.”
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Welcome 😌💯🙌
Andrew you provided so much knowledge for people who did not understand.
How I handle this too is to understand emotion are up and down never steady so just stay with it. If you resist it will persist. I will not get angry at the narcissist but rather have compassion for their suffering - non attachment compassion. If I get angry , I will be like them. I will remain empathetic
We have to remember that thoughts create the emotion , emotion create the action. Emotion influence your thoughts. Best to do is focus on your growth. If the thoughts or feeling come up , recognize and acknowledge and ask what message you are giving me.
One other , the pain is the desire to rescue. The shadow of that is your young self is wounded and need the attention. Stay by your side
Thank you for sharing this insight Ronald… I am grateful to hear this 🙏💯🙌
Well said, personally what I was subconciously looking for was a connection to God and to be able to fully love and accept myself. It's very dangerous attempting to have another person fill these roles, and never works. That's how I set myself up to be manipulated with the lack of sense of self and reliance on the wrong things. Like fitting a square peg into a round hole. It's beautiful to be able to trust myself again within. 🔥 This time even stronger
Thank you for sharing this Precious 💯🙌🙏
I can relate
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I’ve got so much to grieve it will take the rest of my life
Day by day moving forward always 💪💪💯💯
Oh I finally know what a evil, demonic, insane parasite I was with!!!
Thank you for sharing Kathy 💯🙌🙏
I’m stuck 15 years in. Just realized ONLY 4 years ago what I was dealing with. A malignant narcissist! The worst. I had no idea. Im so glad that I realized it’s never been me that’s the problem like he brainwashed me to believe. He’s the problem all along! He ruined me completely. I’m so glad I found you! There’s nothing more I want in life is to disappear on him and never look back. Like you say on this video, it’s a process. After so many years I basically have to deprogram my brain. He literally brain damaged me from so much narc abuse. So I’m undoing a lot of trauma. God bless you for working on your past trauma and becoming healthy and gif helping people with your knowledge now. I really need the encouragement and education to get the stretch to leave and never ever go back. EVER! ♥️🙏🏼
Continue on the path Cyndy.. you are doing great 💯🙏🙌💪
I pray your right. That my joy comes back. It seems the shame of it is what hinders me because I am not a dummy. But I see that I was.
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Thank you!, thank you!, thank you!, for sharing the truth! “The truth will set you free”, & for the encouragement! “ Encourage one another daily”👍. Peace, strength, healing & love to you, Brother🙏✝️🕊💖🌺
Welcome 🙏🙌💯
We create the new heritage from our forefathers.
Tackling and neutralizing the effects of toxicity from narcissism in this lifetime IS the definitive campfire story.
This should in time make cause as a family ritual.
It's generally referred to as better upbringing, nothing like a domineering pursuit. 🙏
Thank you for sharing this ChickenBiscuit 💯🙌☀️🙌
Great topic! One of the most difficult challenges on the healing path is the lack of understanding from the people in your life. It has been a very lonely, isolated time. My best friends actually told me to “suck it up and get over it.” That is when I realized they have no clue and never will. So I cut them off and began seeking outside help and found this community.
Very sorry for what you went through during the loss of your mom, Andrew. ❤️
I appreciate your kindness and honesty.. thank you The Giant Killer 💯🙌🙏❤️
Thank you. I am trying. Meditation has kept me alive. He interrupted my meditation every day for 6 years. It’s destabilized my sanity. He knew. Pray. More attorney fees are coming. Too bad.
Welcome 🙏
Amen. Thank You so much.
Welcome Heidi 🙌💯🙏
Brilliant , Andrew ! I think they actually do us a strange unintentional service , because the person I am now is SO much stronger , wiser and more aware version of me ! During their attempts to either impress me , or make me feel inferior , they inadvertently introduced me to so many things I might never have experienced ! Unknown to them I was able to learn and cherry pick , despite all the toxic negativity , and many of these things helped me to become the person I am today ! Rather than falling for the future lovebombing of another narcissist I think we should all learn to genuinely lovebomb ourselves , without any sense of guilt or shame , that was always THEIR BAG , after all 😉💪🙏🙏❤️
Beautiful insight thank you The Big H..🙏🙌💯💪🙌.. sincerely
Brilliant! Love bombing ourselves! Never thought of it that way but you might be on to something! Just the other day I told myself that I was going to start treating myself the way I desire a person who is interested in me to treat me. I won’t sit and wait for it, I will become that person FOR myself. It is learning to LOVE yourself, being KIND to yourself, enjoying who you are as a person. If you are an empath, it is so natural to tune in deeply to those around you, but that causes you to neglect your own need(s) because you are hyper focused on “healing” others ~ I know that is what was “wrong” with me. Empaths cannot help it, it’s what we do and how we respond. Now, we have to be much more intentional with regards to others and way more lenient in engaging ourselves and our instinct and emotional states. Be aware of when you are feeling bullied or cheated or just creepy about a person. That is your good instinct raising that red flag. Take the time and LISTEN to what your soul is sensing and stop allowing others to manipulate. That is how they get you to STOP loving yourself.
Try it sometime! Instead of being afraid of going out alone, take yourself out on a delicious date! ENJOY being with a wonderful person, yourself, for the evening or day. Turn the adoration inward (not in a narc way) but just as an act of self love and acceptance. Go out and enjoy the things YOU like to do and experience for once and feel JOY that you can experience that with no judgement or harassment.
Thank you for these videos, I have watched now many of them and you’re the best teacher for me out here on TH-cam. You’re so clear and spot on. Thank you 🙏
Welcome 🙏🙌💯
Andrew. You look great! Healthy !
Awe thank you Teshla 😊😉🙌💯
Hi Andrew, thank you for another great video. I'm being patient with myself and really enjoy my time alone. I'm not even looking for anything new. It's been more than ten months of wonderful freedom!
Thank you for sharing this Michelle.. you are amazing and doing great 💯🙌🙏☀️💪😊
thanks for all this
video, i feel much happier
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life. may God bless you .
I had a spiritual awakening as a result of my experience with the Narcissist. The stars are visible at night bc they stand out in the darkness . My soul became visible and I became aware of its value bc it stood out against the barrenness of a Narcissist.
Thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙏🙌
I felt like a wounded animal. Doing damage control with friends & family, dealing with a financial mess, forgiving myself for getting mixed up with the A hole. It takes time. There will be good days & bad days. Moving on is a process.
Absolutely correct.. it’s a process 💯💯
Thank you, Andrew❤️
Welcome Petra..💯🙌🙏😊
Andrew thank you so much for your words of hope and inspiration for us all who have gone through this painful process with a narcissist.
I am very careful of who I listen to and I want you to know that I felt tears coming when you speak because it is sooooo true!!
I want to get over this pain and suffering. I have given so much all my life , NEVER EVER THINKING ABOUT MYSELF.
I WANT TO MOVE FORWARD. I WANT THE LIGHT INSIDE ME TO SHINE BRIGHTLY. I pray daily to Father God to guide me and lead to my highest good with a humble and sincere heart.
Thank you for your words of wisdom, hope and inspiration. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤
When you say, '...and I know you did that,' it makes me burst into tears.
Sending you positive energy and love..💯🙌🙏🙏🙌💯
No one understands me even after describe the PNT nobody believes me, its very frustrating. This also makes you get to setbacks(dont do it dont explain what you d lived through). Society disdains mental illness and dissorders very easily and thats why this abuse is very Extended. Be safe you need it to get better and move forward. Cheers evryone.
Thank you for sharing this insight Frank.. 🙌💯🙏
Thank you for every video! They're invaluable, inspiring, and filled with warmth, hope, compassion--and treasure troves of wisdom!
Welcome 🙌🙏😌
Thank you so much Andrew!Love you too!
Thank you Linda 🙌🙏💯
I listened to this while driving. This is an amazing video. I had to stop and let out a quick cry. So good.
Thank you Teshla.. sincerely 💯🙌🙏💯
I loved this. It is so hard to not beat yourself up for being so stupid all those years. Even though I think I'm finally at a place where I need to be and not be thinking of myself as stupid for loving someone like my ex. There are days. That's when it helps to hear someone say I'm not stupid, I was a loving person in a hopeless situation you can't do anything but lose in. YT helps You help Thank you
Welcome always 💯🙏🙌
Thank you Andrew your kind words made me cry. Thanks for caring. I appreciate it
Welcome always Laurene 🙌💯😊
Oh Andrew, I miss my Mom every day. I wish she was here. I would have somewhere to go. Love and Prayers for you.
I understand Denise.. sending prayers and positive energy 💯🙌❤️🙏💯
That was beautiful Andrew. Thank You for being so transparent, humble, and vulnerable. Your mission is helping us to do the same. May God bless you and keep you always.
Welcome always 💯🙏🙌
Thank you Andrew as this is perfect timing 😅. I have been watching videos about narcissism daily for almost 2 yrs since COVID. I AM TRULY dedicated to healing and want to never ruminate as I no longer feel I have to have christ-like closure with narcs who discarded me ☺🙌🏾🙏🏿
Welcome Cren..🙌💯🙏💪
I needed this today! I am having a bad day thinking about him and things he has done. It’s keeping me miserable. Going on 7 months apart. I don’t want to think about or feel bad about that part of my life anymore. Ten years down the drain. I just want to feel joy again
Continue to become educated and empowered Diana.. you are doing great 💯🙏🙌
First of all, Andrew, I know your mom is so proud of you. Losing a parent at such a young age would be so difficult, I'm sorry that happened. I know she's proud of her son and all you do.
This is one of your best videos, IMHO.
I read once (forgot where) but they said to help you find the core of your wounds, ask yourself *what hurts you the most when you don't get it?* (Something to that effect anyway) When I did that, I could see my area of lack, or need. And I could see several different times in my life, including when I was with my narcissist ex, why I did what I did...or, what I was really looking for and why, but didn't realize it at the time. So that is something I'm trying to work on and heal within me. Therapists arent in my budget right now, so I read lots of books, and listen to lots of TH-cam videos, and I'm getting it worked out, but it does take time. But I just wanted to share that question above, because it helped me to pinpoint a deep need of mine since very young childhood days, and if that can help others, then that's great.
This is a great video to save in the topic of healing to watch over again later. Everyone have a good evening!
Thank you Overcomer.. I appreciate your honesty and beautiful insight.. this was my favorite video also..❤️💯🙌💯
Thank you so much for your comment...
Thank you Andrew for you knowledge. Love "Get off the hook". I
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Thank you for your videos! They have helped validate a lot of my feelings. One big one was being so mad at myself for being in another abusive relationship. I thought I was healed 😪 from the fact that I once again was in a horrible place in my life. I kept telling myself that it had to be me because I knew about abusive patterns but the covert narcissist is so sneaky and underhanded that the whole 27 year relationship was confusing 😕 almost from day one. Andrew I appreciate 🙏 being reminded that these horrible people look for light in their darkness then try to destroy it.I am on my path and will overcome these challenges with the help of God and videos like yours to teach me the way to walk toward healing.
Welcome always Debbie ☀️🙌🙏
I will not stop listening to you .
Absolutely the case. We all make mistakes and we all deserve a break and we are all worthy, enough and lovable. God bless you.
Andrew you are a precious lovely soul. We love you 😍
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Thank you...working all these edges...the light is coming through...allowing the healing....making time and committing to myself....grateful for the opportunity..grateful for the wisdom Andrew...Namaste
I have been 2years in January no contact, once I found utube I watched 6 videos a day every day. I have learned so much, my life is so much better thanks to people like you. I have come along way, but have a ways to go yet, because I was with him 28 years, and believe me they do slot of damage., But I work at it every day and will the rest of my life. Now I watch 2to4 videos a day. It works if you want to get well. Please keep up the good work. God bless you.❤️
Thank you Mary..🙏💯💪🙌
I am so very grateful for YOU!! 💜
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Thank You so much Andrew for doing this video for me. I do understand that it’s gonna take time. My Relationship was almost 4 years. I’m watching all your videos, educating myself, cuz I don’t wanna go through this again.
Welcome Tracy.. always 💯🙌🙏💯🙌
B4 the accident I was making 130k per year and now here I am. I’m smart, I’ll figure it out after all this 100%! I know myself well enough to do just that. They destroy a lot. If you know your with one and are still with them, RUN!!!!!!! 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ and don’t LOOK BACK!
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Powerful video straight from heart!
Thank u for helping broken people to shine again!
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I hope you have a real sense of how much you are helping this community to heal. It is a noble task. Deep appreciation here for the beautiful message in this video.
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Virtual hug back Andrew🤗 and thank you for this poignant message 🕉🙏🏻☮
Welcome K Max..💯🙌🙏😊💯
I've been no contact with my parents for 7 years and narcissistic people I worked with for 4 years. The inner strength change is very different because when I speak to people I don't get the same anxiety reaction that I would have years ago. It's sort of a reaction I would get due to feeling that I may get attacked or I'm saying the wrong thing and need to apologize. I had to tell myself I don't have to apologize for everything I say to people. That's the type of trauma I had to heal from and it did take many years of being no contact. I'm thankful to feel more comfortable around strangers and to realize not everyone is going to club me over the head for talking.
Thank you so much Andrew. I was you and am still not there yet. This video was one of the best rhat you have done yet. You are one of God's many Angels sent to heal others. Don't stop doing this. It is one of your gifts that you have been Blessed with and you are Bleassing me and those listening withthat gift. 😇💞
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