It'd mean recognizing I'm already fulfilling it by simply living my life. That we all have a million purposes that boil down to one; we are here to learn and grow.
I’ve been also thinking that finding “my purpose”, “ideal job”, “soulmate spouse”, “ideal workout routine” will heal me. But after watching this video I’m thinking, it’s true that we don’t know what our future purpose is and how our lives will unfold (or supposed to unfold) - we simply don’t possess that perspective. But living in the present and being at peace and being content with what we have is definitely part of that purpose. At the end of the day, the external things won’t fulfil us anyway.
I have never thought about what absolute support and care for myself would look like. What could my days be without pressure to live up to my potential and find my purpose? 😵💫 I make pretty, soft things. I love to give and receive hugs. Cozy is not a fad for me, but a way of life. Can Cozy be my destiny? Cozy with dogs and a side of chocolate mousse.
Cozy is one of the best things in life, especially with chronic illness. A lot of my life is spent cuddling with my pet rabbit while 'stuck' in bed. But the more I accept my life as it is the happier I am becoming.
I’m back here because I’m extremely anxious tonight, and I thought, “where can I see a calming model of how to self love? Oh yes, Cassie Winter’s NY video”. Thank you for this precious resource x
Oh my goodness the relief I got from this video!!! I have always felt so weighted down by believing I’m not living in purpose. This has helped me so much. Thank you ❤
Wow, I’ve literally been thinking all week “what do I want to do with my one wild and precious life?” I don’t believe I have a purpose. I came to that conclusion years and years ago after agony of trying to find it. But it sure is hard to carve out a life of meaning without purpose.
Imo every tiny impact you have on the world around you is your purpose, from the people we love to the oxygen and carbon dioxide we convert and the absolute universe of life within all of us we call our microbiome. Imagine them all as Whos in Whoville, living and loving and all that we do. So much life that only exists because you do 💖
In therapy recently, I was talking about how difficult it feels to "find a purpose" or "find your why." That kind of messaging just doesn't resonate with me. I don't believe in a higher power like God. I can't remember what my therapist said, but it's such a relief to hear that I don't need to do that. I'm reminded of something I slapped on my bedroom whiteboard months ago stating my purpose in life: To live joyfully and peacefully for myself. It felt too vague, but I can find concrete actions that honour it. I live more peacefully by being kind to myself. I live joyfully by doing things I like.
TLDR: you are changing the world simply by existing 💖 I've been really working on the whole purpose thing lately and for me I've found it helps to think about how I'd talk to my kids or other children in my life and apply it to myself. Doing that I've come to the conclusion that we're all changing the world simply by being here. My gods tell me that the purpose of all human life is to learn and grow. That's the purpose of the universe They created: curiosity, and once we've learned or taught everything we planned for this life we cross to the summerland to rest and plan our next curriculum.
This is so relatable. Even though I looked great in my 20's, my mental health was terrible. Now I'm 38 and while I don't like that I have put on weight, I'm also happier than ever. And I finally don't hate myself. Sometimes those feelings come up but it's from childhood trauma and it's getting better. Also realising that I have autism! Oh my gosh my whole life makes sense and all the crap I went through because of it wasn't my fault.
I like your genuineness but I disagree with one of your points to an extent. While it will lower your stress drastically to let go of thinking that healing is within your control, and therefore cause you to actually heal better ironically, if you are able to, when emotionally stable, try different things to help heal your mind/body, if possible with support from others. You can do processes to detach from the hopes of ever achieving this goal, but in reality, trying different things and learning from them are what are going to get you out of this if that will ever happen. At the end of the day, the truth is that healing your body will bring you a better life than living with illness. Doesn't mean that you'll ever heal and it is important to accept that reality but it needs to be said.
I disagree here. Her point was exactly to stop putting the constant pressure of hope of what could be, in place of real in-moment reality. Because it's one thing to be in a mode of self-improvement versus calling it something that needs 'healing', and associating shame when you're not or can't be 'healed'.
I think, based on all her other videos I've watched, the only difference between what she's teaching and what you've said here is in the terminology. Swap "heal" for "function" and it's the same idea; learning how best to care for ourselves allows us to be and do more of what brings us joy or reduces sorrow. Whether it's trying the 3 gas tanks method or some new form of treatment or therapy the end result of a change in our lives is the same.
@@aprildawnsunshine4326 I hope that's the case but I'm making the comment because it wasn't that clear to me - I've watched her other videos too.. I think the best way I can think of to describe it is, the shame and feelings of being a failure come when you're desperately trying to *run* towards the destination of healing thinking you're not good enough in the moment (and I get that point she's trying to make, it's completely true). That's stressful AF and damaging. So when you've been running for a long time, it's exhausting and it feels _great_ to sit down and accept it's 100% out of your control. But once you've gotten your rest, if you're interested in a chance at healing (though not guaranteed), it's important to get up and start walking around at your own pace to find it, because it's not actually fully 100% out of your control. If you look at the people who have successfully healed, all of them are extraordinarily stubborn in their belief that they will get better. I think this attitude is a necessity if you are to have the chance of significant recovery. I'm a recovered spoonie myself and couldn't have done it if I didn't get up when I could and walk to eventually find my destination. A lot of other recovered spoonies say the same thing too.
Yes but maybe the purpose is not necessarely healing but being profundly happy. What's more, it's clear from your writings that invisible disabilities are unfairly addressed. Would you tell a person with paraplegia that he or she can be cured, and that he or she should look for a cure? This reflects what many people think of invisible disabilities, which are not treated in the same way as visible disabilities, even though they are the same thing! I think that starthealing is more possible when you feel at peace. And those people who have healed by changing radically their alimentation or by practicing this kind of pschological method often does not seem happier (even as happy) than those who start from where they are and not from somewhere else (and it does not mean that you do not have goals and desires and dreams when you start from where you are). For me it is also important not to see yourself just as a disabled person but also as a person who deserve Happiness and Life. But it can be achieved only if you face your reality at the moment. Also when you say that it is possible to change without feeling shame it is maybe because you don't have the same difficulties as other disabled person. In fact if every action is hard, that you have so much disabilities, that just waking up is difficult, or talking, walking, hearing, thinking, etc the shame is real !. Why am I alive if I am not able just to do the most simple thing in this world ? So yes you feel so bad that you put so much pressure on yourself to heal. But in fact it destroys you more because it requires capacities that you don't have at the moment or at all ! You understand then that you first deserve to be safe, loved, supported where you are.
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What would it mean if you didn't have to find your purpose?
It'd mean recognizing I'm already fulfilling it by simply living my life. That we all have a million purposes that boil down to one; we are here to learn and grow.
That I can just relax and do what makes me and my kids healthy and happy.
I’ve been also thinking that finding “my purpose”, “ideal job”, “soulmate spouse”, “ideal workout routine” will heal me. But after watching this video I’m thinking, it’s true that we don’t know what our future purpose is and how our lives will unfold (or supposed to unfold) - we simply don’t possess that perspective. But living in the present and being at peace and being content with what we have is definitely part of that purpose. At the end of the day, the external things won’t fulfil us anyway.
I have never thought about what absolute support and care for myself would look like. What could my days be without pressure to live up to my potential and find my purpose? 😵💫 I make pretty, soft things. I love to give and receive hugs. Cozy is not a fad for me, but a way of life. Can Cozy be my destiny? Cozy with dogs and a side of chocolate mousse.
Yes! Cozy can be your destiny! 💖
Cozy is one of the best things in life, especially with chronic illness. A lot of my life is spent cuddling with my pet rabbit while 'stuck' in bed. But the more I accept my life as it is the happier I am becoming.
I’m back here because I’m extremely anxious tonight, and I thought, “where can I see a calming model of how to self love? Oh yes, Cassie Winter’s NY video”. Thank you for this precious resource x
That made my day, thank you 😍
Oh wow. Wow. Ouch. Ouch, ouch. You're speaking directly to me in this one 👀😰💙
My most favourite video yet! 💛
Thank you so much Ritika! 🤩
Oh my goodness the relief I got from this video!!! I have always felt so weighted down by believing I’m not living in purpose. This has helped me so much. Thank you ❤
Wow, I’ve literally been thinking all week “what do I want to do with my one wild and precious life?” I don’t believe I have a purpose. I came to that conclusion years and years ago after agony of trying to find it. But it sure is hard to carve out a life of meaning without purpose.
Imo every tiny impact you have on the world around you is your purpose, from the people we love to the oxygen and carbon dioxide we convert and the absolute universe of life within all of us we call our microbiome. Imagine them all as Whos in Whoville, living and loving and all that we do. So much life that only exists because you do 💖
In therapy recently, I was talking about how difficult it feels to "find a purpose" or "find your why." That kind of messaging just doesn't resonate with me. I don't believe in a higher power like God. I can't remember what my therapist said, but it's such a relief to hear that I don't need to do that. I'm reminded of something I slapped on my bedroom whiteboard months ago stating my purpose in life: To live joyfully and peacefully for myself. It felt too vague, but I can find concrete actions that honour it. I live more peacefully by being kind to myself. I live joyfully by doing things I like.
TLDR: you are changing the world simply by existing 💖
I've been really working on the whole purpose thing lately and for me I've found it helps to think about how I'd talk to my kids or other children in my life and apply it to myself. Doing that I've come to the conclusion that we're all changing the world simply by being here. My gods tell me that the purpose of all human life is to learn and grow. That's the purpose of the universe They created: curiosity, and once we've learned or taught everything we planned for this life we cross to the summerland to rest and plan our next curriculum.
This is so relatable. Even though I looked great in my 20's, my mental health was terrible. Now I'm 38 and while I don't like that I have put on weight, I'm also happier than ever. And I finally don't hate myself. Sometimes those feelings come up but it's from childhood trauma and it's getting better. Also realising that I have autism! Oh my gosh my whole life makes sense and all the crap I went through because of it wasn't my fault.
i love this video series, thank you for making it ♥ gonna re-watch this video for all the good reminders
You have a natural, Victorian beauty.
I like your genuineness but I disagree with one of your points to an extent. While it will lower your stress drastically to let go of thinking that healing is within your control, and therefore cause you to actually heal better ironically, if you are able to, when emotionally stable, try different things to help heal your mind/body, if possible with support from others. You can do processes to detach from the hopes of ever achieving this goal, but in reality, trying different things and learning from them are what are going to get you out of this if that will ever happen. At the end of the day, the truth is that healing your body will bring you a better life than living with illness. Doesn't mean that you'll ever heal and it is important to accept that reality but it needs to be said.
I disagree here. Her point was exactly to stop putting the constant pressure of hope of what could be, in place of real in-moment reality. Because it's one thing to be in a mode of self-improvement versus calling it something that needs 'healing', and associating shame when you're not or can't be 'healed'.
@@MichelleRandall It's possible to try to get better without feeling the shame that you're a failure! All the best.
I think, based on all her other videos I've watched, the only difference between what she's teaching and what you've said here is in the terminology. Swap "heal" for "function" and it's the same idea; learning how best to care for ourselves allows us to be and do more of what brings us joy or reduces sorrow. Whether it's trying the 3 gas tanks method or some new form of treatment or therapy the end result of a change in our lives is the same.
@@aprildawnsunshine4326 I hope that's the case but I'm making the comment because it wasn't that clear to me - I've watched her other videos too.. I think the best way I can think of to describe it is, the shame and feelings of being a failure come when you're desperately trying to *run* towards the destination of healing thinking you're not good enough in the moment (and I get that point she's trying to make, it's completely true). That's stressful AF and damaging. So when you've been running for a long time, it's exhausting and it feels _great_ to sit down and accept it's 100% out of your control. But once you've gotten your rest, if you're interested in a chance at healing (though not guaranteed), it's important to get up and start walking around at your own pace to find it, because it's not actually fully 100% out of your control. If you look at the people who have successfully healed, all of them are extraordinarily stubborn in their belief that they will get better. I think this attitude is a necessity if you are to have the chance of significant recovery. I'm a recovered spoonie myself and couldn't have done it if I didn't get up when I could and walk to eventually find my destination. A lot of other recovered spoonies say the same thing too.
Yes but maybe the purpose is not necessarely healing but being profundly happy.
What's more, it's clear from your writings that invisible disabilities are unfairly addressed. Would you tell a person with paraplegia that he or she can be cured, and that he or she should look for a cure? This reflects what many people think of invisible disabilities, which are not treated in the same way as visible disabilities, even though they are the same thing!
I think that starthealing is more possible when you feel at peace. And those people who have healed by changing radically their alimentation or by practicing this kind of pschological method often does not seem happier (even as happy) than those who start from where they are and not from somewhere else (and it does not mean that you do not have goals and desires and dreams when you start from where you are).
For me it is also important not to see yourself just as a disabled person but also as a person who deserve Happiness and Life. But it can be achieved only if you face your reality at the moment.
Also when you say that it is possible to change without feeling shame it is maybe because you don't have the same difficulties as other disabled person. In fact if every action is hard, that you have so much disabilities, that just waking up is difficult, or talking, walking, hearing, thinking, etc the shame is real !. Why am I alive if I am not able just to do the most simple thing in this world ? So yes you feel so bad that you put so much pressure on yourself to heal. But in fact it destroys you more because it requires capacities that you don't have at the moment or at all ! You understand then that you first deserve to be safe, loved, supported where you are.