How to Live with Gifted Intensity | Intellectual Emotional Social and Sensory
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ส.ค. 2024
- A gifted mind is actually a mind that is intensely perceptive. The reason we can learn so quickly and make those leaps of logic that surprise everyone else is because our brains are wired to interact with the world more deeply. This means we perceive more of the information coming at us from all sides, which can be good in some ways, but overwhelming in others. Today let’s talk about how we can live with our intense perception and personalities and still be happy.
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00:00 - Intro
01:25 - Why is the gifted brain so intense?
03:02 - Why is it hard to live with intensity?
03:26 - Types of intensity
04:00 - Why is intensity viewed as negative?
04:26 - Why do we try to hide our intensity?
05:46 - Sensory sensitivity
07:26 - Social intensity
09:16 - Emotional intensity
13:52 - Intellectual intensity
16:01 - Celebrating giftedness
#giftedness #intensity #understandingyourself
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What if you've been holding in all your intense feelings and thoughts, to the point where your friends and family have no idea what's going on in your head? How can you start to be your authentic self without scaring them?
✅ Start slowly: Not only will it help your friends process the New You that you're showing them, it will also help prevent your own "oversharing hangover," that uncomfortable feeling in your gut that comes after you've been unusually vulnerable, then worry that you've said too much.
✅ Identify common ground: Share the intense thoughts and feelings that are most likely to resonate with your friends & family first. For example, you're more likely to get a positive response when you share your thoughts on organic gardening than if you share your thoughts on politics. (Not to say that you shouldn't share those thoughts too, but don't start with such a fraught subject).
✅ Establish boundaries: Some people in your orbit may be unsure how to react to your intense thoughts and feelings, and may try to "talk you down" to a level that they're comfortable with. Now is when you'll need to say things like, "It's important for me to express myself authentically. This is my perspective and this is how I process things. Can you help me understand what bothers you about that?"
✅ Remember why you're opening up: If you start to feel some push-back, remember that the reason you're sharing your intense thoughts and feelings is because it's good for you. Sharing your authentic thoughts:
👉 Is a stress-relief valve
👉 Allows deeper connectivity in your relationships
👉 Builds trust because you're opening up and showing vulnerability
👉 Helps you process difficult thoughts and feelings
👉 Allows you to grow personally
When I watch a documentary on say the war, I don’t just focus on the event and isolate it to within that time, I see the bigger picture of the psychological troubles of humanity and the hopelessness of the situation. It’s never just a piece of history to me, it’s a deep pervading disturbance and understanding of what’s essentially wrong in the collective psyche of humanity. It’s never simple for me. My intense passion is often dampened by a pervasive sense of hopelessness.
Thank you for making this video! I very much struggle with sensory sensitivities. My theory had been that my brain pulls in everything and doesn’t bother to filter things out. That it is a good thing when I want to learn something, but a problem in a large crowd. I’ve been more open with telling people why I can’t handle large crowds and explaining “No, it’s not anxiety, but my brain just can’t process all of the input from multiple conversations at once.” This has been helpful. I’ve also given myself permission to not go to large gatherings, but to socialize in small groups or one on one. I can have genuine socialization in those environments, in a large crowd I only pretend to socialize (or if it’s especially loud I just sit there) and feel foggy for up to 2 weeks afterwards. You have very good information about giftedness, thanks for sharing.
I have never felt more heard or seen
I was expecting her to have so many more subscribers.... The fact that she makes all these videos for a large group of people if we were all in one room, but very small across the whole internet, makes me so happy I'm 14 and for about a month i've been on a journey of ''turning my brain back on'. when i was about 11 i 'shut my brain off" to fit in and not annoy my family. looking back i think i did the same thing around 3-4 years old. Finding this channel has made me so happy, i just saw a diagram with ADHD Autism and it also had giftedness which i thought was weird. but i read it and i had every single thing associated with giftedness. I've been doing tons of research and the fact that other people have the same experiences i do is so refreshing.
also i made a friend a year ago, she doesn't understand any of this, but when i rant about some deep thought i have (no matter how boring) she doesn't call me annoying. i don't know where I would be if i didn't have her because she made me feel comfortable to be myself again..
Her video quality is so good, and she has a pleasant demeaner. Looks like she has been making videos for a few months. I can't imagine how hard it is to start a new channel. You have to put yourself out there and produce quality product for many months. I'm glad she has spoken to a few of us. I subscribed and hope she gets many more.
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You mentioned being intense with our talking or emotions, but I’d be interested to hear you speak about those who actually just hold back their intensity and don’t reveal it? I just behave ‘normally’ outside my house, so none of my friends or family would have a clue that I’m intellectually and emotionally intense! I save it all for behind the walls of my home. Is there ever a way out of this? How can one start being more authentic amongst non-intense people?
That's a good question -- one that deserves a more thoughtful answer than I can give in a comment. Let me spend some time on this and I'll either write a long post or make another video. Stay tuned!
Ok, I've outlined my thoughts in a social media post that's scheduled to go up on Thursday morning (3/19/24) at 7am EST :) Let me know if it's helpful! instagram.com/thrivemind_gifted_coaching/
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching oh thank you! But I can’t get to it to see it. I’m sure it’s brilliant 🤩
@@rubyglasspool2155 What if you've been holding in all your intense feelings and thoughts, to the point where your friends and family have no idea what's going on in your head? How can you start to be your authentic self without scaring them?
✅ Start slowly: Not only will it help your friends process the New You that you're showing them, it will also help prevent your own "oversharing hangover," that uncomfortable feeling in your gut that comes after you've been unusually vulnerable, then worry that you've said too much.
✅ Identify common ground: Share the intense thoughts and feelings that are most likely to resonate with your friends & family first. For example, you're more likely to get a positive response when you share your thoughts on organic gardening than if you share your thoughts on politics. (Not to say that you shouldn't share those thoughts too, but don't start with such a fraught subject).
✅ Establish boundaries: Some people in your orbit may be unsure how to react to your intense thoughts and feelings, and may try to "talk you down" to a level that they're comfortable with. Now is when you'll need to say things like, "It's important for me to express myself authentically. This is my perspective and this is how I process things. Can you help me understand what bothers you about that?"
✅ Remember why you're opening up: If you start to feel some push-back, remember that the reason you're sharing your intense thoughts and feelings is because it's good for you. Sharing your authentic thoughts:
👉 Is a stress-relief valve
👉 Allows deeper connectivity in your relationships
👉 Builds trust because you're opening up and showing vulnerability
👉 Helps you process difficult thoughts and feelings
👉 Allows you to grow personally
This is wonderful! You have come with some very real and tangible steps that I could see working. Thank you. 🤩
Such great explanations and suggestions! Love your videos.
Thanks!
My iq is just below 150. I am extremely intelligent and even more gifted in other things. I would be considered beyond exceptional in a lot of aspects in life. A highly trained classical violinist, 3 degrees (all the way baby), ‘almost’ national level athlete.
And you know what. I don’t give a shit about any of it.
I have a great career in a highly respected profession. An amazingly beautiful and talented wife. And not for one second do I consider myself nor care about how smart or gifted I am.
Give me a comfy chair and a big tv. And I’m happy.