I could be insecure and I could feel less then sometimes not pretty and mentally insecure but I would NEVER put down other girls I actually left them up ..u can dislike a girl but never call her ugly 🤷🏽♀️
Nyrina Cannon YES u do we all have reasons to stay and you do matter ,it’s okay to get into your head and overthink but never let it get to you and feel like you have no point to be on earth I feel you I feel like that sometimes but I always try my best to not let it get to me for Me cuz I’m still young I still have a future to live and if u feel like giving up go talk to someone even if they don’t understand just so u can have someone to lean on u can talk to me I will give you my. Twitter acc if u want 2 💕💕💕💕YOU DO MATTER.
Arcane Raven stop helping the wrong people don’t give them your Energy and Believe in good karma 💕everything good u did is gonna return to you and much more 💕
Arcane Raven facts sis I remember u the one wit the business I just hope this quarantine is over so u can actually start it remember from love your natural video about how to boss up.
1. you bring other people down 2. you compare yourself with other women 3. you act diffrent around men, and bring your friends down around them 4. when you see other people doing well, you feel sad 5. you try to impress other people, show all your stuff (car, bag etc.) 6. you feel that you are better than somebody (because you have something masterialistic, like a walk-in closet) 7. you're scared to show your own opion, always agree with other people 8. if you're projecting your own security, for example: when you don't think you're beautiful, you're calling other people ugly for no reason 9. You let people treat you like trash 10. You feel insecure, you feel low
Sounds like Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) 👀 something I used to go through being underweight, I’m just lucky I came off any social media that triggered my disorder and did something about it to benefit me and the people around me that I used to push away.
I use humour to get over what I'm insecure about. If I can laugh about it, even if it's something I wanna fix, then no one else can make me feel bad for it. Also, I had to train myself to get out of the "I'm not good enough" mindset. Because what is "enough"? You might be comparing yourself to someone who has what you want/doing what you want, but they are doing the same with someone else. So what is the standard? Finally, I saw this quote a long time ago and it always stuck with me. "Just because you think someone is attractive doesn't mean you aren't. Flowers are pretty, but so are Christmas lights and they look nothing alike."
I love how you mention that being toxic or being insecure isn’t your whole personality and it’s not what your final person is suppose to be. You’re suppose to grow out of it
So freaking true! Reminds me of an ex friend of mine! Everytime i was saying something nice about other girls she was like " naaah they're ugly." Turn out that she was jealous of me as well. She was always criticizing me and never complimented me when i wore a nice outfit when all my other friends did. Also she tried to turn eveyone against me. Insecure bitch spotted
Fr i dont under stand y people are assholes because they wont love themselves. And im the type of person who is like if you need somebody to boost up your confidence i will lift u up but when u start taking advantage of the situation ill walk away.
Recently iv been having a really hard time with feeling insecure and that I’m not enough. Body dysmorphia is really putting me down and making me feel less than other but I’m not a hater I never put other people down. Love your videos I feel like your so relatable and such a nice understanding person. Love you g xxx
She has literally healed my relationship between my man and me. I always thought he was the problem, but the inner me knew it wasn’t him. The way I felt was because of me.
"These are not for ever feelings, I promise you, I've been there. Look at me now" is the same thing as a strong hug that makes u more secure and also makes u laugh for a moment bcz u just feel better
Ooof...I can honestly say I have done a few of these things. It makes me cringe to think I ever made a girl feel low because of my own insecurities. Yikes 😳 But the only way to grow is to face those ugly parts of yourself. Self-awareness ❤️ Thank you for this video!
literally look forward to your vids! you’ve helped me gain perspective on a lot of things & helped me start to empower myself again! appreciate you girl 🥺❤️
this is so personal to me. i'm very insecure to the point where i don't even know where i'd start with improving and that just demotivates me and has taken me to a place of depression. i didn't know it was my insecurities that were depressing me but this all made it so real. i love you Taty.❤️
I have a mental health issue that causes me to be insecure and see myself differently but I would never bring anyone down because everyone should feel beautiful even if I can’t.
I felt really insecure because the dude im “dating “ has a girl bsf and her personality seem more lit than mine she more social and talkative and confident im just the opposite
It’s better to acknowledge than deny. Acknowledgement allows to know yourself and grow and learn to be comfortable with yourself and you are the reason I can do that and I seriously love you for that ❤️❤️
I always check myself when I am being insecure and I start projecting that feeling towards someone else. I am glad I never say it to anyone out loud but I dislike having this feeling. I am usually the most supportive one but sometimes I get insecure but I know that only means I need to continue working on myself! We don't need validation from anyone and we all can shine ❤
Girl, you really just opened my eyes rn. I was thinking about (if I were to ever get into a relationship😔) if my bf cheated on me once I’d take him back. But now I’m like..., “F- that! Taty’ a right, like always!” That was a great realization. Thank you. And my birthday is two days after yours! (26) I’m gonna be 16! ♊️ gang🥰 love you💓 (comment from last video btw)
After watching this video, I don’t think I am insecure. I love myself how I am, and I love uplifting other people. But also after this video I realized my haters are insecure because they would always give me a stank face when they see me, say they are better than me, or even change there personality around men/other people. Thank you for making this video 💞
I just want to add that’s it’s okay to have insecure moments, it happens to everyone. As long as you don’t cope with those moments in a toxic way, you’re feelings are valid sis🖤
I know that I'm often very insecure, but I try my best to support and make other women feel good about themselves, but I also kind of learned that building and supporting other women is important. Being a rude person won't help you build confidence, and self love is a lifelong journey.
My confidence has gone up so much since I started watching Taty. I've never gotten the advice I needed from someone so much before! She is literally my therapist and I love her so much! for anyone seeing this, believe in yourself and your worth, because if you put your mindset to it, you are worthy of anything!
I’ve always known that I’m an insecure person and I’ve noticed some toxic traits coming from that, although I was still curious to see if I had any more. I was shocked to see that I could relate with a lot of the traits you just said. Luckily I don’t feel the need to bring others down and most of the traits are mostly just toxic towards myself. Do you have a video/or can you make a video explaining how to change your mindset so a person can change these traits towards more healthier ones and potentially become less insecure?
I don't understand how people can feel pain and then decide to vomit it up on others. I was hella insecure last year and I hated everything about myself but never on others. It was tough, it still is sometimes but as long as you can see it and feel it you can fix it. Also I love your videos, they help in so many ways!
i feel like you know you are overcoming those insecurities when you know you have a negative thought and you don’t let that control you and make a bad comment or something like that. YOU HAVE THE CONTROL!
I love reading these comments and seeing how everyone has gained confidence and begun their self love journey when they started watching Taty 🥺 YALL ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND INSPIRING
There she goes omg giving it to me straight up to my face .... I am so insecure(but it's way deeper than insecurity for me) to the point tht I sometimes question why I'm still on this planet? But I love your vlogs ,they always manage to pull me out this back hole I randomly find myself in.. So thank you Taty...and you always post at the right time too like when I need to hear it the most.. wow....
This video was everything and very very true... We should always uplift one another.... but also work on ourselves so that we don’t let insecurities drive us to do things we would t normally do or say.
Damn.... you really speaking truth right now. I admit I’m definitely insecure at times. I always have to stop myself from seeking validation. I have other insecurities but I’m human we’re all human. I’m just glad I’m not projecting my insecurities on to other people.
i kno my worth and i think im beautiful idk but i always make ppl happy , id rather see them smile then me because you never kno what they going thru and i love making people’s day and who ever is reading this your beautiful,
Honestly you’ve helped me so much with literally everything about knowing myself. When I watch your videos, I don’t understand as much till later on and that recently happened to me. From your videos, I’m able to help my friends and everyone else around me. I want to thank you for making me stronger emotionally and physically. Thank you Taty💓
I could be insecure and I could feel less then sometimes not pretty and mentally insecure but I would NEVER put down other girls I actually left them up ..u can dislike a girl but never call her ugly 🤷🏽♀️
Same sis & it's ok to feel like that sometimes but not all the times. Everyone's beautiful but you have to see that for yourself.
Same. But i always help others and lift others but nobody helps me and im really depressed and have no point to be on earth.
Nyrina Cannon YES u do we all have reasons to stay and you do matter ,it’s okay to get into your head and overthink but never let it get to you and feel like you have no point to be on earth I feel you I feel like that sometimes but I always try my best to not let it get to me for Me cuz I’m still young I still have a future to live and if u feel like giving up go talk to someone even if they don’t understand just so u can have someone to lean on u can talk to me I will give you my. Twitter acc if u want 2 💕💕💕💕YOU DO MATTER.
Arcane Raven stop helping the wrong people don’t give them your Energy and Believe in good karma 💕everything good u did is gonna return to you and much more 💕
Arcane Raven facts sis I remember u the one wit the business I just hope this quarantine is over so u can actually start it remember from love your natural video about how to boss up.
She is literally my therapist 😂
Same
frfr
arls garibay sameee😂😂😂
I was literally thinking the same thing she says things so perfectly!
Factssss
okayyy, now we need a video of "how to not be insecure" 🥺 🥺
I've done it babe!
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here it is
Girl you I’m sure you are so beautiful and you don’t need that vid 💪❤️
Self-awareness is key to life 🔐
100%, without it we are truly LOST
*LOVE & LIGHT TO EVERYONE READING THIS* 🦋🦋🦋
i love this
Same to you 🙂
you too sis 🥰
Same for you !
You too love 💕 thanks for this
doctor: “you have 12 minutes and 21 seconds left to live”
me:
LMAOO I LOVE U
1. you bring other people down
2. you compare yourself with other women
3. you act diffrent around men, and bring your friends down around them
4. when you see other people doing well, you feel sad
5. you try to impress other people, show all your stuff (car, bag etc.)
6. you feel that you are better than somebody (because you have something masterialistic, like a walk-in closet)
7. you're scared to show your own opion, always agree with other people
8. if you're projecting your own security, for example: when you don't think you're beautiful, you're calling other people ugly for no reason
9. You let people treat you like trash
10. You feel insecure, you feel low
Tiffany Malloyd true
Aka popular girls at my school
tysm for this it’s nice watching the vid while reading this
Sounds like Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) 👀 something I used to go through being underweight, I’m just lucky I came off any social media that triggered my disorder and did something about it to benefit me and the people around me that I used to push away.
Yessir
I LOVE YOU, you’re like the older sister I’ve always wanted🥺❤️
Same💕
I am the oldest sister and it’s hard lmao when all your sisters come to you and you can’t even go to someone besides my brother but no thanks know
Lol
I LOVE YOU MORE
You could say that again
You're gonna be an amazing mom to your kids one day🥺
aw thank you so much 💕
I use humour to get over what I'm insecure about. If I can laugh about it, even if it's something I wanna fix, then no one else can make me feel bad for it.
Also, I had to train myself to get out of the "I'm not good enough" mindset. Because what is "enough"? You might be comparing yourself to someone who has what you want/doing what you want, but they are doing the same with someone else. So what is the standard?
Finally, I saw this quote a long time ago and it always stuck with me. "Just because you think someone is attractive doesn't mean you aren't. Flowers are pretty, but so are Christmas lights and they look nothing alike."
YES I LOVE THIS
Taty Cokley you don’t have to yell 🙄 I am joking lmao I love you 💕
I LAUGH @ EVERYTHINGGGGG Lmaoo I Agree
@@fatmaobaidkhalifamohammada5546 What?
Wow, yes 💓
nothing but facts from the pretty, humble, & intelligent queen herself 💅🏾
Exactly
I love how you mention that being toxic or being insecure isn’t your whole personality and it’s not what your final person is suppose to be. You’re suppose to grow out of it
She like the older sister or bestie we all need anyways love ya 😗😗
No one:
My fake friend: *fits all these requirements
So freaking true! Reminds me of an ex friend of mine! Everytime i was saying something nice about other girls she was like " naaah they're ugly." Turn out that she was jealous of me as well. She was always criticizing me and never complimented me when i wore a nice outfit when all my other friends did. Also she tried to turn eveyone against me. Insecure bitch spotted
😂😂😂😂😂😂 oh no u didn't
Sounds like you’re the friend who needs to stop having trash friends✊💪❤️ you’re worth a good friendship, regardless.
This girl in my class. Everyone hates her, I try not to. I feel bad 4 her
Fr i dont under stand y people are assholes because they wont love themselves. And im the type of person who is like if you need somebody to boost up your confidence i will lift u up but when u start taking advantage of the situation ill walk away.
Recently iv been having a really hard time with feeling insecure and that I’m not enough. Body dysmorphia is really putting me down and making me feel less than other but I’m not a hater I never put other people down. Love your videos I feel like your so relatable and such a nice understanding person. Love you g xxx
keep pushing babe you got this 💕
“Didn’t you tell me two nights ago that you peed the bed??” LMAOOOO
EARLY ILY MY CONFIDENCE WENT UP 200% WHEN I SUBSCRIBED
YAYYYY
you‘re like the older sister i‘ve never had🥺❤️
She has literally healed my relationship between my man and me. I always thought he was the problem, but the inner me knew it wasn’t him. The way I felt was because of me.
Taty is literally my therapist, every
problem I have she can solve and I adore her with all my heart🥰
Bro, everytime she say 'you're insecure' my brain automatically says 'don' t know what for' 😭😭
i saw the word insecure and clicked real quick! love you taty!🤍💕🔥
i used to be insecure but i learned to love myself and for these past 3 years i've been happy ✨🐙
I know that’s right you go girl❤️
"These are not for ever feelings, I promise you, I've been there. Look at me now" is the same thing as a strong hug that makes u more secure and also makes u laugh for a moment bcz u just feel better
This called me out. I really needed it though girl thank you💕
acknowledgment is the first step babe ❤️
Ooof...I can honestly say I have done a few of these things. It makes me cringe to think I ever made a girl feel low because of my own insecurities. Yikes 😳 But the only way to grow is to face those ugly parts of yourself. Self-awareness ❤️ Thank you for this video!
I just want to say, I love how much more you've been posting lately. Most definitely helping me with my self love journey!!!
keep going babe I'm proud of you 💕
Not only is she wise, but she’s authentic & beautiful 🥰😤 what more can we ask for? 😋
i have a feeling covering your face when you laugh is gonna be in this.
DEFINITELY SHOULD HAVE BEEN!!!
Why?
The insecurity that I have within myself is not feeling enough academically, but I’ll never bring someone down 😬
I felt emotionally attacked but I’m grateful for this bc I realized I was doing a lot of this and it’s helping me grow as a person .
Girl you made me develop a better mindset that I didn’t know I had 😌
literally look forward to your vids! you’ve helped me gain perspective on a lot of things & helped me start to empower myself again! appreciate you girl 🥺❤️
aw i love that thank you princess 💕
Taty is doing her thang with these girl talks keep up the good work💗✨
I love how she could address different topics that people need to hear, she really is amazing.
queen of calling us out in the best way 🤍 thanks girl
this is so personal to me. i'm very insecure to the point where i don't even know where i'd start with improving and that just demotivates me and has taken me to a place of depression. i didn't know it was my insecurities that were depressing me but this all made it so real. i love you Taty.❤️
Vuyola a lot of us feel that way girl, it’s a long journey of self acceptance but it’s worth it at the end❤️
I have a mental health issue that causes me to be insecure and see myself differently but I would never bring anyone down because everyone should feel beautiful even if I can’t.
I felt really insecure because the dude im “dating “ has a girl bsf and her personality seem more lit than mine she more social and talkative and confident im just the opposite
but remember he's with you!!! if he wanted that he would've been with her
I was on your live earlier !!❤️ Yess I love all this Taty today😂
a true supporter💕💕💕
Another title for this video, "how do detect a fake friend"😩😂.
It’s better to acknowledge than deny. Acknowledgement allows to know yourself and grow and learn to be comfortable with yourself and you are the reason I can do that and I seriously love you for that ❤️❤️
I always check myself when I am being insecure and I start projecting that feeling towards someone else. I am glad I never say it to anyone out loud but I dislike having this feeling. I am usually the most supportive one but sometimes I get insecure but I know that only means I need to continue working on myself! We don't need validation from anyone and we all can shine ❤
self awareness is KEY! very proud of you 💕
Anyone else neeeeed Taty as their permanent older sister ❤️
I just realised I’m a bit insecure and I didn’t even know it 🤦🏼♀️ also nr 7,9 and 10 just hits different 🥺
Taty is the supportive older sister I've never had. You're literally my therapist and you're so pretty. Love you 💗
Im actually proud of myself, never been this quick❤️
OMG, you are the best! Ur like that one friend who treats you better than anyone else
🥰🥰🥰
Girl, you really just opened my eyes rn. I was thinking about (if I were to ever get into a relationship😔) if my bf cheated on me once I’d take him back. But now I’m like..., “F- that! Taty’ a right, like always!” That was a great realization. Thank you. And my birthday is two days after yours! (26) I’m gonna be 16! ♊️ gang🥰 love you💓 (comment from last video btw)
After watching this video, I don’t think I am insecure. I love myself how I am, and I love uplifting other people. But also after this video I realized my haters are insecure because they would always give me a stank face when they see me, say they are better than me, or even change there personality around men/other people. Thank you for making this video 💞
Ily Taty🥰 i clicked on this so fast🥺
I just want to add that’s it’s okay to have insecure moments, it happens to everyone. As long as you don’t cope with those moments in a toxic way, you’re feelings are valid sis🖤
SHE REALLY HELPED ME TO BOOST MY CONFIDENCE, I LOVE HER ! 🖤❤️💖
wow , I’m NOT insecure . Only insecure thing I have is feeling insecure from certain things sometimes 😔 but we’re working on that !
I used to have a friend who would always say to me “you think you are better than me” whenever something happen. Am like what???
glad you got rid of that person
That's disgusting but yk the truth is that she/he thinks that you're better
So you must be popping
I know that I'm often very insecure, but I try my best to support and make other women feel good about themselves, but I also kind of learned that building and supporting other women is important. Being a rude person won't help you build confidence, and self love is a lifelong journey.
Yessss I love watching your GirlTalks during quarantine. it makes me feel like I'm having wholesome convos with my girls, ily Taty thanks!!
she stay speaking straight facts
I feel like another sign of insecurity is that you are always looking for validation from other people.
Ugh 😩 I love love your videos on tik tok and instagram pics , you are a whole new pretty
I already know i am insecure 😂 but ur vids help me alot,👍🏾 thxs Taty ilysm!🥰 Just keep doing what ur doing cause ur amazing ❤
I used to be SOO insecure. But I’ve gotten a lot better. And btw for number 3 I think those “friends” who bring you down in front of guys TRIGGER ME
Needed this video!!!!!!! Especially during my insecure moments
My confidence has gone up so much since I started watching Taty. I've never gotten the advice I needed from someone so much before! She is literally my therapist and I love her so much! for anyone seeing this, believe in yourself and your worth, because if you put your mindset to it, you are worthy of anything!
You make quarantine so calming for me when you post more videos 🥺ILY❤️
Your videos have such a positive impact on my life
I'm in love with u
U so motivating 😄😄
You so motivate me to do what I want without minding what haters say🙃🙃
DO WHATEVER YOU LOVE 💕💕💕
Thanks...
Same too u😍and keep on boosting our courage💪💪
she snapped so hard I was on the other side of the screen screaming "PERIODT"
Omg I didn’t know girls who bring down their friends when they are around guys! I have many of those”friends”
I might be insecure but I respect everyone because everyone is special in there own way! UR BADDIE!
Gurll I’m waiting for u too be famous❤️😂
Y'all Taty always comes through!!
Best virtual big sister😭❤
I love you so much you've given me a lot of advice that changed my life in a positive way ❤️❤️❤️
that makes me so happy :')))
honestly watching her has improved my mental health sooo freaking much like fr. her videos has become like my bsf.
I’ve always known that I’m an insecure person and I’ve noticed some toxic traits coming from that, although I was still curious to see if I had any more. I was shocked to see that I could relate with a lot of the traits you just said. Luckily I don’t feel the need to bring others down and most of the traits are mostly just toxic towards myself. Do you have a video/or can you make a video explaining how to change your mindset so a person can change these traits towards more healthier ones and potentially become less insecure?
I don't understand how people can feel pain and then decide to vomit it up on others. I was hella insecure last year and I hated everything about myself but never on others. It was tough, it still is sometimes but as long as you can see it and feel it you can fix it. Also I love your videos, they help in so many ways!
Can we all just take a moment to say: TATI KNOWS WHATS UP.💎
I mean, HELLO! Yes girl tell that truth. 🤩✌🏻
i feel like you know you are overcoming those insecurities when you know you have a negative thought and you don’t let that control you and make a bad comment or something like that. YOU HAVE THE CONTROL!
Who else says, “Or wHaTEvaa” with her😂
I love reading these comments and seeing how everyone has gained confidence and begun their self love journey when they started watching Taty 🥺
YALL ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND INSPIRING
I’m actually insecure and I wanted to see if I fit your criteria 😂🥺🥺
There she goes omg giving it to me straight up to my face .... I am so insecure(but it's way deeper than insecurity for me) to the point tht I sometimes question why I'm still on this planet?
But I love your vlogs ,they always manage to pull me out this back hole I randomly find myself in..
So thank you Taty...and you always post at the right time too like when I need to hear it the most..
wow....
I was early but had to take a shower
Edit - I’m back bby ! I love you so much Taty your my older sister ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This video was everything and very very true... We should always uplift one another.... but also work on ourselves so that we don’t let insecurities drive us to do things we would t normally do or say.
Sending love from Namibia 🇳🇦🇳🇦
hey queen💕
Damn.... you really speaking truth right now. I admit I’m definitely insecure at times. I always have to stop myself from seeking validation. I have other insecurities but I’m human we’re all human. I’m just glad I’m not projecting my insecurities on to other people.
Omw Taty I love you so much and you're such an inspiration to me🥺
The only videos I actually listen to and not skip 10 seconds ahead every damn time❤
You’ve literally helped me so much I can’t thank you enough ! ❤️❤️
I’m CRYING at the BMW. Maaan, you are describing some people I know to a T. Time to reevaluate my circle
I literally downloaded twitter just to follow you😂.
I LOVE U
i kno my worth and i think im beautiful idk but i always make ppl happy , id rather see them smile then me because you never kno what they going thru and i love making people’s day and who ever is reading this your beautiful,
taty🔥
I’ve been hear 62k! You grew so much and I’m so proud! You deserve it 👑
aw and OG supporter!! thank you babe 💕
me: i’m amazing
youtube: watch this
Just imagine having her as a sister or a mother, ILY GORGEOUS
Yay I’m early love ya💕💕
Honestly you’ve helped me so much with literally everything about knowing myself. When I watch your videos, I don’t understand as much till later on and that recently happened to me. From your videos, I’m able to help my friends and everyone else around me. I want to thank you for making me stronger emotionally and physically. Thank you Taty💓
I was watching your Instagram live , and I was waiting when you said you were about to film!! 💗💗 I love uuu taty
love uuuu 💕
The honesty in this video is amazing