Why can't I stop worrying if my partner is cheating? ROCD I Relationship Anxiety
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I sabotage my relationship bc I’m so afraid of being cheated on . I overthink and assume
These are symptoms of anxiety/OCD/fear. Good news...it can be overcome!
Me too☠️☠️☠️
This is me too :( it’s ruining everything
me too, i have bpd :(
Same. That’s because I was actually cheated on when I was married. No kids thank god
This is such a terribly difficult situation. The intrusive thoughts feel *so* real. It’s such a liar. And the urgency, uh, the urgency! At first, it can be so hard to differentiate whether it’s anxiety or intuition, but I learned that if it’s nagging all day, for hours, and you feel anxious about it, it’s OCD. Intuition is more of a calm, peaceful feeling coming in. OCD also changes themes which is also a blast. I refuse to let it fool me anymore or ruin my relationship. Been working on recovery. Beat my first theme and now this one is the next one to go. Be strong! You can do it. Just learning to accept uncertainty is all we need, but harder said than done.
You are right, but it does get better. So proud of you! If you need a supportive community, consider joining The Path.
Themes?
@@pedrovargas3786 OCD can appear as different themes, and it can be tricky because it can switch themes on you if you're not buying the original theme anymore and you've moved past it. If you don't fully recover, one theme can turn into another depending on changing circumstances in life. Research OCD themes. For example, someone can have contamination OCD. Then, down the road, they get into a relationship, so if the OCD never fully resolved, it may turn into relationship OCD now that that is the most important thing in your life. There are many themes: relationship, harm, perfectionism, contamination, the list goes on etc. Basically anything can turn into OCD if you feed it enough.
Thank you so much for this comment, it really helped me understand these thoughts better
great comment, thanks....never really thought about the changing themes thing....which is exactly what happens to me....plus I am quite easily led to believe its intuition....but looking at all the "gut" feelings...theres literally thousands...so it can't be intuition.
i always talk to her about it and ask for reassurance but sometimes it gets so bad im too afraid to tell her how i really feel, but i constantly can never stop thinking about if she’s losing feelings, cheating, interested in someone else, doing something behind my back, lying to me about anything or everything, etc etc and i create so many scenarios and i constantly check her socials nonstop, i just can’t control it and i wish i didn’t because i just wanna be able to fully trust her and believe none of that is happening it’s so hard to deal with. no matter how many times she reassures me and tells me how much she loves me i can’t stop thinking about the worst happening. what’s even worse is we’re long distance.
Correct, seeking reassurance or any other compulsion will never work. OCD will doubt everything so engaging with it doesn't work! Learning recovery skills will help immensely! www.myocdcoach.com
How did you get like that ?
Holy shot you’re like the male version of myself. Literally going through the same scenario and also long distance
I totally understand what you’re going through, man:/ my partner and I are long distance too and even though I want to fully trust and believe them when they reassure me, it’s so hard
Everything you posted is me to the "Tee". I am also in a long-distance relationship. I tried multiple times to just let her go and the relationship because of the anxiety it causes me but she wants to fight for the relationship and us. I do too but the anxiety of it all can be debilitating. Also, because I know some of her past behaviors while dating and this being her first real relationship contributes to my thoughts and anxiety. She's "solo" traveling right now and I've been all on her socials and I don't care for social media like that, just to see who she's adding as friends, following back, and pictures, etc.🤦🏾♀️ I feel too old to be going through feelings like this. She is younger than I am.
I finally found a faithful, loyal man who has done nothing wrong to me, but because of past betrayals combined with abandonment issues from childhood, I'm continually worried about losing him....whether it be him losing interest in me, gaining interest in someone else, or just me being paranoid....
I need help with this. I DON'T want to lose him, but I know eventually, even though he is so patient and compassionate, I'll end up pushing away the love of my life...I have to get a handle on it. It's so bad that I even have nightmares about it that make me jerk awake, usually already in tears and tremors. I usually end up waking him up too and tell him it's my boogeyman again (the fear of losing him) and he always holds me til I go back to sleep...
OCD is fear-based and we have to learn how to deal with fear and uncertainty to get better. It works! I'm happy to help! I've been through the journey so I get it! www.myocdcoach.com
I'm in the same situation. My partner is very loving and patient with me. He is not perfect but he tries his best. He knows I have anxiety and he tries to be there for me every time. However, when I couldn't hear from him during the day, I get so impatient and very worried that he might be neglecting me, cheating on me, or just forgetting about me. I feel so terrible.
This made me cry. Finally, someone who understands. She hit the nail on the head. That is my life, completely. Every damned day. At least I know now I’m not alone. I knew this wasn’t normal, how I’m feeling.
You’re not alone and recovery is possible!!
@@MyOCDCoach Showed this to my wife too. She wants me to get in touch. I will do soon. Thanks
Me too
All this is true. Hearing it from someone else greatly reduces my anxiety.
Glad it's helpful!
This video very comforting. Here I am, having spent hours compulsing and now I’m sitting on my couch feeling disgusted with myself. It seems as though when I finally get a grip on my current theme, it just switches to another. It’s refreshing hearing you say that you can overcome OCD, many people say you can’t. I want to get a grip and move on with my life very badly
Don’t beat yourself up, that won’t help at all. You can’t just stop all compulsions without help usually. OCD will switch themes at times, or try to come back, which is why working with an ERP specialist is so crucial, so they can track you and direct you, as well as support. I have had amazing success with people, and been through it myself. See the link in the description for recovery options for different price points!
I have ADHD and geralosed anxiety and every relationship I've been in I've suffered with extreme fear and anxiety of getting hurt. It's deffinitely a hard cycle to break and i haven't had any idea of where to even start. Thank you so much for this video!
And whoever is reading this....i wish you all the best ♥️
Recovery is possible!
You aren't alone. I have ADHD and complex PTSD. It is so hard. I wish you all the best as well
@@sarahboan8756can you share some tips to overcom
I am undiagnosed bpd but on the waiting list, I never thought about OCD. I freak out if there is another girl cause I’ve been cheated on in every relationship and my parents history of cheating maybe also impacts it. I’m not sure what’s wrong with me I genuinely get a heart sinking feeling an my heart thuds and I feel like I’m going to be abandoned and left for someone better I assume things and imagine them very well in my head and I get so deep in my thoughts I can’t see out to reality
Fear will change our brains, but we can take control back with the right skills and practice! www.MyOCDCoach.com
Thank you so much for making me feel like I am not crazy. Every single compulsion you listed here, I feel like I have to do or else I don’t know what will happen. I am trying to work through all this with my therapist, but I know I have a long road ahead of me.
The worst part is finding out they are cheating. It just reinforces the obsessive thoughts in the next relationship. I am avoidant to all relationships now because I've been cheated on so many times, and it triggers the OCD/CPTSD symptoms, effectively derailing my entire life.
Been there! Doesn’t mean it’ll always happen, but I know it’s hard.
i’m so sorry this happened to you.. cheaters are disgusting 🤮
I understand you very much. It happened to me. Its so hard to trust someone again even if we wanted to. I'm rooting for you. We got this
Hey! i think it is sometimes important to trust oneself! The right person maybe would not give you the reason to mistrust because of the true authentic connection you are gonna to have
I'm going through a divorce currently. My OCD intrusive thoughts of her cheating took over sometimes and were atrocious. I really hate myself because of it. I need to conquer this. Because of past relationships being cheated on and played it really set me up for failure.
Thank you. It can often be really over bearing when these intrusive thoughts occur, I’m really glad I stumbled upon this video. All of these unhealthy coping mechanisms I have been utilizing really have continued the cycle. So having recognition now of the realities and negative outcomes of these coping mechanisms feels great. Thank you again, great video!
You're welcome!
@@MyOCDCoach hi Danielle - my name is Rosie. I live in Manchester, England but I was hoping to do some online coaching sessions - if this is a service you offer? Thanks so much in advance
@@rosiebarnespodcast I do, and I work with people all over the world. You can check out my coaching sessions or other programs here:
myocdcoach.teachable.com
So I recently found out that my girlfriend was sneaking around with three different people. All at different times over the course of 2 weeks. I have already dealt with serious trust issues regarding my family and people in the past and I explained this to her. Now she's changed her phone number but she still has the same behavior. She's always on the phone, she gets up in the middle of the night takes a phone with her when she thinks I'm sleep, whenever we talk during the day maybe for a few minutes and then she said she has to go somebody's calling her. We don't spend really any time together so we live together. Then just the other day she asked me to go hang out with one of her guy friends who's coming into town. I already have a stress related illness, and this is making me have anxiety. I feel like I'm getting beat up because my feelings and emotions are not being taken seriously. I'm trying my best to hang in there because her son calls me dad. I really don't know what to do cuz I'm getting mentally sick and I'm losing weight.
It sounds like she a not being honest and putting in the time you need. These sounds like reasonable requests in a relationship and boundaries you need to set (and hold true to). If for some reason this doesn’t work out, just know that you deserve it!
i’m so sorry this happened to you.. cheaters are disgusting and it’s horrible 🤮
All this is true. To hear it from someone else greatly reduces my anxiety.
I have developed a major issue with this my dad cheated on my mom and it ruined our family. And since every relationship I’m in I am always worried of being cheated on. While I can try and tell myself it’s irrational it doesn’t stop me from thinking about it. I’ve been in my first serious relationship and my partner hasn’t done anything disloyal but I find myself in thought loops of her cheating for days on end and it’s so tiring. I want to let go but my brain tells me that if I let go then I won’t be able to tell if she is cheating. I wanna give her my blind trust so bad my brain refuses to let go no matter what I do.
Rationalizing with OCD doesn’t work, in fact, giving yourself Reassurance can be a Compulsion that makes OCD worse. Do you want to learn ERP to use in response to any thoughts or situation? Is that caused discomfort or anxiety. Check out my website if you need help www.myocdcoach.com.
Hi!
I am currently going through this exact same thing,
My girlfriend went a works night out and got extremely drunk, picked her up and while she was sleeping her phone pinged and it was one of the guys from work messaging her just about the night and asked if she was still drinking or away to bed. I flipped! I just assumed he liked her and now I constantly assume she’s been messaging him and will continue to, it’s extremely difficult because your brain is your own worse enemy, when In reality I can probably suggest there’s a 99% chance our girlfriends aren’t cheating or being disloyal
I don’t quite understand : comfortable with not knowing and the possibility of the fears being true? Wouldn’t that raise my anxiety because I would think they’re true?
At first, yes you would feel the anxiety, but your brain won't quit giving you anxiety (false alarm bells, usually) until you PROVE to it that what it's afraid of isn't so scary. This doesn't happen by running away.
I struggle with this a lot. I worry if I will ever have a stable relationship. I don’t want to bombard my partner with questions which I’m sure reduce her self worth. But I can’t stop.
Sometimes I feel like I’d be better off being single.
I used to feel this way too, but I don't anymore and relationships are so much easier! Feel free to reach out should you want help getting there! www.MyOCDCoach.com
I have this it seems. My wife of 21 years cheated on me early in our marriage. This comes flooding back in my mind when she needs her personal space and I try but can't control it. I wish my brain was not weird this way. It is crippling, and I inevitably begin flipping between awareness of my problem and denial and blame. Exhausted
Bro honestly you shouldn’t be with her anyone would feel that way in your position trust me. You just gotta realize you deserve better than that. Only whores cheat you don’t need a whore in your life you need a real woman.
Leave the hoes for the streets and you’ll eventually find a real girl who puts in effort and won’t throw away everything they’ve built with their partner and their partners feelings for 20 min of satisfaction, it’s disgusting and shows terrible character
@@austinkottke8503 I agree
This situation would cause anyone to have trust issues. If you've decided to repair your relationship, and your partner is doing what it takes to rebuild the trust, you have to learn not to let OCD (fear) control you. OCD will often bring up old memories and obsess, and then compulsions follow. Treatment is necessary, so reach out to me if you want help!
This video helped me to understand why I do the things I do. However, my current bf of 4 years has cheated on me in the past and as much as he's saying he changed now and understand how he hurt me and would never do it again, I can't help but find myself obsessing over looking for things and questioning him every time an intrusive thought comes to mind. He has shown me changes and for the most part I do trust him now but there is always that little voice that is telling me he'll just be sneakier this time.
I think that is very normal when someone has broken your trust. ROCD can be there with real issues and it can find or exaggerate others. Recovery helps you learn the difference. Bottom line - you get to choose whether or not to give him a 2nd chance. He may cheat again he may not. Anyone in your position would have to learn to rebuild trust. ROCD will make that more challenging. It can be done.
Exact same situation, except we’re engaged and have been together 7 years this August...This is killing me inside and our relationship slowly. It’s not fair to either of us, I’m just afraid if we break up this cycle will continue to repeat in other relationships. I don’t want to lose him or 7 years either 😞
@@lusfit6903 Relationship OCD will take its toll on your relationship, which is why proper treatment is so important!
Omg Im the same ! It’s so frustrating because we were already insecure maybe .. no matter if they change or not, intrusive thoughts and obsessive thoughts can ruin our relationship . Stay strong
I don't know if it's a thing, but I've been traumatized in the past from constantly being cheated on by my three ex partners. I moved on quickly or so I thought, because now that I am in a new relationship with someone so caring, patient and loving, I always try to sabotage it by starting an argument, getting suspicious of everything and trying to control my partner every time he couldn't or when he fail to make me feel calm at that moment. I don't want to lose my partner just because of my anxiety and trauma. Everyday is a battle but I hope to win one day and become a better person for this relationship that I want.
You can, I used to sabotage as well…not anymore!!!! 😃
Hey, thanks for this video as I’m really struggling with this as I’m in a LDR and we haven’t met yet and I’m always worried he is chatting online with other girls as sometimes he’s still online after he’s said goodnight to me etc like last night he said he was off to bed but his last seen was 20 minutes after. He knows I’ve been cheated on in the past but he says he isn’t that guy but I still get a gut feeling (I’m a Virgo I overthink and analyse everything) so I get bad anxiety and it’s making me unwell and depressed but deep down I really like him but I keep wanting to walk away but my head says I should but my heart says hold on a bit longer.
I have sleepless nights over it like now it’s 3.44 am GMT … xxx
You're welcome! I have a new membership program called The Path (to OCD recovery) that is very cost effective and includes my course, plus coaching with me twice weekly on Zoom. myocdcoach.teachable.com
I truly feel it’s such a battle. I saw someone say I hope I can win the battle today and made me kinda feel like…. “Damn..”. Every. Day. Is. A. Battle. And I wish I could give her the me that these other exes did not deserve at all. Sometimes I can get so attentive to detail and then the cycle starts. I don’t know man. I’m starting to think I’m going crazy. Idk what it is but I hope I can win at some point. Soon. I’m tired
You’re not going crazy, you’re just struggling with a OCD, which you don’t have to if you take the right steps. Have you learned ERP thoroughly? Are you practicing on a daily basis? If you’re unable to make progress on your own or you getting support from someone who can help? These are all very crucial things for recovery.
I'm only 18 been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years now. At the start of our relationship she did something to break my trust. Ever since then I havent felt the same I check her phone when she's asleep i want to be around her or be in a call with her all the time to make sure she's not talking to other guys. But when I'm alone at home at night I cant sleep I start to imagine scorpions in my mind.
I've never looked for help before but this video made me cry from how much everything u said related to me. I really would like to know how I can get passed this becsuse I do love my girlfriend I really do.
You can recover, yes! It takes getting help from an ERP specialist (myself or someone else) who can teach it to you. You'll want to use it daily (it becomes automatic). It worked for me and works for all of my clients!
If you want to talk about this topic personally, I’m going through the same situation. I’m here to help if you would like
@@bellan7140 I need help if your still able
@@austinkottke8503 👋🏼
Does your programme work for someone that doesn't have OCD? But just has severe relationship anxiety?
Yes, as there are going to be some similarities in OCD compulsions, like seeking Reassurance, avoidance, etc.
This is heartbreaking to listen to. I'm sorry to hear people have this condition. Be careful out there. Btw, 100th comment. I wanna thank all of you who helped me get this far.
OCD is difficult, and thank you for your kind comments. The good news is that Recovery is possible!
i relate so much to this cycle described.. how do you tell if the person isnt worth the trust or if youre just stuck in this cycle?
You do the work to eliminate the OCD symptoms to get to a clear perspective.
I've done cbt and dbt which has helped a lot. Is there anything else you recommend? I do regular therapy as well, but it doesn't always help with the ocd symptoms.
@@PixieBrat ERP is the gold standard treatment for OCD and very important. It’s what keeps me in the recovery stage and what helps everyone I work with.
@@MyOCDCoach thank you so much, I'm going to look into it. Any book recommendations?
@@PixieBrat you be heard Brain Lock is a good one. I personally didn’t read any books (although I do love to read). I worked with someone.
Honestly, just seeing this thread alone eases me. I've been trying to find what was going on with me. I just can't let the thoughts go.
I’m in a constant state of panic with my partner going out drinking with friends or going on holiday with her friends, I trust her in every other aspect I never check her phone or anything, but the thought of alcohol involved makes my ROCD go insane to the point I can’t sleep or eat
No matter what the obsession, your response is crucial. Have you learned ERP yet?
@@MyOCDCoach Thankyou for the reply, yes I’m currently going through ERP therapy through the NOCD app, however I just feel I can’t shake this constant fear away, it’s so hard
I really felt I was alone in feeling this way. I'm in a relationship now with an amazing guy who is very patient with me and loves me unconditionally. We've been together for 2 years and he's supported me greatly. I STILL struggle with this and I didn't even realize it had a name. I've been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and they are teetering between bipolar or borderline personality disorder - either way, whatever the label, I'm desperate for help.
I remember finding out about ROCD and feeling less alone too! ROCD often gets misdiagnosed, although you can have co-existing conditions. Depression is common when OCD goes untreated due to the ongoing symptoms and engagement in negative thoughts. Depression often gets better with OCD treatment. Feel free to check out our recovery programs at www.MyOCDCoach.com:)
Do you know why I’m guilty of all of those because of pass, betrayal, and continued pass, betrayal, and I take it out of my current partner a lot, because she admitted to me that before me, according to her, it has happened to her too, and she was guilty of it so now I have placed that projection on her I need help I would like your help. Please help me.
Your brain is just trying to protect you, but it’s hyper active and not necessary. We all get negative thoughts, but we can choose which ones we pay attention to and which ones we don’t. Emotions are not always our best barometer for action.
ive had this in every relationship. its horrible.
It is, until you learn how to respond differently so it goes away:) My programs are here to help you! www.MyOCDCoach.com
I was always anxious about this because I was very insecure and I have abandonment issues. Years ago my insecurities attract me to be cheated and destroyed. It been years damn , and I thought I was doing good but then again I feel anxiety and even if I’m doing my best to forget .. like I don’t even really care anymore 😂the thoughts it’s there, I don’t wanna think about, I don’t wanna fed my stupid thoughts, I wanna be more stronger and trust my partner .
You can do it, little by little:)
What if she actually cheated and I feel this severe OCD cycle while me and her try to work it out ??
You can work through fear despite the reason.
Social media is bad too
What is the meaning of dreaming my partner cheats on me? I‘m not sure whether it is intuition, a sign or just obsessive, sabotaging thoughts.. Do you accept new clients still?
Yes, I am taking new clients and my recovery programs are always open:) Dreams may be random or they may be about our fears and obsessions.
How can one expose himself to uncertainty? Any ideas? Thanks
This is hard question to answer here in chat, but whatever you’re needing certainty about, remind yourself that 100% certainty does not exist.
Wow i really needed this video in my current relationship I feel the need to check what shes doing where shes going but ik that i shouldnt be so worried but this really got worse since weve been long distance and i hope with thos this new info i can finally get over that
Just watching this video helped me. I have been doing great lately so I noticed pretty quick that I have been spiraling a bit.
Regular/daily practice of ERP is crucial, which is why I suggest learning from someone who is going to teach it to you properly!
I have dreams on the tegular about cheating and situations around school where I daydream about him cheating while he’s sitting next to another girl he’s dated before. How do I stop dreaming about him cheating and self sabotaging my relationship?
Ruminating is a choice. You can stop doing it as soon as you are aware. If you need support, don’t hesitate to ask. www.MyOCDCoach.com
Thank you❤
I want to check her Match account to see if she is still talking to others. Im scared because what if its true? If its true I have to leave
This is a compulsion.
My partner of 3 years has cheated on me and we have moved passed it but i can’t seem to shake off the feeling of him having another women yet I have no evidence of it and my partner has shown signs of positive change , how do I know if it’s my intuition or anxiety and fear of it happening again
I try to get him to admit his cheating by acting like i already have proof when I don’t or i impulsively react and assume he’s cheating and accuse him convincing my self he is
I dream almost every night about him cheating and it’s very vivid and real , i constantly over think
When you have OCD, intuition is drastically hyper focused on searching for danger and can be inaccurate. In this type of situation, if there’s no very clear evidence, you need to treat it as OCD, and use ERP to eliminate symptoms.
That's what's difficult: figuring out if your intuition is right or if it's insecurity. But it comes down to this: Why suffer in anticipation of things that may never happen? If your SO is cheating on you, you'll find out with time, and if/when you do, you'll deal with it then. If our partner cheats on us, then good --great, thanks for revealing your true self to me --now I'll walk away from this feeling like less was lost and replace you.
I struggle with the same thought all the time. There's nothing we can do. If someone wants to cheat, they will cheat. No amount of snooping or worrying will prevent it. In fact, accusing them all the time will only push them away and may cause what you fear happening.
Just deal with it if/when it comes. You've dealt with it before and overcame it. Enjoy the present moment and assume the best of your partner. It's all that you can do.
@@2stoned2pretty53omg Im the same lit! No matter what he is saying or doing. I always think he doesn’t love me and try to sabotage. I feel you girl 😢it’s so hard.. it thought I was doing fine but then the intrusive thoughts are triggered even by a stupid song and I start to ask questions over and over again even if I just want to forget. Past it’s past
I hear what your saying. But, My ocd was activated by my new girlfriend telling me about all her ex boyfriends and other shit. Now I don’t trust her at all!! What now?
Now you learn ERP and you start to feel better! I can help you recover... www.MyOCDCoach.com
So what happened
This video helped me out so much, thank you❤
You’re welcome!
Are you still open for the free call session ?
I actually don’t do free calls anymore, I had a lot of people not showing up, and I would sit and wait. You can schedule an initial session with me on my website, or sign up for a recovery program. www.myocdcoach.com.
I’ve struggled with this aspect of OCD all my life it’s ruined relationships. How do I go about getting help for it and does anyone have any success stories?
I am a success story and I have a bunch on my website! Check them out, along with recovery programs, at www.MyOCDCoach.com
@@MyOCDCoach I also suffered with Retroactive Jealousy OCD which I managed to beat, but it’s the latest cheating one is still haunting me
@@Devon-91- my programs will help with that:)
I need help so bad it's driving me insane
Help is here, visit www.myocdcoach.com.
Can ssri's help this condition
They can help but ERP is most important.
@@MyOCDCoach how about both
@@abhiramsajith8868 both is a good option!
Been having problems with my partner for 6+ months. Very little to no intimacy. Spending absurd amounts of time in his car. At one point I had to go to the hospital. And I asked him to take me. He did everything on his to do list and THEN took me. doesn’t want me looking at his phone. whenever I bring up my feelings or perspective it causes “fights”. I try and leave and that’s the only time he shows interest. I think he’s cheating, has cheated, or will cheat. I feel all the things in this video. recently he’s been better. But I don’t have hope it will last. Okay
These sound like red flags that are in line with your anxiety, meaning these would cause anyone to be suspicious. It also sounds like you’re not getting the same level of investment from tour partner that you need. If you also have anxiety or OCD, your reaction may feel stronger.
@@MyOCDCoach I’m not diagnosed because I don’t have the tools/funds to get diagnosed. But I’m fairly certain I do suffer from OCD. I don’t feel like I ever can get rest mentally or physically. in an almost constant state of anxiety over relationship. among other things. labels have to be facing forward. All cabinet doors have to be closed. feel like I can’t rest until the majority of the cleaning is done. scared that the oven was left on. Even though I know I turned it off/checked. I’ll know I blew the candle out at home. But I had to call and make sure I did. and lots more
I am diagnosed with anxiety and depression
@@Percy2791 sounds like ocd to me, which often goes undiagnosed. It is also important to get the right treatment. I’m always here to help!
@@MyOCDCoach is there a way I can contact you personally? I understand you are a professional and would need to be reimbursed for your time. I REALLY need help though. I am struggling. Truly
Omg!!! This is ruining my marriage!!!!!
It doesn't have to! Are you getting help to stop the fears of cheating?
I stay up all night over jealousy my wife maybe lieing and cheating on me. She stopped alot stuff telling me she loved me or even bye she just leaves
I’m sorry you’re struggling. Recovery is possible when you learn and use ERP. www.myocdcoach.com
Hi daniel my partner is cheating on me after 21 years she denies it like pinocchio i have 2 kids and its hard to walk away from them. Especially my 9 year old who i am his world too. She makes excuses to why she acts the way she does with me which are lies to make her self feel better
Hi! There's a difference between someone having obsessions & compulsions around a thought or feeling, versus something that has actually happened in real life with substantial proof. In your case, it would be more normal to ruminate and worry that it is/will happen. How you respond (leave or stay) is a personal decision based on several factors. You can, however learn to manage unhealthy obsessions and compulsions should you choose to stay and your partner is taking 100% accountability and making noticeable changes.
@@MyOCDCoach thank you for responding so quick
@@MyOCDCoach sad thing she's not taking accountability at all. Making up more lies to cover it up
Does this also apply for your ex who recently broke up with you ?
Yes, it can!
Thank you Danielle
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What if you do start OCD and find out they did do something wrong?
Then you deal with it from a healthier, more confident place. Things are easier to deal with when you're not anxious about it! Usually though, OCD is exaggerating the situation!
Are you still accepting new for coaching
I do have openings available. www.myocdcoach.com
Thank you !
You're welcome!
What's the cure for this stuff
ERP treatment is what got me and my clients to recovery. www.myocdcoach.com/erp
😔 this is me. I’m so ashamed
No need to be ashamed, we all have difficult things in life to overcome! This can be overcome...recovery is possible!
I have a strong feeling that my boyfriend is cheating on me but he keeps on denying and this is causing me to feeling anxiety for over a week now
What evidence does this “feeling” come from?
I have all of these plus some
They are all very common. Getting treatment will help!
@@MyOCDCoachwhat kind of treatment do you recommend? one year later im in a néw relationship and sabotaging it like the last :/
@@veil2612 yes, it will continue until you learn how to treat it or respond differently. ERP is very important, and you can find my programs at www.myocdcoach.com.
@@veil2612 ERP. You can find more information at www.myocdcoach.com.
These people treat other humans like animals then when they get a tougne lashing for being rude, etc they go on the aniexty victim path.
Happens with people who gossip alot.
Who are you referring to? "These people?"
These thoughts are destroying me. My current partner, whom I love more than I've loved anyone before, lied about some communication factors with her ex husband during separation (no cheating or anything that serious) but due to her lying I've put her into the part of my mind that my ex was in after she cheated. Now I'm stuck and I never thought of her this way prior and hate that she is now in this part of my mind.
I truly feel I was on the road to a happy relationship finally with the 'one' but now I'm so confused and it's killing me and us.
I’m sorry you’re struggling, I’ve been there! What helped me get (and feel good in my relationship) was ERP treatment. Feel free to visit my site to see how I can help you too. myocdcoach.teachable.com/p/rocd
i have OCD now im pretty sure my fears are bc of ROCD
It happens! Knowing what to do with the doubts and intrusive thoughts makes all the difference! I can help if you need it - www.Myocdcoach.com